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William is four today!

Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Lucy's little brother and Pearl's big brother is four today.
He is such a unique little man...very smart and inquisitive...Loves books and anything with wheels.
He has a wonderful imagination and loves to play pretend games.
He is good at amusing himself but adores playing with his Papa and missed him so very much when Papa was in the hospital so long.
Will was a cranky baby and had (still has, some days) some painful intestinal problem that his doc says will sort itself out.
I feel so blessed to be such an active part of William's life.

  
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BOOKAPHILE 11/20/2014 10:14AM

    He's a charmer! Happy Grandma :-)

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BETHGILLIGAN 11/20/2014 8:44AM

    Happy birthday, William!!! Hope you have a great day!

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DEBBIEANNE1124 11/19/2014 9:54PM

    Happy Birthday William.

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LKWQUILTER 11/19/2014 7:41PM

    Cute little man.

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IAMBIZI 11/19/2014 7:24PM

    so cute glad that he can play with his grand pa again.
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WATERMELLEN 11/19/2014 6:52PM

    What an adorable little boy! Happy birthday to William!!

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AJDOVER1 11/19/2014 5:16PM

    Thanks for sharing him with us!

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MARITIMER3 11/19/2014 4:25PM

    What a handsome little boy. Hope his birthday was a real treat!

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MEXGAL1 11/19/2014 2:25PM

    Happy Birthday to such a real cutie!

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HIPPICHICK1 11/19/2014 12:53PM

    4 already? Where has the time gone?
Happy Birthday William!
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JANTHEBLONDE 11/19/2014 11:58AM

    Happy 4th Birthday little William! He is absolutely adorable! I hope you have a fabulous Wednesday!
Hugs and love,
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JOANNANOW 11/19/2014 11:32AM

    What a cute little boy. You are blessed with adorable grand kids. May it be a fun B day and happy al year long for William and emoticon emoticon for all of you.

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DOOBRIE 11/19/2014 11:27AM

    Happy Birthday to William. Sweet boy!

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NEW-CAZ 11/19/2014 11:21AM

    emoticon William, he's a real credit to you Liz

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MOJO0607 11/19/2014 10:48AM

    Such a cutie! Happy Birhday, William, and Happy day to you as well, Mama!

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SEPTEMBERSPIRIT 11/19/2014 10:48AM

    emoticon William! Such a cutie (I remember when you first posted his newborn pic)... that's how long we've been friends here on SP (at least lol).

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EDWARDS1411 11/19/2014 10:30AM

    Oh my, look at how big he's getting! Happy B-Day William!!!
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UMBILICAL 11/19/2014 10:26AM

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Aaaaahhhhhhh!

Monday, November 17, 2014

My massage today was divine! emoticon
Just what I needed right now.
My therapist is just a doll and gives an amazing massage.
I have gone to her off and on for 15 years or more...less since I retired (no $!).
She took a good long time working me over, especially my hips, and gave me lots of advice of things to try.
Since retiring, as my income declined, I tried at least 5 or 6 different massage places using Groupon but no-one compares to Angela, and I told her so.
She is the one who messaged me on FB asking if she could please GIVE me a massage when she heard what I was going through during my dear man's health crisis.
How very kind.
I still cry when I think of what a kind and generous act that was.
So, I told her that I was planning on a massage every month henceforth and, guess what?
She is giving me the 'friends and family' discount.
She probably does it for all her regulars but I still am pretty happy about it!
People can be so kind.
Hope all is well in your world.
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HIPPICHICK1 11/19/2014 1:15AM

    What a lovely and compassionate gesture! I'm so glad you have an "Angel"a.
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BOOKAPHILE 11/18/2014 9:32PM

    What a compassionate, giving friend! Enjoy your monthly indulgence...you deserve it!

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LKWQUILTER 11/18/2014 9:22PM

    She is a keeper. Glad she helped you so much.

