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August Progress Report :)

Tuesday, September 02, 2014

"By all these lovely tokens
September days are here,
With summer’s best of weather
And autumn’s best of cheer."
- Helen Hunt Jackson, September, 1830-1885

I purposely waited for today to post my August review, because I wanted to be able to announce....

100 DAYS OF NO SWEETS! emoticon

The last 31 days of those 100 were consecutive! emoticon

August was my most successful month so far. I've had more on track days than off. I haven't had a binge-fest in over 2 weeks-that's a big milestone for me! I'm sure that the 31 day-streak of no sweets, has a lot to do with it.

My husband and I haven't had any diet soda the whole month, I'm really proud of him!

I do need to work on...
Water intake. I'm still struggling to get enough water everyday.

September Goals:
Keep tracking my food-no matter what.
No sweets - of course.
Daily exercise.

Wishing you, emoticon success with your September goals!

Let's enjoy what's left of the summer days! emoticon

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WORKNPROGRESS49 9/2/2014 8:25AM


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Robin Williams Tribute

Friday, August 15, 2014

Hello sparkfriends!

I came across this beautiful tribute to Robin Williams and I wanted to share.


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SPARKFRAN514 8/22/2014 7:35PM

    emoticon for sharing a little late but catching up and want to thank you thought i had subscribed to your blogs

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IMEMINE1 8/18/2014 1:43PM


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1CRAZYDOG 8/15/2014 8:57PM

    So much pain behind all that humor. Thank you for sharing this.

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VTORIA3 8/15/2014 8:09PM

    Buddy, this was so touching and beautiful a tribute. Thank you for sharing it.

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IDLETYME 8/15/2014 7:51PM

    Beautiful tribute. I'm sorry that he felt that was the only choice that he had! emoticon

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WORKNPROGRESS49 8/15/2014 3:40PM

    Beautiful emoticon for sharing. RIP Robin Williams

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July Review/August Goals

Sunday, August 03, 2014

I've been battling it for years. They've been times when I was able to go without sweets for months, and other times when I couldn't last more than two days without it.

I'm somewhere in between now, so far I have 70 days of no sweets, it would've been 75, but I gave in to my cravings 5 times in July.

Several friends have suggested that I indulge a little, just one serving as a treat every now and then, but unfortunately that doesn't work for me, one little treat just opens up the sugar-gates.

But 70 days is awesome and I'm really proud of that.
I've been active everyday! Walking or working out.
Been drinking my water, (Not an easy goal for me).

I am still struggling with the food. The sweet cravings hit after dinner, and no fruit will satisfy it. So, I compensate by overeating on other kinds of snacks. That has to stop! No weight loss this month again. emoticon

August Goals:
No Diet Sodas.
Continue with the water goal.
Continue with the no sweets goal.
Daily exercise.

This month and for the rest of the summer, there will be no more diet soda for me, and what's amazing is that my dear husband is joining me in quitting the diet sodas too! emoticon There is hope! emoticon

Wishing you all...

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VTORIA3 8/4/2014 10:16PM

    Wow! 70 days of no sweets is emoticon How wonderful that DH will join you in the no soda commitment! Keep up the nice work this month, friend! emoticon

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WIFEALF2 8/4/2014 9:42PM

    sweets is my weakness too..good for you...you are doing awesome

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GLORIAMAJDI 8/4/2014 12:13PM

    You are doing great, 70 days is wonderful! I never really have been a huge fan of sweets but in the past couple of years my tastes have changed and now I want them. I seem to be managing it okay but I really do think that I have too much refined sugar in my diet.

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SEATTLE58 8/3/2014 3:57PM

    I'm so proud of you for trying so hard for avoiding sweets. Just think of your over-all victory. You're balance scale is way heavier on the one side because of the more days of being without sugar then the day that are with sugar. So I think that that's a huge victory and you and your DH can do the same with diet soda, because look at your awesome past record! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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IMEMINE1 8/3/2014 12:52PM

    emoticon I am glad your husband is on board with you. It is always better with two.
My husband and I quit smoking together (or so years ago) together.
Good luck, emoticon

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MELNJAY3 8/3/2014 10:51AM

    That's great. I think I will join that goal too if u don't mind.

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WORKNPROGRESS49 8/3/2014 9:30AM

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1CRAZYDOG 8/3/2014 9:26AM

    If you're having sugar cravings, here's some information that might shed some light on it:

You crave sugar, that means your body needs:

chromium (broccoli, grapes, cheese, chicken)
carbon (fresh fruits)
phosphorous (chicken, beef, fatty fish, eggs, dairy, nuts, veggies, grains)
sulphur (cranberries, horseradish, cabbage, cauliflower)
tryptophan (cheese, raisins, sweet potatoes, spinach)

Sweets—If you crave sweets of almost any kind you may be experiencing blood sugar fluctuations. Giving in to pie, candy, cake, or other goodies only makes the problem worse by causing blood sugar roller coasters that lead to more crav¬ings. Instead, choose a piece of fruit when you’re craving sweets. And, regularly choose more high-fiber foods like beans and legumes, and complex carbohydrates like whole grains keep your blood sugar stable.

