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Thursday, June 10, 2010

We spent the last weekend at a casino for a bellydance event. There were several restaurants within the casino and a truck stop across the street...and that was it. It was out in the middle of nowhere basically. They had a lot of food choices, but I quickly noticed anything that might have been healthier choices...tasted like crap. Veggies were so over done they were mush and often seemed to be from the day before....salads were iceburg lettuce with a token tomato wedge and carrot curl. Now the calorie-laden, fatty food? It was done very well...I didn't go wild by any means, but I didn't have the kind of food I was accustomed to...and I felt absolutely gross for three days after we came home. Like I had cement in my stomach. Finally yesterday I started feeling human again.

Since my back went out, I've been working on stretching daily...with hit and miss results. Today I put on the pedometer again and start working on racking up steps. Money is very tight, and figuring out healthy food will be an important part of the next two weeks.

My only "goal" for the next week is to log into spark EVERY SINGLE DAY - it's so easy to get off track when I don't start the day here.

  
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JULIEIRENE 6/10/2010 4:15PM

    I think that's a great goal! Attainable, manageable and spot on!

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KRO-BAR 6/10/2010 10:07AM

    Me too...logging keeps me honest!

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JHADZHIA 6/10/2010 9:48AM

    I have always had a problem with North American restaurant veggies being way over cooked and mushy. I like Asian food for that reason -cooking them in a wok leaves them nice and crispy. They never over cook them. Hope your back feels better soon! I never miss tracking my food if that is the only thing I do with Sparks!
Just buy your fruits and veggies in season, it when they are cheapest. Try new ones if the price is low on them. Its the processed foods that are expensive. I eat mostly raw fruits and veggies and my budget is lower then when I used to eat canned and packaged goods. For cereal and bread I get what is on sale as long as its whole wheat. Buy in bulk and quantity if its a good deal -you can freeze some of it so it won't spoil. All the best with it!

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TBGRABAR 6/10/2010 8:59AM

    I think that is how it usually is when there is a variety of food choices....the healthier choices do not move fast enough for them to spend effort to make it taste good and fresh. Good luck with your back!

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Eeek! It lives!

Friday, June 04, 2010

Uh, yeah. that would be me. Where have I been anyway? Sheesh. Let's see....four days flat on my back from being so foolish as to try to bend down and look on the bottom shelf of the pantry. Yep. Dangerous stuff. Couldn't stand up again. Too much fun, believe me. Before that I was training a new person and wasn't even at my desk for about a week.

thus was the end of May. I went back to work yesterday, and today leave for a weekend road trip.

So suddenly (to me) it's June! whew. My oldest daughter will turn 24. I'll be performing quite a bit..and working on new choreo. I'll also be figuring out how to add in more exercise. My arthritis has been a bear and i think it's because I've let off on the exercise. Pretty direct correlation when I look at the timing of the arthritis flares. More stretching...I saw a massage therapist when the back went out and she said "your hamstrings are soooooo tight, I think it's got to be contributing to your low back issues".

Leads me to: June goals
1. CONSISTENT exercise. There's that word again...consistency. When will I learn?
2. Concentrate on incorporating more fresh fruit and veggies - it's the season for it!
3. Sign in to SP EVERY STINKING DAY.

Good 'nuff.

  
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PRYDEQUEEN 6/4/2010 9:47AM

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BACHMAN64 6/4/2010 8:15AM

    You can do this!! Just gotta believe in YOU!! I do...I know you can..Signing in everyday is a good start...working well for me anyways!

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Whirlwind of thoughts...

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

1) Motivation and consistency in weight loss - I'm feeling this getting shoved to the background of my attention due to "busy-ness" - extra work hours, kid activities that need my attention/presence, prepping for dance stuff.

