Thursday, November 13, 2014
Okay yesterday in my feed I wrote that Erik had a seizure. This is not the first one I've witnessed for my son, that happened in Austria last May. Erik isn't the first person I've seen in a seizure, I was a HS teacher and had had first aid training and twice I got to use it for a young lady who had seizures. It was scary then when it was another person's child it's worse when it's your own and you feel like you don't know enough anymore. I made sure Erik was protected so he could not hurt himself any further and waited it out -possibly 3 minutes, I did not have the presence of mind to time it.
Right after I finished my blog: Benefits to being a Sparker, I heard a thunk. Erik, what on earth are you doing, I said. Then I heard him, he was in active seizure, I ran looking for him and found him on the floor by his bed. I put a pillow behind his head, then I just stayed making sure he didn't thrash and hurt himself. The seizure played itself out and Erik finally looked at me with recognition and smiled. Up, he said, I got to get up. Full sentence right out of his seizure-good job son. After getting him up on his bed, I asked him if he knew what happened. He said yes, then proceded to show me without getting up what happened. He asked about a PILL, he had been prescribed seizure meds several months after his accident, but continually spit them out or refused to take them. He told the Neurologist-NOT GOOD, SICK. We guessed he did not appreciate the after effects of the drugs and could not explain what happened when he took them. The doctor conceded and Erik hadn't had a seizure from August 2010 till May 2014. That one was explained by the massive amounts of stimulus he had while traveling in Belgium and Austria. Anyway, yesterday was the second one in a year-I'm not happy, his wanting the pill is not to cool, since he likes tasting various beers. They don't mix to well.
I digress, he then went to the bathroom and back to bed for several hours, waking up twice for a little water.
Why, Why, Why this time. All I could think of was his friends father's passing and funeral last week and his nasty stomach virus that caused him to race for the bathroom regularly-not easy when you wear a brace to walk.
We will see his doctor in December, unless he has another seizure before then.
When will I get used to this-NEVER. I would like to be calm and not have my whole day trashed after his seizures though. How do I do that? I have no clue! I'm at a loss as how to pull myself together and be able to do something constructive. All I could do is sit and knit-no housework, no sewing- no paperwork, just quietly knit and listen for more trouble from his room.
Thanks for those of you who responded with prayers and goodies to cheer me. I really needed hugs-virtual was what I was able to get. It's days like yesterday when I really miss my Steve.
Now Erik is upset with me, because I'm checking on him every hour or so, last night I told him to go watch TV in his bed so I could go to mine-he was not thrilled with me. Imagine mom telling her 42 yr old to go to bed!
Wednesday, November 12, 2014
I have several real encouraging SFs. Janet552 has been one of the best friends a girl could have with challenges and encouragement. Buttonpopper has been encouraging and patting me on the back too. But lately, I've answered a call by GABY1948. We are not doing exactly the same things but we are trying so hard to maintain a streak that we began with another sparker, a friend of Gayes who is in this with us. We are together on day 31. And I am on day 41 for logging in and doing the trivia questions.
So what's the benefit you might ask. Well I'd gotten real sloppy about logging in, tracking and participating. I think at time Janet was afraid I'd drop out of site, she kept calling me back-benefit. Gaye would encourage me when I responded to her blogs-benefit. Buttonpopper would point out my value as a friend when I gave helpful advice. Brooklyn_Born has been a help too as has been LisaLosingit, MorticiaAddams, ClaireInParis, and Donna, Beth and MaryAnne-sorry friends-your log in names are on the tip of my tongue but it's not coming to mind.
Even though we've run into hardships in life, health, family, frustration, schooling, work we still lovingly reach out to each other. NorasPat amazes me with her energy, drive and accomplishments.
Now I guess would be a good time that this is the time to acknowledge our gratitude, so I'll thank ALL of my sparkfriends young and old -long term and new to the list, sorry I cannot mention all by name...but all of you have touched my heart, my life and many of you carried me through the tragedy of Erik's accident when I was so new to spark people....So God bless you all and keep sparking.
