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What Went - Friday

Friday, October 24, 2014

1. MIL fell out of bed in the middle of the night. FIL couldn't wake her up so he just covered her with a blanket. SIL got there at 8 am, was able to rouse her and took her blood sugar. It was 89 - a nice lowish fasting bloodsugar. She gave her insulin and didn't have her eat anything - leaving MIL, who has dementia, to be responsible for getting up and getting breakfast on her own. When the visiting nurse got there a couple of hours later, MIL's sugar was only 37 - very close to death. The nurse yelled at SIL to call 9-1-1 and they shoveled syrup into MIL's mouth. MIL is at emergency getting her sugar stabilized and her hip checked out. The nurse has said that MIL should not be going back home but should be going into a facility that can give her 24 hour care. We've been working on that btw but the ILs have balked and it has been slow. SIL and I talked today. She can't keep going over there to take care of her mom before and after work. For whatever reason, she's willing to take her dad into her home but not her mom (though I have my guesses as to what reasons those might be). The decision now is if FIL wants to go into a home that will give MIL adequate care or not. He's been hoping that the both of them would go into assisted living which is not enough care for MIL but would be just fine for him. Dh mentioned us selling our house and finding a place where we could take are of the ILs but I really really really don't want to do this. It's not just because MIL is difficult. I would put my own wishes aside and would do that for her. The problem is that I am barely taking care of our stuff and the thought of getting our house to where we could sell it puts me into a stress coma just thinking about it. Plus, realistically it would take months to do this and MIL needs to go somewhere now. I believe the plan is to have her go to a intermediate place until a permanent place is found. At least that is what SIL said and I really hope that is the case. I understand that we can die anytime but the thought of MIL dying simply due to lack of proper care is not something I want to contemplate.

2. I got my new dishwasher this morning! Squee! It is nice and pretty. I don't have enough dirty dishes to justify using it yet but by tomorrow morning I should be able to give it its inaugural cycle.

3. Dd wants more frozen yogurt! She's been doing tons of math on her own time to get enough mastered. She fell short today but she's talking about doing more tomorrow (Saturday) just so she will get another treat :) She's a skinny beanpole and frozen yogurt isn't too unhealthy but boy, what has gotten into this girl?! (I think it is partly that she's seeing that she truly can master this math which has been her nemesis since about second grade.)

4. Ds volunteered at the library this morning. He says that there is an opening for his teenage dream job as a library page. He's hard at work on the application.

5. What I thought was just a wonky ankle last night turned out to be the very start of a fibro flare. I get these flares where my feet both swell up and are very painful to walk on. Today is one of those days. I had hoped that going gluten free would somehow eliminate these flares but nope. I'm frustrated because it is very painful to walk when my feet are like this and so there goes any hope of exercise out the window. Well, I typed that and thought "what about chair exercise" so I'm going to do that instead.

6. Dd wants me to go out to the store with her. I'm achy. I've been at the family's beck and call all day and now I'm going to be selfish and say "no".

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FRAN0426 10/24/2014 9:59PM

    Jean so sad about the in-laws. There comes a time when even tho parents really want to stay at home, they need to be in a care facility where there is 24 hour help. Finding a place that will take both of them--good luck with that--many places won't take a couple if one needs more care than they provide. Your mother-in-law sounds like she very well may be in the category for more care than your Father-in-law. They may both end up in the more care needed, if they will only go some where together, and that will cost more---at least here in Mn. it is that way.
So happy you now have a new dishwasher that you can rely on. Happy dish washing with the new dishwasher.
So hoping your son will be get the library page job, would be good experience for him too

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1CRAZYDOG 10/24/2014 8:11PM

    OH boy! The situation with your MIL is very difficult, very difficult indeed. Well, at least if she's in an intermediate care place, that buys some time (probably very little, though) to be able to find a place for both her and your FIL. Family dynamics always come to a head with crises like this. **SIGH**

So . . . new dishwasher! That's awesome.

Sorry about your ankle. Hoping that it improves. Stress . . . you know how that goes w/fibro and sounds like you've got enough to sink a ship.

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Wonky Ankle

Thursday, October 23, 2014

Yep, second blog today. I don't even talk to my husband about this stuff in this much detail, plus it helps me to get my head on straight when I see what I wrote. ;)

Despite my flare, Rocky urged me to get out and walk. I've been trying to get my 5000 daily step goal again and have been successful most days. Today's earlier storm had subsided and that encouraged me too to get out and walk. So I leashed up Rocky, put on my Natural Balance shoes and stepped out the door - and my ankle went sideways. Ow, that hurt! But I figured that walking a bit would loosen it up and it would be just fine. Only it wasn't. Each step made it hurt more and more to the point that I was halfway through my loop and I seriously considered calling ds17 and asking him to bring my cane. But I figured that even with a cane I'd still have to step on it and so I soldiered on. When. . . . all of a sudden it stopped hurting again! I'm shaking my head here at my funny anatomy. I think something must have been in the wrong place and then somehow got moved again? I don't know. But I made it back home in one piece. My ankle is still very tender but hopefully by tomorrow it will be all better.

I still have to pick my dd up from the Y tonight. And I promised her frozen yogurt for getting 70% through this level of math. Each 10% gain wins her a trip to the frozen yogurt place. She's gained 40% mastery since I instituted this reward system. We would still have gone through it all and she would have still progressed but this sure beats fighting with her over it every day. Her brother is coming with me to pick her up because that means he gets frozen yogurt too!

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JACKIEWALKS4FUN 10/24/2014 7:42PM

    Hope that ankle is ok emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 10/24/2014 1:21PM

    Glad you made it home!

