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We have a surgery date!

Sunday, August 31, 2014

My dear man and I had a consult with the neurosurgeon on Friday and the good doctor will be fixing my guy up almost good as new (nothing is ever guaranteed) on Monday, Sept. 8th.

The surgery will be a bit more complicated than we had thought, involving a laminectomy (removing some bone) and a discectomy ( removing some disc material) but it is still arthroscopic and should be same day surgery, barring any complications.

Right now my hubby is not in a lot of pain thanks to the two rounds of cortisone shots but aches all over and still is having some muscle spasms. He cannot walk without a cane, and sometimes needs a walker. He has to crawl up and down the stairs some days. We have had to modify our environment in many ways to accommodate his limitations. He cannot stand long enough to prepare his own foods but can manage a quick showere as there is a bar in there. He just feels miserable, has a hard time sleeping, has no appetite and has lost 20 lbs in two months, the hard way!

Through all of this I have hardly heard a single word of complaint.

Your life can change in an instant, my friends.
So if you got out of bed this morning and were able to walk around your house, make your own breakfast and plan a decent Sunday, count your lucky stars!

Here was my dear man less than two months ago:



  
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TRAVELGRRL 9/1/2014 6:38PM

    Good news! I'm hoping he'll be at 100% soon. Will there be physical therapy after the operation?

My husband had a disk replaced and it was just amazing how he went into the hospital one afternoon in complete agony and left the hospital the next morning completely pain free!

I'm wishing as good an outcome for your DH!

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SEPTEMBERSPIRIT 9/1/2014 7:12AM

    Glad to hear the surgery is schedule and I hope it helps him feel better quickly. Thinking of you my friend. emoticon and appreciating my health as you said - one never knows.

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JANTHEBLONDE 8/31/2014 8:10PM

    I pray the neurosurgeon will fix your honey up as good as new! I'm so glad to hear the second round of Cortizone is helping his pain! You and your husband will be in my prayers! Sending lots of hugs your way!
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AJDOVER1 8/31/2014 7:36PM

    So good to hear you have a date for the surgery. You're both in my prayers

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BOOKAPHILE 8/31/2014 4:40PM

    I'm wishing your DH an effective surgery and a steady recovery. He's a good patient, and you're a good nurse.

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LESLIESENIOR 8/31/2014 3:15PM

    I'm counting my blessings and holding your dh and you in my prayers. Thank you for the loving reminder.

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MARITIMER3 8/31/2014 1:36PM

    So true,Liz. Life can change in an instant. Enjoy every moment. I'm glad that your DH has a surgery date (and so quickly!), and hope that everything goes smoothly.

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TWILAQ1 8/31/2014 12:09PM

    I read the title of the post as We Have a Sugary Date! and thought you were going out for ice cream or something. I really need to get to the eye doctor...

The surgery sounds complicated, but hopefully the doctor will take his/her time and work carefully to ensure the best possible outcome.

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DOOBRIE 8/31/2014 11:45AM

    Not too long to wait then, although I'm sure your DH will be counting the days. Unbelievable that he has become so disabled over what first appeared to be something minor. Sounds like you have a good surgeon and I send my best wishes for your DH's surgery and recovery.

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NEW-CAZ 8/31/2014 11:11AM

    sending love and prayers Liz, hope all goes well hun emoticon

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IAMBIZI 8/31/2014 10:58AM

    was this from an injury I forget.
I am encouraged that you have a surgery date...
and happy that he has less pain from the shots. life is precious...
our health is invaluable.
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GOING-STRONG 8/31/2014 10:39AM

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Happy news, for a change

Wednesday, August 27, 2014

We are actually looking forward to DH's second round of cortisone shots tomorrow, mostly as a chance to talk to a spine specialist again. emoticon
Then, on Friday, we actually meet with the neurosurgeon who will do the surgery, if it comes to that. emoticon
But today was a happy day-
our darling grand-daughter Lucy's first day of kindergarten.
She was a bit nervous but her elementary school scheduled a one hour visit with a parent one day ahead (my son took her, which was good for him, too- don't you just love how much more involved the young dads are than their fathers were? I think it started with allowing them in the delivery room) and that allayed so many of her fears.
Lucy has always been a little fashionista and has her outfits picked out for the first three days of school already, including her shoes.
Here's my little munchkin:


We babysat for William and Pearl today



but it was MIGHTY quiet without Lucy to tell us all what to do all day.
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JANEDOE12345 8/31/2014 8:54AM

    Littel lucy will be a blonde bombshell someday. What a lovely little girl.

