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Ten shopping days left.

Sunday, December 14, 2014

Do you have your Christmas shopping done? There are only 10 days left to shop. I shopped on line. I buy my own Christmas presents. Out of the clothes that I bought before, The only ones that fit were the bathrobes and pajamas and I did buy my brother flannel pajama bottoms. I bought 3 flannel shirts, petite medium and they were tight across the shoulders. I guess I wear only petite in pants. This is what I purchased just recently and it is here already. I haven't tried anything on because I am going to wrap them and put them under the tree at my Mom's and open them Christmas day.

This turtleneck will go with these pants.

I have wanted a pair of brown corduroy pants for the longest time. I ordered them with my last order, but they were out of stock.


These two shirts layered can also go with the pants, plus I have black pants. I suppose they can also go with jeans.

I bought this to go with my black pants, you can dress it up or wear it for every day. I love it.

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The tank toops i bought to wear layered. I needed winter tops. I just love flannel shirts and turtlenecks, can you tell? I wanted a big corduroy shirts, but I am not paying $65.00 for no dang shirt.

I have a pair of red pants this can go with.

I've seen print pants. I may go into the store and try on some, see how they look. Try something new, shake it up. I think I did pretty darn good. All of this for under $90.00 plus I received $10.00 in Kohl's cash for a later purchase. I gave that to my homemaker who wanted to buy her girls some flannel shirt for Christmas. This could get addicting. emoticon

  
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LIVEDAILY 12/17/2014 8:02PM

    I do love Kohl's!! You picked out some pretty things Bonnie! They're making pretty flannel shirts for women now, in pretty colors. Good that you layer things. It's a good way to stay warmer!

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JANIEWWJD 12/16/2014 12:52AM

    Wow, you did really good!!! emoticon

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GABY1948 12/15/2014 12:28PM

    LOVE your choices and you have the same taste as I do! emoticon

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LIVINGLOVINLIFE 12/15/2014 11:50AM

    I have all my shopping done. Love your tops and bottoms. I buy my own Christmas presents too.

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ANGELN325 12/15/2014 11:37AM

    You did great! My shopping is done thankfully. The only thing I need to get is new boots for my daughter. Hers are getting to be in bad shape and I want to get her winter gear for next year.

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L*I*T*A* 12/15/2014 11:20AM

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1CRAZYDOG 12/15/2014 11:02AM

    Nice! Hope you can get your brown cords.

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MRS_TOAD 12/15/2014 10:14AM

    You made some beautiful choices. What style!

As for shopping, sadly, I haven't even started.

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TWEETYKC00 12/15/2014 5:57AM

    Looks like some cool choices!

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PICKIE98 12/15/2014 5:20AM

    I finished my shopping Jan10. Everything wrapped Jan 15. A great feeling.

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CRUISEBOUND2014 12/15/2014 5:08AM

    Beautiful clothes! Great deal! emoticon

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NASFKAB 12/15/2014 4:11AM

  lovely clothes thanks for sharing

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NEW-CAZ 12/15/2014 2:49AM

    Very chic!
10 more sleeps............I',m sorted!

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MAMAOWLS 12/14/2014 11:59PM

    Enjoy your presents. I am so far behind in my Christmse shopping I don't know whwere to start. My daughter and I spent the dat baking cookies that we give out as gifts.

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JANTHEBLONDE 12/14/2014 10:48PM

    I can't believe it's only 10 more days till Christmas! I love all your clothes you bought online!
Thanks for sharing! I hope you have a nice relaxing evening!
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ICECUB 12/14/2014 10:46PM

    I LIKE CORDUROY. emoticon

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1HAPPYSPIRIT 12/14/2014 10:45PM

    Maybe in the after Christmas sales you'll find that corduroy shirt on sale!

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Weight loss vs. Maintenance

Saturday, December 13, 2014

Where am I? That is the million dollar question. As of yesterday my weight is 130.3, which is technically out of maintenance. My center weight is 127 pounds. According to the team challenge you are suppose to maintain you weight with = or -3% which means I shouldn't weigh anymore more than 130.1 pounds. emoticon . I have always said I will maintain my weight within = or - 5 pounds which still keeps me in maintenance. That is not the important issue though, what is important is my weight got up to 133.8 which is more than 5 pounds but I have lost and it is still coming down slowly, very slowly, like only ounces a week.

