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2 Big Announcements

Tuesday, April 15, 2014

The first is that I am finally officially a trainer at Anytime Fitness, Ishpeming, MI. I can't totally explain why I needed to see my picture up on the wall in order to accept that I am actually a trainer but I guess I did. Maybe it is simply the fact that while so much of what has happened was verbal, this is physical, real. I can see it and touch it. It is a confirmation of what has happened and that it is no longer a plan or a goal, it is now a reality, and that is a game changer.

My pic and bio is the one on the lower right.



The BIO text on the poster reads:

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My name is Robert Wadhams and I am excited to be a part of the Anytime Fitness family.

I started my weight loss journey at 385 pounds. I slowly started making small changes and as the weight came off, I began to take on bigger challenges such as cycling and jogging. One day, my trainer suggested that I participate in a local Turkey Trot. I felt such a sense of joy and accomplishment when I crossed the finish line.

Since that first race in 2009, I have lost over 110 lbs, participated in numerous half marathons and a full marathon. I taught myself how to swim, finished a sprint triathlon and the Teal Lake Swim (2.25 miles). Then in August 2013, I crossed the line of my first 70.3 mile triathlon in Wisconsin Dells.

On this on going journey I have learned not to wait until some magic moment before you pursue your goals. I followed my dream and became certified through the Road Runners Club of America as an adult distance running coach, obtained an ACE specialty certification in weight management and am currently working on becoming a certified personal trainer.

Through running and endurance sports I have found the courage to begin and the will to finish. I am always eager to share my passion with new runners through the Couch To 5k program. Come join me and let's reach our goals.

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I have another presentation scheduled for May 5th and the Couch To 5k program kicks off May 12th with a presentation and beginning runners clinic. I have some pretty clear goals in mind.

1) Finish my trainers certification this year.
2) Start ACE Health Coach certification
3) Start weight loss support group at the fitness center
4) Pursue a kettlebell instructor certification and do one on one kettlebell training.

May take a couple years to pull it all off but I am pretty consistent and motivated so no worries... I'll get there. I have a knack for making things happen :) just keep at it one step at a time and even if you only study two or three pages a day because things got busy, always do something to keep some momentum toward your goal.

I am making friends at the fitness center. Here is a pic after doing a very hot and sweaty step aerobics class... btw... a word about step aerobics... it's a great workout / balance training activity. I started out bumbling and feeling awkward too, don't let that stop you. I still bumble and stumble.. proof positive that white guys have no rhythm. I finally found something tougher than walking and chewing gum (can't seem to do that either).

- group selfie after class :)

The second announcement is that I am going to be at the Spark Rally in Indianapolis, IN August 23rd and will be doing an approximately 20 min presentation.

I have always wanted to go to a function like this and have checked out the pics from previous years and felt that it would be so cool to mix and mingle with so many like minded people and share inspiration. Well, here is my chance.

It is really tough to get time off where I work and I work through most of my weekends anyway on rotating shifts. Needless to say the social life takes a hit. Add in being in a semi-remote location and things like this really don't line up for me. I had that block of time scheduled for vacation because the slot was open and fell on the weekend of half marathon trail run I really want to do. When Beth (~Indygirl~) told me the date of the event, it rung a bell, I checked, and Shazam :) Needless to say, to race for me....

.. Off to make my reservations....

Keep it EPIC everyone :)



Friend me on Facebook.. :)
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DRKPKING 4/17/2014 9:22PM

    Congrats to you!

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ACTIVE_AT_60 4/17/2014 8:14PM

    What half marathon? Is that the Mini - Indi? Tell beth I will be in Indi for the 24 hr of booty bike ride.

'reservations' ... I thought it was called appointments ha ha ha (you know what I am referring to)

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HAWKTHREE 4/17/2014 7:13PM

    This is great. I can't help but think you'll be such a great teacher because of your own experience.

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DAISYPETAL 4/17/2014 6:25PM

    How REFRESHING to see a guy that is going strong and so proud of his accomplishments. Believe me, I bet all of us are so proud of you. It takes so MUCH determination to even do one thing great per day. And look where you are. You look wonderful. I hope life keeps this momentum for you and I am sure it will carry you through to help many others just as Indygirl, Beth has done. You are both remarkable. Good luck and keep going. Jude

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2UIWILLBE 4/17/2014 5:49PM

    YAY!!! So happy for you! Happy for your success! Keep up the great work.

