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60 Things To Be Grateful For In Our Lives

Wednesday, November 05, 2014

Here are 60 things to be grateful for in our lives:

1. Your parents - For giving birth to you. Because if there is no them, there will not be you.
2. Your family – For being your closest kin in the world
3. Your friends – For being your companions in life
4. Sense of sight – For letting you see the colors of life
5. Sense of hearing - For letting you hear trickle of rain, the voices of your loved ones, and the harmonious chords of music
6. Sense of touch - For letting you feel the texture of your clothes, the breeze of the wind, the hands of your loved ones
7. Sense of smell – For letting you smell scented candles, perfumes, and beautiful flowers in your garden
8. Sense of taste – For letting you savor the sweetness of fruits, the saltiness of seawater, the sourness of pickles, the bitterness of bitter gourd, and the spiciness of chilli
9. Your speech – For giving you the outlet to express yourself
10. Your heart – For pumping blood to all the parts of your body every second since you were born; for giving you the ability to feel
11. Your lungs – For letting you breathe so you can live
12. Your immune system – For fighting viruses that enter your body. For keeping you in the pink of your health so you can do the things you love.
13. Your hands – So you can type on your computer, flip the pages of books, and hold the hands of your loved ones
14. Your legs - For letting you walk, run, swim, play the sports you love, and curl up in the comfort of your seat
15. Your mind - For the ability to think, to store memories, and to create new solutions
16. Your good health – For enabling you to do what you want to do and for what you’re about to do in the future
17. Your school - For providing a environment conducive to learning and growing
18. Your teachers – For their dedication and for passing down knowledge to you
19. Tears – For helping you express your deepest emotions
20. Disappointment - So you know the things that matter to you most
21. Fears – So you know your opportunities for growth
22. Pain – For you to become a stronger person
23. Sadness – For you to appreciate the spectrum of human emotions
24. Happiness – For you to soak in the beauty of life
25. The Sun - For bringing in light and beauty to this world
26. Sunset – For a beautiful sight to end the day
27. Moon and Stars - For brightening up our night sky
28. Sunrise - For a beautiful sight to start the morning
29. Rain – For cooling you when it gets too warm and for making it comfy to sleep in on weekends
30. Snow – For making winter even more beautiful
31. Rainbows – For a beautiful sight to look forward to after rain
32. Oxygen - For making life possible
33. The earth – For creating the environment for life to begin
34. Mother nature - For covering our world in beauty
35. Animals – For adding to the diversity of life
36. Internet - For connecting you and me despite the physical space between us
37. Transport - For making it easier to commute from one place to another
38. Mobile phones – For making it easy to stay in touch with others
39. Computers – For making our lives more effective and efficient
40. Technology – For making impossible things possible
41. Movies – For providing a source of entertainment
42. Books – For adding wisdom into your life
43. Blogs – For connecting you with other like-minded people
44. Shoes – For protecting your feet when you are out
45. Time – For a system to organize yourself and keep track of activities
46. Your job – For giving you a source of living and for being a medium where you can add value to the world
47. Music - For lifting your spirits when you’re down and for filling your life with more love
48. Your bed - For you to sleep comfortably in every night
49. Your home - For a place you can call home
50. Your soul mate – For being the one who understands everything you’re going through
51. Your best friends – For being there for you whenever you need them
52. Your enemies – For helping you uncover your blind spots so you can become a better person
53. Kind strangers – For brightening up your days when you least expect it
54. Your mistakes - For helping you to improve and become better
55. Heartbreaks - For helping you mature and become a better person
56. Laughter - For serenading your life with joy
57. Love - For letting you feel what it means to truly be alive
58. Life’s challenges - For helping you grow and become who you are
59. Life - For giving you the chance to experience all that you’re experiencing, and will be experiencing in time to come

And last but not least… #60:


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ALEXSGIRL1 11/13/2014 6:02PM

    love this list right now fighting so mi can keep my eyesight I have uveyitus in my left eye with almost no vision and we are fighting to keep it out of my right eye. So very thankful for what I can see every day

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ALOHAEV1 11/13/2014 9:55AM

    I printed this off and forgot to say I too, am grateful for YOU!

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MONETRUBY 11/9/2014 7:48PM

    What a great list! I love reading your blogs, they are always so positive and thought-provoking.