I have always said it, I will always say it, and I truly believe it, it is harder to maintain your weight than it was to lose it. I would rather go from 248 pounds down to 125.8 than maintain my weight. Don't get me wrong. I don't want to put any weight back on, that is why as soon as I see myself going up, the brakes go on. It is just another whole mindset. You don't really do anything that different. I still track my food everyday. On Friday or Saturday, I plan my menu for the whole week. This is how I develop my grocery list for the week. Saves you time and money at the grocery store too. Lately I have been eating at the low end of my calories range because I want to lose weight. But when I was maintaining I ate around 1330-1450 calories. I try very hard to keep my carbs at less than 58% of my caloric intake. Lately this has been more difficult because I have been eating more fruit and vegetables. I see that as both good and bad. Carbs are not your friends.

So, where do you think I am? I in good conscience can say that I have maintained my weight. I did go above 5 pounds, but did something about it right away. I have never denied that I have struggled with maintaining, I think it will never be easy. Nothing in life worth having is easy Bonnie, you have to work for it, sweat for it, want it, my Dad use to say that. Or he would say, "You weren't born with a silver spoon in your mouth, I'm sorry." Though I don't know what that would have to do with it, even if I had money for trainers I still would have to do the training, though body sculptors would be nice. emoticon emoticon

There is another thing I have to give kudos to sparkpeople for. Once you lose your weight they don't leave you hanging. There are maintenance articles and teams. I belong to At Goal & Maintaining + Transition to Maintenance. If you are near goal and want a heads up check out this fantastic team. The members will be happy to share any and all information with you. They are friendly, supportive, encouraging, motivating, and it is just a great team. So many times I read introductions Hi I am coming back to SP I lost weight before with sparks but gained it all back plus some. I am back to lose it again. You don't have to leave sparks and you don't have to put the weight back on. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

Have a great day.

  
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AJDOVER1 12/16/2014 3:07PM

    You're a great inspiration! I'm glad you're staying here!

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PATRICIAANN46 12/14/2014 8:10PM

  It sounds to me like you are doing a great job of keeping yourself in check. It takes a lot of vigilance and you seem to be on top of it.
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JANTHEBLONDE 12/14/2014 3:14PM

    What a great blog! "Love it!" I totally agree with you... Maintaining your weight is a lot harder then losing the weight! I think you're doing a fabulous job! I hope you have a wonderful day!
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ECOAGE 12/14/2014 11:55AM

    Bonnie, I want to answer your question of "where are you". I think you are in an uncomfortable place in your head rather than a place of acceptance. According to your open letter, you hear the negativity of others and struggle to be kind to yourself.

If I read this right, you shouldn't weigh more than 130.1 pounds. Your weight is 130.3.

My scale won't even register less than .5 pounds. What would Bonnie tell another Sparky? Is it really time to panic? Time to beat yourself up? Please see yourself as you describe a typical Sparky ... because you are describing you! ... and be the same to yourself: friendly, supportive, encouraging, motivating, and a great team member.
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MRS_TOAD 12/14/2014 10:32AM

    Maintenance is never easy, but the sooner you get back on track the less you have to do! emoticon

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LIVEDAILY 12/14/2014 9:50AM

    I think it's awesome that you actually do your menu planning before you do your grocery shopping!! That's one of the hardest things for me to do. I DO do batch cooking on the weekend, because I happen to love leftovers and have no problems figuring out different ways to eat the same thing, or alternate between 2 things for a week. Way to go!

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ICECUB 12/13/2014 6:04PM

    emoticon SPARKPEOPLE!!! I THINK YOU ARE AWESOME.

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GABY1948 12/13/2014 4:33PM

    I have no misconceptions about maintenance. I believe it WILL be harder! But, I want to GET THERE first and then I "plan" to be like CAZ and allow no more than 3 pounds to find its way back! UGH and hope not even that. I know you are right here and thank you for always being honest and not "sugar-coating" it. I did join that team awhile ago but have not really don much on it so far will check it out more as I have time. emoticon

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KRISZTA11 12/13/2014 3:47PM

    You are doing great.
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    You're emoticon !

