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It is finished....

Friday, April 27, 2012

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Yes, it has occurred to me that is part of the Seven Last Words of Christ. It's just the best heading for this blog.

Tuesday my divorce was finalized through a legal ruling to dissolve that in TX is called a Rule 11 agreement. True to form, he showed up in court although I was assured he wouldn't be there. My attorney - who I've nicknamed Grizzly Adams - was great: whisked me in to the courtroom past himself and his attorney and down in front on the right (random thoughts: I was heading for the "bride's side" ). He said" I'm going to find me a judge" and next thing I knew it was "all rise" and Grizz was back. He then called me to the bench and himself and his attorney followed but stayed behind me. He then read the ruling agreement and asked if I understood and agreed - said I did. The only question the judge asked me was if there was any hope of reconciliation. I assured her there wasn't (holy cow -- but she doesn't know him, right?). His attorney then asked me not once but 3 times if I understood the temporary support ceased. I assured her 3 times I did - this is important in a moment- and the judge then agreed to dissolve the marriage. The only piece to be completed is the signing of the final decree - working on the draft with Grizz now.

Grizz then whisks me out of the courtroom, past himself, who had stepped into the aisle to talk to me (whaaat??) and into the elevator, out the door, and back to his office, which is next door. We chatted very briefly and and as I was leaving the inner offices and stepped into the reception area, who should be standing there but his attorney? I almost knocked her over. Here it comes: she says" S****, I am so sorry this happened. J** wants to know when you are removing him from your insurance, he needs a colonoscopy". I was stunned -- the nerve!! -- and I said something about abiding by the rules of my company's policies and stormed out.

Ok, first of all, he's been saying for over 2 years that he was going to do that, and he has now had 5 months to get that done since he moved out. Remember -- this was NOT my idea to separate and divorce. His insurance costs me over $400/month. And this was on top of asking me if I understood HE was not going to be paying me anything more in front of the judge. My attorney and staff couldn't see that she had entered the reception area so had no idea that I had been accosted. I stormed out of there, walk/ran to my car right past himself standing on the curb, where I breathed deep and drank some water (yes, Sparkies, always carry it with me) before daring to drive home.

The more I thought about it, the angrier I got: what bloody nerve some people have - and then to sneak into my attorney's office!!! But, consider the source: true to form to the very bitter end. Can't expect those that behave badly consistently to suddenly acquire decency. Just doesn't work that way.

Anyhow, that's over except for some documents. I feel 100% relieved and better - put my house up for sale and have fallen in love with another house back in the area near my best friend and her husband live , yes that would be in the same area as the house himself insisted I sell and ....whatever, water under the bridge.

On to better things...the future is bright. I will return to my Sparking in a few weeks when the dust settles. I miss you all!!

  
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MORTICIAADDAMS 8/23/2012 2:48PM

    I really miss you and want to know what is up with you.

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LINDAMARIEZ1 6/28/2012 4:05PM

    I would like to tell you that it is all going to be behind you but you should b e prepared for little piddlies to crop up! He will get what he still can! don't lose the lawyer yet! You may have to get a restraining order. Repeat after me: "talk to my lawyer"
You are going to be fine now! On to your future!!!!

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FATGRAMS61 5/1/2012 1:21PM

    emoticon I'd say Good Bye to Bad Rubbish! My Dad always told me that you can't help how others act, but you can control how you respond. Put it behind you now and go forward. You're gonna find out you've got a whole new world to explore. Go and enjoy it! Party time!

Been there, done that! Glad for you!

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SHARON10002 4/27/2012 5:55PM

    Now put that behind you and begin your life anew. I hope your house will sell quickly, and I hope you find the "house of your dreams" that will make you feel happy and cozy.
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ANATASHIKI 4/27/2012 3:31PM

    I'm glad it's over and the faster you forget about him the better for you.I hope you'll feel better soon emoticon

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GETFIT2LIVE 4/27/2012 11:51AM

    Un-freaking-believable! You absolutely have a right to be angry about being accosted by his attorney like that--and about the request. So glad you are through this part of it, though, and the documents are all that's left. Hope the house sells for what you need/want it to and you can get the other house quickly to move on after all this. I'm sad for all you have been through, but I'm glad you'll be back to Sparking when things settle down.

