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Deciding not to get sick

Tuesday, October 28, 2014

I read an article today about ways to prevent getting colds and flu this season. As I read through them, nodding my head because I do each one with my new spark wellness goals it made me wonder when the last time I got sick was.

1. Sleep 8 hours every night
2. Eat soluble fiber (oats, apples, nuts and beans)
3. Know that refined sweeters make your immune system impotent (a new finding about sugar which makes the whte blood cells less able to kill bacteria for at least 5 hours after eating it)
4. Make sure your vitamin D level is at least 38ng/ml (50-80 is optimum)
5. Learn to stop touching your face
6. Mild exercise (10 minutes after each meal or 30 min a day)

While it made me smile to realize that something is working because I just am not getting sick as often and certainly not for as long.... think once a year if that... it also made me remember the effects of illness on me in terms of food....and the effects food had on me feeling ill.

Getting sick I had a weird response. I would not stop and take care of myself. I would push through, go to work, get the hundred things done on my to do list regardless of feeling crappy. Just like diets I wanted the quick fix, the magic pill. I wanted the doctor to put me on antibiotics just to reinforce that I was a super woman who could keep going. And.. I used food as my medication. It was my own weird way to look after myself. I had this idea that I was invaluable. Is that the right use of that word? I was indispensible. Nothing could go on without me. I had to suffer so I deserved the "crap" and volumes of food I would consume. I was freqently ill and my symptoms seemed to drag on. Reading this list has been an eye opener. In those days the focus was on hand washing and it is not even here. It never occurred to me to link binging to feeling sick. Binging was a coping mechanism but maybe was a cause too. Feeling lightheaded because I was fasting... obviously was illness too. Well, bottom line was I had a disease... an eating disorder. I just would shrug off any symptoms as cold or flu.

I think that the whole healthy "package" decision was a decision not to get sick. Whether it be reacting to the bad choices I was making that gave me symptoms, or exacerbating the symptoms of illness through my bad choices. Overall taking care of myself is paying off.

  
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DRAGON-CHICK 10/29/2014 7:38PM

    Good plan!

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NASFKAB 10/28/2014 11:52PM

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1CRAZYDOG 10/28/2014 1:58PM

    Yes to that feeling "indispensable" thing! Doesn't work. Taking care of my health too. That's the way to go.

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FLDEEZ 10/28/2014 1:16PM

    I think these are great thoughts. Lots of cause and effect. I see myself in your words - thanks for the insight!

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Unlocking a road block

Wednesday, October 22, 2014

Whatever my energy is focused on... gets stronger and more powerful.

I was thinking that while writing this morning. I was deciding to focus on positive choices and it made me wonder how much the way I approach my "problems" affects how easy the solutions are. I have lots of choices.

I can say "don't eat junk food"! And after struggling with that for a while think that it is just too wide a goal so narrow it to "don't eat junk food at night" ... and still find it a struggle. "Don't think about it only has you thinking about it, right?

So what if I say "eat more healthy foods"? Yup, I have noticed that that is easier... and the side effect is I eat less junk food. Go figure. I think that that has been the secret of my successes....

And what if there are negatives attached to positives? Ah... the mind games. "Go to the gym" is a positive, right? So why am I not going? Could it be that associated with that is "get back in the car after working and drive... get sweaty and sore... I'd rather be resting because I'm too tired.... " (help me out here because going to the gym is not one of my things any longer, lol. ) So perhaps subconciously the energy starts going towards those negatives. The answer... for me... just "move" and actively think positives.

Knowing that my mind may be what is blocking me from success, that rewording something may unlock the ability to achieve something ... is in my opinion mind blowing. It is as though I have realized that if I reach a road block, there are detours possible. I just have to find them.

I used to be a great procrastinator and I listened to "eat that frog". The author said if the first thing you do each day is eat the biggest frog in the pond then nothing worse will happen to you. The "frogs" being things you have to/need to do. It made me realize how I use avoidance (including eating) to not face things I am afraid of doing. Just saying to myself "what is my frog today? And, lol, I guess it is time to "eat it"" helped me progress in my journey to be healthy. It is all about attitude. Adding in humour was my key.

I think the other thing was adding in the self talk. I have noticed lately my self talk is a little negative. Where did the cheerleader go? There was a time when I actively was cutting off my negative prattle and saying "Justyna, let me remind you why you are doing this!" and then I would tell myself about all the good things I was working towards.

