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Setting the Record Straight

Monday, November 10, 2014

When dealing with negative people we can choose not to respond to their behavior and allow our positive behavior to be an example.

Because life requires that we interact with different personalities, (in this case it was my own dear father,) it is not uncommon for us to encounter a situation where there is one person whose behavior may negatively impact the experiences of others. And one “bad apple” in your personal life can be a potent distraction that makes it difficult to focus on the blessings you’ve been given and the people who love you.

There may always be people in your life who take it upon themselves to create disruption, foster chaos, stamp out hope, and act as if they are above reproach – even when, in doing so, they put a blight on their own experiences. But you don’t need to allow their negativity and callousness to sour your good mood. Often, our first impulse upon coming head-to-head with a bad apple is to express our anger and frustration in no uncertain terms. However, bad apples only have the power to turn our lives sour if we let them.

If you can exercise patience and choose not to respond to their words or actions, you will significantly limit the effect they are able to have on you and your environment. You can also attempt to encourage a bad apple to change their behavior by letting your good behavior stand as an example. If your bad apple is simply hoping to attract notice, they may come to realize that receiving positive attention is much more satisfying than making a negative impression. While you may be tempted to simply disassociate yourself entirely from a bad apple, consider why they might be inclined to cause disturbances. Understanding their motivation can help you see that bad apples are not necessarily bad people. Though bad apples are a fact of life, minimizing the impact you allow them to have upon you is empowering because you are not letting anyone else affect the quality of your experiences. You may discover that buried at the very heart of a bad apple is a seed of goodness.

I completely understood my father's motivation; spiritual manipulation. He figures that a fire and brimstone approach will install the fear of god. I informed him this weekend that was not how it worked. I was forthright blunt pulling no punches. I now have a much more humble father and her respects where I stand. I can go home come July and the relationship will be where it should have been all these years; a unified unconditional love between father and daughter. It took me 40 years to stand up to him. That's what this Access Consciousness awoke in me.

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JUKEBOX2 11/12/2014 8:06AM

    Good for you!

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CREPEDCRUSADER 11/11/2014 4:44PM

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I learned long ago how to deal with people who tend to be negative, it no longer bothers me and I don't have to work to stay positive in their presence any more, it comes naturely now.

But, I need to work on how I deal with people who come at me passive agressive. I fear more often than not I let them 'get my goat'.

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MADDE3333 11/11/2014 5:46AM

    Very courageous, and so much better than to go another minute with that kind of relationship,

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1CRAZYDOG 11/10/2014 9:05PM

    So proud of you. How difficult to confront your own Father, but you know, you took that chance that it would move things in a positive direction, and looks like it did. Good job.


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AURORADAWN5 11/10/2014 10:25AM

    On top of all that, refusing to respond to someone else's negativism often causes them to change themselves, and take a more positive role in order to solicit the attention they used to get by being difficult. Congratulations on finally working things out with your father.

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AUNTRENEE 11/10/2014 10:22AM

    Hate negative people. We have different kinds of negative people in our lives. Its the people around us that are the different kinds of negative people. I have those.

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Fear - A State of Mind

Sunday, November 09, 2014

Our minds are powerful and moving into fear is a common experience that we can each look at and change.

Everyone has fears—it is a natural part of being human. Fear can protect us from harm by sending a rush of adrenaline to help us physically deal with potential danger. But there are times when fear may keep us from participating fully in life. Once we realize that fear is a STATE OF MIND, we can choose to face our fears, change our minds, and create the life we want to live.

Our minds are powerful tools to be used by our higher selves; like computers, storing and using data to make certain connections between thought and response. We have the ability to observe these and choose differently. No matter where the fear came from, we CAN create new connections by choosing new thoughts. When our souls and minds are in alignment, we create a new experience of reality. This journey requires many small steps, as well as patience and courage through the process.
Here’s an example: You decide to overcome your fear of driving on the freeway. Your plan of action starts with examining your thoughts and finding a new way of seeing the situation. When you’re ready, you enlist a calm companion to support you as you take the first step of merging into the slow lane and using the first exit. Your heart may be racing, but your confidence will be boosted by the accomplishment. Repeat this until you are comfortable, with or without help, and then drive one exit further. When you are ready, you can try driving in the middle lane, for longer periods each time, until you find yourself going where you want to go. This gradual process is similar for conquering any fear, but if you find it overwhelming, you can always seek the help of a professional.

