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Awkwardness at the Gym, I'm Weirded Out.

Monday, December 08, 2014

Oh boy, how to start. I had a really weird thing happen at the gym this morning. Really, really weird.

I have gotten acquainted with an elderly couple over the past year or two that I met at the gym. She recently went through some really difficult issues and is now in an assisted living facility. He hadn't been around for several months, but I saw him a few months ago and asked about his wife and just did some sympathizing with him about her condition. About a month ago, he got on the treadmill next to me and was telling me about going on a cruise with his son and daughter in law and what a great time he had. His wife was unable to go due to her health. I just visited with him and told him I was glad he was doing better and that his wife was getting the care she needed.

Fast track to this morning. I was in the weight room this morning with four or five other people when he throws open the door and yells "HI SEXY!" at me and tells me he saw me in there and wanted to make sure and see me before he goes swimming. I was taken aback and a little weirded out by this outburst. And embarrassed. I was glad there weren't many people there at that time.

I'm so uncomfortable with this event that I'm now trying to figure out when I can go to the gym so I don't run into him. And that feels bad because he's probably just a lonely old guy and may have thought it was a complement. But it was WEIRD and bothers me!

Can anyone give me some insight to this? Should I not be 'weirded' out by this? What would you do?

  
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HOBBESIS49 12/10/2014 1:51AM

    Hi, I don't know you or your situation there really at the gym with this older man but I can tell you what happened to my son's Grandfather after my son's Grandmother died. We just could NOT believe it.. At 85 years old was even flirting with me.. with waitresses half his age. It was so embarrassing how he carried on (I just couldn't believe how insensitive and ridiculous this all was). It was a second life crisis (way after mid-life).

I actually think that this may be a kind of spouse's psychological adjustment or distress being acted out to avoid real feelings of abandonment and fear. Men like to feel in control and illness and or death is something that they are powerless over (like feelings). A part of the great cover-up is to act like a damn fool perhaps e.g. flirt with younger women.

I too would ask about his wife.. ask if he misses her. put the focus on reality.. & NO absolutely NOT do not change your gym time. Be outrageous if you have to say or do something out-of-character for your norm but just not giving him the time of day would be your best option. After you ask him about his darling wife!

Don't get me wrong I love a lot of men in my life but sometimes!

Good luck.. the gym is yours although don't let some crazy old man change your schedule, routine or anything else.. Unless you just HAVE to. Good grief.

Jane

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NILLAPEPSI 12/9/2014 7:46AM

    Wow! That's crazy!!!


The first time around, I would just give him the benefit of the doubt. If it happens again, I would either tell him that he's making you uncomfortable, or change the subject & ask about his wife. You should be able to go to the gym whenever you want without having to avoid people, so at some point, you might have to confront the issue with him head on. Hopefully it won't come to that.

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Thanksgiving Funny

Tuesday, November 25, 2014



Have a blessed Thanksgiving everyone!

  
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HOBBESIS49 11/26/2014 4:42PM

    I sure hope so!

You have a good holiday also & thank you for contributing to my blog.

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NILLAPEPSI 11/26/2014 3:40PM

    Oh yeah!! emoticon

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A Winding Path Leads to Maui. Maui!!!!

Friday, November 21, 2014


This is what my journey has been like. NEVER NEVER NEVER a straight line and not an easy trip. The reward of all that hard work and healthy eating paid off the last week in Sept. when we took a trip to Maui. My dream trip. It was amazing. And because of the weight loss (almost 90 pounds) I was able to do some things I would have never attempted before.

Things like stand up paddle boarding. Yep, that's me in a life vest paddle boarding. On the ocean. In Maui. For two hours. Coolest thing ever. And.....drum roll please, I only fell in once! Yea! lol!


With the sea turtles.



And the star fish.



And some folks on an old Hawaiian outrigger canoe. Can you see the turtle in the foreground too?



It was AWESOME.
I also ocean kayaked. I never would have done that when I was heavier as I would have been afraid of dumping the kayak over or worse, not fitting in it or getting stuck. Yeah, that would have been bad. Really bad. And embarrassing.

