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on being called chubs

Wednesday, October 16, 2013

My first blog in a few months. I find I have to write about an event that took place yesterday. It left me feeling angry and bitter, and I'm mad at myself for not being able to let it go.

So, basically, I park my car in the garage across from where I work. I'm there early, so there's an abundance of spots available. A guy pulls up just as I am getting out of my car. He has an option to pull into the spot right next to mine (although he'd have to wait a few moments for me to close my door) or pull into one of two spots literally right across the aisle, where he could pull right in without any wait. As I'm getting out of my car, I see him stop, look at the two spots across the way, then look at me. He then starts to turn his car towards me and honks. I close the car door, then plaster myself against my car as I wait for him so that I can open the back car door to get my lunch out of the back seat. He then honks at me again. I wave for him to pull in. He does, then gets out of his car and says, "I didn't want to hit you chubs."

This irks me so much. If he didn't want to hit me, why didn't he pull into the other spots? He had to have seen them with the way he stopped his car and took his time looking. And how is it appropriate calling a stranger chubs? I'm not denying I'm fat, but it bothers me that he went out of his way to be mean. I don't know why this bothers me so much too - normally I think it's hilarious if someone does something like that because I believe that they just see a fat person who they think is lazy and eats horrible junk food, all while I eat healthily and I exercise (heck, I take my dogs for 4-6 mile hikes, climbing up and down sand dunes and walking on sand beaches at Indiana Dunes State Park at least every other weekend).

UPDATE:
I have to say, I feel a lot better having vented about this. And I appreciate the support I get from my fellow Sparkers. Writing this, too, made me realize I am probably a much healthier person than what that man is. Although I may be fat, I am taking the right steps to take care of myself. I eat healthy, I exercise, I try to take steps to make myself better emotionally. I wonder what's wrong with him that he has to bully someone he views as being inferior?

  
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KARABEANLVRLNDA 10/19/2013 10:37AM

    emoticon with all the above comments! emoticon
I am glad you were feeling better after you journalized your thoughts and feelings here.
I find that Choosing to not allow people like this... space in my thoughts and feelings, helps me to overcome it sooner....as he probably didn't have a 2nd thought...that is just probably normal behavior for him...the one it affects is US! So don't let him allow to have that time and energy and hurt. As long as you allow it, he reigns and you need to be the reigning Queen...and that you surely are. My gosh, emoticon you are doing emoticon with your healthy eating, exercising and working on the emotional part of self! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticonYou are an inspiration and motivation for me!


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PEZMOM1 10/17/2013 10:23PM

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SPARKLINGHOPE 10/17/2013 10:22AM

    That guy was rude!! emoticon

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STRONG_SARAH 10/17/2013 3:29AM

    I'd have seriously considered keying his car. I wouldn't have, of course, because it's petty and illegal, but I'd have considered it.

You have a right to be angry, I'd have been too. He's a jerk.

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STRONG_SARAH 10/17/2013 3:28AM

    I'd have seriously considered keying his car. I wouldn't have, of course, because it's petty and illegal, but I'd have considered it.

You have a right to be angry, I'd have been too. He's a jerk.

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HERO_OF_CANTON 10/16/2013 7:59PM

    What a horribly disgusting person. It bothers me that people have to go out of their way to bring others down. Its something I definitely don't understand. I mean, what happened in this d-bag's life that he felt it was necessary to say something so unkind?

People don't THINK.

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BTRX71 10/16/2013 5:58PM

    What a jerk! He went out of his way to try and ruin your day by assaulting your self esteem. Obviously his problems include never maturing beyond teenage bully. emoticon

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FINCHFEEDER80 10/16/2013 4:17PM

    What a d-bag. I'm so sorry you had to encounter a jerk adolescent wearing an adult's clothes. I don't know what makes him think he has the right to comment on anyone else's physical self, but you are a far better woman than I am. I might have said something really ugly back at him. Or cried, there's no telling with me sometimes. He should be lucky you didn't kick is car door. " I'm sorry, I guess my foot is so CHUBBY I just couldn't get it all the way between our two cars." Ugh, what a jerk! I hope the rest of your day was better!

