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Friday, June 15, 2012

This was a short work week for me, but man it seemed looong.

My goal this week was to track, to lower my carbs, and get my calories in check.

Looking back at my tracking this week, I AM managing to get my carbs lower overall. My calories daily are still always over - but not as bad as previously. Progress, not perfection, right?

There are bagels AND donuts downstairs in the break room. I had a 30 second war with myself about them. "one won't hurt" kind of thinking. Actually, yes, one will hurt. It will reboot the cravings again, and it will start the wheat bloat again that is finally back down after going off track a couple weeks ago. The donuts and the bagels? Not worth it. Not worth the insulin hike that makes me wanna nap under my desk...not worth the bloated belly that makes me look like a balloon about to pop....not worth the cravings where there's just not enough food to fill me up.

Just say no to the bread. some days this is easier than others - today (crossing my fingers) pretty easy.

More folks with health issues in my life, seems a little too abundant with that. Saying a lot of prayers and trying to just "be" with it. The Universe has a plan and I don't need to worry about it - whatever is supposed to happen will happen.

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EGALITAIRE 6/15/2012 2:37PM

    I hate it when the donuts are calling my name, a true Siren-song, deadly, but oh so tantalizing.

Good job on winning the internal debate.

Have a great weekend

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Running on Empty.....

Thursday, June 14, 2012

Really, I'm just tired. A largely sleepless night has left me bleary eyed and exhausted.

One of the doctors I work for had a terrible bike wreck and is in ICU - brain/head trauma, facial and rib fractures, on a ventilator after surgery to remove blood clots and pressure on the brain. Her prognosis is unknown. I think she's 54. A very active, vibrant woman.

Again this year, I'm reminded of the fragility of life....of how in 30 seconds, everything can change, whether it's an accident, a diagnosis, the loss of a loved one.

All we really have is the next beat of our heart, the next breath. Yet, we spend so much time worried about money, or status, or whose turn it is to do the dishes or take out the trash.

Yep, I'm maudlin...but 3 hours of sleep will do that.

So health wise, I've been avoiding wheat very well. Having a hard time with other "white carbs" like potatos and rice, but they aren't in excess. I'm working on being happy that I've avoided wheat so well this week and not beating myself up over a couple potatoes and a little rice.

That all or nothing thinking? It's responsible for part of my health issues. Learning to be more accepting of myself, enjoying the journey to health instead of making it all or nothing, is a better way for me to look at it.

I'm not weighing for awhile. I get too obsessed with the numbers and then I am ruled by the numbers, and I don't like that. I'm seeing some changes in my body, and I'll be measuring this weekend. The scale? Nope. Don't need it right now.

I've been doing a lot of interesting reading, thanks to suggestions from sparkers from other posts, thanks folks! Especially enjoying the Daily Apple.

Okay, I guess work isn't going to come to I better pry myself up and get going. Have a fabulous day, and enjoy every minute, cuz that's all we've got, the next minute.

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TERRYT55 6/14/2012 1:55PM

    I hope your friend mends is so fragile. I find the older I get the less I sweat the small stuff. I wish I'd learned this earlier in my life

I'm sorry you are having a rough time......I'll be sending positive thoughts your way!

Take care

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CHRISTINASP 6/14/2012 12:59PM

    I can relate to that feeling that life is so precious and we often forget to be aware of that enough.
Can also relate to how all or nothing thinking leads to... well, nothing, in the end, most of the time!

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KATCHAGIRL 6/14/2012 11:51AM

    Thinking about your friend and hoping she is ok.

You are so right about enjoying every moment, cuz you just never know what's around the corner. Scary, but true.

Screw the scale! LOL ;)

Have a WONDERFUL week!

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KEIKOS_MUM 6/14/2012 10:07AM

hope things get better for you

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KATIEGARCIA 6/14/2012 9:26AM

    I hope your friend heals quickly!! It is funny how life can change in the blink of an eye. Hang in there the weekend is almost here!!

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Back To Real Life!

Tuesday, June 12, 2012

I'm home from a huge bellydance weekend - had an awesome time!

One intentional wheat item - Sunday night we had to eat while judging and they brought me a club sandwich and I ate it gratefully, LOL. Other than that, I refrained and didn't have to deal with digestive problems, whew!

