Tuesday, October 01, 2013
Sparkers, I'm writing this blog so when I look back next year, I can remember how far I've come. It's kind of long, so if you do read on, I apologize for the length.
Happy Birthday to me!
Last year I was two weeks into my new life. I had just quit my job and had no idea what I was going to do next. I was in a lot of pain from my frozen shoulder and was exhausted from trying to work full-time when I could barely dress myself. I also wasn't sure if my disability claim would be approved, which was causing me an enormous amount of stress. I knew I couldn't keep working, but I wasn't sure if I made the right choice to take time off. I wanted to focus on me for a change.
In late December my disability claim was finally approved. What a relief! I was still in a lot of pain and not sleeping. Having some money coming in took a lot of pressure off me, though.
In March I went to a class called "Inspired Work" in LA. During that class, I came up with an idea to create customized employment applications for mobile devices to make it easier for hourly people to apply for jobs. In April I met a brilliant coder from my college who graduated the following month. He created texting software that I incorporated into my company as a Virtual Recruiter.
I previously tried to other start-ups, but didn't have the right partner. I even met another potential partner through Inspired Work, but again, it wasn't the right fit. I finally feel as though I am working with the right people. We're having fun, there's no drama, and there's nothing we haven't been able to work though yet. Plus, if we are successful, we can share our success with our alma mater, Hampshire College.
By June we had a demo. Last week we had a national hotel chain agree to a paid beta test.
Throughout this process I constantly questioned whether or not I was doing the right thing. My Inspired Work class taught me that fear was normal, and some coping skills. I kept reminding myself that I had to walk through the fear. I'm still not making much money, but at least I know I have identified a need in the market and am positioned for success.
Now about my weight. Last year I planned to be at my goal, which means losing 15-20 pounds.
I just returned from a trip to NY/MA and haven't been logging my food lately. But I have been working out diligently, and we haven't been eating out much over the last few months (mostly to save $, but also to eat more healthily. DH needs to lose 50+ pounds).
I was nervous this morning when I got on the scale since I feel like a whale. I expected 170-173. So, I'll take 168.4 as a victory! I still have a long way to go, but as with many things in life, my weight isn't as big of a deal as I thought it was. It's always funny to me to realize how us humans can make a big deal out of a little issue.
So, how will I measure success on my birthday next year?
1. I will be at a healthy weight and my shoulder will be fully functional. No more pain!
2. My business will be thriving.
For now it's a lot of work, but I'm starting to see how Sparkpeople fits so perfectly into my work and personal life. I find inspiration here every day that flows into all aspects of my life. Thank you Spark Friends!
Friday, August 16, 2013
It's been a few very stressful weeks at my household. I need a mental health break. So, let's daydream for a minute:
You win the lottery and money is no object. You take care of your family, friends, and interests. You still have a bundle to spend, and you love to travel. What would you do?
A cruise around the world?
Rent a villa in Europe for a month?
Sparkers, come dream with me. Let's go on the virtual vacation of a lifetime together!
Sunday, August 11, 2013
You know from my last blog entry that DH is going through very tough times at work. My heart goes out to him. He just wants to go into work, do a great job, and go home without drama.
He suffers from anxiety, so this isn't helping. Last night we went to a LAMBDA Legal function and he was sweating uncontrollably. He got better as the evening went on, but it resumed later in the evening. Today he is in bed all day, sleeping.
I'n concerned the stress is literally killing him -- or at a minimum, making him sick. He doesn't exercise, so he has no release there. He typically turns to wine or scotch for release. He just hasn't learned how to manage stress, and now I think it's reached a tipping point. Any suggestions?
Saturday, August 10, 2013
This was a hard week for DH and me.
DH has worked for his company for 14 years. Always great reviews and increases. He's going to be 66 in a couple of weeks and hopes to stay at his job until he retires in 4 years.
Recently his company wrote him up for something that happened 1 1/2 years ago. The incident didn't harm the company's reputation, financial situation, or expose it to a lawsuit. It was a relatively minor incident. As a result, they demoted him and took 25% of his pay.
I know that many people are in a lot worse shape than we are. He is lucky to have a job. We have our health. But I can't help but wonder: when is it time to stop fighting the good fight? Should you have to defend yourself so hard at 66, with 14 years of service? If a company treats you like this, aren't they just saying they want you to go?
Needless to say, he's stressed to the max, which in turn stresses me out. I have to be careful because I'm a stress eater. So for now, no more Ben & Jerry's in the house (I got into it this week) and I have to be super careful about the cocktails.
Sparkers, I'm not really looking for responses or sympathy. I'm in HR and I know age discrimination when I see it. I'm just blogging off some frustration here. I promise the next one will be more upbeat!
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