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NEW-CAZ 12/13/2014 1:12PM

    You're working to keep it steady emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 12/13/2014 12:44PM

    You're working on it . . . that's part of maintenance!

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Open letter

Thursday, December 11, 2014

Three years ago today I remember sitting down at my computer and feeling defeated. That is the word I have been looking for. I had started losing weight in February after going shopping with my then 85 year old Mom and having her outlast me. How embarrassing. I wanted to go home and she was still shopping. I was trying on clothes for our upcoming trip to PA for her birthday that I was gifting her with. It was important to me, she is very important to me. I was discouraged nothing was fitting, everything looked terrible on me. The bras weren't even fitting. emoticon. Ordinarily, that would have sent me spiraling into a deep depression and a why always me attitude. Instead, and I attribute this to my BFF Gary who encouraged me instead of making fun of me like some people, to walk and lose some weight. He would say this trip is a lot of walking Bonnie and I don't want to listen to "my knees hurt, "my back hurts, I have to sit down, "I'm tired, because I have 50+ other people to take care of and though I care you are just another passenger to me. I have been on 1 overnight with Gary as tour director before and I know he was telling the truth. When my DM got off that bus in Manchester she thanked Gary for a marvelous time and said now I am going on vacation. Up early and gone all day. Back to freshen for dinner and back late. He showed you the town. Excellent, best, tour director, that is why everyone wants to go with him. I am not kidding, his buses are always filled. I lost 42 pounds for the trip and 60 by Christmas. I was losing steam though, losing interest, Christmas is always a hard time of year for me. Most of you know why. Anyway, I was searching on the computer for a website that I had used to lose weight before, and that is how I found sparkpeople. Now you can think I am nuts, my family and I think Gary think I am, but my Dad who is deceased found sparkpeople for me and relighted a spark in me. I joined and the rest as they say is history.

I am disable so I was able to immerse myself into spark. I joined teams, I posted, I tracked my food, but I wasn't exercising yet. By nature, and I admit it, I am the laziest unmotivated person on this planet. I had already stopped drinking soda. emoticon Within a few months I was leading 2 teams. Then I was invited to co lead the DWD team. That meant a lot to me. I was invited, someone actually wanted me, thought I was worth something. I still have the letter from the leader asking me. You see, I have no self worth, I was never taught to value myself. I love my family totally but if you look up the word dysfunctional in the dictionary, a picture of my family should be there. But like they say you have to love them or kill them.

Today I am sitting at my computer thinking about 3 years ago. It changed my life, maybe even saved it, who knows for sure. I know it has made it happier, less painful physically. I am almost in the same position I was three years ago. No, I am not fat, but my spark has dimmed. It is not out, or I woldn't be writing this. It is not our because of all my spark friends who respond to my blogs when I yell HELP. I don't know why, but you guys have faith in me when my own family doesn't. I knew you would screw up eventually. Though I talk to my Mom often, I can't remember the last time I have seen her. I was sick for Thanksgiving and that is the truth. Things happened with my Aunt's death and she has hurt me to the core. It will take awhile to get over it. Of course she sees that she has done nothing. That is the straw that broke the camel's back and I am hurt deeply.

I didn't write this blog to complain about my dysfunctional crazy family. I want to let my friends know just what you mean to me. Yes, I have my BFF Gary, and I NEVER would have made it or be as happy as I am now without him, I thank God everyday or should for him, but I never would have done it without my spark friends in my corner either. All of you know what I was, am going through, why because you have/are going through it. Your encouragement, support and kicks in the butt have meant the world to me. When I had no faith in myself, you had faith in me. I had to go on because I didn't want to let you guys down. I didn't hear one remark about going from 2000 fitness minutes to under 250 from any spark person. What did I hear. Encouragement, emoticon emoticon emoticon what did I hear from Mom, well I knew you would resort back to the old Bonnie. So one million, five hundred sixtytwo thousand, eight hundred fifty six emoticon 's just as many emoticon and I love you guys. Spark is a family emoticon

  
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MRSRIGS1 12/21/2014 2:32PM

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1STBUCKETITEM 12/16/2014 7:35PM

