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Tuesday, August 19, 2014

The letter that begins the titles of books eaten by Santana today. Harry Potter and History of Love.

Dr appointment highlights: 1) she thinks that my weight is fine, and that if I get down to 130, I'll look gaunt. She agrees that 135 +/- 2 pounds is a good place to be. Since I am currently +2, I guess that I'm ok although I'm not at GOAL until I see 135 (not 135.5, which I've seen a few times -- 135!) 2) Drinking a beer or a class of wine a day is fine with her. I can even have 2 if I want.

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EDDYMEESE 8/28/2014 12:13PM

    HA @ Santana!

What great news from your doc...congratulations!

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CRABADA 8/24/2014 2:00AM

    Two beers is reason to celebrate! :)

Sorry about your books.


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PHEBESS 8/20/2014 1:06PM

    YAY for reaching your goal weight - or maybe your doctor's goal weight for you!

And boo to the dog!!!!!! (Why do dogs like paper chewing???)

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DIBANANA 8/19/2014 10:41AM

  Great news on the doctor front!

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1CRAZYDOG 8/19/2014 9:43AM

    Wow! You have one mighty wonderful Dr.! emoticon

AS for Santana -- YIKES! My Mr. Spot the Wonder Dog has always considered paper products (paper towels, TP, paper plates) to be a food group. **SIGH** Not the brightest bulb I guess!

We had lava rocks by our house and when he was a pup was always eating them. Once had to be hospitalized! Dummy! Doesn't do that anymore, thankfully.

HUGS sweetie. I think you'll get there (your goal). You've had (and still do!) have a lot going on.

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AURORADAWN5 8/19/2014 9:40AM

    The dietician for my weight loss group used to say we didn't even need to count the first glass of wine or beer (as long as it wasn't more than two or three a week), even when we were still on a reducing plan. As overweight as most of us were, we knew we were in it for the long term, building a new lifestyle not looking to lose a few pounds to get back into that little black dress and she always stressed that your new lifestyle needs to be something you can actually live with.
I can only dream of the days when I will be within plus or minus 2 or 3 pounds, but I get what you mean. Like I said in a blog I wrote last fall, as much as we know it shouldn't be, it really is all about the numbers.
Good luck on that last couple of pounds. emoticon

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DALID414 8/19/2014 8:38AM

    Gasp! emoticon

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Sunday, August 17, 2014

We don't currently have one.

Hi, Spark Pals --

The Girl came home July 16, and left for Sacramento to stay with The Newlyweds while she's trying to get a job. Or sweet friend who moved to ABQ came back oh, don't remember, sometime around the end of July/beginning of August, and has been staying here as her home base while she takes care of local business. Her friend has been here on and off, too. The kids (Girl, Newlies, Husb and I) went to Ashland a week ago Wednesday for a few days to see the plays with our Real Family (2 moms, 2 dads. 2 boys, 2 girls, now 2 girlfriends/wife), which wreaked even more havoc with my life schedule.

This is ALL GOOD.

It was great for my husband to have so much time with our daughter, and they got a bunch of stuff done around the house, because she was bored and had a lot of energy. Things are reorganized, closets are cleaned, thanks to The Girl, and a dresser painted, part of the garage cleaned, and a couple of dump runs done because she was enthusiastic and he had a pal to do the stuff with. I supervised her baking of a sweet potato pound cake (yum) and spent a lot of quality time with her, too.

She and I did recon at the local SPCA because we have been talking about a companion dog for our older (and seizure-disordered) dog. More important to me was that we have a dog that my husband could bond with and name and be His, as he has had a few rough days recently because His Bailey has had a few rough days. So, on Wednesday, she and I "had lunch" and went to the SPCA and found the Perfect Puppy. We took him there late that afternoon, and he fell in love with her. How I knew that was that he asked if I thought that "Santana" was a good name for her, and, yes, I thought that it was great.

She wasn't available until Friday. There were 3 families on the waiting list. We showed up before noon (The Time) and none of the List Folks showed -- since we were there first, she was ours.

