Saturday, September 06, 2014
I like this quote. " A decision about what to weigh is a decision on how to live." In other words, if you are committed to staying at your goal weight, you have to adopt the life that goes with it. This means that you not only have to live in a way that matches your goals at the moment, but you also have to accept that you will be doing this for the rest of your life.
I am content with this life I have chosen of maintenance.
In Refuse to Regain the author offers clues about reaching what she calls Senior Level of Maintenance. This is when you realize that you are more comfortable with your food choices and are a lot better at managing your weight than before.
Here are clues to this new level;
You rarely miss your old way of eating.
( I do not miss the bingeing on unhealthy foods that I used to do.)
You enjoy and prefer your new eating habits.
(I have healthy foods that I do love to eat)
You no longer feel controlled by food.
(I do feel much more control over my food choices and that food is no longer my enemy.)
You are comfortable with eating many of the same types of food repeatedly.
(This is very true.)
You are not particularly interested in Sugar Foods or Refined Carbs.
( I have lost much of the desire for these foods..but not totally!)
When you do occasionally eat these foods, you are not compelled to overeat and are able to return to your plan the next day.
( I have stopped bingeing. Once in awhile I might eat to being too full but it is on a healthy food.)
When you choose to eat foods that are off your plan, you generally find them less enjoyable.
( Here I deviate..I usually enjoy the foods I choose to indulge in.)
You know intuitively the foods and amounts that will keep you from gaining weight.
( I do know what foods and amounts will be keep me maintaining.)
You are acutely aware of unhealthy diet habits of those around you.
(This is an odd clue. I have noticed that I am very aware of healthy fit people and admire them for staying toned and thin.)
You feel free.
(A big yes here. I feel the freedom of being thin and managing addiction.)
The final comment is helpful. " When you are a senior maintainer, it does not mean that you will never have a difficult day, but it does mean that you have found peace with the way you think about food, physical activity, and priorities."
I have found my peace.
I am dealing with family health issues. I am still maintaining and am glad that I have found peace in my weight, when other areas of my life are not peaceful.
Thanks to all of my Spark Friends for being here.
Friday, July 25, 2014
When I initially lost my weight 3 years ago, I went through the honeymoon period where I was celebrating and happily buying new clothes. However, I had fears that I would regain my weight as I have spent my life doing. I recall almost being in tears after buying small sized clothes, wondering if I would still fit them months later.
Almost three years later, I have decided that this is my summer of defining myself as a maintainer. I am no longer trying to maintain, but I have become a maintainer.
Watermelon celebrates 5 years of maintenance with an excellent blog, 5 Years of Maintaining!
What resonated with me was her comment about having times when life interferes with exercise and fitness.
"I know I'll always get back to it and I do. Because it's who I am . . . " This is exactly what being a maintainer is. This is who I am and even if I detour for a while, being a maintainer is what I am.
LeslieSenior has been on a journey of health for 12 years. Her blog,
"The Gifts of Health and Fitness" Is very inspiring.
I loved this thought.
"Our good health is so very much more than the number on the scale or the size jeans we buy. We all know this, but it is finally becoming a deep thread in the fabric of who I am."
I went to the store to buy a particular brand and flavor of ice cream for a my son. As I studied the ice cream I was hit with strong memories of ice cream binges..
recognizing the flavors and brands. It has been 4 years since I have binged on ice cream. I could remember that person and the unhappiness, but happily realized those days are gone.
I renewed my driver's license. It may amuse you to learn that for years I would put down the weight I wanted to weigh, but not my actual weight.
My picture of 5 years ago does not look anything like me now and I have received strange looks from clerks. I was pleased to see the smile and the confidence in my new photo which actually looks like the current me.
The contrast of my 110 pound photo was severe. I also realized that the secrecy of addiction is gone. I now put down my real weight!
In the summer and particularly in my yoga classes, I notice my toned muscles but also notice somewhat loose skin.
Greggweisbrod has maintained for one year and has offered some great insights in Time Goes By.
This is a lovely piece of writing, especially the last line. I love perfectly imperfect in the most perfect ways possible.
"The perfect body is an illusion, as even those whom we see and think look perfect are in fact constantly struggling with the same desires to look better. You're already perfect... you just haven't realized it yet. Love yourself today, and keep journeying toward whatever future you fancy - don't waste a second feeling like you're not good enough or not attractive enough. You're already perfectly imperfect in the most perfect ways possible!
I end with Refuse to Regain comments again:
4.Climber's Fatigue: Losing weight was an exciting, attention getting makeover. Permanence requires a relentless, daily attention to detail that no one but you may notice. This phase will only work if you learn to deeply love the new you and the very process that allows you to stay as you are. Not only can you do this, but it will also be highly rewarding.
Thanks to everyone who blogs at Spark People. I value your support and insights.
Kanoe The Maintainer! or should I say The Terminator..of an unhealthy life.
Friday, July 11, 2014
I have decided that part of maintaining, is not only being relentless determined, but it also being feisty. I am considering myself, a feisty maintainer! Almost three years ago, two co-workers took me aside and said separately, " You have lost a lot of weight, however, you always gain it back. You should not get so thin."
At that time, I lacked self confidence in my ability to keep weight off, and I responded with something like I hope I can keep it off this time. Now, 3 years later, as I reflect on these comments, I would answer in a different way. I would say, " I have worked hard to get to this healthy weight. My doctor and I are both happy with this weight. I would really appreciate your support instead of your criticism." I realize now that these comments were very negative and treated me as a failure. I do not deny that my co-workers have seen my yo-yo pattern over the years. However, who gave them the right to comment and be negative about me doing something positive? I am much more self confident now. I have actually confronted my boss and told him he needed to support my efforts rather than tell me that I needed to stop losing weight as I was thin enough. Thus..yay for being feisty.
As I am in my third summer of maintenance, I really am growing in being calmer and believing that I am maintaining.
The longer I maintain, the more I love being thin. This is true. I really enjoy the energy, the happiness, the muscles and toned body, and the fitness that comes with being thin, I like this thin body. I still have to look at my shorts to make sure they are size 6, even if I know they are..LOL.
My summer discoveries are yoga..definitely a good new workout for me. I also am experimenting on new recipes like cauliflower pizza crust. I have also increased my daily walks by 10-15 minutes.
Thanks to all you here who write blogs. They are my daily inspiration and support.
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