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On Being Thankful

Thursday, November 27, 2014

I'd like to tell you that I am grateful and thankful each and every day of my life for all the blessings I've received over the past 61.5 years but if I did I'd be telling you a bald faced lie.

Maybe I should amend that statement and say that I'm not consciously grateful and thankful. It sorta hums in the back ground. I dont participate in those thankfulness challenges. I've always felt that if I have to think about 30 things I am thankful for I'd be making a third of them up just to fill the space.

My wife of 40+ years my 6 kids, my 2 grand kids and even the d**n dogs add dimension and great joy to my life and I don't believe I could love them much more.

I'm alive, relatively healthy and have food in my belly.

Thanks to the wonders of the internet I have millions of friends all over this world of ours that are unique special and loving, each in their own way and I cherish them.

I could go on and on.

I guess it takes a special day here in the USA for me to pause and be conscious of everything I have. So I believe I will.

I'll leave you with a quote or rather a prayer that Lionel Barrymore's said in the movie You Can't Take it With You:

"Well, Sir, we've been getting along pretty good for quite a while now, and we're certainly much obliged. Remember, all we ask is to just go along and be happy in our own sort of way. Of course we want to keep our health but as far as anything else is concerned, we'll leave it to You."

Enjoy your day

  
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SNOOPYLINKOS 11/28/2014 8:38AM

    I like the quote. I am not an organized prayer person, so I like the casual honesty. Thanks for the thoughtful blogs throughout the year,

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CARTOONB 11/27/2014 7:38PM

    Happy Thanksgiving John. I like your honesty!!

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TRIPLE_EMME 11/27/2014 7:32PM

    Happy Thanksgiving, John!

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SLIMLEAF 11/27/2014 4:48PM

    Hello John

Happy Thanksgiving!

from one of your million cyber friends.

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ONEKIDSMOM 11/27/2014 4:16PM

    Happy Thanksgiving however you choose to celebrate it! I do the one a day on FB status thing... and I got started by another sister... MOBYCARP gives me credit but it was not original with me. I, too, struggle sometimes, especially because November includes some significant dates that are anniversaries of unpleasant and tragic things in the lives of several of my FB friends (November 5, 2009, especially). Sensitivity to the painful memories and STILL finding things to be grateful for, genuinely grateful for, as opposed to "making something up" can be a challenge.

Whatever works... and I love that movie quote!

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MOBYCARP 11/27/2014 3:46PM

    YMMV, but I have found a gratitude exercise to be a helpful spiritual discipline.

The one I do is the Facebook November Gratitude Month thing. You post one thing you are thankful for, each day in November. No repeats are allowed, but it doesn't matter how small or insignificant the one thing is on any given day. I picked up on this when my sister ONEKIDSMOM was doing it, during a time when I needed to think about what I was thankful for.

The first year, I struggled to find things in the second half of the month. A couple years later, I struggled to find things I was willing to post publicly. Another year, and I struggled to pick which thing I was most thankful for. This year, the struggle is to not make it repetitive, as many of the things I am most thankful for are closely related.

But it's not about the struggle to sound good. It's about the change in me from going through the exercise. When I started, I was very definitely a glass half empty kind of guy. Over time, with this discipline (and others, but let's just think about this one right now), I realized that I no longer saw the glass as half empty. I started seeing it as three quarters full.

It's that same attitude of gratitude thing I'm sure you've heard of. I no longer see very much bad weather, and I see a lot of beautiful weather. But the actual weather has not changed. The guy in the next office over may see a lot more yucky weather and a lot less beautiful weather than I do, but it's the same weather.

THBS, perhaps gratitude lists are not for you. Certainly putting 30 things together all at once is not for me. But listing one thing a day, for thirty days . . . I can do that. It has been helpful for me.

YMMV.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/27/2014 2:27PM

    Have a great Thanksgiving!!

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HEALTHIER-VICKI 11/27/2014 1:00PM

    Hope you and yours have a blessed day today with much joy.
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PEGGY11 11/27/2014 11:19AM

    You are so right. We should stop and be grateful for what we have and are. Things could always be worse. We woke up on the right side of the sod, so a good start to our day. Be thankful .

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COLOR-BLUE 11/27/2014 10:55AM

    John,

I'm thankful for each day that God allows me to see and I thank Him each day for a day never promised to me. That's His gift to me each day, I wake.