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ZANNACHAN 11/9/2014 11:28AM

    Great list! I am especially grateful at the moment for our new home, and for the fantastic friends and family that we have that have helped us so much while we are moving in.

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DEBSZOO74 11/9/2014 1:46AM

    Love this list! emoticon emoticon

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ZELLAZM 11/8/2014 5:16AM

    good list....and on and on it goes!

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FIT4MEIN2013 11/6/2014 12:20AM

    Awesome! Thank you for sharing this! Sharing!

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TREKPURRSON 11/5/2014 7:48PM

    emoticon emoticon your gratefulness list! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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STEVEN2GO2 11/5/2014 7:38PM

    I am emoticon if this offends anyone who reads this list, I would add just another item to this list.

The creator of all that we are all part of in this creation we share and enjoy.

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LUVSBULLDOGS 11/5/2014 7:12PM

    Great blog. I love all 60 of your things. emoticon

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BABYSTEPS123 11/5/2014 9:06AM

    Beautiful list! Lots to think about and be grateful for! We take too much for granted, don't we?

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1CRAZYDOG 11/5/2014 8:20AM

    OMG! I am sooooo printing this off! Thanks and thank you for being YOU!!!

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Thanksgiving Blessing Bags

Wednesday, November 05, 2014

It's that time of year again. ANY time is a good time to bless others. Be creative. If someone can't cook - bring a pre-cooked ham. If you are doing this just before, bring a turkey. Bring a box of cereal and a bag of candy....personalize it and be blessed. The feeling is like none other!

~Thanksgiving Blessing Bags~*

2 cans of green beans
1 can of sweet potatoes
2 cans of corn
1 can of cranberry sauce
1 box of stovetop stuffing
1 box of instant mashed potatoes
2 cans of gravy or 2 packets of gravy mix
1 aluminum oval turkey roasting pan
1 package of muffin or cornbread mix (just add water)
1 box of cake mix or brownie mix (or similar dessert)
1 jar of instant iced tea or jug of pre-made iced tea
1 $15.00 gift card to local grocery store for a turkey

NOW COMES THE FUN PART: Deliver the goods. There are lots of ways to do this. You can ask around for a family who might need a little help this season. Make a call to a church, your local food pantry, the schools in your area, the police/fire department. SOMEONE will know of SOMEONE who could really use a Thanksgiving meal. OR you could get really brave and drive around in your town and just pick a house! Yes, I am totally serious. You might decide to go to an impoverished area of your town, but remember that there are many, MANY people who could use a friendly gesture from a kind stranger, despite what their living arrangements might suggest. We can't always tell from the outside of a house what's going on in someone's life.

Take your kids with you. Have them help decide who to bless. Don't be scared or worried in unfamiliar surroundings. You come bearing gifts, expecting nothing in return. Leave the bag with a kind note as a surprise on someone's doorstep or get really brave and knock on the door! Smile. Shake a hand. Hug. Wish someone a Happy Thanksgiving. Talk about it with your family on the way home. And then again on Thanksgiving day. It will warm your heart to know you've giving someone the gift of being able to prepare a meal in their own home. Thankfulness all around.

*You can find all these items at the Dollar Store but you might actually find them for even less than $1/each at Walmart. Wherever you decide to purchase them, keep it simple...don't make it a chore by traveling all around town. At the very most it should cost you no more than $30. Place all the items in the aluminum pan or in a couple of paper grocery bags.*

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ALOHAEV1 11/13/2014 10:10AM

    Started mine too.

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FIT4MEIN2013 11/6/2014 12:23AM

    Awesome! Shared this with my 3000 Facebook followers!

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JAIZWAYS 11/5/2014 8:03AM

    emoticon idea. I love it. A true way to showtime earning of Thanksgiving. emoticon

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58 Meticulously Planned Intentional Acts of Kindness

Thursday, October 02, 2014

58 Meticulously Planned Intentional Acts of Kindness AKA Random Acts of Kindness 10/2/56

My gift to myself again this year. Full of all of the FUNderful gifts I bless ME by doing.

Today is my birthday and I’m celebrating by giving to others.

Last year was such a blessing that I have done various RAOK throughout the past year on a smaller scale and been preparing for THIS year throughout the year too.

You know, it went so well the past two years, that I don’t need to reinvent success.

I am going to change it up a BIT but for the most part, I am going to rock the same awe.filled day yet again. I’ve got lots of fun ideas in mind out and about celebrating and giving away my special day in ways that make a difference.

