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Probably the Best Advice Iíve Received

Monday, May 20, 2013

We are all faced with daily temptations to eat off plan Ö to have an extra treat here and there. A friend once told me, ďIf youíre going to eat off plan, make it something extraordinary!Ē This past weekend I used this advice to beat back a chocolate craving. Actually, I made it into a two-part question:

(1) Is it worth the guilty feeling Iím sure to have after eating off plan? And,
(2) Is it something extraordinary?

Most of the things that tempt me on a regular basis are plain, readily accessible, quite ordinary things Ö even store-bought versus homemade Ö and honestly, they are NOT worth the few minutes of so-called pleasure eating off plan might bring.

Be careful to judge the food and not the associated event when applying these criteria. There are many extraordinary events in life, special occasions, once-in-a-lifetime events. But is the food item extraordinary, unique, worth that regretful, guilty feeling? Maybe. Maybe not. So, if youíre going to indulge in pizza and itís not on your plan, donít settle for a frozen pizza or even one from a chain of well-known pizza places. Go for the best pizza in town! Or the best steak Ö or the best cheesecake Ö. I think you get the idea.

Applying these two questions to your choice to eat off plan may help you avoid some disappointment and extra calories.


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1BEACHWALKER 6/5/2014 4:02PM

    Good thinking!! I recently adopted this mantra myself, but first went cold turkey off the sweets, my downfall. I did it last month successfully, but started adding them back in off and on and it got out of control again. So as of June 1 went cold turkey again and will stay off unless it is a special occasion and like you said make is something really good! And let that be it! No sense wasting calories over junk food, but if you just have to make it a good choice, and only if you won't feel guilty about it. Then move on!! emoticon

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CYND59 5/20/2013 10:07AM

    I was thinking the same thing this morning as I was working out. I had some store bought chocolate chip cookies yesterday that were not even that good. I wasted the calories. I will make better choices now and try to remember your two questions!

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MJRVIC2000 5/20/2013 8:42AM

    Whatsoever we sow, we shall reap. God Bless YOU! Vic.

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WALLINMW 5/20/2013 8:41AM

  Never give up....stay motivated!

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And So Ė Apparently Ė Have March, April and Half of May

Saturday, May 18, 2013

Where does the time go? When I started blogging on SparkPeople, I thought I would post something every day Ö no. Every week then? Um Ö no. So I changed to a monthly blog post, feeling almost certain I could check in at the end of the month. Ha! Seems I canít even keep up with monthly Ö Iíve lost track of most of my SparkFriends and have settled into a routine comprised mostly of tracking food and fitness, earning SparkPoints by playing trivia and taking polls, etc. Getting back to blogging has been lost in the shuffle.

While I did NOT reach my ultimate goal of 120 by my 59th birthday, it did not minimize my enthusiasm for my trip to the DC area to visit my DB and his SO. We had such a wonderful time with the two of them, taking in a number of the sights and in so doing, walking my little legs off!!! We were busy doing something every day we were there. I managed to do what all of us hope for Ė I lost weight while on vacation! Yippee!!! My DBís reaction to the 70 lb difference in me since he saw me four years ago was PRICELESS!!!

Now that Iím back from that vacation, Iím looking forward to my next trip. Weíre headed to a little town outside Nashville over the 4th of July to visit DHís family. They havenít seen me in about 20 months, so they are in for a shock as well. Iím much smaller than Iíve been during 22Ĺ years of marriage. They will likely not know or recognize the new me. LOL!

Iím back to my losing ways, albeit slowly. Iím into new numbers Ė finally! I saw 139 on the scale earlier this week. It feels so good to be out of the 140ís. Time seemed to stand still for a while as I worked through the 140ís.

During a recent shopping trip I purchased a couple of size 14 dresses for church services. The weight loss really shows. Dressing up feels amazing and Iím so very pleased to be wearing something besides pants and polo shirts for a change. My self-esteem just got a huge kick in the butt from these two new dresses.

