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2014 Progress Report

Sunday, November 09, 2014

Hi Spark Fam!

I have been missing in action since the end of January. I have good and bad reasons, but the important thing is I am back at it. Earlier this year, I posted 9 goals for the year. I had intended on doing monthly check-ins, but as you'll see, that became difficult. I'm just happy I've got some time today so I can refocus for the last 6 weeks of the year.

Here are my 2014 goals and how I'm doing:
1. Get a promotion (financial/career) - GOT IT!! In early February, I was promoted to Program Manager and got a team of my own. I've never had direct reports before, and I'm out of my depth. Whoa, nelly! Got more than I bargained for with this one. I'm what they call a "working manager" - which just means I couldn't give up any of my previous responsibilities as I took the additional work. That led to a consistent work week of 70-90 hours. No time for anything else but my job and sleep. I've been working with my boss to get a manageable workload. Since I'm here today, I'm making progress. We are trying to get my hours down to 50 per week.
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2. Eliminate debt (financial/career) - The promotion helped with this one. Haven't paid off the student loans yet, but making big strides. My first semester without having to pay tuition was so exciting!

3. Weigh less than 200 pounds (health) - Umm, no. In fact, I went the wrong way. I've actually gained back almost all of the weight I lost. Not being able to exercise or cook has been horrible for my health.
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4. Run a 5k in less than 36 minutes (health) - Again, no. I did a 5k this morning. It took me exactly 60 minutes. I'm grateful to still be able to walk over 3 miles in one shot, but I'm a lot slower. The extra weight is putting a strain on my hips and knees.
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5. Record 6 songs (mental) - I learned two of the six songs I had wanted to learn, but am a long way from being good enough on them to record. I'll be taking a lot of vacation time in December...this will be a fun way to end the year.
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6. Improve my marriage (home) - Poor hubby! I went from too many hours at school to too many hours at work.

7. Organize my house (home) - Ha-ha-ha-ha...I must laugh or I will cry. My house is a mess.
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8. Let go of the past (spiritual) - I actually made some progress here. I am so busy that I must be brutal in cutting irrelevant topics out of my life. As thoughts of the past come up, all I can think is "I don't have time for that right now - it doesn't matter." And now that I have a little more time, I can't really recall what I was so upset about, 15 years later. I did have one night over the summer that also helped with this. I spent the evening thinking about all the things I dwell on. I cried all night, then realized these people, that pain, all made me who I am today. And I think I turned out pretty darn good. I'm strong, smart, funny, and capable. I'm trustworthy, supportive, caring, and kind. I have traits I never would have had if not for those tough times. I'm grateful for the life I've lived, and the fact that I have emerged from the fire, wiser and tougher. The past is the past, and it's over. I need to just move on and live my life.
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9. Improve my ability to participate in small talk (social) - Always a work in progress. I'm getting better, but still enjoy plenty of awkward silences in my conversations. I'm trying to ask more questions to get people to open up. I just wish it didn't take so long to come up with those questions.
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So, the year wasn't a total loss, and I have a little bit of time left to reverse course on some of the goals that went by the wayside. Bring it on, November and December!!

Are you tracking against goals for 2014? How are you doing?

  
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KERRY4614 11/13/2014 10:29AM

    Excellent blog. emoticon I have not written on my sparkpage in a month of Sundays . This will be my goal for this week and do therapy exercises everyday.

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SIXFOOT1 11/9/2014 3:37PM

    Congratulations on the promotion! It's good you and your boss are working together to get your hours more manageable. 50 hours a week is still a lot! I like your goal #9. I need to set that as one of my goals. Welcome back to sparkpeople, and good on your for setting out to make the best of 2014.

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1HOTFUDGEMAMA 11/9/2014 1:27PM

  Welcome Back!

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2014 Goals

Sunday, January 12, 2014

Hi Sparkfriends!!

