Wednesday, March 05, 2014
Really? Really!!! I've been off sugar in my coffee for 3 days now and yesterday by noon I started having a slight headache. Now I'm like is this truly a withdrawal headache or is it that I've been fasting my breakfast for the past 2 days? As of this morning, it's already starting to wave hello I'm coming back today too... So I'm going to eat breakfast and see if it's truly withdrawal. I'm like it's only sugar in my coffee 3-4 teaspoons ... is it that serious? If it is sugar withdrawal from that...I'm like sugar is really serious huh?! Just think...what all the other sources of sugar my body ingest must be doing to me! So I'm starting with this form of sugar reduction and once I'm over this I'll work on reducing sugar in other areas.
After typing that...I can say I didn't workout yesterday. I went straight home and layed my head on my pillow. Now I thought seriously about working out...I even exercised in my mind but my physical body did not actually participate.
What still amazes me is how disappointed I am the next day when I realized I wasted another day. I'm like sad or feel like I missed a great event. Who me? Yeah, the very one that didn't exercise much at all a few years ago. Now I'm like disappointed when I talk myself out of working out. One day I'm going to master talking louder than that enemy that wins. That voice that convinces me that I don't need to workout, that says eat what you want, the one that says go home, rest, keep sitting there, this show/movie is good, you can do it later. That voice I have got to put a muzzle on if I'm going to get fit and eat healthier.
Funny thing ... as a young person I was quiet and shy. As an adult person I'm trying to convince others that I'm quiet and shy...they laugh hysterically when I say that. I guess the quiet and shy person is the one that listens to this enemy when they talk loudly within me. That quiet and shy person must spend more time with the true me and start speaking up and speaking loudly. Today...I'm introducing them to one another. They were separated after high school and its time they join forces. Hmmm incredible God I serve that has revealed so much to me these past few days. This is a work in progress. She's shy and quiet but I know she wants to be bolsterous and sassy. So right now she's in training and it will take some coaxing to get her up to speed but we will be one spirit, one body and one mind fighting against the evil of gluttony, laziness and the greatest of them all doubt and fear to push harder.
I ate well yesterday but didn't consume a lot of water. Today I will continue to do better because I know better.
Tuesday, March 04, 2014
Morting!!!! Hope your day is fabulous!! I didn't workout yesterday so to speak. My co-worker was MIA yesterday when she received an emergency call from home. So since she always leaves her cell phone on her desk I had to walk the building to try and locate her. We have 7 floors ya...and I did it in heels so is that walking? lol...then I went to JCP to return some stuff and is shopping exercise? If so then I worked out yesterday...lol.
I did eat well, although I had some McDs french fries with my dinner. Don't tell honey...
Now to my topic today. I was reading some reviews of Dr. Ian Smith's new book Super Shred. One guy posted that he was an ex Marine and now a personal trainer. He's giving his comments on various areas of Dr. Smith's book. Some of those comments made sense but what got me is this guy then plugs his website and training services So I'm like you bash someone else whose a Dr...with tons of folks that have had successful weight loss using his plan to uplift your sight!!! That was thing one. Then I was reading an article about calorie counting is it necessary? Another article - why are strength training programs different for women and men? The articles said the only difference should be amount of weight lifted not the plan. I agreed with this article. Another articles on the terminology used in women's magazines when describing our bodies versus men magazines ... interesting truths.
By the time I finished reading all these articles I was going hmmmmm....No wonder we get confused about how to lose weight and what works for our bodies. There's so much misinformation, battles between opinions, evidence that both sides are right or both sides are wrong. It just led me to finally say - I have to find out what works for me and do that. If I'm not a calorie counter, then I must listen to my body and look at my results to see what I can do to make sure I'm eating enough or not eating too much. If I'm okay consuming 8 cups of water a day or 12, 15, 20 cups and it works for me then I gotta do it. If I can only lose .05 #s a week/month then I got to be happy with that. Or if I lose more than a pound a week/month then I need to be happy with it as long as I'm healthy and I feel good about it. If I keep reading/researching and finding all these various opinions about what I should be or should not be doing I can drive myself batty.
So I say ...find what works for you. It's okay to get ideas and try new things. But none of us are created the exact same. So why should we all function the same. It may have worked for you but it may not work for me. Sure I'll try just about anything to lose this weight, but I need it to work for a lifetime not a quick, temporary fix. Therefore, I now focus on learning what my body likes, needs and wants. I believe this is the only way to make it a part of the rest of my life! Oh I'll keep researching because knowledge is power (lol) and use this information to guide me to the path that works for me.