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That is so sweet of Angela. I went once years ago because of my back, loved it.
So happy for you and happy that your husband is doing better.

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SEPTEMBERSPIRIT 11/18/2014 11:58AM

    How nice of her to offer that to you!! So very well deserved - glad it made you feel better!

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TRAVELGRRL 11/18/2014 10:43AM

    I am so glad to hear that your husband is improving! I'm working on catching up with Sparkfriends and am so happy to hear things are going better in Your Corner of the Universe....

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EDWARDS1411 11/18/2014 8:55AM

    Well-deserved!!!
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TWILAQ1 11/18/2014 7:57AM

    Wonderful!

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BETHGILLIGAN 11/18/2014 7:29AM

    I love a good massage but have a difficult time justifying the money and time. I still think of it as a luxury although in my head I know it has so many health benefits! So glad you were able to get yours. I know how much better you must feel and, you're right, she is awesome to offer the discounts to you!!

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NEW-CAZ 11/18/2014 3:19AM

    Liz I am so glad you took time out for yourself, it's been a stressful time for sure.
Hope David continues to improve....won't be long before you're able to go to your "retreat" and have some beach time emoticon emoticon

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DEBBIEANNE1124 11/18/2014 12:28AM

    I thought you meant your husband was getting a massage. emoticon

Now I need a massae.

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_UMAMI_ 11/17/2014 11:23PM

    What a fabulous and compassionate business-woman!
Definitely give her the thumbs up on Yelp (or whatever local site that's good) when you're comfortable sharing your "treasure"! emoticon
Sounds like she deserves good feedback!
And am envious of your wonderful massage. Just trying to fit in some yoga here.

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IAMBIZI 11/17/2014 10:40PM

    That is great.
So happy for you!
thanks for sharing!
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JANTHEBLONDE 11/17/2014 10:21PM

    Awww.... That is so sweet of Angela giving you a discount so you can get a wonderful massage every month! That is fabulous! I am so happy for you... You definitely deserve it my friend! I hope you and your DH are doing well! You both are in my prayers!
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All is well!

Sunday, November 16, 2014

Things are going even better than we had been told to expect. emoticon
David is still weak and tired and too skinny (has hardly gained any muscle mass) but his cognition is almost back to normal. emoticon
He is reading voraciously...like his brain is hungry...sometimes a book a day!
Lots of people sent books over when they heard he was sick, not knowing he was unable to read for a long period.
I let him drive (with me in the car) a few short distances (we live in a small town) and he was very comfortable so I am letting him drive himself to PT atwice a week, then he drove himself to a neighboring town to visit his 90 yr old father (who is doing pretty well living on his own, with support services).
I drive us to the university for the warm water pool therapy (good for both of us) as there is a lot of traffic around the school.
My hips are still killing me...I think the months spent driving to and from hospitals and mostly sitting in his room, plus the stress, has caused a major flare-up of my bursitis.
The pool helps, as does the new cleaning service, and I am going for another massage tomorrow. emoticon
Anybody have good luck with acupuncture for bursitis in the hips (and the sciatica it causes)?
I am amazed that throughout all this I have not gained any weight (or lost any) but I feel like a blob as I have not exercised much in months...also contributing to my bursitis, I am sure.
I am cooking lots of healthy fattening food trying to beef up my dear man but keeping myself away from most of it. emoticon
Anyway, wanted to give you an update on my little life.
Hope you all had a fabulous weekend and will have a wonderful week.
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AJDOVER1 11/17/2014 6:21PM

    It's so good to hear of the improvements for you DH! We're blessed that my guy didn't suffer any complications from his surgery. His physical recovery isn't as fast as he would like, but I see improvement every day.

Best wishes on finding a solution for your bursitis.