  Enjoyed reading your blog. We both have a BFF in the tour business and it sounds as if he supported and inspired you just like mine. We are both lucky to find such good friends that have made it possible to turn our lives around for the better. I'm not naive enough to give him all of the credit, because I know how hard I've worked to get where I am today. Celebrate you and your accomplishments! You did it! emoticon emoticon

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NASFKAB 12/15/2014 3:59AM

  great blog can understand how you feel all the best

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CICELY360 12/14/2014 6:44PM

  good blog

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LIVEDAILY 12/14/2014 9:46AM

    Mom's - You love them, and want to kill them, and not with kindness either. The funny thing about Mom's is they have selective memories, and tunnel vision. Very seldom do they think they've done anything wrong, so it does absolutely no good to throw something back at them. We just have to learn to deal with it. That's what all daughters have to do, learn to deal with it. Accept, forgive, and move on. Be the better person. What doesn't kill us, makes us stronger. Yep all of that stuff is real.

So, I want you to have inner strength, because you ARE a strong person. I want you to have faith, because it will get better. I want you to have patience, because it isn't you. I want you to forgive, because it will do you no good to hold on to anger and hurt. You can do all those things and be a better person.

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CFMOSS 12/13/2014 7:46AM

    Ah.....moms....I just hope I don't drive my children totally nuts too. My mom is the best and the worst....she lifts me up and drags me down. Doesn't frustrate me as much as it used to, but I know my youngest brother is filled with anger which is not good for him. Ultimately, we each have to figure out that we are worthwhile with who we are....if I knew how to do that I would share that wisdom with you, but me, I'm still working at it day by day, some days better, some days have spark (In more ways than one) others it's walking through muck. Here's some encouragement to keep walking through the muck until you get to a dry patch (in between the muck patches).

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JANIEWWJD 12/13/2014 12:21AM

    Spark is a family and we LOVE you!!! Never, ever give up!!! Keep smiling, keep sparking!!!
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BLUEJEAN99 12/12/2014 11:54PM

    I relate! emoticon

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1DAY-ATA-TIME 12/12/2014 9:29PM

    Congratulations on 3 years. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

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JSEATTLE 12/12/2014 8:51PM

  Yes I love my Spark too! We cannot always have good days, but we manage to make the best of each one no matter what with a little help from our Spark Friends!

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AJDOVER1 12/12/2014 5:26PM

    Knowing you is such a blessing, Bonnie!
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SUSIEMT 12/12/2014 5:21PM

    Bonnie keep up the good work! You are a wonderful person! emoticon

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PATRICIAANN46 12/12/2014 5:19PM

  We may not be Blood-Relatives, but we are definitely a FAMILY. I have always thought that Spark People's greatest strength lies in the support given to each other by the members. Who better to care, than someone who is fighting the same battle. We are here for you and we care............ emoticon

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NONNAOF2 12/12/2014 4:35PM

  Negativity from within your own family is a hard one to ignore. Never stop believing in yourself and know that you are worth it and can get through this holiday season, it is a hard time for many people each year. Sometimes we take a break from it all, we get a little overwhelmed, but in the end we know what we need to do to keep ourselves healthy and then once again continue on our journey. I too am disabled with severe arthritis and fibromyalgia, but my exercise buddy is my adult son who goes with me to the gym. It's always hard to get motivated, but I put on my exercise clothes in the morning and my exercise shoes, that way I don't have any excuse not to go! After we get finished at the gym, we give each other a "high-five" hand slap for getting another day under our belt! Luckily, the holidays will be over quickly and 2015 may be just what you need to get motivated in starting a "New Year"! You can do it!! :-).

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CATNURSE1 12/12/2014 4:04PM

    I look for blogs that are inspirational, and this is one of them. We all have our stories, good and bad, and it's nice to know that even though we may not be in the same boat, we are in the same water. I hope you have continued success -- that way we can all have hope for ourselves as well.

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DIANNEMT 12/12/2014 3:43PM

    You have come this far--don't let blood family overrule "love" family!! You can do it!

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JIBBIE49 12/12/2014 3:29PM

    Glad u made it three years. Just keep going.

