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"Where Have You Been"

Wednesday, August 27, 2014

Busy, lol, which has been a good thing and a bad thing.

My mothers condition continues to worsen. Her Alzheimer's is following a natural progression. The medication she was on caused her severe lower intestinal problems plus a severe skin rash, so it was removed about 3 months ago. During that time she has tried to get out of her bed and her wheel chair unassisted and fallen on the floor. They now have her on more monitors then they have at the Pentagon. Her doctor is trying a medication patch which she is hoping slows things down a bit. If it produces the same side effects as the oral medication then, as the doctor puts it, "It wont be long." She has a permanent catheter because of her bladder infections and is confined to a wheel chair because one of her falls caused a broken pelvis. The doctors say that usually when something like that occurs in the elderly it is 6 months to a year before they pass away. I've been trying to spend as much time as I can talking to her because I can tell her memory fades a bit each day and sometimes I think she is not sure who I am.

So that's the bad news.

The good news is I have spent a lot of time on a project in the past few weeks that will be ready on or about September 6. It's consumed a lot of my time and if you care to know more about it drop me a Spark Mail. I'd go into more detail but every time I talk about anything related to my coaching or consulting or writing, someone or a group of someones reports me and then I get one of those nice Spark Mails asking me to refrain from such activities.

I have been exercising regularly and while I have not lost any weight during the past 3 weeks I have not gained any weight either. I am tracking at least two meals daily and am careful not to go too far over board.

Thank you for all of your love and support. Hopefully after next Saturday when my project is finished I'll have more time to blog on a regualr basis.

Keep Sparkin'

I am!!!

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NASFKAB 8/28/2014 12:59AM

  sorry about your Mom its so sad all the best but if you need to vent am there will send you an email soon will spark mail do?

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CARTOONB 8/27/2014 11:58PM

    I don't know what to say. But know that I'm here to listen if that's what you need.

I am intrigued about your project. An e-mail will be sent to you shortly!

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REGILIEH 8/27/2014 11:57PM

    So sorry about your mother!

I believe I have told you before that I see to my 93 year old uncle who has Alzheimer's. My husband and I moved him in with us for a year but then for his own safety we moved him to a facility but he loved being with all the people and is really for his age physically most of the time things are good. He had started to forget how to swallow and would aspirate and then get pneumonia but thankfully it has been over a year since that happened. He still loves to dance and is a sweetheart. I know it must be so heartbreaking for you and your family. My father-in-law died with it too but he did not last as long and got very combative at the end, I so hope my uncle does not do that. It is such a horrible disease.

I'm excited about your project and will look forward to finding out about it.


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HDHAWK 8/27/2014 10:53PM

    I'm sorry to hear about your mom John. I went through the same with my former FIL. I haven't been here much either with the beginning of the school year I've been swamped too. That and having a brand new grandson takes a little more of my time. My son gets married on the 6th so that will be a good day for both of us.

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 8/27/2014 9:31PM

    I'm sorry about everything with your mom. My family went through that with my gramdpa, and now with my grandma as well. I'm doing the Alzheimer's walk again this year to help raise money for research.

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TATTER3 8/27/2014 9:21PM

    So sorry about your mother. That's such a frustrating thing to deal with . Glad you have talents to distract. Be blessed and keep Sparkin'!

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Sometimes I Think This is all I Need on My Bulletin Board

Thursday, August 21, 2014

Thats a heck of a challenge, dont you think?

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AJDOVER1 8/22/2014 11:44PM

    great thought. Thanks for this

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CARTOONB 8/22/2014 10:59PM

    That is a good thing to consider.

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LOVINGKATE 8/22/2014 3:15PM

  It sure is!! But I love it. Thanks for sharing John. Have a great weekend. emoticon emoticon Hot and humid this weekend for us here in MN.

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 8/22/2014 1:42AM

    It is! But it's great!

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ONEKIDSMOM 8/21/2014 8:57PM

    LOVE it! Thanks!

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WORLDSERIES11 8/21/2014 2:52PM

    emoticon emoticon

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GIRANIMAL 8/21/2014 1:34PM

    Oooh, particularly poignant for me right now. That might be the best parenting advice I've ever heard! Thanks, BFF. emoticon

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CHRISTINEBWD 8/21/2014 1:25PM

    emoticon I try :)

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TRISTAROSE 8/21/2014 10:08AM


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    I agree but I also think I think I may be pretty close to that person. At least I'm doing something right. Now if only I were thinner and in better health. LOL.

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NASFKAB 8/21/2014 9:07AM

  very true

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IFDEEVARUNS2 8/21/2014 8:52AM

    Quite the challenge! But one you can meet head-on.

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JCLJR4547 8/21/2014 8:24AM

  so true

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Anything You Set Your Mind Too

Wednesday, August 20, 2014

This blog is part insight and part bragging.

Grandfathers have a right to do those sorts of things.

My 9 year old grand daughter was accepted into the youth choral group in the city she lives in. It's one of those deals where her mom got a call yesterday that said: "We have an opening. If she wants an audition she needs to be here at such-and-such a time. Her and 12 other children.

My son called last night to tell us she was accepted. I was a it puzzled. I don't recall her ever singing at school or even in the shower for that matter.

"You're right dad." He said. It's just something she decided she wanted to do.

