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14 Years Sober Today! :)

Thursday, July 24, 2014

I wish I had documented my sobriety journey. What a fool I was not to. It could've helped me today with my sweets addiction.

I remember the first year though, I spend a lot of time in the library, reading up on sobriety and autobiographies of people who were sharing their sobriety journey.

One book I will never forget, it was by Susan Powter (the "Stop the Insanity" girl), the name of the book was "Sober and Staying That Way". It was a great help to me for some reason.

I also remember joining an AOL group "Women in Sobriety" but after a few weeks, I found that it was detrimental reading about failure after failure. I was still too vulnerable to read that.

The hardest was visiting relatives. I had one who kept asking me (every few minutes) are you sure you don't want a drink? He stopped after my husband scolded him in front of everyone! emoticon

Once in the beginning of my journey, I tried the alcohol free wine, I was thrilled to have found it, until I read the label and found out that it still had alcohol in it, I believe it was 0.5%. So, I dumped the bottle and stayed away from beverages that "stated" alcohol free.


Do I still think about drinking? Yes!

Especially in social events or when I'm really stressed, but I think of how far I've come and it's just not worth it.

I have a relative who doesn't believe I'm in sobriety, and I have to thank this person because "that" alone keeps me going! emoticon





Now, if I can only put all that I've learned about quitting alcohol to quitting sweets-I would be in paradise! emoticon emoticon emoticon



  
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_BABE_ 7/27/2014 2:52PM

    emoticon Congratulations!

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KFQUILTER 7/25/2014 10:23PM

    Congratulations. Dont stress about sweets. You accomplished a big thing. Here, and sweets should be easier. We are here for you.

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JANISMKW 7/24/2014 10:34PM

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I haven't shared this on SP before, but you've got 4 years on me.
I was 10 years sober on 7/12/14. I am blessed never to think of it, my obsession was lifted from me.
AA is the best.
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DIVINEPRINCESS 7/24/2014 8:31PM

    Big congrats on 14 years of sobriety. emoticon emoticon

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1HAPPYSPIRIT 7/24/2014 6:28PM

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1CRAZYDOG 7/24/2014 5:42PM

    Very proud of your 14 yrs. sober. That's an awesome achievement.

That takes an awful lot of courage and determination to deal with stopping the behavior. You are a very strong person!

((((HUGS))))

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JUST_BRENDA 7/24/2014 5:34PM

    Wow, Julia, you've done so very well! That's 5100 days of sobriety and you've earned pride for every single day! I know you are humble but that is truly an accomplishment to celebrate (even if it is with sweets).
Please don't be so hard on yourself about the sweets... it's okay to have treats... from the little I know about you it doesn't sound like you are out-of-control with it (but maybe striving for perfection or close to it)

Thank you for sharing that inspiring accomplishment!!!
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VTORIA3 7/24/2014 1:10PM

    emoticon Buddy, on your 14 years of sobriety! A wonderful anniversary to celebrate! emoticon emoticon

I am always in great awe of a person that can make such profound changes in one's life. Here's to you today and every day my friend! emoticon emoticon I am in awe of you and you ARE emoticon

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IMEMINE1 7/24/2014 11:48AM

    emoticon and emoticon blog.
Sometimes we switch one addiction for another. Just like quitting smoking where we tend to eat candy or whatever by the ton.
emoticon emoticon You came a long way,baby!
(an old cigarette commercial)
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FISHGUT3 7/24/2014 11:01AM

    Congrats, you are one of the lucky 5%

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ASHLEIGHGAL 7/24/2014 10:12AM

    Congratulations on your amazing milestone!

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What an amazing accomplishment! Congrats!

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AQUA_CAT 7/24/2014 9:09AM

    wow Julia! this is a milestone. You are so worth it too. Thank you for sharing this.

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When Your Spouse Doesn't Care... :(

Monday, July 21, 2014

Everyday I try my best to live a healthier lifestyle. I don't drink or smoke, I avoid sweets whenever possible, I walk every morning, and try to make healthy food choices.

I don't always succeed, (that's for sure) but I keep trying everyday. My motivation is my health, I don't want to go through the misery and pain that my poor parents went through in their golden years. I don't want to be a burden to my only son, either.

My husband, on the other hand, seem to have given up. I am so broken hearted about this. I thought we'd grow old together, and be one of those active couples you see on TV.

