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Monday, March 31, 2014


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LIVELYLULU36 4/15/2014 12:14PM

    WOW, JUST WOW!! I hope you enjoyed yourself that day!! Jen emoticon

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ADAGIO_CON_BRIO 4/5/2014 7:00PM

    Just incredible.... emoticon

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RAINBOWMF 4/4/2014 11:54PM

    I had to come back and see you again LOL
You are just too cute.

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DEE1221 4/1/2014 7:06PM

    We have had a long winter. So anyway you can enjoy it....Go for it. I love the laughter! emoticon

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    aww, that's so cute!

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GRLTAZ 4/1/2014 1:50PM

    You goof ! How fun was that ? LOL !

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JACKIE542 4/1/2014 10:11AM


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LANCER1984 4/1/2014 9:39AM

  LMAO! That was so awesome - where do you live? We got sleet and rain here. At this point between the snow and rain we are at flood range as usual for the spring- this year it just is happening sooner. I think everyone knows we are in for a bad flood season and are already preparing for it. PA is a nice place to live but sometimes the weather can get the best of us. You could never say that PA does not go through the four seasons! I can't wait for Spring to really get here and stay here. Then I hope to skip summer and go into Fall. Not a heat person myself so I kinda enjoy the winter and cooler months. Can't wait to get out there and hiking! I love what I've read on your wall and would love to be friends -

In peace,

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AJB121299 4/1/2014 8:14AM


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MILLISMA 3/31/2014 10:36PM

    OMG!!!! I haven't seen snow like that in years. Do you think it will be gone by June??? lol Thanks for the video - loved it!!!!

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NORASPAT 3/31/2014 10:27PM

    I think we sent ours up to you. I am so happy you are enjoying it.
I Loved your video. Well done. !!
We had rain and very high winds but so far the floods are not here thank goodness. ENJOY, you sound very happy, Love Pat in Maine. ((((HUGS))) to both of you. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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HEARTOFCHRIST 3/31/2014 9:50PM

    What fun!

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MASTERCARE 3/31/2014 7:46PM

    WHOA....ours is going away!

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RAINBOWMF 3/31/2014 7:07PM

    LOL you are so funny Love it.

Hugs Mary

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COLOR-BLUE 3/31/2014 7:04PM


I thank God, that I don't have to see snow like that again! Phew! As a kid, it was fun to be in, but the older I got, the older the snow got, too! What's under that mountain of snow? It looks like it might be a car! Enjoy youself!

Be blessed,

- Nancy Jean -

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Friday, March 07, 2014

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1BEACHWALKER 3/28/2014 12:23AM

    Yeah, so right!!;

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RAINBOWMF 3/10/2014 2:46AM

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COLOR-BLUE 3/9/2014 7:33PM


Thanks, for the girl power!!! We need to be reminded every once in a while, that we really do matter, and there's more to us than meets the eye! Helen Reddy's song entitled "I Am Woman," comes to mind, as I singing the chorus in my head. She was well ahead of her time, with that song!

Be blessed,

- Nancy Jean -

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MILLISMA 3/8/2014 10:18PM

    Love it!!! emoticon

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GRLTAZ 3/8/2014 9:45PM

    NICE !

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GEORGIAGIRL26 3/8/2014 7:53PM

    That is awesome! Happy Woman's Day to you too! Holly emoticon

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RAINBOWMF 3/8/2014 8:12AM

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COLOR-BLUE 3/7/2014 11:57PM


emoticon WE ARE THE BEST!!!

Thank you for letting me know that this is Women's Day, as I had no idea!

Be blessed,

- Nancy Jean -

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NORASPAT 3/7/2014 10:37PM

    emoticon emoticon Pat in ME.

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No Wonder I Love Winter!

Wednesday, February 19, 2014

Fishing Shacks on the Restigouche River

The Charlie Van Horne Bridge across the Resitgouche River

This bridge connects New Brunswick where I live with the province of Quebec

Ski_Doo tracks on the frozen river

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COLOR-BLUE 2/21/2014 9:17PM

    I moved to the South, to get out of the snow. I've had much too much in my life. As long as I don't have to be in it, I'm fine!