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JUST_BRENDA 8/31/2014 7:28AM

    Beautiful grandchildren! You must really be enjoying this stage in their lives. In hindsight, our own children grow so fast.
Good luck to hubby with the medical challenges. That's certainly a major disadvantage of getting older. Our bodies aren't very tolerant of all those years of wear and tear emoticon

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CAROL_31649731 8/30/2014 11:29PM

    Thanks for sharing! Beautiful pictures . . . glad things are progressing for your DH. Will continue to keep in my thoughts & prayers, as he heals.

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IAMBIZI 8/30/2014 11:00PM

    great pictures!
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DOOBRIE 8/29/2014 4:53PM

    Lovely photos of your beautiful grandchildren, Elizabeth.

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ROCKYCPA 8/28/2014 9:41PM

    You have beautiful grand children!

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MEXGAL1 8/28/2014 8:26PM

    So cute! that backpack though is bigger than she is!
So you have one of those too! the one who tells everyone what to do!
Enjoy the rest of your evening.
Sallie

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TRAVELGRRL 8/28/2014 4:43PM

    Ha! At least Lucy will have the satisfaction of knowing she was missed! Beautiful grandchildren, Liz.

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JANTHEBLONDE 8/28/2014 12:54PM

    What an awesome blog! I love all your pictures! Lucy, William and little baby Pearl is absolutely adorable! I hope cortisone shots will give your DH some relief! I hope you have a wonderful day!
Hugs and love!
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FORZACHANDMATT 8/28/2014 9:16AM

    Those are some gorgeous kids!

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TWILAQ1 8/28/2014 8:26AM

    WOnderful photo memories! Best of luck with the doctor appts.

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SEPTEMBERSPIRIT 8/28/2014 6:53AM

    Gorgeous grandchildren!! I love following their growth and the stages they are going through. Thanks for sharing.

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MAGGIEVAN 8/28/2014 5:15AM

    Such beautiful children. Your little Munckin is growing to grow up very fast today.

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NEW-CAZ 8/28/2014 3:12AM

    awwww , how wonderful.........and a lovely distraction from your worries for DH. I hope all goes will at the doctor's appt, be great if they could come up with a solution other than surgery. Fingers crossed for him Liz emoticon

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GOING-STRONG 8/28/2014 12:38AM

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DEBBIEANNE1124 8/28/2014 12:23AM

    Lucy looks beautiful.

I hope the shots help your DH!

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JAMBABY0 8/27/2014 9:46PM

    awe, thanks for sharing

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Update on my dear man

Sunday, August 24, 2014

The cortisone shots definitely relieved a lot of his back and nerve pain, although it took at least 3-4-5 days to give him much relief.
The painful muscle spasms continue so he is still taking the muscle relaxant but has weaned himself off the narcotic pain relievers.
The weakness is getting worse!
He used to be weak in just one leg so I borrowed a cane for him to use.
But now it is both legs- he has fallen several times- today on the sidewalk outside when we were coming back from his water therapy.
Yesterday he tumbled down the last 2-3 stairs coming down and cracked his head on a mirrored wall- and cracked the mirror!
Both of his knees are bruised and scraped.
He has lost weight but is still about 190 lbs so it is a real struggle to help him up.
I have borrowed a walker from a neighbor but at this point he is afraid to leave the house.
Can't say that I blame him.
We are thinking that the steroid reduced the pain but the impact on the nerve is getting worse, hence the loss of muscle control.
He is getting another round of shots on Thursday and we meet with the neurosurgeon on Friday. I think we are heading in that direction. It is minimally invasive arthroscopic surgery...still scary whenever the spine is involved, though.
Tomorrow is my dear man's 65th birthday and our 46th anniversary is on the next day.
We are having the family over for pizza and cake as that is the most I can manage at this point.
Have a great week, all!
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AJDOVER1 8/27/2014 12:48PM

    You're in my prayers. We're still waiting for my Guy's back surgery to be scheduled....

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MEXGAL1 8/25/2014 7:23PM

    Gosh so sorry to hear of all your DH's pain and troubles. Not fair! I remember looking at your photos from Europe and thinking how nice it would be to travel more to places like that but now with my Sjogrens and not knowing when I will have a nasty flare up I don't like traveling. Before we knew what it was I had a terrible flare in Rome and on IV for two days in hotel room. Not fun.

I do hope he gets some relief soon. perhaps it's headed for the surgery. Not fun but might be the only thing that works.

Happy Anniversary!! And happy birthday to DH.
Peanut

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BETHGILLIGAN 8/25/2014 9:08AM

    I am so sorry to hear this news. Keeping you and dear hubby in my thoughts and prayers!

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TWILAQ1 8/25/2014 8:34AM

    Sending healing thoughts his way.

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WATERMELLEN 8/25/2014 6:16AM

    Oh dear: this sounds tough.

Hope that the neurosurgeon can help.

And there you are, right beside him!

