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I am a Pickle.

Saturday, January 25, 2014

There is an old saying that once you turn into a pickle, you can never go back to being a cucumber.

When I was little, my mother gave us 3 squares a day (small by today's standards, normal at the time) and all 3 of us kids were normal weight. Somewhere in my early teens, who knows why, I began to eat between meals. I saved my allowance and bought pretzels and Tastykakes. I snuck the food into the house, and snuck the trash out. No one ever saw me eat, but they sure saw the result. I had a half a front tooth and Mom wouldn't let me get it fixed until I was nearly 17. I was shunned at school, so food was my comfort, and somewhere along the way my reliance on food, my seeing food as more than what it is, as solace and comfort and entertainment, became part of who I am.

Roll forward all these years, and I cannot undo those all thoughts about food, but rather overlay something new and different. I was hoping when I went to WW in 1970 that one day I'd wake up and it would be as if I had never gained weight. I would be like my sister and brother, intuitively thin. But that never happened. They are still cucumbers, I am a pickle.

But that doesn't mean I can't overcome those thoughts and attitudes. I can, and I have. But I have to overcome them every day. It's like my great grandmother who came to this country from Germany. She learned English, became completely competent in English, I'm told she claimed to dream in English, but she still spoke with the old accent to the day she died. It was there, a constant reminder of where she had been and how far she had come. My incipient attitude toward food is like GGrandma's accent.

That is how I see my daily discipline to maintain my loss. As a pickle, I will always have to be careful with portions, always write it down (I still have that selective memory) and I know that as long as I do those things I can remain thin. The day will never come when I will be a cucumber, but that's OK. I know what to do.

  
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RADIOACTIVEGN 4/22/2014 9:03AM

  This is exactly what I needed to read right now. Thank you from a fellow pickle.

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WITTYBRIT 4/22/2014 8:00AM

    I could have been reading my life story! I am inspired by your success and I know that probably for the rest of my life I will have to track. Whatever it takes, I WILL get healthy!

Thanks for sharing

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IMAVISION 3/23/2014 1:08PM

    Excellent & very insightful blog.

Thank you for sharing so beautifully.

God bless!

Ima

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NEWJEANSDAY 3/23/2014 11:50AM

    Not sure I wanted to hear this message (!) but it is great to know that pickles can look like cucumbers! :-)

Thanks for commenting on my blog today. If I stop losing weight I'll start going to the meetings again.



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BOPPY_ 3/22/2014 6:23PM

    Informative. Educational. Simple. Inspiring. Instructive. Great use of a metaphor.

Thanks,

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NASFKAB 3/9/2014 11:21AM

  have to keep at it

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KALISWALKER 3/4/2014 5:13PM

    Yes it's not something you can undo.

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4A-HEALTHY-BMI 2/12/2014 9:55PM

    Well, I have to say, I really prefer pickles. They have a lot more wisdom than cucumbers, and will last a lot longer, too!

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SUSANNAH31 2/4/2014 8:52PM

    And you are a constant inspiration to many of us here. Thank you for that!


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DAWNOPFER 2/3/2014 11:35AM

    Great attitude!!

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EJB2801 2/2/2014 10:08PM

    Thanks for showing me how to be more upbeat about being a pickle! I was a cucumber for many years, and now I'm not. I've been slow to change mindsets...or rather, behaviors.

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SAMMYSWEETPEA 2/2/2014 10:01PM

    I am the pickle in my family of cucumbers too.

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HOLLYM48 2/1/2014 5:12PM

    Thanks for telling your story. Every day is a new day to make good choices and I am so thankful that I have found this site and such awesome people to help support and encourage.
Way to go on finding your way to be a pickle and to have power over what and how much you eat!!!!

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FVUSCMOM 2/1/2014 12:47PM

    I am a pickle, too! emoticon

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MONIQUEARIELLE 2/1/2014 12:47AM

    This really is a great analogy. I am going to have to remember this one. Thanks!

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SASHA-222 1/31/2014 1:51PM

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ASK_STRATMAN 1/31/2014 12:46PM

    My Dad used that saying too, but I never thought about this journey in those regards. Thank you for this blog post it shed some light on some things.



