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New Boundaries Needed.

Wednesday, April 16, 2014

Wow It's been a while since I last blogged. Oh so many possible excuses. My medications are still not quite right. So I've been out of sorts. Went to see the grandbabies.

I've been a grandmother for two years already. Time surely does fly.

So as far as my journey goes... I've been in limbo for a while. My weight hasn't really changed. Though my mindset is improving. In order to move forward I received a message from the Universe(?)

Practice assertive boundaries to prevent cave-ins under pressure. - Paula Eder
Then the following came across my path:
"We do not have to get caught in the middle of other people's issues.
-- Melody Beattie
Learning to respect boundaries, our own and other people's, eliminates much of the stress that hinders ..."

By having boundaries my actions will be more clearly defined. It is like having a routine or rules. I'm drawing a line in the sand that I shall no longer cross.

I'm doing the Oprah/Chopra free mediation that started on Monday.
Daily touching base on SparkPeople.
I've got my exercise routine.

So where do the new boundaries come into play. my food and some of my relationships. I am making progress but it is time to take more action, review and update my food rules.

Making changes... moving forward.

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1CRAZYDOG 4/16/2014 9:39PM

  Awwww, that looks like one very happy grandbaby! You too!

I am doing that meditation as well. Love it.

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WATERMELLEN 4/16/2014 8:23PM

    Like your musings on boundaries -- and TRAVELGRRL's too.

Boundaries mean we move forward in leaps and bounds!!

How lovely to be a grandmother: for you and for the babies.

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TRAVELGRRL 4/16/2014 7:17PM

    OH! And the photo is absolutely LOVELY!

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TRAVELGRRL 4/16/2014 7:17PM

    Here's a quote about measuring food as a boundary that's from the book "Ravenous" by Dayna Macy. I liked it so much I wrote it down on a 3x5 card and have it on my desk:

"Measuring, by its nature, requires me to pay attention. Measuring forms a container for my longings and boundaries for my lust. Without boundaries, I cannot find balance. Without limits, I cannot hope to be free."


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SUNSET09 4/16/2014 6:51PM

  We're a quarter into the New Year and making changes is a good thing as it's what works for you will help you in your journey! Keep up the good work and keep on, keeping on! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LOVINGKATE 4/16/2014 3:02PM

  You can do this. Each day is a new beginning. Making changes can be difficult sometimes but I find making small changes each day gives me better focus on what I what to accomplish.
Moving forward little by little will make great changes in the end. You are on the right track. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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RHOOK20047 4/16/2014 9:21AM

    Sounds like a great start to future success! Good Luck on your journey!

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SLIMMERJESSE 4/16/2014 9:07AM

    Boundaries are a big one and I have to practice all the time. Let me know how the Oprah/Chopra mediation program goes. Sounds great.

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    Making changes...moving forward!
Great attitude!

Make Today the Greatest Day of Your Life

emoticon Until Tomorrow!

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Spell Check / Brain Check needed

Monday, March 31, 2014

Spell check is wonderful, it helped me realize that I am better than I thought I was at spelling. However spell check does not help when I use the wrong word Like in yesterdays use of sink instead of sync. I was mortified that my brain did that. Though I was thinking about doing dishes. :)
Working with brain fog is not easy, but what is... is implementing the lessons I have learned since coming to SP. Getting frustrated by the fogginess, I have an intense desire to gnaw in the evening.
So what to do?
1. Work on eliminating stressors. (Get the taxes done)
2. Change my environment. (go to another room)
3. Remind myself the need to gnaw is NOT hunger.

So even when challenged, there are still things that I can do. :)

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NEW_PARADIGM 4/5/2014 2:15PM

    I've had so many of those...I don't think there's anyone anyone would be able to judge fault free. By my book if it's understood that's what counts. Love your stepped out plans. You've got this.

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WATERMELLEN 3/31/2014 8:35PM

    Not a problem . . . we got the meaning!

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TRAVELGRRL 3/31/2014 3:02PM

    We've all done things like that! I find as I get older there are words that take me several times to get right...and others that I just plain have to google. Ha!

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1CRAZYDOG 3/31/2014 12:52PM

  Oh boy . . . had the brain fogs too. Makes it difficult to be at our best.

HUGS and hope it lifts for you!

"Only look back on your life to see how far you have gone. It’s not meant for you to stay looking back. Looking back is so that you can see what you have accomplished." Myra Hunn

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LOVINGKATE 3/31/2014 11:40AM

  We are all a work in progress. I do hope you are feeling better. Med changes are not easy.
Your gift of a virus does not help but it sounds like you are the right path. You can do this.
Have a great Monday. emoticon

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RUNMOREMILE 3/31/2014 10:02AM

  I agree that it is sure hard sometimes not to gnaw when you are not hungry. It is good that you have some coping strategies. I'm finding that it is a work in progress.

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SLIMMERJESSE 3/31/2014 9:23AM

    Hope this is a better week for you. And, thank you. I was touched by your very kind response to my blog.

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Many Reasons/Excuses

Sunday, March 30, 2014

I have been quiet lately and not blogging. Let me count the ways why:
1. Came off a diabetes medication and my blood glucose rose quite a bit. So my brain has been a bit fuzzy. (it is no wonder why so many with diabetes are non-compliant, it is difficult to think straight.)
2. Adjusting (?) to new medication. Not to sure that it is working.
3. My son gave me the gift of a cold virus that has run for the usual 7-10 days. Stuffy head equals impaired cognitive ability.
4. Spending 5 days with my DIL and grandbabies through me out of sync.
5. Putting out little annoying fires of life.

