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A word of caution

Friday, April 18, 2014

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You weigh after you have given all you have to it for the week and the scale rewards you with a 1/2 pound down or 2 pounds up. For the next seven days you beat your body into the ground with cardio and strength training. You get up and take a walk you might even take a run. OH you have to train for this and that race. Seven days pass and you step on the scale oh no it is up another pound WTH ?

Your body is screaming a warning at you. It is telling you that it is having a hard time adjusting to what you are doing.

There is a theme going around the site in blogs and post that I have seen . It is spring meaning we have to work our tushes off for the winter we just had. I know this because I was one of these people. I pushed and when body didnt respond the way I wanted then by god I dug in my heels and pushed some more. And what eventually happened is my body shut down on me and I had to take a good long hard at my life stop trying to loose weight, stop the cardio, stop the weight training . I had to rest I had to let my body recover from what i had done to it. It takes 28 days to form a new habit and it takes less than that to destroy an old one.

I had to sit and watch as my weight creeped back up. Horrified that I was going to slide back into the depths of fat hell. But with the support of some very good friends and someone that loves me very much I slowly started back. Today as I left the gym from my workout I realized that I didnt loose my hard work in the period of rest that I had actually made my body stronger as it has now returned right back to where it was. as far as my shape and toning.

If i would give you a word of caution it is this . If you have substanstial weight to loose which for me is more than 25 pounds then you can worry about the scale or you can tone and strength training but you can not do both at the same time. That doesnt mean dont strength train but remember every pound you push in weights is also adding a weight somewhere else so dont over do it. The process is yours learn to love it learn to enjoy it learn to live it and then you will have true success every where. If you are doing what you are suppose to be doing then your body will show you that but it will also let you know when you are not as well. Take my caution and never go through what I did .

  
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JUSTYNA7 4/18/2014 8:44PM

    Excellent advice Tink and lots of people need to hear it!

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CYALE76 4/18/2014 8:31PM

    Great advice. Finding the balance can be the hardest part of the battle sometimes.

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SIRIUS2014 4/18/2014 7:36PM

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LEIGHWOMAN 4/18/2014 7:11PM

    Great advice!

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MICKEYH 4/18/2014 6:25PM

    I so understand this blog. Great advice thank you for sharing. emoticon emoticon emoticon


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Dreams

Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Inside every child lives a dream. As we grow up and take on the world so of our dreams become what we believe to be unattainable dreams. I am 43 years old and for every day of every year I have had my Big brother by my side. I have watched take knocks in life that are more than anyone should have to endure. Being homosexual comes with a huge price. I have been there for all the black eyes and taunting. I was there when he just didnt think he could live with disappointing our parents. I was there when he married a woman that treated him awful for years all in the name of having peace with the family.

Randy is the one person that I know no matter what he has my back and he has always had my heart. 20 years ago he was diagnosed with having HIV and now has AIDS but that is under control.

As we were growing up it was Randy who would watch the pageants on TV And do the run way walks make them silly pretend crowns and hold the hair brush as his microphone . As I have stated before I have known all my life he was gay. The crowns were the sparkles in his eyes. It can be overwhelming to watch him now as an adult to dress as a female but when you truly love someone you do whatever you have to make them happy.

The past Sunday night my brother/sister was crowned Ms Magnolia Proud FI at large Ameritous !!! FI = female impersonator .... Ameritous is that he was honorary inducted but he will still have to compete for the national title in September.



This is me and randy .... I really want you to understand that they only reason i have pictures of me in this is because Wizkey might hunt me down if she doesnt see a smile lol.



To the sister that god me as a brother I am so very proud of and am so very humbled that I was able to be part of seeing your life long dream of getting a crown come true.

I love you Randy !!!

  
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CYALE76 4/18/2014 8:28PM

    Beautiful pictures, I am so glad that you could be there on this special night and watch his dream come true !