Monday, March 03, 2014
This may be long today...First off I walked yesterday for 45 minutes. Got in some strength training really quick this morning. I spotted a dress I want to wear to take my 50th b'day pics and I need to work on my arms and back fat under my arms. Perhaps I can pull it off...lol
Now to my topic. My honey asked me Saturday - why did I gain weight? Yes...he did. This stemmed from a conversation we had a few nights ago wherein he wanted to see photos of me from back in the days. Apparently we went to the same high school briefly but he wanted to see if he seen me back then. So that led to me showing him photos post high school as well...
So this weekend this question pops up. My answer...I eat, I got lazy and I just wasn't concerned or paying attention until it was there. I didn't use the I had a baby excuse because she's 22. This was an honest answer.
Did I get upset by him asking me that? No, honestly I didn't. I did ask him if my weight bothered him. His reply...I wouldn't be with you if it did. I only ask out of curiosity and I care about your health. (We both had medical test done last week) Then he says ...does it bother me? honestly I said sometimes yes. He ask me when and what about it bothers me (psychiatrist...lol) it made me think. My answer: aches, discomfort, taking medication... not the appearance or to wear certain clothes. I make clothes work for me so that's definitely not it. But between you and I...I would like to be able to go sleeveless this Summer and wear a bathing suit without a coverup or skirt that looks like a dress (he loves the beach). So he then says the sweetest thing...I need to lose some more weight myself...we can do it together if you want to ahhhh of course. So we've agreed to stop eating out as much as HE/we have been (this weekend). To walk together on the days he's home early. I've committed to walking everyday. The time changes next week, that means I can walk outdoors without worrying about it getting dark on me...yaaayyyy!!! I do better weight loss wise when I can do this.
Then he said the worst thing he could say to a woman like me he said you need to give up that coffee!!! On the weekends I go get an x-large dunkin donuts coffee, cream and sugar . So he's a big sugar watcher (which helped him lose weight) so he corrects it and says you need to take the sugar and possibly the cream out of your coffee... you can have the coffee. Whew!!! So I tried it yesterday. I got my x-large with cream no sugar. Wasn't bad but I know it'll make me switch or wean my way off coffee a whole lot quicker without the sugar in it ...lol!!! I've been trying to cut back on my coffee for 2 weeks now. Hopefully drinking it this way will help me get there. But I also found a sweet cream with only 5g sugar per tbsp...mmm and it don't taste bad at ALL!!!
For him ---he's lost like 40#s prior to us meeting. He lost his weight on what he named the "subway" diet. Hmmm...Jareds friend lol... He still wants to lose 20#s and build muscle so....we're in it together.
I wrote this blog because I know alot of times women get offended by a man asking about our weight. But honestly I am grateful for the way he asked me. Strange thing is ---I prayed for a husband/mate that would understand my desire to lose weight and that we would be able to make this a part of our lifestyle. Someone to support and encourgage me to stick with it and be healthy. Hmmm...So how could I get upset when I'm getting from him what I told God I wanted in a mate? Now once we start to workout together...my thoughts may change lol...we know men can be hard on us trying to act like we can't...this one is not a push over when it comes to my feminine antics...lol I've seen that in action when we've worked on projects around my house.
Funny thing about this situation and this is when I say God knows....I was going through the many fashion/food/healthy lifestyle blogs that I follow. There's a post on one of the blogs about a couple that lost over 500#s together. So I click on it and I'm like OMG they look great. The site is webeatfat.com if you're interested. I haven't had time to really go through their site but the transformation is great and very inspirational. I shared it with my honey to say - we can be that couple one day? They're marathoners now and when they started the husband didn't cook now he does. Teamwork!!! Love it. Then again yesterday I'm on Facebook and there's another link to this same couple and another friend of a friend and her significant other on their journey to healthy. I'm like I get it God, I get it!!!
So I'll keep you posted on our journey together. Today I'm going to do my measurements. I weighed and I've gained 5#s almost 6#s. So here I go, almost heading to 50 and I'm planning my celebration at the beach I believe ...yaaaa
How would you respond if your significant other, asked you why you gained weight and does it bother you?
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