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KAMMYJO3 4/17/2014 5:42PM

    YOU ARE A TRUE INSPIRATION!!!!

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WALNUTT1961 4/17/2014 3:47PM

    Wow! That is awesome!

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    Congratulations! What an inspiration you are!

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    emoticon AWESOME!! Congratulations on making your dreams a reality.


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MBEEMOM 4/17/2014 10:01AM

    Congratulations! You have made remarkable accomplishments during your journey. You will be a fantastic and inspirational role model at Anytime Fitness. They are lucky to have you on their staff! May the blessings continue endlessly for you!

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MOODYKEYS 4/17/2014 8:31AM

    emoticonwow hope one day I can say I have accomplished as much as you have. great job.

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    emoticon Absolutely fabulous! Very inspirational.

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2WHEELER 4/17/2014 8:26AM

    Congratulations! Many at the gym will be inspired by your story and set goals that they previously never thought possible. You're making a difference in your life and in many others.

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    emoticon What an inspiration on a morning I have the blahs. Thanks for sharing and you will be my first friend that I add here! emoticon

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    Congratulations. Well done.

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MARYJEANSL 4/16/2014 6:45PM

  Good for you! Awesome!

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  Your enthusiasm comes flying right off the page!!!!! emoticon on all of your accomplishments and emoticon for all you still hope to conquer.

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    emoticon Congratulations to you! emoticon

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NONNAOF2 4/16/2014 3:20PM

  Robert, you have come so far and look at you now!! What wonderful accomplishments you have made for yourself! I am so proud of you!! Congratulations, what a great role model!! :-)

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SUSIEMT 4/16/2014 2:34PM

    WooHoo you Robert! Congrats on the certification and being on the docket for the Indianapolis Rally! Unfortunately I will not be able to be there but will make sure I read your blog about it! And Beth's also!

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SHERYLP461 4/16/2014 2:32PM

    Wonderful!

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SCRAPBECCA 4/16/2014 1:58PM

    Awesome on both counts!

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IAMAGEMLOVER 4/16/2014 1:10PM

    You are such an inspiration. I lost the weight yes, but didn't become a trainer or run marathons. emoticon

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    emoticon You should be proud, I know your Sparks friends sure are. emoticon

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    You are emoticon emoticon on all your achievements. Keep 'em coming!! emoticon

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DDOORN 4/16/2014 9:53AM

    Such AWESOME accomplishments you've been racking up! Thx for your ongoing inspiration!

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DIANNEMT 4/16/2014 9:45AM

    I do wish you were closer--I need a running coach!! DD3 is at MTU--you ARE in a remote area!! LOL

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SEABREEZE64 4/16/2014 9:37AM

    Congratulations. I am sure you will help and inspire many at Anytime Fitness.

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FIT4MEIN2013 4/16/2014 9:36AM

    Exciting news all around. Heading to FB to friend you now!

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Oreo The Shelter Kitty Comes Home

Sunday, April 06, 2014


There were a number of my Sparkfriends that wanted to see pictures of my new shelter kitty. I did one better and made a video of my babys first week home. I love my kitty and he now has a forever home.

Enjoy

**BTW.. since this was filmed, Oreo and the other kitty-Mookie are now getting along much better...it's fragile cease fire but I'll take it. :)





It takes a while to load a video on Sparkpeople. If you don't want to wait for it to finish loading, you can see it on You Tube here...
youtu.be/4XZFOs-HjGU

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2WHEELER 4/17/2014 8:32AM

    That's one happy cat! I love those big beautiful eyes. Miss my kitty--had to find it a new home when I got married.

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    Too Cute!!

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    Totally awesome!!

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    Thank you for adopting a shelter kitty, Robert. You're a good, good man. emoticon

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    What a cutie!!

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  What a cute kittie! My cat Pepper says hello.

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    Congratulations! My gray tuxedo cat, Rocky, means the world to me. emoticon

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    Totally adorbs!
I love my kitties....they are the best! (all mine have been strays!)
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4RASCALS 4/8/2014 7:19PM

    Oreo's so cute, & got a awesome home. Mookie & Oreo will have their little spats from time to time but will grow to be best buddies. I know I have four strays that I took in.

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    Soooo cute! Thank you for sharing!

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    Every kitty deserves a good home. It looks like your kitty is a good addition to your home and life!