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LESLIESENIOR 11/17/2014 2:29PM

    What fantastic news, Elizabeth!!!!!!
My husband and I started yoga 6 months ago. Our chiropractor and two different doctors suggested it. We have very different body types and different back, neck, hip, knee joint pain etc..... but yoga 3-4 times a week has been HUGE in eliminating much of our pain, and keeping it away. We knew there would be benefits, but we are quite amazed. My running and his golfing are so much better, too! Just a suggestion.

I'm so happy that things are moving along so well for you both. What a blessing!!
Prayers will continue!

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JANTHEBLONDE 11/17/2014 10:58AM

    This is Fabulous news! Woo hoo! Let's do the happy dance! I'm so happy for you and your honey! My prayers go out to you and your dear man! I hope you have a wonderful Monday and a fabulous week!
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JOANNANOW 11/17/2014 10:47AM

    Oh it is so great to hear you guys are almost back to normal. The warm water pool sounds so wonderful.

We are getting a new hospital in our community it is under construction and there was some talk of putting in a therapy pool but I think it got vetoed. We don't even have a swimming pool ....our town is only 1500 people so the expense always stands in the way. I love it anyway ... so can't complain.

A warm water pool for sore hips sounds just perfect.
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MEXGAL1 11/17/2014 10:30AM

    I am just so happy to read about David and how he is doing. I do hope the recovery continues to be good. He sure has a great support with you in his life.
Have a great week.
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HEALTHY4ME 11/17/2014 10:05AM

    OH so happy for you.... glad he is doing so well!!! and sure hope your pain goes, I have had severe sciatica numerous times... Right now wearing thigh high compression socks before knee surgery, and they are helping my leg that aches from sciatica but don't have a butt ( sciatic ) flare right now but sure making my legs feel better.
HUGS so so glad for you both! what a great Christmas present this is for you guys!

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SEPTEMBERSPIRIT 11/17/2014 9:26AM

    So happy to hear of his amazing progress!! I hope your pain subsides soon...

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MARITIMER3 11/17/2014 9:21AM

    That's incredible,Liz! He's coming along by leaps and bounds. I'm so happy for both of you. It's wonderful that he can drive again.

I hope you are able to get some relief from the bursitis soon.

Hugs to you both,
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IAMBIZI 11/17/2014 8:02AM

    wow! he has improved!!!!
so happy for you.
Now about those hips what about injections? or PT for you?
Time to take care of you!
(((((HUGS)))))
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BETHGILLIGAN 11/17/2014 7:53AM

    This is amazing good news!! I can't tell you how happy I am for you and David!!! emoticon

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PATTICAKES08 11/17/2014 7:06AM

    So glad to hear that things are going well! Time to focus on YOU!!!

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LKWQUILTER 11/17/2014 6:50AM

    Prayers are certainly being answered and such wonderful news. (((HUGS)))

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TWILAQ1 11/17/2014 6:18AM

    Fabulous news about your husband! What a relief!

I hurt my hip one day getting into the car on a cold morning. Pop! I did a year of weekly acupuncture, but it didn't help it. I find hugging one knee to my chest for a while, and then the other one is the best relief when it acts up.

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GABY1948 11/17/2014 6:03AM

    emoticon This is GREAT!

Blessings to you and DH!

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FIFIFRIZZLE 11/17/2014 4:21AM

    What great progress!

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NEW-CAZ 11/17/2014 3:33AM

    Great news about David Liz, sorry you're suffering though, hope the acupuncture helps....when you're in pain you try ANTHING.

There are protein, high calories shakes you can get from chemists (over here anyway) that you mix with milk- perfect for someone convalescing or unable to gain weight.
Worth asking!

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HICKOK-HALEY 11/17/2014 3:15AM

    So glad your Hubby is feeling much better. Driving must lift his spirits. I agree, stress can cause havoc on joints etc. emoticon

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DEBBIEANNE1124 11/17/2014 1:46AM

    Haveyou tried iving him a protein shake in the blender like Whey powder and add some fruits or berries? I'm glad he's improving. Thanks for the oodie.

