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Precious Joys

Wednesday, October 29, 2014



I woke up in a foul mood this morning. It was a culmination of all the small things building up inside of me and setting the stage for a rotten and foul morning. I wont go into detail, everyone has them.

To top it off the fog was, as they say, as thick as pea soup.

I ran to the store to pick up a few things so I could hit the ground running at 8. The problem was I'd misread the sale add and that just added to my frustration and simmering foul mood. It's 6:30 am and I can already tell this day is going to be the pits...........

Our local grocery store employs special needs people as sackers and cart chasers. They work from sun up to sun down and many of them, well I don't see, how many of them do it with their physical limitations, but they do.

This morning Todd sacked my groceries and he kept a running bit of chatter going with me while I figured out it was my mistake and not the stores. (Read the sales add, John!) We both finished at the same time and Todd asked me if I needed help with my groceries. I told him no and as I went to swing the cart towards the door I felt his hand grip my wrist. A bit startled I looked up to see Todd beaming at me.

"You have a really good day, okay."

I will Todd, I will and OBTW

Thank you.

  
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CINDYBEL 10/30/2014 11:33AM

    emoticon God provides blessings even when we aren't looking for them

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NASFKAB 10/30/2014 12:59AM

  they can be so loving I have a 47 year old son living with me he adds a lot of joy to my day have a great day

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JANIEWWJD 10/29/2014 11:54PM

    Sometimes all it takes is a tap on the shoulder, a hug, or a smile to make our day!!! I pray your day took a turn for the better after that!!!!
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CARTOONB 10/29/2014 10:48PM

    I hope you did.

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REGILIEH 10/29/2014 9:26PM

    How sweet!

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DWSCHUYLER 10/29/2014 6:42PM

    It just takes one! emoticon

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 10/29/2014 5:34PM

    :) thats cool

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LOVINGKATE 10/29/2014 4:44PM

  What sweet young man. John, God sent one very special angel this morning to help you through your day. I pray all went well..
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MORTICIAADDAMS 10/29/2014 4:14PM

    Our grocery store hires the same people and it does give one reason to count your own blessings.

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WORLDSERIES11 10/29/2014 2:25PM

    sounds like Todd was sent from above emoticon

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BAMAJAM2 10/29/2014 2:09PM

  I commend you, John, for recognizing the remarkable value of Todd's service---
This valuable service-- sadly, is lost on so many in our busy world.
I second Todd's wish for you!
Please keep on Sparking---

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DEBRITA01 10/29/2014 11:31AM

    Glad Todd put things in perspective for you today. He sounds like an emoticon

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BEATLETOT 10/29/2014 11:12AM

    What a sweet kid. I remember my baggers at the grocery store I worked at all through high school and college so fondly.

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CHRISTINEBWD 10/29/2014 10:36AM

    emoticon I hope the rest of your day goes great!

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MAURIZIA 10/29/2014 10:29AM

    Yes, we have have "those" days at times. With my exhaustive work schedule this month, I have had a few of them...so I find something positive posted on FB or I select a card from my box of Grace cards, using it as a mantra for my day.

Today's card is "Beauty." It reads:

"Surround yourself with simple pleasures. Beauty is the language of the Divine."

Sounds like Todd knows that. :)

Blessed day to thee.

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HEALTHIER-VICKI 10/29/2014 9:04AM

    A simple smile and comment can turn a bad morning into a much better one. Hope the rest of your day is a happy and fulfilled one. emoticon emoticon

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SANDRALEET 10/29/2014 9:00AM

    Happy dose not count how blessed you are put attitude

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Little Treasures

Tuesday, October 28, 2014

It's hard to see my mom waste away. This was a strong creative woman who was an artist, in a number of mediums --- We grew up with a kiln in our basement and paints and swatches of cloth all over the house. Yet the gift I received from my mom, and both my parents for that matter , was her absolute and unequivocal faith in God and his ability to make any situation, no matter how bleak it seemed have a ray of hope and sunshine.

I saw her 3 times this past weekend. She has roughly 15 quality minutes an hour and then she falls asleep in her wheel chair, so our visits were brief ones. She still knows who I am!!