Husband is absolutely twitterpated. Santana knew her name by the time we got home. She and the dogs got along (Mali is relatively annoyed. Bailey is happier). I taught her to "sit" within the first hour or so. She figured out the doggy door. She comes when called. She knew "TBDO" (our signal to the dogs that it's time to go outside -- "Two Bad Dogs Outside" -- now Three) by Saturday morning. A smart pup, maybe a border collie mix or something. Who knows. She is still getting the no peeing in the house thing under control, but is doing pretty well. "Stay" is puppified -- she has the attention of a 3-month-old puppy, but she's trying.

Bailey hadn't had a seizure for 5 months, and has had 4 in the last 12 hours. We never know what brings them on. The medical-types say that it could anything or nothing. Santana is upset and alarmed by the seizures and wants to help.

I've been working 10 - 12 hours per day at the office, and decided that I'd go home early the last 3 work days. Take husband to the SPCA on Wednesday. Hair appointment at 4 on Thursday. See the new puppy on Friday.

What a luxury.

The downside of not having my schedule is that we've been eating "wrong," I haven't had time to check in at SP much, and I haven't been walking as much as I might be (although Ashland was a great walk time). I'm afraid to step on the scale for a few more days...

But our first day in Ashland, The Girl and I went together so I could finally get my ear pierced to celebrate my First Goal (and, in my head, my 50-pound celebration). As Shar pierced my ear, she said "remember why you are here." I commemorated the "pain" of the weight loss work, and the meaning for me behind it. I try to remind myself to eat mindfully and to keep moving forward whenever I catch sight of the new piercing. It's a tangible reminder of what I've been doing, why I'm doing it, and my success along the way.

I think that our houseguests are leaving in the next few days, and I'll work toward my regular tracking and more walking and daily SP check-ins.

All good.

Thanks for checking in with me while I've been off-schedule.

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EDDYMEESE 8/17/2014 9:13PM

    Oh how exciting! I am so happy that DH is getting a little buddy and that Bailey will be able to "raise" her. Poor Bailey. I know how stressful seizures can be. We usually consider them "controlled" if they have no more than one a month. Is Bailey on medications? Phenobarbital, Potassium Bromide?

Even though you sounded very also sounded like you were smiling while typing, which tells me you're feeling pretty darn good, and that's great!

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1CRAZYDOG 8/17/2014 8:25PM

    The only thing missing is . . . hen the heck do you breathe???!!! Sounds lie hopefully things are settling down a bit, so that's good.

Wishing The Girl much luck job hunting. It's a jungle out there.

Awesome on the pup!! Santana --what an awesome name! Poor Bailey. We had a poodle that lived to be 20. He had seizure the last 5 yrs. of his life and there never was a real cause identified either. So happy that your DH now has Satana to love o too. Wonderful!!!

HUGS sweetie. Take time to breathe!

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DALID414 8/17/2014 4:56PM

    Ahhh! This explains Santana! Sorry about Bailey.
Just reading your blog got me over-peopled! emoticon

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AURORADAWN5 8/17/2014 3:04PM

    Sounds like life is settling down a little and Santana sounds like the perfect addition to othe family. Puppies are pretty smart, particularly when they have an older role model to learn from.
Have a gret week. Hope to see you back on SP on a more regular basis soon.

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Stress Update

Saturday, July 26, 2014

I'm working 12-hour-plus days (even without J#2), so I haven't had much time to Sparkabout, but know I'm thinking about you all. Thanks for relaxation music, notes, comments. I appreciate it! Still 1 1/2 pounds from goal, so I haven't "lost it" --

Nothing much has changed at the office. I hired Rochelle's heart daughter as our new file clerk (and she won't take any S**t off of anyone!) and she's started her training. Everyone is behind, because two of the staff took their vacation at the same time (wasn't our office manager supposed to deal with that?) and the technology demon struck again. But I went into work for a few hours before J#2 today and got some more stuff done, am hoping to get things squared away as much as it can ever be squared away...