I always stay in on January 1 and reflect on the previous year and decide what I want to accomplish in the new year. I suppose you could call them resolutions, but to me they are goals. I have a big binder with all the things I ever said I wanted in my life, categorized into six buckets. Each year I review them, reminisce a little (I'm a little past being a rock star...), and then pick one or two from each of those six categories.

So here's what I'm going to work on this year:
1. Get a promotion (financial/career) - some of this is out of my control, but there is plenty I can do to make myself as promote-able as possible. So I'm going to focus on learning my industry inside & out, hone my skills, and request side projects that will enhance my experience.
2. Eliminate debt (financial/career) - I don't have a ton of debt, but now that I'm done with school, my student loans need to be paid back. I just want to get organized and get this stuff paid off as quickly as possible.
3. Weigh less than 200 pounds (health) - I haven't weighed less than 200 pounds since 1993. It's a tall order, but I have been making steady progress toward that goal for 5 years. I will continue the fight by getting better about logging my food, drinking plenty of water, and being more consistent with exercise.
4. Run a 5k in less than 36 minutes (health) - My best 5k time is 41:30. I'm focusing on losing weight and adding a little speedwork into my training program to try and cut that time down.
5. Record 6 songs (mental) - A friend gave me the new Beck album, which is not recorded music...it's sheet music. I want to learn at least 6 of the songs and record them, add in additional parts from friends, and post them on YouTube. This one is a strange one for me, but it should be fun!
6. Improve my marriage (home) - I have a great husband and am looking forward to our 14th wedding anniversary this year. But things can always be better, and I've neglected our relationship for 4 years while I finished school. Time to remind him that he's important to me.
7. Organize my house (home) - I have too much stuff. It must go.
8. Let go of the past (spiritual) - I have too much baggage. It must also go.
9. Improve my ability to participate in small talk (social) - I'm an introvert in an extrovert's career. It's important that I be able to socialize, but I really struggle to come up with anything to say after "hello." If I'm going to keep advancing my career, I've got to figure out how to socialize. This year's focus is research and practice.

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So that's it - 9 goals for 2014. I'll check in periodically with progress reports. It's going to be a great year!!
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AMY-MIMI77 1/21/2014 4:14PM

    Best of Luck on achieving your goals - I know that you will do your best
keep reaching for them

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TKOVACH1 1/12/2014 6:17PM

    I think you have some great goals to strive to achieve in 2014.
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FORBANDE 1/12/2014 4:22PM

    Wow! Those are some fantastic goals! I totally love the idea of your big binder! (I may steal it.)

I have no doubts that you'll make significant progress and tackle these. I picture you as this project management tough mudder rock star!!
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You are amazing and I know you got this!


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SASSYLJB 1/12/2014 4:12PM

    Wonderful goals Jen! You have put some great thought into them. I will be doing your number 7 as we gear up for a move on the next 4 weeks! Also working on your #4 I would like to be around a 222-24 mind 5k so we can sure support each other in our journeys diamond girl! Keep Dazzling!

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ORCHIDLADY56 1/12/2014 3:55PM

    Good goals! It is obvious you really thought these out!

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DBALZER 1/12/2014 2:22PM

    These are some awesome goals. I love how organized you are to have a binder with all that. I would have to say that type of organization is something that I strive for. That may just have to go into my goals for this year.

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2014 Goals

Sunday, January 12, 2014

Hi Sparkfriends!!

I always stay in on January 1 and reflect on the previous year and decide what I want to accomplish in the new year. I suppose you could call them resolutions, but to me they are goals. I have a big binder with all the things I ever said I wanted in my life, categorized into six buckets. Each year I review them, reminisce a little (I'm a little past being a rock star...), and then pick one or two from each of those six categories.