I wasn't always like this, I was like you, just having it hum in the back of my mind, and when the special occasions came, I would voice my thanks, to God, sometimes. But on September 7, 2012, that all changed. I was in a bad car accident and spent 6 months in the hospital. Then, I spent the next 18 months at home learning how to take care of myself again, as well as walking. God showed up and showed out for me all that time, and I grew so much closer to Him, and I still feel that way! I went from the surgeon saying that he was going to have to cut my leg off, and I told him off, to God working through him and my leg was saved. Yes, I have 15 lbs. of stainless steel in there, but I CAN WALK! SOMETIMES I JOG! God by His Grace saved me from dying in the accident, and looking at the pictures of the car, it literally was by His Grace that I survived. I'll never have enough words to thank God, so I just thank the Holy Spirit for interpreting my groans, silences and cries to God.

GOD IS EVER SO FAITHFUL and I try my best to be EVER SO FAITHFUL TO HIM!

Blessings!

- Nancy Jean -
GA

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TRISTAROSE 11/27/2014 10:25AM

    Great blog! Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family!

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AHAPPYSPIRIT 11/27/2014 8:40AM

    Happy Thanksgiving & God's Blessings on your day! Have a most Blessed day as you gather together and celebrate with your Family and Friend's... I love your Blog. Thanks

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KMICHA 11/27/2014 8:02AM

    Perfect! Happy Thanksgiving John!

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NASFKAB 11/27/2014 7:58AM

  lovely blog thanks for sharing

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Right Here, Right Now

Monday, November 24, 2014

"You are free to believe what you choose, and what you do attests to what you believe."

Just between me, you and the gate post I hate reading that line. It pops up in my morning reading 3 or 4 times a year. Maybe Jesus said it better:

"By their fruits you shall know them."

Honestly when I read that I want to cringe.

I had a good breakfast this morning: Egg white omelet with lo fat cheese and a waffle. Drank 2 bottles of water. Had just finished a half hour work out. I was so d**n proud of myself that I reached across the table and scarfed down a donut.

Five minutes later I felt miserable and I don't mean guilty. I mean physically miserable. My tummy was bouncing, my head hurt. Oye. ......... sugar rush at 6:30 AM

I'm 100% accountable. Those donuts didn't break in last night while we slept. It's on me.

Look, I am all for goals and collages and vision boards and stuff like that. I embrace patience. But I can lull myself into a false sense of reality when that nasty little voice says

"Well that's a ways off. Be patient."

Maybe for me and many others those goals have to be broken down into daily increments and on my virtual calender I paste a beaming smiley face when I make it through a day. H**l, some days it may even be hourly.

Patience is a virtue and necessary for long term survival but so is looking at the right here and right now and seeing what has to change so you can be around long enough to survive.

Now if you'll excuse me I'm going to stand on the front porch and let the wind try to coax me out of my sugar coma.

  
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JANIEWWJD 11/26/2014 11:57PM

    That's what we all need to do; make ourselves accountable!!! I loved your blog and your sense of humor!!!! Keep smiling my friend!!!!

Have a blessed Thanksgiving Day tomorrow and may God bless you and your family!!!!
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HEALTHIER-VICKI 11/26/2014 5:00PM

    At least you accepted what you did and can move on. Next meal you be a little more careful and it all balances out. There are going to be days when we're going to be tested at every turn. But we'll get there. emoticon

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BAMAJAM2 11/26/2014 1:05PM

  Hi John---

I think that some days the temptations do come hourly-- Ha!

I am finally a "recovered" donut addict. In recent months a donut shop opened near our home, and I called it the "devil's workshop"...and I have no inclination to visit there!
In fact, I think an appropriate logo for the shop would be ---- a red devil holding a pitchfork, with a donut attached to each prong of that pitchfork! At least this is the visual that I have in my mind.. HaHa---
Sooo- John, I'll pass this along so you can envision this image for the next temptation----

Thanks for your wonderful blogs, and HAPPY THANKSGIVING to you and yours!

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LOVINGKATE 11/26/2014 12:29PM

  We all slip-up, it's what we do after the fact. Beating ourselves up over it will not do us any good. Take a deep breath and move on with all intentions of doing better.
I love your blogs John, you are so honest and that is a very good thing. We are all here for the same reason, to lose weight and we all will slip but then we must get back up and on board. emoticon emoticon emoticon keep going, you're doing great.
Thanks so much for sharing. HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!!