Bragging alert

The child is in 4th grade. She is in the advanced academic program, master swim group, is a brown belt in Tae Kwan Do, leads her girl scout troop in badges, has run three 5k's with her mom and now is in a local choral group.

I am proud and humbled both at the same time because as I sit back and watch her I see someone who quite simply hasn't learned to create barriers in her life.

If she wants it she goes for it simply because no one has ever told her to expect to be disappointed, or lose, or fail. It's not in her vocabulary. She will readily tell you that she is a "nerd." and giggle. she says all her friends are also.


you are who you hang around with

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AJDOVER1 8/20/2014 11:48PM

    very sweet

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CARTOONB 8/20/2014 11:14PM

    Tell your DGD congrats from me. Very cool - and she is a spiritual leader too!

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WORLDSERIES11 8/20/2014 2:08PM

    emoticon emoticon

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BOHEMIANCAT 8/20/2014 1:00PM

    emoticon Nerds are the greatest! I am one too.

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NASFKAB 8/20/2014 9:57AM

  Awesome news you must be so proud of her

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LOVINGKATE 8/20/2014 9:40AM

  emoticon John. You have every right to brag. I sure would. You are very proud and you are entitled to that. She has awesome parents and one awesome grandpa.
You are who you hang with is such a great quote and a very true one. I hang with emoticon and that is so emoticon . Thanks so much for sharing. God bless. emoticon

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REGILIEH 8/20/2014 9:39AM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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    She sounds wonderful. My son was the same way. Congratulations!

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THELORELAI 8/20/2014 8:55AM

    emoticon I love it!

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SANDRALEET 8/20/2014 8:11AM

    Yes she is a exceptional child I had one that all had a extremely high I Q now he is an inverter

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SNOOPYLINKOS 8/20/2014 8:08AM

    Sounds like you did a good job raising her father! Your granddaughter sounds amazing! Must be a family trait.

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ONEKIDSMOM 8/20/2014 7:49AM

    "you are who you hang around with "

I'm so glad I hang around Spark, and folks like YOU! emoticon

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JANET552 8/20/2014 7:45AM

    She sounds wonderful!!! I love to hear about girls who are fearless.

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I Lost Track of the Day's.......... Perception

Wednesday, August 13, 2014

I'm not going to number my blogs anymore. Once you get passed 5 or 6 you start losing track of the days............

Whats your first reaction to this picture?

It's interesting that over 70% percent of the people who saw this photo initial reaction was a negative one - mine included. Maybe it was an illness or injury or death. A severe economic disaster? The hands are folded and the fingers pointing towards heaven, perhaps in a prayer that begins, "Dear God, you have to help me......" (Been there done that, on a regular basis I might add.)

But what if...........

The phone rings in 15 minutes and a client wants to pay me a boat load of money for a seminar? Joan has a super interview this afternoon on a job she has been after for a long time? What if I start sprouting hair?

"Living with something I didn't plan...."

Should it have a happy face beside it to add an alternative meaning?

Maybe those hands are folded together and behind them a head is bowed in Thanksgiving.

It is all a matter of perception, what we expect and how we expect it to impact our lives. No, I'm not a bloomin' idealist but the longer I live and the more I see, the more I realize that my life is simply a matter of how I see it and react towards it.

So I thought that was interesting and I wanted to share it with you because it caused me to stop and think.

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GIRANIMAL 8/21/2014 1:37PM

    Is that a little road between the hands? All about the journey!

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IFDEEVARUNS2 8/18/2014 9:33AM

    We see what we expect to see.

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AJDOVER1 8/14/2014 1:22PM

    I agree that counting the days doesn't seem to apply to your situation. For me it works well for very specific black/white things, like not drinking alcohol. It's been more than 5 or 6 days, but I'm not losing track. For vague things like healthy living, there's too much gray area. It is all about perception -- if you feel going about what you're doing, it's all good.

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MOBYCARP 8/13/2014 8:37PM

    Given the caption, I saw the hands as swollen and probably in pain . . . and a bold statement that anything can be lived with. I'd say that I had a positive reaction, but saw "something I didn't plan" as a challenge.

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CARTOONB 8/13/2014 8:31PM

    Only 70% negative? Would have thought more.

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CHRISTINEBWD 8/13/2014 1:47PM

    I think those hands are about to sign "open" in sign language. :)

Honestly, I have found that people like being around positive people and people who see things in a positive way. I strive to be as positive as possible.

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WORLDSERIES11 8/13/2014 1:17PM

    Thanks, gives me something to think about...or actually to re-think how I see things:)

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MORTICIAADDAMS 8/13/2014 11:44AM

    I needed this today. I'm exhausted, discouraged, and depressed and need to change how I see things.

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PEGGY11 8/13/2014 11:22AM

    I felt that those hands were holding something precious and fragile because it is not a tight hold.

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REGILIEH 8/13/2014 11:06AM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LOVINGKATE 8/13/2014 10:20AM

  Good morning John. When I saw this photo I thought of a person who, for the first time, was praying and discovering Christ for the first time. The longer you look at the photo, you can come up with many a thoughts. Thanks so much for sharing. Enjoy your Wednesday. emoticon

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NASFKAB 8/13/2014 9:47AM

  great blog love it

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SANDRALEET 8/13/2014 9:44AM

    Those hands are holding on to something Have to let go

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UKNOWITNOW 8/13/2014 9:40AM

  Thanks for sharing emoticon

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