Just some ideas. And don't forget, lack of sleep and stress play havoc with these cravings too.

You can do this!


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AQUA_CAT 8/3/2014 8:15AM

    Hey Julia! was just missing your blog this morning. nice to hear from you. exciting to partner with your husband on the diet pop goal.

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14 Years Sober Today! :)

Thursday, July 24, 2014

I wish I had documented my sobriety journey. What a fool I was not to. It could've helped me today with my sweets addiction.

I remember the first year though, I spend a lot of time in the library, reading up on sobriety and autobiographies of people who were sharing their sobriety journey.

One book I will never forget, it was by Susan Powter (the "Stop the Insanity" girl), the name of the book was "Sober and Staying That Way". It was a great help to me for some reason.

I also remember joining an AOL group "Women in Sobriety" but after a few weeks, I found that it was detrimental reading about failure after failure. I was still too vulnerable to read that.

The hardest was visiting relatives. I had one who kept asking me (every few minutes) are you sure you don't want a drink? He stopped after my husband scolded him in front of everyone! emoticon

Once in the beginning of my journey, I tried the alcohol free wine, I was thrilled to have found it, until I read the label and found out that it still had alcohol in it, I believe it was 0.5%. So, I dumped the bottle and stayed away from beverages that "stated" alcohol free.

Do I still think about drinking? Yes!

Especially in social events or when I'm really stressed, but I think of how far I've come and it's just not worth it.

I have a relative who doesn't believe I'm in sobriety, and I have to thank this person because "that" alone keeps me going! emoticon

Now, if I can only put all that I've learned about quitting alcohol to quitting sweets-I would be in paradise! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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OMNOMNAMASTE 8/30/2014 5:29PM

That is absolutely wonderful. You are made of strong stuff.

(people can be so stupid, right??)

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WIFEALF2 8/2/2014 11:52PM

    congrats...that is a long time keep it up you rock!

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SPARKFRAN514 7/30/2014 2:14PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon Trying to catch up on blog reading just want you to know you are doing a great job don't let that family member up set you they are unhappy with them selves for some reason. have a great end of the month and here is to a supper Aug. emoticon emoticon

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_BABE_ 7/27/2014 2:52PM

    emoticon Congratulations!

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KFQUILTER 7/25/2014 10:23PM

    Congratulations. Dont stress about sweets. You accomplished a big thing. Here, and sweets should be easier. We are here for you.

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JANISMKW 7/24/2014 10:34PM

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I haven't shared this on SP before, but you've got 4 years on me.
I was 10 years sober on 7/12/14. I am blessed never to think of it, my obsession was lifted from me.
AA is the best.

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    Big congrats on 14 years of sobriety. emoticon emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 7/24/2014 5:42PM

    Very proud of your 14 yrs. sober. That's an awesome achievement.

That takes an awful lot of courage and determination to deal with stopping the behavior. You are a very strong person!


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JUST_BRENDA 7/24/2014 5:34PM

    Wow, Julia, you've done so very well! That's 5100 days of sobriety and you've earned pride for every single day! I know you are humble but that is truly an accomplishment to celebrate (even if it is with sweets).
Please don't be so hard on yourself about the sweets... it's okay to have treats... from the little I know about you it doesn't sound like you are out-of-control with it (but maybe striving for perfection or close to it)

Thank you for sharing that inspiring accomplishment!!!
emoticon x14!!!!!

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WORKNPROGRESS49 7/24/2014 2:08PM

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VTORIA3 7/24/2014 1:10PM

    emoticon Buddy, on your 14 years of sobriety! A wonderful anniversary to celebrate! emoticon emoticon

I am always in great awe of a person that can make such profound changes in one's life. Here's to you today and every day my friend! emoticon emoticon I am in awe of you and you ARE emoticon

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IMEMINE1 7/24/2014 11:48AM

    emoticon and emoticon blog.
Sometimes we switch one addiction for another. Just like quitting smoking where we tend to eat candy or whatever by the ton.
emoticon emoticon You came a long way,baby!
(an old cigarette commercial)

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FISHGUT3 7/24/2014 11:01AM

    Congrats, you are one of the lucky 5%

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ASHLEIGHGAL 7/24/2014 10:12AM

    Congratulations on your amazing milestone!

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LOSER_ZIMM 7/24/2014 9:16AM


What an amazing accomplishment! Congrats!

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AQUA_CAT 7/24/2014 9:09AM

    wow Julia! this is a milestone. You are so worth it too. Thank you for sharing this.

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When Your Spouse Doesn't Care... :(

Monday, July 21, 2014

Everyday I try my best to live a healthier lifestyle. I don't drink or smoke, I avoid sweets whenever possible, I walk every morning, and try to make healthy food choices.

I don't always succeed, (that's for sure) but I keep trying everyday. My motivation is my health, I don't want to go through the misery and pain that my poor parents went through in their golden years. I don't want to be a burden to my only son, either.