Love and prayers,
Tuesday, November 11, 2014
I am not bargain shopping today. That is NOT how I wish to honor our Veterans. I will say extra prayers for those currently serving that they be safe, and that their families have the support they need. I will also pray for those who have come home injured physically, emotionally or mentally. I will pray for this Nation of ours, who I feel has forgotten the precepts on which we were founded. I will pray for all Vets and young people discerning the service.
I will especially pray for those in my own family who are serving. Thank you Patrick and Alex. For those who have served Daddy (RIP), Dad (RIP), Vernon, Vincent, Véronique (RIP), Valerie & Donald, Viviane and of course my "sons" Lee & Danny. My own mother(RIP) who through the Belgian underground supported the British and American troops during WWII.
There are so many of my friends with family just come home or still serving I'll pray for all.
I best get busy with all the prayers for all these great people THANK YOU LORD!
Friday, November 07, 2014
Yesterday I posted that I was grouchy, last night my son and DIL were grouchy too, the only one in our small group not out of sorts was Erik. As I drove home I decided it was the full moon, then I got up this morning and realized this is the day I lost my sister. Of course as is usual for me, just before the anniversary of a loss of one of my dear loved ones, I get out of sorts.
I made it through the day yesterday not thinking about the date, just that it was Thrusday and it was a volunteer day, I didn't want to go, but not being able to put a finger on why-thank God I ignored the calendar until today, I went. Erik was determined we were going because I've reduced our volunteer hours at the hospital to twice monthly, the 1st and 3rd Thursdays. The reasons are for another blog.
My sister Véronique Maë had a brain tumor, she was a nurse and knew her prognosis was not good. She is the one who held my hand from California to Georgia when my hubby died, and when Erik had his horrible motorcycle accident. Nique, as we called her, was a wealth of knowledge about all things medical and if she didn't know she would find out for us. She was good at helping us figure out what certain physical problems we were having might be. She was however not blessed with "common sense". Sometimes that was a blessing and at others it was a curse.
I remember when my sister and I and Erik decided that we were going to Belgium together. We would be joined by a cousin who lives in Austria. She said that her and her husband had time share and she would get the lodging. She got us lodging all right in Germany-thank God my cousin from Austria spoke German. Everywhere we went we spent 2-4 hours in the car.
Arrangements made time for travel. Here is a picture at my aunt's whom Erik and I just visited. There is another cousin and his wife in the picture. Nique is on the left, Marie-Thérèse from Austria-the blond in the middle and Erik on the right.
So she flew to GA, we made sure she would have a few days to adjust to the jet lag, so she also got to see all of my children. Now my sister arrived with shoes that had springs in the soles-of course she set off every security in the airports, she also arrived with two HUGE suitcases and a smaller one within for her Chocolates. Can't go to Belgium without buying a years supply and some to share. Oh my, I pitched a fit, she was not going to take all of that to Belgium, the fees would be exhorbitant, so we spent two days whittling down her luggage. Well since we are both of the same gene pool, there was a struggle, but since I've traveled more she conceded.
When we got to Brussels, I asked the agent at the car rental if the car would fit all that luggage, Erik had a carry on and one bag, I had one large bag and a carry on, Nique still had three bags and my cousin had two. Now, it's a good thing another cousin came to the airport to meet us, we actually had gotten a bigger car, but it was just too close so our cousin took it to her house. At our cousin's her husband and Erik spent a good two hours packing all we had plus a few groceries to get us through the first two days. Get this, we barely had room for us, Nique's train case was the console in the back seat and SHE WANTED TO START BUYING CHOCOLATE. Let's see it was Nique against seven of us-we won. When we got to our lodging in Germany it was up on the third floor and there was no elevator, all of us had back issues-we told Nique she was on her own for her big suitcase, I think Erik broke down and went to help her. My cousin and I made two trips taking our bigger bags up first and coming down to get our smaller bags and Nique's too.... What and adventure. Of course the apartment was small by American standards and since Erik is about 6'2 he definitely felt the crunch in the kitchen eating area.
