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Thursday, October 09, 2014

My journey here on Sparkpeople (and my life health journey) has been long. It has also come full circle. But that's not the point of this post. Let me explain.

I have always been an active person, but I've been a lot of weights throughout my life. I've been thin and I've been heavy. I've been healthy and I've been unhealthy. Thin hasn't always equaled healthy and heavy hasn't always equaled unhealthy. Four years ago I was thin & healthy (and happy). Then my husband got sick, and died, and I got heavy (and unhappy). Now I'm the heaviest I've ever been. I'm not happy about that, but my life is *ok*. Could be worse.

I'm currently away from home, on travel for work. Travel to an area that's not too far from home, but far enough that you don't go there in the normal course of everyday life. I have a facebook friend that lives in this area. This friend was actually more than a friend long ago (college), but our lives took different paths after college, and we hadn't seen each other since then. Now I'm a widow, and he's married.

We decided to meet up, neither knowing quite what to expect. We had parted friends, but that was 30 years ago. Would we have anything in common? Would we still 'click?' It was a crap shoot, but we forged ahead to see.

It was a wonderful meeting. The years melted away and we talked for hours. It was like we hadn't had the 30 year break. And on a very personal level, I no longer felt like the *fat* person I feel like so often now. I just felt like me. Funny how it takes someone from so long ago to bring that out.

I don't know exactly where I'm going with this blog. One thing I do know is - take that chance. It was risky to meet my old friend/lover, but it was SO worth it. I'd almost forgotten what it was like to have someone view/think of you like THAT. We remained at a friend level, which is all we can be at this time, but the sparks were still there. I had forgotten that someone could look at me and have sparks...

It's nice to remember that I have worth as a person, and can even be thought of as attractive and sexy, when I don't meet the standard definition.

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WONDERWOMAN 10/11/2014 5:04AM

    I loved this post! You made my day.

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BBAHONORS 10/10/2014 10:59PM


I'm so glad you decided to go out on a limb and meet up with your old friend. Oftentimes, the riskiest ventures hold the greatest rewards!

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-POLEDANCEGIRL- 10/10/2014 5:12PM

    That is amazing! What a wonderful feeling for you. I am so happy that you felt like you

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ARUNNINGKAT 10/10/2014 12:43PM

    I have heard it said that the key to this entire health and weight-loss journey is self-love. I am so glad you were able to realize your true value and beauty as a person. And how wonderful to meet up with someone from your past who sees your beauty and makes you feel so alive!

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NANADERRICK 10/10/2014 9:35AM

    WOW...that brought tears to my eyes. You are a beautiful person, heavy or thin, healthy or not. You dealt with tragic events in your life with dignity and composure and remained available to your children in the midst of that horrible, life-changing event. So, it has taken a toll; so, it has been rough since; so, you are struggling on many fronts; are so worth every ounce of effort it takes to get back to your happy place. You are one of the most fun people I have ever been around. You can see things from many points of view and understand the differences. You can allow those differences and not crack=up. You just keep on with this struggle. You have much, much more going for you than the average woman. I know that you are going to emerge in your happy place. Keep the faith. Even if you cant see it, don't feel ARE moving forward. I am looking forward to seeing where life takes you and the rest of the story!!! Love you Sister Linda!!!!!

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KNEEMAKER 10/9/2014 11:07PM

  Beauty is within much more than what is on the outside. I'm a man and I know for certain. Good luck and just Keep on keeping on! It is your life and you must enjoy each second of it. Thanks for sharing. emoticon

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Starting over...again...and apparently at less than zero!

Wednesday, October 01, 2014

I decided sometime recently that I needed a total restart, which took effect Monday. Yeah, this is the time I'm 'really' gonna do it...blah, blah, blah...No prophetic declarations out of me this time. The proof will be in the results - or lack thereof.

I'm seriously back to basics though. Tracking all my food, trying to set reasonable goals, looking to get some exercise every day - or at least almost every day. Came up with a new 'points' system to evaluate every day & give me something to shoot for. Everything I'd tried in the past few resets either hadn't worked or hadn't lasted. If this is the magic bullet I'll surely report it!

I also decided it was time to get back to strength training. I really truly enjoy ST, but lately it hasn't been working for me, what with the bum shoulder and spotty gym. But I know this is something I really need to do, so off to the spotty gym I went yesterday over my lunch hour. I absolutely hate the machines there (they are not maintained at all, so they are herky-jerky-squeaky), but they do have a decent assortment of dumbbells. There used to be an exercise ball there too, but that disappeared recently.