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Exciting developments - or where I disappeared to....

Wednesday, April 04, 2012

Hey Spark Friends --

Yes I am still here and adhering to the program. I haven't spent a lot of time here - exciting developments in my career and my travel schedule has exploded. I am having the time of my life -- seeing old friends/colleagues in DC and getting back into client facing work, which is wonderful. Everyone can't believe how good I look and most in the DC crowd haven't seen me in over 20 years!!

On the divorce front - not great news, not finished, extremely stressful. Less said the better. Now the challenge is I am so rarely in the area, it is hard to schedule next steps. I'm loving it though - am more comfortable in my own skin than I have been in my entire 57 years on this earth.

Thanking God everyday for my good fortune in connecting with old friends and making new ones - know that I am here, Spark family and keeping the course. Thoughts are with you - I will surface again in mid-June when I transition off this special assignment.

Woo Hoo!

  
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PILLYWIGGIN 4/15/2012 4:30PM

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How wonderful to read that you are having such a good time! Your blog has really made me smile, I am so happy for you.
The divorce bit will pass in time and you will be a stronger and happier person. It is so good that you have so many positives to balance out the bad!
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So very glad to read this! You are sounding so much better and know we know why!!
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FREES1 4/5/2012 1:51PM

    enjoy your time in DC - and its good that you have old friends around and new ones too while you are dealing with your divorce and other things of life... keep in touch as you can - we miss you here in the Starry sky

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STEVENGO2 4/4/2012 5:34PM

    emoticon emoticon Glad to hear you are having the time of your life. I hope life continues to treat you well, you deserve it! Stop by when you get a chance to take a breath it is always good to hear from you!

Take care,
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ENDUROVET 4/4/2012 1:40PM

    Glad to see a new post from ya, although you have my continued sympathies on the divorce nonsense (sounds like a necessary evil).

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GETFIT2LIVE 4/4/2012 1:30PM

    You sound so much happier and optimistic--I know the divorce is painful and difficult to go through, but I'm glad you have some GOOD things going on in life as well. Thanks for posting an update; I will keep you in my prayers!

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PIXIE-LICIOUS 4/4/2012 1:02PM

    emoticonSorry about the divorce stuff. You know I am praying for you.

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JUSTJOSS 4/4/2012 1:00PM

    So great to hear! Glad to see ya & know your doing well!

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MERLINANDME 4/4/2012 12:16PM

    Wow! Your life sounds exciting and meaningful.

Thank you for checking in.

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My heart has another crack in it

Saturday, December 17, 2011

Some of you may have noticed I haven't spent as much time here as usual. I've been dealing with something in private, in secret, that I feel ready to share but couldn't until now.

The Sunday before Thanksgiving my husband informed me that he was leaving me - after the 1st of the year. I was frozen in shock...he gave me a long list of my faults and told me he wasn't willing to go to counseling. He claims to be a Methodist minister but the brutality of the content and style of his message was anything but Christian. He advised me to find a therapist to deal with my problems, but wouldn't answer direct questions about the real message - "are you writing me off?"

The kiss off conversation started when I protested that he had just gotten back from a 2 wk trip in Europe - new clothes, new luggage - and was talking about buying an iPad. You see, he hasn't contributed a dime to household expenses in almost 2 years. I couldn't believe that he was now talking about buying something - that I would love but decided I couldn't afford - so I pressed him about that. So,he clobbered me. The timing - right before the holidays - was particularly cruel. And the specifics about when he was leaving he would not answer. And this was a secret - I wasn't to tell my family or friends and he wasn't going to tell his kids and friends until after the holidays. Are you following this? He ruined my holidays but let's not touch his or his kids. He kept saying he had gotten over me years ago and the pain I was feeling he felt then too. Rationalization.

