Friday, March 07, 2014
Sweety and I got engaged in November. We'd been planning a wedding for May 2015. A week ago, I just "changed my mind" and decided to get married next month! Crazy, eh? (Although, I do think God put His hand in this, because I really want my beautiful barn wedding, and I'm not sure why I felt so strongly we should get married NOW. And our Christian mentor couple felt the same way about us, but didn't want to say anything until i brought it up.)
Anyways, I expected to get a bit of negativity from people; people wondering why we feel the need to "rush" into this. I expected this...but haven't heard ONE negative thing from anyone! I guess when you've been together for 4 1/2 years, it really ISN'T rushing into it, lol. (Although, several people have asked if i was pregnant. I have to laugh a little since we are completely abstinent.) It's been so great hearing the reactions from people. (People who WOULD indeed say something if they felt we were doing something we shouldn't, lol.) So, yay!
The one problem I'm having is writing my vows. It's not that I don't know what to say... It's that I want to say EVERYTHING, but I have a feeling that 86 page vows are frowned upon, haha!
Wednesday, March 05, 2014
I was raised in a church denomination called Assemblies of God. They are strict, but service-wise, I'd put them near methodist maybe.... (?) Anyways, growing up, Lent was not something we ever observed. It was never talked about even at church. (Nor was Ash Wednesday.)
We switched churches to a non-denominational church when I was a teen. It was mentioned, but still not observed. Sweety and I switched to a new church a few months ago, and this one too, does not observe Lent.
With all my studies, my desire to go to seminary, my love for and relationship with Christ, I've decided to observe Lent for myself. Quick explanation of Lent is preparing for Holy Week with more fasting, prayer, etc. It is customary for folks to give something up for Lent (i.e. fasting from something.) Some people choose soda, some people choose FB games. I've decided to really 'test' myself ...I'm giving up chocolate. (I literally eat chocolate every day....) I wanted to pick something that I loved, and that would actually be a huge sacrifice for me! Eek! God give me strength!
On another note, we met with our pastor yesterday to get going on the wedding plans. The date is set for April 5th, 2014. Yup, one month from today! (Im hoping my mom will be able to recognize me on that day. Waiting any longer would not be advisable if I want my mom at my wedding.)
I'm super excited! We are doing a small ceremony at church with immediate family and a few friends. Then, just a small get-together at my sister's house. We still plan on having our romantic, rustic barn wedding next May, but will do it as a vow renewal/reception.
i was doing the 200 question "couple's therapy" quiz today. (Premarital counseling is a requirement of our Pastor's before he will perform the wedding. Which is fine by me! Ive always loved counseling!) Answering the questions about myself, my sweety and our life together just cemented everything even further in my brain, about how much I love this man.
I cant wait to be his wife!
Related to that, we plan on writing our own vows. Well today I started working on vows i will say to my step-daughter. Wow, not a good thing to work on at work! I was a big mess of crying! Too sweet, lol.
Wednesday, February 26, 2014
Since we got engaged in November, we've been planning a romantic, rustic barn wedding in May 2015. Well, the past few weeks Ive been hesitating on putting the deposit on the venue, but I wasn't sure why. Then for the past week, Ive been thinking... "I want to plan this wedding, decorate and create this wedding, have the pictures from this wedding, but i don't really want to participate in this wedding." Um....what?!
So I kept praying about it. God layed in on my heart that we should just be married. I very politely said "No thank you. I want my barn wedding." And, as you may know, saying no to God rarely works. So I talked it over with my best friend/mentor after Bible study last night. She breathed a huge sigh of relief. Apparently she'd been having all the same thoughts, but didn't know how to talk to me about it since I was so excited for my beautiful barn wedding! (God is silly, eh?)
So, I nervously brought it up with sweety last night and he was super excited! Well, ok! We'll just get married! Began conversations with the church and pastor about doing a small church wedding, immediate family only, in the beginning of April! Whoa!
Super excited! Trying to decide if I want to wear a dress I already have or buy one. (The plan is to still have the romantic barn wedding next may, but just have it as the reception, so I would do the pretty wedding dress then.) Anyways, so that's what Im working on right now! Woohoo!
