Wednesday, August 13, 2014
So my thoughts are kind of scattered and I'm spinning on ice.... For the last year I've progressed slowly....like maybe a 10-15 pound loss for the past year. So after I realized that, I was really upset with myself. But then I had an epiphany.... I realized I only needed to lose 15-20 more pounds- that's nothing....! Right? So, I was braced and feeling like I could do it. Then I go on vacation for 3 weeks.... I gained some pounds. Now I'm at a 10 pound gain overall.
Now, I tell myself....ok, you know what works.....DO WHAT WORKS! But then I have this voice saying "do you REALLY know what works? you've only lost 10-15 in the last year...." But, I'm not stupid, I know that I shouldn't listen to this voice.... I know that I know what to do and I am getting in my own way.
I am just frustrated and I feel depressed inside, but I feel like I can talk myself out of all of this like I've always done, it just becomes overwhelming at times....
Like when you want to redo a room and you tear it all apart and you just look at it like-- what have I done?! I'm trying to put things back into perspective, but each time I rearrange the furniture it doesn't quite flow..... But the thing is, I know how.... and that's when the frustrating part sets in.... It's like a lack of motivation and I want to crawl inside myself, but then I ask myself-- why? I have a great life. I came from the bottom to the top. I am thankful, I am grateful.....there is no reason for all of this.... I am making it harder than it is... And I feel bad, because inside I feel like a downer sometimes.... I'm known to be the life of the party...but it's not like I mope around like Eeyore all day... it's hard to explain.
I was reading an interview with Chris Rock last night about his reaction to Robin Williams unfortunate passing, and he said something that I could relate to, that kind of helped me make sense of my mental drama. He said, "If ignorance is bliss, then what is the opposite? It is not bliss." That makes so much sense to me. He said the reason comedians have issues with depression is because they constantly have to be aware of their surroundings and they see things on a different level. I'm definitely not the world's greatest comedian, but I know I am an intelligent human being and I internalize probably way too much.... and sometimes what I internalize doesn't have the best timing... I could CHOOSE to internalize happier things, but I am so hard on myself that I choose to focus on how I can be better instead of celebrate how far I've came. It's like when you study for a test, take the test and forget the information. I forget about the pounds I've lost because they are gone.... It's irrelevant, like a phone number, why memorize it - when I can look it up?
I know what works for me is to "just do it". And by "just do it" I mean, just DO anything to live healthier. Just make the best choices. Stop getting caught in the webs of destruction and let myself be free mentally. It sounds so cut and dry. And it is. If I let it be. I choose to let it be.
Tuesday, May 27, 2014
Just a bit perturbed.... I had the laser focus and was stocked with the right groceries, and was just completely feeling it. On day 3 I got sick. And I am talking could not get out of bed at all, felt like I was hit by a bus-sick. I am still congested like I don't ever remember being. I am a little frustrated because it completely threw me off of my track. It's been like 2 weeks since it hit and I just really need to get beyond the whole thing.
I saw a quote that said "Start before you are ready", and that really sticks in my mind. I am running with it. I have to. I have to get over this slump. There are people out there with REAL issues doing better; I have no excuse in my mind.
If a person wants something, they have to work for it, or they do not really want it.
I was listening to an audio book and it hit home to me. It was unexpected, but it was eye opening. So he says, "What are you afraid of if you try? Are you afraid you will be someone different? Are you afraid you won't be a person you know or like?" And he goes on and gets deep with it. But I'm lying there thinking and just really pondering, and I'm wondering if this is my deeply rooted problem.....
My whole entire life I've been thick, chubby, overweight or obese. What if I become this person capable of wearing a 2 piece bikini? What if my stomach isn't bulging? What if the rolls disappear? Will I still be me? I know it must sound absurd, but it's true. Who will I be? Will I still be caring, funny, lovable and all of those other things I admire about myself? I mean, of course I will, I will just be a healthier version.
The problem with all of this in my mind is, it's like taking advice on parenting from someone with no children. They mean well, they're probably right, but they do not REALLY know, so do I trust their advice? Do I trust my own advice? Sigh.....