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DOOBRIE 11/17/2014 1:24AM

    So sorry about your bursitis. I am skeptical about acupuncture for it but at the same time I think it's worth a try! I hope you'll find something that'll help anyway.

It's great to hear that David is doing so well. It's really wonderful that he has recovered so much from the infections. Did the surgery completely cure the pain in his back?

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GOING-STRONG 11/16/2014 10:48PM

    So glad to hear that things are going well. Now if you can just get rid of that pesky bursitis!

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Aaaauuurrrgh!

Monday, November 10, 2014

TWICE I composed a long, literate, heartfelt, meaningful blog and
POOF!!!
They disappeared from my iPad (never had my iPad freeze up before).
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So, I shall try a third time to let you know that my dear man has been doing so very well recovering from his major health crisis of these last few months.

Mentally, he is doing grrrreat- his vision, hearing and focus have all improved-he is able to read and write again and actually has poked around on his computer a tiny bit these last few days. emoticon

Physically, it's going a bit slower- he was bedridden for most of the last four months with his back injury and then the life-threatening infections after his surgeries.
He lost 40-45 lbs and most of his muscle mass- his arms and legs are like sticks- and he is still very weak.
He has had two PT sessions and is learning a lot, plus we have been to the warm water pool for exercise twice.
He is not able to drive yet.
He gets discouraged by his progress but I try to explain to him how far he has come in the last month (he has no memory of most of it).
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I, on the other hand, am trying hard to turn my focus back onto my own health and well-being.
I have hired a cleaning service.
I am scheduling regular massages.
I am not over-extending myself socially (saying no).
I am making time to exercise and meditate.
I am weaning myself off the easy way to relax- my wine.
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I cannot begin to express my appreciation to all of my dear sparkpeeps and even total spark-strangers who have reached out to me in my time of need and comforted me with messages and goodies these past few months.
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46SHADOW 11/12/2014 8:07PM

    So glad you're taking care of you and your husband of course. Sounds like your on a good path and the right path

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DOOBRIE 11/12/2014 6:44PM

    Great ideas for taking care of you while at the same time caring for your dear man.

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AJDOVER1 11/12/2014 1:36PM

    You're an inspiration! It's so good to know your DH is improving
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JOANNANOW 11/11/2014 6:32PM

    So good to hear you are looking after yourself. I've been cutting back on wine too and find I hardly miss it on the days of abstinence! emoticon emoticon

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HIPPICHICK1 11/11/2014 2:13PM

    We've all lost blogs, I'm sure. I usually write them on my notepad (on the computer) then copy and paste into the blog.

Does David have any idea how long he has been out of the game, so to speak? Is he aware of how much time has passed? Just curious.

Thanks for letting us all in on this part of your life. So much easier to handle than if you didn't have anyone to talk to or a blog to write.

Still sending you good vibes.

Super happy to hear your are scheduling in massages for yourself!

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MEXGAL1 11/11/2014 1:00PM

    I simply hate when that happens. for me it's something I do when I am typing with my crippled hands. I wish I knew what it was. There used to be a way to undo your last action but have forgotten how to do that.

I am just so happy to read about the progress your DH is making. Yes it will be slow but as you say he has come so far already.

I am also glad to hear that you are now focusing on yourself and taking care of yourself. So very important for us care takers to care for ourselves so we will be strong enough to care for our loved one.

Have a nice day!
Peanut

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LKWQUILTER 11/11/2014 10:31AM

    What wonderful news and so glad that David is steadily improving and you are taking care of yourself too. emoticon emoticon

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PHOENIX40S 11/11/2014 9:45AM

    I love your plan for self care. That's so important when taking care of a loved one. I'm so glad things continue to progress well with your DH.

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REBECCAMA 11/11/2014 8:41AM

  Glad to hear things are going so well! I know it's been a long journey so far and it's not over yet. 4 months can feel like forever when things like this happen.