But he doesn't seem to care anymore, he eats whatever he wants, drinks beer or wine everyday to "unwind" and doesn't even want to know how much he weighs. His idea of fitness is riding the bike on the weekends, weather permitting.

I've nagged him (of course, that doesn't work) I've shared what I've learned about nutrition and fitness on spark with him, I've bought him books and emailed him articles, and although there's been times when he tries to change his ways, it doesn't last long.

I love this man with all my heart, but I can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped. My only conclusion is to do my best to be a role model for him and my son.

No one can predict the future, and for all you know, I may be the one who ends up needing care in my old age, but I will not get there without a fight!





The journey continues....





Thanks! I just needed to vent! emoticon

Keep pushing! emoticon

  
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JUST_BRENDA 7/24/2014 6:16PM

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I think we need to remember that the only person we can change and tell what to do is ourselves (well, and our children when they are younger but as they hit the teens years they question our direction and even oppose it emoticon )

Be sure to take care of yourself.

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VTORIA3 7/23/2014 1:00AM

    Hi, buddy. I sure share this frustration in my corner of the world, too. My DH weight cycles and has been on a downward trend again for some time. I share the same kind of concerns you have over my spouse's health and wellness. Let's hope something will click inside their brains, soon.

You're doing great never giving up and trying to do what you should with your own health and fitness. Keep up the nice work.

I leave for vacation in just a few hours....I will sleep in the car enroute. I sure need some down time....will take some this trip, but will commit to 4 hrs of client work on Thursday.

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SPARKFRAN514 7/22/2014 8:54PM

    1. Exercise + you = a happy feeling when you are done
have a fun time on the trail and maybe you hubby will see how much you are enjoying your self and how good you look and feel emoticon emoticon

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ALEXSGIRL1 7/22/2014 5:35PM

    I am in same boat as you. my hubby smokes a ton. He eats all kinds of garbage , stops on the way to work because there is none in the house. He cant even walk around the block anymore hip issues we used to hike every weekend when we were first married and even brought the kids. and now he can't. showed him the exercises told him to see a doctor nope. So you and I need to find some friends to lead a healthy life with . Maybe then or someday they will join us. hugs

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ASHLEIGHGAL 7/22/2014 12:32PM

    I agree that the best thing you can do is be the example, he won't make any changes until he's ready. You are doing the best you can do for all three of you in this scenario. emoticon

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IMEMINE1 7/22/2014 12:05PM

    Just keeping making friendly suggestions and lead by example.
Remember, nagging will get you nowhere.
Just be there for him and worry about taking care of yourself.
I'm sure he'll come around when HE"S ready.
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NUOVAELLE 7/22/2014 3:01AM

    "Children may close their ears to advice but they always keep their eyes open to example." I'm sure this quote applies to husbands sometimes, too. So, keep on being a great role model for both of them. Even if it doesn't feel like it, it's your love for them in action. Eventually, they WILL follow in your footsteps, I'm sure of it.
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1CRAZYDOG 7/21/2014 9:34PM

    ((((HUGS)))) Yes, it's so true that saying that you can lead a horse to water but you can't make 'em drink. UGH

I think your approach about teaching by being a role model is exactly what's needed . . . especially for your son.

HUGS

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_BABE_ 7/21/2014 9:32PM

    Be a the great role model, cook good nutritious food and avoid buying junk and maybe it will rub off.
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SEATTLE58 7/21/2014 9:16PM

    I feel like I can ditto what you've said. My husband likes to eat all unhealthy foods too and although I know that he wants me to be healthy and is so proud of all I've done, he still wants me to cook and bake all those unhealthy things. Today I gave in and made those yummy "Hello Dollies" and gave in to the temptation of eating them and feel so guilty after doing it! It's a struggle for me every day and that's why it's feels so good to eat out because we can choose what we each want to eat! So I understand you fully and hope that you feel better because of venting. I feel better because of venting to you! We just have to do the best we can for ourselves and hope the best for the rest of our family. emoticon
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GLORIAMAJDI 7/21/2014 9:11PM

    Julia, I am so sorry you are going through this. I have the same dilemma. My husband is several years younger than I am but he is so unhealthy. He is on BP meds and is very overweight. He drinks no water, eats no veggies, only drinks Mountain Dew or Coke, hardly any fruit and pretty much he only eats fried food (burgers or fried chicken) and pizza. He eat almost a bag of potato chips the other day and then told me that he realized he is a blob and he needs to change. Then he went on to eat Pop-tarts and he had Dunkin' Donuts for breakfast today. We used to go for long walks and hikes together but now he can't. It is heartbreaking because I just had to move on without him. I can't wait forever for him to decide to be healthy. I had to do this for me. Now I am running and he can hardly walk a mile. There isn't an easy answer - just be there to support him when and if he is ever ready to make changes.