So then it leads to a leap of faith. Who would I rather take a leap of faith on? A stranger or myself? Well, then it's more easily explained or understood if a complete stranger let's you down. You can easily X them out of your life if necessary, but yourself? You are left to explain forever. You can't get away from you! Oh goodness. My mind. It is a machine.
So who better to satisfy than me? I reap the ALL of the benefits! I feel the satisfaction, I feel the pride, I feel the happiness, I can't get away from it, and who would want to?!!! Completely makes sense. So what took me so long to figure this out? I guess it doesn't matter, as long as it's done. I am so ready. I am ready to cut the ties of disappointment. I am so ready to let go of this false security. I am ready to be free and just be me. I am ready to live.
Monday, April 28, 2014
Today I feel really good about the week. Last Sunday I was really motivated and optimistic about a new beginning, and I woke up Monday not feeling well. Even Tuesday, wasn't so great. But this week I have my mind right. And yes, I know that I don't need a Monday to get my mind right. Although I used to wait for Mondays habitually in the past, I have started over and got on track on a Friday and other days as well.
What I want to blog about today is the fact that I need to use mornings more productively. I did read a blog that had a line that sticks in my mind this morning, it read simply, "What else would I be doing at this time? Nothing, but sleeping."
Currently, I wake up at 6:15, make my husband's lunch, kiss him and send him on his way. Then make sure my 14 year old son gets on the bus at 6:45 (he obviously gets himself ready!). I then wake my 7 year old daughter up, help her get ready, which then my 1 year old gets up at the same- change her diaper, feed her..... So the 7 year old gets on the bus at 8:00. Then my day starts.
My day then revolves around caring for the one year old. She does have set nap times and I get things done, but where the problem comes in, is it is difficult to say at this certain time every day I will workout. I may have errands to run, or she may be cranky and not nap on time...whatever the case may be. And in my mind, if my workout isn't scheduled, it is difficult to stick with it. I was initially thinking when she naps I could fit in a workout. But usually I end up fitting in things I can't get to do while she is awake!
Anyhow, I feel like the best solution for me would be to work out before anyone wakes up. Then, I am 100% obligated to care for ME without interruptions. Everything just points to that option being best.
Where I struggle with this option is:
1. My current gym is not open at this time, they open at 6am. I've thought about switching gyms. It might be what's best. I struggle with working out at home. I have everything to work out at home, DVDs, weights.....but it just isn't my cup of tea. I like the gym atmosphere- I go in, get it in and leave. It's ALL about me, my music, my burn.
2. I've always been more of a night person. Although, I enjoy being up early now, being up early AND being super productive at the crack of dawn is different. I read that if you just jump up out of bed and get ready, it is best. Then I'm not sure should I drink coffee before a work out? Doesn't seem like it would sit well. I think the work out will wake me up. Trial and error I suppose.
3. I MUST go to bed earlier and do that consistently. I've noticed however many hours of sleep I get is consistent with how I feel on a scale of 1-10. 8 hours of sleep puts my mood at an 8. 6 hours of sleep puts my mood at a 6. It is always consistent, mood=hours of sleep.
So, these are my 3 struggles. After typing this out, I see the 3 struggles as manageable. When things aren't mapped out sometimes it feels more overwhelming. But solutions to the difficulties is where I need to focus. I am ready for a change. I need this change. Nothing feels better than healthy.
Thanks for reading! Please leave any tips, tricks, advice and feedback! Sometimes the smallest thing can be the fuel that keeps the flame of desire burning!
Thursday, April 17, 2014
Kind of bummed, but trying to not let it get in my way of success. I've been down this road too many times to let it get in my way. It can be so difficult mentally....this journey, but I've came this far, there's no good reason to not continue....
A week ago was my birthday, and that is the reason I got off track. I had several trips with different friends and families to go out for my birthday and I could have made better choices with eating. But, I am at 188 and I know it's not really solid weight. I know if I get back on track, starting at this very moment, that the low of 182 will be back and I will surpass that number as well.
I have control. I need to grasp it. I need to understand the journey consists of ups and downs, accept it, face the hard work I must put in and congratulate myself for coming so far.
