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Keep Busy

Tuesday, January 10, 2012

How many times have you heard, whether on TV or from your doctor, to keep busy? At first, you may wonder if it really works when it comes to weight loss.

When we think of keeping busy we usually relate it to exercising in one form or another. Unless we are an athlete or stay at the gym all day, keeping busy might not be that easy. Keeping busy can come in all forms. Going to sporting events, seeing movies, playing pool or any other game can all be ways that we keep ourselves busy. The only problem with all these events is that they all have food or drinks being served. If we're not careful doing these type of things can really sabotage our weight loss.

Let's face it, if we go to a sports game whether its because we like the team or we are there to support our kids, there is always food there. And who doesn't like to have popcorn with that great movie we are about to see or that drink or two while we play pool. So does keeping busy really help or hurt us?

I know that keeping busy helps me. I am in the process of going to college and so most of my time is spent sitting in my favorite chair and reading or studying. I have had to learn, through trial and error, how to not eat and snack while I'm studying. Getting up and getting out of the house distracts me and helps keep me from food.

If you have trouble with the food when you go out here is a tip that might help you. I know its helped me. Do not bring your debit card or credit card when you go out. As you plan your night out get the cash you need for the night. Get cash for each pool game, for entry into ball game, or for the movie ticket. Pay it all in cash. Do not take so much extra that you have money for the snacks that are there. Limit yourself, kinda like you would if you were gambling in Vegas. If you don't want to lose all your money you only take so much with you to the tables. Let's face it, overeating is an addiction and if we can find a way to do it we will.

With limiting your cash flow, also have a healthy snack before you leave. If you combine the two you have a better chance of keeping on track and not ruining your night with guilt.

Enjoy your next outing and most definitely keep busy!

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NANCYANNE55 1/10/2012 4:23PM

    Great blog, Tammie! And very true! Wonderful idea about the cash, too.

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After Cosmetic Surgery

Friday, July 22, 2011

On May 12th I went in for a panniculectomy. A panniculectomy is when excess skin is removed after extreme weight loss. The surgery removed skin from my torso and also pulled up loose skin from my legs. The incision was from between my breasts down to my pubic bone and then all the way around my torso within a couple of inches on either side of my spine. The doctor removed 7.5 ponds of loose skin. Its quite an incision.

The change was amazing! My friend Nancy saw it immediately when she came in to visit. I definitely felt like I was missing a part of me directly after surgery. I was so glad to get it done and be rid of what I considered a reminder of the past.

To date I have lost 200+ pounds. It has been quite a mind trip. I still haven't gotten used to my new body. I still see the old me in the mirror at times. Sometimes its hard to be objective about how I look or what needs work. This is where my friend comes in. I can ask her what she thinks and I always get an honest answer. She is very encouraging and it helps.

I still have a couple of surgeries to go to sculpture my new self. I have been so blessed this far to have insurance cover my surgeries and will have to pay out of pocket for the others. When it's all done it should be interesting to see what I look like.

My husband is now home from Afghanistan and is happy with the changes so far. I can only imagine how weird it is to watch me go through this from his vantage point. His input has to be different from my friend's input. I need him to just be supportive. I'll get the detail stuff from my friend. He's been so patient to this point. I'm blessed in that way.

Here are pictures from my heaviest to after surgery. Quite a change!

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TANYAP71 9/1/2011 4:29PM

    Amazing transformation! Just amazing!

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MEGSMILEY 7/25/2011 9:56AM

    congratulations! You have done an awesome job! You look amazing and I bet you feel great too! :)

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OCTOBER2842 7/24/2011 11:33AM

    You look great, Congrats

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DJ4HEALTH 7/23/2011 12:23AM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SUZYQ2001 7/22/2011 8:22PM

    Wow! Your transformation is amazing and you are an inspiration to me. Keep positive thoughts in your head. emoticon

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NANCYANNE55 7/22/2011 6:40PM

    Your friend is super, duper proud of you! :-)

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KARIRDH3 7/22/2011 5:54PM

    WOW!!!! Congratulations. You look outstanding. So happy for you for such a fantastic weight loss journey. Your post gave me goosebumps. Keep up the amazing lifestyle! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Cosmetic Surgery

Monday, May 02, 2011

On Thursday of next week I'll be going in for cosmetic surgery. It's described as a tummy tuck, but is modified in the fact that a partial body lift will be part of it.

I'm excited about the surgery. It'll be nice to have a good portion of the extra skin removed from my body. It will also take another 15 pounds off my body as well. I will walk in looking one way and walk out looking another. A little strange for the mind to wrap around and I know it will take me some time but still I'm excited about it.