Be blessed,

- Nancy Jean -

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1BEACHWALKER 2/21/2014 8:05PM

    Snow is beautiful indeed, especially with scenes like that. But, I moved to Florida to be away from it 10 years ago. As long as I don't have to be in it or drive in it, I am happy to see the posted pics from sparkfriends! emoticon emoticon

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GRLTAZ 2/20/2014 3:53PM

    I'm like Sharon... not convinced. LOL !!! Looks beautiful and I am glad you enjoy it but if I had my druthers, I would have 1 month or less of snow & cold. Guess I better head south. LOL, not going to happen for a few years yet. Keep pushing... snow that is. LOL ! TC

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SHARONSPARKLE 2/20/2014 11:05AM

    Nope! I'm not convinced - lol. I've spent too many winters in the frozen north. I'm enjoying not seeing a single snowflake this winter here in AZ!

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MILLISMA 2/19/2014 7:43PM

    OMG....this is just like growing up in Maine. So miss seeing those and miss ice fishing. lol

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BEWELL48 2/19/2014 6:53PM

    Yes, the snow is beautiful!

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SHANTODD420 2/19/2014 4:04PM

    Thanks for sharing the picture but I hate to say it I am so done with winter lol.

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JLOVESDOGS 2/19/2014 2:19PM

    As much as we complain about winter, it does create some beautiful scenery. You have some cool pictures here. Thanks for sharing!!

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SIEGRID 2/19/2014 2:02PM

    Hey there, you are not soo far from me!!!! emoticon . It is really beautiful outside isn't it!!! I am kind of stuck indoors this winter and I really miss my walaks out on the horse trails with my dog.
Have a wonderful day!!! emoticon

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Heather's Mini Vegetable Frittatas ( versus Coach Nicole's )

Wednesday, February 19, 2014

Made with Egg Creations ( Egg Beater's ) chopped tomatoes/leek/red & green peppers/green onion/chopped ready cook bacon /and TexMex low fat cheese

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GRLTAZ 2/20/2014 2:19PM

    Yum, when do you deliver ? LOL. Love your blogs especially with pics ! Tc

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SHARONSPARKLE 2/20/2014 11:07AM

    I'd sit down and eat this meal! Looks good and sounds yummy!

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NORASPAT 2/20/2014 8:22AM

    Did you do the calorie, nutrition numbers or just the taste test.

I am ready to use your good idea and I remember years ago I bought, some bigger muffin pans. I am thinking this is similar to my Crustless quiche so Now I can add half the mix for DH with onions and I can add other veggies like mushrooms for me.

GENIUS HEATHER, You go girl !!! Great job. I love the redicook bacon it keeps my calories and sodium down in these recipes so I get the taste of the bacon I love.
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EVER-HOPEFUL 2/20/2014 5:09AM

    so which ones in your oppinion is better? emoticon

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MILLISMA 2/19/2014 7:44PM

    emoticon These not only look great they sound great also!

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PEGGYO 2/19/2014 2:30PM

    it looks good what is the recipe amounts?

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FOR~ ASK_STRATMAN ( and anyone else who may be having some relationship problems )

Saturday, February 15, 2014

I found this on the internet ages ago and loved it so much I saved a copy~~

This man had two failed marriages and took stock of where he felt he had gone wrong~
He wrote this with deep insight and called it~~



When I first dated the woman I ended up marrying, I always held her hand. In the car. While walking. At meals. At movies. It didnt matter where. Over time, I stopped. I made up excuses like my hand was too hot or it made me sweat or I wasnt comfortable with it in public. Truth was, I stopped holding hands because I stopped wanting to put in the effort to be close to my wife. No other reason.

IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: Id hold her hand in the car. Id hold her hand on a star. Id hold her hand in a box. Id hold her hand with a fox. And Id hold her hand everywhere else, too, even when we didnt particularly like each other for the moment.

BONUS! When you hold hands in the winter, they dont get cold. True story.

2. Dont stop trying to be attractive.

Obviously when I was working to woo her, I would do myself up as attractively as I possibly could every time I saw her. I kept perfectly groomed. I always smelled good. I held in my farts until she wasnt around. For some reason, marriage made me feel like I could stop doing all that. I would get all properly groomed, smelling good, and dressed up any time we went out somewhere or I went out by myself, but I rarely, if ever, cared about making myself attractive just for her.

IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: Id try and put my best foot forward throughout our entire marriage. Id wait to fart until I was in the bathroom whenever possible. Id make myself desirable so that she would desire me.

