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Friday, September 19, 2014

I do not wish to scare anyone away from back surgery as my dear man had no other option and, actually, his back, his nerve pain, and the muscle control of his legs are all improved from the lamenectomy and double discectomy that he had a week ago Tuesday, 9/9.
he has had a few complications, one minor, an infection at his IV site on his hand that was corrected quickly and one major.
Apparently, the surgeon nicked his spinal cord (which is nearly invisible) while fixing his back and it wasn't until the inflammation subsided five days later that the leak of spinal fluid started causing excruciating head and neck pain whenever my dh stood or sat up.
After trying a few days of prednisone, an MRI confirmed the leak (actually two), necessitating further surgery.
The surgeon apologized to my husband and explained how this rare complication occurs.
David had a second surgery Wednesday around noon and now has to lay totally flat in the hospital for at least 48 hours when they will very slowly raise the head of his bed and assess his condition.
He cannot even get up to use the bathroom (thank you, dear nurses) and has great difficulty eating and drinking so I have spent many hours by his bedside (about 1/2 hour away).
If all goes well, I MAY be able to bring him home on Sunday.
I am trying to take care of myself at this difficult time but it's not easy.
I am also continuing my grandbaby babysitting time as well, as that is the funniest part of my life.
My poor man missed an entire summer with this injury and I cry when I see him suffer so much.
Thnx for all of your support, the msgs and the goodies and spark live, my friends.

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HIPPICHICK1 9/24/2014 10:17AM

    My dear Elizabeth,
I'm so sorry for you and David. You are both in my prayers for healing, speedy recovery, peace and acceptance at this difficult time. Take care of yourself, my dear one.

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REBECCAMA 9/24/2014 8:28AM

  I am so sorry for you. Just catching up with your blogs now. My husband missed the summer of 2013 because of illness. This year he had another similar health issue and was grounded for 3 weeks in June. Meanwhile work and our 8 year old... yes, it wasn't easy. We got through it though, and I know you will too.

The in-laws... wow. So she is too frail for assisted living. That might mean she needs a nursing home. That's tough to have to split them up. Not good at all. It's something many, many elderly couples face. If in-home care isn't an option then you may have some difficult choices to make as a family in the near future.

Good luck! and don't forget to take care of YOU while taking care of the rest of them.

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FIFIFRIZZLE 9/24/2014 2:56AM

    Oh dear. What a worry for you both.
I am amazed that you have found the energy to care for the kiddies, hope you continue to cope as well as you are.

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AJDOVER1 9/21/2014 9:39AM

    You and your DH are in my prayers. I can't thank you enough for posting the details of this journey. My Guy's surgery is scheduled for next month. He's been undergoing less invasive procedures for almost 2 years, without much relief. You've been a heroic partner through this whole ordeal. I admire your courage and I hope to be able to show the same.

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MEXGAL1 9/20/2014 6:53PM

    Oh I am just so sorry to hear this. This is what happened the first time my FIL had his back surgery. He had to be on his back for weeks. I am glad to hear that your DH doesn't have to do weeks...just 48 hours. Sending both you and your DH positive thoughts and prayers.

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BOOKAPHILE 9/20/2014 9:10AM

    You've been a great support and encouragement to your DH (and grandkids!) during this trying summer. I hope he can heal now that the issues have been fixed and that no further issues will arise to complicate his recovery.

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BETHGILLIGAN 9/20/2014 6:38AM

    Hopefully, this is the beginning of healing and recovery! I am so sorry this has been such a rough time for you!! emoticon

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NEW-CAZ 9/20/2014 2:53AM

    Liz I feel so sad for you, you two are really going through the mill emoticon
Sending love and prayers to you both and you're right to spend some time with the grand kids, you need a break from the stress for your own sanity.
I shall be thinking of you and hoping all goes well.
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HICKOK-HALEY 9/20/2014 12:19AM

    Your poor Hubby. That is so painful. I'm glad though they found the problem and corrected it. I pray he heals this time, and that his pain isn't as bad. Prayers for you too!

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GOING-STRONG 9/19/2014 11:39PM

    Thinking of you and so sorry for all that you are going through!

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TWILAQ1 9/19/2014 11:36PM

    Sending you strength and hugs.

