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Tuesday, May 13, 2014

Disappointments. They happen. Many times they make us mad, or sad, or frustrated with ourselves. This blog is not about that. Sometimes we get disappointed and we had nothing to do with it and there was nothing we could do to make it different.

I have three sisters, and we are very different from each other. We span a 16 year age gap, but we're pretty darned close I'd say. Even so, we rarely get a chance to be together. Years ago, and for several years running we would get together for weekends and go hiking. As different as we all were, this was something we all enjoyed, and we made time each year (many times twice a year) to get together - just us - and go hiking for a weekend. But times changed and life situations changed, and now it's been probably 5+ years since we got together.

This year we were going to change that. We were going to get together and do SOMETHING. Sisters - together again. We batted some times & locations around, and I ended up renting a house at the outer banks of NC. I was thrilled!

Didn't take long before something happened, and one sister had to bow out. I was disappointed, but understood given the situation. Time passed and the remaining three of us made our plans. The given week was right around the corner (Memorial Day week)! In addition to my sisters my Mom, MIL, sons, and some of their friends would be coming for portions of the week as well. Vacation - and an abundance of family!

Then this morning...and an email from the second sister advising she wouldn't be able to make it. This one hit hard, because I knew how much she had been looking forward to it. But it made me mad, too, as I knew (suspected) it was due to what I consider to be an unrequited loyalty to her job. The job that works her 60+ hours many, many weeks. The job she arrives early to, works through her lunch at, and leaves late from many days. The job that has decided - NO MORE comp time for overtime hours! The job she's killing herself for.

Disappointed, and angry. Not angry at my sister, really. Just angry. I know life is not fair, but damn it...this isn't fair. (Don't tell me to talk sense into her - she's way too hard headed and would just get mad at me.)

I will have fun on vacation, and I'll enjoy the family I have around me. Sisters weekend will have to wait. Hope I haven't seen the last one.

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SEEHOLZ 5/25/2014 11:33AM

    I struggle with the whole job thing myself at times ( but I don't spend 60 hours a week there either) - I am so busy right now, I seriously considered working tomorrow, but then opted against it, because I feel a certain entitlement to my holiday and don't feel that i get compensated sufficiently ( not just monetary) to give it my all- including sacrificing precious time with my family. You got to know where to draw the line- sometimes that's not an easy task, not when you work for a for-profit company, being paid a salary ( it's a no brainer in public or hourly jobs-lol).
Enjoy your vacation- it sounds like you'll still have plenty of family around, so go have fun!

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    Linda - I am so sorry. sometimes we forget we won't be remember for our jobs...

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CHAOTICMOM4 5/14/2014 4:47PM

    Bummer, I'm a group planner/organizer. It's so frustrating when you get everything planned out and people change their committment.

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LUCKYLORA677 5/14/2014 9:54AM

    I'm sorry your plans have had to change. As the "planner/logistics queen" for MY family, I know how that feels - to go to all this trouble to set things up, get really excited for the upcoming adventure, and then have someone bail on you. Usually the one you planned the whole adventure around in the first place. All we can do is pick up, continue on and hope they can make the next adventure. I'm sorry though for your disappointment. I hope you can have a good time anyway and maybe try again for the sister gathering soon. emoticon

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-POLEDANCEGIRL- 5/14/2014 9:26AM

    Hugs. I have not seen my brother in 5 years. It is so hard! Enjoy the family you have around you.

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NANADERRICK 5/14/2014 7:40AM

    Unbelievable...oh, wait a minute. Yes it is. I hadn't heard this news. Well, I guess the two of us will have to have enough fun to make up for all of us!!!!!

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LIFEASMRSA 5/13/2014 9:21PM

    I'm sorry to hear two of your sisters won't be joining you on vacation, but like you said you'll have fun on vacation! and I'm sure your sisters will be there with you in spirit!

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FITWITHIN 5/13/2014 8:45PM

    I know how you feel. It's very difficult for my sisters and I to find dates the works for everyone. Then one of my sisters seems to always manage to bring her work with her. This just pisses use off, because it takes so, long to plan our time, and we say it's a work free environment. However, enjoy the family that's able to make it.

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Day four mantra

Thursday, May 01, 2014

Today I will take the following step toward my goal: I will understand that I control what goes into my mouth.

Pretty simple concept, huh? We all know that we ultimately control what goes into our mouths. But how many times do we give ourselves a pass? It's a celebration. It's my birthday. It's Christmas, or Easter, or the 4th of July.

My nemesis (of late) - it's bowling night. So of course, I'll drink (too many) beers and go over on calories. It's only once a week! And it's *special*.

But it doesn't have to happen that way. And tonight (bowling night), it didn't happen that way. Because I DO control what goes in my mouth. I can, at least. I proved it tonight.

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PENOWOK 5/3/2014 11:41AM

    You ARE the boss of YOU!

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-POLEDANCEGIRL- 5/2/2014 10:33AM

    Our food is key. I have been really focusing on what goes in my mouth too. I passed up german goodies this am at work and donuts the other day. Tonight the Easter candy is thrown out. Ate all the ice cream last night. So, I am working on it.

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LUCKYLORA677 5/2/2014 12:28AM

    Congratulations you Self-Control Ninja! Way to go!

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CALLIESWEET 5/1/2014 10:53PM

    You are on a roll! emoticon

Thank you for sharing your daily mantras with us!

