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What do I have control of?

Tuesday, August 26, 2008

Feeling a little anxious - Child support is two weeks late. I live on a pretty tight budget and so this is a pretty serious thing. I'm not really on speaking terms with the kids dad (by his choice) so I can't just call and say, "what's going on?" Instead, day after day I've been checking the website to see if it's been received....and today when it was again not there I felt the anxiety rising.

I hate the feeling of having no control - yep, I guess that makes me a control freak! So, to calm my anxiety, I'm asking myself what CAN you have control of?
1. I can control what I put in my mouth! Stuffing my face will certainly not make child support come or alleviate the problems that arise when I don't have the $$ I need to pay the bills.
2. I can think positively.
3. I can make sure I work all my hours - this is sometimes hard when my depression is bad - but right now I'm doing okay and that means I CAN work all my hours.
4. I can be happy that eating healthfully is somewhat less expensive - tho the prices at the grocery store pretty much floor me every time i see them! But I get more food for the buck and that is a good thing!
5. I can trust in the Universe that I and my family will be cared for. God never lets me down.

There. I do feel better. This is day 2 of my recommittment and it's going great! I won't let a little thing like finances get in my way!

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SPARKLE2011 8/29/2008 2:03PM

    Keep going with that positive attitude. I love it! When I read this, it made me think of the Serenity prayer...

God grant me the serenity
To accept the things I cannot change;
Courage to change the things I can;
And wisdom to know the difference.

Take care.

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HAPPYPAX 8/27/2008 8:29PM

    Keep focusing on the are making good decisions. Be proud of yourself for that.

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IDOMANIP 8/26/2008 5:37PM

    Keep focus on the positives and more will come to you. Thought become action! emoticon

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MCKIMBER 8/26/2008 12:33PM

    Bravo!!!! This is a great way to cope with a difficult situation. I'm proud of you and hope you are proud of yourself as well!

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Day One ----- again.

Monday, August 25, 2008

It's better to recommit and re-start than never start at all. That's what I'm telling myself today.

Today, as part of that recommittment, I stepped on the scales. I haven't weighed since June. I couldn't really keep track of the 41 pounds I want to lose as my current "major goal" without knowing where I stood on the I weighed.

I've gained back every single pound. I'm back at my highest weight - again. This isn't a huge shock - my clothes were getting tight, I didn't like the way I was looking, I've suddenly got pains in my knees - yeah it wasn't a huge shock but it was a little one. I didn't really think I'd gained it ALL back.

It definitely helped me keep my two biggest goals for the day: Eat oatmeal for breakfast and NO CALORIES FROM BEVERAGES! I've gotten into some really bad habits over the summer - like eating a big ol' fatty muffin and having a granita (frozen coffee drink) for breakfast.

So, this is Day One of my big goal to lose 41 pounds. I can't look at the other 60 or so that need to be lost. Not today. I'm sticking to my one pound a week for 41 weeks goal. If I lose more than that, hurray, if I just lose that, hurray. There are no other options. I must lose that 41 pounds for my health and for my sanity.

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HAPPYPAX 8/25/2008 10:56AM

    You and I are in the same place...I just re started yesterday!

I have 45 pounds to lose..that is my goal

Today is day 2 for me....this time I am going to do it!!!!

Check out my blog from will see my goals etc. Maybe we can encourage each other!

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Without a goal, I'm lost

Friday, August 22, 2008

I need to set a new goal. At the beginning of spring, I had a huge goal. I made little goals to mark my progress and I hit them.

Then when my goal was complete....I floated. and floated...and did nothing. A "few days off" turned into the rest of the summer off....and when I caught sight of myself yesterday in a floor length mirror I did a double take and not cause it was lookin' good! More of a "oh Sh*t" moment.

So here's my next set of goals:
I turn 45 in March 2009. That makes me elegible to compete in the "goddess" (or 45 and over) category at Bellydancer USA. That is 41 weeks from now.

My main goal is to lose one pound a week between now and June 2009. That is completely do-able, a VERY reasonable goal. Once I get momentum and I'm losing again, I can perhaps lose even more, but I'm NOT setting myself up by even THINKING about that. I'm simply aiming for one pound a week.