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  Great inspirational story. Thank you for sharing. emoticon

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SDEHNKE 12/12/2014 10:40AM

    So much of this rings true with me as well. Some years ago, I distanced myself from my dysfunctional family and surrounded myself with good and caring friends. I didn't have to feel depressed every time I left my Mom's house. I didn't have to feel that obligation to take care of her and her emotions and problems on top of my own and boy did that feel good. I was taking care of myself for the first time in my life.

I can only tell you though that I lost my Mom on November 7, 2010 to Cancer. She only lived 15 days after the diagnosis. She kept it all a secret from everyone and I think secretly she willed to herself to die. I totally regret the time that I lost with her. Even with all the problems she was my Mother and the only Mother I will ever have.

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GARDENCHRIS 12/12/2014 7:39AM

    you are so right about Spark! and so glad you are here.

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PENOWOK 12/12/2014 6:55AM

    Good for you...You have made my day, Bonnie!! Look how far you have come and you inspire so many others! You go, girl! You are a winner!!

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SUEARNOLD1 12/12/2014 6:53AM

    Bonnie,

I'm so glad that you found SparkPeople 3 years ago. Your Spark was lite and while it may be dimming, I think your blog may relight it!

You can do it - you have done it before - and you're going to do it again!

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JEANNEBUM2 12/12/2014 6:47AM

  I'm 54. My mom is 82. She is the master of small, hurtful, comments. Not something you can really even call her on, but the little cuts seem to hurt (and linger) the worst. I do my best to feel sorry for her that she needs to be that way to feel good about herself - most of the time it works. Just remember, you can pick your friends, but not your family. You seem to care about your mom, so that relationship isn't going anywhere. All you can change are your own feelings about the situation. Cling to the friends you have, because they are the ones that see the real you. Their opinions are the ones that count. I also have a BFF, and she knows my low self esteem and she constantly praises me to help bring me up. Best of all, she actually believes it. She makes me believe it, too. Listen to your friend Gary. Let your mother's comments roll off. You know, in your heart, they don't reflect the person you are...

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NORASPAT 12/11/2014 10:18PM

    WELL done Bonnie, Blogging is my Spark and I write my blog and reread it later. After all the input from others I often find a lot more value from what I wrote and they wrote. It is all give and take, A fine Blog my friend Pat in Maine.
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MILLERISHEALTHY 12/11/2014 10:09PM

    Bonnie, what a great blog. I love to read what you write because it's so real. Your family and your challenges with self-worth are very similar to mine. The difference between you and me is that you've been successful with weight loss and I haven't. Remembering your journey always helps me realize anew that it can be done. Give yourself a great big pat on the back for fighting the good fight and being an inspiration to us all. I'm sorry your Mom has hurt you so much. I know she has always meant so much to you and that you've been so close with her. I'm sure that makes it hurt even worse. My mother gave negative reinforcement rather than positive - I don't think she realized how damaging it was. It's a shame when our mother's do that because we sometimes live the rest of our lives with that negative shaming voice in our heads (at least I do). I find myself hoping that you'll be able to use her negativity as fuel to re-light your spark - i.e. "I'll show her!!" I know you can do it!!!
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GABY1948 12/11/2014 7:04PM

    My heart goes out to you! I came from a VERY dysfunctional family so I can relate to some of it but my mother, who never really knew how to be a mother because HER mother was not either. That can make us or break us. CHOOSE to let your mother's way MAKE YOU. Make you be better than that. You can be and you ARE! Your friends all know that so look in the mirror and see what we see and hear from you and Gary too!

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ICECUB 12/11/2014 6:55PM

    I THINK YOU HAVE DONE AMAZINGLY. YOU ARE WONDERFUL. SOMETIME I THINK SOME PEOPLE DON'T REALIZE HOW MUCH THEIR WORDS HURT. YOU DID GOOD. YOU ARE AN INSPIRATION TO ME. THANKS.