On a less good note (wow, that sounds like some awful English! Haha, well guess what?! I'm not going to fix it! Ha!)
I had my acupuncture consultation on the 4th. (Headaches everyday, migraines once or twice a week for the last 15 years....) I basically paid $600 for her to tell me what acupuncture was and that we could go ahead and schedule some sessions. (I know what acupuncture is...I have this crazy thing called THE INTERNET!)
Anyways, I went to go schedule sessions. I was supposed to schedule 10 sessions ; once a week for ten weeks. That was when I was told that each session would be $126! (And they didnt have an openings until the end of April. And they only booked on Fridays, which is my workday.) I didn't schedule any...and glad I didn't! I received in the mail a week later, that acupuncture was NOT covered by my insurance (even though the booklet we got during enrollment said it was covered!) Super frustrating!
Well, a friend from highschool saw me ranting about it on FB, told his wife (who is certified in acupuncture) and she offerred to treat me for $25 a week! Super excited!!!!! REALLY hoping it helps, since it's basically my last hope!
Ok, on Sunday, Pastor made an analogy for grace, that I just loved, so I figured I'd share it with y'all!
Mercy is like a complete stranger coming to you with an offer to pay all your debts. He/she pays off everything you owe and you have a $0 balance on every debt. Awesome, hey?
Well, grace then would be someone coming and after all that is paid off, just randomly giving you a few million dollars.
Mercy and grace are nothing we deserve, they are nothing we can earn, but God gives them to us (and requests that we do the same.)
I myself, have been dealing with a situation that is requirnig a lot of mercy and grace from me...and it feels so much better than anger and bitterness, even if it's not always the "easiest" or natural choice.
Friday, February 21, 2014
1.Have you ever broken the law?
~Who hasn't? Nothing major....
2.What's your most embarrassing memory?
~I have entirely too many to pick from. I embarrass myself frequently.
3.What's your favorite childhood memory?
~Riding my bike the one mile on the park trails to my bff's house, where we would play Barbies, eat junk food, watch Now and Then and then having super fun sleep-overs.
4.How would your friends/coworkers describe you?
~Um....not sure. Nice?
5.What games did you play when you were little?
~Tons! Truth or Dare was a big one.
6.What was your first job?
~Besides babysitting, I waitressed at George Webbs (local greasy spoon.)
7.If a genie offered you three wishes, what would they be?
~Mucho Mucho Mucho money, which would take care of many other "wishes"...
~My mom to not be dying of Alzheimer's.
~ No more migraines and headaches!
8.On a scale of 1 to 10, how happy are you right now?
~It's been pretty up and down lately, but an average of 8 maybe...?
9.Do you have a sexual fantasy you'd like to share with me?
10.Is there anything you were passionate about when you were younger but that you gave up?
~Modeling. LOVED it. Quit when I was 15.
11.What's the stupidest thing you've ever done?
~Leaving my ex-husband for the "hot bad-boy".....super abusive, biggest jerk, worst thing that's ever happened to me.
12.If money were no object, where would you want to have a second home?
~Not sure. Vietnam maybe.
13.What would you do if your partner's best friend came on to you?
~Immediately leave the situation. Probably tell my sweety. Not much of a best friend if he would do that.
14.Where in the world would you most like to travel?
15.What would you do if you won a million dollars? 10 million dollars?
~Pay my medical bills, help my sister out ( she cant work because she has such bad Lupus that cant be controlled, yet they wont give her disability. *sigh*)
16.If there's one thing I could change about myself, what would I change?
~I'd have some self-confidence.
17.What animal would you like to be and why?
~Cat. They get to sleep and snuggle and play.....that's it!
18.If you were stranded somewhere for a long time, which book would you want to have with you?
19.Is there anyone from your past you have a hard time forgiving?
21.Where do you see yourself/us in 10 years? 20 years?
~Perhaps starting seminary!
22.What's the number one thing you'd like to improve about yourself?
~I'd not be all doughy..... need to tighten up a bit.
23.What do you think happens after you die?
~Depends on your relationship with Christ....
27.What would happen you got a fabulous job offer in another state?
~Doubt I could take it. Couldn't leave my little ladies!
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