Now that I have a main goal in mind, I'll be thinking of mini-goals to hit along the way....and rewards for hitting them along the way.

I'm going to reset my spark weight graph thingy (techie, aren't i?) to 41 pounds rather than all that weight I want to lose, and reset my goal to 1 pound a week instead of 2.

There. I feel better already!

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BAM0827 8/22/2008 6:33PM

    Goals help so many of us. I wish you luck at becoming more of a goddess than you already are :)

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Can you say "fear of failure"?

Tuesday, August 19, 2008

Most of us who are obese or who have struggled with weight loss know this drill: Fear of trying again...and failing.

In the last 10 years, how many new starts have I made? More than I can count.

Some have gone well, and I felt good about the results...some didn't get very far off the ground.

I've been pretty good at being able to pick myself up and try again...until the last couple of months. Life/work has been really, really stressful and I guess I haven't felt like I had the internal resources to weather a "failure" ("lack of perfection" is probably more like it).

I have to try again. I have to get back on the horse...find the strength within to JUST DO IT.

I am told again and again how I've motivated other women to do things they were afraid to try - through bellydance, they've changed their lives - become more confident and feel they can do anything... and they tell me I am what made the difference for them...why is it SO STINKING HARD FOR ME TO DO IT FOR MYSELF??????

I talked to my troupe last night. There are 5 of us. I outweigh them by 100 pounds easy. I stick out like the sore thumb. I told them I feel like I'm holding them back...that my weight is getting to me and I feel like I'm dragging them down.

They shook their heads and said - we don't feel that way, and we don't want you to feel that way. And...for the most part I don't...but I'm worn down from stress and depression and I want to hide.

I need to re-energize, find my passion for dance again - that has been my best motivator so far.

A year ago, I said I wanted for troupe to be invited to dance outside of town at events, and i wanted to be booked for workshops. I put it out to the troupe and I put it out to the universe. And guess what? It happened! We were invited to perform in a show on the coast this weekend and I'm being sponsorted to teach two times in September.

I got what I asked for and I think it's scared me to death.

Wow. Who needs therapy when you can blog your internal angst and come up with your own realizations, lol.

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    This time will be different. This time you will lose the weight only because you want to. Not because of the way anyone else sees you.

You are going to do this because you want to be healthier.

I am here for the same reasons and this time I will not only succeed but I will never be obese again. And neither will you.


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MICHELLEG79 8/19/2008 2:17PM

    I've been there myself lately, and I know that my most happiest is when I do my workouts. I myself am trying to get back up and stop being so depressed as well. If you want something to make you happy try reading or watching "The Secret". It makes you feel really good. I watch it when I feel down. Good Luck!!!!!! Michelle

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JIBBIE49 8/19/2008 10:50AM

    Have you read the book "FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY?" by Susan Jeffers? It is well worth reading.

Of course, "SHRINK YOURSELF" by ROGER GOULD, M.D. on emotional eating is also excellent. emoticon

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I don't know how to turn it around...

Monday, August 18, 2008

There is a gym opening near my house....and while part of me wants to go for it and give it a shot...there is a bigger part saying " oh you never follow through on anything, why start another attempt at weight don't stick with it".

I'm definitely in that "you always fail - why try" mode. I'm having a really hard time turning that around this time.

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BABY_GIRL69 8/18/2008 4:15PM

    Its an every day every hour struggle but you have to put mind over matter to at least put your best foot forward! If you don't join at least get Wii Fit, Tae bo or Turbo Jam fitness joints. WE must commit & recommit, cause when the diet doesn't work, it isn't the diet, its US!! So what are you going to say to that pretty face the next time you look into the mirror? emoticon I CAN do this cause I'm worth!! emoticon



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KELLY@50 8/18/2008 11:58AM

    I'm sorry you're in such a dark place! I wish I could reach over an give you a big hug!

I don't know what to tell you that won't sound hackneyed and clichéd, but you're definitely worth it!

Maybe the convenience of the new gym will help you incorporate more exercise into your daily life - since it will be so close and easy.

Can you ask for a trial membership? How about paying weekly or monthly to start with?

Hang in there!

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