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Saturday, February 12, 2011

Yep Still Here.

Home: Things a little better, everyone doing therapy helps, LOL.

Son: Change in meds last week seems to be showing up now as less angry outbursts, more even mood.

Partner: Doing therapy and doing her own work on herself - makes a big difference

Weight: Bouncing around between 234-238, but that's still 10 pounds less than I was bouncing thru a month ago!

Decisions, decisions...I may take a break from college spring term. I feel my son is really needing me, and this diagnosis of a schizophrenic disorder is HUGE...The stress I normally have with basically two jobs and school is pretty darn high...throw in your kid has a big issue? I think that's the tipping point. I waited to go back till i was in my 40s.. My kid needs me and I can perhaps just wait a bit longer for that degree. Not giving up...just prioritizing.

As well, when I'm in school, i do NOT have the time to exercise hardly at all. That's not been good.

As always, just thinking out loud here. Thank you so much for the support, the spark goodies, it means a lot. I'm sorry I'm too cramped for time to contact people personally - I appreciate you!

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PRYDEQUEEN 2/12/2011 12:44PM

    Good news! Check out NAMI classes - they have wonderful support groups for parents going through what you are going through!

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TERRYT55 2/12/2011 11:56AM

    It sounds like things are looking up. The degree will still be there in a year or a few months. I think putting school on hold for a bit to be there for your child is a great thought. Good luck dealing with it all!

Take care emoticon

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ROJAKHAN 2/12/2011 10:55AM

    best of luck

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MICHELE0008 2/12/2011 10:40AM

    Best wishes and good luck to you! emoticon

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Monday, February 07, 2011

My house, my life, feels like a warzone.

My partner and my kids are so at odds that I feel like I'm constantly "herding dynamite" - trying to keep them from connecting and exploding. Both sides have important points, and neither side is willing to concede.

My partner is unreasonable....and then angry that i don't "back her up".

My son has recently been diagnosed as bipolar and we are still working on medications and so he is not really capable of just letting go of stuff.

Both sides want me to defend them....but both sides have points where they are wrong and right - and I'm firmly in the middle.

I will not "back" my partner when she is unreasonable - which is unfortunately often. She has OCD and frankly, nothing can EVER be clean enough, ever. It's not reasonable for the rest of us to try to constantly meet unattainable standards, and so she complains unendingly and that sets the kids off, saying all she ever does is "b*5Xh".

Well, they're right! But I know and see the underlying reasons for it, so it's easier for me to deal with....but the last 2 months have even got on my nerves pretty bad.

So, health, fitness and wellness? Have been out the window. I spent the weekend mediating and crying and placating....and i'm so done it's not funny. i thought yestrday I would have a stroke...which simply puts me back at ....

I must care for myself or I WILL have a stroke or a heartattack and all these things will pale in comparison.

"Blended" family my arse. More like Battlezone family. Sigh

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EUPHRATES 2/7/2011 11:25PM

    I second (very very strongly) what MINIDRIVER63 said. Seriously.
And recommend checking out this article...

Hang in there!

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MINIDRIVER63 2/7/2011 12:59PM

    I think at some point you need to refuse to be put in the middle and tell them to sort it out between them, with professional help if necessary. Tell them you love and support them all, but you won't be the rope in any emotional tug-of-war.


The rule is: Pay yourself first. If you're not taking care of you, you can't take care of anyone else. And our fitness journey really is taking care of ourselves. Love yourself and all else will fall into place.

So today, love yourself enough to eat well, exercise, and drink plenty of water. It really will help with the stress.


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SUGARPUNK52 2/7/2011 12:13PM

  See if there are any groups in your area that might be able to help.Nami is one.Take some "ME" time too.You are dealing with so much right now you really need it.Good luck and GOD bless.

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PRYDEQUEEN 2/7/2011 11:39AM

    Mix blended with some bipolar and OCD! You are dealing with quite a bit. Check to see if there are NAMI groups in your area. It might be good for both of you to attend a few. This way your partner will have a better idea of bipolar and may gain some understanding. You will also find some support from other parents who are dealing with the same. Good luck! Stay strong! Take care of yourself - take some breaks and short walks if you can!