Before we left Sunday evening, she handed me a small notebook, and said something about having left it in the dining room last week. I just nodded and put it in the glove compartment when Joan and I packed to drive home. As I was unpacking yesterday I noticed the corner of a yellowed piece of paper sticking out of one side of it. I thought I'd share what was written on it with you

"Dear God
From the bottom of my simple heart, I ask for your peace. I ask that I may feel your love and be blessed with your grace.O God in times of stress, when I feel alone and in pain overtakes me, put out your helping hand and comfort me. Be ever at my side dear Lord, to help and guide me in my tortuous moments. May you always be my companion as I journey through this life; my dreams always being only a touch away from realization. My God, bless me with a faith and with a hope so strong that no ill, no loss nothing can make me doubt your presence among us. You are the comforter in times of distress and I call on you in this time of need. Through your son, Jesus Christ, I ask that my burden be lightened and with your peace in my heart I can do your will." - Unknown.

She'd typed it out and then cut it into a manageable size to carry in her purse I imagine. If you've ever read anything I have ever written then you know my mom and I often had a rocky relationship growing up. Since my dad has passed on and my mom slowly slips away, I'm committed to recalling those good things those gifts, those little treasures that pass from them to me.

  
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TRIANGLE-WOMAN 10/29/2014 7:11AM

    Just what I needed to start my day.

I'm struggling with my relationship with my middle daughter and this gives me peace and helps me put things into perspective with the "long view"

Thanks so much John.

XOXO

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AJDOVER1 10/29/2014 12:31AM

    You're so blessed to have your Mom. Continue to store those good memories....

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JANIEWWJD 10/29/2014 12:16AM

    I got very emotional reading that passage from your mom. I still have both of my parents. My dad is 89 and very healthy, but my mom, who is 85, is slowly slipping away too. It is so hard to watch someone you love so much suffer. I pray for guidance everyday so that I can accept this situation. God bless you, my friend, for sharing this with us; and may God give you comfort in the coming days!!!
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ONEKIDSMOM 10/28/2014 8:39PM

    Brought a tear to my eye, and memories of my parents' final months. Blessings in your tough times!

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DIASTER 10/28/2014 5:32PM

  What a beautiful gift. May it bring you peace during this difficult time and in the future.

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BAMAJAM2 10/28/2014 4:10PM

  John, you have touched my heart by this blog. Little treasures are indeed---Big treasures!
What a gift you have-- with your mom still alive, even though her presence is fading, and even though she grows weaker in body and mind. She knows her son, and she knows that YOU are her treasure, John. Such a godly mother's heart is evidenced by that lovely prayer tucked into that notebook.------Truly God has blessed your mother with unshakeable faith; that faith passed on, no doubt, to you.----- How priceless!
You have my prayers and my warmest regards at this time... God bless you.

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CHRISTINEBWD 10/28/2014 2:58PM

    Lovely John! Bless her heart.

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PUGLOVER1999 10/28/2014 1:23PM

    God bless you both.

That prayer will always be a wonderful connecton between you!

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HDHAWK 10/28/2014 12:51PM

    What a lovely find John. Sending prayers your way as you go through this difficult time.

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TRISTAROSE 10/28/2014 11:22AM

    What a beautiful prayer .... Something to treasure!

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IFDEEVARUNS2 10/28/2014 11:19AM

    emoticon Treasure the moments you have left.

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NASFKAB 10/28/2014 11:11AM

  What a wonderful prayer all he best to your Mom & you

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BOHEMIANCAT 10/28/2014 11:08AM

    That IS indeed a treasure. God Bless you both and happy that the rocky road is now smooth.
Linda

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LOVINGKATE 10/28/2014 10:27AM

  What a beautiful prayer and so comforting. If you don't mind I would love to copy it.
So happy to hear your Mom was able to recognize you, I know they also can feel your presents even if they don't know or remember who you are. They have a feel of knowing who you are but there minds don't understand. God bless your Mom and you. What a gift.
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MORTICIAADDAMS 10/28/2014 10:19AM

    The prayer was wonderful. I'm glad you got to spend some quality time with your mom.

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    God Bless your Mom and you. emoticon

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SANDRALEET 10/28/2014 10:11AM

    Make peace with all and when they go no regrets That I learned Each of us are who we are Life has a way of molding us Others to Not walked in there shoes Love covers all faults ours to

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There Is Always Hope

Sunday, October 26, 2014

Joan and I are visiting my mom in Wisconsin this weekend. It is hard to imagine and experience a woman who was so strong minded and creative, slowed by Alzheimer's. But as the 10th century mystic Meister Ekhart said "Oh the depths."

We were leaving out hotel yesterday afternoon when a family of five started coming in the opposite way. I held the door for them and the mom, dad and two kids passed through without a thank you or even making eye contact. (I'm sorta used to this........... sorta, lol)

The last child, about 5 or 6 stopped mid way, looked up at me and said:

"Thank you. I hope you have a fun day."