You may think that you are the only one with a particular fear, that nobody else could possibly be scared of ordinary things such as water, heights, public speaking, or flying. These types of fears are very common, and you can have great success overcoming them. Remember, it is not the absence of the fear but the courage to take action anyway that determines success. When we learn to face our fears, we learn to observe our thoughts and feelings but not be ruled by them. Instead we choose how to shape the lives we want.

My "fear" has moved to that of apprehension. I will pause, reflect, then step up and deal. It's done.

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1CRAZYDOG 11/9/2014 11:48AM

    OMG! You have described me to a "T" . . . I didn't like driving new places as I was afraid of getting lost! Eventually got over that fear. WE have to face down fears!

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The Naked Truth

Saturday, November 08, 2014

Facing the truth upfront rather than turning from it will keep your life moving in a forward and positive direction.

Most of us have had the experience of being in possession of a piece of truth that we were afraid to share because we knew it would not be well received. There are also instances in which we ourselves have been unable to handle some truth confronting us. This might be a small truth, such as not wanting to see that our car needs repairs because we don’t want to pay for them, or a large truth, such as not fully accepting that someone close to us is pushing us away. Usually the truth is evident, and we can see it if we choose, but we have elaborate ways of hiding the truth from ourselves, no matter how apparent it is.

For the most part, we avoid the truth because it scares us, or makes us angry, or makes us feel like we don’t know what to do. We often create our lives based on a particular understanding, and if that understanding turns out to be fully or even partially incorrect, we may feel that our whole sense of reality is being threatened. It takes a strong person to face the truth in circumstances like these, and many of us run for cover instead. Nevertheless, we can only avoid the truth for so long before it begins to make itself known in ever more forceful ways.

Ultimately, there is no way to avoid the truth, no matter how painful it is, so the sooner we let down our defenses, the better. When we know the truth and accept that we may have to adjust our lives to accommodate, we are in alignment with reality. At the same time, we can be patient with people around us who have a hard time seeing the truth, because we know how painful it can be. Whatever the truth is, we make a sincere effort not to close our eyes to it, but instead to be grateful that we have access to it.

Access Consciousness has opened my eyes and mind to this recently and today I am confronting my father. It's time these issues were put to bed once and for all!

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JUKEBOX2 11/9/2014 10:24AM

    I know what you mean!

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CRYSALLIS1 11/9/2014 4:07AM

    Ii need to do some of the same. Not sure how to go about it or if I really should.

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ICECUB 11/8/2014 6:44PM

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1CRAZYDOG 11/8/2014 5:43PM

    Good luck! HUGS . . . MANY hugs!

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Wednesday, November 05, 2014

What relief! Since making the small changes; diet; I've taken out wheat almost entirely, reverted to more fruits and vegetables, exercise; walking when I can, hebal intake; Glucosamine,Chondriton & MSM, & the new back rest It's been good! My back may ache at the end of the day but it has nothing to do with my vertebrae! And no pain!
And on top of which I'm down 2 pounds!

My journey has begun and it's all positive!

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JUKEBOX2 11/8/2014 10:16AM

    Excellent!... Congratulations!

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LSTARR7 11/5/2014 5:40PM

  Well Iam back on again, guess I missed a lot hope your back is good. I have stayed the same since last visit oh except one pound. Started GBOMBS again. Lol . I having some female issues large fibrous yikes. Hope things are well with your mom. As always I emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 11/5/2014 1:26PM

    Awesome!!! ((((HUGS))))) With so much stress, it helps to be in good physical shape, which helps mental shape too!

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AURORADAWN5 11/5/2014 11:31AM

    emoticon I suspect I probably eat too much grain although I do try to at least avoid the refined stuff as much as possible. Glad it's helping your arthritis.