Good luck to both of you as he continues to recover.

(And thanks for the Spark goodie.)

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GABY1948 11/11/2014 7:46AM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon news esp considering how bad he was a short time ago. And glad you are taking care of YOU! God Bless you!

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TWILAQ1 11/11/2014 7:21AM

    I love how your news is becoming all good! You were filled with anguish for so long, that this new turn is very welcome. I'm so glad that your husband is improving and that you're taking care of yourself. Hugs!

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SEPTEMBERSPIRIT 11/11/2014 5:34AM

    You have a great plan of self-care!! emoticon emoticon

So happy to hear that your hubby's recovery is progressing so that you can shift the focus back on YOU a bit :)

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NEW-CAZ 11/11/2014 2:55AM

    Great news on all fronts Liz, I am chuffed he's doing so well and glad to see you're being sensible and sharing your load with a cleaning service.
It's one thing less to worry about and you can concentrate on getting you feeling stronger!
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HICKOK-HALEY 11/11/2014 1:17AM

    Glad your Hubby is doing better. Sometimes progress is slow, but he will get thee. So glad he as the pool for exercise. emoticon

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MARITIMER3 11/10/2014 11:22PM

    No need to thank us, Liz... we know you would support us un the same way.

Glad that your DH is coming along so quickly and that you are taking steps to look after yourself as well. I hope the sciatica clears up soon.

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DEBBIEANNE1124 11/10/2014 10:33PM

    You go, Lizzie. Stay strong.

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_UMAMI_ 11/10/2014 10:20PM

    You sound so VERY VERY together, but I know how hard it can be. I'm glad that you have found ways to monitor DH's progress but also your own needs. And I hope that someone is there looking out for YOU looking out for HIM, if you KWIM.

Don't sell yourself short, and don't overextend yourself either.
One of my kids made me a birthday card once, called "Mom's OTHER job", and it was me like a Marine or SWAT officer, coming out of a helicopter. Kind of surprised me, that he saw me like that. But glad that he saw me "rising up to the task".

'Cause sometimes I just have to get the job done. But sometimes, ya gotta take care of yourself, without feeling guilty. Time to rejuvenate, and process information.

Please take care of yourself. So happy that things on on the upswing for all of you.
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GOING-STRONG 11/10/2014 10:11PM

    So glad things are more positive and Thanks for taking time to rewrite your post!
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IAMBIZI 11/10/2014 9:49PM

    oh elizabeth,
this is great news. glad that he forgot what has all happened to him.
Happy to hear that you are going to be taking better care of you!
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JANTHEBLONDE 11/10/2014 9:44PM

    Yippee! I'm so glad to hear your dear man is recovering very well from his major health crisis! He has came along way in the last few weeks! I am so happy that you are able to focus on your own health now! You and your honey are in my prayers! Sending you tons of hugs!
Hugs and love,
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EDWARDS1411 11/10/2014 9:27PM

    Such wonderful news and progress!!!
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WESAPHILLIPS 11/10/2014 9:18PM

  OH how I hate when I lose stuff on the computer...A Love-Hate relationship with technology!!
Good luck!!

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Strange appointment

Friday, October 31, 2014

Just returned from DH's post-op appt with the neurosurgeon (postponed for a month as my dear man spent 41 days in the hospital with serious complications.
His doctor acted sort of distant or something.
He usually is warm and welcoming and he and my hubby really hit it off.
Today?
Stand-off-ish.
I wonder if he is afraid we are going to sue him.
Although, my hubby was talking too much, still some brain issues going on, actually interrupted the doc at a few points.
We are SO not lawsuit kind of folks, and we would probably go after the hospital where he picked up two of the three infections rather than the surgeon,
But....
We shall see.
Any words of wisdoms?
Thnx to Medicare we do not have a lot (some, though) of medical bills but we have had a loss of income, not to mention a lot of pain and suffering.
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DEBBIEANNE1124 11/8/2014 1:45AM

    No. Let me know how it goes. I'm in the same boat right now.