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ISLENAA 4/17/2014 9:36AM

    you are a wonderful sister! and a big congrats to Randy for getting the crown and fingers crossing for the nationals. to dreams coming true!!! emoticon emoticon

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HAZELFRUIT 4/16/2014 3:05PM

    What a great story! I love to see the love.
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WIZKEY 4/16/2014 1:26PM

    Darlene - Seeing you with a smile and in makeup - I think I have died and gone to heaven!! The photos of you and your brother made me cry - so proud of you and what a wonderful, beautiful woman you are - believe me you ARE beautiful - inside and out!!! emoticon

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MSEMBERSTORM 4/15/2014 9:23PM

    Beautiful! I am so glad that you and him have each other for support! Isn't love and caring a beautiful thing?!? Hugs!

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RUBYSNANA 4/15/2014 4:05PM

    Thank you for sharing your story. These are wonderful pictures. You and Randy are both very lucky to have each other. I love that you are so accepting of you brother and that he has you there to support him. I am such a believer that all people should be allowed to live their life in peace regardless or race, religion, or sexual orientation. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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WHYNOTJ1 4/15/2014 11:10AM

    You are both beautiful! Congratulations to Randy and to you for supporting his dream.

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JET150 4/15/2014 10:49AM

    What a great story, and how brave you and Randy are. I'm way older than you, but would love to see the day when people are allowed to live life in peace, no matter their race, religion, or sexual orientation.
Congrats to Randy!

p.s. you look beautiful!

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MJEFFERSON23 4/15/2014 10:27AM

  There's nothing like the love of family!

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BATCHICK 4/15/2014 10:10AM

    This is really beautiful and thank you for being your brother's ally.

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JAZZYMOM53 4/15/2014 9:41AM

    Darlene, thank you for sharing! Totally obvious that this came straight from your heart emoticon . You both look beautiful!! I feel honored that you would share this moment with us. Glad you shared the pictures....thanks Teressa (hehehe)!
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_MOBII_ 4/15/2014 9:28AM

    Thank you for sharing all the pictures and stories with us, they are fabulous pics and the love you have for Randy is shining as bright as the crown!

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WATERONE 4/15/2014 8:52AM

    Thank you for sharing the pictures and stories. It is wonderful to see someone's dream come true. I know he was glad you were there with him.

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MICKEYH 4/15/2014 8:35AM

    Beautiful crown, beautiful love. Thanks for sharing ! emoticon

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KANOE10 4/15/2014 7:57AM

    She looks beautiful. I am glad Randy is happy and is lucky to have you.

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WDIPIM 4/15/2014 7:18AM

  God Bless

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77 days to go

Wednesday, April 09, 2014

When I had my break down it was a collapse of mental , emotional and physical . It took on the physical aspects of sugar imbalance. My head hurt , shaking , nausea , blurred vision . my emotions went from extremely happy and confident to the pit of despair. My mental state went from being strong and capable to weak and loss of desire to live. Please note that I was NOT suicidal I just didnt see any reason to live. I felt completely isolated and disconnected from everything. I couldnt think past what I had to do and what i couldnt do. It was a very dark couple of hours for me. The removal of my fitness, the insistence that i eat more , the inability to convey my deep feelings to those that are on my support system was devastating to me.

That morning was was just the crash the world had been spinning for a days. I am not crazy but I am damaged . Through the process of changing my life I took great strides to workout all my emotional issues because I firmly believe that to know where you are going you must know where you came from. It is true that your past defines you and to change yourself you must attack and analyze who you were. I have the break down of emotions before, of mental before and of the physical before but I have never had them all crash at one time like this. I have always been very strong and confident and even when these all happened individually i never lost sight of self. I always knew that if I just remember to breath then it would pass. make a small adjustment here or there then everything would even out. But this was not the same thing. I made adjustments but none of them worked I was to far gone by the time that the breaks went on.

