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Gearing up for fall

Friday, August 15, 2008

I've been off SP for a few weeks, just busy more than anything.

I'm gearing up for a very busy fall and thought it would be better to get back on the "horse" of tracking, journaling etc and set my goals NOW ...than to continue to procrastinate.

Boy, am I a procrastinator!

I'm a little overwhelmed by all I need to do and my mind sort of shuts off when I start to think about it at - baby steps.

I need to plan for three workshops I am teaching.
Sept 5 - women-only dance retreat
Sept 20 - Local workshop
Sept 27 - Tacoma workshop

I need to have a routine down to perform at each event. This is anxiety producing because it is when people are really looking at you to teach elsewhere. I love teaching...and have a love/hate relationship with performing....mostly due to my weight.

We can blah blah blah about the sisterhood of dance and how we as women accept each other....and that IS true to some extent...but as an obese bellydancer, I can tell you that's not always the case - and there are those that believe if you are severely overweight you should not perform.

If I waited till I lost weight, I wouldn't be dancing now would I? But it brings up a lot of junk for me. so I procrastinate....and then panic. Trying to get out of that mode!!

I haven't stepped on the scales since early june. I'm afraid to. Tomorrow a.m. I'm just doing it - just so I can get a baseline of where I am again.

Blather blather blather. I'm back! :)



Tuesday, July 08, 2008

Jodie's mammogram showed a benign fluid-filled cyst - nothing to worry about. Huge, Huge relief to say the least. Thanks for those good thoughts folks, they matter.

I should be happy as a lark today all things considered, but I seem to be in an introspective funk. My food has been exercise has been okay.

Why isn't that good enough for me? Why does it have to be perfect or it "doesn't count"? That's ridiculous! But I find myself going there too much. I've moved my body and broken a good sweat two days in a row for decent amounts of time. Why do I so easily dismiss my efforts unless they are over-the-top excessive? I'm telling you...twisted thinking.

Note to self: Allow what you accomplish to be enough.

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AMANDAHE 7/9/2008 3:29PM

  Good news about Jodie.

Try not to be so hard on yourself - two days of sweaty exercise is great work. Little steps.

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SPARKLE2011 7/8/2008 10:57PM

    I'm glad everything turned out fine with the mammogram...

Now, for you... try to remember that there is NO such thing as perfect. The journey you are on is not a black and white, all or nothing venture. Each step you make counts (forward and backward). Each step teaches you something. So, stop trying to be perfect and keep moving forward! You will get there... just keep going AND give yourself credit where credit is due!!!


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KYRRDIS 7/8/2008 4:59PM

    Many, many congratulations on the cyst being benign!

It sounds like you're hard on yourself in general. Ease up a little, and allow yourself to feel relief... maybe even a little satisfaction in your past efforts.

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SONGBUDDHA 7/8/2008 11:00AM

    First of all, congratulations that the mamm. was OK.
It makes perfect sense that your eating wouldn't be great today. Even though it was good news, the stress is still immense, and you are just beginning to let down from that. Try to realize it and make good decisions.

As a person who's thinking is also twisted in this area, I understand. I have had to make it a goal to daily try to hear the twisted thinking voice. It is just so subversive and has been part of me for such a long time that it was like my breath. I didn't have to think about it, but somehow it kept me going.

So now I am paying attention. It gets easier to recognize the twisted thinking every day. The discipline comes in when I try to counter that voice. It is SO helpful to track, because it is objective. My voice is so subjective and not based in truth even a little bit. When I have eaten on track for a week and exercised every day that voice tells me I am a fat slob why am I even pretending to care about myself.
Then I can go back to my tracking and say to myself, I have done a great job. Look at the job I've done. This voice is not accurate (I know I'm making myself sound schizophrenic and it feels like it sometimes!).

Anyway, I'm going on and on, but what you wrote resonates so much with me. Fight that twisted thinking!

And let the stress and judgements go today. For God's sake, today of all days be gentle with yourself!

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The big day, finally

Monday, July 07, 2008

Today is Jodie's mammogram. She found a lump in her breast a few weeks ago. In the typical slow pace of the medical world - she was able to get an appointment a week later. After determining that yes, it should be looked at further, a mammogram was scheduled almost two weeks later. Depending on the results of the mammogram, a biopsy will or will not be scheduled - probably in a couple of weeks.

Hurry up and wait while our anxiety over it climbs to the moon.

I will not eat over this. I will not drown my stress and worry in sugar. I will let it serve as a reminder that life is very short and the bodies we have, fragile.

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SUZY6281 7/7/2008 2:38PM

    Best wishes for both of you. Hope all goes well.


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HUSKY__HANK 7/7/2008 1:29PM

  Sending positive thoughts your way

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Redefining Success

Thursday, July 03, 2008

I finally crawled back onto the elliptical last night - 10 minutes. But during that 10 minutes, I RAN.

I have never been a runner - hated it as a kid, certainly couldn't do it as an obese adult - too painful, too humiliating.

It is a start. That all important start. I can do 10 minutes. I feel better this a.m., including feeling like I stepped up to the plate. It's pretty exhausting to constantly avoid the stuff you know you need to be doing it. Again, "just do it" rings in my ears. Why do I put it off sooooooo much?

I got the BL sculpting DVD from Netflix and I watched the inspirational stories part last night...and one woman was talking about her kids only know her as an obese woman. That hit me pretty hard. Mike is 12, and in the last 10 years, I've put on 100 pounds. He only knows me as obese.

That's pretty painful when I think about it. So I crawled up on that machine last night. I'm slammed today with work, a private student, then a troupe rehersal...but tomorrow, I am off. It is the 4th of July - and what better day to plot my independance from this obese body than the 4th of July? I plan on taking myself out of the house where I can be alone with my journal and write it out - my plan, my goals, all that. Just me and the paper, where I can't allow myself to be conveiniently distracted and not finish it.

Here's to my Independance.

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HUSKY__HANK 7/4/2008 11:22PM

  You can do it.

Just take things one day at a time

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What doesn't kill you......

Wednesday, July 02, 2008

makes you crabby as h*ll. Er...something like that.

This last month or thing after another, and they haven't been small things either. Yesterday, I was sooooo done.

I went home and I did...nothing. Well, I cooked dinner, but that was it. I didn't work on dance stuff, I cancelled the student I had scheduled, I didn't even exercise or feel guilty about not exercising and after dinner I said to the kids I love you, and I need some time alone and I went to my room. I read and I went to sleep early.

And today, I feel a little better. A little more together. A little more resilient. While I know exercise is really helpful to my stress level, I also just knew I needed a night off from everything.

It was a good start. I am also keeping a log for the next week on how I spend my time and I'm going to look at it and see where my time really does go. That should be pretty interresting in itself.


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