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WESTERNSAGE 12/11/2014 4:41PM

    I suspect your mother's comments are really a reflection of her own lack of self worth. Perhaps some of her own fears are in there too. We cannot control other peoples' behavior or words, so we can't change them. But we can change our expectations and reactions. I could never please my mother either. It's hard to let go of trying because we have always valued our mothers' approval. Acknowledging that the problem is hers, not yours, might help you let go of any need to meet her expectations. Then you can pity her for her sadness and pain and forgive her for her words. Then you can take back your power over your own life and move forward. It's not easy, but it can be done. I am now 68 years old. My mother's words of condemnation and disapproval still often ring in my ears but now I can hear them with sympathy instead of pain. Oh yes, this also works with coping with the words of other family members too. Best wishes!

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Happy Thanksgiving

Thursday, November 27, 2014

I hope everyone enjoyed their Thanksgiving dinner. I was looking forward to turkey and all the trimmings, but I haven't felt that great for a couple days now., running a low grade fever. I watched the parade this morning and called my Mom to say that I was coming, after the parade and I took a shower I always thought showers were suppose to make you feel better, I didn't take one yesterday as I was dizzy when standing up. Living alone, if I fell no one lives under me so, help I've fallen and no one hears me. emoticon I also don't like the way it feels when you are running a fever. After my shower I felt worse, tires, felt like I did a days work and all I wanted to do was go to bed. I called my Mom back and told her I wasn't coming. My brother answer, he said whatever and hung up on me. I guess I am on the sh*t list. I haven't heard from my Mom again.

My sister and I don't see eye to eye and that is where we have dinner. So I tend to weasel out in past years. That is not the case this year. I mean really, who would rather eat cottage cheese, a hard boiled egg and yogurt for lunch that a nice turkey dinner. Not to mention all the pies my Mom has baked. My Mom makes great pie crust, she has my Aunt Hazel's pie crust recipe for years. She makes it from scratch. No Pillsbury for us, no way. I had Prgresso chicken soup for dinner.

I must admit I am down in the dumps missing my son Paul. He was up for parole and didn't get it. He would have been home for Thanksgiving if he got it.

We had our first snow storm yesterday. Didn't amount to much, a couple inches. It started Wednesday morning. That's why I was going to leave on Tuesday evening for my Mom's and spend a few days. emoticon Then I started running a slight fever and I didn't want to go with my Mom and get her sick. So I told her I would wait and see Thursday morning how the roads were and how I was feeling. The weathmen always blow things out of proportion, which they did. I am still running a slight fever but my Mom said she has had a flu shot and a pneumonia shot so she wouldn't get sick. That's not true but I wasn't going to argue with her.

Now it is officially the holiday season. Santa has arrived, I saw him at the end of the parade. They actually had a nice Santa this year. Now I can't complain about seeing all the Christmas commercials and all the stuff in the stores. In fact Frosty and Rudolph will be on TV either this Friday or next. emoticon it's Christmas time in the city. Get out the wallets and the charge cards. Happy Holidays Remember your lifestyle, all things in moderation.

  
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LIVEDAILY 12/6/2014 7:45PM

    Sorry your emoticon day was a bust. Hope your emoticon season will be merry and bright!

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JANIEWWJD 12/1/2014 12:43AM

    I hope you get to feeling better. Sometimes family can make things harder than they are. They could have brought you a plate of food. Oh well, such is life!!! Just feel better soon!!!
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WORKOUTWITHPAM 11/30/2014 7:24PM

    I hope you are feeling better by now. I am sorry that you missed your family's Thanksgiving gathering. I am also sorry about Paul not getting his parole.

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AJDOVER1 11/28/2014 11:01PM

    I hope you're feeling better. You and your son are in my prayers.

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PATRICIAANN46 11/28/2014 6:13PM

  I do hope that you are feeling much better by now. emoticon

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MRS_TOAD 11/28/2014 11:29AM

    Feel better. emoticon

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MICKEYH 11/27/2014 11:27PM

    Hope you feel better soon. emoticon

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DGRIFFITH51 11/27/2014 11:19PM

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Sorry you missed out on time with your family. Hope things are better at Christmas for you.

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1CRAZYDOG 11/27/2014 9:22PM

    ((((HUGS)))) Things can never be simple, can they! **SIGH** Sorry to hear about Paul. Prayers.

Hope you're feeling better.

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STEVEN2GO2 11/27/2014 8:45PM

    emoticon Concerning your son not being home for Thanksgiving. Best wishes that at his next Parole Hearing all goes well so that he will come emoticon

By the way if you have any Jewish friends emoticon starts at emoticon down on Dec. 16, our dear Lord Jesus was a Jew.