Simple acts of kindness...

1000 Acts of Kindness in 100 minutes </link>

Because kindness makes the world go round...Pay it forward boomerang effect...

Happy Birthday To ME! Changing the world one person at a birthday at a time! Now THAT is a gift to celebrate and savor!

This year I am not going to do them all TODAY but rather celebrate and savor the moments and spend some real time doing them and making them even more memorable gifts to ME!

Leave a treat and a thank you in my mailbox for my mail carrier

Mail a card to an old friend

Give a Target gift card to the checkout person

Leave $1 bills in FIVE random bins in the $1 section

Give a $5 gift card to the bagger at the commissary

Give a $5 gift card to the checkout person to give to someone who needs it later.

Leave a roll of pennies by the fountain and a note card telling about making wishes

Watch for someone doing a random good deed and give them a $5 gift card

Take a donation to the animal shelter

Leave $1 bills in random books at Barnes & Noble (Starting an Etsy Shop for Dummies)

Help elderly carry their groceries out and put them in their car

It’s On Me! Tape quarters to vending machines and parking meters

Leave quarters at the laundromat.

$5 in the credit card slot at the gas pump

Drop some quarters under the play equipment at the park for children to find

Blessings bags with socks from Target for people on corners in need

Leave lottery scratch tickets in random places.

Buy pocket mirrors at the Dollar store and gift it to someone you see that you think it would touch with a note “You are beautiful just the way you are.”

Eyebomb - attach wiggly eyes to inanimate objects in public places. Object? SMILES!

Let someone go ahead of you in line. Don’t be in such a hurry!

Put paper hearts all over the cars in the parking lot at the hospital when I’m there today.

Put a potted mum in the driveway of someone you don’t know with one of your RAK cards.

Leave a HAPPY sidewalk message “YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL” Join the sidewalk art revolution.
Go through the drive through and pay for someone’s meal behind you. Does your Starbucks have a drive through?

Post happy quotes on post-its in random places.

Host a birthday party for a homeless child.

Deliver crayons, sharpies, post it notes, paper to the pediatric ward.

Hand balloons to the kids there.

Go to Baby’s R Us and leave a gift card in the diaper/baby section

Regift an unused gift card on someone’s windshield

Buy flowers at Trader Joe’s and give them to someone on their way out of the store.

Give a special note/tip or bouquet to one of the workers at the mall food court cleaning tables.

Donate your airline miles to Make A Wish.

Bring stamps and blank cards to a nursing home and set up a card station.

Donate to a domestic abuse shelter (how about bringing a few Halloween costumes and Halloween candy)

Tape money for a Redbox rental.

Send a dessert to another table at a restaurant anonymously.

Compliment a store clerk to their manager.

Donate to the food bank - time AND food.

Send a Hugs and Hope card

Go on an Operation Beautiful note spree.

Tweet and facebook about an important cause

Join the boomboomrevolution and make these things habits.

Here's an instant way to add an eye-catching touch of brightness to an otherwise drab location. Bend colorful pipe cleaners into a flower, heart, or star shape or into a few squiggly spirals. Wind the ends around a park bench, a parent's car door handle, or a chain-link fence.

Do a favor

Busy books for the ER - fill ziplocs with inexpensive coloring books, crayons (Your dollar store can help here) and put them together and leave them in the waiting room.

Travel Size Care for the Homeless - Buy items you will stuff into a sock (put the other sock in too), toothpaste, deodorant, toothbrush, lotion, bandaids, hand sanitizer, wet ones, sunscreen etc. Alcohol free is good. Keep one or more kits in your car.

Surprise someone - this is a wild card. Your choice.

Do something special for your partner.

Let a car merge.

Let someone take the last parking spot.

Let someone take your seat on public transportation.

Drop off bus/metro passes to a shelter.

Offer to take a photo for a group so no one is left out.

Always return your cart.

Collect umbrellas and give them out with a smile.

Say “good morning” and “thank you” to public service workers.

Have a piece of clothing or special something that means a lot to you and you know a friend or loved one would appreciate it? Give it to them.

Ask a friend to do a RAK as a birthday gift to you. emoticon


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MONETRUBY 10/8/2014 10:14PM


Sorry I missed your birthday! I hope it was wonderful.