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DOOBRIE 8/25/2014 4:10AM

    I'm so sorry your dear man has had some falls and really hope the neurosurgeon can help him. Sending best wishes for his 65th birthday and your 46th wedding anniversary. I hope you'll be able to enjoy them without any more mishaps.

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TRAVELGRRL 8/25/2014 3:41AM

    OMG, this is really upsetting! I am praying for good news from the neurosurgeon. It must be so frustrating for him (and YOU) to go from active to invalid in such a short time!! Hang in there, there MUST be an answer to this disturbing turn of events....

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NEW-CAZ 8/25/2014 3:20AM

    Liz this is sad to read, I really hope the appt with the doctors brings some positive news for you.
Happy Birthday to DH and congrats on another year together. You two are SO close, you'll come through this emoticon

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DEBBIEANNE1124 8/25/2014 1:22AM

    I thought I was the only one that had all thexe flls and tumbling down stairs. I sure hope he fees better soon. I'm almost at the point of needing a walker myself.
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GOING-STRONG 8/24/2014 10:47PM

    That must be very scary for both of you.... I so hope that there is a solution. Have a wonderful anniversary. 46 years is just awesome. My DH and I just celebrated our 27th. Hugs to you. Rhonda
PS - I sent you a Spark Mail regarding our happy news.

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MARITIMER3 8/24/2014 10:45PM

    I'm so sorry that your husband is having so much trouble! I would be afraid of spinal surgery, but arthroscopic surgery is so much easier that it may be the best alternative.

45 years is amazing, especially as you were so young. Congratulations, and best wishes for many more happy years together. emoticon emoticon emoticon
Love to you both, Gail


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JANTHEBLONDE 8/24/2014 10:27PM

    Oh my gosh! I'm so sorry to hear about your husband! I hope the neurosurgeon will be a will to help him! I hope you have fun with your family celebrating your husband 65th Birthday and your 46th Year Anniversary! Sending you lots of hugs!
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Warm water therapy

Tuesday, August 19, 2014

The spine specialist told my dear man that he needs to plan on exercising in water every day for the rest of his life to keep his back in shape.
My dh has always been an active man but never ever one to exercise, other than a walk now and again.
He has always been blessed with a slim body type but since he quit smoking about 4-5 years ago he has gained about 20 lbs, almost all in the gut.
Probably put a strain on his back, don't you think?
Five days since the 5 steroid shots to his spine and he is still in considerable pain.
The back and nerve pain has diminished somewhat but the painful muscle spasms are worse than ever.
We joined a gym with a warm water pool yesterday- it was quite a struggle to get him there and into the pool but he moved in the water for about 40 minutes- the most he has moved in a month.
He is incredibly weak and debilitated right now- even a fall risk.
I was supposed to go to the beach with friends today but I may not- I don't want to leave him here alone all day.
Just called his doc- awaiting a call back to see if he has any advice for what to do now.
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DEBBIEANNE1124 8/19/2014 10:04PM

    Praying for healing

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JANTHEBLONDE 8/19/2014 9:15PM

    That's awesome that you join the gym yesterday in order for your honey to exercise in a warm water pool! I'm sorry to hear he is still in a lot of pain! Your honey is so lucky to have you! Maybe you can go to the beach tomorrow with your friends! Sending lots of sunshine your way!
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BETHGILLIGAN 8/19/2014 6:29PM

    This was not the news I was hoping to hear. Daily water therapy is not awful but not easy to accomplish if you have other things going in your life. I was also hoping his pain would have diminished a bit more by now. Maybe your doctor will have an idea of what's next for him. Sending good thoughts and prayers.

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MARITIMER3 8/19/2014 4:30PM

    It's really sad when someone who has been basically well suddenly has an accident or illness which restricts their life in some way. I really hope the warm water helps, and that he will keep it up without too much "reminding" on your part.

With my DH, it was a torn rotator cuff from a karting accident. He did physio for two years, then had surgery, then more physio... but he DIDN'T work at it as hard as he should have, and has limited mobility in the joint, and definite weakness in the arm.

It's a real bummer, and I'm sure he regrets not obeying the doctor's orders... but of course he would never admit it. emoticon

Gail

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MEXGAL1 8/19/2014 2:25PM

    I just feel so bad for you Elizabeth. Oh and for your DH. To hear that he must do this daily for the rest of his life isn't that encouraging.
Sending you both positive thoughts and prayers.
Peanut

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TWILAQ1 8/19/2014 12:54PM

    My mom does an arthritis class in a warm pool at the Y in her community. Perhaps there are classes your husband would find fun and motivating.