People are really noticing everywhere I go how much weight I have lost, and it feels REALLY good. I will not let this bump in the road conquer me. I will conquer this bump in the road.
Thanks for reading! We can do it!
Sunday, April 06, 2014
So it's been awhile since I have blogged. A few weeks ago I typed up this awesome blog, but then the computer ate it and there was no way I was retyping it. Smh...
Since my last blog, I have quit my job. Our household became complete chaos and required a full time parent to be at home. It was difficult to leave my job, because it was my first job as a nurse. The nurse practitioner and I had a really good vibe. But, my family has to come before anything, and there was no room for possibilities. I had to leave. No regrets. It was the right choice. The process of leaving was internally painful.
Anyways, since leaving, one month and 5 days ago, I have lost about 15 pounds. It is much easier to lose weight at home, without the drug reps aka food pushers coming in every day with loads of Panera Bread, Moe's, Pizza, doughnuts and tons of other foods, sometimes 3 times a day. It's disgusting. I highly disapprove of that process. Yes, it is about self control, but to sit in an office and have patient's rooms right next to the lunch room, you see it all day and smell it all day...it is just complete torture. I did bring my lunch every day, but it was torture. And there were days I gave in. It was just bad. I know they have a job to do just like everyone else, but the types of food they brought....Chic-fil-a, Starbuck's....I mean come on! We're health professionals, promoting HEALTH! It drove me bonkers! Anyways, I don't believe I would choose another position that involved that mental torture in the future.
So, since being at home, I've had MUCH more control over my eating. It's so much more a way of life for me and not a diet- per say. I am eating to lose weight, but it is very much a lifestyle at this point. I will always buy the healthy foods and cook the healthy foods I am currently. My family eats the same foods. There is no separation. No diet food, just healthy food. It makes me feel really good. Sometimes I mentally get down on myself because I feel I can do more as far as nutrition, but truly, the big picture says I deserve a pat on the back. I mean come on, I have family of 6 eating all of the same healthy foods! And no one goes hungry! That took awhile to get to without anyone feeling deprived. They, themselves look at others that have horrible eating habits and can see the difference, they know the difference. I mean it sounds minute, but I didn't have that ability at a young age. In fact, I was about 26 when I started really realizing how unhealthy most store bought foods were. So, I am very happy with the way things are in that aspect.
Moving on, exercise. I have to tap into my strengths with exercise in the same way. Since leaving my job, I have been spring cleaning and just rearranging and purging so much stuff! Everything just builds up when you have two parents working full-time. I was literally coming undone with my house! I am finally getting to a manageable point. There is definitely more to do, the storage room is next, but it is the final big kabang! And to make it all come together nicely, we are having plausible weather! Spring has sprung! So needless to say, my ducks are lining up nicely.
Stress. I truly need to stick with the thought, there are things I can and can't change. I have a child, an adult child, that is suffering through some tough times. She lives at home. So when she is experiencing these stressful times, I of course feel every bit of it as well. I am doing my best to be supportive without draining myself. There are times when I feel altered, and my capabilities of being a good mom to my other 3 are compromised because my entire body FEELS the stress. But, as a mother, what are you to do? You can't easily remove yourself from the situation because it feels as though you are giving up on this child, adult or not. It's tough. She got herself in a bind. She had a child at 18, and is a single mother, going to college, working, but suffers through much mental and emotional anguish. We're working on getting her the help she needs, but it is a long enduring process, especially with no insurance.
My husband is also away in California for work, so at times, I feel like my sanity is also in California, lol. It's just less stressful when you have a companion in person to help deflect stress. Of course I can talk to him, but it is not the same. This trip should be about 3 weeks, with about 8 days to go. Let's throw in the fact he lost his wallet out there, and we live on the east coast.... so yeah, replacing everything and all of that has been super FUN!!!
Anyways, I am feeling optimistic about life and about my journey to the healthiest me! There are obstacles along the way, but I am doing my best to suit up and fight through them! Hope all is well in your neighborhood!!!
Thanks for reading!
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