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ZANNACHAN 10/5/2014 3:07PM

    Coming in late but I hope you had an awesome birthday!!! I love how you spread love and kindness wherever you go--just remember to spread some love and kindness on yourself, too; you deserve it!!!

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ZELLAZM 10/4/2014 6:21AM

    I missed it, too...Belated Happy Birthday!!!... but your lists go on and on...some great ideas. I think you've inspired me to do something I did years ago at Christmas.

Great weekend, Kal

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CHRISTINEBWD 10/3/2014 11:21AM

    Well, I somehow missed this on your special day! I hope it was wonderful, just like you are! Lots of great ideas here that I hope to do too!!! emoticon

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CHAR8026 10/3/2014 10:24AM

    Wow, Kal, I am going to steal some of these ideas for Blake and I to do. I loved the video that you posted also.

Reading this, watching the video, there really is still some good in this world. And I am going to pass it on.

Happy Birthday, hope your day was Funderful, and very special.

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ALOHAEV1 10/2/2014 5:58PM

    Happy Birthday, and may your year be boomeranged with acts of kindness, random or not.

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BABYSTEPS123 10/2/2014 1:56PM

    Happy Birthday dear Kal! Isn't it just like you to do something for others on *your* birthday! Know it will bring you much joy and happiness!

We appreciate your example and your kindness ... every day!

Be blessed! Sally

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1CRAZYDOG 10/2/2014 1:47PM

    AWESOME! Happy birthday to you. You are AWESOME!

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SUSANSLIFE 10/2/2014 9:22AM

    What a wonderful plan! And so many ideas! I am going to save this and bookmark your blog post, too, and then start to work on making my own list. You are truly inspiring!
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CIPHER1971 10/2/2014 8:34AM

    Beautiful - I am going to look out for one to do today in honour of your birthday.

Have a great day

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EVER-HOPEFUL 10/2/2014 7:54AM

    wow that year went quick since your last birthday you i believe in rak and try to do them each and every day .i also try to learn my kids to do the same.thanks as always for the reminder and have a great birthday love.guess i should think something up for my 50th that is in may.take care and keep smiling emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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JCLJR4547 10/2/2014 7:38AM

  great idea! have a happy birthday!

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As 2014 winds down, it's a good day to look back and ahead too!

Tuesday, September 16, 2014

Don’t count the days. Make the days count. Muhammed Ali

But if you’re in the same boat as me and “lost” many or even some of your goals a long time ago, I want to encourage you to start fresh today. Be gracious to yourself, and forget that myth that you have to wait until a new year to make new goals.

Okay, enough procrastinating. Here we go . . .

This is what I posted at the beginning of 2014. I am sitting here crying over the too many that fell beside the way but still resolute that each day is a gift that I can still strive toward finding myself, my balance and my happiness and happy spot. I have stumbled. I have fallen. I have gotten very, very lost sometimes in dark places. Sometimes reinventing my original plan which is why I always love to readdress my State of Kalamity :) along the way. The first of the month and every quarter works if you remember.

These are still valid and good goals. I am going to keep on taking baby steps toward this life map.

Like each year, after I thought about my word and my plans for 2014, I began to think more and more about what the word and the priorities meant. Since I tend to be self-reflective during this time of year, this is very long and mostly for my benefit.

My word for 2014 is DARE.

Since I have my list of priorities this year, I thought it would be a good exercise to see if I could come up with a few goals for each.

One of my goals this year is to really slow down. I know this might not seem so from the list, but I am focusing on what I know will comfort my soul but no more so I can also rest and breathe more as I want to keep working on being more present and listening.

My other big focus this year is on learning. I’ve noticed that I go through different cycles and 2013 was a year of practicing for me but not a lot of learning. I want to feel free to experiment, to mess up, to copy others, to learn new things. I want to my own voice and to do that, I need to start with others’ voices, with what calls me. I want to create room for that this year. I also just want to learn new things. In every topic. I love learning, it makes me come alive.

So here we go:

Goals for Each Priority


1. Find ways to enjoy each other’s company.

2. Participate more in The School of Rock

3. Write weekly gratitudes and celebrations. 

4. Take online classes and focus on learning

5. Schedule MINIMUM bi-monthly date nights with Brian.

6. Meet Kathy’s new husband that she has spent the past 13 years with.
7. Spend time with family making memories.
8. Enjoy walks with the fur family DAILY.


