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I don't need your "tough love"....

Thursday, July 01, 2010

If you don't have something nice to say...don't say anything at all.

This was DRILLED into me from birth. I think it was both helpful...and not so helpful. Helpful in that I learned to listen to others and let them just talk and have their opinions without the NEED to tell them mine, or try to convert them to my opinion. I think this is a pretty good skill and it has served me very, very well. Harmful in that along with this little ditty, I was taught to not speak my mind, which sometimes needs to be spoken...in relationship especially. So, is this a mantra to live by? yes...within reason.

I bring this up because yesterday, for the first time since joining SP in 2006, I unfriended a person. I found this person to be unceasingly critical - never a "go you!" or a cheer for losing a pound, NEVER ONCE...but always something critical to say, regularly "educating" me on the "right way" (aka HER way). I worked on letting it go until ...... I snapped. I "removed" her as a sparkfriend and sent her an email that said, I think we're doing being sparkfriends, thanks for your time and energy, good luck.

I post this...because that was a big deal to me - if you had a clue about me, about who i am, you would have realized your "help" was falling on deaf (and increasingly annoyed) ears, and moved on. I didn't learn to 'stand up for myself" until i was in my 30's and it's still a struggle. But I did it...and I felt immense relief.

So, here's the deal...if you follow my blog, most likely I love you to death! i also read YOUR blogs, tho I may not comment because of time issues. I may offer suggestions and I hope you do the same. But here at chez Sahara....

If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. Period.

  
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KRO-BAR 7/1/2010 11:03AM

    The world doesn't need "know it all's" or negative inflluences. Good for you!

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PRYDEQUEEN 7/1/2010 10:07AM

    You go girl! Good for taking care of you!

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MRE1956 7/1/2010 9:41AM

    emoticon - you really did the right thing for yourself by removing the toxicity from around you!

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ORGOLDENDUCK 7/1/2010 9:34AM

    Good for you....and sticking up for yourself....misery loves company!! You should feel very proud of yourself!

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WELLNESSME09 7/1/2010 9:24AM

    Good for you...we do not need negative in our life at anytime emoticonkeep up the good work emoticon emoticon

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SUSIEQ911 7/1/2010 9:23AM

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ELLE4PETS 7/1/2010 9:06AM

    Jusst keep up the good works

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PURPLESPEDCOW 7/1/2010 8:58AM

    You did remove a negative from your life. Good for you.

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So not fair...

Wednesday, June 30, 2010

I've had four children. I've heard the phrase "that is so not fair!!" at least akazillion times - usually in reference to whose turn it was to do the dishes or pooper scoop.

I woke up thinking it today.

Last week was my vacation. I went into it with a little pain on the back of my heel. We went to Pride and we walked a lot. Then i came home from Pride and joined the 10 minute exercise challenge and started walking the dog, usually 2 times a day. The pain went from a little when I had "stiffened" up to yesterday being pretty much excruciating with every flipping step.

So in 10 days, I ramped my pedometer steps up from 1,000 or less a day (remember I sit for a living, LOL) to 5K a day....and now I have achilles tendopathy. Which is for all intents and purposes tenditis. I need to rest it, elevate it, and ice it.

GRRRR i am so frustrated!!

To add insult to injury, the doc said "really, it's very common for runners/walkers and especially middle aged folks like you with arthritis".

excuse me? Middle aged? Am I middle aged? Middle aged is....um...you know...out there. You know in your 50's...right? right?

I came out more unhappy about being called middle aged at first, LOL. Finally I copped to it, okay, I'm 46. I guess I could be considered middle aged. *insert mild profanity here*.

But this a.m. I'm crying "so not fair" to another physical setback. Definitely a 3 steps fwd and two steps back kinda deal.

but...I will do as told. i will rest, ice, elevate and take an NSAID. i will not further injury it. And then when I restart I'll make sure I'm wearing good footwear to walk (likely the root of this whole thing) and I'll go back to the 10 minute challenge...with a vengance!

  
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KRO-BAR 6/30/2010 12:27PM

    I've developed that in both my achilles! Curses! Good shoes do help out a lot.

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KRESONNA_SUE 6/30/2010 10:33AM

    Life ISN'T fair. You are totally correct. Those who succeed get over it and do whatever it takes to get over what stands in their way. Maybe you can't walk but you can certainly do other things.

I can sense a deep level of self-resentment here. Take a look at this and add a hug or two or hundred per day. Love is what you have inside. Get in touch with it.

Making progress towards goals means to love yourself enough to weather the storms along the way. The biggest obstacle is the desire to hang on to the past and our old self.

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PRYDEQUEEN 6/30/2010 9:55AM

    We'll be waiting for you!

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SHEALUNA 6/30/2010 9:30AM

    Urrrrrgh. Don't know which is more frustrating, the injury or being called middle aged! 46 isn't middle aged!

Ok, maybe if you're going to live to 92. But I'm going to live to 120. So middle aged is 60! hahaha

The doctor is right, though. Rest, ice and elevate and you'll be good as new in no time!

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NBJAGGAL 6/30/2010 9:07AM

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I'm not afraid to get old......much....

Thursday, June 24, 2010

I never really feared old age when i was younger. i felt everyone got there sooner or later and being afraid of it wasn't going to stop it. So i worked from the attitude, "it's all good, young or old".