At the same time, there's part of me that is sad. I'm sad that I allowed myself to get in this condition. As much as I'm thankful that the medical community has pushed to make these surgeries covered by insurance, part of me feels like they shouldn't have to. Taking off the weight has taken a long time and fixing the side affects to my body that being obese caused will take just as long.

I knew all this when I started and decided then that I needed to lose weight no matter what I looked like under the clothes. I'm glad I made that decision and have not regretted it. Still, I can't shake the feeling that I didn't need to be in this situation. We are stuck with the choices we make and God has given me a second chance to make it right. We are not always given second chances.

So, I'm going to take this second chance and make the most of it. There's no turning back as far as I am concerned. Hopefully, I'll put up before and after pictures after I feel a bit better.

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HEATHERBARBER 7/22/2011 11:48AM

  How did your surgery go?? I would love to see pictures? Is your husband home yet? Please update all of us in a blog entry! :)

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JAZZYNUME 7/20/2011 4:47PM

    Good Luck Lady!!!

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CANNIE50 5/2/2011 7:08PM

    This is such an honest, thoughtfully considered, well-written blog. Many years ago, my insurance partially covered my treatment for alcoholism. Thanks to that jump-start, and AA, I am gratefully sober 26 years later which means I have avoided untold damage to myself and others. I totally understand your regret and I think it is honorable that you acknowledged your part which means you are less likely to repeat the behavior but perhaps now you can shift to gratitude? Just a gentle suggestion and I hope it reads that way, not as bossy. By the way, I am SO subscribing to your blog. Please, take care! emoticon

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NANCYANNE55 5/2/2011 1:27PM

    You should feel proud of yourself that you corrected the problem, not bad that you had the problem in the first place! God has given you the avenue to get this done- Be grateful and push everything else out of your mind as you prepare and then heal. I'll be interested to see what you look like when you are done, too. Not that I really know what you look like now, you keep wrapped up so tight....... :-)

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REDSHOES2011 5/2/2011 12:36PM

    Good luck with your tummy tuck, I have had it done and it helps alot.. emoticon

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Bariatric Surgery: Part 2 The Pro's and Con's (The Pro's)

Monday, January 10, 2011

As I considered this, I realized that I could go on and on about the positive side of losing weight and use that as the Pro part of having surgery, but that is the same with any tool you use to lose weight. No matter what you use to help you, you will get the benefits of losing weight. Better health, longer life, better self image, more confidence and whatever else you can come up with are all wonderful side effects of losing weight. I want to talk about what I think is positive about having surgery as opposed to using something else.

The only Pro I could really come up with was that surgery permanently changes the size of your stomach, well sorta, you can stretch it if you don't follow the rules. Truth is, it gives you a start over. Start overs are very important. When you are extremely overweight your stomach is so big that trying to keep it to the place where you are not always hungry is impossible. Then try to lose weight with it and after some time that becomes basically impossible, at least that is what I felt. After surgery your stomach is about the size of your fist, give or take. Immediately after it's smaller than that. For the longest time putting more than a cup of food in my stomach was pretty much impossible. Obviously, that aids in losing weight big time. Getting used to that stomach is part of the Con's that I'll do next time.

I can't over emphasize the importance of the smaller stomach. Surgery gives you what no other form of weight loss tool can give you. Lap Band is another good choice but that doesn't do for obese people what the surgery does. Here's where I recommend seeing a doctor who does both and take his advice. Being able to start over with my stomach is something that I am very thankful for and don't want to mess up. There are no do-overs after this.

I'd say surgery only has one Pro but I think it's a very important one to weight loss. Being able to start over and do things right is very rare. It is something that shouldn't be taken for granted and those who can't prove that they can change the way they eat shouldn't do it. It will be good for a while but you really need to make lifestyle changes to make it work over long term just like any other tool.

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MAJORMOM68 1/30/2012 8:12PM

    I'm coming up on two years post surgery. I have never regretted one day that I did it. I have heard some who haven't had the surgery say that it was the easy way out but it really isn't. It does take work and I work at it every day. Its been good for me and I know its been good for others as well

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AUNTEDIE 1/30/2012 2:11PM

  I agree it is a great tool but you absolutely have to make a lifestyle change. The first 80 lbs came off very easy for me but now I really have to work harder at it. It's a wonderful
tool for weight loss. I've been heavy since childhood and this
is the only way I was able to lose weight. I've joined WW about 1000 times since I was 16 years old and could never lose more than 20 lbs. I had RNY gastric bypass a year ago and have reversed my sleep apnea, high blood pressure, acid reflux and most importantly type 2 diabetes. I really believe the surgery saved my life but you still have to do the hard work.