My first strength workout was nothing to write home about. Tried to think of what exercises to do with dumbbells that wouldn't aggravate my shoulder, but didn't require the use of a ball or bench, or other equipment I didn't have. Did what I could think of with the weights, and then threw in some pendulums and sit-ups for good measure.

I didn't realized until I went to the chiropractor today how sore my gut is from the sit-ups and pendulums I did. Really? This sore from 20 sit-ups and 10 pendulums? Yep - I'm starting over from less than zero.

BUT...I am starting over, so I give myself props for that. With any luck my next blog will report continuing progress, and not another restart!

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SEEHOLZ 10/12/2014 8:40PM

    I think that's great Linda!

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DDHEART 10/4/2014 11:19AM

    I give you props too and I have to say I'm right with you.....Started October with the realization that this is serious and I need to be too. I can't say exactly why or what has happened in the last year or maybe if I'm totally honest I can pinpoint it...I've been phoning it in half of the time (maybe more than that) so...back to basics and back to square one.

Sad to say, it makes me feel a little better to know I'm not alone. We both know what to do, we just need to DO IT!

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SEATTLESIMS 10/2/2014 12:32PM

    I know what you mean from feeling like starting over from less than zero! I was barely off workouts for vacation, and coming back to my workout class was tough! and sore abs for sure! But hopefully that just means our bodies will bounce back faster than actually starting from less than zero.. muscle memory right! ;) Just trying to stay positive! Have a great day!

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CALLIESWEET 10/2/2014 1:12AM

    Believe in yourself! emoticon

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BBAHONORS 10/1/2014 9:22PM

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ROBBIEY 10/1/2014 3:35PM

  emoticon Take it slow, you can do it!!!

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CRACKERS4554 10/1/2014 3:25PM

    One day at a time!

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Bound to get better sooner or later. Hmm...looks like later

Monday, September 15, 2014

Well, I took my cat to the vet today for the nasal flush. Had high hopes this would be the ticket, but we all know what can happen with high hopes. Picked up my cat this evening, and he sounds just as bad as he did when I dropped him off this morning. Now I have to decide whether to subject the poor thing to surgery - in hopes that it will help - to the tune of $300. Oh, and today's vet visit was $276. (And the chiropractor was $115)

I hate being in a downward spiral like this. I know it has to end sooner or later, but sooner is not looking to come through for me. As I continue to fork money hand over fist, I can't help but think about everything that's looming. Christmas. My 10 year old car with 275,000 miles on it (and I drive 100 miles/day). 20 year old refrigerator, and heat/AC system. I'm sure I'm forgetting something, and it will probably break tomorrow!

If it does, it does. Fretting & worrying over it won't help. Just have to keep moving forward, or at least try not to fall back. Maybe I can make it through tomorrow without spending any money. Maybe?

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-POLEDANCEGIRL- 9/22/2014 10:24AM

    HUGS!! Hang in there. One thing at a time. It will get better. i promise!

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KLONG8 9/17/2014 12:47AM

    Thought I'd check in on you. Sounds like you're dealing with a lot of strength-zapping crap, Linda. Calliesweet's message is right on though. Don't worry about what you can't control....things have a way of sorting themselves out. I'm rooting for you! And your cat!

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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 9/16/2014 10:41AM

    Wow....100 miles a day in your car. That's a lot. I'm hoping that everything keeps working. It can be overwhelming when we start looking at everything that could go wrong. I guess the good news is that it's pretty rare for everything to go wrong at once.

Wishing you an event-free week! (or if there is an's a GOOD one)


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CALLIESWEET 9/16/2014 9:19AM

    I feel so bad for you. Could you go with a friend for a walk or to have coffee to talk all of this out? Try very hard to distract yourself from thinking of all the potential costly problems that could happen. You are adding the weight of things that aren't happening to what is actually going on, which is already enough to think about. Which I already know you know, but it's what I'd say to a friend over coffee and what I'd want someone to remind me. emoticon As a side note, did they send the materials from your cat's flush to the lab to double-check what's going on in the sinuses to give you all the options and an idea how likely the surgery is to solve the problem? Hang in there and take good care of yourself through all this!

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When your 'small potatoes' problems come in 50lb sacks, or death by 1000 paper cuts

Saturday, September 13, 2014

Life has been on the 'UGH' side lately. I feel a little guilty for feeling that way, though. I have enough perspective to step back, look at things objectively, and realize that it's mostly minor annoyances that I'm dealing with. Even minor annoyances, though, add up when there's enough of them.

