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In a Funk

Thursday, August 15, 2013

I'm writing this blog as a plea for all of my SparkFriends to give me a swift kick in the behind and to hold me accountable . I have been in a real depressed funk for the past year & only recently realized what is causing it. It is something that happened about 12 years ago & I can't change what happened but I can change how I'm reacting to it but will need lots of support.

My husband died in February 2001 and that was hard. It's been difficult all of these years but July of 2012 he would have been 66 and I turned 62 so it would have been the year we could have been thinking about retirement. It may not have happened, but it's really been working on my emotions for the past year. We had always talked about traveling and now I don't have that to look forward to. I can go on vacations & take my granddaughter with me to visit my sister in Florida (which I just did), but it's definitely not the same.

I'm hoping that now that I realize what is going on in my head I can get my body back on track. I have put on about 12 of the 35 pounds that I originally lost and have pretty much quit tracking anything. As of today I have reset my tracker with my correct starting weight of 170 (weighed last Friday) and will go back to tracking everything I eat - not just what I feel like tracking.

Any of my SparkFriends that want to chime in & hold me accountable - feel free! I can use all of the support I can get. I will also start checking in more with you and cheering you on, too.

Spark is still the best & so are my SparkFriends!

  
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GOLFGMA 8/16/2013 5:56PM

    Gayle, I am so glad you have posted your goal here and yes, I will hold you accountable. You were one of the first friends I found on SP close to my home and the second one I met in person and I can not let you be discouraged. We all need you ! You have been so supportive to all of us. Let's get together soon for dinner, or, a walk and get a challenge going. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MYBULLDOGS 8/15/2013 9:52PM

   

we all get a bad patch. determination will help you over come

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MYBULLDOGS 8/15/2013 9:52PM

   

we all get a bad patch. determination will help you over come

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Choosing Happiness

Sunday, January 01, 2012

A friend of mine shared this from an editorial in a Colorado newspaper he read today. "If the list of things you would do to make the final year of your life count is really, really different from your life today, you're doing life wrong." He then adds, "If you don't have the life you want, change it. And you shouldn't have to wait for Mayan calendars to grant you permission."

This goes right along with my goals for 2012. Losing weight is not first on my goals - finding happiness & contentment in my life is. One of the Healthy Reflections talked about standing in your own way of finding happiness or success and that is very true in my case. I am going to work on changing my attitude. If I wake up in the morning thinking it is going to be a bad day chances are it will be. I can choose to be happy or choose to be unhappy. In 2012 I will work on choosing happy emoticon

  
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KDYLOSE 1/2/2012 7:08AM

    I can so relate to this. So good to hear from you, too. I hope 2012 brings you everything you seek.

Your friend's quote reminds me of something a Sparkfriend posted on their feed, I can't remember the exact wording but it was basically "What if we just acted as if everything was easy?" I keep coming back to this in my mind. What if?

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SLIMLILA 1/2/2012 12:57AM

    I hope that means if I choose to have a job I can finally get one...

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GOLFGMA 1/1/2012 10:43PM

    I wish for you all happy days in 2012. I think at times we don't really know what makes us happy for we are continually trying to find something new that we THINK will make us happy only to find when we have it the thing didn't make us happy at all. I think life will always have ups and downs and our goal should be to change the things we can and accept the things we can't and make every day count for something, never giving up on life. I think you have found the Key, choose to be happy and you will be and probably will bring joy to others as well. so, as the smiley face says "Be Happy"! emoticon

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TRUCKERWIFE2 1/1/2012 9:16PM

    It really doesn't matter how much weight you lose if you are unhappy to begin with. Working on your happiness 1st will make the rest fall into place. I love your blog. emoticon

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DEBK0923 1/1/2012 9:10PM

    i'VE BEEN THINKING THE SAME THING, MAKING MY LIFE MORE SIMPLE AND HAVE HAPPINESS emoticon

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LILDREAMY 1/1/2012 9:06PM

    I LOVE IT! I'm right there with ya! :-D

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Winston Salem Sparkers Walkers

Sunday, November 13, 2011

Finally got a chance to meet a couple of other Spark Friends. I've walked with GOLFGMA a couple of times but Saturday we were joined by JAMMGIRL & FLOWERGIRL. We met at the Rural Hall park & were able to get in a 2 mile walk in just under 40 minutes and it sure is a lot easier when you have someone to walk & talk with. The weather was gorgeous & it was so nice to meet a couple of other WinstonSalemSparkers.

L to R: GOLFGMA, JAMGIRL, FLOWERGIRL



Sure hope we can do this again before the holiday craziness & cold weather set in!

  
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GOLFGMA 11/16/2011 12:08PM

    Great blog and I am ready to do it again and again! Thank you for all your support and kindness. emoticon

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JAMGIRL8 11/14/2011 2:26PM

    We had a great time!! We have to do this again! :)

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CRYSTALLULLABY 11/14/2011 11:15AM

  So glad this was such a success!

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Pressure versus Pleasure

Sunday, June 05, 2011

One of my good SparkFriends posted a blog a while ago suggesting that we go back & re-read some of our blogs from when we first started with Spark (which was just over a year ago for me) I thought it was good advice & I did. Since then I've been trying to figure out what is different & why - even though I'm 30 pounds lighter I'm really struggling to have the motivation I need to exercise. My main (or only) form of exercise is walking and I have a little park that I love to walk in. You can see it on my SparkPage - isn't it pretty & serene? So . . . why don't I walk anymore? ? ? I can use the excuse that it is unusually hot in NC already but it was hot in August last year & I still found time to walk so that's not it. It had to be something else.