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FIT4MEIN2013 11/6/2014 12:13AM

    Not all complications and infections are d/t malpractice, though some most definitely are! That said, people will sue and those with little to no out of pocket expenses are over 90% more likely to sue. That can lead to HUGE defensiveness on the part of the provider.

Call and make an appointment to talk to the doctor by yourself. Tell him that you want to clear the air and ask for his input, too. You both need to be comfortable with each other for your husband's sake.

Just a little advice from one who has been there. Praying for you!

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MEXGAL1 11/5/2014 11:33AM

    I decided to visit your page since I hadn't gotten word of a blog post recently....not sure why sparks drops us sometimes for those things.

So I came to visit to get news of your DH. Hum, does sound like the doctor is worried. I sure understand his concern as America is a sue happy country. After living here in Mexico and seeing no law suits involving health issues it is refreshing. That being said, hospitals do have an obligation to keep their patients safe. I am not sure what I would do in your case. Especially since you haven't really had out of pocket costs. But you have certainly suffered much "pain and suffering". It could also be very stressful to sue and might set your DH back a bit. Hum, still not sure what I would do.

Sending positive thoughts for your DH's recovery.
Peanut

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AJDOVER1 11/1/2014 4:54PM

    There's no point in guessing what was going on in another person's mind. Perhaps he was just observing your husband in light of all that has happened. You and your husband are in my prayers. As you said in your last blog, this has been a life-changing event for both of you. My Guy is recovering from his surgery last week.

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FIFIFRIZZLE 11/1/2014 11:14AM

    Perhaps the doctor felt bad about the chain of events that kicked off, whether he is culpable or not. But he would certainly have had to be careful about what he said, in the light of a possible lawsuit or complaint to the medical council. So would not have been able to apologise or express concerns, probably acting under instruction from his insurer or hospital management.
Does DH have insurance for loss of income? It seems that his recovery could be long and who knows how complete it will be, brain njuries are tricky.
You probably should investigate, and as soon as possible. You don,t have to proceed if you don't want to later down the track. And you may be offered a payout?
In New Zealand we can't sue, we have a no-fault national compensation system to cover medical misadventures and lost work...

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MARITIMER3 11/1/2014 9:45AM

    I think you're absolutely right, Liz, that the doctor is afraid of a lawsuit.

Should you? I have no idea. Yes, the original issue was the nicked spinal column, and yes, the infections were from the hospital stays.

Did anyone do anything wrong intentionally? I strongly doubt it.

Canadians are less likely to sue than Americans, or so we are led to believe, so I'm probably not the right person to be commenting.

Think it through carefully, and do what you agree is the right thing.

Gail

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NEW-CAZ 11/1/2014 3:47AM

    A consultation would give you all your options Liz- doesn't mean you HAVE to go ahead!!

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SEPTEMBERSPIRIT 11/1/2014 3:28AM

    I agree with most - get a consultation and go from there.

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DOOBRIE 11/1/2014 3:14AM

    I would take legal advice as soon as possible Liz. Your DH should be entitled to some sort of compensation for everything he has had to go through. Seems like a lot of mistakes were made to me.

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TWILAQ1 10/31/2014 11:02PM

    I had a botched surgery nearly 20 yrs ago. I woke up to find the surgeon teary eyes telling me he should have used a different type of incision.He punched a laperascope right into my secum. Spillage. Infection. I asked him to help cover the increased moving costs not being able to drive the rental truck to TX due to the massive emergency incision would cost me when I saw him at a later appointment. He refused. I hired a lawyer, who sat on the case for over a year, then claimed that because I had seen a naturalpath several yrs before, my case would be thrown out. By this time, the surgery video had mysteriously disappeared... I am not litigeous, but I wanted him to remember and think before operating so carelessly on any other woman with endometriosis scarring and adhesions. I got nothing.
Talk to a good lawyer and get the surgery video.