Don't know if I've blogged about it, but my shoulder has been unwell for about a year and a half. A year ago May I went to my doctor, who gave me some exercises that didn't work, so he sent me to the orthopaedic guy who gave me a shot that didn't work, so he sent me to physical therapy. That worked, to a point, but I didn't have unlimited time to take off work & unlimited $$ for therapy, so I got myself to an acceptable level of motion and pain & stopped going. Didn't really have the equipment to continue the exercises, and over time my shoulder started getting worse again. Ignored it until I couldn't any more. Didn't want to go back to the ortho guy, as he was going to want to suggest surgery.

Did a little research and decided to try a chiropractor. I'd seen in my digging that acupuncture might help, and this chiropractor offers it. I've been going since mid-July, and I feel like I'm making progress, but slowly. And unfortunately, acupuncture is not a covered medical service per my insurance. So 3x a week for 3 weeks, and then 2x a week for 3 weeks, and now 2x a week for 2 weeks and then 1x a week for 2 weeks I'm paying $115 per session for my treatment. Anybody have an EXTRA $345 or $230 or even $115 per week? No? Me neither.

Then, one of my cats got sick. No biggie - off to the vet. Visit + antibiotic later and there goes $85. First antibiotic doesn't work, so we try another ($28), and that doesn't seem to be working plus the cat decides NO MORE PILLS. So back to the vet and now we have a nasal flush scheduled (requiring anesthesia and X-rays). Who knows how long the cat will have to stay at the vet, and of course, he will be discharged with additional meds. CHA-ching. Oh, and all four of them are due for regular visits & shots.

I was working from home the other day when I picked up the phone to call the vet (see above paragraph) only to find my phone wasn't working. Called my home phone from my cell, and it went straight to my 'I'm already on the line' voicemail. Only none of the phones in my house were off the hook. Had to have Verizon come out (of course I don't have the maintenance plan), and they were able to fix it, thank goodness.

Just seems here lately that my life is a series of problems. Some get solved and some drag on and on. I guess everyone's life is that, in some way or another. I'm just tired of it being all about me. Being married for all of my adult life, until my husband died 3 years ago - at least we could divide & conquer. I would deal with the stuff I was good at, and he would take what he was good at, and anything else we'd flip for or do together. It's not fun being the only responsible adult left standing!

The last several weeks/months have been a constant juggling act of work, doctor visits, vet visits, repair visits, household chores, etc, etc. Stop the world, I want to get off. But I can't. Have to keep plugging, plodding along - hoping it all works out eventually.

As an update - I decided not to go for the promotion. With all the other stress & clutter that my life has become, I decided I don't need to throw a question mark into the mix. No need to toss one stable, good thing in my life aside for a question mark!

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SEEHOLZ 9/15/2014 9:09PM

    Things just have to start looking up for you Linda!!!! I know you are due for some good news :-) I also know how frustrating it all can get ( especially the injury part and trying everything and throwing money at it just hoping something will work and that you will get better). Hang in there Linda! Good things come to those that..... XOXO

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ARUNNINGKAT 9/15/2014 12:25PM

    Gotta love those medical bills and cat bills. Our cat bills last month were enough to scare anyone. Can't they just stay out of fights and stay healthy???

So sorry about your arm! It is always so frustrating when nothing seems to work...and everything costs money too.

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BBAHONORS 9/14/2014 9:47PM

    I know exactly what you're going through, my friend. And, at times, it does get a bit overwhelming. But things will even out and get better. One day at a time, my friend... emoticon

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CALLIESWEET 9/14/2014 9:50AM

    That is a lot of juggling! And a lot of money! I'm glad your shoulder is getting better, if slowly. As crazy expensive as the chiropractor sounds, I guess it's probably cheaper (and less scary) than surgery. Maybe the chiropractor can suggest some at home exercises that don't require an investment in equipment once you're done with the acupuncture. That promotion sounded interesting, but stress is the worst thing for your health, so it's smart not to potentially add any more of that to your life right now. Wishing you and your cat happier times ahead! emoticon

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KNEEMAKER 9/13/2014 10:48PM

  Yep never give up. Just Keep on Keeping on! emoticon

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AGILECAT 9/13/2014 10:32PM

    That is just life, sometimes, and we deal with it as best we can. You are due for some smooth sailing--hang in there!

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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 9/13/2014 9:57PM

    I hope things get calmer for you soon.

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Whatever to do?

Tuesday, August 12, 2014

Sometimes life gets interesting. Sometimes it's complicated. Sometimes it's confusing. Sometimes...all of the above!