That first week was awful - I had scheduled vacation for that week and didn't have work to distract me. I did find a therapist - and a lawyer - the next day. I also spent the afternoon with my best friend, confessing all and what had been going on in my marriage over the last 4 years. And went to see my doctor - since part of the accusations had to do with physical problems I had - who was very kind, prescribed an antidepressant, and so kindly prayed with me before I left the office. He expected me - and I did - fix unThanksgiving dinner for his family and friends - one of whom is I am certain acting as his attorney and who he, BTW, dated in high school - that came out over dinner. UnThanksgiving because we had to schedule our Thanksgiving around his kids and his ex-wife's wishes. I had been invited to my best friend's home for Thanksgiving with her and a friend who I ironically haven't seen since our wedding 7 1/2 years ago. But no, I worked like a dog to fix a nice dinner for his family and friends and make everything look "normal".

Since then, with the help of my family and friends, and a great therapist, I've gained clarity. One of my flaws is that when I love someone, no matter what they do or say, it takes me forever to figure out that those feelings are not returned. And what that ties into is my secret - I don't feel worthy of love. Always a struggle for me and something that I need to work on. I recognize the thing that I most feared - being abandoned and being alone - had already happened long ago. And I was ok - I was broken but not beaten. And I needed to move on. I also have come to understand how many friends I really do have. And how I am loved. Just not at home. My trip to LA this week was fraught with worry - I gave him the papers for the divorce ironically on the 7 1/2 anniversary exactly - and he was trying to negotiate staying longer. I stayed awake the night before I left with that little message - and finally told him the next morning that his message was devoid of kindness and compassion. I was showing him more than enough kindness and compassion allowing him to stay in this house and put on the charade of Christmas with his family. You see, I've gone home to be with my family - after decorating the house by myself - for the last 3 years. He encouraged me to do this again this year months ago - under the guise of my mother's age - and was still expecting me to do that again - after emotionally napalming me before the holidays! I haven't touched so much as an ornament here. Instead, I helped my best friend and her family decorate their tree.

So, I've gained understanding, awareness, stopped shaking all the time and started to heal. I am reconnecting myself with my friends and had to do that with my Spark family as well. I ask for your understanding and support - which I know in my heart I can count on. emoticon

  
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MERLINANDME 4/4/2012 12:24PM

    You deserve so much better.

You are going to be fine. You have character, intelligence, and strength.

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NANFACEMIRE1 1/14/2012 7:31AM

    Susan, I just read this blog and feel so bad for what happened. I don't even know what to say except that I am sending hugs and will keep you in my prayers. It sounds as if you are certainly on the right track for moving forward. As you stated, we are all here for you. Nancy

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SUECHRIS50 12/21/2011 12:58PM

    My heart just breaks for you!He does not deserve you or the love and kindness.A Methodist minister?really?A proverbial wolf in sheeps clothing is more like it!!Dont put up with it for another second girl!There is someone out there waiting just for you!I am livid with anger at your description of this...MAN??He has no heart or he would have went about it in a kinder way.STOP right now and ask yourself"Do I want him here a minute longer?He definetly has you emotionally drained!I agree with the others...CHANGE THE LOCKS...KICK HIS SORRY ASS OUT!!Best Wishes honey,you deserve only the BEST!! emoticonIm A SUSAN also...SMILE

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ARCHIMEDESII 12/21/2011 12:22PM

    I am so sorry to hear what your soon to be ex-husband did to you. That is without a doubt, one of the most selfish and cowardly things I've heard a person do to another. You did not deserve that. Worse, he proceeded expect you to cater to his needs after he tells you he wants a divorce. totally selfish behavior on his part. He is NOT a man of God. A good Christian or any other truly religious person would never engage in this kind of behavior. Maybe you do have your issues, but then so do we all, even him ! Too bad he thinks he's perfect.

I'm glad you're getting the help and support you need to walk away from him.
The holidays should be a wonderful time for you and in future, they will.

