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Tuesday, July 01, 2008

Not much creativity in that title - nor in it's writer lately it seems either.

I am overdone - I've taken on too much responsibility and the result of that is people are used to it so they expect to just pile more on there. "It's okay...Lisa will take care of it!"

Lisa is tired and crabby and now wants to tell everyone to "bite me."

However, methinks this is a little too aggressive. So earlier this a.m. when someone emailed me that Dora is not doing her job on a non-profit board I'm on...I politely turned it back and said "It would be really helpful if you could contact Dora about that yourself, I'm swamped."

Felt good, as opposed to doing it and then feeling nasty about it.

Today, I am on track with my food again for the first time really in about 3 weeks. Tho, when I went to the store, I freaked out at the price of fruit and the thought "it's cheaper to go through drive through!" ran through my head. But I perservered and purchased healthy food for myself for today. At 3 x what I could have gotten cheapo fat-filled drive through....but I did it.

I need to work on relaxation techniques and planning down time in my schedule - that will go a long way to easing some of the crabbiness I am having a hard time letting go of - and the desire to binge on sugar will hopefully fade too.

Positive, positive -I will work on being positive!

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SUZY6281 7/2/2008 9:40AM

    An old adage that comes up often where I work, "Do the extra work once, and it becomes part of your job." We see alot of people leaving their job and then the company does not fill it, they simply spread out the extra work to those of us that are still here.

Your comment back was not too aggressive. It was very polite and to the point. Good for you.

Take some time for yourself during your lunch hour. It helps.


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Struggling to refocus...

Friday, June 27, 2008

I'm having a hard time getting back on the fitness/healthy eating horse and while I haven't weighed, my clothes are telling me I'm going the wrong way.

I'm tired. I have after-vacation letdown. My partner was put on Effexor about 4 weeks ago and apparently it did the opposite - instead of giving her better coping ability she's been in a downward spiral to almost suicidal and that has been incredibly, incredibly stressful. (At 2 weeks the doc said, oh give it some time! at 4 weeks and basically despondant the doc says, gee maybe this isn't a good antidepressant for you.... ya think?). Work has been crazy stressful.

All that has combined to leave me eating a lot of garbage and not exercising. Ways I'm going to work on fixing that:
1. Made a date to take a long (but not too hard!) hike Saturday a.m.
2. Make sure I'm getting my antidepressant/vitamins in dialy - can't cope with other stuff if I'm depressed.
3. Go shopping, there is no healthful food in the house!
4. Even if I do end up eating junk, I can make sure I get my fruits and veggies and WATER in.
5. Something is better than nothing. I can do 10 minutes of some kind of exercise - likely it would make me feel better and I'd want to do more once I started.
6. Immerse myself in SP - read articles, browse blogs for inspriation.
7. Journal my feelings rather than internalizing/eating my feelings.
8. Laugh. Read/watch something funny.
9. Do something that I find fun and relaxing - art, garden, read.
10. Get some sleep. I think that because late night has been the only time I've had to myself at all - I've been staying up later just to have some alone time. I'd do better to schedule that in and get some sleep at night!

Okay. Not quite a battle plan there...but good ways to start.

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SUZY6281 6/30/2008 9:19AM

    Antidrepressants are so unpredictable. Every person reacts differently. My daughter went through a variety before we found one that sort of worked. We've been told that you will know it when you find the one. There will be no doubt. If the doctor isn't staying on top of it, you need to find a new one. We went through many doctors before we found one that we felt we could depend on.

Your game plan looks great to me. You need to keep yourself healthy in order to help someone else. You are doing great. Keep up the good work and look back at your battle plan every time you feel off track.

Take care,


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MORINJ 6/27/2008 9:36AM

    Wow, it sounds like you've really been through the wringer lately. I hope your partner finds another antidepressant that works for her. You have a lot of good strategies for getting back on track. I may steal a few as I need some inspiration myself!

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Third place!

Tuesday, June 24, 2008

I finished my goal and competed at Bellydancer USA June 14....and placed 3rd!

I'm really, really happy with the way it turned out...I haven't competed in 15+ years, I've gained about 75 pounds since the last time I competed, and I just had no real belief I would place at all in a pro category the first time out after so many years (and pounds!).

Now....after a week of vacationing and eating what I wanted with a lot of walking but not the cardio I'd been putting in, I can see my body softening up again - er, not that I was all "ripped" or anything, but a week+ of food not on my plan and no exercise = things going the wrong way!

So I'm back to it. Unfortunately, I'm not sure if it's allergies or a cold - but I'm miserable from the neck up - facial pain and throbbing, nasal drip, sore throat...ugh. But I'm trying not to let it hold me back - I have to start TODAY to work on health again.