So here's what I'm going to work on this year:
1. Get a promotion (financial/career) - some of this is out of my control, but there is plenty I can do to make myself as promote-able as possible. So I'm going to focus on learning my industry inside & out, hone my skills, and request side projects that will enhance my experience.
2. Eliminate debt (financial/career) - I don't have a ton of debt, but now that I'm done with school, my student loans need to be paid back. I just want to get organized and get this stuff paid off as quickly as possible.
3. Weigh less than 200 pounds (health) - I haven't weighed less than 200 pounds since 1993. It's a tall order, but I have been making steady progress toward that goal for 5 years. I will continue the fight by getting better about logging my food, drinking plenty of water, and being more consistent with exercise.
4. Run a 5k in less than 36 minutes (health) - My best 5k time is 41:30. I'm focusing on losing weight and adding a little speedwork into my training program to try and cut that time down.
5. Record 6 songs (mental) - A friend gave me the new Beck album, which is not recorded music...it's sheet music. I want to learn at least 6 of the songs and record them, add in additional parts from friends, and post them on YouTube. This one is a strange one for me, but it should be fun!
6. Improve my marriage (home) - I have a great husband and am looking forward to our 14th wedding anniversary this year. But things can always be better, and I've neglected our relationship for 4 years while I finished school. Time to remind him that he's important to me.
7. Organize my house (home) - I have too much stuff. It must go.
8. Let go of the past (spiritual) - I have too much baggage. It must also go.
9. Improve my ability to participate in small talk (social) - I'm an introvert in an extrovert's career. It's important that I be able to socialize, but I really struggle to come up with anything to say after "hello." If I'm going to keep advancing my career, I've got to figure out how to socialize. This year's focus is research and practice.

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So that's it - 9 goals for 2014. I'll check in periodically with progress reports. It's going to be a great year!!
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RUNNER4LIFE08 1/13/2014 11:07AM

    Jen, those are some pretty fantastic goals and very realistic too. I like how you picked goals that related to your self as a whole. Not just body related but mind and spirit.

I look forward to cheering you on and seeing how you progress through the year.

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PEZMOM1 1/12/2014 9:55PM

    Those are some really fantastic goals. Have a great 2014!

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Life Lessons at Christmas

Saturday, December 28, 2013

This year, I had high hopes for Christmas. For the first time in years, I had no schoolwork, no work work, and no overwhelming housework to take over my year-end vacation. I was going to focus on me. Hit the gym. Relax. Take baths. Read books. Light candles. But, as always seems to happen when things are going well, plans change.



My parents got sick. Nothing major - just colds. My mom got better. My dad did not. He went to the doctor and got antibiotics but kept getting worse. On the 15th, 9 days after his first cough, my mom convinced him to go to the ER. They didn't let him leave. Why? Pneumonia in both lungs. He couldn't breath and he was failing fast.

The first few days were very scary. I dropped everything and spent each day in the hospital, listening to the doctors and trying to console my mom. My family hasn't had to deal with serious illness before - and we aren't emotional. The stress, the uncertainty, and seeing my mother cry were all new to me and I struggled to be the daughter my mom needed. But I was scared - the doctors thought my dad might not make it. I checked stats for double pneumonia...30-50% mortality rate. I had to come to terms with the fact that I might lose my otherwise extremely healthy father a week before Christmas, while still maintaining hope that things would be ok.



On his 7th day on the ventilator in the ICU, he had yet to respond to any of us. My dad has a strong Catholic upbringing and is very active in the Lions Club. That afternoon, the Lions pastor stopped by for a visit. He didn't stay very long, but asked if I would mind if he held my dad's hand and shared a healing prayer. While I don't share my father's beliefs, I knew he would appreciate that so I of course consented. After the pastor left, I took my dad's hand and told him about the pastor's kind visit. I felt a squeeze on my hand and then my dad opened his eyes. It was the most emotional moment I have ever experienced. I knew then that he would recover.

He healed enough over the next three days to come off the ventilator. He was so weak and exhausted from his ordeal, but still had his sense of humor. We knew he wouldn't be home for Christmas, so we brought Christmas to him. It was the best Christmas I could have ever hoped for.



Yesterday, they released my dad from the hospital and he is now home. He has a walker and oxygen, but that is temporary. He'll regain his strength and get back to his life. I feel like the happiest person on the planet right now, and I'm sure my entire family feels the same.



