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Stopping repeated negative thoughts

Thursday, October 30, 2014

The Power Of Positivity
If your struggling to fight off negative thoughts that keep occurring then remember the
five Sís:
1. Sense the negative thought creeping in. Watch your emotions come and go. If some emotion of feeling anxious, hurt, ashamed, angry or depressed lingers, then you are in danger of allowing your mood to cause even more negativity in your life.
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2. Stop this negative thought as soon as you sense it lingering. Refuse to let it linger any linger. Do something, for instance: counting to ten when angry helps calm the mind, putting a dance video on the computer and dance, phone a friend to discuss something other than your troubles such as going out jogging. Anything to take your mind off the negative thought
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3. Still the mind. Meditate on something to relax the mind for a moment. meditate or mentally picture someone you love or something that brings you happiness. Stilling your mind like this will help to calm your emotions.
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4. Shift to a positive thought. Choose your words carefully, Avoid the negatives. Think of how you would rather feel. A thought such as "I am fat and not losing weight soon enough" can be shifted to --I am still in the process changing my lifestyle for the good. It is about being a healthy and energetic person. People like me as I am. I am proud of the changes that I have made in my life. The holistic naturopathic approach, www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_mes
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, and other means that will come to my mind will allow me to reach my goals.--
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5.Smile! Smiling will turn your mind to past positive feelings of positivity, confidence and being back in control.

  
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STEVEN2GO2 10/30/2014 8:47PM

    This is a perfect blog for me today. With the change in weather, shorter day light hours and today being over cast I was feeling depressed. I decided a walk with music would improve my mood. When I feel depressed, listing to music, exercising and parayer helps me!

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COOP9002 10/30/2014 11:28AM

    good word.

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CHICAM 10/30/2014 11:05AM

    Love this, thank you for the strength you give me on this blog.

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FORZACHANDMATT 10/30/2014 10:51AM

    Love, love this - may make a little poster of it and hang it up for my whole family - thanks!

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1CRAZYDOG 10/30/2014 10:14AM

    Yes, it's all about consciously re-framing thoughts and dismissing that which is negative,

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PATTYKLAVER 10/30/2014 9:07AM

    Thank you. My positive thinking has been lacking lately.

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Turn negative thoughts into positive action

Wednesday, October 29, 2014

Experiencing setbacks and having stressful situations is a fact of life. In order to avoid feelings of being over whelmed by stress and to make positive gains, we first need to learn to look for the positive side of everything. The following is an exercise I got from the lawofattraction.com.

Step 1) Quickly jot down in a few words a problem that you currently face and your worry or fears about it. Don't look for the negatives, just simply write down why you view it as a problem. (e.g. I was given some work to do this week and now it is Wednesday, not much has been done because of procrastination and that means that I am unable to meet my goal of doing an excellent job)

Step 2) Now, re-read what you jotted down and rewrite just the facts of what you jotted down.
( e.g. I was given some work to do this week, I did some of it, and it is now Wednesday. I have the rest of Wednesday, Thursday and half of Friday to get it all done)

Step 3) Now, ignoring the facts of the problem, write out how you have interpreted the problem. (e.g. I am a bad procrastinator and cant do an excellent job because of it)

Step 4) Now rewrite a new more positive interpretation of the problem (e.g. I still have enough time to and will do a good job on the work by Friday. There is no need to procrastinate because my boss doesn't expect a perfect job. I am less of a procrastinator now and will continue to improve in that area)

Sometimes turning negatives into positives involves merely using positive wording to speak or think of the same fact situation. This helps to avoid focusing on the negatives.
Instead of saying or thinking "I shouldn't ...", which focuses on negative things or actions, say ---I will... --- and focus on positive actions., etc. Some examples are "Don't shout" could be --Will you speak more softly?--; "I don't want you to talk to me that way" could be --I would like you to speak to me more politely--; "Don't tell me what to do" could be -- I will be fine deciding for myself--; and "I'm not going to achieve that at this rate " could be "I can spend a little more time each week in order to achieve my goal" or --I will manage to achieve this later if not sooner--.
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CETANISTAWI 10/30/2014 3:07AM

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1CRAZYDOG 10/29/2014 9:32PM

    I like this!