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What a Bummer!

Monday, July 07, 2014

I've been getting all these great spark badges and trophies for fitness lately which surprised me a little. I have been walking everyday, I aim for 2-3 miles, but all these trophy popups started appearing and it made me a bit suspicious. emoticon

I went back as far as a week on my fitness tracker and discovered that my Fitbit Ultra has been syncing my minutes twice and even 3 times on a couple of days! emoticon

I'm just glad I discovered this error. Until I can afford a new one again, I will use my old faithful Omron pedometer and track it manually, which I don't mind.

Thank you to all of you who "liked" my fitness statuses! emoticon I appreciate the support regardless!

I have reset my sparkgoals and I'm starting new with my fitness goal!

Fitness Goal for July:
Walk or workout every day. On the days that I can't-I will do at least 10 minutes.

Here's to "your" fitness goals!







  
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JUST_BRENDA 7/24/2014 6:17PM

    Nothing like credit when credit's not due!!! At least you did earn some!

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WIFEALF2 7/12/2014 2:18PM

    great goals!

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IMEMINE1 7/8/2014 5:45AM

    sounds like good goals. emoticon

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VTORIA3 7/7/2014 8:53PM

    Gak! Double, triple minutes.....What in the world! I was trying to keep up with ya.....just couldn't! LOL. What a thing to have happened. Harumph!

Seems like both of our fitness gadgets are out of whack. My SPAT's been out of commission since July 4th .... something wrong at the third party that developed it. Supposed to be fixed by tomorrow and load up the past few days of data. No matter. Been pushing myself to get out there everyday. I just know this is gonna be worth our efforts, buddy o pal of mine!

Let's keep pushing! emoticon

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ALEXSGIRL1 7/7/2014 6:46PM

    love your goals I have a spark tracker that stopped tracking on Thursday hope they fix it soon be nice to see how far I have gone ,

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1CRAZYDOG 7/7/2014 6:23PM

    You still moved, right! So there you have it.

Good luck w/the Omron. HUGS

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GLORIAMAJDI 7/7/2014 5:31PM

    You are still doing good work Julia! Now I am going to check my FitBit and make sure it isn't double counting!

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GROEDER 7/7/2014 2:36PM

    No matter what your tracker says, your body know what you are doing.
Keep up the god work.

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DSHONEYC 7/7/2014 11:08AM

    That's my goal, too. Almost always beat it, too! 10 minutes is not too much to ask for yourself.


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ASHLEIGHGAL 7/7/2014 9:05AM

    Great goal! I have a similar goal, I joined the spark team 10 minutes of exercise a day challenge, its been helping keep me on track with getting at least 10 minutes of exercise 5x a week. You should check it out and see if it would be motivating for you. I try to get in 15-20 minutes of exercise on days I'm not going to the gym and at least 60 minutes on gym days, but I know I can reduce that to 10 if things get crazy with the day and I'm still MEETING my challenge. Its a nice feeling.

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My July Goals!

Tuesday, July 01, 2014

Now that my June events are over, (and it was nice while it lasted) I'm so glad to have my life back! emoticon



My main-July goal is to reinstate my evening snacking "cut-off" time. (That would be 7:30 for me). I have turned my cell's alarm back on to remind me to stop eating for the day.

I plan to walk daily again. (Thank you, Vicki, for the inspiration!) www.sparkpeople.com/mypage.asp?id=VT
ORIA3

She is doing so well with her virtual walking challenge!

I intend to continue to avoid the three major sweets I mentioned in my last blog.
And the hardest one of all, is getting my water in. I take water with me when I walk outdoors, but I have to do better than that.

Ever since I looked at a picture of me from my son's graduation, it has inspired me to do more than I've been doing. It's not just the weight-gain, but how tired I look.