This Christmas, I learned a lot. I learned to roll with life's punches, and stay hopeful, strong, and optimistic in the face of adversity. I learned to keep a sense of humor even when the situation seems tragic. (Always maintaining proper decorum, of course.) I learned to ask for help when I needed it, and that my friendships are stronger than I had thought. I learned that personal faith is incredibly strong, no matter its form (I believe my dad responded to the pastor's visit because it reflected his own belief). And I learned that happiness isn't defined by the absence of challenges, but rather it is the challenges in life that make you cherish the happy moments.

  
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AMY-MIMI77 1/2/2014 7:01PM

    I am so glad to hear that your dad is home; you guys have been in my morning prayers.
hugs to you and glad you had a good Christmas

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FORBANDE 1/2/2014 7:31AM

    Amazing! I am an emotional person and teared up while reading this. Such wonderful lessons learned. The best part is that your Dad is going to be fine. What a great Christmas gift!!

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SASSYLJB 1/1/2014 11:53AM

    So glad your dad is home, and what a true holiday season you have had, things that we all need to remember!
Here is to a Dazzling New Year, full of wonder and hope!

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RUTHIEBEAR 12/30/2013 8:41AM

    FIrst I am so happy your Dad is healing and at home!!!! THis is very inspirational blog! emoticon

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VALYNN26 12/29/2013 2:08PM

    So glad that you're father has improved. Continued prayers that his health continues to improve. emoticon

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ORCHIDLADY56 12/29/2013 9:59AM

    So happy that your Dad is on the mend! Inspiring blog to read, and your last paragraph was very uplifting.
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ANNMACP0212 12/29/2013 9:53AM

    Wow--you are so right! I'm so glad your dad is feeling better!! Sending prayers for a full and fast recovery.

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BRENDAF761 12/29/2013 8:11AM

    So glad your dad is going to be okay! Wishing you and your family a very Happy New Years! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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PEZMOM1 12/28/2013 9:02PM

    Saying a prayer that your Dad continues to heal and regains his health.
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Goals for BLC - Go Dazzling Diamonds!

Friday, December 13, 2013

Wow, I haven't thought about goals for awhile. I've been chasing my main goal - being able to do a pull-up - for so long I haven't thought about much else. While I'm getting close to that, other things will help me along my path. So here goes:

1. Lose that healthy range of 1-2 pounds per week. To do that, I'll:
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d. 3 sessions of cardio + 3 strength sessions per week
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2. Run a 5k in less than 40 minutes.
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3. Get to know my Dazzling Diamond teammates!!
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AMY-MIMI77 12/17/2013 9:40AM

    you will dazzle and achieve all that you reach for

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RUTHIEBEAR 12/17/2013 8:31AM

    I know you are going to dazzle us as you work on these goals!!! I believe in YOU!!! emoticon

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SASSYLJB 12/17/2013 7:01AM

    Great goals, and I am sure that you will meet them all! Running will certainly help! In case you had not figured it out I LOVE to run! It is my newest passion since I have been on Spark! Most of your fellow diamonds run as well! Lets make some diamond dust!

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RUNNER4LIFE08 12/16/2013 3:54PM

    Those are great goals Jen and very attainable. I have been working on doing a pull up for a while now too. I can do it on the assisted pull up machine with no problem. Just can't lift my own full weight yet. But I will get there soon!

Keep going strong! So glad to have you on the Diamonds team!

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FORBANDE 12/14/2013 9:39AM

    Great goals!!! I'm so thrilled you are a Diamond!!!

A pull up is huge!! That's not an everybody thing.

You are going to kick some challenge butt!

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VALYNN26 12/14/2013 6:46AM

    Those are some great goals & I am sure you will meet them all. I am so excited to have you on our Dazzling team & can't wait to get to know you! Shine Bright!

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VALYNN26 12/14/2013 6:46AM

    Those are some great goals & I am sure you will meet them all. I am so excited to have you on our Dazzling team & can't wait to get to know you! Shine Bright!

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SUZIPAM1 12/13/2013 12:20PM

    good goals

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