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IAMBIZI 9/19/2014 10:39PM

    two nicks????
so sorry that this has happened, hope they don't charge you for the 2nd surgery.
You are being such a great support to your hubby. I know he loves you all of the more for being there.
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JANTHEBLONDE 9/19/2014 8:21PM

    Oh my gosh! I feel so bad for you and your DH! So sorry to hear about his complications due his surgery! You and your honey will be in my prayers! Sending lots of hugs your way!
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    I hope this last surgery takes care of the problem and he has no further complications. I am looking at back surgery and am squirming. I don't want it but I am in a spot where I may not have too many options. I am a retired nurse and know the issues and possible complications, I hope your husband heals soon and is up and about doing his thing. Hugs Pat

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DEBBIEANNE1124 9/19/2014 8:01PM

    emoticon That must be so very rough for him. I hope he heals quickly.

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You are an amazing woman. I will keep you both in my prayers!

I hope he feels better very soon. Keep taking care of yourself.

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TRAVELGRRL 9/19/2014 7:39PM

    You are a paragon of strength and virtue! God bless you! Your husband has been chewed up and spit out by a series of unfortunate events, but you both are still hanging in there. I'm hoping this is the very, very VERY LAST complication!! Hang in there girl. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SEATTLE58 9/19/2014 7:28PM

    emoticon and more emoticon to you! Here's wishing that your dear DH can feel so much better once he recovers from this correction. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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JANEDOE12345 9/19/2014 7:08PM

    Keep your chin up, Liz. This too shall pass. DH sounds like a strong guy and you - well, you are one strong woman.


Praying for you,

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MARITIMER3 9/19/2014 6:35PM

    Thanks for the update, Liz. I hope his recovery goes smoothly, with no more set-backs.

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DOOBRIE 9/19/2014 6:34PM

    Oh my goodness, Elizabeth. I can't believe how unfortunate your dear man has been with this injury. My heart goes out to him and to you too as I know it must be bringing you to your knees seeing him like this.

Wishing him all the best for a successful recovery from this latest surgery.

Hang in there and take one day at a time - things will get better soon.


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WATERMELLEN 9/19/2014 6:22PM

    All the best to you: you are just the kind of wife I'd want to be to my own DH and I'm sure he relies upon your unwavering support and ever present kindness.

What a team. Nothing like a long loving marriage, is there? For better and for worse, in sickness and in health . . . we mean it.

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And now another setback

Tuesday, September 16, 2014

Oh, my word.
This poor guy cannot catch a break.
The infection on the hand was under control quickly and then he started having humongous headaches every time he stood or sat up!
Appears to be some irritation or inflammation of the spinal cord or brain lining, according to his neurosurgeon and should pass quickly, whatever that means.
Now we are adding prednisone to the Rx stew.
He will see the physician's assistant tomorrow and then his post- op appt with the doc is on Friday.
In the meantime, his father and his wife were assessed for assisted living yesterday and HE is a candidate but she is too frail and they won't take her.
Now what?
To be continued...

Today, William started preschool , two half days a week, so I dropped him off at nine and will go pick him up at noon. He is not quite four and barely potty trained and still naps in the afternoon, usually.
He was very excited to go and ran in to the playroom without even saying good-bye (Lucy went there last year so he knows the lay of the land).
Can't wait to see how he did.

Hope all is well in your world, my dear friends.

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AJDOVER1 9/18/2014 12:01PM

    I appreciate hearing the details of your DH's experience. I'm sorry you have to go though it all, though.

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HIPPICHICK1 9/18/2014 8:55AM

    Oh dear! Your poor guy! Sending good vibes your way.

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DEBBIEANNE1124 9/18/2014 3:03AM

    Your poor husband. I sure hope he mends quickly.

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MAGGIEVAN 9/18/2014 1:07AM

    Sorry to hear about the trails and tribulations. I hope all will normalize soon or there will be a new normal that is acceptable.

The kids grow up so fast.

You changed your page, I wanted to give you a goodie apple cider to go with my story. I will have to do it here now. Please change your page back to normal!

Lets share a cider! You have been so kind to comment on my "Rest of 2014" blog, and to celebrate it I am sharing this little Irish joke with you:

"Paddy Murphy arrived at Boston's Logon airport and wandered about the terminal with tears streaming down his cheeks. An Texan asked him if he was homesick.
'No,' replied the Irishman. 'It's worse, I have I've lost all me luggage.'
That's terrible, how did that happen?'
'The cork fell out of me bottle', said Paddy."