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JANTHEBLONDE 10/31/2014 8:34PM

    I'm so sorry to hear about your doctor visit today! If you choose to see an attorney there is a very short limitation period! Do not wait to see an attorney... Go talk to one as soon as possible to see your options! I'm not into lawsuits either... but I waited too long to seek Long term disability! So now it's a huge problem for me! I know you don't need more aggravation especially because your dear man has been so sick! I really do think you should get some kind of the advice as soon as possible! You and your husband are in my prayers! Sending you lots of hugs and love!
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SANDICANE 10/31/2014 7:58PM

    Perhaps a consultation with a good lawyer would help you see the situation more clearly....darn those hospital bugs anyway!!!! We all say we need to stay out of the hospital at all costs b/c of them!!!

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LKWQUILTER 10/31/2014 7:09PM

    Not sure what you should do. We are not sue-happy folks either but we did sue when I was in a wreck (other driver's fault) and when insurance refused my bills, then we decided we needed legal help. If insurance had just taken care of the bills, we would NOT have done what we did but I had brain damage. Time, therapy, and meds have helped tremendously but it was a long road. Now I know what I can/cannot do, and take 1 day at a time. Good luck, prayers continuing for you and David. ((HUGS))

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JOANNANOW 10/31/2014 6:09PM

    No wisdom here. I live in Canada and although lawsuits are rare they do happen. My friend had a top surgeon operate for a cancer in her neck at the WRONG site! The settlement took ages to come and the second surgery on the correct site was eventually done but that also took a while, to allow the wrong one to heal first. Needless to say the doctor was devastated and my poor friend went through hell. Basically all I have to say is mistakes happen and sometimes they have enough impact to warrant legal steps. You will have to weigh it carefully and decide if it is worth the hassle because sometimes $ is not really the issue. I hope things are still progressing in a positive direction. Sending extra hugs today. emoticon

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WATERMELLEN 10/31/2014 5:08PM

    Sorry for the unpleasant experience at the doctor's office.

it never hurts to consider your options -- and there may be very short limitations periods within which you would need to make a decision.

So . . . you may want to get that legal opinion sooner rather than later.

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BETHGILLIGAN 10/31/2014 4:45PM

    We're not lawsuit people either. It seems you would have a good case since he did nick the spinal cord but.........You have to do what brings peace to you. You have gone through A LOT and you are without income now. But, you need to make that decision. So glad hubby is doing better. You are both in my thoughts and prayers.

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GABY1948 10/31/2014 4:40PM

    Perhaps he IS afraid of lawsuits. That's all I see on tv anymore. I wouldn't worry about it...we are not lawsuit people either. I'm sure once you come back and he knows that he will come around!

GOOD going...so glad it has worked as it has!

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IAMBIZI 10/31/2014 4:39PM

    maybe you need to let the doctor know of your intentions...???
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MAGGIEVAN 10/31/2014 3:59PM

    Court cases would drag you through much negative emotions. Just be prepared for a long unpleasant time, for false allegations etc. remember the other side will put the blame on you guys.

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POETICJUSTUS 10/31/2014 3:50PM

    I pray for a speedy total healing. The doc's behavior is puzzling. Just leave him to God. Blessings to you and your emoticon family. Carolyn emoticon

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EDWARDS1411 10/31/2014 3:36PM

    Being in Canada where we have few malpractice lawsuits, I'm not inclined to think of suing, but honestly your DH and you have been through soooooo much on what was supposed to be a relatively simple day surgery that went from bad to worse. I think I remember you saying that the doctor made an error in knicking something and things just seemed to go wrong from there. The fact that the he seemed standoffish during your recent appointment makes me think you just might have a good case. But I'm definitely not an expert and it seems to me you should consult one for some advice. I just discussed this with my DH who I have been updating throughout your ordeal and he agrees.
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