It is easy to let the dark side in. From the dark side we can blame ourselves for letting ourselves get into "this mess" or let a background of muttering excuses colour our belief about what we "want" to do or eat. Or we can celebrate the small things that our good choices give us... like noticing the fall leaves because we went outside or appreciating not getting all the stop lights heading to the gym or, if you really want to think positive, look at stop lights as a chance to do some kegal exercises. Maybe you don't have to go that far, but the point is, it is MY choice and MY solution. emoticon





  
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SPEDED2 10/25/2014 11:16PM

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DRAGON-CHICK 10/23/2014 11:58AM

    Great blog!

Oh, man, I need to work on my self talk.
I'd never let anyone talk to me the way I do!

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HEALTHY4ME 10/22/2014 2:40PM

    Oh I agree and lately I too have been doing better at positive self talk, and lol the one on don't eat junk or I eat healthy is so true. sure does help me - if I say don't eat junk I think of junk I want, if I say eat healthy I will more go for an apple.

Common sense but ha how often does it prevail!

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1CRAZYDOG 10/22/2014 11:24AM

    Sometimes you're right . . . we have to re-frame our goals, our self-talk and hopefully the changes will help.

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DSBRIDE 10/22/2014 10:11AM

    Sometimes I wonder where all the obstacles come from that we face day in and out. Are they really there or do we make them up ourselves. Why is there so much inner fighting and pushing against the grain. Is it pressure from society to fit a mold that for some of us is just not meant to be? This is the negativity I'm fighting right now but as you said, it's time to push the negative away and give the positive front row center. Thankfully everyday is a new start and I wish you well with your new day!

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NASFKAB 10/22/2014 9:55AM

  well said thanks for sharing

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Scaling back the scale

Saturday, October 18, 2014

This week's subject for the writing diet is "Scaling back the scale".

The scale and I definitely have a warped relationship. I've played the games, wearing less and only weighing first thing in the morning, delighting after being ill and losing weight, dreading a weigh in after a binge. It certainly HAS had too much power. It's hard for me to accept a "plus or minus a few pounds" as acceptable.

However I'm also not willing to give it up. I have put more emphasis on non scale victories and don't expect to lose weight... but I am very afraid of gaining (espcially right now since I am still awaiting knee surgery and am not as active as I was). I need that reassurance the number gives me when it does not move. The number still reminds me of my success so far... because I have lost weight since joining SP. The number is a reminder of how close I am to onederland and my goal. But it does feel a little like getting closer to the edge of a cliff when I am on the lower side and not wanting to go lower and certainly feels like I am backtracking when the number is on the higher side. I think that those two reactions to the number are not normal.

No, I know. the number does not reflect non scale victories, good choices, what is going on in my life. I'm grateful for the information I have found that lists reasons why we don't lose weight even when we are successfully eating and exercising. I remind myself of those in my writing and try not to focus on the number. I'm also more aware of what a "good" weight is for me. I know that my children are "normal" in size but higher in weight on charts and that has been great inspiration for me to see myself as a lot closer to a "normal" weight than the charts tell me. The number no longer yells at me that I'm huge. I know clinically I am still obese, but I don't feel like such a huge person any more. My clothes tell me that. The mirror tells me that. So my goal weight is much "higher" than it used to be. But I'm not there yet... and seem at a standstill. Why? It can't just be my activity level. I am still eating more than I need. Why? But because weight loss can also trigger bad eating behaviours I do consider what might happen if I gave up the scale. It probably would be a good thing. Losing weight can trigger me rather than encourage me. I suppose that is a really good thing to write about today. There is likely something I am still afraid of, losing weight. I still want food to numb pain (emotional and physical), satisfy boredom, and escape fears. I'll keep writing trying to work on those and maybe soon I can let go of my death hold on the scale.

Baby steps... maybe away from the scale this week....

  
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AJDOVER1 10/20/2014 6:39PM

    I weigh myself everyday -- it reinforces my belief that fluctuations are natural. The number only represents a moment in time -- not my worth. There is nothing magical about a "weigh in day." I just weigh myself, note the number and get on with my day. The number does not in itself determine my behavior. I need to make healthy choices every day.