Over the past several weeks I have taken a lot of stock in myself and what i want and where I need to go from this point. i have attacked each item individually. To be strong physically I must mind the calories and let my body rest . I stripped my body of all the important stuff in the name of loosing weight because well I am that smart. There are thousands if not millions of highly sophisticated people that give opinions on what needs to happen to loose weight. What you should give up what you should eat what you should drink. The problem with all this is it is based on the premises that I am unhealthy to start with that I am the " normal obese person" and well I promise there is nothing normal about me. I have spent most of my life obese with the fears of diabetes, heart disease and worst. I am a genetic ticking time bomb as I have the worst family medical history ever; however even when i was over 300 pounds I had none of these issues . I have perfect blood pressure I have wonderful cholesterol levels and my sugar levels are all spot on. So making my healthy body healthier is not going to happen by anything nutritional. Nutrition comes into play because I must eat healthy balance and that is not easy when you don't want anything to eat.

Mentally I struggle with anxiety and depression. Anxiety is the unpleasant state of inner turmoil. Anxiety is feeling fear worry and uneasiness. I know this feeling well and I can usually talk myself out of any panic attack by this. Depression is a pervasive and persistent low mood. Again there are millions of opinions on how to deal with this but even here I am not normal. I can recognize anxiety and depression in myself and most of the time and talk myself off the ledge. I dont suffer from low self esteem however I do loose interest in things that are usually enjoyable. However, once i start things that i like I usually feel some sort of pleasure from them but once stopped then i am sad again. I cant take the medicines that others take to somewhat calm these feelings. My mind doesnt allow it, when i take these medicines i become very confused and out of control. Which causes me to have even more anxiety.

Emotionally is the hardest for me. I am overly emotional all the time. I feel things on such intense magnitudes that they are hard to deal with. When I am happy then it is an extreme happy when I am sad then it is extreme sad. There is no even kill here . This is why when things were falling apart and everything had to change my despair took on such an intense feeling. I lost all my happy's at one time and my emotions just didnt understand that . And in a lot of ways even though i have logically analyzed this i am still having questions today about this.

I have successfully brought my body back up physically. I have had to gain a small amount of weight to do this but that is alright since I know that it is part of the process. I have had to slowly and cautiously face my fears about what has happened. I have a workout plan that I follow and it is realistic to my physical needs. Proof here is that it the 9th of the month and i have not got 500 fitness minutes yet and yes that is a huge eye roll. But my body called time out on me and I am listening. There are issues in my life that I don't know how to deal with and i have been hiding in my process to deal with them . This has proven to be ineffective so since i do not have the knowledge myself I am going to see a counselor tomorrow to see if i can figure this out. I will say at this point that to me this is a sign of weakness but sometime to be strong you have to weak. It is important for me to understand on a complete level what happened to me so that it will not happen again. I dont know the answers or what will come from this but i feel that it is important to try it and see.

I guess what I am trying to say in this blog is that it is alright to be scared but that fear can not control you . Realistically look at what you are doing and if it feels like something is wrong, bringing to much anxiety or no good feeling at all in the name of loosing that pound then step back and figure out why it isnt bringing you to the happy place. Listen closely to all that your body is telling you before it calls time in an ugly way .

  
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MSEMBERSTORM 4/14/2014 9:07PM

    Hugs! Very well said.

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OHANAMAMA 4/11/2014 12:06PM

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I can relate to a lot of what you said.
Hang in there, keep listening and taking care of yourself.
You got this.
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HAZELFRUIT 4/10/2014 12:01AM

    Thanks for sharing. You've got a lot going on and I'm glad you're reaching out. It is not weak.
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WATERONE 4/9/2014 1:34PM

    emoticon emoticon So sorry you have had to go through this.

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KANOE10 4/9/2014 8:29AM

    I am glad you are seeing a counselor. I am also glad you are listening to yourself and your body. I am sorry you are having such a hard time. being happy is more than a number on a scale..Hang in there Spark Friend. I hope you feel better.