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MJREIMERS 1/30/2014 10:54PM

    Pickles are much more "flavorful" and interesting on the palate. I personally find pickles much more interesting than a cucumber. I'm glad you are a pickle and you should celebrate it!

Keep up the great work. You are such an inspiration to many that are at the beginning of their journeys, those questioning their journeys and for those of us that will always be on the journey called maintenance.

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WORKNPROGRESS49 1/30/2014 9:24PM

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MOONCHILD8 1/30/2014 8:57PM

    Thank you for being a pickle and telling us how to keep thin. You can not give up or into the feelings of wanting to eat the comfort food. Linda from bean town emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SLENDERELLA61 1/30/2014 4:37PM

    Brilliant and helpful blog!! Thanks. I know I will never be a cucumber, either. And I am in the process of accepting that I'm a pickle. Congratulations on decades of maintenance. Tremendous accomplishment!!

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KRISZTA11 1/30/2014 3:14PM

    Congrats to your ultra long maintenance!
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ROBYN168 1/30/2014 2:03PM

    Love your pickle analogy. Thank you for sharing your story. I am a pickle too.

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KANSASROSE67 1/30/2014 1:37PM

    I've never heard the pickle saying before, but I love it! This is a great blog. Best wishes to you.

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KIMBERLY_Y 1/30/2014 1:09PM

    Nell, well-said. I really enjoy the analogy. Congratulations on a great blog and your 43 years of successful maintenance. You are an inspiration! emoticon

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PATRICE_E 1/30/2014 12:37PM

    Wonderfully written, Nell! Congratulations on living and sharing such an inspiring, 'awake' life. You're a blessing, indeed.
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SUNSHINE20113 1/30/2014 11:49AM

    Such a great blog. I love how you compare it to your grandma's accent. Thank you for sharing!

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MIDROAD 1/30/2014 11:36AM

    Dear Nell,
You are among the sweetest and wisest here in SP.
Thanks once again for keeping it simple and sharing it with all of us.

Be blessed my friend!

Jeannie the grateful pickle:)

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MYNEWLIFE42 1/30/2014 10:16AM

    Love your analogies - they definitely ring true for so many! Thanks for this! I'm a pickle just entering the world of maintenance and I'm so glad to see I'm not alone.

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MEXGAL1 1/30/2014 9:58AM

    I can so identify with you...especially the "sneaking" of junk into the house and hiding it from your family. I was so skilled at opening candy bar wrappers in bed without anyone hearing me.
Well said.
Best of everything to you.
Sallie

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FELINA 1/30/2014 9:15AM

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Thank you for sharing your story.
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AMARILYNH 1/30/2014 9:01AM

    This is SO TRUE!! I'm another ever mindful pickle!!

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KANOE10 1/30/2014 7:46AM

    Your 43 years is so impressive. I love the pickle analogy. I will always be a pickle also. It will always be a daily effort for me and a daily focus. Thanks for sharing your successful tools of maintenance and for being an inspiration to tall of us.

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TORTISE110 1/30/2014 7:27AM

    This got me going....about being "in" a pickle, which you are not! So true about maintenance, Nell. thanks for the post.

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LCERVERA 1/30/2014 7:20AM

    What a great way to look at it! Thank you from a fellow pickle!
I think we've got a whole peck of pickled...oh, wait, that is pickled peppers...nevermind!
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WATERMELLEN 1/30/2014 6:59AM

    Love this blog! As a POW (previously overweight person) I too am an irreversible pickle. And although fluent in maintenance, I'll speak "food" with a "fatty accent" for the rest of my life, I know I know.

Very helpful analogies. Very truthful recording of the ongoing vigilance required for all us POW pickles!!

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BESSHAILE 1/30/2014 6:16AM

    singing my song.

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ELLEKTRA 1/30/2014 5:45AM

    well said...brilliant

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NUOVAELLE 1/30/2014 1:45AM

    I'm sure there are mostly pickles on this site who can completely understand! As for your grandma's story - such a beautiful analogy! - I can honestly relate. But I think constant reminders of how far we've come are a good thing.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us.

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DALID414 1/30/2014 12:43AM

    The boyfriend and I call cucumbers un-pickles emoticon

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SUSIEMT 1/29/2014 10:42PM

    Nell, thank you for sharing that story! It was a great analogy! Maybe we are the lucky ones after all. We get to be the spice of life!