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AJDOVER1 11/25/2014 7:04PM

    Fresh air is a pretty good antidote for an unwise choice. Breath deep and move on!
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1STBUCKETITEM 11/25/2014 4:20PM

  emoticon John, we have all succumbed to the "sugar coma" one time or another. emoticon I remember eating too many donuts and actually getting sick. emoticon Believe it or not, I didn't touch another doughnut for over a year now. If I choose to indulge in the future I will emoticon after ONE! That's a big IF I choose to have one again. emoticon

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SNOOPYLINKOS 11/25/2014 7:25AM

    Been there. Mine is that darn peanut butter jar. How did it jump onto the counter again? And then I have to taste it, to make sure it isn't going bad. Right? Hourly awards? Not a bad idea some days. Thanks!

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NASFKAB 11/25/2014 12:18AM

  great thought provoking blog in my case its not doughnuts but sugar other junk just have to be alert

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CARTOONB 11/24/2014 9:51PM

    Donuts don't break into my house either. Cookies? Chips? Yeah...both of those do. I swear I have all the cracks filled in, but they find their way in. Stoopid desserts!!

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CHRISTINEBWD 11/24/2014 9:25PM

    emoticon about the donut making you ill. We've all done our share of eating things that aren't good for us.

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HDHAWK 11/24/2014 7:46PM

    Ugh! I've done the same thing!

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MOBYCARP 11/24/2014 6:19PM

    Yep. It took quite a few of those donut-like episodes for me to learn let the donuts sit. Most of the time, anyway. I still can't claim total success.

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COLOR-BLUE 11/24/2014 6:15PM

    John,

You're not alone. I don't do the sugar thing, but I do chips, crackers, and sometimes, once in a blue moon, a candy bar. I always do really good and all of a sudden, it just happens. There's no rhyme or reason, for it, at all, it just HAPPENS! I roll with the ups and downs and it all evens out, by His Grace! So chin up, what He does for me, He'll do for you!

Blessings!

- Nancy Jean -
GA

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TRISTAROSE 11/24/2014 4:05PM

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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/24/2014 3:17PM

    It's disappointing when the doughnuts sneaks in but I try to remind myself that it isn't one doughnut that is a the problem. It a doughnut every day or more that derails me.

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SRWYLIE 11/24/2014 11:18AM

    One of the "blessings" (if you can call it that) of my accident and subsequent unemployment is that I'm not in an office where the sales reps are always bringing in pastries and donuts. I'm in a lot more control of my eating if I don't have those blasted things calling my name.

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Hang in there, John. I love reading your blog. It's honest, and that's a true blessing. If there's anything to come out of today, let it be the sense memory of how your body felt after you ate that donut. Maybe it can serve as a reminder when temptation comes knocking the next time.

Peace.

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MISSPEACHES3 11/24/2014 11:05AM

    John, you always post good blogs. :o)

I had to give up doughnuts years back. I have a yeast allergy and low blood sugar. I hated to give them up. (Soooo good). I used to drive by the doughnut shop on my way home from work. I would always order 2 doughnuts and sometime the girls at the shop would put in an extra one for me.

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Blessings.

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BOHEMIANCAT 11/24/2014 10:34AM

    I had a doughnut about a month ago and it gave me indigestion. Loved the blog!

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NSCARNEY 11/24/2014 9:24AM

    "I'm just taking it one day at a time. Actually, that's a total lie. I always think about what's in front of me." ~Julianne Hough


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UPSTAIRSMARJ 11/24/2014 9:12AM

    Ugh. Regret can give you heartburn.
It's hard -- this never-ending path of hard little choices that stretches ahead of us. But we're strong, and patient, and honestly? I've never really eaten a donut that's worth the immediate stomach and brain-churn. Not even a hot Krispy Kreme.

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KMICHA 11/24/2014 9:10AM

    Great blog! I was having a steller day yesterday until someone offered me a straight from the oven chocolate chip monster cookie! Did I refuse? Heck no! I can still taste the rich melty chocolate! emoticon

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Wearing Blinders

Thursday, November 20, 2014

Do you know the reason they put blinders on race horses? It's so they don't become distracted or discouraged by the performance of the other horses on the track. They can only see their finish line and run towards it.