1. Continue walking and shooting for 10,000 steps a day.

2. Work Beachbody Programs - start and complete at least three this year.

3. Eat whole/clean foods at least 80/20.

4. Get minimum 7 hours of sleep every night.

5. Take a walk somewhere new every week with the family and dogs.

1. Send one kind email to someone each week.
2. Have an end of the day ritual each night and a welcoming the day ritual each morning.
3. Always use the good stuff. Thank you Erma Bombeck.
4. Celebrate and savor moments.

1. Write down two things I am grateful for each day.
2. Create gratitude post cards and mail them

1. Get coaching certification
2. Take local classes
3. Take online classes
4. Go to Beachbody Summit again this year.

1. Invite guests to dinner.
2. Get out and meet people.
3. Send out gratitude cards to people I am grateful for.


1. Read a book a week 

2. Journal daily.

3. Gratitude Journal daily.

4. Experiment more with meditation, yoga and breathing

5. Go camping. 

6. Listen.


1. Make and keep regular pedicure and hair appointments (every 6 weeks or so)

2. Enjoy volunteer opportunities and giving back/paying forward. 

3. Send one kind email to someone each week

4. Have and end-of-day ritual each night and a welcoming-the-day ritual each morning

5. Follow self-care rituals and maintain them. 


1. Learn to do lettering (Finish on-line classes)

2. Take more online classes.

3. Practice lettering/doodling and DO IT. 

4. Participate in art related swaps. 



2. Get out of the house and engage. 

3. Participate more. 

4. Journal Daily

5. Sign up for and complete a 5K at least bi-monthly.

6. Blog
7. Learn/tackle something new. Explore something I haven’t done.

I decided this year’s thoughts to cultivate will be around my core desires. So here’s some of what’s on my mind.

1. Serene What helps me be most serene is taking time for myself. I plan to start the day and end the day alone. Listen to Tara Brach. I will take a break in the middle of the day and walk to get some fresh air and to step away for a bit. I will slow down and breathe more. When I feel worry and panic, I will take a moment, I will name it, I will let things get quieter and then act (and not react.) I will use the Four Questions. I will set intentions each week. I will end my days with a small routine to re-center myself. I will make sure to get enough sleep.

2. Grace I will carry myself with grace. I will take the time to be kind. I will practice ease and comfort. I will take the extra few minutes to wear things that make me feel good. I will take care of my body, my soul and my heart. I will slow down and move deliberately. I will get quieter. I will listen more talk less. I will thank. I will show my gratitude. I will practice self-kindness and care as well as extending it to others. I will volunteer. I will practice patience.

3. Engaged I will choose to engage. I will show up. I will step up. I will learn and grow and participate. I will choose curiosity again and again. I will choose to lean in. I will pay attention to what makes me come alive. I will practice art. I will practice both depth and breadth.

Whole I will practice self-compassion. I will choose kindness towards myself. I will celebrate achievements big and small. I will practice gratitude. I will show up to events and reach out to those I love. I will make room for new friends. I will choose to cultivate belonging. I will make the time and room for others.

Major focus areas to come back to again and again.

Let go of worry. Be present. Stay in the present moment. To breathe and see if something I am worrying about is or should be in the past or future instead of the here and now. I plan to listen to various life coaches and mentors and inspirations regularly and use The Four Questions.

Do less. Slow down. Make and spend quality time with family. Quality time to rest. Let myself off the hook if I need to.

Do not yell! I hate that I have become a yeller. I do it far more often than I want to admit. This year it’s non-negotiable. BREATHE. People I love deserve my respect just as I do theirs. I want to be more resolute. Kinder. Stronger. Quieter. Calmer.

Be mindful. I want to be a lot more aware of my own feelings. Those of my kids. Aware of how my actions affect others. How I actually have time before I need to react. How I can choose what I want to do next. How I can choose the tone of my voice, the way I feel, the way I react.

Celebrate. I want to focus on all the good things in my life more purposefully this year. Take scheduled time to celebrate. Celebrate those around me and myself. Spread joy. Spread kindness. Make rituals. Reach out to people and celebrate together. Life is a present. The best gift ever. LIVE IT!

Cultivate belonging. I have been struggling with community for awhile now. Working at home and juggling all that I do makes it harder for me. I have also developed social anxiety. So instead of trying to cure it all, my plan this year is to narrow down my focus. Find the few people I care about and cultivate those friendships. Focus on establishing deeper ties. Not necessarily wider but deeper. For me and my family.