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SUGARSMOM2 10/16/2013 2:40PM

  we allow others to take over our minds and give them rights that they don't have rights to claim . You let him get your mind working overtime . He had no right to say what he said . crude and rude . He thought it so he thought he had the right to spout it out and in the process ruined your day . He was a jerk . plain and simple . we could look at it like . well he didn't want to hit me with his car but I allowed him to hit me where I lived and it hurt worse then if he had run over my body with his car .

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more reasons I decided to lose weight

Monday, March 11, 2013

I was so fat,

... it took the train conductor two hours before he could say all aboard.

...the Coast Guard kept a log of my bath times.

...I sweated barbecue sauce.

...when I went to the beach, the tide came in.

...you needed a map to pass me on the street.

...I had an echo in my belly button.

  
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injuries

Sunday, March 10, 2013

I am so frustrated today - I have been doing so well with trying to exercise every day, but it's getting hampered a bit now. Yesterday, I went for a nice long hike with a new group. I felt I did well as I had encouragement to go faster than I normally do and it was tougher walking through a lot of snow and mud. Then at the end of the hike, in the parking lot, within site of my car, I fell. I hyper extended my knee and slightly sprained it. I am now supposed to be off of it for a few days. But I'm going stir crazy! Trying to figure out upper body stuff that won't bother my leg

  


reasons I started my diet

Thursday, March 07, 2013

I got a paper cut and gravy came out...

When my phone rang people thought I was backing up...

When I stepped on the scale it said "To Be Continued"...

My cereal bowl had a lifeguard...

  
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FIREFLY_MEDIC 3/13/2013 5:22PM

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    emoticon hahaha i like those hahahaha thanks for the laugh emoticon

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What's my excuse...to start?

Tuesday, March 05, 2013

My program on SparkCoach today was about making excuses not to exercise. I admit, this is one I have been very guilty of - I don't have time, I didn't get up early enough, I am too tired.

But, these are just excuses. I am trying to get up earlier to make time. I am forcing myself to do something when I get home from work - even if it is something as silly as doing little OCD tics like stepping up and down off of a single step 15 times before I go upstairs to bed.

My SparkCoach program said to stop making excuses - I say I need to start making excuses TO exercise.

  
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FIREFLY_MEDIC 3/13/2013 5:23PM

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    I'm a believer! emoticon

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BUSYGRANNY5 3/5/2013 12:21PM

    Love the suggestions made by COWGRLKT! Make a standing appointment with YOURSELF... treat it like you would any other appointment that you could NOT miss!!
It WILL become habit!

Keep on keeping on!!!

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COWGRLKT 3/5/2013 10:31AM

    I was doing the same thing and here is my suggestion to you:

Commit to it. commit for 30 days. Agree to work out 5 days a week, 30 minutes a day minimum for 30 days.

I was absolutely doing the same thing and here is what I have found. I feel LESS tired if I work out. Working out is ENERGIZING. I know that sounds bassackwards, but I am telling you the truth.

I started this a month ago and I can tell you I am actually waking up ON MY OWN at 4:45am excited to get to the gym and get my workout in. I never thought that would be me, but it is.

I have started working out 45 minutes in the mornings MWF and 1 hour evenings T/Th. It works. It really works. You wouldn't believe how much better you can feel. I have found for me it is easier to get up in the morning and do it because:
1. I don't get behind in my day and cut out exercise that I "don't have time for".
2. It inspires me thru the day to eat right and I feel more energetic.
3. I feel better about myself after I do it.

If you "kind of do it" it will "kind of work" but if you REALLY do it, it will REALLY work. Commit. Give it 30 days and see if I'm right. I DARE YA!

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