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IAMBIZI 9/16/2014 9:03PM

    He can't get a break can he. feel so sorry for all of this. take it a day at a time.

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WATERMELLEN 9/16/2014 8:33PM

    So sorry, that sounds completely miserable: hope the doctor is right and it passes soon.

You've helped raise William to be a self-confident little guy!!

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BETHGILLIGAN 9/16/2014 8:32PM

    Aaahhh! William started preschool! So nice to have a bit of normalcy in your life. I hope he loved it!! So sorry about DH! I hope that gets figured out and corrected soon. How miserable this poor guy has to be (not to mention missing a summer with his boat!). What are your options for MIL? That is a very tough situation. I hope you are taking care of you!! You have a lot on the plate right now but you need to come first! HUGS!

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MEXGAL1 9/16/2014 6:50PM

    Gosh for sure you guys can't get a break!!!! Too bad you aren't in Mexico for senior living. My FIL has 24 hour nursing care with tons of love, meals, private bath, cable tv, etc. All for about $1000 per month. I know when I get old I want to be in one of the homes down here just because they love on you so much. When I went in to see FIL today a nurse was shaving him. And a nurse won't walk by him without giving him a kiss. I have seen two other residents there come in in bad shape and though love and help they are so much better.
Sending you positive thoughts and prayers.

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JANTHEBLONDE 9/16/2014 5:13PM

    Oh my gosh! I am so sorry to hear about your husband and your father's wife! You definitely have your full plate right now! That's so exciting that your grandson William started preschool today! You and your family will be in my prayers! Sending you lots of hugs today!
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JOANNANOW 9/16/2014 2:13PM

    Sure hope your DH is feeling better soon. I sounds like such a rough time. Sending you extra hugs so you have lots of hugs left over for the family and DH. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MARITIMER3 9/16/2014 1:26PM

    Wow... talk about things coming all at the same time! Sorry about your MIL, what other options are available?

I'm sure William had lots of stories for you about his first day.

Hugs, Gail

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FIFIFRIZZLE 9/16/2014 1:18PM

    Thank goodness there is a treatment for DH.
Poor MiL, it does sound like her needs are most pressing, will her daughter be able to manage the situation?

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NEW-CAZ 9/16/2014 12:32PM

    Keeping you both in my thoughts Liz, hope you get a break soon hun.
I hope there is better news on Friday and he's at least feeling a little better by then emoticon

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EDWARDS1411 9/16/2014 12:11PM

    My heart goes out to you both - praying this will soon improve and he will really be on the road to recovery. Thank goodness for your darling grandbabes who are a wonderful distraction!!!

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DOOBRIE 9/16/2014 12:04PM

    Oh dear - how very distressing. I do hope your DH feels better by the time he has his post-op appointment on Friday.


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TRAVELGRRL 9/16/2014 11:39AM

    Oh, MAN! You both are due for a break! Keeping you & yours in my thoughts and prayers!

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    I really hope things led up for you soon my friend... emoticon

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SEATTLE58 9/16/2014 11:21AM

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A setback

Sunday, September 14, 2014

My poor dear man.
He woke up yesterday morning (4 days post-op from back surgery) with a red, hot, swollen, painful left hand (his dominant hand).
We went to the urgent care center in the next town and they wanted to call an ambulance because by then dh's heart rate was up and his blood pressure was low. emoticon
We balked at that, so they did an IV and gave him fluid until he was stable enough for me to transport him.
Turns out he has an infection where his surgical IV was placed on Tuesday.
It is localized but still dangerous so at the ER they pumped him full of antibiotics and sent us home with yet another Rx.
His hand looks a bit better today, is not as painful, and the swelling is going down but he is so very tired...exhausted, actually.
He is back in bed, on pain pills again.
For some reason, he has had a few headaches today...very rare for him.
He gets up occasionally and his back feels pretty good and he walks much better, with more control of his legs but he is even more debilitated than before.
We are very disappointed in his recovery, although we are sure this infection has knocked him back a bit.
In the meantime, things are getting worse and worse down at his 90 year old father's house. We are having an intake assessment done tomorrow for an assisted living facility but we are afraid his father and his wife will flunk it!
Then what shall we do?
Verrrry stressful time, yes, indeedy.
Thank you for your continued support, my dear sparkpeeps.