2) Labels. I was challenged in how I think about myself and others this week, and it's not sitting well with me. As a "late bloomer" lesbian, I've gone through stages of trying not to be gay, accepting my queerness, being (for me) radical about it, becoming blase and jaded about it, LOL, and wanting a label I could identify with....and saying Don't you be labeling me buster!! All in the space of 12 years. This week, my tree was shaken again and my thoughts are swirling on my identity, why I need labels, hate labels, refuse to be labeled, label others....um, yeah.

3) One word: Menopause. I can't lie to myself anymore, I'm perimenopausal and have the freaking hot flashes to prove it. My skin is dry and itchy, I'm emotional all the effing time, and while I certainly (after 4 children) do not mourn the loss of fertility or anything like that....have to admit I am aging. I believe Old is what you make it..and I have the genetics to live to 100 healthfully - if I get control of my weight. But the whole M thing? This sucks. Don't like it.

Those are all the thoughts that are whirling in my head like a high-speed blender - all the time. Not sleeping well...did I mention hot flashes? grrr.

That's me, in a nutshell. C'mon Friday. I'm ready.

  
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JULIEIRENE 5/19/2010 10:22AM

    Happy Hump Day! You'll make it through! I am hearing you - motivation and consistency have had downward momentum for me the past 2 weeks; I'm trying to get it turned back around the other direction! And as for labels, I've always liked the saying, "Labels are for jars!" :) They have their use and purpose but do little to capture the full and layered complexity of a human individual. Good luck on your continued journey of self-exploration and claiming!

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You can lead a horse to water....

Monday, May 17, 2010

but you can't make him use his potential.

My "horse" is my 14 year old son. Mike is freaking smart....like...take over the world smart. But he won't do his homework. Period. He lies....like a rug. "there wasn't any today (or the last five months...). "I did it in class". When asked how a particular class is going, he can tell you the subject matter in depth. He gets it. but he will not put pen to paper to save his life, literally. I have been fighting this battle for 5 years. This is not my first kid....he's my fourth. I'm not an inexperienced parent...I've done everything traditionally done in ths situation, I've been creative in finding solutions too....some things have not made a tiny dent. Other things worked for a brief time, but then he reverted back to his comfort zone of doing no homework. He has C's...because he can ace the tests, but the no homework pulls his grade down. I've heard it all from his teachers, from what a great kid he is, how smart to some teachers really loathing him.

I've felt like a failure, I've felt helpless - the whole spectrum. I've had so much well-meaning advice....right up to "Well, MY kid would just do it because i wouldn't accept anything less!" People thinking I'm "too soft" or what have you. Walk a mile in these shoes buddy...that's all I have to say to that.

today, I sat down with him and looked him in the eye and said "I'm here for you. I'll do whatever you need to help you be successful, but you are the only one who can do this mike". I set some parameters - he's lost some privelideges and I have contacted his teachers to find out exacty what the homework is so that I don't have to hear "there wasn't any!" But overall, the ball is in his court. Pick it up and play....or find yourself repeating the 8th grade.

I was struck this a.m., when I spoke to him about potential...about just doing it - that it doesn't have to be perfect, it just has to get DONE....how I do the same thing with my health. I don't wanna do my health "homework" either. So as I spoke to him, my own words sunk in a little to myself as well.

The apple doesn't fall far from the tree, does it?

  
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SHEALUNA 5/19/2010 7:27AM

    Man, he reminds me of a friend I had "back in the day" (We won't talk about just how far back.) She literally had a genius IQ, could pretty much ace any test put in front of her, yet barely managed to graduate high school. Why? She was bored. She couldn't be asked to do her homework because it bored her to tears.

Frankly I blame schools who like to shove everyone in neat little boxes. We are not all the same.

Talk about a moment of enlightenment, though, eh? lol (Trust me, I am SO with you on the whole health homework thing!) Hopefully you BOTH learned something good from this little life lesson. emoticon

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PRYDEQUEEN 5/17/2010 9:43AM

    Funny how we find our words are sometimes meant for our ears too.