There is always hope

  
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IFDEEVARUNS2 10/28/2014 11:20AM

    May God grant him much joy in life!

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2BEEFIT 10/27/2014 6:04PM

    sweet.

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IMAVISION 10/27/2014 4:41PM

    I enjoyed your account of the little one thanking you & wishing you a fun day.

God bless your day!

Ima

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WORLDSERIES11 10/27/2014 2:31AM

    out of the "mouth of babes"...it does give us hope:)

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PUGLOVER1999 10/27/2014 12:34AM

    One out of 5; Jesus got one out of 10!

Somewhere, sometime ago, I read:

APPRECIATION IF THE LUBRICANT OF LIFE.

I also read in Psalm 50:23, "He who offers a sacrifice of thanksgiving honors ME...."

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NASFKAB 10/27/2014 12:28AM

  at least one of them knows hos to behave hope he does not become like the rest all the best to you

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CARTOONB 10/26/2014 11:16PM

    He'll learn. emoticon

I hope you had a fun day too.

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REGILIEH 10/26/2014 9:24PM

    Wonderful!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 10/26/2014 8:25PM

    Great! Proving last but not least.

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INBRAZILFORNOW 10/26/2014 8:04PM

    I have hope!

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CHRISTINEBWD 10/26/2014 8:03PM

    What a sweet little girl! emoticon

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SKYEDIVE 10/26/2014 12:49PM

    That is awesome. Thank you for sharing that with us!

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GOAL-WT-MET 10/26/2014 11:23AM

  Maybe it's the last kid's job to say thank you for the entire family since there are so many of them. Being a woman of a certain age, I come from the generation where men always held the door open for you. They still do young and old. The older ones out of habit and the younger ones out of generation respect I guess. I like it but some younger women don't. I was taught very early that Thank you should roll off your lips very easily.

I now go into some establishments where the kids have tip cups in front of the cash register. There have been several times where I put money in the cup and the kid does not say thank you. I'm always dumbfounded by this and will never leave a tip at that establishment again and so the other kids suffer for it.

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SANDRALEET 10/26/2014 11:17AM

    Trough the hearth of a child Maybe why God wants us to have that kind of hearth

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LOVINGKATE 10/26/2014 11:03AM

  And a little child shell lead them. I love to believe God had a hand in this.
As others have said, there is always hope. Have an awesome day.
Wishing you and Joan a safe trip and prayers go to your Mom as well as the both of you.
God Bless.

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TRIANGLE-WOMAN 10/26/2014 11:02AM

    Clap, clap, clap, clap (for the little one!)

Clap, clap, clap, clap emoticon (for you!)

XOXO


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DEBRITA01 10/26/2014 9:38AM

    There IS always hope...be blessed today. emoticon

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TRISTAROSE 10/26/2014 8:49AM

    I'll bet that made you smile .... emoticon

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SPARKL3 10/26/2014 8:37AM

    "...and a little child shall lead them." Wow.

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ONEKIDSMOM 10/26/2014 8:37AM

    Yes! Out of the mouths of babes! Every person is worthy of human dignity and respect... even US!

I have noticed the difference in how I am treated by strangers since having changed my body size. It may not be "fair" but it is what it is. Those who treat you with dignity and respect regardless of your outward presentation are the BEST, and the hope!

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BEATLETOT 10/26/2014 8:34AM

    Very sweet kid! Glad sometimes apples do fall further from their trees!

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DRAGON-CHICK 10/26/2014 8:31AM

    Nice!!

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RIDLEYRIDER 10/26/2014 8:31AM

  Out of the mouths of babes....it would have made my day!

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A Lesson In Perseverance

Saturday, October 25, 2014

My grand daughter ran in the state elementary school cross country meet this morning. She was in the top 3 finishers at her school so they put her on a bus and sent her 100 miles to the east to compete against a whole bunch of other kids in 3rd, 4th and 5th grade.

Yesterday at gymnastics practice she hit her shin against the balance beam and got a pretty nasty bruise, but she ran this morning.

When I talked to her a few minutes ago she was disappointed that she didn't place higher. But she finished. That's what was important to her. She committed to something, started it and completed it and yes............. it was painful and difficult but she crossed the finish line.

We can wax the eloquent all we want about winners and losers and all that garbage.

Successful people know that the small victories that come from finishing what they start and no, there won't always be a ribbon or a trophy but there will always be the knowledge that what we achieved, we earned and it wasn't handed to us just because we were created.