I asked for a kick in the butt to get my motivation back & got a couple of responses - one with a cyber kick & one with a map to get me back on track. The map gave me the idea to get back to walking in my pretty neighborhood so I didn't have the excuse of having to drive somewhere so that's just what I did tonight. I have one route that I've been walking that is just about a mile & pretty level (or as level as it gets in NC) but since I had my emoticon and my "map" I branched out a little further & up a few hills and took the time to enjoy the scenery around me. I wasn't out to break any speed walking records - I was just out for a walk emoticon emoticon emoticon. I watched the squirrels running back & forth across the road, stopped for just a second to pet the gorgeous dog that was out for a walk with his owner, and waved & chatted with the other walkers I met along the way. I ENJOYED my walk and was very pleasantly surprised when I got home to find that I had walked 2.5 miles in 44 minutes. Instead of putting the PRESSURE on myself to walk faster or farther I need to get back to enjoying the PLEASURE of walking - not just for the exercise, but for the stress reliever that I used it for when I first started on this journey. I may not always be able to walk 2.5 miles but that that's OK. emoticon emoticon emoticon IS something that I enjoy doing - I just need to do it to remember that emoticon

  
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JUSFOLK 6/10/2011 12:54PM

    Glad my "map" helped motivate you! I agree...when excercise becomes pleasure, it is easy...but even when we have to "pressure" ourselves to do it, it's still important! But as you so-aptly put, what can begin as pressure can turn into pleasure!

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JAMGIRL8 6/9/2011 2:45PM

    I am glad you are enjoying your walks, you have actually pushed to restart mine. I used to really enjoy just getting out on mylunch breaks and I just became sorrowfully lazy emoticon I have to admit, I would just have rather sat at the computer from 8-5, I have never been that and I cannot let myself get that way.

It does get easier as you get used to the heat, I can attest to that much. Keep it up, you can do it and you will feel so much better. Mentally and physically! emoticon

P.S. I regret those words where I said I was looking forward to summer, I forgot how hot is was here! emoticon

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BAILEE_GRAVES 6/7/2011 5:48AM

    When it gets to be "work" and no longer "fun" I think it's certainly time to change things up. It sounds like you did just that and have rediscovered the joy in walking. I'm so glad!

I have no doubt that you'll soon be back on track and see that scale moving down hill as fast as you do.

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RUTGERSM0M 6/6/2011 2:27PM

    emoticon emoticon. I think we all get to a point where it is not "pleasure" but "pressure". Pressure we do not relate well to. You have got your "pleasure" in walking back so you are ready to do it. Who knows your next walk might be 3 miles. Keep up the great work.

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CARLA-216 6/6/2011 10:29AM

    What a great realization! When it becomes pressure it is no longer a pleasure, and vice versa. Keep on doing those pleasurable walks!

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KDYLOSE 6/6/2011 9:35AM

    This makes a lot of sense. I was going through something similar this week...since joining the Y in February, I've been religiously going in and circuit training twice a week. For some reason this week I was starting to rebel against the idea that I HAVE to do it. I skipped a day, and I was thinking about skipping for the week, just because I could, just because no one could make me go. What finally got me in there yesterday was when I stopped thinking about how I SHOULD go and started thinking about how good I feel afterwards, my posture all straight, my muscles warm and loose. I went, I enjoyed.

I walk for cardio, but I have to say when it gets hot and humid and the air quality is bad, there is no pleasure to be found in this activity. At that point I'll do my gazelle indoors in front of the tv.

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NANCYBFULLER 6/6/2011 8:38AM

    I am glad you enjoyed your walk. I also enjoy the outside walks. So much in nature to see and enjoy

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Pedometer

Friday, April 08, 2011

Right after I joined Spark and read about tracking my steps I bought a pedometer. Not an expensive one. I didn't care about it having any kind of a memory or even how many calories I burned (even though mine did show that) - I just wanted to know how many steps I walked so I could try to do better the next day or the next week. I do sit a lot at work, but tried to walk as much as I could but still couldn't get in the number of steps I saw a lot of other Sparkers post. The other day I noticed the time of day on mine wasn't right so figured the battery might be going. Bought a new battery & it still didn't really keep the time right so I bought a new pedometer. Guess what - I'm now logging in twice what I did before! Still not getting in 10,000 steps a day, but I'm in the 7,000 to 9,000 range & that's without going for my walk after work. I guess when I dropped it a few weeks after I got the first one may have knocked something out of whack and since I was new to tracking I didn't realize it. 10,000 steps a day - here I come emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

  
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LILACEOUS 4/27/2011 6:55PM

    That's GREAT!!!

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JAMGIRL8 4/11/2011 1:22PM

    emoticon Great Job!

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CARLA-216 4/9/2011 10:27AM

    Yay! That's so great!
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41SUSAN14 4/9/2011 2:07AM

    Good going!


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BAILEE_GRAVES 4/9/2011 12:30AM

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You go friend!!!

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LILDREAMY 4/9/2011 12:22AM

    Yaaaaaay!!! See, you were doing SOO much better than you thought! :-)

Great job!

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