Tuesday, May 13, 2014
Disappointments. They happen. Many times they make us mad, or sad, or frustrated with ourselves. This blog is not about that. Sometimes we get disappointed and we had nothing to do with it and there was nothing we could do to make it different.
I have three sisters, and we are very different from each other. We span a 16 year age gap, but we're pretty darned close I'd say. Even so, we rarely get a chance to be together. Years ago, and for several years running we would get together for weekends and go hiking. As different as we all were, this was something we all enjoyed, and we made time each year (many times twice a year) to get together - just us - and go hiking for a weekend. But times changed and life situations changed, and now it's been probably 5+ years since we got together.
This year we were going to change that. We were going to get together and do SOMETHING. Sisters - together again. We batted some times & locations around, and I ended up renting a house at the outer banks of NC. I was thrilled!
Didn't take long before something happened, and one sister had to bow out. I was disappointed, but understood given the situation. Time passed and the remaining three of us made our plans. The given week was right around the corner (Memorial Day week)! In addition to my sisters my Mom, MIL, sons, and some of their friends would be coming for portions of the week as well. Vacation - and an abundance of family!
Then this morning...and an email from the second sister advising she wouldn't be able to make it. This one hit hard, because I knew how much she had been looking forward to it. But it made me mad, too, as I knew (suspected) it was due to what I consider to be an unrequited loyalty to her job. The job that works her 60+ hours many, many weeks. The job she arrives early to, works through her lunch at, and leaves late from many days. The job that has decided - NO MORE comp time for overtime hours! The job she's killing herself for.
Disappointed, and angry. Not angry at my sister, really. Just angry. I know life is not fair, but damn it...this isn't fair. (Don't tell me to talk sense into her - she's way too hard headed and would just get mad at me.)
I will have fun on vacation, and I'll enjoy the family I have around me. Sisters weekend will have to wait. Hope I haven't seen the last one.
Thursday, May 01, 2014
Today I will take the following step toward my goal: I will understand that I control what goes into my mouth.
Pretty simple concept, huh? We all know that we ultimately control what goes into our mouths. But how many times do we give ourselves a pass? It's a celebration. It's my birthday. It's Christmas, or Easter, or the 4th of July.
My nemesis (of late) - it's bowling night. So of course, I'll drink (too many) beers and go over on calories. It's only once a week! And it's *special*.
But it doesn't have to happen that way. And tonight (bowling night), it didn't happen that way. Because I DO control what goes in my mouth. I can, at least. I proved it tonight.
Wednesday, April 30, 2014
Today I will take the following step towards my goal: I will begin organizing my life in a manner that bends toward success.
You know what the commercial says. 'Life comes at you fast.' And it's true. It doesn't take much at all to put you into 'reaction' mode. Our lives these days are full and fast paced. Situations and priorities can change in a flash. If you are unprepared, disorganized, not paying attention? Your goals can be forgotten and you can be heading in the opposite direction of fulfilling them before you even realize what hit you.
Starting today I will begin to organzie my life for success. I won't 'accomplish' this goal today, but I will start moving in that direction by thinking hard about my goals and examining my daily routines and processes. What is working for me, and what is at cross-purposes to my goals? What can I do smarter? What can I stop doing? What resources do I have to help me?
I know I accomplish my goals so much easier when I have a plan that I can just put on auto pilot. A set routine I can cruise to, with built in flexibility for those times when life comes at you...fast.
So for today, and maybe the next few days really, I will be thinking, writing, planning. My goals are only a good plan away!
Tuesday, April 29, 2014
Today I will take the following step towards my goal: I will take control of my thoughts, and positive thinking will guide my actions.
Have you ever been so focused on what you can't do that you don't even think about doing what you can do? OR have you ever been so ingrained into a habit that you just 'know' that it would be impossible to change it? In both of these situations, you set yourself up for failure. Why you DO that?
Now, I'm not going so far as to say that I will be able to accomplish anything just with positive thinking. It doesn't matter how many positive thoughts I have, I will never run a four minute mile. (Even if that ever was a possibility, which it wasn't, I am LONG past the day when anything resembling that could happen) What I am saying, however, is if I decide I can't do something - there is NO chance I will accomplish it.
So, change my thoughts - change my reality. Positive thoughts will lead to positive actions. Might not make my life perfect, but it will make my life better.
Monday, April 28, 2014
My sister and I are pairing together in our fitness & health journey. Every week I give her a plan and she gives me one. This is our second week, and she has challenged me to daily mantras this week. I am to fill in the blank daily with this statement, 'today I will take the following step towards my goals___.'
Today I will take the following step towards my goals: I will put disappointments behind me and/or use them to motivate me. This mantra came to me today via my scales. Starting my reboot last week, I was very excited to drop 3 pounds early in the week. I just as quickly gained 2 of them back, but had held the one pound loss for the rest of the week. I didn't work my plan perfectly, but I had a WAY better week than I'd had in a long while. I was on track! I was making progress!
Then came this morning, and weigh-in day for the first full week on the new plan. What to my wondering eyes did appear...but a 2+ lb gain over the day before. This was my payoff for all the tracking, exercise, soreness???
Yes, this is disappointing. No, it's not fair. Yes, it kind of pisses me off. I'm not gonna lie. But here's the deal - it is what it is. Weight loss happens on its own schedule. All you can do is what you're supposed to do. Watch your diet and exercise. Crank up the volume if you have to. Fight the good fight, and then wake up tomorrow and do it again.
The thing is, when you get to the end goal...it's worth it. I have lost the weight before, and living life fit, healthy, and at an appropriate weight feels fantastic. I can't just give in to the, 'oh eff it' feeling. I can't live for the 'right now' feeling, looking no farther ahead than the next minute.
I have to keep my eye on the prize. To do that, I have to get over myself. In order to get over myself, I have to leave disappointments behind. There will be successes! I just have to do my part, and wait. Like the song says, the waiting is the hardest part. But it's going to be worth it!
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