You will be a much stronger and healthier person without him. Time does heal all wounds.


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ANDEENNATE 12/21/2011 11:45AM

    My heart is breaking for you, I know this feeling all too well. I too do not feel worth of love. I will pray for you. Hugs!!

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ASUPERCOOLCHICK 12/21/2011 10:22AM

    emoticon I completely understand this and have been living in a very similar situation now for over 11 years. I hope you find the strength and courage to do what in your heart you know is the right thing to do.

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JSPIN74 12/21/2011 9:56AM

    emoticonALL of my love going out out you.....

I'm so glad for you that you are getting what you need & concentrating on yourself...you're such a wonderful person from just the bit I know. emoticon

You are right...you ARE strong & kind & fair...you're gonna be just fine with time xoxox

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IDLETYME 12/20/2011 7:32AM

    It is really good for you to write this all down and share it with your Spark Friends. You know we all love you and care about your well being even is you haven't met us. We are your family too! Thoughts and prayers are coming your way. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SHARON10002 12/19/2011 11:13PM

    He is using you while emotionally abusing you, Susan. Change the locks and call a junk hauling service to clear out and haul all of his stuff away!
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HAPPY_AS_IS 12/19/2011 11:24AM

    I am so sorry you are going through this. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I hope you realize what a wonderful person you are. You always take the time to cheer people on in their success or cheer them up when they are down. Thank you for letting us be there for you!!!!

Hugs to you my friend!

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MFLYNN8 12/19/2011 10:09AM

    Give him the gift of changed locks, sweetie. He doesn't deserve your charades or your kindness for his family. Have a merry Christmad in spite of him and think of all the opportunities the new year holds with the poison out of your life. emoticon

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PURPLELVR7 12/18/2011 7:58PM

    Susan
My prayers are with you. What he did was not a Christian act and I am so glad you are getting it together. You can do better than this, and I am sure you will.
Hearts heal, I know yours will

God bless you
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KATHYJO56 12/18/2011 2:27PM

    Susan, My heart is breaking for you! I am so very sorry that this man who isn't worth one ounce of your love, has done this to you without one thought to anybodys' feelings but his own. What an incredibly heartless and selfish man he is.

I am happy to read that you are beginning to heal. You are worth more than your weight in gold and I am so proud to be your friend. It is ironic that there are people who consider themselves to be "Men of God", who are so Godless. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MARLINDA5 12/18/2011 12:32PM

    The first thing you need to remember is that the marriage didn't work just because of you - it takes two people. Unfotunately that was his weapon to make you feel bad and think less of yourself. Do not think less of yourself because of this. It is good that you have a lawyer and a therapist to help you through this. This situation can make you very depress -when I was going through my divorce - I told my supervisor that it is like a death and there is a mourning period - it was hard for her to understand.

I am so glad to hear you are healing - we are here for you.



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KOSHIE1 12/18/2011 12:31PM

    You didn't kick him out immediately? Too bad! I wish you would! I hope you are charging him rent RIGHT NOW!
Yes, this hits so close to me too.... I recognize it as abusive behavior on his part and victim behavior on your part. Sometimes, even if it doesn't feel "right" or "natural", you have to behave as if you are strong. Just think and figure out what a strong person (deserving of love) would do, and do that! Do it often enough, and it becomes natural.

Get away from him now! Get him out NOW! Even if you have to hire movers to dump his stuff on the curb and someone to change the locks, do not wait for him to keep emotionally beating you up! And no, you don't need his approval to do it!

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KKP4673 12/17/2011 10:59PM

    I am so glad you decided to share this with your spark friends!! You have got to get support and stay supported during this time!!

Good for you on getting a therapist and an attorney!! --Sometimes a CODA group can be a good thing, too! (I know it's worked for me!)

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INDIANOAKS 12/17/2011 10:10PM

    Susan -- I read this earlier today but didn't have time to respond until now... My heart just breaks for you!!! YOU are worth SO much MORE than the way you've been treated!!!!!!!! I hate when people that profess to be Christians do things that are SO cruel -- givens Christians a "bad name"!! Only thing I can say is that someday your husband will have to meet His Maker -- and he'll get his...!!