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NEW-CAZ 8/19/2014 12:10PM

    Sounds like it's getting worse rather than better- hope he can be a good patient and take advice. Good that he has you, I so hope he's soon feeling better Liz, such a worry for you both emoticon

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SEATTLE58 8/19/2014 11:15AM

    I hope that the dr. has good advice that can help him lots and then with the warm water. Awwww, that makes me feel better just hearing about warm water. Hopefully that will help him lots. emoticon

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JOANNANOW 8/19/2014 10:39AM

    So good to hear that a warm water pool is available! That could make a huge difference. I hope you see progress soon. Your loving support and the pool will help him pull through. emoticon emoticon

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HIPPICHICK1 8/19/2014 10:21AM

    Poor dude! But I hear ya. My man isn't an exerciser either and he definitely needs to do that plus lose his gut by eating better in order to ease his back pain and not have a heart attack or stroke as he has high BP and high cholesterol. I hope you have a lot of gook luck getting your man to take care of himself.
Cheers!
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TRAVELGRRL 8/19/2014 10:16AM

    OMG, I hope he follows the doc's advice. This is getting serious! I hope the pool work helps.

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SEPTEMBERSPIRIT 8/19/2014 10:12AM

    I hope he feels better soon. Good thing you can be there for him ... he is a lucky man to have you.

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EDWARDS1411 8/19/2014 10:10AM

    I bet he is weak especially from not moving much over the last month. Glad he got into the pool yesterday. The good side of all this, you now have someone to go to the gym with!

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Some bit of relief

Monday, August 18, 2014

Four days today since my dh had those five cortisone shots in his back.
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He reports some relief from the nerve and back pain but still a lot of painful muscle spasms.
He is sleeping better (so I am, too).
Today we are trying out a warm water pool (87 degrees) about 20 minutes away to consider joining, at least for a month until the nearby university pool (90 degrees) opens for the semester.
I did get to spend a few hours with the grand babies yesterday afternoon but poor Papa still could not participate in one of the joys of his life. emoticon
On the plus side, I have lost a few pounds, due to all the amazing summer veggies we have been eating, including some incredible local corn!
Makes me sad to think of all the years when I deprived myself of any of nature's bounty in the name of some diet or other.
All things in moderation.
And, after nine months of wearing it I just now found out I am allowed to wear my WW Active Link in the pool! To think of all the water activities that were not tracked this summer!
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BETHGILLIGAN 8/19/2014 8:25AM

    So glad hubby is getting some relief! Hopefully, that back will settle down and he can have some pain free days. How did the pool work for him? I'm loving the fresh fruit and veggies, too! I'm finally back on track with exercise and feeling better for it. I'm still having some knee pain (muscular, not joint). My weight fluctuates so much that I'm not claiming weight loss yet but I am feeling better.

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_UMAMI_ 8/18/2014 10:56PM

    Wow, I didn't know corn was local in your area (my mom is from Nebraska, where corn is King!). Unfortunately, everything here is getting eaten by the grasshoppers and katydids now. I was happy to find a big bag of organic grapes on sale at the beachfront store, 'cos that's what I'm craving. :)

So happy to hear that your DH is feeling better and you are as well.
Here's to better and better days!
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EDWARDS1411 8/18/2014 10:48PM

    Glad to hear there's been some good progress for your DH!!!

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IAMBIZI 8/18/2014 8:05PM

    slowly but surely he will get better!

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JANTHEBLONDE 8/18/2014 7:17PM

    That's awesome news! I'm so happy to hear your DH is getting some relief! I'm so glad you both are sleeping better! I hope you have a nice and relaxing evening!
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MEXGAL1 8/18/2014 6:02PM

    I am so glad to hear that your DH is getting some relief. And good to hear you both are sleeping better.
Enjoy your evening
Sallie

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SEPTEMBERSPIRIT 8/18/2014 1:10PM

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TRAVELGRRL 8/18/2014 12:54PM

    Happy he's doing a bit better; I too used to avoid corn until I realized an EAR hardly has any calories! And oh, the JOY of a fresh ear of corn!!! Enjoy!!

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DEBBIEANNE1124 8/18/2014 12:31PM

    I'm glad there's a little relief. Sometimes it takes several injections.

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TWILAQ1 8/18/2014 11:50AM

    Wonderful news that he's feeling somewhat better and that you have your eyes on a warm pool - for both of you!

What's the WW Active Link?

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NEW-CAZ 8/18/2014 11:37AM

    Glad to hear he's a bit more comfortable, swimming could help a lot, as long as he doesn't over do it.

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SEATTLE58 8/18/2014 11:15AM

    I'm so happy that your DH has some relief and I hope that the warm pool will feel so good to him too. I have Rheumatoid Arthritis, as you probably already know of me, and I love warm heat on my hurting joints when I'm hurting more on bad days. Warm baths are heavenly so I think that he would love that too. Good luck to him!

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