Yes, I know, we're not animals but the process bears some examination.

When you are at the gym do you ever find yourself looking at someone who seems to breeze effortlessly through their workout while you are wondering which part of your body may break away and fall off next?

It's tough some days, not to compare ourselves, isnt it?

We live in a culture that encourages us to behave like we are in a pack or herd so it's quite natural to look around us and notice a difference.



I don't know about you but there are times that the small voice in the back of my head will start to question the sanity of what I'm doing and I have to remind myself of the tortoise and the hair.

If you are of a certain generation you know this story well. It's one of Aesop's Fables. The slow moving tortoise was challenged by a lightening quick hare to a race. The hare shot out of the starting gate, laughing, gesturing and kicking up a bunch of dust.

The tortoise? Well, the tortoise did what he always did. He moved at a slow and predictable pace. He didn't pay much attention to what was going on around him, he just kept looking at the path ahead. Pretty soon he couldn't even see the hare but that didn't really matter to him. He'd plotted a course or maybe as we say at this time of year 'He made a list and he checked it twice."

Our friend the hare is so confident he stops to nap half way through the journey. when he wakes up he see's the tortoise crossing the finish line ahead of him.

Doing the same thing every day, over and over, without seeing much progress at times, requires faith and patience in yourself and this Spark People process.

When a horse wears blinders during a race it only sees the finish line - Its goal. It doesn't know or even care if it won the race or not. It is only focused on its progress towards its goal.

Not comparing ourselves is a difficult assignment some days but a necessary one. It's why we have each other, Spark People and our own faith and patience.

  
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SLIMLEAF 11/25/2014 12:27PM

    Only just read this but I'm glad I did.

(Oh, and just for interest, we call them 'blinkers' in the UK.)

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 11/23/2014 10:02PM

    definately hard!!

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AHAPPYSPIRIT 11/22/2014 9:12PM

    Great Blog and so true. Thanks for sharing. I admire your focus. emoticon

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NEKOCHARM 11/22/2014 2:57AM

    I like that! And now I'm thinking I could really use a pair of blinders right about now. emoticon

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JANIEWWJD 11/22/2014 12:05AM

    That's right, keep your eyes on the goal!!! Another fabulous blog!! Thank you, you always give us something to think about!!!
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LOVINGKATE 11/21/2014 1:35PM

  emoticon Blog, John. So well put. Have a great Friday. Thanks so much for sharing.

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SNOOPYLINKOS 11/21/2014 7:25AM

    Comparing myself to others always brings out the green demon in me, jealousy. I like your blog and will try today not to compare myself to others. Thanks.

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NASFKAB 11/21/2014 12:13AM

  great thought provoking blog so very true we tend to compare ourselves with others & cant remember that WE ARE IN IT for OURSELVES NOT other

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COLOR-BLUE 11/20/2014 10:25PM

    Nicely put John!

I quite comparing myself to others, when I would try to keep up and kept injuring myself. God told me that we are all uniquely made and not one of us is the same, so therefore, I needed to stop trying to measure up to others, and take a long hard look at me, and when I did, I realized that I'm perfect in God's eyes, and to just keep taking my baby steps, as that's what is getting me to all the GOALS I've set for ME!

Blessings!

- Nancy Jean -
GA

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ONEKIDSMOM 11/20/2014 9:01PM

    Wise words, John. emoticon

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HDHAWK 11/20/2014 7:17PM

    It is tough to keep from comparing ourselves to others but I'm getting better at not doing it. I'm taking it very slow (to standing still) this time around!

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MJZHERE 11/20/2014 4:54PM

    I totally relate to "will start to question the sanity of what I'm doing." In fact, I am going to start journaling to reinforce my "healthy thinking" to fight off those times I just want to throw in the towel and do it any way but the way that will get me to where I truly want to be.