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AMARILYNH 4/7/2014 3:15PM

    Love it! Our Boudreaux was a rescue too - they make great pets!!

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    Great to see your blog featured in the Spark Mail.

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JCMSMILE 4/7/2014 1:06PM

  So adorable!! All of our kitties were "found" (wandered into the backyard and found a forever home). I do miss them!!

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NONNAOF2 4/7/2014 12:54PM

  I love it when people adopt from a shelter! Oreo is absolutely adorable!! We had two Calico cats and they lived for over 20 years!! They always brought a sense of joy into our households and were truly part of our family!! :-)

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JSEATTLE 4/7/2014 12:26PM

  I love cats! I love Oreo and Mookie. Soon they will be best friends.

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    sweet!

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    Thanks for sharing, and thanks for providing Oreo a new forever home.

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    Glad Oreo has a good "furever" home, and I even happier Oreo and Mookie are starting to get along. I was starting to feel sorry for Mookie.

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    Great video! Well done! More importantly though -- Handsome cat! Congratulations on being a rescue hero! He'll have a great home with you! emoticon

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JESVARNER 4/7/2014 8:54AM

    Welcome home to your new fur-kid! He's lucky to have a wonderful forever home! Hopefully Oreo and Mookie adapt to each other and become friends soon!

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LAC936 4/7/2014 8:48AM

    What a pretty cat; many years of happiness and enjoyment.

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  He's a cutie pie!

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DIANNEMT 4/7/2014 7:43AM

    As grandma to 3 cats, enjoy yours!!

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    What a sweetie! Congratulations on Oreo's homecoming and the tentative cease fire, lol!

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Think Emotional Eating Is Only For The

Friday, April 04, 2014

Think you are weak because you reach for food when stressed out? ... Guess again.

I had a fantastic thought this morning that I just had to share before I head out. In survival training, they taught us the "Rule Of Three" in prioritizing needs.

You WILL die if you go more than...
3 minutes without air
3 hours without shelter
3 days without water
3 weeks without food

- And that depends GREATLY on the circumstances... times could be drastically shortened depending on the environment.

That said, what is the FIRST thing people think of when they are lost?...Uh Oh, what am I going to EAT? (second place is OMG! how will I charge my phone?) -but I digress...

According to the list, food is at the bottom. So long as you can still breathe, your first priority is to set up shelter immediately lest you perish from exposure but yet we think about eating. That is why chocolate bars and sweets are included in survival kits. They are easy calories and they reduce psychological stress levels and that helps manage emotions in a survival situation...Wow, and to think that some meatheads say that comfort eating is purely psychological, a crutch for the weak or doesn't truly exist. Comfort eating is embedded DEEP in the biology of EVERY human being, it only takes the right stimulus to bring it to the surface. It is a "knee jerk" reaction

The first thing they tell you in survival training is to stop, assess your situation, and manage your emotions. Why? because even with the best training, panic kills. Loss of emotional control leads to irrational thinking in a situation where every decision can be life or death.

Your most important tool you have in your kit is between the ears.

Translation?

The key to success is not simply calories in and calories out. While this matters, the FIRST rule of weight loss survival has to do with emotional stability and keeping a clear head.

For years I have been digging to get to the bottom as to why I have enjoyed a measure of success this time while the other times were "false starts" I now concretely know why. Because I changed from the inside out. Studies generally show that only a minority truly have a metabolism that prevents weight loss... sorry, that's just science. I have been told by other members of our family that "we have a slow metabolism... that's why we are overweight.." Sorry, calling BS on that. My problem is glandular... I have an overactive mouth gland.....and emotional issues that stimulate it.

The two biggest reasons I have enjoyed a measure of success... I say measure because I am not a goal weight yet...

1) I did something that brought out the best in me.. I trained and raced. It boosted my self confidence, something that was desperately lacking. I needed to remind myself that I am not a failure and that I am strong. The emotional strength that came from taking on big challenges and seeing them through no matter what has done more to enhance my journey than any singular thing I can think of. Like a submarine, you have to have sufficient strength on the inside first before you will achieve any significant DEPTH.

2) I cured myself of scale-itus. This disease is fatal. The panic brought on by normal fluctuations on the scale has killed more journey's than any other thing I can think of. Fail to fix this and you will die of exposure. Scale freak-outs destroy motivation and momentum. Take the time to learn WHY it is fluctuating and understand what makes your body tick. Ignorance is not bliss, it is deadly. Every "gain" is not necessarily fat and fat is all that really matters in the end. Be offended if you wish but this is truth. Having observed many over a LONG period of time, I have concluded that no one succeeds long term while still being driven by scale panic, they emotionally go in circles like someone lost in the woods. Master it and live.