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DOOBRIE 9/16/2014 1:53AM

    I'm so sorry to hear your DH has had this set back. How stressful for you both and to have his father going downhill at the same time, it doesn't help, does it?

Keeping you and yours in my thoughts.


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MEXGAL1 9/15/2014 1:52PM

    Oh no!!! So very sorry to hear this. Do hope he is better soon.

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    Sending you love and positive prayers my friend. emoticon emoticon

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BETHGILLIGAN 9/15/2014 7:49AM

    Oh, Elizabeth, you do have a lot on your plate right now! I am so sorry to hear of his setback but not that he is on meds for that, hopefully, his recovery will go smoothly and quickly. He's been out of commission for quite awhile so it may be a little bit longer and rougher for recovery. I keep you in my prayers. Dealing with the aging parents is always difficult and even more so when you're dealing with your own issues at home. Hopefully, they can get into assisted living and get the help they need. emoticon

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NEW-CAZ 9/15/2014 2:35AM

    Oh Lordie you have a lot on your plate Liz, so sorry hun.
Hopefully the headaches are a sign of the infection and stress and will fade. It's still early days so don't dispair- either of you.
Your darling man may take longer to heal than you hoped but as I say it's early days.
Take care of yourself, we're all rooting for you both emoticon

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GOING-STRONG 9/14/2014 10:49PM

    Oh my... so sorry about this news Elizabeth.... Hope YOUR blood pressure is okay. I think I would be popping a cork!


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SEATTLE58 9/14/2014 10:37PM

    So sorry Dearie, and my heart goes out to you. I have to say, "This too shall pass!" My MIL was a great one for that statement and it always brought so much comfort to our household. Hopefully it does for you too. emoticon

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_UMAMI_ 9/14/2014 10:33PM

    Your poor, dear man, indeed!
I hope everything resolves peacefully, and without any further duress for you all.
One day at at time....

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AJDOVER1 9/14/2014 10:27PM

    So sorry to hear of the setback! You're in my prayers. emoticon

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MARITIMER3 9/14/2014 10:16PM

    So sorry that everything is happening all at once. I am NOT looking forward to being really old! Take care of yourself and your DH.

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TRAVELGRRL 9/14/2014 9:40PM

    It never rains but it pours, right? This too shall pass! I'll keep you and yours in my prayers. emoticon

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IAMBIZI 9/14/2014 9:20PM

    what rotten luck about his hand.
Good thing that you caught it in time for treatment.
I feel for you both.
I admire your spirit in all of this.

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DEBBIEANNE1124 9/14/2014 9:12PM

    Make sure you keep in tou h with his surgeon. I'm sorry he's not feeling well. Thes things happen and even to ood people.

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JANTHEBLONDE 9/14/2014 8:58PM

    I'm so sorry! You, your DH, his father and wife will be in my prayers! Sending you lots of hugs!
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Not done yet

Thursday, September 11, 2014

So, my dear man had his back surgery on Tuesday around noon
(to summarize previous blogs..he injured his back on July 1st working on our new boat, which, of course, we have been unable to use).
What a nightmare of a summer we have had. emoticon
There are many steps that have to be gone through before the last step, which is surgery.
After various treatments at a brain and spine center, a neurosurgeon did a lamenectomy and double discectomy to repair the damage done by moving a heavy engine part incorrectly.
Be careful of how you lift!!!
It was not arthroscopic exactly but considered microsurgery as the incision is "only" about four inches long and it was same day surgery.
My man is back on the strong pain meds and still in pain just from the surgery but he has regained control of the muscles in his legs and no longer a fall risk (he had fallen about 7-8 times).
The surgery pain should be ending soon and then he will probably have a few days of nerve pain as that would have been irritated during surgery.
Think of the pain you get in your jaw if a dentist ever touches a nerve while working on your mouth...imagine that running down your entire leg. emoticon
So, we are not out of the woods yet.
The surgeon is quite confident that he has repaired the damage but my poor guy has plenty of work ahead of him. He is quite weak and has lost about 20 pounds, mostly muscle mass. His arms and legs are so skinny! He is ready willing and able to get to work getting healthy and I hope he keeps his good attitude once the actual work of it begins. He also intends to keep those pounds away, as he had only gained those in the last five years or so, since he quit smoking. emoticon
I am exhausted!!!
We have tried to maintain our babysitting schedule with the grandkids through all this because we adore them and it has been a welcome distraction for us both but, man-oh-man, has it been a lot of work, especially while flying solo.
But look:

Wouldn't you do everything possible to hang out with this little angel?
I am really really really looking forward to sleeping in tomorrow.
Thank you so much for your support, kind words and goodies, my dear sparkbuds, throughout my difficult times.