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JULIEABIGAIL 1/29/2014 10:35PM

  emoticon emoticon beautiful, heartfelt blog.

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BOOKAPHILE 1/29/2014 10:17PM

    Yep. I'm a pickle, too, and tracking plus exercise are the tools I use to maintain. Thanks for the great mental picture. The book Refuse to Regain refers to people as POW (previously overweight) and NOW (never overweight). They look the same, but cannot eat the same way to maintain their weight.

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Find Your Inner Adult!

Wednesday, January 15, 2014

I have read a couple of blogs and posts today about accepting the realities of life as an adult rather than that of a child. "But I want it!" or "That's not fair!" are the attitudes of children.

We celebrate childhood these days. Everything I needed to know in life I learned in kindergarten? Really? I had to learn self discipline, it wasn't something I was born with, and I sure hadn't learned it by kindergarten.

Maybe I was just lucky to have been raised in a happy, loving home, one where our parents tried to give us everything they hadn't had as children growing up in the depression. But it wasn't until I was well into adulthood that I was able to appreciate that what they had given me was just that: a gift, not an entitlement based on some idea that I deserved more happiness and ease than anyone else.

Children expect others to give them the things they need, which is natural for children. Someone else feeds them, provides shelter and clothing. Someone else reminds them to do their homework and clean up their rooms. We spend our teenage years yearning for the freedom of adulthood, then when we become adults, we wonder why it isn't as free and fabulous as we wanted it to be. Somewhere along the line, we had to become responsible for our own happiness.

We are supposed to "Find our Inner Child", as if only a child can enjoy life. Frankly, I like being an adult. I like the idea that if I am unhappy, I don't have to find someone to fix it. I don't have to control other people (good luck with that!) in order to control myself. Happiness and success are within myself, if only I can channel my Inner Adult.

  
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KANOE10 1/30/2014 7:51AM

    That was a good blog. But I want it and it is not fair are constant thoughts that need adult discipline. I enjoy being an adult and taking responsibility for my life. I am teaching children all day and hopefully training them to take responsibility for their actions.

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NUOVAELLE 1/30/2014 1:53AM

    I don't know why but this wonderful post of yours touched my "inner parent" more. But she's supposed to be an adult, too, right?
Amazingly thought-provoking blog! And I think most of us should grab the opportunity to really and deeply think about how much we have channeled our inner adult and to what extent we have become responsible for our own happiness.


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SUSANNAH31 1/17/2014 7:23PM

    Your posts here on SP have always represented an adult point of view. In fact, I thought of you several days ago while I was listening to the Siebold videos and being told to act like an adult.
I feel as if I finally am 100% adult now -- even when it comes to food and exercise. (I believe I was always behaving as an adult in other areas of my life, food just took a longer time.)

You are a good role model here.



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CATLADY52 1/16/2014 2:16PM

    Very well put. I would rather be an adult. Yet there are times when we feel like kids again. emoticon

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GRANJERRY1 1/16/2014 7:00AM

    Well written Nell….It's all about introspection… and I also believe it is situational…..

Hope your husband is doing well now….

Best wishes
Mani

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LADYRH 1/16/2014 6:22AM

    emoticon Nell, we need to look within ourselves.

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MEDDYPEDDY 1/16/2014 1:15AM

    Love that headline – realising I really appreciate my inner adult but you know I really need to respect my inner child as well. They need to cooperate if I want to balance my life. Not either-or but both-and.

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PINKNFITCARLA 1/15/2014 9:13PM

    emoticon I agree wholeheartedly!

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TRAVELGRRL 1/15/2014 6:02PM

    Amen!

The best time of my life is right now! Youth is overrated, in my opinion!

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NASFKAB 1/15/2014 5:43PM

  great

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GABY1948 1/15/2014 3:20PM

    I agree with this 100% if not 110%! Responsibility and integrity in this world are definitely two BIGGIES (or lack of them) that irritate me no end.

This is all so well said, Nell, and I wish we could get it out to the world somehow! emoticon

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CUTENHEALTHY 1/15/2014 2:17PM

    I love being an adult rather than a child. You get to pick who you want to live with and you are responsible for your own choices.