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Thursday, February 03, 2011

This is midterm week, and it's kicking my butt to the curb. No time for exercise...only work school study work school study work school study.

Taking the supplements, working the food plan...still under 240. See the doc on the 21, and would like to have lost 5 more pounds by then....

If i can just make it through midterms....

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IMAGINE_IT 2/3/2011 8:54PM

    Glad to see that you are doing good..and having good results taking the supplements..and using the Hormone cream. Good Luck on your Mid terms! emoticon emoticon

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Day 4 - A Milestone

Wednesday, January 19, 2011

I've been working my food plan, taking the supplements, the Rx Vit D, and using the hormone cream....and wearing my CPAP. I have a slight cold, but I feel pretty good anyway, so I think when the cold is gone I'll feel GREAT. I don't need a nap when I get home, I can stay up past 9 pm without falling asleep and my appetite has definitely decreased - I'm not ravenous all the time.

Yes, I did have a slight rebound from 240 as predicted, but it was very small (0.4 pounds) and today when I stepped on the scale....

238.5. Lowest weight in probably a year.

Very encouraging to keep on keepin' on!

The work tension/drama is still unfolding, but I've been able to distance myself from it and most importantly, not eat over it.

All in all, very happy with how I'm feeling and that the weight actually seems to be coming off...but still feeling a bit cautious over that because I've tried so hard and so long...if I can get past the losing 20 pounds mark and KEEP losing? That will be a huge confirmation that all the doc said was right on regarding my hormones, insulin resistance and Vit D deficiency.

so sign me, cautiously optimistic....

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SPARKIE1964 1/19/2011 8:28PM

    Girlfriend, keep going...You can make it happen...

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TERRYT55 1/19/2011 12:04PM are below 240! I knew you could do it! Happy you are feeling better too. Take care.

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Day 2 - I've been here before...

Monday, January 17, 2011

Today's weigh in showed me at 240.5. 240 has been my "glass floor"...I get there, and I bounce up in weight, looking at my weight chart since Dec 1, it has been within a 7 pound range, never getting below 240. I haven't been below 240 in maybe a year? Even then, it was fleeting, bounced right back up into the 240s again - regardless of how hard I was trying.

According to the doc - this is the effect of the hormone imbalance, vit D deficiency and not eating in sync with having insulin resistance.

Okay. So, I'm working my plan. This week I am very motivated to hit as many of my streaks/goals as possible and see if the hormone cream, vit D and handfulls of supplements prescribed combined with eating according to the low glycemic eating plan I was given make the difference.

I feel hopeful...

I danced a solo last night for the first time in months. I avoid solos. There's no one to look at but me...and all my weight. I worry that the hard work I've put into learning technique will not be what's seen - but the weight is what will draw people's attention. I decided however, that for mulitple reasons, I have to put myself out there more. Am I a bellydancer or just a bellydance teacher now? I am a bellydancer! The next showcase is in April...and I look forward to performing a solo....and wonder if the pics will show a difference?

Lastly, today is facing coworker who has been talking dirt behind my back. HR wants a formal meeting rather than me just addressing her, because it has affected the entire department. Not sure if that's good or bad, but I'm trying to breathe and just remain true to myself.

Cross your fingers for me!

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SPARKIE1964 1/17/2011 7:40PM

    I'm stuck at a number on the scale for over 6 months which is frustrating. If I weren't here, though, the scale might have gone up. I know it will start moving again in the right direction and am learning to be patient which isn't my strength. I am confident that you WILL make it happen...

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TERRYT55 1/17/2011 3:38PM

    Congrats on dancing solo! I think it's a great idea to put yourself out there more and I really think people will see you, a lovely dancer, and not the weight.

I know you'll break through the glass floor and get below 240!

Good luck with HR and the co-worker. My stomach is in knots thinking about it. Breathing is a good way to handle it. Let me know how it goes.

Take care and have a great week, Terry

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