3) Getting to the bottom of what is really causing pain. All I can say is that this is a never ending process for me. Therapy, talking to a friend, blogging, it all helps to get it out there. Once it's out there, it really seems to help. Problems have a way of becoming solutions when exposed.

Add in the stresses of daily living, deadlines, family matters, etc... and you can be bathed in fight or flight hormones on a daily basis. That is a potent mix.

I truly believe that the key to long term success goes far beyond the do's&don'ts. It lies in the heart.

Find something that makes you strong and helps reinforce your personal strengths. Find ways to cope with scale obsession, don't just toss it in closet and think that the problem is solved. Face it head on, learn about your body and figure out why you are defining yourself by a number. Look for other ways to measure progress and success. Remember, statistics show that successful "losers" define their weight by a range rather than a number because they understand that that is going to fluctuate.

Keep asking yourself why until you get an answer, then get to work on it.

See you in the winners circle.


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    Good words. Thanks

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SLIMLEAF 4/10/2014 9:19AM

    You make a good point there Robert. Thanks for sharing it.

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LEWILL1982 4/9/2014 11:09AM

    As usual, you rock! I'm ready to throw out my scale :-) My clothes and my work outs are a much better indicator. I need to remember the rule of 3's when I'm sitting at work, thinking I'm hungry....

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ROMANTILLY 4/8/2014 9:03AM

    Love the blog. Thanks for the uplifting messages.

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    Thanks!

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SNOWBECH 4/7/2014 6:34PM

    Great food for thought. I love how you put into words what I was thinking.

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  Nice positive attitude,

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MAGGIEVAN 4/7/2014 3:53PM

    Thanks for sharing. There are some good ideas here.

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MYLIBERTY 4/7/2014 2:55PM

    emoticon Talk about food for thought. I really appreciate your thoughts on survival. I never quite thought of survival skills along with losing weight, but weight loss for me and dare I say most of us is a survival issue. I am keeping a copy of your blog entry to refer to from time to time. Being an emotional eater myself, I can use it to help me.

If you read my blog entry "What happened" you will see that I have stopped losing weight and why. I can see by what you have written that if I just sit back and enjoy the weight that I have lost, but have to continue you on or I will be at risk of losing my chance of survival.

Again, thanks for your blog entry.

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JAYDEE16 4/7/2014 9:55AM

    You've made so many excellent points in this blog and I appreciate your no-BS approach! This is truly deserving of being a featured blog! Congrats!

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LADYJAZMANA 4/7/2014 6:04AM

    This resonated with me - it's only when I discovered my love of dancing which boosted my self confidence that I felt empowered enough to change my eating habits permanently. Well written!

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    You really put things in perspective. I like that! emoticon

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MJEFFERSON23 4/7/2014 1:24AM

  Interesting! Sometimes we just have to reprogram ourselves.

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KOMTRIA 4/6/2014 9:46PM

  emoticon Even though the need for food is down on the survival list when emotional eating is triggered I "feel" like it is life threatening not to eat. My feelings lie and I only loose weight when I can counter with the truth.

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PROVERBS31JULIA 4/6/2014 8:46PM

    There are times I think I would like to be in a comfortable "cave" (a motel 6 will do!) and be without the food for three days to a week etc to fast & draw nearer to facing the issues within... Draw closer to my Creator, find my vision...

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SUPERPSYCHED30 4/6/2014 4:31PM

    Great Blog. I am working on addressing my emotional "drinking" issues and hope to overcome them

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PJB145 4/6/2014 4:18PM

    I truly enjoyed this. It has a lot of truths and I enjoyed learning the rule of 3's. Great blog. Glad it was featured in my email.

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TICKLESGR8 4/6/2014 3:18PM

    Great blog post!!! Thank you so much for sharing. A lot of what you said struck me and I've printed it this post out and pasted it on the bathroom mirror. Thanks so much for your openness!

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    Glad your blog was featured - otherwise I would have missed it. The messages were very well said. emoticon

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BHENDRICK2 4/6/2014 3:00PM

    scale panic is one of my worst enemies it causes me to panic and react in a negative manner

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WEGENERCS 4/6/2014 2:14PM

    Yep, you said it. I read it. Now, I will do it!