I've got to say that I feel better overall since I decided to retire. 2 1/2 years? Piece of cake. $$? Who needs $$? The plan is to turn J#2 into J#1 -- the difference between Social Security at 62 and at 65 for me is a 20 hpw job at J#2.

Highlight of the week -- a note out of the blue from a former client, thanking me for doing a good job in her case.

Wedding tomorrow -- my son's brother-in-law is getting married (OMG. The Boy is a Married Man with a Brother-in-law!!!). It's been 100 + here, and the wedding is near Santa Cruz, where it should be beautiful.

See -- I'm thinking good thoughts! xoxoxo thanks again, Pals!

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EDDYMEESE 8/3/2014 11:06PM

    I hope the wedding was fun!

I'm sure that having an end in sight makes a world of difference!

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PHEBESS 7/28/2014 12:46AM

    Enjoy the wedding! And you'll be retired before you know it!!!

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AURORADAWN5 7/27/2014 8:54PM

    After all those 12 hour days, 20 hours a week will feel like nothing.

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DALID414 7/27/2014 10:04AM

    emoticon and happy thoughts

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1CRAZYDOG 7/27/2014 9:21AM

    ((((HUGS)))) Uh boy. Glad you have a file clerk with a "take no guff" attitude. So needed sometimes!

Glad you have some future plans that give you peace! That's what it's all about.


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SHOOPETTE 7/27/2014 7:44AM

    Aww that's really nice of your client, and so rare!

You are so rght to retire, enjoy life at its fullest!

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DSJB9999 7/27/2014 2:24AM

    Hope you enjoy the wedding.

Great to have a a THANK YOU from a client, nice to be appreciated professionally! emoticon

I think the retiring early sounds like an EXCELLENT idea, there is more to life than money!

love and emoticon Donna x

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living in the dark

Saturday, July 19, 2014

We got back from our trip on June 15, and it's been dark since I walked into the office on the 16th. My legal assistant (I had a descriptor here, but Spark wouldn't let me post my blog with it, so fill in your own blank here) started in on how much she hates my partner and it's gone downhill since then. I thought that I had things relatively under control, but then DH (who works with me) had a spat with our file clerk (who told him "no" when he asked her for help) and she left a couple of weeks earlier than her planned job change. Add to that about 10 days without internet (with a business that relies on internet for about 80% of our work) and about 5 work hours without phones, and add to that a resounding NO when I asked the above-referenced MS-D to train our new file clerk, and add to that 70-hour weeks because I am being over-booked (yet another undermining stab) and stick a fork in me.

Don't suggest that I fire her. She'll ultimately leave, but I need her to give up the institutional knowledge that she has been hoarding first. She is professionally immature, even after 20 years with us. This is what happens in a small business that behaves more like a family.

Job #2 had been scheduling me Friday night, Saturday, and Sunday after I got back until I asked that they knock it off so I could have one day off a week, thank you. I worked the entire July 4th weekend. Double-edged sword -- I like working there and am not at all planning to leave, but I'm tired.

Then, I've been in court a lot with Bad Judge. Enough said. We all hate him.

Our "other wife" moved to Albuquerque, and we miss her terribly.

The moments of light have been intermittent, thank goodness. We've seen The Newlyweds a couple of times, and The Girl returned from Paris on Wednesday. I was down within a half-pound of my Ultimate Goal one day, and have been up a pound-and-a-half/down a pound-and-a-half ever since, so I'm almost there. I haven't been able to do much walking because I've been working so much, and I haven't been tracking at all, but I've learned enough to keep things relatively under control.

I've decided to retire from my office in 2 1/2 years (when I hit 62), assuming that we still have a business then. I am resolved. I don't want this unpleasant life anymore. I can pick up as many hours at J#2 that I want while I figure the rest out. I told this to a dear friend of mine at J#2 last night, and he was both happy and relieved, because he's been watching me these past weeks and has (apparently) been a little worried about me.

Shiniest parts have been my SP pals (you know who you are) who have noticed and noted my absence and check in to make sure that I'm ok. I treasure you and thank you for taking such good care of me.