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WATERMELLEN 1/15/2014 2:10PM

    Thanks for this and for your comment on my fatloser blog today on the same topic. You have been extraordinarily successful with your weight maintenance (and other areas in your life) BECAUSE you've accepted the responsibility of being an adult . . . everything you post communicates it loud and clear.

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KRICKET4 1/15/2014 1:53PM

    Love it! Very well said.

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CELIAMINER 1/15/2014 1:15PM

    I am guilty of not appreciating my parents when I was a child, but I did my fair share of holing up in my room with a book or my daydreams (no computer, stereo, or TV), so I became adept at entertaining myself. That skill had served me well all my life, as I am never bored. There's always something I need to do and/or want to do. One thing I would like to change, though, is what Zeedra calls being a "hard-fast adult." I have a very hard time loosening up, going with the flow, and having fun. I love my comfortable routine,and I fear what people will say or think if I just let go.

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TENNESSEEWALKER 1/15/2014 12:48PM

    We've lost the distinction between childish and childlike - perhaps because it's so hard to parse how the two differ. And then it's hard to know what you are supposed to do when 'seeking your inner child.' Is it simply a matter of shedding all maturity or seeking the mature version of your childlike self? Which sounds to me like your inner adult.

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AJDOVER1 1/15/2014 12:46PM

    I love your blogs! There's no substitute for accepting where we are in life. I put my "inner child" in timeout and moved on!

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CMRAND54 1/15/2014 12:42PM

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I, too, was given a wonderful childhood by parents who cared and wanted what was best for me. One of the best things they gave me was a good work ethic. My parents both worked hard and kept busy all day long, and I'm pretty much the same way. But one thing they didn't teach me was portion control! I'm still trying to learn when enough is enough.

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EVER-HOPEFUL 1/15/2014 11:10AM

    i agree it seems that children are happier and freer.alot of that is to do with they don´t have the worries and responsibilities that go with being aan adult,they often have the innocence of trusting people as they don´t know all the complexibilities of human nature and life itself but remember for those who might be jelous of this fact that a child also doesn´t have the control over their lives that we as adults have.alot of our life is often to do with our attitudes but the beauty about adults is we have the ability to do something about our attitudes when we are willing to take the effort or make the effort.we really do have that much power.no one need ever feel powerless if they really put their minds to it and prepared to step out of their comfort zone and try to see things in a differant light and with a positive attitude.it is not so much what life throws at us but what and how we handle what life throws at us.it is amasing really how much power we actually do or can have over our own lifes when we are prepared to risk it. emoticon emoticon

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ZEEDRA 1/15/2014 10:45AM

    Well said.

I don't think it's always an either/or...some of us just seem to have a nature that can appear childlike to other adults and that's okay as long as we don't shirk the responsibility of adulthood. And some of us have become hard-fast adults who have lost the ability to loosen up when the opportunity arises...to be so stuck in rules and regulations that new ideas can't push their way in.

Yes. The inner child movement may have run it's course.





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SPICEMWE 1/15/2014 10:34AM

    Really well said. I'm struggling with that concept today, myself.

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Today is our 31st wedding anniversary

Wednesday, January 08, 2014

Amazing. Where did the years go? I remember sitting on a plane with Ron the previous March, looking at a calendar and selecting a date.

Then the planning. Unlike weddings today, we were doing it on the cheap. It was a second marriage for us both, and back in 1983, most churches still wouldn't marry divorced people. Etiquette instructions for second marriages were no wedding dresses, no bridesmaids, no fancy anything. The theory was, I guess, that if you failed in a first marriage you would fail in a second. I wore a long white silk skirt, a silk blouse, and a sapphire blue silk velvet jacket, all hand made. A few years back I succumbed to the "if you haven't used it in a year, get rid of it", so I gave away the skirt and blouse. I wish I had kept them. I still have the jacket, though, and I am SO glad!

So here we are, 31 years later. His son and my three sons are all grown and gone, and parents of our grandchildren. We have lived in the same house for 28 1/2 years, and are surrounded by things that we acquired together, with just a couple of pieces from our first marriages.