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JENNEINAZ 10/24/2014 11:39AM

  Motivation by way of yogurt! Smart Mom!

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The Anatomy of a Flare

Thursday, October 23, 2014

Last night I could tell that I was on the brink of a flare. I tried to avoid it. I drank extra electrolyte/ magnesium "juice". I went to bed to get rest. I didn't do as much in the evening either. I woke up still on the brink. By mid-morning I was over the brink and free falling into flaredom.

So here I am in pain, feel nauseated, tired and having a hard time concentrating. And I'm a mom. It's not that no one else cares but they still want Mom to fix things and to give hugs and to keep the household ball rolling. I jettisoned the history lesson for dd because for some reason the online lesson refused to load for us today. We'll get to it but not in its usual spot. I jettisoned dinner prep by ordering Mongolian beef and Happy Family from our very good local Chinese restaurant. I'm not worrying about the printer that is refusing to print. I think we will finally have to order a new printer but we won't worry about that until lunchtime and even then ds17 will be in charge of that. (He likes that sort of thing.) I do have kitchen clean up still on my list but I'm going to do that literally in 5 minute bursts.

I wish that everyone would go away and that I could be in a very warm very quiet place with absolutely no demands on me as a wife and mother. But we all have pipe dreams. I should be getting my two books today - Peggy Brill's Core Program and Instant Relief. I wonder if the Instant Relief book will actually give me any relief from this flare.

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JENNEINAZ 10/24/2014 11:41AM

  I hope the books help. I understand about being the Mom-on-call. Somedays are like that.

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FRAN0426 10/23/2014 4:20PM

    Sorry your having a tough time with another flare. It is not easy having a flare and the responsibilities of having to run a household, teacher for your kids and wife and mother. Hope you do get some quiet time to get into reading one of the books today.

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1CRAZYDOG 10/23/2014 2:35PM

    So sorry. Tough times for sure. Sending hugs. I know that doesn't really help, but just know you're thought of.

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Fear and Loathing in the Dressing Room

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

I got two new pairs of pants at Target today. They are technically pajama pants but they don't look particularly pajama-ish. No flannel sheep! They are such soft flowing pants that they hide all flaws.

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KATHY024 10/23/2014 2:20AM

    I love it when I find something that I really like and feel that it fits well. So hard to find pants that fit. Congrats!!!

I envy the way my husband shops. We go all day and he will buy 7 pairs of jeans, 5-6 shirts and ties, dress pants, and underwear -then that's it for at least 6-9 months. But buying electronics....he shops around and takes forever to decide!! LOL emoticon

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JENNEINAZ 10/22/2014 10:56AM

  I hate shopping for clothes. I do it as little as possible. I am glad you found something that you like and fits.

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JACKIEWALKS4FUN 10/21/2014 8:20PM

    I see people with real pajama bottoms walking around, at least I think that is what they are, maybe a new style. I am all for comfort.

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1CRAZYDOG 10/21/2014 7:45PM

    Glad that you had a good find @ Target!

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UMBILICAL 10/21/2014 7:44PM

  No fear

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FRAN0426 10/21/2014 7:41PM

    I am going to have to check those pants at my Target by me. Thanks for sharing your find with us Jean.

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What Went - Monday

Monday, October 20, 2014

1. I had bad joint pain this morning. While I think it is due to wheat or gluten I'm not going to be dogmatic yet. Why? Because I've gone nightshade free, gluten free, dairy free, low carb, meat free etc. and I have early results which seem to point in one direction and then over time it all evens out to my normal ebb and flow of symptoms. So I'm still being wheat and gluten free but am not going to be making any dogmatic statements because of it.

2. My bad joint pain has mostly gone away. There are still some remaining twinges.

3. Both kids got done with school. I'm not done because I still have grading to do.

4. I tricked the cat and our gentler dog into cuddling. Both were on dd's bed but separated by a couple of feet. I was petting the cat and slowly moved him so that he was leaning up against the dog. Libby was sleeping and didn't notice the cat yet. The cat was purring - he liked the soft cushy place I'd found him. But then Libby realized with a start that the scary cat was there! She jerked away and of course that sent the cat flying for safety. Silly animals. I show them pictures of dogs and cats cuddling but they ignore me. . . :)

5. I got the car title and tabs taken care of. Despite being taken care of in the very same office and the very same window, I had to get a number for each separate task. Bureaucracy!

6. I was calling the ILs every few hours all day getting bloodsugar readings on MIL. her sugar went down to 64 at one point and I had to talk FIL into getting her sugar up. They really need to go into a retirement home of some sort. They don't want to go to one that doesn't serve Asian food. I've searched the web. One is being built near us - in 2016. Sigh.

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COMPCHIC52 10/21/2014 4:02PM

    you can tell when you are up in the northern area my brother is from the north and the first time I heard him say he was going to go get his tabs I said what's that lol. here in the south we say tags. I can just see it now as he has moved here and him going in saying I need tabs hehe. if you really think about it all they are giving you is the tabs for the tag we get a new tag every 5 yrs here though.

sorry about your pain. Hoping is will ease on you.


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JENNEINAZ 10/21/2014 10:45AM

  I'm sorry the pain was there, but glad it went away.

The food at the retirement home thing is hard. I like to eat food I am familiar with too.

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1CRAZYDOG 10/20/2014 9:36PM

    Glad the pain abated a little bit. That helps.

Good luck w/the grading.

Awwww, cute that you tried to get the dog and cat to cuddle! They're like kids, though, a mind of their own!

Sorry to hear about your MIL's blood sugar issues. **SIGH** It's hard when we have to parent the parents. Going thru that too.

Have a good Tuesday.

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