My husband, on the other hand, seem to have given up. I am so broken hearted about this. I thought we'd grow old together, and be one of those active couples you see on TV.

But he doesn't seem to care anymore, he eats whatever he wants, drinks beer or wine everyday to "unwind" and doesn't even want to know how much he weighs. His idea of fitness is riding the bike on the weekends, weather permitting.

I've nagged him (of course, that doesn't work) I've shared what I've learned about nutrition and fitness on spark with him, I've bought him books and emailed him articles, and although there's been times when he tries to change his ways, it doesn't last long.

I love this man with all my heart, but I can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped. My only conclusion is to do my best to be a role model for him and my son.

No one can predict the future, and for all you know, I may be the one who ends up needing care in my old age, but I will not get there without a fight!

The journey continues....

Thanks! I just needed to vent! emoticon

Keep pushing! emoticon

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JUST_BRENDA 7/24/2014 6:16PM

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I think we need to remember that the only person we can change and tell what to do is ourselves (well, and our children when they are younger but as they hit the teens years they question our direction and even oppose it emoticon )

Be sure to take care of yourself.

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VTORIA3 7/23/2014 1:00AM

    Hi, buddy. I sure share this frustration in my corner of the world, too. My DH weight cycles and has been on a downward trend again for some time. I share the same kind of concerns you have over my spouse's health and wellness. Let's hope something will click inside their brains, soon.

You're doing great never giving up and trying to do what you should with your own health and fitness. Keep up the nice work.

I leave for vacation in just a few hours....I will sleep in the car enroute. I sure need some down time....will take some this trip, but will commit to 4 hrs of client work on Thursday.

Have a terrific Wednesday! emoticon

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SPARKFRAN514 7/22/2014 8:54PM

    1. Exercise + you =– a happy feeling when you are done
have a fun time on the trail and maybe you hubby will see how much you are enjoying your self and how good you look and feel emoticon emoticon

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AQUA_CAT 7/22/2014 8:33PM

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ALEXSGIRL1 7/22/2014 5:35PM

    I am in same boat as you. my hubby smokes a ton. He eats all kinds of garbage , stops on the way to work because there is none in the house. He cant even walk around the block anymore hip issues we used to hike every weekend when we were first married and even brought the kids. and now he can't. showed him the exercises told him to see a doctor nope. So you and I need to find some friends to lead a healthy life with . Maybe then or someday they will join us. hugs

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ASHLEIGHGAL 7/22/2014 12:32PM

    I agree that the best thing you can do is be the example, he won't make any changes until he's ready. You are doing the best you can do for all three of you in this scenario. emoticon

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IMEMINE1 7/22/2014 12:05PM

    Just keeping making friendly suggestions and lead by example.
Remember, nagging will get you nowhere.
Just be there for him and worry about taking care of yourself.
I'm sure he'll come around when HE"S ready.

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NUOVAELLE 7/22/2014 3:01AM

    "Children may close their ears to advice but they always keep their eyes open to example." I'm sure this quote applies to husbands sometimes, too. So, keep on being a great role model for both of them. Even if it doesn't feel like it, it's your love for them in action. Eventually, they WILL follow in your footsteps, I'm sure of it.
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1CRAZYDOG 7/21/2014 9:34PM

    ((((HUGS)))) Yes, it's so true that saying that you can lead a horse to water but you can't make 'em drink. UGH

I think your approach about teaching by being a role model is exactly what's needed . . . especially for your son.


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_BABE_ 7/21/2014 9:32PM

    Be a the great role model, cook good nutritious food and avoid buying junk and maybe it will rub off.

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SEATTLE58 7/21/2014 9:16PM

    I feel like I can ditto what you've said. My husband likes to eat all unhealthy foods too and although I know that he wants me to be healthy and is so proud of all I've done, he still wants me to cook and bake all those unhealthy things. Today I gave in and made those yummy "Hello Dollies" and gave in to the temptation of eating them and feel so guilty after doing it! It's a struggle for me every day and that's why it's feels so good to eat out because we can choose what we each want to eat! So I understand you fully and hope that you feel better because of venting. I feel better because of venting to you! We just have to do the best we can for ourselves and hope the best for the rest of our family. emoticon

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GLORIAMAJDI 7/21/2014 9:11PM

    Julia, I am so sorry you are going through this. I have the same dilemma. My husband is several years younger than I am but he is so unhealthy. He is on BP meds and is very overweight. He drinks no water, eats no veggies, only drinks Mountain Dew or Coke, hardly any fruit and pretty much he only eats fried food (burgers or fried chicken) and pizza. He eat almost a bag of potato chips the other day and then told me that he realized he is a blob and he needs to change. Then he went on to eat Pop-tarts and he had Dunkin' Donuts for breakfast today. We used to go for long walks and hikes together but now he can't. It is heartbreaking because I just had to move on without him. I can't wait forever for him to decide to be healthy. I had to do this for me. Now I am running and he can hardly walk a mile. There isn't an easy answer - just be there to support him when and if he is ever ready to make changes.

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