BONUS! when you trim your man hair, guess what. She returns the favor.

3. Dont always point out her weaknesses.

For some reason, somewhere along the way, I always ended up feeling like it was my place to tell her where she was weak and where she could do better. I sure as heck didnt do that while we were dating. No, when I dated her I only built her up, only told her how amazing she was, and easily looked past all of her flaws. After we got married though, she sometimes couldnt even cook eggs without me telling her how she might be able to improve.

IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: I wouldnt say a damned thing about anything that I thought could use improvement. Ive learned since my marriage ended that there is more than one right way to do most things, and that the imperfections of others are too beautiful to try and change.

BONUS! when you tell her what shes doing right, shell tell you what youre doing right. And shell also tell her friends. And her family. And the dentist. And even strangers on the street.

4. Dont stop cooking for her.

I knew how to woo a girl, for sure. And the ticket was usually a night in, cooking a nice meal and having a romantic evening. So why is it then, that I didnt do that for her after we got married? Sure, Id throw some canned soup in the microwave or fry up some chimichangas once in a while, but I rarely if ever went out of my way to sweep her off her feet after we were married by steaming crab legs, or making fancy pasta, or setting up a candlelit table.

IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: Id make it a priority to cook for her, and only her, something awesome at least every month. And Id remember that meat in a can is never awesome.

BONUS! candlelit dinners often lead to candlelit bow chica bow-wow.

5. Dont yell at your spouse.

Im not talking about the angry kind of yelling. Im talking about the lazy kind of yelling. The kind of yelling you do when you dont want to get up from your television show or you dont want to go ALL THE WAY UPSTAIRS to ask her if shes seen your keys. It really doesnt take that much effort to go find her, and yelling (by nature) sounds demanding and authoritative.

IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: Id try to go find her anytime I needed something or wanted to know something, and Id have both gratitude and manners when I did. I always hated when she would yell to me, so why did I always feel it was okay to yell to her?

BONUS! sometimes you catch her doing something cute that you would have missed otherwise.

6. Dont call names.

I always felt I was the king of not calling names, but I wasnt. I may not have called her stupid, or idiot, or any of the other names shed sometimes call me, but I would tell her she was stubborn, or that she was impossible, or that she was so hard to deal with. Names are names, and calling them will drive bigger wedges in communication than just about anything else.

IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: Any time it got to the point that I wanted to call names, Id call a time-out and come back to it later. Or better yet, Id call her names, but theyd be names like super sexy or hotness.

7. Dont be stingy with your money.

As the main bread earner, I was always so stingy with the money. Id whine about the cost of her shampoo or that she didnt order water at restaurants, or that shed spend so much money on things like pedicures or hair dye jobs. But seriously. I always had just as many if not more things that I spent my money on, and in the end, the money was spent, we were just fine, and the only thing my bitching and moaning did was bring undo stress to our relationship.

IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: Id tell her I trusted her to buy whatever she wanted, whenever she felt like she needed it. And then, Id actually trust her to do it.
BONUS! sometimes she will make bad purchase decisions, which leads to makeup purchase she felt l'd like~Like that new gadget youve had your eyes on.

8. Dont argue in front of the kids.

There was never any argument that was so important or pressing that we couldnt wait to have it until the kids werent there. I dont think it takes a rocket scientist or super-shrink to know why fighting in front of the kids is a dangerous and selfish way of doing things.

IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: I would never, ever, not even once fight in front of the kids, no matter how big or how small the issue was. Id maybe make a code word that meant, not with the kids here.

BONUS! when you wait to fight, usually you both realize how stupid or unimportant the fight was and the fight never happens.

10. Dont poop with the bathroom door open.

I dont know why, but at some point I started thinking it was okay to poop with the bathroom door open, and so did she. First of all, its gross. Second of all, it stinks everything up. Third of all, there is literally no way to make pooping attractive, which means that every time she saw me do it, she, at least in some little way, would have thought I was less attractive.

IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: Id shut the damn door and poop in private.

BONUS! when she does think of your naked body, shes not going to be thinking about it in a grunting/squatting position.