So, eating fruit and/or vegetables everyday and taking my vitamins is a must!

Well, those are my July goals!

Wishing you! emoticon emoticon A Happy Healthy July!



  
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AQUA_CAT 7/4/2014 6:49AM

    I am so happy to see you back! emoticon

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GLORIAMAJDI 7/2/2014 9:52AM

    Can you believe it is already July? Goodness, Christmas will be here in a minute! Good job on getting back on top of things after such a busy month!

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CTUPTON 7/2/2014 6:18AM

    This blog is so motivating! Thank you so much, Julia!


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1CRAZYDOG 7/1/2014 3:33PM

    Good goals! emoticon

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VTORIA3 7/1/2014 12:15PM

    Happy July! Welcome new month of opportunities! You' be set your goals and are charging forward! Thanks for the kudos....I am trying and making dome progress. Since I've managed to stop snacking, my cravings have disappeared. Yay!

July is gonna be a great month for you! You are focused and committed..... Combined with your actions that'll just be powerful!

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IDLETYME 7/1/2014 11:43AM

    And a Happy Healthy July to you too. Your plan looks great and I know you can do it! emoticon emoticon

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DSHONEYC 7/1/2014 10:36AM

    I am on board with you! emoticon

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NUOVAELLE 7/1/2014 10:18AM

    Great and achievable goals! I'm sure you'll look much healthier and energized in your next pictures if you follow your plan.
Happy July!
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Small Steps ~ This Time Around!

Saturday, June 28, 2014

A few sparkfriends have asked me, how I've been able to avoid the sweets for (39) days now?

Well, I have done "no sweets" streaks before, but this time, I decided to do things differently, instead of focusing on streaks, I am just counting the days that I don't eat sweets. I've done streaks before, and it can be a great motivator, but because I have so many events going on this month, 2 birthdays, graduation, anniversary, I didn't want to do anything where I would have to start-over constantly. That would be too discouraging.



Another thing I'm doing differently, is not giving up sweets completely. There are three specific demons that are my biggest temptation and downfall, and those are chocolate peanut butter cups, chocolate mints and kisses. So those are the sweets I'm focusing on abstaining from.

What's amazing is that I have had cake twice this month, and I've been able to have one serving only, that is a big victory for me. Since it's not on my restricted list, I really don't feel like indulging! Isn't that something?


Thank you all for your congrats and wishes on behalf of my son's graduation!

My husband and I were two darn-proud parents on Thursday. emoticon emoticon



I did have a "moment of truth" when I saw myself in the pictures! emoticon I will take it as an added motivator and "try" not to be hard on myself. emoticon



I still have our 19th. Wedding Anniversary coming up on Monday, so July the 1rst., will be my day of re-commitment to a healthier lifestyle!


Enjoy the rest of June! emoticon emoticon

  
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CTUPTON 7/2/2014 6:28AM

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Love the small steps -- big changes

Also abstaining from the problems items --- I think it's true for me too --- there are things I can have in moderation --- and there are things that only lead to more even when consumed in minimal amounts.

Appreciate you verbalizing what I've been thinking myself!

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VTORIA3 6/29/2014 12:04AM

    It is a huge accomplishment to stay away from trigger foods. Kudos to you for only indulging in 1 piece of cake! Keep up the nice work! emoticon

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SLENDERELLA61 6/28/2014 8:07PM

    You are making great progress. I like your counting days -- simpler than the streaks. Good point. Focusing on your demon foods makes a lot of sense, too. Great that you can enjoy some sweets in moderation. Bet it won't be long until moderation is second nature to you!!

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1CRAZYDOG 6/28/2014 8:06PM

    Good philosophy re: the sweets! I think you're right . . . counting the # of successful days vs. a streak would be a whole lot more motivating than starting all over again in this case!

HUGS and good job. Congratulations on your up-coming Anniversary! That's awesome!!!

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IDLETYME 6/28/2014 7:57PM

    You're doing a wonderful job. I don't think anyone should give up sweets. I think they should cut down to an amount that still lets them lose weight but let's them enjoy sweets. You're doing it the right way! emoticon

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AQUA_CAT 6/28/2014 7:42PM

    sure liked hearing from you. i like you innovative ideas. talk to u soon.

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