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AJDOVER1 11/20/2014 3:21PM

    How could anyone question the sanity of making healthy choices? I guess I cope differently. I refuse to have the mindset that my life is part of a race.
Best wishes to you!
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1STBUCKETITEM 11/20/2014 2:24PM

  emoticon I'm getting there... emoticon one step at a time! Great blog John! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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WORLDSERIES11 11/20/2014 2:20PM

    great analogy John!
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ANATASHIKI 11/20/2014 1:30PM

    you have a lot of traits where the comparison is hugely in your advantage, don't forget that , why only running faster counts ? emoticon

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NUTSNUTSGETEM 11/20/2014 12:51PM

    "Comparison is the thief of joy." - Theodore Roosevelt

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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/20/2014 10:32AM

    This old turtle is still in the race but I could use a little push from a wind from the right direction occasionally. I'm tired. LOL.

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BROOKLYN_BORN 11/20/2014 10:08AM

    As the "queen of the tortoises" I really get it.

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TRISTAROSE 11/20/2014 9:46AM

    Great blog .... Thank You John!

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BEATLETOT 11/20/2014 9:04AM

    What a beautiful analogy, John! Thank you!!!

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Staying the Same Isn't a Bad Thing

Tuesday, November 18, 2014

I didn't lose any weight last week but I didn't gain any weight either.

A few years ago this would have devastated me, but it dawned on me that I was looking at it through a "glass half empty" mind set. I did SOMETHING right this past week because if I hadn't been careful what went in my mouth or managed to do something that resembled exercising I would have gained weight.

Patience is the most arduous virtue. I should know. It took me 61 years to even be in the same room with it!

Lemme share 2 stories about John learning patience.

A few years ago I dropped a ton of weight, ran a few 5k's, exercised regularly and got within 12 pounds of my goal weight. Then my internal mechanism put on the brakes. Everything stopped. I stayed the same, lost a pound, gained a pound. The needle on the scale didn't vacillate much. So I did what I always do. I rationalized that I wasn't trying hard enough. I ate less, worked out more, pushed myself harder and................. sustained an injury that sidelined me for a good year.

Guess what happened? Yeah, all the weight came back plus about 5 pounds I hadn't been introduced to in the past. Frustrating? Uh huh. So I compensated and tried to get it all back in a month or so. It didnt work out very well

What I learned was that when my body came close to reaching it's goal it began to slow down so it could adjust to all these changes I'd put it through. If I'd been a bit patient, my body would have eventually told my mind that it had caught up and we could go at it once again.

Lesson learned.

Story 2:

I suggest to all my coaching clients, whether it be life coaching, career coaching or small business coaching that they begin the practice of meditation to help quiet their innards (A technical term, lol) and help them gain some focus. Inevitably I am met with the same reason for not meditating:

"Oh, John, I've tried that and it's not for me, dude. I cant concentrate long enough to get any value from it."

"How many times have you attempted to do it?"

"Oh, maybe 3 or 4."

They are correct. You don't begin to reap the full benefit of meditation for at least a month. during that time your mind wanders, it gets distracted, you get frustrated and eventually decide this works for everyone else but not for you. I've been meditating for over 20 years and I can tell you that sometimes there are two days per week where I am , uhm........ "Out to Lunch." (Another technical term,lol)What I've learned to say is "This too shall pass."

I didnt gain this week and I didnt lose this week and next Tuesday presents another opportunity to asses my progress. If everything stays the same I'll remind myself that

This too shall pass

  
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LORIVIOLA 11/28/2014 9:59AM

    Wow! This is emoticon
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i needed this!

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AMARILYNH 11/27/2014 3:47PM

    Awesome blog - and SOOOO very true!!

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MRSRIGS1 11/26/2014 5:01PM

    emoticon emoticon for sharing your experiences!

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MZANGELFACE 11/25/2014 8:38AM

    Thanks for this post.

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LINDAS5004 11/24/2014 8:41PM

  Thanks John! I am within 10 lbs of my goal & I'm doing the same thing. I think I'll ease up.

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    emoticon emoticon Have a super week! You have the positive attitude to make this a success! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MOMMY445 11/23/2014 3:18PM

    so well said,John

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ELLENVAUGHN 11/23/2014 12:48PM

  Thank you

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CALGIRL80 11/23/2014 11:27AM

  Great view. Love your positive attitude

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    Great blog! emoticon

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HIDDENMIZARY 11/22/2014 2:32PM

    I'm glad you have wrote this. It helps those of us in a slump.

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LINFHALL 11/22/2014 12:51PM

    Great post and reminder. I've been on plan this week, worked out and even completed my first 5 k running, but I gained 1.5 pounds. I need to just step back and remember that I have achieved my goals this week and not worry about a number.