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WHYNOTJ1 4/9/2014 8:26AM

    You are listening to your body and paying attention to what you need, getting help to work through it. Soon this rough time will be a distant memory!

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RUBYSNANA 4/9/2014 7:45AM

    I am sorry that you are having such a struggle right now, but you are correct that your body will send you a message when it is out of alignment. At that point it is so important to take time to rethink what we are doing. Take the time to find out exactly what you need without feeling judged by others. It is not about the number of workout minutes but about what your body needs. A counselor will help you to figure out what you need. Seeing a counselor is not a sign of weakness, but rather a sign of strength. You are strong enough to recognize that you need guidance and you are taking steps to find that help. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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79 to go : Unexpected milestone

Monday, April 07, 2014

Less than a year ago I joined my fitness center affectionately named the candy store. There have been plenty of good days and plenty of not so good ones.

Most know that I have been having issues as of lately but I have been doing my very best to conquer them. This morning I got dressed and went to the gym early. when I got out of my car and grabbed flossy for the first time in a while now I felt calm when I walked in but more than that I felt confident and safe. That means a lot to me. I know what it has taken to loose the weight I have lost and I am pretty sure what it will take to loose the rest of it also and it can not be done without my gym time.

I have said before that I see this as a thing not that I dont know what I have accomplished but that I dont get lost in it. In the beginning everything astounded me as i started to change and that drove me to push past the pain. Then the pain was gone and that pushed me to seize the moment per say if there is no pain then I should be able to do more. Yes i know this is where i got into trouble I am learning on the curve with that one . People talk about how hard i push but really it is just my over achieving personality that they are seeing . They dont see to often the other side of it when I fall what it takes to get up again and repeat.

Any way this morning when I logged on to fitlinx there was a message from trainer that well even astounded me. i had to read it a couple of times to understand what he had said . The message is as follows :
From Aaron Williams
Date 04/05/2014
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Text Darlene Congratulations you've reached a milestone with your Strength training lifting 500 000 lbs! It is your commitment to regular strength training that got you here. Great job! Aaron

500,000 pounds now that is something... 2.5 years ago i was concerned how any one would move my obese body and in the last 10 months I have pushed 500,000 pounds who the hell would not be over joyed at that. I see the numbers all the time but I have never thought about what it might end up being if i did the math.

Aaron is right that is milestone and one that I never thought about before today. But it does explain why my body cried uncle at me lol. and that is just the amount calculated by the weight machines that doesnt include all the free weights and other strength training that i do . It is just extremely hard to phantom the magnitude of that number with what i have been through. So as for today I will gladly take my 500,000 milestone and where it with pride because I would have never guessed that I would be right now at this point in the journey .

  
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_MOBII_ 4/12/2014 8:35PM

    Congratulations!!!!!!

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WIZKEY 4/11/2014 11:16PM

    Congratulations, Darlene!! That is awesome!!!

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JAZZYMOM53 4/8/2014 11:36AM

    Darlene, what an accomplishment! You should wear it with pride! Great job!! And like Islenna said....that is more like moving a mountain!! emoticon

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KANOE10 4/8/2014 8:44AM

    Great job. Those steps are so important. They let you know you are working on your fitness.

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WHYNOTJ1 4/8/2014 7:17AM

    Woohoo! That is an amazing milestone! You did that!

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RUBYSNANA 4/8/2014 6:47AM

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Truly amazing!

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ISLENAA 4/8/2014 2:23AM

    that's one hell of a minestone...more like a mountain!!! emoticon emoticon

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POSITIVEHOPE 4/7/2014 9:51PM

    Wow! Just plain old simple WOW! That is awesome!

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MSEMBERSTORM 4/7/2014 6:39PM

    Awesome job!!!!! Congrats!

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80 to go : What does it take ?

