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Thursday, March 06, 2014

Summer is creeping in---the buds are beginning to show on the Gullmohar and the Jacaranda.The beautiful Almond tree is changing colour too---i's leaves are turning a beautiful Plum hue and the tiny Almonds have begun to form.Today I cannot ride on Mumbai 's roads ,feeling the playfully light touch of the Breeze in my hair as Sudhir and would sit watching the Sun set over the Arabian Sea ------those were really some of the most beautiful moments that we shared together.Today I am glad that he died when he did----watching me proceed slowly towards my end and that too after turning into an invalid would have been so-dreadfully painful for him.He'd have died slowly along with me!!!

Today I am living Life exactly how it comes-----carefree and one day at a time.Today I am looking forward to my Party on Saturday---Wome's Day.My "Cronies"as Sayali teasingly calls my group of friends are hosting a Party for that day.It was supposed to be surprise but as usual someone let the Cat out of the bag-----and they are squabbling away amongst themselves to decide which one left the bag open!!


  
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CHERIRIDDELL 3/7/2014 1:00AM

    I hope you have a wonderful time at your party .Your cronies are so lucky to have you! You are always in my prayers. hugs,Cheri

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JUDYAMK 3/6/2014 11:52PM

    I have always so love reading all your stories of your beautiful life. You have always made your writings come to life & I so thank you for that. I have learned a lot about your country, & I also learned not to be judgmental over a place I never knew anything about & only surmised. A husband and wife from Bombay are owners of a gas station a few blocks from my home. i had a chance to talk to her about food. She eats no animal food not even chicken,fish or red meats. she eats fruits & vegetables. she said she could take vegetables and make a thousand dishes out of them. she told me the spices is what makes them so tasty. I told her I write to you and you tell us about all your cooking you did and all the taste and smells, she said yes that is right.I wish she would teach me some cooking lessons .She told me in Bombay women can cook all day long. You have always been a special spark friend to me I want to thank you for all your life stories & making me feel apart of your life. I pray for you all the time. Have a blessed day!
Judy

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OVERWORKEDJANET 3/6/2014 7:30PM

    Enjoy every day indeed. Make sure you see every sunrise and every sunset. Continue to let us know how you are, my friend.
I think I will not get a chance to visit you as we so excitedly discussed one time so let me take your memories as a visit to your wonderful places.
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MILLISMA 3/6/2014 7:10PM

    Think of you and keep you in my prayers. Hope you have a wonderful time at your party.
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BOVEY63 3/6/2014 5:10PM

    Beautiful memories!
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Have a wonderful time at the party!
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Life Today

Monday, March 03, 2014

My best friend Pushpa's son visited me just the day before.He had a question for me---where did I find the Positivity that I reflect?Now whether or not I sound positive is not something that I am aware of but yes my nature is like a bouncing ball and because of that I wake up ready to face the World with a smile on my face!!!
I have never ever analysed the exact reason why but Ashish's question set me thinking.hard about myself.I realised that I have a very wonderful mechanism inbuilt since birth in my defence mechanism.This comes into play immediately any situation that can hurt me really arises.When Sudhir died it engulfed me immediately.While I was aware of all the facts ,the Pain was dulled by the shield around me.This shield very gradually dissolved,bringing me face to face with the true gravity of my loss a few months later.In the meanwhile it kept my Equanimity intact.I was better equipped by then grieve for the man who was my entire life in private--------as long and loud in exactly the manner in which I wanted.
This grief in fact became my strength when I had to deal with all the bumps of learning to live alone.My subsequent reconnection with Cancer is perhaps due to the Sress I had endured in my grief but then diseases have never actually fazed me.To me these are the stumbling blocks of Life and one plays according to the rules of each stumbling block.Cancer is trying furiously to defeat me but damned if I let it win without a fight!!While the outcome of this hurdle is sealed in advance it is my sunny Nature that makes even Cancer treat me with respect!!!So here's to Life!!!