My husband looks a lot older than he did then: what hair he has left is white, he walks with a stoop. I still look pretty much the same, but with glasses and highlighted hair. I was thin when I married him and weigh a few pounds less now.

Where do the years go?

  
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MARILYN1984 1/21/2014 1:46PM

  Congratulations!! My husband and I will be married 30 years in October. We are a blended family also, a girl from my previous marriage and a boy from his. Here's hoping you have many more

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VTRICIA 1/17/2014 3:02PM

    Happy Anniversary! Our wedding was on the cheap too, I borrowed my sister's dress (which had always been the plan) and we just made sashes for my bridesmaids.

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LARSIL 1/9/2014 11:06PM

    Happy anniversary! And may you be blessed for many more!

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SUSANNAH31 1/9/2014 9:44PM

    Congratulations on your special day.
Most definitely, the marriage is much more important than the wedding. And you have a successful one, for sure.

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KAYYVAUGHN 1/9/2014 9:05AM

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MEDDYPEDDY 1/9/2014 12:43AM

    emoticon It is very nice to read about you and how well you managed!

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NOMIS1 1/8/2014 10:43PM

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Wishing you many more happy years together.

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REBELBLITZ 1/8/2014 9:02PM

    Happy anniversary. Many more to come!

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LESLIESENIOR 1/8/2014 8:35PM

    Happy, Happy Anniversary Nell. I posted our one of our teams that it is our Anniversary too, today. What a coincidence! Must have been a great day for starting long lasting marriages. We have 42 years today.
Woo Hoo to you and your hubby!!!!

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PINKNFITCARLA 1/8/2014 7:31PM

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TOKIEMOON 1/8/2014 7:20PM

    Congratulations Nell! You have quite a history with longevity (maintaining your goal weight, and many years with Ron).

I send my best wishes for many more happy years together and spending time with your kids and grandchildren! emoticon Denise

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AJDOVER1 1/8/2014 6:16PM

    Happy Anniversary! I wish you two many more years together. emoticon

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FISHINGLADY66 1/8/2014 5:43PM

    Congratulations and Happy Anniversary.

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ZEEDRA 1/8/2014 5:02PM

    Congratulations! Time goes by...whether you're having fun or not. :)



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NWCOUNTRYDANCER 1/8/2014 4:28PM

    Happy anniversary!!!

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DARLENEK04 1/8/2014 3:44PM

  Hi Nell,

Happy Anniversary to you and Ron....I think your outfit
sounds fabulous....

I never did understand the rules for weddings, so I did
it my way....the first one was divorced already, so we
found a minister and had his sister and BIL for witnesses.

David and I should have met earlier in life...we are so
happy together...when we married, we went to the courthouse
and they provided witnesses...the county judge married us.
Then I went to my home to pack my stuff and he came the
2nd week, we loaded the truck, went in and all got ready
and went to my church where my pastor gave us a church
wedding, and we had my friends from work and my 2 kids there,
who stood with us....

Blessings and Happy Anniversary,
DarleneK

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NASFKAB 1/8/2014 3:41PM

  emoticon lovely to be the same after so many years

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FLAGLINDA 1/8/2014 1:23PM

    emoticon Congratulations!! I wish you many more anniversaries!! Your wedding outfit sounds beautiful!

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CMRAND54 1/8/2014 1:20PM

    I don't understand all the fuss about weddings these days, whether first or second.
I got married for the first (and hopefully last) time 42 years ago. I got married in a church, with about 30 people there. I made my own wedding gown, (which I still have) and I made my sister's bridesmaid gown. We had cake and punch in the basement of the church. The whole wedding cost about $300, and we're still married.
Now it seems like brides need to spend thousands on a dress, flowers, catered dinner, etc. and everything has to match her "colors" or she's not happy.
Congratulations to you for doing it the right way. The marriage is more important than the wedding.

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ALIHIKES 1/8/2014 12:39PM

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Congratulations on your long and successful marriage!

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CELIAMINER 1/8/2014 12:18PM

    emoticon Nell! You and Ron did it right!

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TRAVELGRRL 1/8/2014 12:06PM

    Congratulations! I will be married to #2 for 25 years this year. We too had a wedding on the cheap -- outside in the park, with a prison chaplain and about 5 witnesses. Then lunch at a local restaurant for our parents + witnesses, and that was it!