11. Dont stop kissing her.

It always got to a point when Id more or less stop kissing her. Usually it was because things were stressful and there was tension in our relationship, and so Id make it worse by refusing to kiss her. This of course would lead to her feeling rejected. Which would of course lead to arguments about it. Other times I had my own issues with germs and whatnot.

IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: Id kiss her in the morning when she looked like people do in the morning. Id kiss her at night when shes had a long day. Id kiss her any time I felt like she secretly wanted a kiss. And, Id kiss her even when my germ issues kicked in.

BONUS! she feels loved when you kiss her. Thats bonus enough.

12. Dont stop having fun together.

Age shouldnt matter. Physical ability shouldnt matter. Couples should never stop having fun with each other, and I really wish I wouldnt have gotten into so many ruts in which we didnt really go out and do anything. And, Ive been around the block enough times to know that when the fun is missing, and the social part of life is missing, so also goes missing the ability to be fully content with each other.

IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: Id make a rule with her that wed never stay home two weekends in a row.

BONUS! awesome stories and awesome memories come from doing awesome things. And so do cherished embarrassing moments.

13. Dont pressure each other.

Pressuring each other about anything is always a recipe for resentment. I always felt so pressured to make more money. I always felt so pressured to not slip in my religion. I always felt so pressured to feel certain ways about things when I felt the opposite. And I usually carried a lot of resentment. Looking back, I can think of just as many times that I pressured her, so I know it was a two-way street.

IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: Id make it a point to celebrate the different views, opinions, and ways that she had of doing things. Id find the beauty in differentiation, not the threat.

BONUS! authentic happiness becomes a real possibility. And so do authentic foot rubs.

14. Dont label each other with negative labels.

Sometimes the easiest phrases to say in my marriage started with one of three things. Either, you should have, you arent, or you didnt. Inevitably after each of those seemed to come something negative. And since when have negative labels ever helped anyone? They certainly never helped her. Or me. Instead, they seemed to make the action that sparked the label worsen in big ways.

IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: I would learn to stop myself before saying any of those phrases, and then Id switch them out for positive labels. Instead of you should, Id say you are great at. Instead of saying you arent, Id say you are. Instead of saying you didnt, Id say, you did. And then Id follow it up with something positive.

BONUS! the noblest struggles become far more conquerable. And you dont think or believe that youre a schmuck, which is always nice.

15. Dont skip out on things that are important to her.

It was so easy in marriage to veto so many of the things she enjoyed doing. My reasoning, we can find things we both enjoy. Thats lame. There will always be things she enjoys that I will never enjoy, and thats no reason not to support her in them. Sometimes the only thing she needs is to know that Im there.

IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: Id attend many more of the events that she invited me to. I would actively participate and not tell all the reasons why Id do it differently or how it could be better or more fun or time better spent.

BONUS! go to something she knows you dont enjoy and the gratitude gets piled on later that night, like whipped cream on a cheesecake.

16. Dont emotionally distance yourself after a fight.

I never got to experience the power of make-up sex because any time my wife was mean or we got in a fight, Id completely distance myself from her, usually for several days. Communication would shut down and Id avoid contact at all cost. This never let things get worked out, and eventually after it had happened enough times Id explode unnecessarily.

IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: Id let myself communicate my emotions and feelings more often, and Id make sure that she knew I still loved her any time we had an ugly bout. Sure, wed give each other some distance. But not days of distance.

BONUS! Fantastic make-up sex. Or at least thats the theory.

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ASK_STRATMAN 4/1/2014 10:51AM

    I appreciate your post to me! I read it and my husband read it and agreed, we both need to work on "courting" each other. emoticon THANK YOU!!

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GRLTAZ 2/16/2014 7:03PM

    Great blog. Thanks for sharing. Not married but maybe this is why ? LOL !! TC

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JERSEYGIRL24 2/15/2014 10:06PM

    Great blog!!!

I am not saying that I am perfect by any means, but I really feel that when I first met my husband he would do anything for me, and slowly but surely that is no longer the case.

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HEARTOFCHRIST 2/15/2014 9:25PM

    Yes yes yes!

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MILLISMA 2/15/2014 8:07PM

    This was great and should be handed out to a lot of newlyweds and to both.

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COLOR-BLUE 2/15/2014 6:41PM

    What a blog! I'm not even married, and I laughed and shook my head in disbelief with this blog! This is definitely food for thought! Thanks

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- Nancy Jean -

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