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Weekend! and thoughts on college at 46

Saturday, May 15, 2010

Ah....the weekend. Sitting in my pjs drinking coffee and fooling around on the web.

Register for fall classes at 9:30 a.m. After a year of part time college, I'm thinking about chaning directions. I started out wanting to get a psych degree....and now..I'm not so sure. I was encouraged to think about what I could do if there were no barriers......and that was easy. I'd teach adults - preferably in a higher ed setting. I love working with women in dance...as a dance teacher I seem to end up being instructor...life coach....therapist...all rolled up into one. I'd like to explore that more in a setting that I can continue in my over 50 years.

while I plan on continuing to dance until i die .... I'm realistic enough to know with my arthritis, I may not want to teach for 20 more years. The choice may be taken from me by the arthritis issues.

I have some old tapes that play about why am I going to college at 46 anyway? Education, specifically education for women, was not encouraged in my family. "Good" women got married, popped out kidEs, and did church activities. "Too much" education was to be avoided, because well...then you might have questions about that plan! Needless to say, individual thought (again, especially for women) was not encouraged.

I can hear my dad saying it's a waste of money. I can hear my grandma, mom and aunts clucking about how some cousin or other who went to collge and got non-family sanctioned ideas was "too smart for her own good".

So in moments of fatigue...or when my brain hurts from homework....I wonder, what the H#!! do I think I'm doing? Especially now that my goals are evolving and I'm moving away from counseling to teaching higher ed, which would require at the very least a masters...you know, MORE school!

Other than registering today...chores, walking Bijou the wonder dachshund, hitting a movie with friends....and some dedicated self care time...did I mention chores?, LOL. the sun is shining ...and that is a glorious thing.

  
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UZIMAA 5/19/2010 3:13PM

    I applaud you! You have as much time as you want to give yourself to find your life's work. That's what's important. YOUR life's work. Not your mom's, your auntie's, your friend's, mine or anybody else's. YOUR life's work!

As for me, I've had 3 do-overs so far, and am now embarking on number 4. ::sigh::

You go for it! Keep us posted, okay?

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TURQUOISELOTUS 5/19/2010 2:52PM

    Good for you! It is NEVER too late. If you have a pulse, there's time. In one year, you'll only be a year older - with or without a degree. Which would you rather? is always my question.

It is tough. Some women our age were discouraged from education. Others were encouraged but only IF they lived up to other people's ideas (i.e., study what we want you to). It's time for us ladies to follow our hearts.

Go for it, and don't worry about your goals changing. That is GREAT because the market changes. In my case? 4 graduate degrees, 30 years of humanitarian work (read: psych) = no money to keep a roof over my head and insulin in my cat. I don't regret all the patients I healed, though I could have skipped the broken bones and uglier injuries. Soooo, at age 49, I will be starting an A.S. in Nursing! Yay, med/surg and anesthesia!

We'll keep motivating each other! We can do it! Teaching is a fabulous idea!



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FSTORM 5/19/2010 8:21AM

    I sympathize with you, I'm getting ready to go back to school again myself. I did my AA on a part time basis and it took 3.5 years--now I'm going back for the BA. Sometimes the thought is overwhelming. But, you need to do what's right for you and more education can only help! Keep on keepin' on!
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SHEALUNA 5/19/2010 7:30AM

    I think it's AWESOME you are going back to school and doing what you want to do. My cousin recently got her Masters at 42. It's NEVER too late.



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KRO-BAR 5/17/2010 9:59AM

    I agree with PRYDEQ...your voice is the only one that matters! I didn't finish my undergrad until I was 32!

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KRESONNA_SUE 5/15/2010 12:06PM

    Our family members and loved ones simply reflect our own decisions.

Do what gives you purpose and live your passion.



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PRYDEQUEEN 5/15/2010 11:27AM

    Go for it! What about school counseling for higher ed? And tell those voices to step aside! That kind of thinking just does not work for anyone!

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