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HIPPICHICK1 9/14/2014 9:02AM

    Wow! That sounds absolutely exhausting! I am sending healing energies your way for your man and for your own recovery from this stress.

Our summer was exhausting as well and not much enjoyment was had. First our deck collapsed on June 22 during our annual BBQ, then the work began. It's been a summer of repairs and renovations, not much down time and a lot of work in the pottery to boot. Now the weather is so cold I have been wearing long johns for three days in a row.

The baby looks a lot like Lucy! Her name is Pearl, right? She is incredibly cute!
Take care of yourself, my dear.

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JOANNANOW 9/13/2014 11:39AM

    May every day get better and better. emoticon

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BOOKAPHILE 9/13/2014 11:23AM

    What an lovely photo of your granddaughter! She probably kept your DH's spirits up when she was around.

I hope you both can recover your energy and strength as DH works his way back to normal. Your schedule on paper exhausts me!

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MEXGAL1 9/12/2014 3:48PM

    Wow, what an ordeal. So very sorry for both you and DH. Sounds like he will have his work cut out for him to heal and gain his strength back.
What an adorable little one.
I do bet though that you are looking forward to some "me" time
Best of everything

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HICKOK-HALEY 9/12/2014 3:32PM

    I will keep your Hubby in my thoughts and prayers. I'm glad he has control in his legs again. That is a big plus. Good luck with his PT. Enjoy those Grandkids. emoticon

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AJDOVER1 9/12/2014 2:58PM

    You're in my prayers! I know this has been a difficult time for you

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MARITIMER3 9/12/2014 2:56PM

    Sounds as if the worst is over, and perhaps if he works at strength training, he won't regain the 20 lbs.

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LESLIESENIOR 9/12/2014 12:26PM

    Prayers for your hubby as he begins his rehab. He sounds like the kind of man who will really take this challenge on!!! Be good to yourself!

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    I am tired for you ... I hope you get some YOU time in all of this. And of course, I hope for your man to heal well and feel better.

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NEW-CAZ 9/12/2014 2:29AM

    So pleased the surgery is over now, hopefully more improvements to come, it's been a tough time for you and hubby but being so close you've come through it.
It'll take time to heal from that op, a long journey yet, so take time to rest and look after yourself Liz.
Please give hubby my best wishes for a speedy recovery emoticon

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GOING-STRONG 9/12/2014 2:15AM

    So hope that you are able to get some rest and that all goes well with the recovery process. Hugs to you and your DH.

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DEBBIEANNE1124 9/12/2014 12:24AM

    You have lots of time in the future you can use your boat. Wish I could go on it with you.

I hope he feels beter really soon. You rest up.

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EDWARDS1411 9/11/2014 11:13PM

    So glad the surgery is behind your DH and now onto the healing phase - hoping the pain decreases quickly for him!!!

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TRAVELGRRL 9/11/2014 11:01PM

    I am hoping and praying that better days are right around the corner! ((hugs))

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TWILAQ1 9/11/2014 10:24PM

    I sure hope this surgery does the trick. Pearl is precious!

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SEATTLE58 9/11/2014 9:42PM

    Awwww, sending you lots and lots of love and hugs your way for all you and your dear husband have gone through. I'm so happy that it looks like things are brighter for him. Your little grandbaby is just precious and so worth all your effort to take care of her and now you can collapse tonight. Just think of all the love coming back to you for all you do for others. Precious emoticon

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IAMBIZI 9/11/2014 9:21PM

    golly you guys have been thru alot of heart ache in all of this. I hope his spine is healed completely ASAP!
our friend just reinjured his after 2 years of it taking to heal in the first place!

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WATERMELLEN 9/11/2014 8:49PM

    So happy that you've weathered the surgery together -- as you say, lots of recovery and healing to come. All best to both of you.

And yes -- she's adorable!! It's marvellous that you've kept on with the grandkids -- but grab rest too please!!