  
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RIDMYCOCOON 4/17/2014 3:15AM

    To Life! My strong Friend! emoticon emoticon

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ALL_SMILES_4U 3/8/2014 9:50AM

    Very well said! I like that fighting spirit within you. We are with you in prayers!

Keep writing love to read your motivating blogs

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BOVEY63 3/5/2014 1:49PM

    Fight on my friend!
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MILLISMA 3/3/2014 1:49PM

    I'm a strong believer that a positive attitude can make all the difference in the world. Hugs to you my friend. I keep you in my prayers daily.

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OVERWORKEDJANET 3/3/2014 6:45AM

    Your solid outlook on the beauty of life around you is the reason I scan your blogs daily!
You are inspiring, Komal.

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CHERIRIDDELL 3/3/2014 1:58AM

    Komal you are amazing and an inspiration to us all.Cancer had better treat you with respect for it can never ever overcome the profound respect and honour we your friends have for you. No mere disease will defeat you. Your words and your positivity infect all who have the privilege of coming in contact with you!

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The World outside my Window--3

Monday, February 24, 2014

Now the third Care Giver,Jayashree ,comes into play.A small petite woman,she is slightly plump and as they in yesterday years----very 'fetching' to look at. She is around Lotta's age and maybe that is why that I'm that wee little bit fonder of her compared to the other two.
What makes Jayashree likeable is her capacity to listen well and appreciatively enjoy the Tales put forth by the other two women.She herself has zillion problems about a million issues but seeing her smiling face one could never guess about the turmoil that lies beneath the surface.Her husband left her during her second pregnancy to "marry" his paramour.Being a drunk he died in 2005 and since then she has been fighting with her rival for the rightful claim be given his job in the Mumbai Municipality.It is heart rending the way both those women are fighting tooth and nail for survival.
Despite everything she is sunny natured and that is the best thing about her.She has the gift of narration as well----giving the right comic touch at the right places.The most funny stories centre around mother---a feisty 85 years old lady.Now this lady is extremely hard of hearing---frankly calling her stone deaf would be the correct terminology to use.Now this old lady is tired of living with her son and his wife and is pecking away at her daughter to admit her to a Hospital where she can be at peace.So we are all searching for a reasonable Old People's Home where she would be well cared for.But she however has her terms----she will graciously live in a home that is spotlessly clean,where she will allowed to hold centre stage always and where people will obey all her commands?!!!
This feisty old lady tries to show off before women of her own age.Jayashree has in splits when se imitates her mother----as she nears her group of cronies,she throws up her walking stick in the Air,proceeding then to catch it expertly before walking off speedily past the corner ,just to collapse panting on the nearest bench in the building Park!!!The whole exercise is just to prove her supremacy over her friends despite her age!!!

  
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RIDMYCOCOON 4/17/2014 3:18AM

    Hahaha! What a woman! emoticon

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ASHWINI383 2/26/2014 6:40AM

  komal you are great....

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CHERIRIDDELL 2/24/2014 10:42PM

    As usual Komal you are finding joy in your companions and surroundings.

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JUDYAMK 2/24/2014 10:02PM

    why would they give the job to the mistress of her husband & not to his wife that was fully with child? This does not make sense is this common in India & if so the laws need to be changed/ that would NEVER fly here in the States
Take care
Judy

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MILLISMA 2/24/2014 9:05PM

    She sounds like such a joy to be around. So glad you are enjoying your caregivers.
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The World outside my Window--2