A little over a year ago I took a leap of faith at work. Left the office & co-workers I'd been with for 22+ years and took a job in our home office. I knew the work would be way different. There were people there I knew, but it really was leaving (mostly) everything I knew, going to a location over an hour away from my previous job, betting that the new job would work out & I'd be good at it & like it and life would be good.

The bet paid off. I am so much happier. I like what I do. I love my co-workers. We have fun at work (imagine that!). I feel like I'm making a real contribution. Sound like a recipe for decision time? is.

One of my friends in my new location, but in a different unit, is retiring. She & one of her co-workers (also a friend, but I don't know nearly as well) were discussing who might be a suitable replacement when she retires, and guess who they came up with? Yep - me. (Neither of them is in charge of hiring this position, I might add, but the less known friend approached me today to try & talk me int applying for the position.)

Pros? It would be a promotion. I have 6 years left until I can retire, so leaving with the highest salary possible is a definite consideration, as my retirement is based on the highest 3 years compensation. This could make the difference between retiring on time (at 30 years but still pretty young), or having to work longer.

Cons? Maybe none...but I don't know. This job would be very different from what I'm doing now,and I don't know if I'd like it or not. I know the pressure would be greater. I like everyone in that unit (as far as I know), but I've not worked very closely with many of them. It's a great opportunity, but...the unknown.

I've never shied away from a challenge in the past. I will probably at least make application (who says I'd even GET the job?). In the back of my mind, though...6 years is a long time if I get the job & hate it. And it's really hard to leave a great situation (current job).

So...decisions, decisions. Whatever to do?

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HOLLYL7 8/26/2014 10:31AM

    I say go for it! Don't let fear of change hold you back. At a minimum, I would investigate more details about the job and, even if you don't get it, going through the application and interview process is good practice.

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KLONG8 8/21/2014 12:52AM

    Sometimes you just need to LEAP! And also, an application is just that. But as you get deeper into things you'll have more information and then....if it comes to decision time you will need to go with your well-trained gut. Good luck and can't wait to hear.

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SEEHOLZ 8/17/2014 3:36PM

    If you apply and get the job and hate it? Can you go back? Change again? Who says you are stuck for 6 years?! I took a job working for a great boss and if I stayed I would have been promoted etc... but I couldn't stand the job. I stayed for 11 months before I had to tell my boss ( and friend who I love dearly) that the job just wasn't for me. But now I know better than to go back to that type of job. So I am glad I made that choice :-)
I am sure that you'll find the right decision within you and remember it is okay to stay where you are if that is the right job for you :-) There are really no wrong choices.

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IFDEEVARUNS2 8/15/2014 3:24PM

    By applying and interviewing, you may figure it all out.

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    I would apply - even if you do, you don't know if you will get it or not. I would think if you are even considering it - you should try.

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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 8/13/2014 1:00PM

    My husband changed jobs his last few years of working in part to boost his pension. It can make a huge difference. He never regretted making the change. I hope it works out well for you.

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PLMITCH 8/13/2014 12:56PM

    I've been very fortunate at my company to be able to move to different positions. Some have worked out, some not. I'm transitioning into a new job starting this Friday. The one I am transitioning out of just was not the right fit for me -- too much of what I'll call "administravia". I am a person of action, and work best when I have real time tasks to work on.

So it sounds like you may work for a larger company where you may be able to move around if this potential new job does not work out, so my 2 cents is go for it! Life is too short!

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-POLEDANCEGIRL- 8/13/2014 12:46PM

    DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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CALLIESWEET 8/13/2014 10:39AM

    How exciting to have an opportunity for a promotion! I'm guessing you'll at least apply. Then you can weigh out the pros and cons in the meantime. It sounds like either option is a good one, so you really can't go wrong here, but retiring with more money sounds like a real incentive. Good luck!

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BBAHONORS 8/13/2014 9:08AM

    Remember to pray about it. That will often clarify things from the gitgo! emoticon

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AGILECAT 8/13/2014 8:42AM

    It's great that you enjoy your current job, but who's to say it will be the same a couple of years from now? Other people may leave, companies make organizational changes, etc. Sometimes we seek out new challenges, and sometimes they find us. It sounds as though you have found yourself in the right place at the right time--a career opportunity with the blessings of at least two people who see your talents. Trust yourself!

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PMRUNNER 8/13/2014 7:07AM

    It is good to have options. Best wishes whichever path you choose!

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KNEEMAKER 8/12/2014 11:20PM

  Keep on keeping on! emoticon

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