After reading Wheat Belly and thinking a lot about food, how it's been altered so far from it's original state etc, I noticed people's body styles more. There was one group who danced multiple times as soloists and then as a group. They had literally explosive performance energy! They were amazing - and they had practiced long and hard, so they didn't really even break a sweat on stage when they did this incredibly high energy routines (the only words I have to describe it are: Salsa Freight Train at 110 MPH). And as I watched them I thought, like me, these women should NOT be overweight. To practice the amount they MUST to be that good and that high energy, they really should be able to eat quite a lot of food and not be that heavy. So, yet again, I am convinced that the quality of our food is changing our bodies and not for the better.

I got a lot of great feedback on my performance, my partner said it was the best she's ever seen from me which was really nice. I haven't watched it yet, not quite ready.

I was pleased to see a plethora of amazing women who were out there ROCKING the stage - and just happened to be curvy women. If you think it's hard to put on a swim suit and go to the pool when you are overweight, imagine, just imagine, putting on a belly dance costume, stepping on a stage and being JUDGED. So those women? They are rock stars in my eyes!

Now, back to real life. Whew. :)

PS another plus, I got to meet my first Spark Friend from online! A sparker who bellydances, woo hoo!!! :)

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TERRYT55 6/12/2012 8:44PM

    Hi Lisa.....I'm so happy you had a great weekend. Cool that you got to meet a fellow SP friend. I can't wait to meet you this October. Take care and keep on dancing


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ANGELIA.R 6/12/2012 11:30AM

    Had a great time this weekend too!!! Was so sad that I couldn't stay and watch on Sunday *SAD* But hubby had to be home to get ready for work on monday~

I wish there was more time to chat!!! Drive by Hugging was great too! =)

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    Real life sort of sucks but it beats the heck out of real death! LOL

Make it a great day!

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Four-Day Weekend!!!

Friday, June 08, 2012

*Thank you, ever so much, for the very kind and supportive words yesterday, it means more than you can know.*

So, later today we're off to Belly Dancer USA - a longtime bellydance competition in Southern Oregon. My daughter will compete again, I'll judge categories, my partner will be her outgoing, funny self emceeing, I'll get to hang out with my oldest daughter who lives in the area, and I'll get to see, no kidding, around 100 of my closest friends, LOL.

Belly dance has brought me friendships that have lasted 30 years, many of them are our "Family of choice" - they replace the family we no longer have.

I'm DETERMINED to avoid wheat on this trip! I may not avoid sugar or potato stringently, but no wheat! I've been wheat free again for about 48 hours and I'm already starting to feel better - a spring in my step as it were - and I'm not going back!! I'm taking my raw almonds and stopping at a local store when we get close and getting my veggie packs, yogurt.

If you had told me I'd cut wheat out 6 months ago, willingly, I would have laughed in your face. I LOVE BREAD. I love to bake (hello, making cakes is a thing for me!). I've been addicted to bread my entire life.

That's the key I think, addicted. The things Dr. Davis writes about in Wheat Belly make so much SENSE to me...It gives me true hope. Yes, when I originally started this about a month ago, and I gave up wheat, I was dismayed that I didn't drop the weight people talk about the first week. In fact, I lost...nothing. But what I did notice? My belly began to .....


The fat - the firm adipose tissue of my significant belly - began to get softer, much less dense. I lost about 2 inches off my waist in 2 weeks! And I felt.. GOOD. I stopped needing to lay down after work for 30-60 min because I was sooooooo tired. Why did I go back, then you ask? Why eat wheat if I can see differences?

Um, well, it's a process. One, giving up your longest held addiction isn't easy, I was discouraged because I'd hoped for some immediate loss to cheer me on, and at the same time, my PCP was saying, "you really need a workup by an endocrinologist, I really think you need to be on metformin"....Between all that, I slid back into a lil wheat here and a lil wheat there.

After the disaster endo appointment, I knew - heck I knew sitting there listening to him drone on trying to sell me Medifast! - GO OFF THE WHEAT. Be patient. Enjoy FEELING GOOD again!

