Saturday, February 06, 2010
This was a really really long week. I have to work again today, 11-5. I will have worked a 48 hour week by 5 pm.
Not so conducive to stress reduction, aye? BUT i've been working on it.
Things I'm proud of:
1. Contracting with a student who is also a massage therapist to trade out massage for dance class. I now will have roughly 3 massages a month.
2. I slept more. instead of jumping out of bed the minute I woke up to hit the books or do laundry, I evaluated if I had time for more sleep and if I did, i took it.
3. I said no. I turned down a couple opportunities and I cancelled a meeting. Responsible to the very end...I never say no and I never cancel. Well, I realized how done I was and I did both.
4. I took my whole lunch hour 4 out of 5 days and sat in silence reading a book. As an introvert who is way too overscheduled and rarely alone, this was golden.
5. I sat with my thoughts. This is not easy. As a child abuse survivor, in order to survive, I learned to clamp down on painful thoughts and shove them in a box and lock them up. As an adult, I learned to do that AND be a super over achiever. In the end, it's not serving me so well. So when some memories came along, flashbacks started...I sat with them. i looked at them. I worked on holding no judgement of myself ("i should have done this. I caused this by...") I just watched them, felt them, and then said, okay that's enough for today.
6. I practiced deep breathing every chance i got.
yesterday i was pretty fried by stress, even tho I had done those things. Today, I don't feel too bad at all, and that's the kicker. those things did make a difference. So I'm going to keep working on my stress ..... and not letting the sound of my own wheels make me crazy....
Monday, February 01, 2010
I had a great whole day off, which is good - cause I have to work 6 days, teach dance the 7th and work 5 more after that.
Plugged in the Wii and got on. Up 2.9 pounds. Hmm.
So, in the last month, I've added a new regular exercise (1 hour of water aerobics 2x a week), I teach 5 hours of dance a week....and i gain 2.9 pounds. I also added fruit daily and stopped drinking Dutch Freezes cold turkey. Did I binge? Eat out every day? have other coffee's, candy, ice cream?
yes and no. My eating wasn't great, but it wasn't BAD either. I had a couple of scoops of ice cream a week. when i wanted it, I took a small prep bowl and put in a scoop (no added sugar even) and was actually - gasp - satisfied with that. I didn't have it every day. I had some jamba juice smoothies, which I'm very aware are high calorie, and I did stop having the biggest one down to the smaller size about half way through the month. I had a couple small white mochas over the month, maybe 3 tops. I had some fast food. yep i did. Not a lot, but at least 1 x a week.
No the eating wasn't the pigfest i used to indulge in, but it wasn't terribly "clean" either.
so again, I'm wondering about the cortisol/adrenal thing. I recognize weight loss is a long and arduous task - but this isn't really adding up for me. a lot of work, with not much weight loss. DOES it have to be perfect? i used to say no...small changes blah blah...but my own small changes aren't cutting it. I've had blood work done (not for high cortisol/adrenal tho) - I'm "within normal ranges" on my thyroid etc.
so i look at other factors. I look back to a therapist appointment when she said "ummmm Lisa, I'm a little worried about you working full time, teaching dance, going to college, having a family, grieving your dad, dealing with your "therapy stuff" AND trying to lose weight. This seems like an awful lot."
i poo poo'd her. Maybe I shouldn't have.
now, this doesn't mean I regret my efforts of the last year, hey I lost 20 pounds (depending on what day it is, LOL). I feel better. I'm committed to getting healthy. I don't want to be crippled by my own body weight as my dad was. i want to live a long, healthy, active life!
So I'm not giving up here. i'm just...contemplating. thinking. Wondering. Spilling my guts.
how much is stress affecting me? is it (in the form of adrenal failure) quietly killing me? In the words of my therapist, "What can you let go of to not be busy 24/7, 365? Something has to go lisa, and i don't want it to be your health or your mental health".
Again, i am really aware that not taking summer term off from college was a mistake. A BIG mistake. I'm on my 5th term in a row, and one more term before summer break. However, enrollment is so high here that if I am not enrolled, i will likelhy NOT get the classes I need when i go back, so taking spring AND summer off is not an option. if I'm not enrolled spring, I can't early register for fall, and I may not GET registered, the college is THAT full.
so, more to think about.