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BETHGILLIGAN 9/11/2014 8:42PM

    So relieved to hear surgery went well. I can't imagine how you have been doing this!! Grandkids are exhausting when things are going well. You have dealt with grandkids while caring for hubby while dealing with in law issues!! Bless your heart, Elizabeth. I hope you sleep LATE tomorrow morning!!!!! emoticon

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JANTHEBLONDE 9/11/2014 8:35PM

    Awww..... I love the picture of your granddaughter! She is absolutely precious! My prayers are with you and your husband! I hope your husband has a be a speedy recovery! Sending you lots of hugs!

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Oh, dear!

Sunday, September 07, 2014

It was inevitable but could not have come at a worse time...
my dear man is currently incapacitated with a serious back injury
(his surgery was postponed a day, now early Tuesday),
can't drive and is still in some pain every day,
and his 90 year old father is suddenly behaving erratically and seems to be spiraling rapidly into dementia.
He's never been the nicest person and has been failing slowly for the last few years but suddenly he is crying a lot and then being mean and verbally abusive to my mother-in-law, 88, his wife of 11 years, who just came out of three weeks of rehab after a major fall with a slight brain bleed.
Her only daughter lives 4 hours away, still works and has had to come down here twice this week already to help us sort things out.
It's just a mess with no easy solution.
Will keep you posted.

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MEXGAL1 9/8/2014 12:56PM

    Oh my goodness. So sorry for all the stress in your life right now.
Be sure to take care of yourself.
Sending positive thoughts and prayers

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LESLIESENIOR 9/8/2014 11:41AM

    I'm so sorry. The stress is overwhelming! So many of us can empathize completely! Keep sharing so we can support you through this very difficult time. I'll keep you and your husband in my prayers!!!

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TWILAQ1 9/8/2014 11:16AM

    Is there a dementia unit he could go into on a temporary basis - either until your husband is well enough to deal with him or perhaps closer to your sister-in-law?

I know you aren't in PA, but this is where my mother lives. My dad, had he lived longer, probably would have ended up in the dementia unit here.

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BOOKAPHILE 9/8/2014 9:37AM

    I'm sorry for the extra stress this is adding to the mix for you and your DH! Are there any good Alzheimer's care facilities nearby?

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BETHGILLIGAN 9/8/2014 7:59AM

    This timing is awful!! And, you're right, there is no easy solution. Dear Elizabeth, take care of yourself. Your hubby needs you. Perhaps, a caregiver in the home? You're in my prayers!

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    Wow - that's really not good news with all you're dealing with right now. I pray for things to turn around soon. emoticon

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NEW-CAZ 9/8/2014 2:50AM

    Liz this is a trying time as it is for you and DH, perhaps they could afford a carer coming in.
You need to put a strategy in place or you'll be overwhelmed with too much to do.
Hope it sorts itself out as these things usually do, I'll be thinking of you emoticon

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DEBBIEANNE1124 9/8/2014 1:43AM

    Everything wil be alright. Breathe deeply.

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TRAVELGRRL 9/8/2014 12:59AM

    OH DEAR is right! I am so sorry this is all happening at once. Aging parents can be very challenging. And VERY stubborn about seeing the reality of their situations. Wishing you the best...

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MARITIMER3 9/7/2014 11:28PM

    You're right, there's no easy solution. Can they afford to have someone come in a few hours a day to help?

Don 't take on too much yourself if you can help in, this could go on a while, as you well know.

take care of yourself and DH first and foremost.


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SEATTLE58 9/7/2014 11:11PM

    Oh dear, I'm so sorry for all you're going through right now. Hopefully things will look a whole lot brighter soon. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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AJDOVER1 9/7/2014 11:02PM

    You're in my prayers. I hope help can be found soon

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JANTHEBLONDE 9/7/2014 10:46PM

    Oh my gosh! I'm so sorry all this is happening to you at once! You and your husband will be in my prayers! Sending you lots of hugs!
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MM11113 9/7/2014 10:40PM

    hang in there. You're right, there is no easy solution, but people in his shape could be needing professionals to deal with him. Could need medicine to even out his temper and mood. There is hope that he will improve. Make sure his doctor knows that this behavior is going on.

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GOING-STRONG 9/7/2014 10:37PM

    That sounds like a huge mess all right. Thinking of you and sending you positive vibes.

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IAMBIZI 9/7/2014 10:10PM

that is a lot of stress.
how are you holding up?

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