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ICECUB 11/27/2014 7:51PM

    I HOPE YOU FEEL BETTER SOON. IT IS TIME FOR CHRISTMAS NOW. PIE SOUNDS GREAT. I AM SORRY YOUR SON WAS TURN DOWN, MAYBE NEXT YEAR. emoticon

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JANTHEBLONDE 11/27/2014 7:50PM

    I'm sorry to hear you're sick on Thanksgiving! I hope you feel better soon! Sending you extra hugs today!
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GABY1948 11/27/2014 7:14PM

    I do hope you emoticon so take care of yourself. You're right, it's the beginning of the season! And I hope it is a good one for you!

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Today was a good day.

Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Gary went home from the hospital this afternoon. That is good news. He has his Mom and her partner staying with him, tending to his every whim and desire. I am sure she is feeding him a bunch of junk, whatever sonny by wants. I hate when his mother is around, she is a PITA, a typical overprotective, doting, clinging, nosy, all up in your a$$ mother. If Gary sneezes she is there to wipe his nose. I am surprised she doesn't follow him to the bathroom to wipe his you know what. He didn't even want her to come up from FL Why do you think Ron and Gary are in CT and Mom is in FL? Because they can't stand her. Gary built an apartment for his father to live in attached to the house, you didn't see him do that for dear ole Mom. The shipped her off to FL. emoticon When I met her, the first question she asked me was Are you Jewish?

I got the tickers for the basketball game in the mail today. On Jan. 4, 2015 I am taking my Mom to Madison Square Garden to see the UConn Women basketball team play against ST Johns. My Mom is a huge UConn fan and this is her Christmas present. The tour company that Gary works for has 2 buses going and we are going on his bus. Of course it is a surprise to my Mom. She knows we are going somewhere, but doesn't know where. I know she will be please. Gary is having a flyer made for me and I will put it in a Christmas card for her. I mean if I don't take her somewhere, what do you get her. She has everything. She has so much jewelry she doesn't wear half of it. She has clothers, knick knacks all that type of stuff. Last year she got a new television for the living room and one for her bedroom. This will be a good trip, no walking, and she loves the girls and I love the coach. It is a win win situation. I love my Mom and I love to make her happy. It may be selfish but I like it when we are one on one with each other. Her attention is on me and mine on her. We have fun on the bus talking or even just sitting next to each other. I will and do cherish those memories. Her falling asleep and her head resting on my shoulder.

I hope you enjoyed your day today. emoticon

  
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AJDOVER1 11/21/2014 1:49PM

    It's sweet to think of how close you are to your Mom! emoticon

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JANIEWWJD 11/21/2014 12:28AM

    It sounds like a fun trip with your mom!!!! Cherish her!!!
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MRS_TOAD 11/20/2014 8:58AM

    Sounds like you found the perfect gift for Mom. And I'm glad Gary is well enough that the hospital released him.

A good day indeed! emoticon

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GABY1948 11/20/2014 8:53AM

    GREAT blog! Hope it's a great weekend for you!

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NEW-CAZ 11/20/2014 2:57AM

    Fantastic news Bonnie! emoticon

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L*I*T*A* 11/20/2014 12:04AM

    awesome news about Gary and your Mom too!!!

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ICECUB 11/19/2014 9:04PM

    TOUR MOM WILL LOVE THE TRIP. AND I KNOW SHE WILLL BE ENJOYING YOUR COMPANY. GLAD GARY IS HOME NOW. HOPE HE DOES START TAKING CARE OF HIMSELF. emoticon

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JANTHEBLONDE 11/19/2014 9:04PM

    That is wonderful you got tickets for you and your mom... she's going to be so surprised! I am so glad to hear Gary is home from the hospital! Hope you had a wonderful day!
Hugs and love,
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LIVEDAILY 11/19/2014 8:34PM

    I'm sure your Mom is going to be thrilled!!

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1CRAZYDOG 11/19/2014 8:16PM

    So happy Gary is out of the hospital. Hope that he is doing the right things to take care of himself.

That's an awesome surprise for your Mom. I am sure she'll love it.

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