I can't tell you where the years go, but if you find out, let me know because a bunch of mine are missing too!

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_LINDA 1/8/2014 11:35AM

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That outfit sounds gorgeous! I didn't realize there were rules for 2nd marriages.
Looking the same as you did 30 years ago and even weighing less -very well done!
Keep up the great work!

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DAISYBELL6 1/8/2014 11:29AM

    Sounds like the years were well used!

Congratulations!

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GABY1948 1/8/2014 11:27AM

    emoticon and thanks for sharing you beautiful story! Time does fly...I think that every day!

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DBALZER 1/8/2014 11:14AM

    Happy Anniversary! Congrats on 31 years together!

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DR1939 1/8/2014 11:07AM

    emoticon The wedding outfit sounds fabulous.

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DRLMAZ 1/8/2014 10:34AM

  Happy anniversary. Thanks for sharing your story

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I have been at goal for 43 years!

Wednesday, December 25, 2013

I actually don't remember the exact day, but it was December of 1970. I just picked Christmas Day because it's a joyous day for so many other reasons.

My life has changed in a million ways since 1970. I'm older, of course. I had two more kids, divorced and re-married (for 32 years now), acquired a wonderful step-son. Three of those sons are now married with children of their own. I have moved 7 times; I live in a different state than where I lost my weight.

Time goes by and stuff keeps happening, yet I stay on top of my food plan just as I did when I was losing. I have had to say No to food countless times over the years, yet it has all been worth it. I got up this morning about 10 pounds less than that original 1970 goal.

I never feel deprived, I always have something wonderful to eat. I learned to cook on WW, and am grateful every day that I learned to love cooking. Actually, as Emeril Lagasse said, I love to eat, therefore I love to cook. I eat differently now than I did in 1970. Who knew that a whole world of international (who ever hear of jicima or tomatillos or lemon grass?) and non-seasonal foods (strawberries in winter?) would be available for me to enjoy? We always hear about how ubiquitous industrial food has become, yet so are all the other wonderful foods no one ever heard of in 1970.

So a Merry Christmas to us all!!! 2014 will be another year in which to succeed!!

  
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NEWJEANSDAY 1/9/2014 8:54AM

    "I love to eat therefore I love to cook!" I like it!

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BOPPY_ 1/4/2014 5:34PM

    THIS! YOU! I find INSPIRING! emoticon

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TRAVELGRRL 1/2/2014 2:53PM

    Congratulations to you, and thanks for pointing out that our food choices *CAN* be much better than they were in 1970, it just depends on us.

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MAESTRAPLANK12 12/31/2013 6:25AM

    What a great blog! Yes, we choose what we eat. Wise choices certainly pay off. Deprivation is not an option beaause of the many many new and exciting food options that we have now. As a 68 year old, I truly appreciate the improvement in the variety of foods now available to us. Who knew I would be making Almond Milk Lattes each morning and that I would be improving my diet with wholesome colorful foods ....kale, for instance. I think the pursuit of healthy foods and recipes keeps us happy, healthy, and certainly helps our family members have more food options. I enjoyed your blog. I have been a yo yo dieter for years until I joined SparkPeople and now I am really finding success following the Paleo Lifestyle of eating. Blessings to you today and always!

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SUNNYBEACHGIRL 12/28/2013 8:32PM

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LESLIESENIOR 12/28/2013 12:42PM

    Congratulations and thank you for sharing your wisdom and strength with us all.



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KAYYVAUGHN 12/27/2013 9:51AM

    You set a very good example for me. Maintaining is not easy for me, but I have for several years. I'm leaning to do much better. Yesterday, I did eat more than I should, but today is another day.

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AJDOVER1 12/26/2013 6:58PM

    This is so good to read!

Thank you for spreading such cheer. I love your positive words!

Blessings to you and let's make 2014 and wonderful year!

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WATERMELLEN 12/26/2013 9:36AM

    What a cheery optimistic and confident message: love it. I remember when a delicious apple and a big navel orange and some grapes were exotic treats in my Christmas stocking. Winter was mostly root vegetables (potatoes, carrots, turnips, beets) and not fresh greens or herbs or cucumbers. And although now "industrial" food is common place, there are so many other choices available, and at reasonable prices every day in the supermarket. Fresh raspberries??