Friday, January 29, 2010
I had great plans this term: Get my first math class over with and 2 PE classes.
Then, someone was let go at work and I've been working weekends and will be working at least every other weekend for the next three months. That's the straw that's breaking this camel's back. I didn't have much wiggle room in the first place....working overtime all the time? I can't do it all, so I dropped the yoga class.
While i hated DOING the yoga, i liked how I was feeling after doing it. I would have dropped the water aerobics, but i do that with my partner and it's an important relationship thing for us. With both of us going to school - we don't see much of each other and doing the class together is good for our health and our relationship. As well, having to be at the yoga class 2 nights a week was the kicker - so it went. I will add yoga back in when work is stable and I'm not overcommitted.
While I know I couldn't keep up anymore - all I wanted to do last week was cry! - i still feel bad about having to drop the class. That's my perfectionism raising it's nasty head. Dropping the class does not equal failure, it constitutes a change in plans...and that's not failure. That's what I'm working on coming to grips with.
haven't had time to start up the wii and check my weight. While i realize it's probably not perfect, it is what I've been checking with for a while now and i don't want to change that up, lol I feel better, and in the end that is more important that what the scale says.
yesterday, my first case to type turned out to be the autopsy of someone I used to know. I didn't know him well, but I knew him and we would chat in the store, that kind of thing. i may have gone to his house a time or two for a BBQ or something 20 years ago. But it was again a reality check. Life is short. it is what I make of it.
Thursday, January 28, 2010
I share this story for all the 40+ year old women out there who are juggling way too much. More than one job, maybe some college classes, etc. on top of family and who knows what else? Women who don't get enough sleep, who have unending demands on their time and energy.
I ran to the women's room. Before I left I washed my hands carefullly. I checked my makeup and complained internally that suddenly my T-zone is like an oil slick. What's that about?
I walked out and another women immediately walked in. As soon as she shut the door, I had the over-riding feeling of panic that maybe I didn't flush.
It's such an auto-pilot kinda thing, I'm sure I did....except, I can't REMEMBER doing it. Completely mortified, I returned to my desk and could feel my face turning beet red.
The mortified part of me considered running up to the woman and saying "gee, I have a lot on my mind, if I didn't flush...I usually do! Really! I do!!" Of course, that would only make me look freaking CRAZY...so I won't do it...tho the mortified part of me says "you have to do something!!"
See what happens when you don't get enough sleep and are overdone all the time, lol?
Hope this gives someone a chuckle...I can almost laugh about it...uh, almost. Sheesh.
Sunday, January 24, 2010
This last week has been a long one. I've worked the last 2 weekends in a row by necessity (we are short staffed) and I won't have a whole day off till this coming Saturday, so it will be 3 weeks off total before a whole day off. Sundays I teach a 2 hour dance class and by the time I prep it, drive there, teach it and drive home, I've tkane up a good 4-5 hours of my day. so while it's not as stressful as work, it's still being responsible and having to BE somewhere and be On, if you know what I mean. i'm tired!
i've been so busy I've barely been on SP, I haven't gotten all of my planned exercise, but at least half of it. I'm having problems with the software for my on-line math class and little help from the instructor over it, which means I'm going to YouTube to find out how to find the least common multiple, LOL. It all adds up to STRESS.
I have read some about adrenal failure...how modern medicine says "rare, unusual" and more Eastern thought practictioners say not so! and wonder about the effect of constant stress and little relaxation I have on a regular basis. So today, besides homework and teaching dance class and getting laundry done so I can have clean clothes, i will spend some time alone - as an introvert I really NEED it and I don't always get it. I will do something relaxing and fun for ME.
if i've been less than responsive or not as present commenting on blogs or emails, see above. Know that I am here and that next week it won't be so bad. keep talking to me, LOL, cause I am listening, I'm just not responding much. Best of all, tell me what YOU do to relax and de-stress, I need suggestions!
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