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RENATA144 5/1/2014 10:46PM

  Try this thought -" My body is not a garbage can."
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DARSHAN130 5/1/2014 10:45PM

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KNEEMAKER 5/1/2014 10:44PM

  emoticon It is your mouth. You can do it so keep on keeping on and meet your goals

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Day three mantra

Wednesday, April 30, 2014

Today I will take the following step towards my goal: I will begin organizing my life in a manner that bends toward success.

You know what the commercial says. 'Life comes at you fast.' And it's true. It doesn't take much at all to put you into 'reaction' mode. Our lives these days are full and fast paced. Situations and priorities can change in a flash. If you are unprepared, disorganized, not paying attention? Your goals can be forgotten and you can be heading in the opposite direction of fulfilling them before you even realize what hit you.

Starting today I will begin to organzie my life for success. I won't 'accomplish' this goal today, but I will start moving in that direction by thinking hard about my goals and examining my daily routines and processes. What is working for me, and what is at cross-purposes to my goals? What can I do smarter? What can I stop doing? What resources do I have to help me?

I know I accomplish my goals so much easier when I have a plan that I can just put on auto pilot. A set routine I can cruise to, with built in flexibility for those times when life comes at

So for today, and maybe the next few days really, I will be thinking, writing, planning. My goals are only a good plan away!

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SEEHOLZ 5/1/2014 9:16AM

    Good for you Linda! I know you'll succeed :-)

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LIFEASMRSA 4/30/2014 9:08PM

    wooooooo you can do it!!!!!!!

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    emoticon You can do it! Goals are very important in keeping you motivated. That's why picking the right ones for you is most important.

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ARUNNINGKAT 4/30/2014 2:42PM

    Sounds good! I am right there with you! emoticon

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LANCER1984 4/30/2014 1:29PM

    I love your attitude! I am the same way I need to have routine and structure and then I am set. I think out my plans and goals and then determine what is going to work and not work. I think it is good that you are taking the time to do this and to allow for flexibility in your plans - Good thinking! Karin

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SEATTLESIMS 4/30/2014 1:11PM

    I like that! My goals are only a good plan away! and organizing for success! go get it! you can do it!

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NANADERRICK 4/30/2014 1:00PM

    Don't forget to share with your sister emoticon

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Day two mantra

Tuesday, April 29, 2014

Today I will take the following step towards my goal: I will take control of my thoughts, and positive thinking will guide my actions.

Have you ever been so focused on what you can't do that you don't even think about doing what you can do? OR have you ever been so ingrained into a habit that you just 'know' that it would be impossible to change it? In both of these situations, you set yourself up for failure. Why you DO that?

Now, I'm not going so far as to say that I will be able to accomplish anything just with positive thinking. It doesn't matter how many positive thoughts I have, I will never run a four minute mile. (Even if that ever was a possibility, which it wasn't, I am LONG past the day when anything resembling that could happen) What I am saying, however, is if I decide I can't do something - there is NO chance I will accomplish it.

So, change my thoughts - change my reality. Positive thoughts will lead to positive actions. Might not make my life perfect, but it will make my life better.

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KLONG8 4/30/2014 12:27AM

    Right on, NinjaLinda! There's that saying and I don't have it worded right. But shoot for the moon and if you don't hit the moon you'll still end up in the stars. By not going for it you don't stand a chance to improve where you are. Once again, you and I are in sync......

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Mantra challenge

Monday, April 28, 2014

My sister and I are pairing together in our fitness & health journey. Every week I give her a plan and she gives me one. This is our second week, and she has challenged me to daily mantras this week. I am to fill in the blank daily with this statement, 'today I will take the following step towards my goals___.'

Today I will take the following step towards my goals: I will put disappointments behind me and/or use them to motivate me. This mantra came to me today via my scales. Starting my reboot last week, I was very excited to drop 3 pounds early in the week. I just as quickly gained 2 of them back, but had held the one pound loss for the rest of the week. I didn't work my plan perfectly, but I had a WAY better week than I'd had in a long while. I was on track! I was making progress!

Then came this morning, and weigh-in day for the first full week on the new plan. What to my wondering eyes did appear...but a 2+ lb gain over the day before. This was my payoff for all the tracking, exercise, soreness???

Yes, this is disappointing. No, it's not fair. Yes, it kind of pisses me off. I'm not gonna lie. But here's the deal - it is what it is. Weight loss happens on its own schedule. All you can do is what you're supposed to do. Watch your diet and exercise. Crank up the volume if you have to. Fight the good fight, and then wake up tomorrow and do it again.

The thing is, when you get to the end's worth it. I have lost the weight before, and living life fit, healthy, and at an appropriate weight feels fantastic. I can't just give in to the, 'oh eff it' feeling. I can't live for the 'right now' feeling, looking no farther ahead than the next minute.

I have to keep my eye on the prize. To do that, I have to get over myself. In order to get over myself, I have to leave disappointments behind. There will be successes! I just have to do my part, and wait. Like the song says, the waiting is the hardest part. But it's going to be worth it!

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KLONG8 4/28/2014 8:54PM

    Go GIRL! GO!

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LIVE2RUN4LIFE 4/28/2014 8:25PM

    And take measurements. Don't make the scale the only arbiter.

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CALLIESWEET 4/28/2014 8:24PM

    That's so neat that you and your sister give each other plans. What a great idea! And you know the ups and downs of the scale can just be muscles holding water as they build or whatever. Keep your eye on that prize - it will be yours! emoticon

Just out of curiosity, what was your challenge for your sister?

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