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Validation

Saturday, April 19, 2014

This week I had my fourth private dance lesson. As some of my friends may have noticed, my status reflected a down mood. I have managed to move out of my mini-depressed state....but that would be the topic for another blog. This one is a summary of the content of my fourth private dance lesson.

I went to the lesson feeling rather bothered because I was still sore from all the extra yard work. Also, due to quite a few demands on my time, body, and emotions, I had not practiced very much. But, I had set up the lesson and decided to go. I decided to dance from the heart, do the best I could, and try not to worry about my legs aching. I also came prepared to have a discussion with the teacher regarding my future dancing. I am making quite a bit of progress due to her help. The only problem is, line dance is a group experience and there are no other dance groups going locally that are dancing the way I want to line dance
(add hand and body movement, styling, artistry, technique).....at least not to the degree that I want to. (The nearest place would be about a 3 hour drive). The ladies that I teach weekly do not want to dance like that; they are mainly looking for exercise and socialization with a little bit of fun thrown in.

So.....I discussed with my teacher.....where do I fit in? Where do I go from here?
After a lot of discussion, she said that she had female ballroom dance students that were without matching partners and they might wish to start line dancing. She suggested that I could teach line dance to those ladies and they might really enjoy this! This would allow them to work on and improve their technique. Wow, talk about flattered. I told my teacher that I would ask that she be there and correct anything that I was doing that was not in line with good technique/artistry/expression. She said that she hadn't seen anything and yes, she was being honest. Wow, again flattered.....she has seen a lot of dance and knows what she's looking at. I am giving this offer quite a bit of thought.

Navigating the Path of the Soul:
Follow unique, individual path
Pay close attention along the way
Make discernment of the "me" from the "not me"
Listen to the artistic voice within
Allow creative ideas to come into thinking and experiment with those concepts
Let deeper feelings and gut tell the truth
Value honesty
Seek out, design, create, defining situations & moments
Be vigilant for instructional moments the universe provides






  
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LORILEEPAGE 4/20/2014 9:25AM

    Awesome complements!! I have recently had a boost in my confidence level. Coming from complements on my art. I know I have to find satisfaction in doing what I enjoy whether I get complements or not, but they really help me!

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SKINNIESOMEDAY 4/20/2014 9:03AM

   
that's awesome !! You should be flattered !!


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FIFIFRIZZLE 4/19/2014 4:01PM

    What a reward for your effort!

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CHRISTINATODAY 4/19/2014 10:31AM

    Wow. That is wonderful. I'm happy for you. That sounds like just the right thing for you to do. If you can't join a group that does what your heart tells you you want to do, start a group of your own!
Yogi Bhajan says that to master a subject, you should teach it. Go for it!

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MRSVK11 4/19/2014 10:24AM

    Wow! To have your teacher think you would be a good teacher is major validation and what a great idea, get some students that want to dance the way you do! It's within your power to get what you want GO FOR IT !!!
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VIADOLOROSA 4/19/2014 10:16AM

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You Can't Make a Heart Love Somebody

Monday, March 31, 2014

From the song, "You Can't Make a Heart Love Somebody"
"You can't make a heart love somebody.
You can tell it what to do, but it won't listen at all.
You can't make a heart love somebody.
You can lead a heart to love, but you can't make it fall."

I've been feeling empty and yes, unloved lately. But, as somewhat of a contradiction, I've really been feeling a strong need to spend a lot of time alone.

I have hoped for some kind of affectionate response from my husband at some points...but not much has been reciprocated. He is very preoccupied with his own interests. I've also felt a certain rejection from friends and family. But, a big part of that is OK since I have an overwhelming need for a sense of freedom and space. I seem to have an unending need to be left alone.

The rejection or coolness from others, including my husband, is something now I am accepting. I can't make someone love me. There is a whole scenario to this song that I quoted above that is quite touching. I can wish and I can hope, but if they don't really have a sense of affection or enthusiasm about me, then .... so be it. I can be OK. I can't make them and they can't make themselves, even if they want to.

  
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BOPPY_ 4/12/2014 2:35PM

    How is your program coming?

What are your objectives and goals?

Lee

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SUEPERWOMAN 4/10/2014 9:37AM

   
I just wanted to offer that another's aloofness may not mean in the least that they do not love you, but of course we have an expectation that those who love us would give us attention and make us feel connected. I think my hope for you is that you enjoy your separate time, but that you do not give up on connecting with the people in your world who need your loving essence all around them.