Now I need to focus on a new goal since the competition is over....Having a big goal like that was pretty inspiring to me - so I want to do it AGAIN!

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JOY2BEMEE 6/24/2008 1:18PM

    Congratualtions on meeting your goal that is awesome! Have a great day! emoticon

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SPARKLE2011 6/24/2008 12:58PM

    YES!!! That is so awesome! Congratulations. You must be on cloud nine right about now. I'm so happy for you.




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KELLY@50 6/24/2008 12:56PM

    That is SO cool! Congratulations on your fantastic finish!

Now, get right back on the wagon!!

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It's better to burn out...than fade away

Thursday, June 05, 2008

I guess I'm dating myself with that title eh? I'm hearing Def Leppard in my dreams (and so is everyone in my family). I'm using a little over a minute of the beginning of "Pyromania" in my competition routine, tho the bulk of the routine is Erin Hamilton's TWO covers on the old Cheap Trick song, The Flame. My theme is FIRE - and that line - "it's better to burn out, than fade away" speaks volumes for me as a bellydancer, a woman over 40, and a fat chick. Going into the pro category as a "woman of size" - well it's sort of a long shot. Am I a good enough dancer? Yes, yes I am. But....then again I'm 44 years old and over 200 pounts. Not what many think of when they think "bellydancer." But you know what, I'm doing it for my students, for my "squishy" bellydance peeps - and that's what counts - regardless of how I place or don't place. I'm getting up there and DOING IT...and I'm going to keep doing what I love (dancing) regardless of my weight. This is my passion and a huge part of my life - and d*mn it, you do NOT have to be skinny to be a dancer, bellydance or other, despite America's obsession with stick people.

Last minute nerves, jitters, doubts and panic have been a rollercoaster the last week. I finally, finally! finished the costume last night. I finished the "drum solo" (Pyromania) last night. Me? Leave things till the last minute? heck - that just makes it all interesting, lol.

I debut the routine (and figure out any kinks in the routine/costume/performance areas) Saturday night in a local show. I compete a week from Saturday.

Did I lose 50 pounds or even the 20 I aimed for? Nope - but I did lose 12 and definitely gained some better cardio fitness along the way. I'm not done, I'll continue to work at losing weight, increasing my cardio fitness etc as long as I live. There is not a quick fix or we'd all be thin eh? But there is one day after another in our lives to keep working on it.

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AMANDANCES 6/27/2008 10:30AM

    12 is awesome! That's 12 pounds!!! Have you seen what that looks like? It's an AMAZING accomplishment, so don't sell yourself short! Shimmy on you gorgeous thing, you! :) HUGS!

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SPARKLE2011 6/5/2008 2:20PM

    Yippee!!! Your routine and your costume are done. That has to be such a load off your mind. Now you have to let your passion shine through and enjoy every moment of this. I'm certain you are going to be great. Have fun and definitely let us know how you do!!!

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JLITT62 6/5/2008 10:06AM

    Good for you! You are so right, we should never let our weight get in the way of our passions. Can't wait to hear how you did!

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Thursday, May 29, 2008

"Real life" seems to be interrupting at every turn for me, one night is this and that, the next is something else. Keeping myself on track seems to take such a huge amount of diligence - and I appear to be way too easily sidetracked. Then I realized last night, wow, I'm really tired all the time. Like, go to bed and fall asleep before your head hits the pillow at 8 pm tired....huh....then finally this a.m. it clicked, I haven't been taking my vitamins. DUH. What is up with something so simple like that - that I know makes such a difference - but then I get busy or what have you and I drift off from taking them, till I'm dog tired all the time again.

I repeat, duh!

I had so much trauma/drama last week at work that I was just dreading being here. Yesterday, I realized - I need to make a change in my attitude. I need to attempt to be happy and upbeat, because apparently, I have a lot more power than I realized. I realized - my hurt and anger are materializing as being extra quiet and almost depressed, and it's affecting those I work with. Sure 'nuff, I made myself be upbeat and extra friendly, and they began to pull right out of it. Wow, pretty amazing stuff. I've been angry at my coworker's lack of maturity and "throwing me under the bus" to deflect attention from her own sh*t....but my own lack of maturity was showing when I allowed it to affect me so much that I was affecting the entire department with my own negativity.

Whew. Being human is such hard work, lol.

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AMANDAHE 5/29/2008 5:31PM

  Have you a "special" time to take your vitamins? Mine is with breakfast each morning, they are kept on the shelf with the breakfast items. It acts as a gentle prompt not to forget.

Feeling low does tend to rub off on other people, and it is great that you have noticed the impact it can have and turn things around. I also believe that the happier and more upbeat you are, the more you notice the "good" things in life.

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