So, here I am. And...I'm not getting on the scale for awhile. Right now, the weight is sort of secondary to feeling good. If I feel good and have more vitality, more energy, heck with the scales. It will come in time.

As I jaunt off to see many sparkly people, LOL, and have a wonderful weekend, I'm truly motivated to Just. Say. No to WHEAT! (and over time getting more and more angry that everywhere I look I see "eat HEALTHY WHOLE GRAINS!!!" Thank you, thank you, for trying to kill us!)

I know, I'm rambling, but one more thing.....We watched X-Men the other night, and I was struck..the part where the nasty senator has been mutated, and he is getting sick and toward at his end, his body swells and he bloats up and then dissolves into a big puddle...that's how I've felt, that I was getting bigger and bigger, I had no control of stopping it, and I was going to develop into a huge blob and....explode. And I really, really, REALLY believe, if I kept eating those healthy whole grains....that's close to what would have happened to me, slowly and inevitably.

Now, so much to do! Have an awesome weekend Spark peeps!

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GRACEMCDOG 6/9/2012 12:06AM

    Have a blast, post pictures when you get back please. I was a cake queen, too. Many years of being an artisan baker, a pastry chef, a specialty cake maker...wheat was a HUGE part of my life and my creative expression and, yes, my identity...probably a bit like your dancing is for you. So, when I say that giving it up was SO worth it you can bet the advantages must be really great. And they are.

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GOPINTOS 6/8/2012 7:13PM

    I didnt lose alot either because we didnt eat all that much wheat to begin with. I had just started to when I started to try to lose weight, thinking it was good for me emoticon


Smile and Enjoy the Rest of Your Day!
Melinda (gopintos)
Wheat Belly Team

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ANGELIA.R 6/8/2012 12:08PM

    I need to make a sticker that say's WHEAT FREE! ahahahah!

Go for the potatoes! Iknow that i eat them on occasion, always cooked with BUTTER! NOM NOM NOM!

I'll see you this weekend! We're driving our redneck Limousine! =0 (yes, hubby's man truck).

I'm so thrilled to come this weekend that I'm not even nervous about my dr appt today! *YAY*

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EGALITAIRE 6/8/2012 11:44AM

    Have a great weekend. If it helps, you're not along in not losing weight immediately. I was at least 3 weeks before the scale moved, but I lost inches around my waist within a few days.

The Non Scale Victories are every bit as important as the weight - it's healthfulness, vitality, energy, and the ability to enjoy life we are after - as you say - the scale will take care of itself.

Stay Strong

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1CRAZYDOG 6/8/2012 11:20AM

    Have a good time.

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SUSIEQ911 6/8/2012 9:22AM

Have a great weekend!!!

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Voices from the past

Thursday, June 07, 2012

**This is not a weight loss journal entry. Those who only want to share that part of my journal may prefer to run along now. Come back tomorrow, and I'll post about that process. emoticon

I use this journal to chronicle my weight loss issues, but I've also written a bit about other issues in my life. I have Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder from childhood abuse. I have a child who has had mental health issues. I came out of the closet in 1998, after 14 years of marriage and 4 children.

Everything in our lives contributes to who we are. "That which does not kill us...." makes us...stronger. Crazy. it makes us a lot of things.

I broke off all relationship with my mother and her family about 10 years ago. Long story short: Her second husband was a pedophile, she agreed to participate/allow him access to me for financial security for herself. I was 5 years old and it continued for around 4-5 years...until apparently I got too old for him.

Ten years ago, I had a nervous breakdown. These are not "recovered" memories, unfortunately I've never forgot those things. I wish I could have. Rather, I pushed them as far back as I could into a taped up box in my mind and tried to pretend it didn't happen.

I was successful until I was about 32. Then suddenly, I couldn't NOT think about it. Barraged by constant images, sounds, smells, and memories. Once the faucet of memory was turned on....I couldn't shut it off. I lost about a month of work, and it took a good year of therapy and hard work to return to a "normal" life.

At that point, I chose to break off relationship with my mother. She has refused to admit responsibility, saying only, "it wasn't my fault". I could no longer have relationship with her if she couldn't admit her responsibility. That meant, I broke off relationship with her entire family - because they'd spent their entire lives protecting Rosemary - even when it meant turning their head when I went to some of them as a child.