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You can be organized now

Friday, October 24, 2014

You can be organized in no time. Decide now what is important in your life and what can be let go of to make room for what is important. As my tickler states: "Being organized is not about living according to other's expectations, rather it is about setting up a system that allows you to do more of what you are passionate about." Start now and set up a regular time to determine what are the 3 most important things to focus your tasks on, and make room by reducing the unnecessary. Allocate resources and time to them, and decide the easiest way to begin starting to work on at least one of them. It could be just setting up a dream board so that your attention is focused daily on what is important to you.
For 68 years until recently, I always lived with a speech defect since I didn't respond well to therapy. I started reading about the law of attraction and how one is what he thinks; I now realized that I have been living with the unnecessary hardship of negative thoughts. I have to turn negative thoughts into positive thoughts and work on improving my diction. I just started speech therapy again and plan to devote both time to my health and as much time (or more) to improving my diction by working under the guidance of a speech therapist. I am going to overcome my speech problems and speak to a big audience in my church by next June. The topic will be something like living for and developing your passions.

  
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WOUBBIE 10/25/2014 2:25PM

    Great ideas!

I think FlyLady has hit the nail on the head with the idea of making the repetitive drudgery of daily tasks into "routines" that you develop to be as simple and doable as possible for you personally to do, but are totally non-negotiable. Then you find that you just make-the-bed-do-the-dishes-wipe-the
-counters-plan-the-dinner etc. without real thought. It's just some stuff that you do while your mind is busy thinking about more important things. You don't have to remind yourself to tie your lace-up shoes when you put them on. It's part of the putting-them-on process. Same thing with a lot of other tasks we routinely put off.

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2BDYNAMIC 10/25/2014 2:11PM

    How wonderful! ...... I agree about the organization. We are planning to move sometime after the first of the year so we are starting now (two weeks ago) by sorting and getting rids of the excess .......... it is so cathartic but have begun to box stuff up, label and organize neatly in the garage. One room is totally done and it is such a good feeling!
THEN when we move, we plan to keep things organized, and simple, NO clutter! emoticon Time to change and when any of us put our minds to it, we CAN do it!! Best wishes to you!

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NELLJONES 10/25/2014 8:10AM

    Speech therapy really can work. Be sure to do the homework they give you. You'll be amazed!

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MISSUSRIVERRAT 10/25/2014 7:40AM

    What a wonderful plan, attitude, and goal. Love the way you arrived at a passion and are focusing. Cheering you on !!! emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 10/24/2014 7:57PM

    Wishing you every success!

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Fighting the urge to break a healthy habit

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

The main reason we break a habit (especially if its a new habit) is that it can be easy to switch to a different task (or contrary old habit) and then not be able to return to doing the habit. This is because of lack of focusing on the positive aspects of following the habit such as having a wonderful, wholesome life rather than the habitís negative aspects (the amount of effort required, doubt about whether the habit can succeed or its worth, a feeling of being overwhelmed with too many other things, or any other uncomfortable feeling that can arise when doing the habit).

What we need to do is to mindfully set our intentions for the habit before we even get started on it, so that we can stick with the task of doing it whenever the urge of breaking it occurs. Every time before working on a task associated with the habit, think of the main reason you have for doing the task. Also note that others like you have likely faced the same challenges as you and still succeeded. Believe in the statement "with God's help (or other powers that will come to you if have enough faith) you can eventually succeed in sticking to the healthy habit. Think of the good will come about when you succeed and envision your success. Make space in your life for success in the habit. Discard things not necessary or contrary to the habit. Always repeating to your self and to others "I can overcome any obstacle and succeed in (this habit) because it is right for me" over and over usually works. This is part of what is called "setting intention". This intention will then flavor every moment of doing the task ó youíll be more mindful as you do the task, and therefore be less apt to get distracted from doing the habit. Setting intention for a habit makes it less of a chore more of a bundle of love.

Some good examples of intention you might set before doing a task are: (1) to help others or make the lives of your loved ones better, (2) to be compassionate for others or for your own body or life, (3) to be happy, have fun or enjoy life, (4) to improve your ability to practice mindfulness, patience, listening or learning, or (5) to improve upon following a habit for an extended period to gain confidence and trust in your ability to stick with your decisions until they absolutely become meaningless. I found that the intention of being an aid to (or a good example for) my love ones and others works best .