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BESWRS 4/6/2014 1:31PM

    This was an AWESOME bog and truly what I needed to help me get motivated. Thank you so much for sharing this.
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    emoticon blog! emoticon I was guilty of scale panic when I first started my weight loss journey, but now I look for other ways to measure success. Like how my clothes fit! That is a big indicator of progress! Also, how my body feels. If I have eaten badly during the week, then my body will let me know!
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NYCALIGIRL 4/6/2014 11:58AM

    wow truly a great perspective on life and everything all around. Such a great blog post thank you!

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FEBECG 4/6/2014 11:03AM

    "....statistics show that successful "losers" define their weight by a range rather than a number because they understand that that is going to fluctuate. ..."

THANKS so very much for sharing this! I'm changing my lifestyle for the first time in 55 years. I"m eating less, moving more and it's showing. Spark people and my own strong desires to change and be the best I can be are making it happen.

I get crazy with the scale. On and off it all day long. Freaking when it goes up, celebrating the downward slide, slow, steady, as it should be.

Aiming for a number that I want to be, well, no more. Your statement that I began with makes so much more sense to me. I'm going to now aim for a range, between this and that and I'll be happy.

I never really dieted, or read blogs much, but I'm so over joyed a friend shared Spark with me in Jan.-- It, and the people within are helping me on this journey I am so enjoying. Thank you for being apart of it!

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    Insightful!

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RACEWELLWON 4/6/2014 9:48AM

    I agree with most of your points here on this blog - except metabolism - slow metabolism is an issue with thyroid conditions - fast or slow - and that's a fact - have Medical Degree, will not dispute however , it is possible to reconstruct your enzymes/metabolism by consuming the correct foods - - its no longer an excuse to lose with slow metabolism as it can be corrected through research and action- as I myself have hypothyroid which slows down metabolism but have in time with research and action lost 120 pounds - so yes it can be done but it is a real medical condition and not BS for everyone .

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NESHAMA123 4/6/2014 8:23AM

    Thanks for your well written and totally insightful blog. A great way to start my day today.

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    Awesome blog and great tips!

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    What a great blog! Thank you!
And yes, I've had scale-itis for a long time -
I am, however, trying to get over that !

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  You write like a professional. This was a tremendous blog.

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    Loved the blog!

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Journey To The Root Of The Problem...

Wednesday, April 02, 2014


This journey is far more than simply losing some unwanted pounds. I was emotionally battered and I didnít even realize it, since I had developed so many unhealthy coping mechanisms. I would eat to suppress and then simply laugh it off. My usual reaction after walking away from the buffet with yet another heaping plate was to shrug it off and, with a laugh, say, "Oh well, diet starts tomorrow!" or " I'm defeating anorexia one egg roll at a time". Behind the smile and jovial sense of humor was someone who has lost touch with himself in a really big way.

So many times when I was working out, I would have emotions that would erupt from out of nowhere. I would feel like I was on the verge of tears, some repressed emotion from some past hurt was surfacing. I found myself taking laps in anger and it boiled over to where I would be acting out a confrontation with someone while walking, angrily grumbling to myself. That was a form of hostility and hidden resentment that was trying to get out. I had to give my heart what it was looking for - some much needed release and resolution. I needed to recognize what was happening and submit to the process.

It took a long time, but I am convinced that self-introspection and dealing with the issues is one reason I lasted as long as I did. You may put out the flame, but if the coals are still burning, the fire will re-ignite when the right fuel is applied. What I thought was going to be yet another attempt to lose weight became a transforming, inward journey. This, I believe, is where so many fast track ways to weight loss totally fail. This is strictly my opinion but it seems that people that strip off weight fast rarely get to the root of the cause. It takes time to work through the issues. For me, the weight was an outward sign of an inward problem.

Sometimes it hurts and, when food has been used to soothe inner pain, the process can be threatening. After living a life of avoidance, it was difficult for me to face issues. Like a boil, it would come to the surface until, one day, it was lanced by confrontation. The resulting tears were cleansing to the soul.

I have found that when the feelings come, let them come with all that they bring with them. Releasing myself emotionally has been a big part of putting out the fire that has been driving my binges. Unresolved anger, and anxiety can take on many forms and their origins are deceiving. I had to go through the uncomfortable process of confronting past hurts but it promoted the healing necessary to bring about a sense of resolution and stability.