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Our Dreams are not Utopia!

Sunday, November 02, 2014

Being open-minded means that we are willing to question everything, including those things we take for granted.

A lot of people I know feel threatened when asked to question their cherished beliefs or their perception of reality. Little do we realize that in questioning these things from time to time is what keeps our minds supple and strong. Simply settling on one way of seeing things and refusing to be open to other possibilities makes the mind rigid and generally creates a restrictive and uncomfortable atmosphere. Without any doubt I know that you know someone who refuses to budge on one or more issues, and that we all have our own sacred cows that could use a little prodding. Being open-minded means that we are willing to question everything, including those things we take for granted.

A willingness to question everything, even things we are sure we are right about, can shake us out of complacency and reinvigorate our minds, opening us up to understanding people and perspectives that were alien to us before. This alone is good reason to remain inquisitive, no matter how much experience we have or how old we get. In the Zen tradition, this willingness to question is known as beginner’s mind, and it has a way of generating possibilities we couldn’t have seen from the point of view of knowing something with certainty. The willingness to question everything doesn’t necessarily mean we don’t believe in anything at all, and it doesn’t mean we have to question every single thing in the world every minute of the day. It just means that we are humble enough to acknowledge how little we actually know about the mysterious universe we call home

Nearly every revolutionary change in the history of human progress came about because someone questioned some time-honored belief or tradition and in doing so revealed a new truth, a new way of doing things, or a new standard for ethical and moral behavior. Just so, a commitment to staying open and inquisitive in our own individual lives can lead us to new personal revolutions and truths, truths that we will hopefully, for the sake of our growth, remain open to questioning.

I've always known something different was possible. I knew that already when I was a child! I knew that the greyness of the masses wasn’t my reality, and wandering blindfolded and numbly around in this world and performing repetitive tasks was not what I would choose. No! Not for me! I always loved being out there, I loved creating, I loved the wonder of this world! And I had so many dreams!

So, how was it possible that, with all the meditations, chantings, praying, healing singing and everything else, the planet was in such a state of destruction? What was it that kept the mind active? This monotonous repetitive thinking? The easy buy into upset, intrigue and frustration?

I"ve always had an urge in me to find what that was! Why? There was something that I couldn’t quiet down. Something that I somehow remembered, without knowing what that exactly was. And whatever it was, it was very real and possible to me. I knew my dreams were not utopia! They were real! They were possible!

I have through reading different materials found how important it is to empty the mind and to not think. I could get to a space of bliss, then, yet only temporarily. I didn’t have the tools that would help me to be there, all the time, and to make a sustainable difference in my world.

Just recently, last Friday, my neighbor came into my work place and started talking and explaining to me about how she had found how to Access Consciousness; the ability to be present in your life in every moment, without judgment of yourself or anyone else. It is the ability to receive everything, reject nothing, and create everything you desire in life - greater than what you currently have, and more than what you can imagine. I'm not talking material things although they too are included. But right now what is most important to me is mind body and spirit.

I had my first session today. What an eye opener it was to be able to tap into my own consciousness. It was like waking up from a very long sleep. The trance I'd been in for far too many years was broken. It is the connection I have been in search of all of my life.

It teaches one to nurture and care for you
It opens the doors to being everything you'd decided it is not possible to be.
It awakens in you the realization of how crucial you are to the possibilities of the world. That our thoughts are the greatest limitation we will use to keep from being who we truly are.

This I learned today is bigger that THE SECRET.

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JUKEBOX2 11/3/2014 6:38PM

    Loved it!... Great Blog!

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A_RARE_BEAN 11/2/2014 5:29PM

    Amazing blog, thanks for sharing your insights and the link am going to give that a try

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MARGOH12 11/2/2014 5:17PM

    Having a questioning mind helps in more ways than you can imagine. I hope you do really well. emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 11/2/2014 5:04PM

    Thank you for the information. It is so hard sometimes to be of questioning mind, but indeed, it can lead to great things!

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