Self Compassion. I want to be kinder to myself. I want to cultivate awareness so I can see when I fall back into my non-productive patterns and forgive myself. I want to show my family that we all mess up and we all deserve forgiveness. I want to be kind, kind, kind. I want to practice non-judging awareness. And I want to quit taking things personally.

Be open. While I want to forgive myself for not enjoying some of the things others may, I also want to continue to try new things. I want to be willing to do something just for someone else. Be open to the possibility that I may like it. I want to be BRAVE. I want to be a good example of courage and practice it regularly. I want to move away from deprecating self talk. I want to show that failure is a part of life and so is showing compassion for oneself.

Gratitude. I plan to kick the gratitude thing up a few notches. I want to practice it myself, send it out to my friends and the universe. I want to make it front and center in my life. I know it’s one of the biggest links to happiness.

Monthly intentions:

January – Quietly Present – take a break. ponder. walk, don’t run. take it slow and steady. be calm. don’t yell. be quieter. listen.
February – Joyfully Present – celebrate the joy of life. drink it up. buy a present. spread the joy. how could you celebrate more?
March – Kindly Present – be kinder to yourself. how can you be kinder? gentler with yourself and others. go slow. be sweet.
April – Bravely Present – take a risk. do something new. where are you not being brave? dare to do more or different.
May – Physically Present – go outside. breathe. and breathe more. can you do more to be healthy? what needs attention now?
June – Calmly Present – embrace the chaos. assume it will be fun. breathe. and then relax some more. lean into the joy of family.
July – Positively Present – focus on the positive. what is good about this moment? see the good. find the gem. life is beautiful.
August – Deliberately Present – choose your path. choose to show up. is this what you want to do? is it fulfilling you? look closely.
September – Visibly Present – See people. Let yourself be seen. Who can you reach out to today? Send an email to meet with them.
October – Deeply Present – go deeper. what are you taking for granted? what more is there? what are you not paying attention to? look around.
November – Unabashedly Present – be bold. show up. be you. what’s holding you back? what would feel great? now go do it.
December – Fully Present – soak it all in. experience all the moments. love deeply. forgive. hug. breathe the joy in. love.

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GLASSART43 9/20/2014 4:40PM

    I love this, Kal. You are really making me think about where I started and how I want to close out 2014.

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ALOHAEV1 9/18/2014 8:00AM

    Beautifully written, there will a lot of stealing going on I bet!

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EVER-HOPEFUL 9/18/2014 3:46AM

    i loved your goals when you first posted them and love them now .how are you doing with them so far?keep on keeping on you are doing great. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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ZANNACHAN 9/17/2014 11:58PM

    You have such lovely goals... I loved reading them. And I know that you say you've stumbled but you are still going and thinking and focusing on the things that are important to you and that matters too, more than falling, I think. Lots of people fall. Not everyone gets up again and keeps going.

I particularly liked that you want to be kinder to yourself... you are lovely, graceful, caring woman.... and I like that you are directing that toward yourself because you deserve it too.

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EMSSBEARS 9/17/2014 11:45PM

    You really put a lot of thought and effort into this and I know that you will accomplish all that you have set out to do. I am especially impressed with the emphasis on the family and the fact that you are going to meet someone you have not met that has been in the family for 13 years good luck with that one are you nercous? You are amazing to come up with all this and I wish you the best of luck.


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2NDCHANCEWITHEY 9/17/2014 10:38PM

    This is really thoughtful and shows you are truly committed to this. Congrats on Motivator of the Day. This blog really proves how much that is true!

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DEBSZOO74 9/17/2014 12:56AM

    Wow! So very well thought out and wonderful goals! I enjoyed this blog so much!

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LUVSBULLDOGS 9/16/2014 8:58PM

    Wow, that's a lot to think about. Hope you achieve your goals. emoticon

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LCDM83 9/16/2014 8:24PM

    Those are a lot of goals to think about! I wish you serenity to achieve them. ;)

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CHRISTINEBWD 9/16/2014 6:51PM

    Kal, I really liked the thoughtful way you took to write all this down. With your can do attitude I think you will succeed. All my best!

