Monday, March 22, 2010
So, I've lost a little weight.
nice, eh? i was feeling pretty good about it.
Then I decided to use a $100 bonus I got at work for a bit of new clothing. I'm in the dressing room and I'm even buying a size smaller - whoot!! but...something just looks wrong to me. See, I've been carrying my weight around my middle - I'm an apple shape. Surely one of the worst health indicators about my obesity - carrying your weight where I do is a precursor to heart disease etc. But as i try on a few things and stand there in the fluorescent lights and full-length mirror...something isn't looking right.
At first, i blame the cut of the pants i'm trying on....but as I begin to look at myself between fittings i realize...the apple has fallen.
The weight loss has caused the once firm apple belly i had to shift. The lower belly is now pretty flabby and it haannngs. Like in a fold it hangs. In a flap.
okay, yes this is a GOOD thing and losing weight is a GOOD thing and important for my health. But wow, it looks nasty. I went home and after my shower stood in the mirror and was pretty horrified, LOL.
I spoke to a gal in my dance class who lost arond 100 pounds and asked did this happen to you? and she laughed and said "tummy tuck honey, tummy tuck!"
course I have many more pounds to go before that is realistic and I will need to accept the changes in my body as they come. Of course it doesn't make sense that my body would just shrink back to the way it used to be - i've been 100 pounds overweight for a long time. i just somehow didn't expect this kind of flabby "accessory" until farther in my weight loss and was pretty surprised.
it's spring break here and school for me is done. woo hoo. I start zumba next monday and I'm really excited. Now I have to go do wii fit so I keep my fitness minutes up without the water aerobics! Happy monday!
Friday, March 19, 2010
Replace the word "jail" with H-E-double hockey sticks and you have my current mood summed up quite simply.
I had a falling out a few years ago with a woman I really c0nsidered my best friend. It was really painful - but over time I was able to see my part in the downfall of the friendship and let go of the hurt I experienced.
That was until today when she sent me an out-of-the-blue email that was definitely in "attack mode".
Instantly, all those feelings welled right back up! I felt defensive, hurt and angry. And the very first thing I thought, after "go to H-E-L-L" was ...I want chocolate!
Wow, that's sure ingrained. The "I hurt and I want sugar" reflex. Mind you, I've done pretty darn good with cutting my sugar severely...but in the heat of the moment, I wanted a whole chocolate bar, or a milkshake or some other form of my drug to soothe me.
Instead, I went and got a water and I'm drinking it and writing here to remind myself I really don't want chocolate - I just don't want to hurt and I've been soothing myself with sugar for ohhhhh, 30 years?
I'm not replying to her, it's not worth it. But I'm also not giving in to my drug craving either - because that is far worse.
Okay, tag, you're it. Tell me how you have learned to soothe yourself without food?
Thursday, March 18, 2010
End of the term - finals week. One more water aerobics class left.
A disaster with my math final - a very long story short: i wrote down the incorrect date for the last possible day to take the final and discovered it....a day late. Had this been a different week, I likely would have caught my error and been able to fix it - but I didn't.
this week? Spent 6+ hours in ER with a kid at the beginning of the week that has a bigger medical problem than I thought. Partner had total meltdown one day - I did manage not to get sucked in to trying to fix anything for her. I was able to be compassionate, and still keep myself from falling apart because she was falling apart - this is a rather new skill set so while I was successful, it took vigilance in separating myself from her emotions and was sort of exhausting. Had to pull my big girl panties up at work and find a way to deal firmly, yet kindly, with someone I supervise....and so far I've put in 7 hours of water aerobics in 4 days.
And it's only Thursday.
The college stuff...rankles. I've had extremely good grades and this will pull my GPA down and it annoys me. But it's certainly a sign from the Universe that its time to take that break and concentrate on me, my health, and I. The kid stuff...well, that's what the miracles of modern science are for, eh? I'll trust that will come out fine. the partner? I can celebrate that I didn't get sucked in - even tho my tools are worn thin this week. The work thing? I dealt with it. i didn't sit and hope it would get better. I took care of it, and i'm proud of how I handled it.
So out of this week of muck...I see a wide open road before me. More time. A LOT more time. Time to work on my health. time to actually READ my sparkfriend's pages again and comment! time to read a book. time. Most precious time - that for once is being directed at caring for myself.
(Holding right hand up with left hand on heart) "I, Lisa from Oregon, do solemly swear to spend the next five months working on my health and my peace of mind. I will not volunteer, I will not take on responsibilities that would be good for someone else to try for a change, and will spend time weekly working on my mind, heart and body, so help me God."
Tuesday, March 16, 2010
In typical co-dependant fashion, I spent my 20's and 30's taking care of everyone but myself. Of course it's good to care for your children, your family, your spouse ...but when you exclude caring for yourself, not so healthy.
I've spent the last 10 years working on self care. Like many things for me, at first I thought a lot about it, but didn't really do it, LOL.
The last five years I've actually began to DO it, in no small thanks to a loving partner who wants me to care for myself and have nice things. Wow, what a change in though processes that was!
While it's still really hard for me to splurge on myself, I'm learning! As well, even the simple "usual" self care of medical appointments, hair cuts, that kind of thing - I'm learning to do it and not feel guilty about it.
In honor of my birthday month, I scheduled my first-ever appointment with a dermatologist for help with my raging eczema and a skin cancer check. I have good insurance and have had good insurance for the last 10 years - and I used it well on my children....but rarely used it for myself. I felt guilty.
Realizing that was unhealthy - to feel guilty about having a doctor appointment or getting your teeth cleaned? geez! - and being able to move from being paralyzed by that guilt into not only doing it, but feeling good about it? Pretty big shift in awareness, let me tell you!
So, in a few minutes I'll be off to take care of the dermatologist appointment. Big step, good step, for me.
Last night I conquered two water aerobics classes and honestly, it wasn't all that bad. I was totally RAVENOUS when I dragged my butt out of the pool tho, so I'll be making sure to have a good protein snack before I repeat the effort tonight!
How about YOU? Is self-care easy peasy for you...or is it an effort?
Monday, March 15, 2010
Now I know why they call the week before finals "dead week". Cause you're dead on your feet, that's why.
It was worth it, brought my math grade up to 96% going into the final this week, but with working OT all term, wow has it been a crazy 10 weeks.
In order to get an A in water aerobics, I must attend 10 water aerobics classes in the next 5 days. For a B I'd need 9, and 8 for a C. I'm going for that C, LOL. I'll sure rack up some sparkpoints with 8 hours of water aerobics this week, LOL. I have to do so many partly because of my work schedule, I missed some classes and partly from my old friend procrastination.
My month of consistency has only been truly consistent in one thing: Work. I've thoroughly realized I'm not cut out to work 50 hours a week long term - not with my crazy life of dance and trying to earn this degree anyway. But, I have learned a lot this term about myself and that's all success eh? Learning how you tick, the good and the not so good.
My birthday was very quiet, went to see Alice in Wonderland and then last night the dance troupe came and we played a bit of Wii fit and laughed a lot and had dinner. All very good for the soul.
Goals this week? well despite my lofty hopes, it's boiled down to this:
I still have to work OT this week, and will work 6 days. It's just life - the new person is close to being fully trained and that will put me back in the land of the living, just 40 plain ol hours a week and no more 6 days a week. I just have to get through this week of finals and churn out those aerobics classes - at least that will be GOOD for me, LOL.
Thanks to the folks who checked in on me wondering if I'd up and dropped of the face of the earth...nope. just crazy busy. But your check ins reminded me of the support available here for my crazy life and my journey toward health. thank you. It means a lot.
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