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GABY1948 12/26/2013 9:29AM

    emoticon on so many years of maintaining emoticon

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JEANNE229 12/26/2013 9:24AM

    It is all in attitude, Nell, and yours is golden. I admire your fortitude and long-lasting accomplishment. I'm getting close, but I will never make 43 years. Just the same, my attitude has changed this time, and it IS much easier once that happens.

Hope you had a great Christmas and that your husband is as well as possible (son's right. It probably will never be perfect again).

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LADYRH 12/26/2013 7:06AM

    Congratulations Nell emoticon success

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4A-HEALTHY-BMI 12/25/2013 11:12PM

    I'm so grateful you're here to provide perspective. Looking forward to hearing of many many more years of your maintenance!

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TENNESSEEWALKER 12/25/2013 10:22PM

    (TennesseWalker without a comment - that's how amazing!)

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PINKNFITCARLA 12/25/2013 9:56PM

    So awesome! emoticon and Merry Christmas to you as well! emoticon

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FIT4MEIN2013 12/25/2013 7:40PM

    Congrats and Merry Christmas!

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TOKIEMOON 12/25/2013 7:37PM

    Your life has turned out pretty well! I am buckling down to reach and STAY at my goal weight in 2014. Nell, you are someone I admire for the strength and determination that you exhibit to make your life the success that it is today! Merry Christmas!

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TINAJANE76 12/25/2013 7:37PM

    What an amazing inspiration you are! Congratulations again and keep on Sparking so the rest of us can learn from your example.

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JUDY1676 12/25/2013 7:12PM

    emoticon on years of maintaining!

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MYTURNNOW2013 12/25/2013 6:24PM

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Awe inspiring! Here's to #44!

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-WISPY- 12/25/2013 5:19PM

    Happy goal day Nell. Sending loving thoughts for a Happy New Year.

Hugs Wispy

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CATLADY52 12/25/2013 5:18PM

    emoticon And have a Great Christmas!

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DR1939 12/25/2013 3:06PM

    emoticon I agree with you on the variety of food available.

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EVER-HOPEFUL 12/25/2013 2:34PM

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KENTUCKYWOMAN 12/25/2013 12:28PM

    You have inspired me so many time. Thank for being part of my life.
Merry Christmas


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NASFKAB 12/25/2013 12:18PM

  congratulations did not kow how great you are what sort of food do you eat just to get a idea

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ZEEDRA 12/25/2013 11:29AM

    Congratulations, Nell! Good story and an inspiration to many of us.

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CELIAMINER 12/25/2013 11:10AM

    Congrats, Nell! Hope this Christmas finds you safe and warm, and I hope your DH and son are doing well.

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SUNSHINE192DAY 12/25/2013 11:04AM

    Merry Christmas and you are such an inspiration to me!

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--KREN 12/25/2013 11:02AM

    Nell, congratulations for a long and successful track (tracking?) record!

Do you think your health improved and that you've stayed healthy due to your eating plan?

Karen

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FISHINGLADY66 12/25/2013 11:01AM

    Congratulations on your determination. Your amazing.
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My Wonderful Father Died 12 Years Ago Today

Monday, November 11, 2013

I miss him every day. He was the wisest, kindest man in the world, and he loved me without reservation. My mother was the critical one, my father was the accepting one. He was firm about certain things, though, like frugality, perseverance, kindness. He taught me about caring about the natural environment long before that was a social concern. We used to go for long walks in the woods and he made me learn birds by sight and song, and to identify trees by bark and leaf. He taught me about the constellations, how to read the night sky. He was a chemist, having put himself through three degrees. Every night after dinner he'd start writing equations on napkins, teaching us what he loved, and it all made sense. He could say in 10 words what others took pages to say. He passed on the wisdom of his father and grandfather, and the words they had learned from their grandparents. He had a hard life. He was stricken with polio when he was 3, and he could never use his withered left arm. That was back in the day when employers didn't have to deal with "cripples", but DuPont was happy to hire him, and he spent 35 years with the company, years he enjoyed immensely. We take that kind of opportunity for granted today, but he was grateful and taught me gratitude.