You are truly a special woman, and my opinion is that they are all fools not to be clamoring around for your special kind of love.

Love, Sue

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CHRISTINEBWD 4/1/2014 10:23PM

    My DH and I both have lots of interests and not all of them are the same... but now we have a shared interest that we have only discovered in the last couple of years. We found out that we both like to go camping (in a trailer, not in a tent) and we found out we both like to hike! While hiking I like to find different birds and he loves to photograph them. He calls almost all birds the LBB (Little brown bird). He doesn't know the first thing about birds and I don't know anything about taking pictures... It seems to be working for us! I hope you are not going to think this is too long winded, but I am no writer! Maybe you can find a "shared" interest and put a little "spark" back into your marriage? Lots of emoticon

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MANDELOVICH 4/1/2014 5:37PM

    I'm sorry you are going through this time, but you seem to have an awareness of what you want and need. I like solitude for the most part, though sometimes the loneliness gets to me.

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KALIGIRL 4/1/2014 8:49AM

    Sorry you've been feeling unloved...
I've always been accepting of myself (sometimes to the exclusion of others), but wonder if you're not loving yourself. Worthy of self-love makes for worthy of others' love?



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JULIEABIGAIL 4/1/2014 5:36AM

  i always find it fascinating how the universe responds to the energy we exude. at some level, conscious or subconscious, perhaps you are putting out the energy, "i'm in hibernation mode now" or something similar, and people are merely respecting and responding to your tacit message, which ironically, must be coming across loud and clear. what a great opportunity for self-exploration here. if you are indeed feeling like you want more "alone" time, perhaps you could be more open about it. if you feel like connecting more, you may want to embrace that intention and shift your energy to one of more inclusiveness. i am very much a recluse by nature, and people respect that, so if i want more connection, i shift my behavior and do what i can to connect. this could be a fruitful time for you; i hope not a painful time. best of luck. emoticon

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FIFIFRIZZLE 4/1/2014 12:45AM

    I guess there are some things we just have to accept. and if this distancing is what you both want, so be it. But if not, there is help out there to assist in exploring the possibilities. Don't close your heart down permanently, girl.
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Fifi

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BIGPAWSUP 3/31/2014 9:45PM

    I'm so sorry. I hope things get better soon.

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Dance Progress

Saturday, March 29, 2014

Last week I had my third private dance lesson. I danced each dance several times and the teacher made comments and offered suggestions. The teacher's general comment was that I was "progressing beautifully." Wow. That did make me feel good
So next time I intend to do the same four dances that I picked out and try to improve on them even more.

I am also working on dances for the weekly lessons that I give my friends. They enjoyed doing the dance "Irish Stew" to Pitbull's song, "Timber". We also did the dance "Riding the Waves" (normally we do it to "Pontoon") to "Boys 'Round Here" by Blake Shelton. Also, worked up the dance, "Reggae II" but made enough modifications that I have renamed it "Blurred Reggae" because we do it to "Blurred Lines" by Robin Thicke.

The thing that I have been noticing with all this dancing is that my lower legs are really feeling it. Since I have done Leslie Sansone walking tapes (do 5 miles per session) for over a year now and normally feel no problem, I was a little surprised. But then I realized, it was the footwear. I wear running shoes when I do the walking tapes. When I do the line dance in my living room (hardwood floor) and at the ballroom studio, I dance in my socks, so I can slide. So, I guess my lower legs are getting a lot more of a work-out. When I dance with my friends in the garage, I wear cowboy boots, so that's another difference.

I am working on what I feel is a complete dance/fitness program. I think that I have not been doing enough to achieve what I want to. So, I am looking through all my DVD's and the work-outs that have worked for me in the past. Right now the plan includes daily stretching, strength training 2X week, some sort of ballet (Balletone) or whole body work-out (Classical Stretch) daily, and daily cardio for at least an hour (either line dancing continuously or Leslie Sansone walking DVD). . This does not include practice sessions where I am learning new dances and working on steps.,,,,or studying youtube or line dance step sheets or listening to music or down-loading and recording dance CD's. I will have 2 rest days a week, but try to keep moving on those days...like shop, clean, other projects.

Yes, there is a lot of time and effort involved here. But I am mostly retired. It does involve choices of how I spend my time. It involves prioritizing my efforts and focus. I think I can do it. I am viewing it as my mission, my passion, my purpose.



