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Monday, September 18, 2006

This weekend was pretty good overall, tho I didn't track. Just didn't find the time.

Back to teaching tho, and that meant 3 hours of dance class this weekend, so I definitely got my cardio in, lol.

Trying to enjoy the process and stop obsessing about the journey....I am enjoying the changes I'm seeing on the scales, in how my clothes fit and in the mirror, but I get obsessed by the scale. I want to weigh all the time, and then if I haven't lost since the last time, I get defeated. So I only weigh once a week and that is good.

But I still wanna wake up magically fit and at goal weight. Isn't that like the American mindset? I want it NOW! Instantly! I know better, but the feeling - eh the feeling hangs on!

That's why the Spark people set small goals thing works so well for me..I've always set a HUGE unattainable goal, then been unhappy when I didn't instantly meet it.

  


Survived the weekend well....

Tuesday, September 12, 2006

Plenty of activity...lots of walking from camp to the dining hall, to the bathrooms not to mention the workshops!

Eating was pretty good all things considered, tho I didn't track.

My workshop was well received, I got a lot of compliments AND got invited to teach at Saqra's Showcase this Spring! Woo hoo!

All in all, a great weekend!

I weighed and measured Friday, down 1.5 pounds, lost 1.5 inches from waist and 1 inch from hips!

Feeling well motivated to say the least. Made sure i have a LOT of healthy food around to eat to avoid that "I feel deprived and there's nothing I can eat" thing that leads me to the cookie jar. Really, really working on the water thing too.....

  
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AMANDAHE 9/12/2006 4:57PM

  Congratulations! I am glad the weekend went well for you.

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I finally got in 8 glasses of water!

Thursday, September 07, 2006

Yesterday was the first time I've made it to filling this goal! Woo hoo! I'm well on my way there today too....and I'm sure I'm burning a couple extra calories with all the extra trips to the bathroom as well, lol.

So, I've been reading (and re-reading) the entries from BuffedStuff (see her link below). The woman has some AMAZING things to say, and I feel like she's been looking in my head.

I'm lazy. I want it (the health, the stamina, the body) with little or no work. I want someone else to fix me.

yeah, that's worked REAL well so far. Here I am at 42, NOT particularly healthy, 5'1" and 238 pounds.

You know the definition of insanity is said to be "doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results." That would be what I've been doing. Starting a new diet or "program", not waking up thin in 5 days, getting discouraged and quitting.

Geez, there's a role model for my children - NOT.


So, here I am. On Spark, and on Spark to STAY. Working at those little tiny changes EVERY DAY - and glad I'm alive to keep trying.

  
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AMANDAHE 9/7/2006 6:10PM

  Congratulations on reaching your goal! That is great!!! Mini goals are very important, they make you feel good. Keep going, keep working towards the final goal, you are worth it, do this for you.

smiles Amanda

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So far, so good

Wednesday, September 06, 2006

So far, I am on track with my eating and exercise and even, believe it or not, my water.

My emotions are smoother today, less ruffled.

Very anxious about teaching at the retreat this weekend..it's a first for me. Tho the bellydance community is touted as being very woman friendly and size doesn't matter, that's crap in some cases.

When a big woman gets up to dance, you can just see some peoples eyes glaze over before her music has ever started. It frustrates me to know that my dancing may be judged as "less than" by my appearance before the music ever starts.

Have I seen stick-thin women who could not move? Who had no rhythm to speak of? You bet. I've seen heavy women who were the same. The popular standard of beauty says "fat is ugly". Don't get me wrong, for my health, for my self esteem, for a variety of reasons, this fat HAS TO GO! In fact....to be truthful, one of the biggest reasons this fat has to go is that it has been my excuse for not putting myself out there in the dance community more.

"Oh..I can't do this or that, cause I'm too fat."

That attitude stops here, and now. Yes, I may be fat. But I'm a damn good dancer and I'm a good teacher. All I have control of is right this minute and I'm working hard on making changes. I will NOT let other people's opinions, prejudices, etc be a barrier to accomplishing my dream of being the dancer inside all this fat!

Now I just have to figure out how to HOLD ONTO THAT!

  
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AMANDAHE 9/7/2006 6:21PM

  Oh, I so understand where you are coming from. I was working with a woman who told me I wasn't commercially viable for her to market as a professional dancer, that I needed to lose weight before she would have me perform. I was fine to teach, but she wouldn't even put me up at bellydance functions to dance with students because she thought I was too fat. Needless to say this woman has gone thru seven dancers/teachers in five years, and currently does not have a professional troupe.

I can understand the aprehension at presenting yourself for the retreat. I am constantly feeling like I am judged by my appearance or body size/shape. Then I spiralled thru the I am going to lose/not lose weight just to spite the dance world. But ultimately you have to do it for yourself, you deserve it, and it will help you express yourself with dance more freely.

At the moment one of the things I keep in mind while teaching or dancing is that I am an inspiration for every woman who doesn't have the "perfect " figure or is in their twenties - but this is all a myth, the perfect figure, who has it? Who is happy with what they have?

Anyway, I have hijacked your blog, sorry. *blush*

I know where you are at, and I know how it feels. Keep up the great work, remember, small steps, one at a time. And don't beat yourself up, you are a wonderful, beautiful person and anyone with an ounce of sense can see that.

smiles, Amanda

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Anxiety

Tuesday, September 05, 2006

You know, I used to sort of roll my eyes at the Serenity Prayer...it seemed way overused and had little meaning for me personally. Over the past year however, it has come to mean a lot to me. I struggle with worry and anxiety. Saying the Serenity Prayer...sometimes seemingly 100 times can help ground me.

Just not today, apparently.

What are the things people all over the world worry about? Top of the list is money, and I'm no different. My ex-husband is $30,000 behind in child support...which just lead to me being behind on other things. It's first day of school here....and I had two school-age children who needed stuff. I "Robbed Peter to Pay Paul" this payday, and next payday is going to be pretty scary.

So this a.m. I have a knot of tears in my chest. What have I always done before when such fears and worries beset me?

Well I ate of course! Food is legal and the really sweet, icky-for-your-body "food" is cheap and plentiful. A few months ago, I would have dived into a dozen donuts by this time...

Today, I'm working on being "with" my feelings. "Accepting the things I cannot change". Eating the high-fiber, low-fat breakfast I had planned on. Tracking my food. Going to work. Getting my kids ready and out the door. Giving in to the anxiety and stress with food is not going to make me feel better, but boy is it an old habit that is hard to break.

  


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