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MIRISTAR 7/27/2011 9:04AM

    Excuse me, but surgery has many "pros". It allows the person to actually feel full after meals. It corrects the blood sugar levels - from within a few days of the surgery - to take away the raging hunger. It corrects reflux, and many find that their blood pressure normalizes very soon after surgery. (this is without losing more than a few of the pounds). The fact that the stomach is made smaller is a very small part of the whole thing. The health issues that prevent exercise get removed.

I don't know if you can imagine never actually feeling full, but trying to eat a sane food plan when someone feels hungry 20 minutes after eating it - instead of full - is a great definition of torture.

The other thing is this - statistically, most morbidly obese (ie 100 pounds over correct weight) people can their weight back within 5 years. So all that work, its for nothing. And they feel defeated. And horrible. And they are sicker because losing and gaining is so bad for you. With the surgery, most of the people KEEP the weight loss.

Just a thought. Good luck to you!

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NANCYANNE55 1/10/2011 8:28PM

    Good point about making it a lifestyle, no matter what. That's the key to success with ANY weight-loss/maintenance tool.

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Me Through My Husband's Eyes

Tuesday, December 21, 2010

I'm taking a small break from my bariatric blogs to share something that I found especially helpful to me and I'm hoping it will be for others as well.

My husband is a Captain in the Army Reserves and currently serving in Afghanistan. The last I saw him was about three months ago and we have the blessing of having him home for Christmas. Last I saw him I was 20-25 pounds heavier. What's interesting about my husband's comments to me is that the changes he commented on just didn't take place in the last three months, it's just that he has noticed them.

It was good for me to have someone with whom I am intimate to be able to touch and feel around and notice the muscle and changes in my body that I have been working on since April 2010. He was impressed with the increase in muscle all over and was able to assess my weak points. After losing 179 pounds it can be difficult to see the muscle through all the excess skin. (I might add that my husband is very wonderful with this process and still finds me attractive. I'm a lucky woman.) It was nice to have someone verify what I have already seen and it was nice to have someone notice the hard work.

What was really nice was what he had to say about everything. He said I was happier, more flirty (which, if you know me, may be a bit much), and more sensual. He said he noticed the tone of my body and keeps commenting on how skinny I look. He was a bit hesitant at first when all this started but now is quite pleased with the results and is even looking forward to the future.

What I want people to realize is that all this didn't happen overnight. My husband, who knows me intimately physically hasn't noticed everything until now. I could have been offended but instead it reminded me that this is a process. We live in such a "fast food" culture. We want changes that took years to happen to be reversed overnight. I know my changes will be a lifetime in coming and maintaining but I want it now. Because of my exchange with my husband I am more willing to let time do it's thing. I'm happy with my changes and am looking forward to more.

If it's taking you longer than you'd like to see the changes in your body, hang in there. It will come, trust me. It just takes time.

The next time I see my husband will be in July 2011. By that time I hope to have taken off another 15 pounds and to have had a body lift. I'm sure he'll notice that! :)

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DIANNSFITLIFE 10/6/2011 8:36AM

    I am new to blogging here and was just writing about needing motivation and apparently inspiration, Thank You MajorMom. Reading your blog has opened my eyes, I have lost 60 pds and have more to go,I guess I thought it was going to fly off on its on. You have reminded me again I have to work at it and its not going to happen overnight.

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ADRIENNE29 1/27/2011 1:00PM

    what a wonderful thing you have done in sharing your insights with us! I very much appreciate them, I hope you continue to post blogs. Even though I may not have had the surgeries, I too have dropped a significant amt. of weight and yet I STILL see myself through fogged lenses of derogatory adjectives. I WISH so very much that I could see myself through MY husbands eyes. He is constantly saying, "Honey you have no idea how sexy you are..." and such, and meanwhile all I can focus on is the muffin top over the jeans or the extra apron of skin below my belly button.....this is something truly deep and meaningful. I think I could learn or at least be inspired by your take on things. Please keep posting!

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GRITS46 12/21/2010 7:35PM

    This is wonderful! Sharing something so intimate shows great respect for each other and is immensely helpful to the rest of us. What a gift you have in each other! I'm so glad your husband's home for Christmas, and I pray for his safety after his return to Afghanistan.

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HEART2HOME 12/21/2010 5:10PM

    That's very exciting! What your dh "sees" and thinks are the most important. It's nice to have others comment on the changes, but when the one we share our life with-the one who has seen you at your worst and your best, takes note of the changes in you, then that's what matters most.

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NANCYANNE55 12/21/2010 4:41PM

    Travis really has been very accepting of this whole thing. I think more than anything else he wants you around for a long time and loves you enough to be supportive of changes, even if he is wary of them to some degree at the start.

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