  
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CATTI53 4/5/2014 11:06AM

    Dancing....great exercise for the mind, body and spirit! Thanks for your comment on my page. I want to go to the Windy City event. There is also one in Boston I hope to get to someday soon. I'm heading to a dance weekend at the end of April in NY State. Love that you're using contemporary music for your dances. I also dance in my socks when I'm home (a bit of talcum powder on the floor helps you glide even more...lol). I have dance shoes and sneakers I use when I go out dancing. They have suede soles which helps with spinning and sliding. Plus the shoes are so pretty! I used to dance in boots but find them cumbersome now. You use different muscles when you dance than when you walk. I try to do both as they build up the leg muscles and tone them up nicely. It's great that you share you love of dancing with your friends. If you'd like, after my dance weekend I'll share some of my favorite new dances that I'll learn. Although I enjoy the challenge of the intermediate/advanced dances some of the beginner dances are just too cute to pass up. Funny, when I dance I don't feel like I'm exercising...I'm just having a good time. That's the best type of exercise program!!! emoticon

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KALIGIRL 3/29/2014 6:56PM

    emoticon pursuing your passion is wonderful!

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GENRE009 3/29/2014 1:12PM

    Wow, I love hearing what you are doing. only wished you lived closer, cause you are a walking party. So, now beyond the flattery. Did you know that you are now making your body, and life into a living art work. Sounds like eventually you will be teaching lessons on dancing, and break out into your own studio. Or that you will be teaching this at high schools & libraries for money to adults. wouldn't that be fun. Anyway, it's great that you are doing what you love, many of us haven't. You are so blessed to stay so true to your likes. have a great week end. Your bud, eva

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SUPER_CIARA 3/29/2014 12:56PM

    emoticon Go for it!

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TRINIITY1 3/29/2014 11:06AM

    emoticon Do what you love!

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PHEBESS 3/29/2014 9:55AM

    Dancing is great exercise - and so much fun!

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BIGPAWSUP 3/29/2014 9:21AM

    Very cool

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CHRISTINATODAY 3/29/2014 9:09AM

    Second best I guess is watching the video's of the songs you mentioned. Just listened to Blake Shelton and now listening to Robin Thicke. I like that last one! (Except they should not be fooling around with animals like that!)
Now I'm off to listen to 'Timber'. - just did. WHOA, woo hoo!

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CHRISTINATODAY 3/29/2014 9:01AM

    Of course you CAN do it as it's your PASSION!
I know, I know that you may not feel like posting pics / video's, but when I read your blogs I still long to see you dance! emoticon


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The Glass is Always Full

Friday, March 21, 2014



No matter how much water is in the glass, it's really always full!
Air will always make up the difference to fill your glass, and there is an infinite supply.
Air is not the absence of substance. It is a different kind of substance with properties invisible to our eyes. But it is always there, everywhere.

The power of air in every breath we take.
The power of air supporting the soaring eagle.
The power of air supporting the heavy airplane.
The power of air in the gentle breeze and the powerful storm.



No need to have an image of a glass empty or half-full.
The image we can hold is of infinite, constant "fullness"

The glass is always full!

  
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CATTI53 3/22/2014 7:57PM

    Love it!

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FANCYKAYAH 3/21/2014 6:08PM

    What a different perspective to have about looking at things positively~

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KALIGIRL 3/21/2014 1:39PM

    Love it!!!!!
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FIFIFRIZZLE 3/21/2014 9:49AM

    What a wonderful perspective.

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BIGPAWSUP 3/21/2014 7:42AM

    Awesome!

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Feel the Rhythm

Sunday, March 16, 2014













  
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CATTI53 3/22/2014 7:59PM

    Very encouraging images. Thanks for sharing.

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GENRE009 3/19/2014 9:10PM

    those were amazing photographs! Is this a hobby of yours? What was that on the beach that had a lot of legs & was white?

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MRSVK11 3/19/2014 10:29AM

    I'm really feeling how much joy you get from dance!
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LIVINGFREE19 3/17/2014 8:46PM

    Beautiful pics!

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SUEPERWOMAN 3/16/2014 4:07PM

   
Beautiful!

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BIGPAWSUP 3/16/2014 3:04PM

    Love the eagle!

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-BLESSINGS- 3/16/2014 9:42AM

    LOVEly thanks for sharing with us

~Wishing you all the best~
BLESSings ALLways ~Deby

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ONEKIDSMOM 3/16/2014 9:06AM

    Great images... thanks for sharing! emoticon

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