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HICKOK-HALEY 7/26/2014 8:24PM

    I agree, retire when you can. It isn't worth the hassle. Hang in there! emoticon

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FANGFACEKITTY 7/25/2014 12:38AM

    emoticon save us from the professionally immature toxic people in our lives! They are vampires, sucking all the joy and life out of us.

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PHEBESS 7/24/2014 3:20AM

    Ugh, sounds rough! Hang in there, it will improve. Slowly, but it will.

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DALID414 7/19/2014 7:48PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon

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EDDYMEESE 7/19/2014 3:49PM


Sometimes it feels like all we have for ourselves is the breath we take in between the chaos! Here's to all of the crazy going away very, very soon!

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AURORADAWN5 7/19/2014 2:47PM

    Its amazing how theraputic having a definite plan and target for retirement can be when you work a stressful job. My DH and I both work government jobs that are very high pressure and can be really demoralizing. We recently took a pre-retirement course and actually sat down and figured out the math. Turns our we can probably both retire in the fall of 2016 (I'm actually thinking January 2017 for me although he may go a couple of months sooner.
Hang in there. Immature and unhappy staff can be really toxic. You know bets what your business needs, I but I have to wonderwhether the corporate knowledge you're hoping to recover from your assistant will actually be worth what it's costing you. What's she likely to tell her replacement?
Anyway, sorry conditions since you got back from Europe have been so unsettled. Must make you wish you were still there.

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MARILYNROBERT 7/19/2014 2:25PM

    I think it's very good that you know you are going to retire from Job # 1 in 2 1/2 years. That gives you a light at the end of the tunnel for that stress and will make it more doable. That endless stress can do you in so glad there will be an end to it eventually. emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 7/19/2014 2:06PM

    OH boy. STRESS multiplied. **SIGH** Sorry!


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ELRIDDICK 7/19/2014 1:29PM

  Thanks for sharing

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UMBILICAL 7/19/2014 1:28PM

  Be the light

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There's no place like home

Friday, June 20, 2014

This week has been totally putrid at work.

Got back from vacation and got hit upside the head with more of the same from the staff, who just will not settle in and let my new business partner settle in.

Then it went downhill.


I work Sa and Sun nights at J#2. Some day, I'll have a chance to upload the trip photos and post a few. Maybe take a little head trip pack and get away from the crap here --

Thanks all for your checking in with me during my silence this past week!!


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MISSB8604 6/22/2014 12:36PM

    Try to relax and do something for YOU.

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DSJB9999 6/21/2014 4:35PM

    Take care of you and remember how peaceful and lovely your holiday was!

Take care of you.

love and hugs Donna x emoticon emoticon

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AURORADAWN5 6/21/2014 2:33PM

    Sorry things are still rough at work. Since you and the new partner are getting along, maybe it's time to sit everybody down and employ a little tough love. Tell them the new partner is there to stay and that it's time they all either grew up and accepted it or moved on to somewhere else. I realize good paralegal staff are important, but the colleges turn out a whole new crop every year. so good paralegals (and receptionists and secretaries) are available. Good partners - not so much.
Enjoy the weekend and good luck.
Remember - to paraphrase the great Humphry Bogart "you'll always have Paris".

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1CRAZYDOG 6/21/2014 10:01AM

    ((((HUGS)))) Putrid . . . that never is good. So sorry your staffers are being a little immature (well, trying to be at least sort of charitable here. . . undeserved though it may be!) Wish I had a sure-fire solution. **SIGH** I can only think your partner must feel putrid also.

Just know you're thought of and hope a solution is crafted. Dealing with people is sometimes frustrating.

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DALID414 6/21/2014 1:21AM

    Le sigh

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ILOVEMALI 6/20/2014 11:59PM

  They resent the fact that he is not my former business partner, who retired. It wouldn't matter who took the spot. It has been terrible.

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PHEBESS 6/20/2014 11:38PM

    Maybe it's time to have a staff retreat? Take a day to do some team building exercises? (Do they just resent the fact that he's a man, or new, or is it his personality?)

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