Life is good and I consider myself blessed to be enjoying my last year in the 50ís before turning 60 next May. My goal of 120 is in sight and Iím in the homestretch now. Whenever I make it will be fine with me. Just know that I WILL MAKE IT!


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NANCYPAT1 5/18/2013 9:52AM

    What a WONDERFUL blog. Thank you for coming here and sharing it with us. I think that as our lives change and we start moving toward different goals and such, backing away for a while is NOT A BAD thing - I applaud your continuing to track and to occasionally reach out and update us. Those of us currently in the trenches and relying on the support don't always recognize that TRUE success CAN SOMETIMES mean that stepping back is a healthy part of the process. About 30 years ago a friend was talking to me about a 12-step group she belonged to for many years - she said it was the SECOND most important move she made - the MOST important being when she RECOGNIZED that she no longer NEEDED to identify herself PRIMARILY with that designation. Her point being that TRUE healing came when she could move beyond that. Maybe to a large extent weight loss journeys are a bit like that - you are becoming a butterfly - fly free - come back with such wonderful inspiration and fly on as you need to.

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February Has Come and GONE!

Friday, March 01, 2013

I see a pattern developing here Ö Iím always left at the end of the month with my head spinning, wondering where the previous month went. The same is true of February. To my credit it did end rather abruptly on the 28th of the month instead of giving us the usual 30-31 days. I feel justified. LOL!

I also feel robbed of the last 7 days, having been sidelined with bronchitis and laryngitis. Remember me saying in my last update how ďanything worth doing is worth running into the groundĒ? Apparently, I follow the same guideline when getting sick. I havenít been to the gym since the 22nd of February and likely will not make it in for a workout with Sergio until the 4th of March. Similarly, as a hospital switchboard operator with laryngitis, I havenít been able to work since the 24th of February. If I recover sufficiently in the next 30 hours or so, I can return to work at 10 on the 2nd of March. My voice is at about 75-80%, a little raspy yet, and will tire quickly when I begin to answer phones and make overhead pages. I was so excited to have my voice back even a little bit that I probably overused it at dinner tonight with my DH. Iíll pay for that but have promised to rest my voice all day Friday. He will have to remind me often to ďhushĒ once he gets home from work. LOL!

There are many lessons learned in my abbreviated month of February; one would be just how much I miss the gym after being away for just 7 days but knowing I canít go back for a few more days yet. Along those same lines, I miss my trainer and the push he gives me to go for more, to try harder, to focus and to simply ďbreathe.Ē Since I still have a tendency to hold my breath, he is forever reminding me to ďbreathe.Ē Another of his reminders to me is ďfocus.Ē Another lesson learned is how quickly time gets away from us. While I am organized and regimented in some things, I am also a chief procrastinator in other things. Thus, I am always wondering where my day, or week or month went. I usually find myself wishing I had gotten more done.

I have just 9 short weeks to reach my goal before my 59th birthday Ö itís not looking good right now. I think instead of losing weight this month I may have picked up a pound or two. Iíll be getting back to basics for the next 9 weeks Ö eating right, working out consistently Ö and Iíll be satisfied with whatever results come my way. Hopefully this time next month Iíll be reporting a loss. It can happen if I do what I know to do.

This much is certain: I havenít given up and Iím not giving in. I will see this through to goal, even if it occurs long after my 59th birthday.



First Update of 2013

Saturday, February 02, 2013

What do you mean itís February already?!! Iím not ready for February Ö Iím not finished with January yet! Or said another way, I meant to post this blog before January ended. Sigh!

Iíve continued to play with my treats here and there, which caused my trainer no small amount of stress as he watched my caloric intake fluctuation from day to day. THAT ended yesterday! Since I canít seem to choose a day here and there but have made treating myself an everyday occasion, weíve decided to stop that behavior all together for the time being. Over-indulgence has no place in my current plan. Once I can demonstrate a willingness and ability to stay within my calorie range, then we may re-introduce treats. This works well for me because I am an all-or-nothing kind of gal. By ďallĒ I mean all the sweet treats I can cram into a day! By ďnothingĒ I mean nothing sweet that would start the same landslide behavior. [Note: I realize this may sound a lot like deprivation but I prefer to think of it as behavior modification.]