He got the master suite-being the only guy and we got the living room where there was a murphy bed and a couch. There was only one bathroom though, so my cousin and I took our showers at night, and let Nique and Erik battle it out in the morning-both take forever in the bathroom. Erik switched to nights and I to mornings so that it was more time efficient, but unlike many European places the 1 toilet was in the bathroom not in a WC-you are smart enough to figure out we had a few moments of irritation. Don't remember sleeping much but I must have because Nique got this picture of me.
The view from our window was fantastic though.
When Erik had his accident Nique was still working as a nurse and amidst her co-workers was a doctor her advised her on what we could do for Erik, when she was struck with the brain tumor he helped her find a good surgeon. She had two years after that during which time she made three trips back "home". On one of those trips she came down here to visit us because I was teaching, she decided she'd share my bed so we could talk-oh my was I exhausted, while she of course slept till noon. My nephew was her travel escort, but her daughter added some drama and decided she had to be by her mom-so we squeezed her in the house too-she got the bed I got ready for Nique. We put a mattress in Erik's room for Alex, but he decided to drag it to the sunroom-what a week, but I'm so glad it happened. Another sister came down so her and her son could see Erik's progress and his aunt Nique at the same time. Viette lives in Missouri and her son in Texas, they stayed at my eldest son's house-Thank God, this poor little ranch would have been wall to wall bodies. All my children and their children came to see their aunts and cousins, then my daughter invited her aunts, cousins and us to her house. It was a whirlwind visit, Viette and her son only had three days.
Everyday I have to remember that she is better off where she is, and that I have been blessed with nine siblings and we have made an effort not to harbor ill feelings-of course they happen but a few of us peacemakers try to help resolve them. Life is too short as I have learned since my Steve died at 57, my sister Nique at 60, my mom at 63 and daddy at 73.
So my dears, love the ones you are with and don't forget the ones who have traveled afar. Thank God for them, pray for them, care for them, forgive them and LOVE them.
I am blessed, I have a large family and we support each other. My cousin was an only child and has often remarked that even though we are continents apart, she is glad that she has cousins she can rely on.
Tuesday, November 04, 2014
Okay, bad evening yesterday...Erik was pushing candy and for some reason I had a sweet tooth. I suggested we get it out of the house to one of my teacher friends to use as rewards. Erik's response "my buy it, not giving it to ...." Some days he's so good about eating healthy and others.... oh just like mom. However mom does get rid of danger foods.
I had a lovely lunch provided for our county's retirees. We put up with the politicking for the food. A lovely salad, choose your own dressing on it. I put 1 T of vinaigrette on it. The chicken was a smaller portion than last year-some of us complained about the extra large portion since we aren't provided with doggie bags. There was about 1 cup of bread stuffing, 1 cup of steamed green beans, a whole wheat roll, a baked tomato slice -with breading-I was able to scrape that off. It was a relatively healthy luncheon.
They had pitchers of water, coffee and unsweet tea on the tables, last year it was a problem getting water refills-so another improvement.
Then there was desert, a piece of pumpkin pie with a delicious crust-tasted like it may have had toasted nuts in it, there was about a 1T of pecan pieces sprinkled on top. I ate it slowly, oh so slowly thinking of Gaye and her Beck Diet's advice. I actually tried that with all my food and put my fork down every once in a while too.
I've been on our streak, actually I've got two going the first is logging in daily and doing daily trivia, the second is with Gaye "Gabby" and for that one I'm tracking ALL foods, 8+ glasses of water and eating 5 or more freggies.
I am shooting to get back to 7,500-10,000 steps per day and will walk round and round my house if I'm below 5,000-but not getting to a streak point there yet.
All in all I'm doing a bit better, now off to help Erik get his bandage on so he can go to Transitional therapy/gym to him.
God Bless you all, thanks to those who read my last blog, I've been neglectful in not thanking you individually and I know how much that can be appreciated.
Love and prayers to all
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