That was until about a year ago. My neice got married...and sitting there at her reception watching them open their gifts shot me back 20+ years to the same milestone in my life...and I "had a moment." Since that day, I've had more than a few moments of realizing just how fast life really goes...and the heart attack that killed a friends husband this past weekend is weighing on my mind. Sure...he was about 10 years older than me....but um, right now, 10 years doesn't seem like much.

I went to the grocery store for supper stuff....and I'm proud to say I'm trying a healthy lentil salad tonight as well....but i saw ....old people. infirm people. Faded people. I also saw lively white haired folk....smiling and busy-looking older ladies.

I can make my old age much happier, much healthier...by the choices I make today. I can channel that occassional fear into motivation for good choices. I can enjoy every moment I have today and have no regrets at the end of this year, or this life.

  
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ELLE4PETS 7/1/2010 9:08AM

    I try to embrace every age, now I am embracing a healthier me

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AKJADE 6/24/2010 7:14PM

    YES! It is your choices, my choices, that will affect how our "old age" is going to be. The old addage, "you're only as old as you feel" is true, and let's make sure we FEEL as young as possible by making those healthy choices now!! Wonderful blog, thank you!
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KRO-BAR 6/24/2010 5:19PM

    Well said!

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TREKJUNKIE 6/24/2010 3:50PM

    I am also afraid of getting old! Not growing old, but getting old, frail, infirm, housebound, all of those things. That has been a huge motivation for me to get healthy. I am getting close to retirement and I want to enjoy it. I want to see my grandchildren grow up, I want to still experience new things and go new places. I am so fearful of having a stroke, heart attack or something that will limit my ability to be mobile. It is a strong motivato!

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Vacation days...

Tuesday, June 22, 2010

This is my first full week off in 5 years. If I did take a long weekend...I was traveling. That's fun and all, but it's not the same as hanging at home, reading a book and taking a nap.

This weekend, we went to Portland Pride. We walked and we walked and then....we walked. At the end of the day, I was stiff and exhausted.....and we'd walked about 8500 steps. No wonder I have a hard time getting anywhere near 5000, much less 10K! Really emphasized to me the biggest thing that is holding my weight loss back is not enough exercise. Period.

So, yesterday I walked the dog in the morning and i walked the dog at night, on top of dance class and managed to get to 6600. I'm using this week to tinker with times and routes for walking the dog so that next week when it's back to work..I spend time walking the dog before I to work and when i come home.

We neutered the dog about 8 months ago....and he's gotten a little chunky. He's a doxie...and with that loooong back, his weight needs to be controlled or he'll have problems. The walks will do us both good.

So this week is about moving...and learning to relax again. I'm not good at relaxing...and my blood pressure is telling me about it. Doing things I enjoy oftentimes go to the wayside in order to be responsible. I have a bit of a struggle with being a little too responsible...something my therapist has been harping about for a long time, LOL. She's right...I need to turn that overdeveloped sense of responsiblity on MYSELF...my health and my body.

So here's to day 2 of vacation....walking the dog...working in the yard....working on a quilt...doing a lil laundry....and a good nap in between.

  
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KRO-BAR 6/22/2010 12:05PM

    Yay! Enjoy your time off!

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Stepping up the pace

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

Mmm. Note to self: When wearing too-loose pants, might as well skip the pedometer.

Yesterday, I peeked at my pedometer around my morning break and thought, "um, that's not right." So I specifically walked purposefully around the building and counted my steps in my head and peeked again....and while I counted 350 steps....the pedometer added 27. I realized throughout the day that the pants I was wearing (laundry day, only pair clean, LOL) were so loose at the waist that they sorta flopped at the waistband...and so did the pedometer. I don't expect perfect count from a pedometer...but 27:350? Not close enough for my purposes, LOL.

I am again realizing that I'm NOT getting enough cardio, period. My food intake is not out of line...but I'm not burning remotely enough calories. I suspect since I'm busy all the time, I feel like I'm "doing" it...but the numbers are not coming up to support that. I need, at minimum, to start walking the dog again and PLAN my exercise. If I don't plan it...it don't happen.

Midweek....then 9 days off. Very pleased about that!

So, fess up....do you have a regular plan of cardio?? Tell me, please!

  
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WORKINGSTIFF 6/21/2010 8:00PM

    Recently I was in a weight loss competition at my job (a hospital). The sessions included a dietician who monitored what we were eating and made good suggestions toward better choices and rehab/exercise specialists who worked us out twice a week. What did I learn that really helped? First of all, they stressed that we had to do at least 20 minutes of cardio in our "target heart rate zone." For me that was between approximately 140-150 beats per minute. Dang! 20 minutes of that seriously made me sweat! We kept track of our cardio minutes but they only counted it if we were in the target zone.
Second thing I learned? I'm almost 50 years old, and in order to really do damage to the pounds, I needed to move a lot more than I had been previously. The experts are not kidding when they suggest an hour of workout (and not a leisurely stroll) in order to lose weight.

I can't tell you exactly how to get more cardio in, but you should do what you love and do it hard enough to break a sweat/get your heart rate up most days. During the 8 week competition, my workout partner Dee and I averaged 35 minutes a day (in the target zone). And we are "old ladies" ages 50 and 60!

You can do it!

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