My trainer and I have had to scale back my training slightly and take a different approach. Weíve gone all out for 21 months, but for the last month weíve stuck with lighter weights and more reps. If we go for more weight, then we reduce the reps. Because I suffer from clinical depression, Iíve experienced a few meltdowns in the recent past, some of which occurred during my training sessions. Whether it was the training that caused the meltdowns or the depression will never be fully known. I tend to believe it was the depression that caused me to begin crying uncontrollably in the middle of a training session since this was also happening at work for no apparent reason. My personal trainer is the consummate professional Ö he took these crying spells in stride and switched from asking for more dead lifts to asking me to breathe deeply, slowly and with my eyes closed. He talked me through the episode and calmed me down. I wish I could say it only happened once, but unfortunately it happened on several occasions. It should be noted I am a firm believer in ďif itís worth doing, itís worth running into the ground.Ē Yet, while training I have never suffered an injury. I believe I was in a weakened state and vulnerable when the crying occurred. Thatís my story and Iím sticking to it.

Even with my indulgence in all things sweet and scaling back on my training a bit, I have managed to lose another five (5) pounds toward my ultimate goal of ninety (90) pounds and my short term goal of thirty (30) pounds before my 59th birthday. I have 13 weeks to lose twenty-three (23) pounds. Itís a lofty goal, considering I lose weight at the pace of a snail. But it is still my goal. I will continue to eat healthy meals and work out 4-5 days a week as I move toward reaching my goal. At the end of 13 weeks, I will be flying from South Florida to Virginia to visit my oldest brother. We havenít seen each other in over 4 years! I am so excited about the trip!!! Even if I donít make my goal, I know that I will be the healthiest I can be and will look the best that I can look. What better rewards are there than those Iíve just mentioned?

How are you doing on your goals? Are you forging ahead or have you indulged a bit? Are you keeping your date with exercise or are you cancelling out in favor of a night on the sofa in front of the tv? Címon, letís do this together! Letís not be like the majority of New Yearís Resolution makers whoíve already given up on their resolutions. We know this is not a resolution but a revolution Ö a lifestyle change. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get back in the battle.

Until next time Ö



I Am No Longer "Obese"

Wednesday, November 28, 2012

Today I made the transition from "obese" to "overweight" on the BMI chart. emoticon

After Thanksgiving I re-committed to my get healthy plan. I hadn't really gone off the plan, but relaxed a bit by indulging in a treat here and there. But it's back to business now and I'm kickin' it up a notch with my workout. My trainer is on board as we move forward with a goal in mind -- 30 pounds in 5 months. I want to be at my goal weight of 120 before I turn 59 years old next May. I've lost the first 2 pounds ... only 28 to go.

I CAN DO THIS!!! Let the fun times begin NOW!!! emoticon


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ROSIEPD 11/28/2012 12:52PM

    That's great! I can't wait until the WII fit stops saying "That's Obese!". I still have a ways to go though. Thanks for the inspiration.

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DIET_FRIEND 11/28/2012 11:45AM

    That's great! I would love to get out of the obese range! My Wii Fit is giving me the business about this!

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SPAQUEEN2012 11/28/2012 11:01AM

    Good for you! I am not there yet, I have 18 more lbs to go to move into that category. I am not making that my new goal. Thanks for sharing!


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RUNNING-LIFE 11/28/2012 10:49AM

    emoticon That's great news! I'm so glad to hear it- keep it up. emoticon

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MLYN92 11/28/2012 10:37AM

    WOW! Awesome job! It must be a great feeling!
I am so close to that line, almost down to only being overweight and no longer obese!

With your positive attitude you will for sure reach (if not surpass) your birthday goal!
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IRISHPROUD46 11/28/2012 10:33AM

    Great job!! Keep up the good work!

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PJBONARRIGO 11/28/2012 10:33AM

    Congrats on your weight loss! It sounds like you have a good plan in place and I'm sure that you can meet your birthday goal! You are already on your way!
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