I'm sorry you've been suffering "in silence"...but glad you decided to share this with us! Hopefully we can "lighten your load"... As evidenced by all the comments on your blog, alot of us on here care about you deeply!! Know we're only "virtual" friends -- but we DO care and want to help in ANY way we can!!!

I'm really glad you've found solace in your friends and family! Oh -- and by the way, I think HE is the one that sounds like he "has problems" -- giving you a list of your "faults"??!! REALLY???!!! You have GOT to be KIDDING!! Seriously....

You'll be in my thoughts and prayers as you endure yet another trial in your life. Take care of yourself!!!

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HDHAWK 12/17/2011 9:30PM

    I'm so sorry you are going through this. I was in a similar situation. My ex-husband moved out and to another state where he had been working from for over 2 yrs. He can work from anywhere (computers). I gave him 4 yrs. to "figure things out" and then finally filed for divorce. He didn't want the divorce and even tried to get me back after. I later found out that he had moved in with his gf and had been living with her the entire 4 yrs. Our marriage wasn't a good one, but he wouldn't try to fix it or go to counseling. If you aren't happy, then leave before you move on with someone else. We were divorced in Aug. of 03 and he didn't tell his mom until November of that year! I had to "fake it" just like you are. He is now married to his mistress and all his siblings know about the affair but no one has ever told his mom. She thinks the divorce was all my fault to this day because her son can do no wrong. I was so much happier alone than I was with him. The divorce was well worth it. A year ago I married a man who is very good to me. I still have trouble realizing this is how I deserve to be treated. You will get through this. Reach out whenever you need to. emoticon

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FREES1 12/17/2011 9:19PM

    So sorry to hear of your situation - it sounds to me as though this guy isn't worthy of all that you are! Know that you are strong and that you will weather this storm - and the sun will shine all the brighter once the storm subsides...
Shine brightly shooting star!

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KICK-SS 12/17/2011 9:03PM

    I'd of had him moved out the day he told me he wanted a divorce.... You're too nice!!

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JUSTJOSS 12/17/2011 8:55PM

    emoticonI am so incredibly proud of you. You are a strong, beautiful woman who has way more to offer than I bet you give yourself credit for. I am so very sorry you have to go through this, but I know you will come out better than ever on the other side.

He's going to be sorry & your going to be gone.

Big hugggs lady. Hang in there & know we all love you here & we're here for you.

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I am so sorry that you're going through all this, especially during the holidays...although it would be painful at any time.

I'm here if you need to talk, I care. You are definitely in my prayers.

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PHIREBALL 12/17/2011 6:07PM

    Life is not fair. It is very hard to go thru. No one should have to go thru the anguish you must be feeling. Hearts are not made to be broken. I wish you the best and hope that the hard part of all this passes quickly for you.

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ENDUROVET 12/17/2011 6:06PM

    Another stranger chiming in - but I cried upon reading this, Susan, it hits too damn close to home for me...
Best wishes, sounds like you are taking the correct steps... I am suspicious of the lawyer he dated in HS!
Val

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PINKNFITCARLA 12/17/2011 5:46PM

    Oh my goodness...this makes me so sad :-( I am so sorry you have having to go through this at anytime, but especially during the holidays. Great big emoticon to you. I know it probably doesn't help to hear this, but in the long run you will be much better off without him. Again, big hugs!

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JANE1216 12/17/2011 2:45PM

    Sending you my thoughts and prayers --- you are on the right path - YOU are the person you should be thinking about at this time and it sounds like you are doing exactly that. So glad you found a good counselor and lawyer and that you have wonderful friends --- I'm sure your Christmas will be a blessed one with those who care for you the most. God bless.

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LADYIRISH317 12/17/2011 2:02PM

    My opinion of him would get me booted off of Spark!

I'm sure you can't feel this now, but you are well rid of anybody who is as callous and selfish as he is. Minister? He has some kind of nerve calling himself that.