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SPARKNB 10/19/2014 12:08PM

    I relate to your feelings, especially the Why on still eating too much; and you named several reasons why: fear, numbing, boredom....I will focus on those in baby steps too. Especially boredom lately, for me. Gonna go do some spark research via articles on that. Thanks emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 10/18/2014 3:49PM

    It's kinda like the warped relationship we develop with food only with the scale! You said it . .. we are NOT the # on the scale. It is only a measurement.

Seems like you have answered some of your question in your blog . . . with less activity and taking in more calories than you need, that can lead to a standstill.

The most important thing is to eat healthfully. Look @ the other measures of how you're doing (but then you know this already . . . just sayin').

Stress -- that's HUGE in what goes on in our bodies, including affecting weight.

Good luck. HUGS

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DSBRIDE 10/18/2014 3:17PM

    The scale sets my mood for the day no matter how hard I try . I can't keep away altogether either. A gain makes me work harder, a loss lets me relax a bit and the circle continues. So I know what you're feeling. Why can't we give it up? What is this hold it has over us? So many things to figure out and no answers in sight. Just keep plugging along.

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NASFKAB 10/18/2014 12:48PM

  you can do it

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HEALTHY4ME 10/18/2014 12:43PM

    Interesting.... did you get my spark mail info. It does say a tiny bit about the scale but more on why and how you feel and such. hope the link works esp the first one.

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75 days until the New Year!

Friday, October 17, 2014

This has been a roller coaster week... but I feel grateful. My neighbour came by with a plant to go by the pool. It is a wonderful symbol I think of our growing friendship.

What am I grateful for today?
-painting one nail purple yesterday to help me remember to stay on track. I chose to buy the nail polish over going to the fast food place or trying one of the pastries in the renovated grocery store that has created a massive display right at the entrance of decadence. My purple nail is all the decadence I need and was my "reward" for not going to the dark side.
-a friend I feel I can talk about anything with who is actually available. So many of my good friends are far far away. This is a luxery for sure! I hope I can be as good a friend for her as she already has been for me. We are cut from the same cloth so it is as if we have always known each other. There are similarities in where we came from and what we have experienced. But like any two people we are very different and I appreciate how healthy that is. Perhaps we will inspire each other.
-hair that is beginning to behave, lol
-less knee pain overall which will help me endure the wait ahead with the delayed knee surgery.
-seeing progress with my food choices and a growing recipe file of healthy "go to's"
-my pool that is warmer than it has been for a while that is sooo close to being "done" (fixing walls and repainting the room)
-being close to 90,000 spark points... kind of exciting

My countdown continues. It is now 75 days to the new year with my goal of walking and eating clean as many days as possible in that time. I feel like... anything is possible. What matters is making a positive choice every day. I am worth it. And it makes a difference. Keep it simple. And have a wonderful day my friends!

  
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NASFKAB 10/18/2014 4:00AM

  you are doing great all the best keep at it

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WORKNPROGRESS49 10/17/2014 4:14PM

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DSBRIDE 10/17/2014 2:05PM

    Great blog and I'm happy you are so positive! I love the purple nail polish, my favorite color too! Have a great day, hugs!

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1CRAZYDOG 10/17/2014 1:51PM

    Awesome! HUGS

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FORZACHANDMATT 10/17/2014 12:10PM

    Can't believe it's only 75 days!!!

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HEALTHY4ME 10/17/2014 12:05PM

    LOVE this positive blog!!!! Just what I need to read today. Dreary waiting for the hurricane, in pain and just waiting to go to drs appointment. Anway glad you are doing better and LOVE your purple nail!!! my fav colour that and periwinkle blue!

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Thanksgiving

Tuesday, October 14, 2014

It was thanksgiving weekend here in Canada and the first one that all three of my daughters and the 2 boyfriends would be together ... so I planned a full tukey dinner plus 2 more days of meals that we took, by boat, in freezing weather up to the cottage and then we stayed there the long weekend. There were certainly some challenges but everyone took them in stride. My eldest daughter in particular does not like the outdoors and has severe asthma so with woodsmoke and dust and mice, she suffered but endured.

