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don't stir, move on

Saturday, June 23, 2012

I avoided an argument with Mom today, but taking a firm stand, setting boundaries and not backing down. As a result my sisters and I had another excellent day of combined work, laughter, sharing personal information.

We cut down two mature chestnut trees, over 6 hours, taking frequent breaks, encouraging each other. The oldest of the three shared that she had just begun dating for the first time in 40 years. Wow. The formula seems to be not letting my mom stir trouble to the point we are all drawn in. That is not to say we each arent capable of it, but none of us particularly like arguing.

I imagine there will be more arguments, but I hope we get better at solving the conflicts that underlie the words. So no more stirring the pot mom and splitting us into factions, we've got your number. We called it a benevolent gynecocracy.

  


family

Thursday, June 21, 2012

I woke in a strange bed in a different state - the guest bedroom at mom's. I woke to my mom and sister arguing in hushed voices. I was prepared for it and was ready for it. I resolved to keep this thought while I am here:

"Eating will not help me manage stress. "

I accept my family as they are. They can choose their own path independent of mine. I do not have to emotionally join their conflicts, not mediate them unless I choose to.

I will not just get through this, I will have a good time.

if you can relate, try youtubing:
Tear the Roof Off the Sucker/Give Up the Funk - by Parliament
Dance a little.
let go of the tension.

  


let's put the func (funk) back into dysfunction or mama's got a brand new bag!

Wednesday, June 20, 2012

food is a source of confict for my all girl family. In a day, I will be in Chicago and facing all the dysfunction of my childhood - at least in my own mind. Carrying this baggage is something I haven't been able to figure out. It's what I think of when I see Mary Englebret's poster "Let's put the fun back in dysfunction. I will try to hold on to that thought if I feel the old boundaries closing in.

Maybe I could put the func back into dysfunction and do a little James Brown spin to break the spell of old habits.

  


finally house is cleaner

Tuesday, June 19, 2012

I am expanding my understanding of the reasons I have gained weight back in the past. In 2008 I lost about 60 pounds. But four years later, I am back at my peak weight and determined to learn something about the process of MAINTENANCE!

SO I added the budget, tried the online chat today, and invested in some home cleaning and re-org to make a workout space in my home.

This morning I rode with the pooch on bicycle for 30 and then plugged in the P90x.
kicked my butt!

I joined a message board challenge for 6 weeks, and now I am off to eat, and finish the re-org job. It's a hot one today.

  


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