I am grateful every day that he was my father. I remember his words every day in one context or another, and have passed them on to my children and their children.

And oh how I miss him!!

  
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NOMIS1 12/4/2013 10:46PM

    What a lovely tribute to your father. Thanks for sharing your memories.

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ZEEDRA 12/3/2013 6:29PM

    Just checking off "subscribe to this blog"

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SLIM4LIFE09 11/22/2013 9:26AM

    He sounds like an amazing man and father! What a beautiful way to remember him and share. emoticon

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LESLIESENIOR 11/16/2013 5:38PM

    What a beautiful remembrance of your dear father. He is definitely still alive in your heart and the hearts of your children and grand children.

My dad has been gone 10 years this December. I feel the same way about him. He was sober 23 years before he died and was such a positive role model for me.

Thank you for sharing your story with us all!

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TOKIEMOON 11/14/2013 11:38PM

    I can feel your deep love and admiration. How blessed you were to have him in your life for as long as you did. Your father will always live on in you, and may you always be blessed with warm memories.

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KAYYVAUGHN 11/13/2013 7:28AM

    Nell, I know how you feel. My dad died 5 years ago, and we had a special bond. When I go home, I still feel sad. When he was well, he would be sitting on the front porch waiting for us. Later he would be sitting in the living room in his chair. He always made me feel special.
I'm trying so hard to build a relationship with my mother, but it will never be the same.

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GABY1948 11/12/2013 7:13PM

    What a wonderful tribute to your father. That was beautiful.

When I saw the title of your blog I was taken aback...my father died 14 years ago the 17th of this month. Your dad and my dad could have been brothers. My dad was really my mom too...he was the one I sat on his lap each week (or however frequently they came out) and read me Little Lulu comic books from cover to cover. My mother also was the critical one and she was never a real mother (long story).

Thanks for making me think about my dad and those times by remembering your dad and sharing it with us! Wish I could have met your dad too.

Have a great night!

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CAT-IN-CJ 11/12/2013 3:07PM

    Glad you have such wonderful memories of your Father.

My dad's been 5 years and I sure do miss him too.
Looking forward to a reunion one of these days!

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TENNESSEEWALKER 11/12/2013 12:56PM

    Thank you for sharing your memories of your wonderful father. emoticon

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AJDOVER1 11/12/2013 12:31PM

    How blessed you are to have had him in your life. How blessed we all are that he continues to live in you.

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ZEEDRA 11/12/2013 10:34AM

    Great memorial!

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RGRONER 11/12/2013 9:54AM

    I think one of the greatest things you can leave in this world is a daughter who was inspired to write something like this 12 years after you're gone. I can only hope to leave such a legacy. He would be very proud of you.

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CELIAMINER 11/12/2013 9:33AM

    Lovely tribute to a great man! You are fortunate to have had such a caring father.

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SUZYMOBILE 11/12/2013 9:32AM

    He's obviously still with you every day, Nell. What a lovely tribute!

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REGILIEH 11/12/2013 9:01AM

    Very sweet!

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KENTUCKYWOMAN 11/12/2013 7:34AM

    Keep those memories alive always. It sounds as if you had a wonderful Father.

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LADYRH 11/12/2013 6:33AM

    Great memories are a joy we keep for ever

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NASFKAB 11/12/2013 4:32AM

  thanks for writing what I feel about mine lovely tribute to a great man all the best
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--KREN 11/11/2013 9:18PM

    You're so fortunate to have a father who gave you such wonderful memories.

Karen

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PINKNFITCARLA 11/11/2013 9:09PM

    emoticon What a nice tribute!

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TRAVELGRRL 11/11/2013 7:57PM

    What a lovely tribute. His goodness and kindness, and love of nature live on thru you. emoticon

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OURELEE1 11/11/2013 7:49PM

  He must have been a great man. Sounds like you had wonderful childhood Thanks for sharing

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FISHINGLADY66 11/11/2013 7:10PM

    This was a beautiful tribute to your father. Keep those memories close.

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KRICKET4 11/11/2013 6:22PM

    What a beautiful way to remember your father.
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