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Who's got good dating advice?

Tuesday, February 03, 2009

So I find myself a week or two into a relationship, and things are already confusing.
I've chosen a good guy, but is he a good match? He has 3 kids, and we live about 30 miles apart, which is close for a rural community. What are some tidbits you would give your kids if they actually listened?

Help me out, please, sparkfriends. Maybe I can make some sense of this....
Allie

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IACTA_ALEA_EST 2/4/2009 3:24PM

    WAHHHHH! Love is so "feast" or "famine", isn't it....
Well I am computer dating...have met a guy with 3 kids,,,,,,,,,,,he is a school nurse and salt of the earth. But we both have our baggage.

Thanks for the words of warning...

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JIBBIE49 2/4/2009 10:54AM

    If YOU don't have children, I would say to RUN, not WALK and get as far away as possible. emoticon

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ANNIESADVENTURE 2/3/2009 11:25PM

    Run like heck, hahaha. Did you see the Barbra Streisand movie, The Mirror Has Two Faces? It's been awhile since I saw it so this may not be exact. She was lecturing her university class about (I think) the downside of love. She asks, "So why do we keep doing it?...Because it feels so good."

Good match? What are you looking for? Only you know what's right for you at this time. Not sure what you are finding confusing. Heck, all relationships get confusing at times. Follow your heart. Take it one step at a time, let it grow, and don't overanalyze it.
But what do I know?
Annie

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a good book to read

Sunday, January 25, 2009

A friend asked me to join goodreads and I found myself thumbing many an old favorite. Books, like friends standing by, happy to be remembered and held. Here is a book that is filled with motivation and peace. It also has sadness, but it teaches how we are connected and where we can start.

Do you need at this to be reminded of the beauty in humanity? In Call me by my true names, Thich Nhat Hanh writes "Do not say I will depart tomorrow, even today I am still arriving..." to reflect on the aid to boat people in 78. We have the ability to exist in all forms from birth to death. Compassion starts within, with truth about our own nature. Leaving/arriving, eating/being/eaten, perpetrator/victim, poor /wealthy, tears/joy...we are these things at once.

The author bears witness to suffering and yet when he speaks of the ringing bell, you can feel the sound waves resonate within your happy heart. Give this book a chance, it will become a friend for life.

  
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JIBBIE49 1/26/2009 2:22AM

    Sounds good. I'll check it out. emoticon

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A good book to recommend

Sunday, January 25, 2009

A friend asked me to join goodreads and I found myself thumbing many an old favorite. Books, like friends standing by, happy to be remembered and held. Here is a book that is filled with motivation and peace. It also has sadness, but it teaches how we are connected and where we can start.

Do you need at this to be reminded of the beauty in humanity? In Call me by my true names, Thich Nhat Hanh writes "Do not say I will depart tomorrow, even today I am still arriving..." to reflect on the aid to boat people in 78. We have the ability to exist in all forms from birth to death. Compassion starts within, with true about our own nature.

This author has seen the worst and yet when he speaks of the ringing bell, you can feel the sound waves resonate within you. Give this book a chance, it will become a friend for life.

Call Me By My True Names Call Me By My True Names by Thich Nhat Hanh


My review


This is not a book I read from end to end, but leave through looking for the right feeling. One feels so humble reading this book, and rightly so. I recommend pg 46 and 72. Some of the poems are very deeply disturbing, because of his experiences. Still haunted, you will return to seek beauty and wisdom in this book. "Every second I am arriving to be a bud on a new branch". This book is filled with hope, combined with horrible truths, it helps me bear reality and not lose idealism.


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A good book to recommend

Sunday, January 25, 2009

A friend asked me to join goodreads and I found myself thumbing many an old favorite. Books, like friends standing by, happy to be remembered and held. Here is a book that is filled with motivation and peace. It also has sadness, but it teaches how we are connected and where we can start.

Do you need at this to be reminded of the beauty in humanity? In Call me by my true names, Thich Nhat Hanh writes "Do not say I will depart tomorrow, even today I am still arriving..." to reflect on the aid to boat people in 78. We have the ability to exist in all forms from birth to death. Compassion starts within, with true about our own nature.

This author has seen the worst and yet when he speaks of the ringing bell, you can feel the sound waves resonate within you. Give this book a chance, it will become a friend for life.

Call Me By My True Names Call Me By My True Names by Thich Nhat Hanh


My review


This is not a book I read from end to end, but leave through looking for the right feeling. One feels so humble reading this book, and rightly so. I recommend pg 46 and 72. Some of the poems are very deeply disturbing, because of his experiences. Still haunted, you will return to seek beauty and wisdom in this book. "Every second I am arriving to be a bud on a new branch". This book is filled with hope, combined with horrible truths, it helps me bear reality and not lose idealism.


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removing failure and sabotage from my thoughts

Saturday, January 24, 2009

Taking breaks, taking a day of rest is not tantamount to failure. This is against the grain of everything we have learned here. Sometimes spark sends out emails about food comparisons, how not to sabotage yourself with the right choice! Yikes. We are going to make errors, but we're not going to the dogs because of a momentary slip or a breather from a routine.

A long time ago, I was running a 9 mile loop three times to simulate a marathon I'd been training for, but couldn't fly to to join my team. Everyone was running in Austin, and I in Argonne Labs prairie trail. It was February, there was slushy screed on the ground and it took a long time, stopping for fresh shoes, layers or fruit as I passed my vehicle.

I called mom to tell her I'd be late for dinner and she insisted I quit... dinner comes first! No wonder how I picked up so many eating compulsions. At 34 or so, I was still reacting internally, despite mastering my juvenile tongue. I have so many reasons to quit, that I must examine my own logic at times. Why am i justifying quitting or not starting? Tomorrow there is a group hike up Mt. Adams about a 14% grade over 8 miles. It will be cold, others will be better hikers, what foods will possibly fuel me. I feel the tide of reasons pulling me down. If only I had perfect clarity of thought.

On a funny note, at dusk in my last mile, there was a little dog running behind me and as I tried to lure it to me to give it some food, it shied into the savanah. Well, later someone asked if it was a coyote maybe? Here pup! come here boy! doh!

  
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KITEFLYINGAL 1/24/2009 11:51AM

    its so hard to "unlearn" what we have been brought up with.. our parents came from the generation of the clean pate club.. and thou shall not waste food.. this has been my hardest challenge of all..

Just keep believing in yourself and you will get there..
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