Let him do his own Christmas! You do exactly what pleases YOU for once. And know that our Spark friends are here for you, so lean on us all you want and need to.

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MIAGDE 12/17/2011 1:58PM

    Susan, You don't know me but I happened upon you blog today. So sorry to hear of your distress. I pray God will hold you in the palm of His hand and shelter you in this storm you are now passing through. May His Peace that passes all understanding comfort and strengthen you and His Wisdom guide you step by step into the future He has planned for you.
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.
Heb 12:2 Keep Looking unto Jesus the author and perfecter of your faith.
John 16:33 These things I have spoken to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world.”
I hope these scriptures references will help you in your journey and brighten your day.
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GAILRUU 12/17/2011 1:43PM

    He sounds like a real user and loser. My goodness, don't waste any more time or money on him!

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CRYSTLE4HIMTX10 12/17/2011 1:13PM

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MCJULIEO 12/17/2011 12:55PM

    You are worthy...
He is a twit (and a cruel, manipulative so-and-so as well)

Please feel free to enjoy the freedom that jettisoning that lowlife will bring you... it sounds as if your circle of friends and family may help speed your healing, once you excised the infection (festering boil) that posed as a man in your life.

Know that you are not alone, and that your bravery in sharing the truth will set you free...

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PILLYWIGGIN 12/17/2011 12:52PM

    I am praying for you Susan. I can't imagine how you are feeling but I am amazed at how you are coping. Look after yourself and believe in yourself - you are so worth it!
Lots of love and hugs coming your way.
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4MRSDAND123 12/17/2011 12:33PM

    How painful. God bless you. You're in my prayers. emoticon

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KENDRACARROLL 12/17/2011 12:26PM

    My heart goes out to you. Taking care of you is the right thing to do at a time like this. Be strong, you'll get through this.

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My dear you have been through so much. It is time to love yourself and take care of yourself.

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RAINBOWCHOC 12/17/2011 12:14PM

    I cannot begin to imagine your pain but I stand in admiration of your bravery, kindness and fortitude in these awful days. It does sound as if things will improve once you are not trying to please the impleasable all the time. You are worthy of being loved but he isn't the one who will do that.
I'm sending as much love as the internet can handle
be brave for the next few days and then celebrate!
best wishes, Sandra

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Happy #3 to a Great Spark Team - Rootin' for Ruby

Wednesday, November 09, 2011

The Big Theme for the month of November is gratitude -One of the items on my Gratitude list is the Rootin for Ruby team. I feel really grateful I was invited to join this team. It is a great support, place to vent, get questions answered, play silly games, and in general a nice place to call home. Thanks for all the leaders and members who make it so worthwhile!

  
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COMPUCATHY 11/25/2011 7:13PM

    Cool! Teams are fun and make the journey more enjoyable...definitely! Keep up the good work! Thanks for the encouragement! TGIF! Have a great weekend! Spark on! emoticon

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4MRSDAND123 11/10/2011 8:21AM

    I'm grateful you were a Harvest Honey!

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PIXIE-LICIOUS 11/9/2011 11:10PM

    Well I'm grateful to whoever it was who invited you to join the team! I'm grateful that you're a Ruby-Lite!
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Counting to 10.....but it isn't working....not even close

Sunday, October 30, 2011

Ok - so for my frustration -- I'm spitting mad right now; yesterday about noon the power started to flicker and then went out - called the power company and got a recorded "we're really sorry the power should be back on between......" I had just stuck some spark recipe muffins in the electric oven. So much for muffins.

So that on again/off again continued for a couple of hours. I was scared for the appliances and computers - we had a whole house surge protector installed when we moved in but I don't trust it...Unplugged all the computers. But not the router or modem. Important detail - didn't occur to me. They were already plugged into an ADDITIONAL surge protector - should be ok, right?