Sometimes a habit with good intentions set ends by not beginning or continuing the habit on a given day due to procrastination. Itís the lack of starting on a given day that kills most habits even though they are well intentioned. How do you start something that you are tempted to put off until later because doing the habit is hard? By setting a time for it ahead and making it easy to start. Gather and set up things needed for the habit beforehand, then set a time to start by doing at least a minute of the habit. Focus by planning at first simply start a task required to begin the habit and then doing the habit for at least 5-15 minutes or for whatever time you can. If you start the habit but end up being distracted and not spending the time planned for the habit, don't give up. Simply note the distraction or distractions and plan your next time with the idea of not letting those distractions get in the way of doing the habit. Make it even easier to begin and stick with the habit. Just do one minute. If thatís too hard, just do 20 seconds. Thatís so easy you canít say no. If you want to go beyond the 20 seconds, keep going. If not, do another 20 seconds after youíve finished with the distraction. If you find yourself still delaying, stop what youíre doing. Get up, walk around, take a deep breath. Then think about what youíre doing, and whether this is the person you want to be. Still want to do the habit? Then plan ahead to start again, and see yourself overcoming all distractions by limiting them and starting the habit simply and easily as possible even if it is to be the next day.

How to keep distractions from interrupting a habit? By connecting the habit to a more important purpose and noting that the world will not end if you just record the distractions as something that should be ignored or done at a later time. For example, you could tell others ahead of time that you plan on doing the habit at a certain time and not to interrupt you then unless it was a very pressing matter. Then when interrupted by a distraction, don't act on the distraction immediately unless it is critical. Simply note it and plan to address it later. If its someone asking for attention, you might tell them that you are busy now and to wait a moment. If it is a strong urge to break a good habit, tell yourself that you can ignore it for the next five minutes even if you know that the urge may become stronger, then watch the urge become even stronger but note that that the mere watching of the urge reduces its power or importance over the habit. By shining a light on the urge, one can generally see that it is not as powerful as the intentions manifested by the habit and that the world can wait as you stay with the habit.

Sometimes though, it is important to give a few minutes or more to resolve a distraction; that's life and it is to be expected. Its part of being mindful of what is the most important matter, what will give you the most happiness for the long run. Having love and compassion for yourself and others is of great importance and will give yourself the greatest happiness. Being happy and appreciative of the things in life is the strongest motivation to keep a healthy habit.

  
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LILSUZY1057 10/22/2014 8:48PM

    Thank you for your advice!

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2BDYNAMIC 10/21/2014 4:52PM

    Very emoticon and I am going to come back and read again ............... thanks for sharing! (I use my timer a lot too) It helps!

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STEPBYSTEP1955 10/21/2014 1:36PM

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WOUBBIE 10/21/2014 11:48AM

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First and foremost I think we need to make our new habits "doable", or, at the least bit of inconvenience we'll balk at doing it.

And you have to periodically check back to make sure it's STILL doable as your circumstances change. I try to make it easier to follow the good habit I want to learn than to slip back into the old one. Willpower is limited, routines are more stable.

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1CRAZYDOG 10/21/2014 9:51AM

    Excellent advice! I use my timer all the time -- it helps make achieving that goal REAL. I have an appointment w/myself and I'm going to keep it!

Thanks.

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Key to developing your talents

Thursday, October 16, 2014

I'm keeping on course by following a caloric 30% protein, 30% carbs, and 40% healthy fats diet and by exercising at the YMCA. I take care of my health and mind.
Every day is a day to succeed at making right choices, and thus making improvements.
I enjoy my victories, no matter how small. The key to doing things right is study, planning, practice, but always with moderation and balance.

  
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LILSUZY1057 10/17/2014 5:18PM

    I so agree with you. Knowledge, setting goals, rewarding yourself for even small achievements and follow through are all important ingredients of success!

More power to all of us!

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PATTYKLAVER 10/17/2014 5:46AM

    I love that you are doing so well. Now to learn from you...

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BARB4HEALTH 10/16/2014 4:13PM

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1CRAZYDOG 10/16/2014 10:49AM

    Sounds very similar to my regime. I'm feeling good too and have maintained my 100 lb. weight loss this way.

KUDOS to taking care of yourself!

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