There will always bruises and challenges in our lives. If we're successful people then we will keep going and not stop along side the road because it hurts.

Thats where real winning is born.

  
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MORTICIAADDAMS 10/26/2014 8:20PM

    She is definitely a winner!

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JANIEWWJD 10/26/2014 12:29AM

    That's the way we build character!!! Congratulations to your granddaughter!!!
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NASFKAB 10/26/2014 12:10AM

  great job granddaughter she has leaned a lot from grandfather, all the best

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CARTOONB 10/25/2014 10:03PM

    Congratulations to your DGD for finishing!!! That is fantastic!!

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DWSCHUYLER 10/25/2014 8:43PM

    What a great life lesson to learn at such a young lesson. Plus to have such a grandfather. Lucky granddaughter! emoticon

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    That is wonderful for your GD to have finished that race and to have not given up! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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DRAGON-CHICK 10/25/2014 2:16PM

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TRIPLE_EMME 10/25/2014 2:12PM

    Good for her! She is a wise soul.

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DEBRITA01 10/25/2014 2:09PM

    You can see the determination in her face...WTG!

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ONEKIDSMOM 10/25/2014 1:48PM

    emoticon to your granddaughter. She's learning valuable lessons now.

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DEE797 10/25/2014 1:47PM

    Love her attitude! AWESOME! emoticon

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LOVINGKATE 10/25/2014 1:46PM

  Your granddaughter is being raised by two very great parents. She is already a winner in my book. Lessons learned. What a beautiful young lady grandpa. We as adults could learn from her as well.

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    good for her!!! emoticon emoticon

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HEALTHIER-VICKI 10/25/2014 1:41PM

    emoticon emoticon As far as I'm concerned she was still a real winner.

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SANDRALEET 10/25/2014 1:24PM

    One of the hardest lesson to learn is we will not win everything When we did our best that is okay Getting ready for life Main thing to teach kids

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This Is a Novel Approach...........

Sunday, October 19, 2014

I am not sure where I heard or read the following story but I thought it was worth sharing.

There is a community of people in the South Pacific who handle mistakes made by a member by placing them in the center of the circle. Community members then take turns citing all the good and positive things the person has done in their life so they'll forget their mistakes and move on.

Pretty cool, huh?

  
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DEE797 10/25/2014 1:48PM

    What a great idea!

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JANIEWWJD 10/21/2014 12:47AM

    I love that!!!! We should all have our own circle in our homes and in our communities!!!! God bless you and have a great day tomorrow!!!!
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PEGGY11 10/20/2014 8:49PM

    We should be our own circle by looking in a mirror and saying positive things to ourselves so we can put our mistakes behind us and move on.

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LOVINGKATE 10/20/2014 12:31PM

  YES, pretty Darn cool!!! Have a great Monday.

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BAMAJAM2 10/20/2014 11:15AM

  haha--- Yep, pretty cool indeed!
__ And I thought that you were gonna say everyone started throwing rocks at 'em-LOL
Have a Happy Day!

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SANDRALEET 10/20/2014 8:16AM

    Sure is

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NASFKAB 10/20/2014 12:26AM

  what a lovely approach thanks for sharing John

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WORLDSERIES11 10/19/2014 11:47PM

    nice! great idea!!

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REGILIEH 10/19/2014 10:08PM

    WOW!!! How wonderful!

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46SHADOW 10/19/2014 10:05PM

    Yah. that's cool!

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CARTOONB 10/19/2014 9:21PM

    Want to be in a circle? I can tell you how awesome you are!!

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DIASTER 10/19/2014 7:34PM

  Love that idea. Sure would do the whole world some good.

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BA5454 10/19/2014 7:31PM

    What a positive approach!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 10/19/2014 7:20PM

    Total love it and I have actually had something like this happen to me. I was in the figuratively in the circle and people did just that to me. It was a very humbling experience and helped me to realize that people appreciated the effort I put out on their behalf more than I realized. It was always easy to pass on the empathy.

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 10/19/2014 7:03PM

    I've heard of that; I think it's pretty awesome!

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ONEKIDSMOM 10/19/2014 6:54PM

    VERY cool!

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WATERMELLEN 10/19/2014 6:26PM

    That's a pretty good description of the Spark People community, don't you think? People come here mourning their dietary mistakes and the community members point out all the stuff they're doing right!!! Our circle is the internet . . .

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DRAGON-CHICK 10/19/2014 6:26PM

    Nice!

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