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GRLTAZ 11/22/2014 12:18PM

    Excellent. needed this today. Thanks !

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BURNINGTHYME101 11/22/2014 12:05PM

    I can use this post. Thank you.

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CHERYLE51 11/22/2014 12:03PM

    You are so right. I totally understand about not losing. You feel like you did a lot of work and the end result is not what you expected.

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TIFFFIT 11/22/2014 9:26AM

    Great advice and insight. I'm a "daily weigh-in" gal because it helps me to see the highs and lows every day. When I tried weekly weighing I got discouraged because the amount of weight I expected to lose in a week is easily within the normal variant for any given day. Weighing daily has taught ME patience. Sometimes I go up and down for several days before I see a real downward pattern but I've learned that...this too shall pass.
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DIAMOND102 11/21/2014 11:33PM

    Great blog!!! Patience and meditation hand in hand. I believe it works and I wjll continue to do them both. "Wait until my. Brain catch with my body."

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LOVINGME1966 11/21/2014 8:44PM

    Thanks John for a great blog! emoticon

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ACHIEVECHI 11/21/2014 2:58PM

    You just articulated something that made me have a light bulb moment! The body sometimes stalls so that mind can catch up.
Thank you for explaining it that way to me.

I am not old by any means, but I want to be active well into my 80's. I don't push myself beyond walking much (even tho I've completed a marathon) because I don't want injuries. I want something sustainable for all my life.

Thank you for your blog!

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NORMAINIRELAND 11/21/2014 1:16PM

    Love this post :)

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    Thanks a bunch! emoticon emoticon
You've done well and I commend you for that!!! emoticon

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DAAPGAR25 11/21/2014 9:30AM

  i just joined and your words are very helpful. Thank you.

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GREAT! blog!!

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CFMOSS 11/21/2014 7:52AM

    Figuring out how to keep going.....Thank you....needed that today.

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COLOR-BLUE 11/20/2014 10:18PM

    You are so correct that staying the same isn't bad! However, I don't believe we stay the same. The scale may show the same number, but there are many other ways, that we can benefit. Reaching other goals that were laid out, having more energy, more stamina, and just even having more gumption (a technical word, LOL) to just get up and MOVE! So it doesn't always stay the same, as each day is a new and different day that has never been promised to us!

Blessings!

- Nancy Jean -
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WHITEANGEL4 11/20/2014 10:05PM

    Just keep moving forward as you are a winner

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907NANA 11/20/2014 8:00PM

    Thanks John. Needed to hear this.

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DAVENPLK 11/20/2014 7:39PM

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LYNMEINDERS 11/20/2014 6:41PM

    Go John......
Haven't seen you for some time however I am sure you have been here...
Great to see you again and brilliant blog as usual....

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CHEBBA 11/20/2014 6:41PM

    Did you creep into my head and write my own, finally learned and accepted knowledge? A couple of years older than you, a lifetime of yoyo dieting and countless disappointments, much self-loathing and guilt… woohoo, I finally 'got it'! I tried to circumvent things, find my own get-slim-quick regime…. but they never worked. All those wasted years spent not listening or facing the unvarnished but simple truth - to say nothing of wasting a LOT of money! There are no short cuts, no magic pills, just plain old eating responsibly, tracking, moving more and engaging in nutrition for health and longevity, with the weight loss almost as a second priority.

Weight issues are brain/head/mind issues which simply manifest themselves between the neck and the ankles! Get the head bit right and everything else follows. Without that, all these other wonder diets will never work. Any weight-loss diet works if you stick at it - but unless your head is ''in the right place', the loss will never be maintained. And here is the key, which you have echoed with my own conviction: for anyone who has struggled with obesity for a long time, whether or not goal has been reached or the journey is only part way through, simply staying the same weight is FANTASTIC!! Learning to turn previously entrenched negatives into positives is a powerful adjustment to make and we are all the better for it. So, staying the same and not putting weight back on is a triumph not to be ignored.

Let's hear it for staying the same weight and enjoying the pause without feeling anything other than a euphoric sense of achievement! WOOHOO!