We hiked all over the island, some places I never would have gone before. Through bamboo forests, to hidden waterfalls, and just along the beach for miles. My hubby tried boogie boarding, he was getting the hang of it at the end! I spent most of the time in swimsuits and shorts. Do you know it's been since I was in high school since I wore shorts? Me? In shorts? Gotta be kidding. I also wore a cute little sun dress at sunset. And you know what? I thought I looked good in both the shorts and the sun dress. Even in the photos. Who woulda thought?

Could I have done all this when I was obese? Yes, I probably could have. But I never would have had the confidence to do any of it. I know there are people who have the confidence to do whatever they want no matter their weight, and I tip my hat to them. I just wasn't one of those confident few. For me it's been a winding, crooked path that's totally worth the trip.

  
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DEBPRE16 11/22/2014 3:19PM

    How awesome! Glad you had such a great time with so may wonderful memories.

Debbie

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NILLAPEPSI 11/22/2014 7:43AM

    Yep, that's what my path has looked like, too. emoticon

What beautiful photos! Looks like an awesome time!!

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USMAWIFE 11/21/2014 10:30PM

    I have lots of relatives there but one day I might visit. truly is a beautiful place

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MCFITZ2 11/21/2014 8:39PM

    I loved out trip to Maui. Our daughter was married there. Glad you were able to go.

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CHARTERDAWN 11/21/2014 7:19PM

  Sounds like a great trip. Your are an encouragement to others!! Thanks for sharing. emoticon

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GEORGE815 11/21/2014 6:44PM

    Glad you enjoyed your trip even more. Went to Hawaii last year. Great trip. Your photos brought back some great memories. Thanks!

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Sea Bands. Has anyone heard about or used these?

Tuesday, September 16, 2014



My husband and I are going on a trip for our anniversary---Hawaii!!!! Wheee!!!
Anyway, I have problems on airplanes and was doing some research and discovered these acupressure wrist bands that are supposed to help with motion sickness. Has anyone out there tried them and did they help? It's the landings and take offs that get to me. I've tried over the counter meds, but they make me really drowsy and I don't want to miss any time in Maui because I'm groggy! I've also tried ginger, but it's pretty ineffective, tasty, but doesn't help much. The Sea Bands were inexpensive, so I bought a pair, just curious about other folks experience with them. Thanks for any feedback!
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CAMEOSUN 9/27/2014 11:01AM

    I used them when he owned a boat. The bands didn't work for me.
Regardless, enjoy your trip !!

God Bless.

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NILLAPEPSI 9/17/2014 7:03AM

    A lady I work with is preggers & she used them for morning sickness. She said they worked pretty well. I have not personally used them. You can also go to your Primary Care doctor & let him/her know that you have motion sickness are going on a trip. He/she can prescribe a little patch that you put behind your ear. Hubby & I saw soooooo many people wearing those on our last cruise.

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KATHYRB 9/16/2014 9:06PM

  Have seen them but, don't know if they work.


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Crown

Monday, August 04, 2014



I love that! On a more serious note, I did go to the dentist the other day for a regular check up and found out that I have a loose wisdom tooth that I may have to have removed. Because it's loose he told me that suggests bone loss in the jaw. I'm thinking that since there could be bone loss there, it could be all over my body. So I'm upping my calcium intake, lifting heavier weights and trying to help things out a bit.
But my question is, why did this tooth not bother me until I was told there was a problem?! Guess that's just the power of suggestion! So, I suggest we all deserve crowns --- on our heads that is! lol! emoticon Have a great week Sparkers!

  
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RISINGBLUESTAR 8/8/2014 3:02AM

    I have a crown....the kind the dentists give but hey, it's still a crown and it lasted way longer than it should have! I love the pic.:p I think we all get scared when a doctor or dentist or someone "important" says "It could be...." Just keep doing what you are doing! :)

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NILLAPEPSI 8/5/2014 7:04AM

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Weight bearing exercise!! Go get 'em, Tiger!! RAWR!! emoticon

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