I am convinced that attempts at losing weight when emotional eating issues are at work will be doomed to failure if this is not part of the process.


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    emoticon I could never say it that eloquently!

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EEKAMIGHTY 4/7/2014 6:41AM

  Wow. You said this greatly. You have deep insight and I can relate wholeheartedly.

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    Sounds as though you have thought this through!
Great blog!!!

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    Great blog!
Thanks!

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MARYJEANSL 4/5/2014 9:17PM

  I think you're probably right about that.

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BABAOF4 4/5/2014 3:15PM

  Well said. Need to really identify my hurts and how to deal with them and how to heal from them. Also my cluttered mind causes me to be a hoarder with much insecurity. I need help in many areas if my life.

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WRITERWANNAB 4/5/2014 1:18AM

   
It is especially meaningful to have a man speak so honestly & openly about his feelings. I know my emotions are the biggest problem with my eating. If we don't deal with the emotions, we will continue to lose & gain the weight over & over. emoticon

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  Good blog

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    I appreciate your blog. It is honest and hits home in so many ways. I agree that the emotion hurts that we endure and bury cause us lifelong injury. If we don't stop and face those hurts we can never really move forward and find true happiness, satisfaction and contentment. I am on this journey, it is slow, steep and has many pit falls but is very worth the end result. Every day is new. Some good days some rough but I am going forward and like you find at the end of the day it has been a good day. emoticon emoticon

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DUSTYPRAIRIE 4/4/2014 8:27AM

    This really hit home. Lately I have been self-sabotaging. I need to get out and away and do some soul-searching. Thank you for sharing your personal journey.

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NANCYTUNBERG64 4/4/2014 8:04AM

    Wow!!! This is sooooo true. Thank you for sharing!!

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WENDYANNE61 4/4/2014 5:18AM

    Thanks for the insight - yes, I have had fits of rage as I was slogging around the 5k track on a number of occasions! Now after a year of maintenance, I feel less anxiety and less distress when I am in stressful situations! The lhead-first dives into the cookie tin are easing up too! This journey is so much more than weight loss - for me it is about reclaiming my personality and learning to make some dreams come true!

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    Thank you for a wonderful, honest and heart felt blog.

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LIVELYGIRL2 4/4/2014 1:06AM

  That's really good you are addressing this and I hope things are coming together for you. This is so wise and you will become stronger for it.

I happen to think we can develop a better self image and how to deal with emotions and problems with God. That's just my opinion. emoticon

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KHALIA2 4/3/2014 11:54PM

  I enjoyed reading your blog. Keep up the good work!

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MRSQUARLES2 4/3/2014 10:58PM

    Hello Thank you so much for sharing. I feel your pain I am an emotional eater . Emotional eating is something we can overcome and go on to live a healthy life. I know emotional eating is something I will have to battle with all my life. The bottom line is your not alone in this world. Lots of people like myself battle emotional eating. Thanks again for sharing and my thoughts are with you. emoticon

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MISTYSMOM06 4/3/2014 9:03PM

    Too many of us have been emotionally abused, whether you were told that you wouldn't amount to anything or that you're fat and lazy. People don't realize it but words can and do hurt.

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    I am in total agreement! Thanks!

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    Thank you for your heartfelt, honest blog. It really hit home for me too. :(

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  You have made a really thoughtful and candid post. Thank you for sharing with us!

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TINAJANE76 4/3/2014 6:38PM

    Oh yeah, total stress and anxiety eater here! No diet in the world would have ever helped me keep the weight off if I hadn't been willing to roll up my sleeves and put in the hard work of addressing the reasons behind my overeating. I still turn to food occasionally when I get stressed or anxious, but not nearly as much as I used to. Developing healthier coping mechanisms that I can draw from has been a huge help, but I first had to identify my problem areas then take responsibility for and ownership of my physical and emotional health. Not easy, but it's made all the difference!

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    Great Blog. Thanks for sharing!
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    Thank you for sharing your story

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    I loved this post!!!

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DIANNEMT 4/3/2014 5:10PM

    Very true words--and a very hard thing to do....

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NEWTINK 4/3/2014 4:27PM

    I have learned this very lesson like you. And i believe as you do that is why so many fail because it has very little to do loosing weight but confronting why you were there to start with. Once you know that answer then you can make the life changes needed to take off the weight. emoticon

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PHOENIX1949 4/3/2014 4:04PM

    "It's not what you are eating, it's what is eating you." was on a refrigerator magnet I bought ages ago. Finally got around to seriously purging the stuffed emotions and still spewing at times. This is definitely hard work, yet necessary work! Thank you for wording this so well.

