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A better place....

Wednesday, November 21, 2007

Today, I think I'm finally working from a better place emotionally. Whew...what a relief to wake up and feel like I can deal with what life throws out instead of waking up and wanting to cry at the blink of an eye!

Wanting to make tomorrow a very laid back, fun day...hoping it turns out that way. Regardless, I have control of how I REACT to it, don't I??

What am I thankful for this year?
My kids...
My partner...
My job....and the $1 raise I got yesterday, whoo hoo!
Dance and the amazing women it brings into my life...

Lots to be grateful for!

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READYCANADIAN 11/21/2007 2:01PM

    Congrats on the raise and for feeling better about things.

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Happy Holidays.....

Monday, November 19, 2007

This post may be TMI....if you are reading for happy may not find what you're looking for here. I'm working through my "stuff"...enter at your own risk. :)

I've a friend I've known since I was about 16. We both had pretty messed up childhoods and the holidays are hard for both of us. About this time of year...we call each other a lot. Sometimes, I'll get a voice mail of just her singing.... "happy holidays....happy holidays..." It's good to have an old friend. Someone who lived through your sh*t with you... who knows on a cellular level exactly where you are and what pushes your buttons.

The holidays push my buttons in a big way. Totally a love/hate relationship. While many, many other children have or had it worse than I did, my family was messed mom was untreated with schizo-affective disorder and handed me over to my step dad to molest in return for a paycheck and a nice home. The holidays were...hell.

Why am I putting this out on the internet? Definitely not for sympathy. I survived it and I am one hell of a strong woman today. I don't want or need sympathy - but I do need to get a handle on the WHYs of my 100+ weight gain over the course of my lifetime, and be honest with myself about the reasons I got here.

The next month is a time when I have repeatedly gorged myself to death to get through it. How can this year be DIFFERENT? How do I lay my demons to rest...or at least live in the same room with them without trying to kill myself with food the next month? I can...

Be really, really active on SparkPeople...keep making connection with people and keep on top of what I'm eating and what I'm doing to move.

Be kind to myself....let go of the perfectionism that dogs me and simply enjoy the things I LOVE about the holidays...the music, the lights....

Vent in my written journal when I am overwhelmed with flash backs and emotions that make me want to hide in food.

Get enough rest and REAL nutrition to keep me healthy and strong through it.

Happy I come, for better or worse.

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READYCANADIAN 11/19/2007 11:28AM

    I applaude your courage. You can and will do this! One day at a time...

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Not a failure, but 15 days of success!!

Saturday, November 17, 2007

One of my goals this month is to stay in the top 20 for points in my favorite team, the Lesbian Cafe. This was not a easy goal...these women are ON it - they work hard and their points are amazing to show for it. I fell to below the 20th mark yesterday.

While an old part of me (the willing to give up so easy part!) only sees the failure, a newer more resolved part of me sees, 15 days of success!! In fact, had I not been ill last week, then ill AGAIN this week with a secondary infection, I am pretty confident I would have made it through the month. I may still get back up into the above 20 range and that's awesome, and I'm not going to quit trying now.

I've already decided next month I'd like to be in the top 15 - and I feel good about it!!'s Saturday, and I have to work since I missed so much :)

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HUSKY_HANK 11/17/2007 12:39PM

    That is awesome. It is really hard to stay in the top 20. Way to go!

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Another day in Paradise...

Friday, November 16, 2007

Getting well after my cold/ear infection seems to be taking forever. I'm reminded that I'm 43 years old...and I don't bounce back quite as well as I used to.

Working on reminding myself, this is my LIFE now...not a diet. It won't be "over" when I lose the weight. After being sick, and eating waaaaay off my plan this week, I feel like utter CRAP - energy.. and my emotions are roller coastering all over the place...yeah, I could attribute some of that to being sick, but I think a large part is also due to not fueling my body with real nutrition...all the more reason to get back on the health bus...

Maybe I'll never lose all the weight. What then? Well, I can at least BE as healthy as possible and FEEL as healthy as possible. Good enough goals on their own, aye?

Realized, I am not doing nearly the cardio I thought I was....I'm not breaking a sweat, and for me, that is the necessary ingredient - sweat. So...I'm thinking about the ways I can break a sweat...and keep it sustained for at least 10 minutes. I can walk for an hour a day...and not much change happens, but if I SWEAT for a bit every day, much more noticeable changes happen. It's hard for me to get my heart rate up there...A doc told me once I have an excellent heart - "Like a horse" - which was funny cause I could tell he really wanted to add "considering how fat you are...." Probably years of dancing? I dunno, but I've got to work on getting the heart rate up there. So..I bought a fun CD of dance music remixed for cardio and that will be my insipration to do what it takes!! Here's to a MUCH better week next week!

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    I was reading your blog and thinking you sound a lot like me! I need to break a sweat to feel like I've been working hard.

You're doing well - even if you had a crap week! LOL... Keep it up!

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Why am I doing this again??

Thursday, November 15, 2007

I need to remind myself of what I'm doing here, on spark, on another weight loss effort.

Regardless of WHY, I'm feeling blue and tired and ready to quit. So here is my list of why i don't really want to quit:

1. That picture of Jodie and I at Retreat, where I look like I weigh 300+ AND that I'm 9 mo pregnant all at once.
2. not being able to shop in normal petite size shops/sections. just because I am 2x does not mean I am 6 feet tall.
3. I want to look good in costume.
4. I want to live to a ripe old, HEALTHY age.
5. I want to be able to dance to a 10 minute routine without an asthma attack or wondering if I'm going to have a heart attack.
6. I never want to struggle to get into or out of a restaurant booth again. EVER.
7. I never want to feel like I did when I tried to ride in the back of Mary's car and the seatbelt was soooooo tight.

There have got to be more...and I've got to focus on them. This is where I have given up again and again and freaking again. Not today dammit. I'm not giving up today

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LISAROUSSEAU 11/15/2007 1:30PM

    You are a great example of what to do when you're feeling down - make a list of why you want to continue on your journey! I will try that next time I have one of those days. Thanks for your entry. You helped me today! (oh, and I believe you will make it!)

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