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SLIMLEAF 11/20/2014 6:15PM

    Hello John - remember me?
Sorry I haven't been in touch for such an age.
I hope you're keeping well.
Best wishes
Lindsay

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AMBER461 11/20/2014 6:07PM

  Well said, thanks for sharing.

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JIBBIE49 11/20/2014 3:53PM

    I've been a Sparker for seven years now and I've not gotten to my goal, but I've never been back up to that horrible 214# that I was when I started, so I always think I'm a success since I didn't regain the weight. If I hadn't stayed here all these years, I'd probably be about 314# by now. So staying the same for awhile isn't a bad thing.

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JUNEAU2010 11/20/2014 3:36PM

    I love the calm level-headedness of this blog! Well done!

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SUNGIRL822 11/20/2014 3:36PM

  Keep going :)

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UPSTAIRSMARJ 11/20/2014 3:19PM

    Great post! Thank you for that reminder. Rome wasn't built in a day!

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PROPMAN1 11/20/2014 2:50PM

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ARTJAC 11/20/2014 2:24PM

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1STBUCKETITEM 11/20/2014 2:21PM

  emoticon I'm getting there... emoticon one step at a time! Great blog John! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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HUNNI55 11/20/2014 2:00PM

    Thanks for sharing this insight emoticon

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VANGO79 11/20/2014 12:50PM

    Thanks for sharing and reminding that we have got to let your bodies and minds catch up to each other. Thanks for the technical terms as well! emoticon

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Perceptions and My Health.

Monday, November 17, 2014

It's a scary realization.

It's the moment you discover that most of what goes on in your life is about 100 millimeters beyond your control. The things you spend your life working so hard, to lasso, hog tie and stow away have been and always will be elusive.



No, I'm not advocating we give up or anything like that...........

Our knowledge, especially our knowledge of ourselves is what helps us react to the situations we find ourselves involved in.



I can relate!!! I'd weight a svelte 160 pounds, have a full head of hair and exercise daily if all you people who keep getting in my way, just did and lived the way I wanted you to live!!!



What I can control and struggle mightily to control is my reaction to the things around me that usually propel me towards negative or self destructive behavior. My reaction is 100?% on me.

I know what you may be thinking. Yes, we are all creatures of our upbringing and environment and our reactions were conditioned long ago.......... None are or were worse than mine.

Change them!

If the people you hang with, run with, associate with.......... whatever....... don't life you up then find people who do. I have started over a hundred times and will keep starting over until I get it right.

Do I get discouraged? All the time
Do I want to give up? Daily.

I dont

Do you?

  
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1TOBFIT 11/21/2014 9:32PM

    Great Blog ! As someone else already said, I am also too stubborn to give up!
I've started 100 times as well and I will never give up!
We are all worth it and I will deal with the challenges and choices as they come.

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TRIM180 11/19/2014 9:50AM

    Keeping the positive thoughts flowing, I won't give-up or give in to temptation!

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JANIEWWJD 11/18/2014 12:46AM

    I never give up!!! I try to live positively and I try to remember that no matter what I go through, there are always people worse off then me. Prayer and my faith help me stay positive and live my life the way I want to live it. God bless you, my friend!!! Stay true to yourself always!!!!
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CARTOONB 11/17/2014 11:03PM

    Not every day.

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HDHAWK 11/17/2014 8:37PM

    Not giving up. I just keep plugging away!

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CHRISTINEBWD 11/17/2014 7:45PM

    No giving up for me here either! i plan on losing weight during the holidays not gaining any. :)

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JSPIN74 11/17/2014 3:30PM

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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/17/2014 11:27AM

    Nope, I'm not giving up. I can't. I have to win. My life depends on it.

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DEBRITA01 11/17/2014 11:12AM

    Each day, we keep moving forward...and learn a bit more along the way. emoticon

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PEGGY11 11/17/2014 9:49AM

    No I will not give up. I slip and slide but I WILL get there.

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LOVINGKATE 11/17/2014 9:38AM

  No!!! I will keep going until I die. Every day is a new day to try your best, so I give it my best shot. God will help me as I give it my best self. Have a great Monday and stay warm.
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HEALTHIER-VICKI 11/17/2014 9:31AM

    I'm too stubborn to give up. I'm half Irish and it's just not in my nature. emoticon

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NASFKAB 11/17/2014 9:26AM

  NO will keep at it till I succeed thanks for sharing

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