There.... I've had reasons for not being perfect. Life hasn't been perfect, nor will it ever be. So I still:
Exercised when I was able.
Planned healthy meals. (Thank heavens for soup.)

So when things go wrong, I can still do what's right for me.
Still have challenges be for me to address and I will.

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1CRAZYDOG 3/30/2014 4:54PM

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"Health is the greatest gift, contentment the greatest wealth, faithfulness the best relationship." Buddha

Hope you're feeling better. Oh boy. When I was first diagnosed w/type 2 diabetes, my sugar was 300+, my a1C 12! HORRID and I felt really tough, including that darned brain fog! You're right! Things that wouldn't ordinarily be a challenge really ARE!

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TRAVELGRRL 3/30/2014 4:19PM

    Hope things will be on the upswing! Glad to see you back.

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WATERMELLEN 3/30/2014 3:16PM

    Way to go! I often say that I just lurch along from crisis to crisis (and it's true) . . . but it always helps as I'm lurching to keep on eating healthy and exercising as much as poss . . . health permitting!

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SLIMMERJESSE 3/30/2014 1:37PM

    Hope you're feeling much better. Missed you. Glad you're back.

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Supportive Environment.

Monday, March 17, 2014

Being away has given me insight into what I need to do to create a supportive environment. I have to have the tools needed to do what I need to do. Just like having toothpaste and a toothbrush so I can brush my teeth.
What is it that I want to support ... a healthy sustainable lifestyle.
What does a healthy lifestyle look like to me?
That is what I need to define. What do I want my habits to be.
What do I need to support this lifestyle.

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WATERMELLEN 3/20/2014 8:42AM

    Good point! For me having that supper soup pot full is a key support when I walk in the door: simple but doable!!

And: I like your comment about choosing to remember all the good things about your mother's life even in one of those "10%" phases when life could be overwhelming and happiness seem impossible. A choice -- and probably how your mother would have chosen to be remembered.

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1CRAZYDOG 3/17/2014 9:11PM

  Good questions! Yes, they will help guide your progress. HUGS

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LOVINGKATE 3/17/2014 5:45PM

  Great question to ask yourself. I wrote them down myself. I need some clarification, mindful thinking needs to take place. Looks like being away helped you. Good luck on figuring out what you feel you want and need. You are emoticon. emoticon emoticon

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TRAVELGRRL 3/17/2014 4:48PM

    Sounds like you had a lovely visit. I love how you were mindful enough to notice the changes in lifestyle in a positive way. Too many people just want everything "the same" when they visit others.

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Out of My Element

Sunday, March 16, 2014

Being away from home was great. Temptations and old habits were disrupted.
My son was away on business. I got to visit with my wonderful DIL and play with my grandchildren. My 23 month old granddaughter has only two speeds, OFF and FAST, (Now I know the reason for menopause.) I got down on the floor and crawled around to be on her level. We read books, sang songs, went for walks. I could see her delight in splashing in puddles. (Mom took video of it for dad/)
As for my 10 week old grandson, his gummy grins were a delight to behold. It broke my heart when he frowned. That thirteen pounder really worked out my triceps. After awhile I could feel my arms strengthening.

My routine/lifestyle changed. They do not do coffee, so I was caffeine free and did not notice any withdrawal symptoms. No TV. I must confess I do like a good show and check the weather. But they check the weather on their smartphones before heading out. It was nice to see and experience a different way of doing things.

Being there I did not have nighttime eating issues. Perhaps because it was not my home and kitchen, but I did not feel the need to gnaw. I noticed my hunger when it occurred.

All this was quite refreshing and showed me that there are many changes that I still can make. I'm going to move forward as I do not want to be the old grandma I'd prefer to be the fun grandma.

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SUNSET09 3/18/2014 5:51AM

  It was nice and refreshing as we don't know how much we can do until our environment and situations make us change! It sounds like a great vacation with fellowship and time well spent with the family! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LOVINGKATE 3/17/2014 11:12AM

  So glad you had a great trip. Grandchildren are so much fun. You had your work out in and found other ways to keep your days and evenings. I like they have NO TV. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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PRAIRIECROCUS 3/17/2014 1:35AM

Glad you had such a great time !

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DSHONEYC 3/16/2014 4:43PM

    Glad you had such a grand time! All good habits!

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1CRAZYDOG 3/16/2014 4:01PM

  Awesome! Glad you had such a wonderful time. HUGS

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SLIMMERJESSE 3/16/2014 12:28PM

    What fun!

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NEW_PARADIGM 3/16/2014 12:01PM

    Sounds like a wonderful trip on so many levels!

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ALICIA214 3/16/2014 12:00PM


Sounds like a good plan to me..
Crawling around on the floor ..Hmm..


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WATERMELLEN 3/16/2014 11:59AM

    You sound like the absolute dream MIL, fitting in and praising different ways of doing things, helping and getting right into it!!

How I wish I'd had a MIL like you when my kids were little (or even the help from time to time of a mother, actually!!)

I'll do things differently if (and when) I have the chance!!

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