Tuesday, October 14, 2014
I drug myself out of bed this morning and headed off for my time with the trainer. Amazing how difficult some of those core/glute exercises can be! Whew! I made it through and it was good to hear at the end after struggling to make it through at times that I was making good progress and to just keep working. He gave me some new exercises to do at home as we are really trying to strengthen up the core/glutes further. I have to get better at spending 20-30 minutes on the stretching and exercises at home on the "rest" days.
Once home it seemed like the day would be calm as we were working through school and laundry, but then I had to make a phone call to a co-op mom that I was dreading. I wanted to put it off until tomorrow, but when the notes kept coming from other families I knew it just needed to be done. So hard and my heart just breaks that I had to deliver this news. This is a family with one special needs boy (age 16) and unfortunately he reacts violently and loudly when he doesn't like something and as he is so big he scares people. One mom was afraid for this boy's mom yesterday and next time said she will call the police. There will not be a next time as I had to ask them not to come back. Just too many reports and the Board has to think of the whole. We've tried to make this work since day one and it is getting worse instead of better. I was saddened by this, but then there was more.
Kenzie returned with Isaac and again not a good report. He was continuing his defiance when she asks him to do things he doesn't like or want to do. He was disrespectful with his words and his actions in so many ways. She doesn't know what to do with him now for consequence as the running isn't even working with him like it was. This is the same behavior that has escalated with our family lately as well. I plan to write it up for the counselor to have tomorrow and ask that we need his thoughts/ideas when he comes for the home visit on Thursday. We truly believe a lot of this is total choice, but it is enhanced by the selfish nature of autism. He has now lost a lot of privileges (neighbor boys, tv this afternoon, his new scooter when it arrives) until we can figure out how to tackle this. We believe he knows this tactic works, but we also believe he doesn't realize how rude and disrespectful this type of behavior actually is to people.
This afternoon I took Maegann to the chiropractor for the sinus infection and car sickness stuff again. We're working through it, but today things were quite rough for her. Now we're home and I am about ready to go take a nap. I've been ready to drop since 10 this morning and I'm sure all the emotional stuff has taken a toll.
Tonight I am heading to the monthly get together with the other co-op directors at a coffee shop. I'm looking forward to a steamer, conversation, laughter and prayer.