People don't understand. "But that's your MOTHER!" Of course, they don't want to hear WHY I don't have relationship with my mother. It's uncomfortable.

My mother's family has begun a campaign to try to get me to see my mother. Her health is failing badly, and she likely is not long for this world. They found me through the internet and my dance website and have begun emailing me with pleas to see her.

Just the few emails this last week - it's brought so much roiling through me again. One aunt urged me to forgive....and I realized, mostly, i have forgiven my mother. For one, I know now she was profoundly mentally ill her entire life (another long story I won't go into). She made a terrible decision to not protect me. Perhaps I even forgive that.

But that doesn't mean I can have relationship with her. That doesn't mean I can see her.

as far as I'm concerned, the mother who loved and protected me died in 1970, when she married a pedophile and chose to not protect me. The person who is dying now....I'm sorry, but I can't see her. My own sanity and well being has been too hard won. I've built stability and sanity in my life. I simply can not open the door to crazy again.

Will I regret not seeing my mom before she dies? I don't believe so. Frankly, I've been grieving the loss of my mom for about 10 years now. Will it be hard when I finally hear that she is gone? Yes, I know it will.

Today's entry was brought to you by post-traumatic stress disorder, dysfunctional families, and the never ending quest to just keep trying to be the best person I can be.....

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KELLYDRESCHER 6/12/2012 9:34AM

    If you haven't seen the movie "Precious," I don't recommend it to you as your story very much reflects the story of the movie/book. That said, there was a profound moment when Precious hears her mother out, decides her mom will always blame her, stands up and walks out. It takes guts, and you did that.

Forgiveness is not forgetfulness... forgiveness is ceasing punishment. It sounds like you are trying to stop punishing yourself for something that was never your fault to begin with. Wrap yourself in love, and when you can't do that, be with those who will do it for you.

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GRACEMCDOG 6/7/2012 5:16PM

    While I do believe that being able to forgive and find compassion/ and empathy within ourselves for those who have hurt us deeply is a very healing and positive thing to do for oneself, I also believe that there comes a point where loving and protecting self is critical to survival. People who don't have toxic parents can never understand, never FEEL what that's like anymore than those of us who do can ever really know what it's like to feel the protection of unconditional parental love. I've seen it. I know it exists but I will never know what it feels like. Neither will you. I'm happy to hear you say you are not tempted to expose yourself to more of the poison you endured. Some of us have to try to find and replace mother's love with friends and new families of our own making. Just because someone gives birth to you doesn't mean they have any right to destroy your life and your chance at happiness. I'm sorry your mother was unable to care for you properly but I'm glad to hear you're making progress and feeling strength in caring for yourself.
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ANGELIA.R 6/7/2012 12:41PM

    What is it about being in your early 30's that cause major issues with PTSD when it comes to bringing memories to the fore-front. I am currently going through this. In my case, my mom never knew and will never know. Its easier for me that way. I don't want her to feel guilty for something she had no control over.

I'm sorry that your family is causing so many issues. So many don't understand what its like to have those thoughts brought forward again after working SO HARD to put them in a safe place that wont cause issues on a regular basis.

Sometimes I wish there was a block button on parts of life.

Wishing you much strength!!!

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SUSIEQ911 6/7/2012 11:32AM


Sometimes the best thing we can do for ourselves is to distance ourselves from people who have caused us so much pain. I have no doubt I would have done the exact same thing you did.

I know it's hard to forgive, but it's so freeing. And I'm of the belief that it's not my job to judge. Her judgement time will come and only she can answer. Forgive and let it go. It's impossible to forget, I know, but I truly believe the time will come that she will have to answer why she didn't protect her child.

Bravo to you for putting this out there. I think it's good to share painful things sometimes. It not only helps us, but it may also help someone else.

Have a wonderful day!!!! emoticon

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EGALITAIRE 6/7/2012 11:31AM

    I appreciate your courage in sharing that. It sounds like you are continuing to come to terms with your past and to vigilantly protect the gains you've made in your emotional and mental health.

Sounds like you have thought through your position and come to the conclusion that best supports the most important person in this equation - you.

Stay Strong

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