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MAGGIEVAN 9/16/2014 4:19PM

    Wow, it is all very lofty goals. My question to you is how are you going to put it all into practise? I know you are going to write down your gratitudes and you are going to communicate with others. How are you going to end and start your day? emoticon

I did read every word!

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FIT4MEIN2013 9/16/2014 2:08PM

    Well said!

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CHAR8026 9/16/2014 12:54PM

    What a great blog. I love all of the goals that you have set for yourself. You can do this, and you will do it.

emoticon I may have to steal a couple of these ideas.

Great job!!

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1CRAZYDOG 9/16/2014 10:56AM

    Good to look retrospectively @ what we have done (or not!)

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GORIANA 9/16/2014 10:49AM

    September is a great time to begin and since you like to learn, it makes sense because it is the beginning of the school year. I admire those that set resolutions and examine progress from time to time and might even change course along the way..because those people are aiming toward something. I hope you make it to these mountaintops and then find another peak so you can keep learning.

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18 Chances You Will Not Regret Taking In Life

Tuesday, September 16, 2014

In life you get just about as many chances as you're willing to take.

Almost two decades ago, when I told my grandmother I was worried about taking a chance and regretting my choice, she hugged me and said, “Trust me, honey, that’s not what you’re going to regret when you’re my age. If anything, you will likely kick yourself a little for not taking more chances on the infinite number of opportunities you have today.”

And the older I get, the more I realize how right my grandmother was. Life is about trusting yourself and taking chances, losing and finding happiness, learning from experience, appreciating the memories, and realizing that every step is worth your while… But you’ve got to be willing to take each step. You’ve got to give yourself a fair chance.

So here are some chances I would take if I were you – chances I have taken that I know you will not regret:

Trusting your intuition on new opportunities. – Life is too short to wait. Every new day is another chance to change your life. Every great accomplishment starts with the decision to try. Trust that little voice inside your head that says, “What if…” and then GO DO IT. Give yourself a fair chance. You would be surprised how often “what if” works. And no, you’re not obligated to win every time. You’re obligated to keep trying – to do the best you can do every day – to improve upon what you learned yesterday.

Believing in your own abilities. – You have everything you need within you to become the best possible version of yourself. Believe that you CAN. Believe that you’re capable of pushing harder and farther than you have before. Believe that you’re young enough, old enough, smart enough and strong enough to achieve your goals. Don’t let false beliefs stop you from moving beyond yourself. And certainly don’t get sidetracked by other people who are not on track.

Making moves in the face of fear. – It’s often difficult to grow into your greatest self, but it’s a tragedy to let the lie of fear stop you. So realize right now that fear doesn’t exist anywhere except in your head. Be courageous. Go after your goals. Never let your fear steer your present or decide your future. And remember, courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is far more important than fear. (Read Start: Punch Fear in the Face.)

Taking a step forward today. – You will be dead one day. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it’s true. The question is: Are you choosing to live right now? Take a moment and think about. Life doesn’t start when “this, that, or the other thing” is resolved. This IS your time. Life is now. Do something with it. Don’t wait it away.

Making your goals a priority. – If you want to live a happy, fulfilling life, tie yourself to meaningful goals, not just to people and things. Never put off or give up on something that’s important to you… not because you still have tomorrow to start or try again, but because you may not have tomorrow at all. Life is shorter than it sometimes seems. Make today count. Take just one small step a day. Approach the start of every day with one little goal and end the day with one little word. DONE!

Working hard even when it hurts. – Remember, personal growth in all walks of life is a slow, steady process. It can’t be rushed. You need to work on it gradually every day. There is ample time for you to be who you want to be in life. Don’t settle for less than what you think you deserve, or less than you know you can be. Despite the struggles you’ll inevitably face along the way, never give up on yourself. You’re braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, smarter than you think, and twice as capable as you have ever imagined. Keep going.

Upholding your standards. – What’s dreadful is to pretend that second-rate is first-rate. To pretend that you don’t need love and respect when you do. To lie to yourself and say everything is OK, when it isn’t. Or to convince yourself that you like your work when you know darn well you’re capable of much better. Bottom line: Love yourself enough to never lower your standards for the wrong reasons.