With waterproof gear and many layers I was able to kayak with DH and the dog Saturday and Sunday. One DD went hiking with her BF and later canoeing with the dog. Anther DD and her BF spent most of the time sleeping but did kayak a bit. I sketched with my eldest DD some of the incredible foliage we get in the part of the world and enjoyed the mist every morning coming off the water. My eldest DD spent most of her time indoors in a warm sunny reading.
I was so pleased when furniture started shuffling and everyone somehow ended up in the "kitcen/dining" area reading, eating, chatting and playing games. Everyone wanted to be with each other. To look out over the lake where Osprey and Eagles and Loons were still fishing. There were small back rubs and jokes. Photos taken. It was lovely feeling like this is my family and we get along so well. Especially nice because I do love being up there and it rarely happens that they want to be there. Perhaps some of them will not want to go back but at least one daughter and her BF have the "bug" and were beginning to see the potential in the place. They are interested in helping with cottage opening next May.

Then Monday we packed up and boated to the "landing" where after we packed up our vehicles, 2 of my sister in laws had organized a pot luck dinner at my parent's home on the mainland. There were.. about 30 of us with 6 dogs I think. One toddler and two teens and the rest adults. My parents and one of my siblings and his family had gone the previous day to my mother's side of the famlily. On the way home one of their vehicles had lost a wheel so thankfully my parents had been close behind and able to help and then nice for them all to arrive to a full meal prepared. It was less stressful than many gatherings and... I managed to talk with my father. For those who know our history, there are issues between us and fr the last year we have been estranged. In fact getting up the cottage didn't happen at all last year because we share it with my parents. But he is about to have surgery. My mother is worried, as the primary caregiver, and she should be. They live remotely on a lake, at least a half hour from a town with medical support and several hours from a large hospital, and they both have limitations physically. I'm an Occupational Therapist. Anways... I have knowledge that could help. And... my father, who used to be outstanding in his field replacing knee joints, had knowledge that could help me. I had my own concerns after having my surgery consult last week with my doctor. My relationship with my father made me prepared to avoid him the entire time... but somehow the situation, people, good moods? all managed to work away at my fears and I found myself initiating an impromputu assessment of him and then asking his advice. So we talked. It went all right. We agreed to disagree about his needs and he pretty much convinced me that he and my Mother would manage (assuming nothing goes wrong) and he convinced me that, as usual, my worries are not valid about my own knee. He is after all an expert. There had been no yelling. No tears. No pain. I woke up this morning with a feeling of gratefullness. I would just go ahead with my plans and rust the surgeon to make the best choice.

And then to my surprise he phoned this morning. He had considered overnight and decided I was right about his needs and will make the changes I suggested to make it easier and safer for he and my mother. I think I almost fell off my chair. And... he had considered my upcoming surgery. If I had been his patient ...he said he would order an MRI or bonescan before doing the surgery and certainly would be more inclined to do a full replacement rather than a partial. Really? He was acknowledging my fears as possibly right?! I was stunned. . Since I have known my father I have never been "right" about anything. The converstaion with my Dad this morning made such an impact. I can't express how much relief I feel because ultimately I want my life back. What it does mean is more waiting. Here in Ontario it takes forever to get bone scans or MRI's. Last time I went to Quebec and paid out of pocket. DH says we should do that. I am tired of wating for surgery... but .... I can live with this for a few more months or another year if I have to... if the final result is successful surgery.

So unlike many post thanksgiving mornings, I am very thankful. Many times thankful.

  
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SEAWAVE 10/15/2014 7:50PM

    What a wonderful week-end! I love the dynamics in your family, and how everyone gets along. But I never thought I would hear of being able to talk to your father like that. . You are so strong to have seen past the bad stuff and moved beyond it. Just goes to show what can happen when you come from a place of love.

Here's hoping now that you won't have to wait quite that long for surgery!

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AJDOVER1 10/15/2014 1:47PM

    What blessings!

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NASFKAB 10/14/2014 11:27PM

  great you enjoyed with your girls & their boyfriends & that you were able to speak to your father without any unpleasantness so happy for you

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JUSTME29 10/14/2014 8:25PM

    That sounds like a fantastic weekend all around, and having a couple nice, and mutually beneficial, conversations with your father is just an added bonus.

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JUSTYNA7 10/14/2014 3:29PM

    I think so too... especially as my father was my surgeon's mentor back in the day...

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1CRAZYDOG 10/14/2014 1:37PM

    Well, all-in-all, sounds like a successful weekend. For sure, if you have niggling doubts, DO discuss them w/the surgeon. It's good that your Dad will write the surgeon as well. ((((HUGS))))

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