Sunday, February 23, 2014

There are two Care Givers at night----Nirmala Bai and Jayashree who both hail form two different Slums.Of these two Nirmala Bai is the more interesting one.A tall slim,fair ,light eyed lady she is frank person who does not hesitate to call a spade a spade.She hails from a tiny village on the Konkani Coast of Maharashtra and has fascinating tales to tell about the various Ghosts that run amok in the Countryside.
She has kept us riveted with the story of a small hillside Fortress where according to legend if one leaves a note requesting help in Money matters,one gets results immediately the next morning.It seems that in one of the hollows beneath the Western wall one finds neatly wrapped packets of money or Jewellery or even top class sets of Pots and Pans laid out neatly in the hollow spot.There has been no news of an Indian Robin Hood robbing the rich to feed the poor-----so I guess it is the Supernatural at work here.
There are various tales of why people veer away from using the paths on the Hillsides at night.She also tells of an encounter with a real Ghost on a fishing trip in the Sea one night.It seems these ladies had gone out to find Mud Crabs and Clams in the evening.They found such rich haul of these that they forgot to come ashore before the Tide flooded the Coastal area--leaving these ladies stuck on a small Atol.Around midnight they saw a figure wading between their Atol and the Sea shore ,searching Crabs and Clams and hauling them into a basket effortlessly.Two women called out t o the figure for help.The Figure hefted the sack it was carrying on to it's shoulder,turned to look at the women who asked for and just simply vanished on the spot in a nano second.Those two women fell down horror struck.By the time help arrived in the form of their husbands rowing out two large Fishing boats,those poor were women trembling and shivering badly.
They needed anExorcist to bring them back to normal the next-----Nirmala Bai said she would go out with those women for nocturnal Fishing jaunts after that!!!

  
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NITAINMN 3/4/2014 5:18PM

    Happy to hear you are healing...came here looking for you, dearest Komal. Miss you very much on FB. emoticon

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MILLISMA 2/23/2014 8:35PM

    How wonderful that you're getting to hear some great stories. emoticon

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BOVEY63 2/23/2014 10:21AM

    Would love to listen to them tell these tales.

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OVERWORKEDJANET 2/23/2014 7:06AM

    Interesting stories.
You can get a keypad for the iPad. If you wish, check on-line.

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CHERIRIDDELL 2/23/2014 1:33AM

    Oh how fascinating Komal. I too am on strict orders not to weight on my badly breoken ankle but my husband is not as entertaining .He generally leaves me with my books and goes downstairs to his television ! Should he fail to get fresh groceries tomorrow my wrath will come down upon him! Sloth like behaviour seems to be his specialty !

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The World outside my Window--1

Wednesday, February 19, 2014

My care givers---each one them---hail from the famous Slums of Mumbai.Alka my Day Care Lady comes from Worli Village supposed to be violence ridden area.However Alka tells a different stor y.Having been brought up there,she speaks of a different World.Of a World that is caring and where everybody knows everybody----a community that lives,laughs and celebrates together like a Family and if need be grieves together too.
She tells me something new each day.Yesterday there was a "Barsey"or christening in her neighbour's home.All the women got together to cook the Vegetarian and Non Vegetarian Biryanis.The vegetarian ladies ganged up and made two huge pots of the delicious dish while the non vegetarian ladies did the same with Chicken and Rice in similar quantity-----the entire Community dined together after the christening.Alka says each of the 4 pots was empty when they finished eating-----big compliment to the Cooks!!!
This feasting was followed by both Music and Dancing late into the night when around 2a.m. The revellers finally went to bed!!!The various types of Jokes and Bon Homie that was an integral part of the Festivity had me mystified-----because I just found it trifle hard to digest.The manner in which she narrated the proceeding was transparently honest----that they had a jolly time was visibly clear!!!

  
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RIDMYCOCOON 4/17/2014 3:21AM

    Well done! Here is to the cooks! emoticon Sounds like a wonderful celebration

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CHERIRIDDELL 2/23/2014 1:36AM

    You are in my prayers .There is joy in all places even when we do not understand the entire festivity we can appreciate they are celebrating.

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ALL_SMILES_4U 2/21/2014 4:36PM

    always love what u write... missed u

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OVERWORKEDJANET 2/19/2014 7:33PM

    We all share a joy in good things.
Joy in "hearing" you voice again.

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MILLISMA 2/19/2014 7:33PM

    That's proof that there's a little bit of "heaven" even in the difficult places. Sounds like they all had a wonderful time.

How are you doing? Hope things have improved for you. Think of you often and keep you in my prayers.

hugs...Mary Anne

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BOVEY63 2/19/2014 12:25PM

    This proves that there is good in all places, and that we need to focus on that.
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