Sunday, April 06, 2014

In a lifetime ago but not really that long ago there was this lady that i knew. She was the essence of beautiful in my mind and directly opposite of me . She weighed all of 90 pounds but that had nothing to do with her visual beauty she was just what i thought beautiful was. One day we were talking about weight and she said to me " it does not matter what I do I can not gain weight" ... Of course I replied " I really wish I had that problem. ' and we laughed.

This morning I was reading a blog from another member who really sounded guilty for deciding to take a day off from her workout routine. I know that feeling well . She was not asking if she wrong about wanting a break but more wondering if she put in her FB fitness thread since they dont seem to understand what a break is .

Yesterday my 3 year old grandson while visiting my gym with me asked me a question that has brought about a lot of thought . Nana What does it take to loose a pound ? Really I have never been asked that one ... I stood looking at him and thought of the answer. For him it was a simple answer of eat less exercise more .. he is three after all but honestly what does it take to loose one pound ?

We all know that we have to eat right and exercise more but is that the essence of weight control. Does that mean that people who need to gain weight all they have to do is eat more and exercise less ? I can not speak on the story of having to gain weight since I have not been faced with that in my life. So what does it take to get that one pound loss ?

Inside each of us is a self picture that we have to live with that is the beginning . Each of us has our on idea of what healthy living is to us. Each of us are driven by something that makes us want to loose weight.

Since i started my journey on the premis of one pound one pain and 100 pounds later I am back to one pound one pain. I believe that to loose one pound you have to want that one pound more than anything. I believe you have to see just that one pound and nothing past or before that pound. I believe that it takes brute strength to loose that one pound. I believe it takes the strength to try and the courage to fail and the audacity to keep getting up and striving for that one pound. I believe it takes forgiveness of yourself and to the others that have wronged you . I believe that it takes kindness. It takes laughter and tears.

What does it take to loose one pound ? the exact same thing it takes to loose 100 pounds : belief in yourself , blood sweat tears , the ability to face your fears and the courage to rise against them . The support of people who can build you up not tear you down. It took me a long time to understand that is not in how much weight you have to loose but that everyone has only one pound to strive for. If you loose two pounds you still had to get one to get there . If you loose 15 pounds you still had to loose one pound to get there. In the end it is all still the same thing just one pound .

  
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_MOBII_ 4/12/2014 8:33PM

    Love love love this blog!

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WHYNOTJ1 4/7/2014 9:56AM

    Interesting thoughts. I've been struggling with the same pound for a few weeks now. This struggle appears to be more mental than physical.

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POSITIVEHOPE 4/6/2014 2:35PM

    This brought me to tears in a good way. After I catch my breath, this will go on my page as inspiration for the journey.

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WETPTARMIGAN 4/6/2014 2:25PM

    I've been thinking about this, too. The excess can only go away one pound at a time. emoticon

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MSEMBERSTORM 4/6/2014 1:25PM

    I really needed to hear this today! Thanks!

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JUSTYNA7 4/6/2014 12:31PM

    Great blog again. Maybe it is not any more amazing to lose 100 pounds than it is to lose one. I remember once thinking "I only lost a half pound" and having a spark friend give me grief over that attitude. Losing anything... for me is not easy. I tend to focus on that instead of the half pounds that have added up. thank you .

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SIRIUS2014 4/6/2014 11:24AM

    Wonderful blog. More than anything . . .

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SHERYLP461 4/6/2014 9:50AM

    This is an awesome blog and very thought provoking. thank you

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KANOE10 4/6/2014 9:46AM

    That was excellent. No matter what came before and what comes after, losing that one pound takes just as much work and determination. It is the exact effort as losing 100 pounds. You still have to lose that one pound to get there.

That is why I love Spark people. There is understanding that each small step is important and is a success.

Thanks for a great blog.

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MICKEYH 4/6/2014 8:59AM

    emoticon great blog! Thanks for sharing. emoticon

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SUZIPAM1 4/6/2014 7:31AM

    what a very informative blog - thanks a lot

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EVIE4NOW 4/6/2014 7:25AM

  Great blog and thoughts. Thank you.

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