Bouncing back after rejection or failure. – When you are rejected from something good, it often means you’re being redirected to something better. Be patient. Be positive. And remember, no matter how many mistakes you make or how slow you progress, you are still way ahead of everyone who isn’t trying. (Angel and I discuss this in detail in the “Adversity” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)

Owning your situation. – Even when the going gets tough, own it! If you’re struggling at a job you don’t love, look at it this way: you’re choosing to make a living to pay your mortgage, support your family, and fuel your dreams. Don’t resist it; own it – that’s where your power is. If you’re in a relationship that’s causing you pain, you’re choosing to be in it. Maybe staying will lead to essential growth or a breakthrough or a deeper understanding of love. Or not. But you’re choosing to be in or out, right now. Whichever you choose, own it – that’s where your power is.

Smiling anyway. – Don’t let one bad moment ruin your day. Think of it as a bad minute, not a bad day, and you’ll be OK. Stress begins when your worry list is longer than your gratitude list. Happiness begins when your gratitude list is longer than your worry list. So find something to be thankful for today. Be sure to appreciate what you’ve got. Be thankful for the little things in life that mean a lot.

Being sincerely kind to everyone. – Kindness in words creates confidence and motivation. Kindness in thinking creates positivity and possibility. Kindness in giving creates strength and love. Through kindness you have the ability to make a profound difference in every life you touch, including your own. When you guide someone who is lost and confused, when you hold someone who is sad and grieving, when you hug someone who has lost all their hope, you too will feel yourself healing and growing stronger. So do your little bit of good right where you are, because it’s these little bits of good put together that change the world.

Helping others create a better life for themselves. – Who you affect is more powerful than who you are at any given moment. Because nothing is as enduring as a great memory. In the end, its only intangible ideas, concepts, beliefs, and feelings that last. Stone cracks. Wood rots. Skin dies. But great thoughts, beautiful experiences, and inspiring legends… they live forever. If you can change the way people think and feel, the way they see themselves, and the way they interpret the world, it means you can change the way they live their lives, and how they affect others. That is, by far, the longest lasting thing you can create.

Living with integrity and honor. – Integrity is choosing your actions based on moral values rather than personal gain. It’s about living honorably. It’s about doing the right thing, no matter what, even when nobody’s going to know whether you did it or not. At the end of the day, your reputation is what other people know about you. Your honor is what you know about yourself.

Being weird in your own way. – We are all weird. Life is weird. And when we find weirdness in the world that makes us want to work hard, we call it passion. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we call it love. And if we zoom the lens way out, so we can see all the weird people of the world doing their thing, we realize being weird isn’t that weird after all. It’s human nature.

Opening yourself to love. – Your greatest task isn’t to find love, but to discover and eliminate all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. Even when you’re afraid, keep trusting – keep your heart and mind wide open. Peace is not the absence of trouble, but the presence of love. As you find the good that exists in others and situations, you discover the love that exists within you.

Closing the door on old news. – Holding on to what’s no longer there holds too many of us back. Some of us spend the vast majority of our lives recounting the past and letting it steer the course of the present. Don’t waste your time trying to live in another time and place. Let it GO! You must accept the end of something in order to begin to build something new. So close some old doors today. Not because of pride, inability or egotism, but simply because you’ve entered each one of them in the past and realize that they lead to nowhere worth your while. (Read Loving What Is.)

Taking time to simply BE where you are. – You will always be missing out on something. You simply can’t have it all. Thus, it will always seem like something wonderful might be happening elsewhere. And that’s OK. Let it go, and realize you have everything right now. The best in life isn’t somewhere else; it’s right where you are at this moment. You have to accept that some things will never be yours, and learn to value the things that are only yours.

Putting yourself out there and truly LIVING. – To laugh often and love genuinely. To respect others and judge less. To win the affection and sincere smiles of children. To earn the regard of honest peers and endure the betrayal of fake friends. To appreciate the beauty surrounding you wherever you are, whenever you are. To find the good in people and situations. To give what you can and leave the world a little better than you found it. To have explored ideas and passions and sung at the top of your lungs in delight. To know that at least one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is what LIVING is all about.

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

CIPHER1971 9/17/2014 6:39AM

    Some of them I am at, some I still need to grab,

Thanks for sharing

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CHOCOHOLIC2276 9/16/2014 4:04PM

    Great GREAT blog!!!

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1CRAZYDOG 9/16/2014 11:11AM

    Good advice!

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FISHGUT3 9/16/2014 9:08AM

    ahhh nothing better than the dancing dog!

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HMBROWN1 9/16/2014 8:24AM

    I love the picture of you dancing with your dog - awesome!

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