Also realized - as I was headed out to Starbuck's for a hot spot so I could get some work done that I'd promised my boss - garage door doesn't open with no electricity. Duh. It probably does somehow but I couldn't figure it out. Probably has something to do with that frayed red cord that appears to have snapped off about 8 feet above my head. My DH left for Denver Saturday at about 6 am so no one to consult on this.

So I waited until we had a partial current - I know because all the smoke alarms chirp - got the door open and closed, and left for Starbuck's. Got back in a few hours - power on. BUT no internet. Rebooting modems, routers, PC's didn't fix it so....I figure too late for tech support and I'll try again in the morning. Hoping for a return of my patience as well.

Started with my ISP provider early this morning - got that back on and working but no wireless. They would help me with the router ...for 14.99 a month and a YEAR's COMMITMENT! So I say, no, just spent $270 to get Geek Squad Black Tie protection so it doesn't make sense for me to pay you $179 when it could mean you tell me the router is dead and I'm no better off.

Call to Geek Squad Black Tie hot line - by now almost 1:30 Sunday.

Hour or so on the line with Geek Squad dude - who kept trying to install drivers for my wireless card and won't listen to the problem or the fact that I have been using the same router and same PC for over 2 years - then finally gets it that the wireless isn't broadcasting, says pack up the router and go to Best Buy. On a - by this time - Sunday afternoon. Aiy yi yi Lucy!!!!

So I drive over there (30 minutes)......stand in line to talk to one guy - who tells me I'm in the wrong line (apparently under the Geek Squad sign when you have purchased Geek Squad black tie protection is the wrong line - go figure). Shows me where the right line is and 30 minutes later I talk to new Geek Squad guy...who tells me....wait for it....he can't help me because the store is on a broad band connection. I argue that Geek Squad phone guy sent me in there and told me you could help. He finds me the phone number for Linksys - manufacturer of the router I bought from Best Buy!! - and tells me to go home and call them. I'm sure you see the irony. Sort of a Catch 22 wouldn't you say?

By this time it is almost 4:30 - I buy a new router not wanting to risk driving home, calling Linksys and being told router is dead. My day is shot and I need it for work actually today. BTW in a fit of insanity, I purchase Black Tie protection on the new router.

So 5:30 pm Sunday - I open the box for the new Linksys router and there is nothing in the way of documentation/instructions. Nada. Just a cd. Pop that in.....nothing; try again and the installation fails. Tells me I need to disable whatever other software is managing my networks. Funny, that would be Linksys software wouldn't it from the old router?

I call Geek Squad again -- long story short, he can't help, and gives me the phone number for Linksys. It is now almost 8 pm. I'm am stomping around the house mad - my weekend is gone.. I finally figure out what box to uncheck to disable the wrong software and get the through the installation. Have you ever noticed that all their links for additional help require a connection to the internet? If I had that, i wouldn't have bought your stupid....never mind.

Now I'm re-installing laptops, printers, yadya, and I haven't had dinner.

Yes this was a rant. Can't help it. Feel like telling someone to go hang themselves with their Black Tie.

  
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SHARON10002 10/31/2011 7:00PM

    I'd be less patient than you have been through all of this! As I was reading, I was thinking that you managed to get through it and do it without strangling someone!
You deserve a big emoticon ! I do hope that getting it all out here helped you feel better and get something to eat!

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PIXIE-LICIOUS 10/31/2011 7:39AM

    I would rant too. You have no idea how much ranting I'd do in your place! I hope things are better today though!
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STEVENGO2 10/31/2011 1:11AM

    Looks like maybe you should count to 100 on such a stressful day! I hope that today is a better day than yesterday!

emoticon At least you worked it through and are back up and running and sparking!



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PINKNFITCARLA 10/31/2011 12:28AM

    I've had similar experiences! VERY frustrating! emoticon

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CRYSTLE4HIMTX10 10/30/2011 10:54PM

    emoticon That is crazy. So much for people being helpful.

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4MRSDAND123 10/30/2011 10:31PM

    ARGHHHHHHHHH!!! I hate when this stuff happens. You gotta have a good day tomorrow. emoticon

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