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NONNAOF2 4/3/2014 3:08PM

  I can relate to what you are saying, thank goodness that we are able to be aware of our eating patterns. You have excellent insight to your challenges and are doing great! You have worked so hard to accomplish all that you have done! Keep up the good work Robert! :-)

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    Thank you for being so open and sharing such important insight!

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SUSIEMT 4/3/2014 2:36PM

    Robert, for me that has been a major part of my journey! Some may never care to admit that but hopefully If they need it they will get the help they need!

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GINA180847 4/3/2014 2:11PM

    It is all so true, one has to allow the vulnerability to surface and be felt. That is not easy but it is slowly being done and in many ways. I just wish I had tacked all this much younger. Love you to bits Robert for always pointing the way.

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Behind Clark Kent Glasses

Friday, March 21, 2014

Life as an "in-betweener" is really a strange place to be. An "in-betweener" is someone who is between morbidly obese and goal weight. In general, "in-betweeners" and their accomplishments are typically dismissed by the world because in spite of losing a lot of weight, we still look like we just got off the couch. We don't have "the look"

I've gotten this a lot at doctors offices where they don't know me. I used to get offended when a medical professional would make comments about starting a basic exercise program or making simple changes in my diet to start losing weight without asking anything about my history.

Not any more.

Now I feel like I have a secret identity, known only to a few. A superhero behind Clark Kent glasses. On the outside I don't look like much, but on the inside....

There was a couple times I tied them up in knots with answers they were not expecting... Such as "I couldn't squeeze in my 30 min walk because I was in the middle of a 50 mile training ride...but I did keep it at or below VT1" or "I'll start in a couple days, I'm still sore from my half marathon"

I've gotten nicer though...

Now when I get such remarks I just smile... Because I know who I am even though the book has been judged by it's cover.

Sometimes office visits are quite affirming such as watching a nurse fuss with the instruments while taking my pulse because someone like me shouldn't have such a low resting heart rate.... Until I tell them about my endurance training.... and smile.

My happiness doesn't come from the externals. My happiness is the inner strength that comes from beating the odds. My obesity was very similar to credit card debt. It got to the point that it took on a life of it's own and the numbers were out of control.

I have fought and took my life back and refused to let myself be destroyed.

Today, I wear my "Clark Kent" glasses with pride.

The world does not define me because I know who I am.

I am an obesity survivor.

  
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JAYDEE16 4/7/2014 10:03AM

    This. Is. Flipping. Awesome. Have to admit I think they deserve the snarky responses. Might teach 'em something! :)

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  Great blog, thank you for sharing.

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LOLAINSC 4/3/2014 10:46AM

    The in-betweener stage can be so difficult, when you sees how hard and long you've worked and how far you still have to go, aargh. It can be very discouraging if you don't take the time to make an attitude adjustment and learn to view every little bit of progress as a major victory. You should have seen the Happy Dance this old lady did the day I got on the scale and found I had officially moved into "overweight."
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    Thanks for sharing.

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AGGIEKBEAR03 4/1/2014 2:50PM

    What a cool perspective on this. I have wondered myself if I "look" like I run half marathons to other people. I have to really try to not focus on that because I know what I have done. Thank you for your reminder!

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NDKARIKARI 3/30/2014 10:46PM

    WELL SAID!

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_MOBII_ 3/28/2014 12:51PM

    I love that you blogged about this! I never thought to put it in that perspective...having a secret identity.
I haven't really had the problem with doctors because I am always quick to bring up my efforts in the beginning because I am afraid of being judged, but i have noticed that I get some looks from sales people in athletic stores when I am shopping for jogging shoes, or when I mention walking or jogging to someone.
I never thought to have a secret identity though, I usually just let a not-so-nice phrase flit across my mind while I smile sweetly at them.
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CHRISTINABEAN2 3/28/2014 12:22PM

    And this is what makes you so bad*$$...Thanks for the add!
And for inspiring me to get up again and again.

As someone that inspired me to get off the couch and do something said to me, "Move Forward", "Live Your Life", (Kara Richardson-Whitely, 2010).
She wrote the book "Fat Woman on the Mountain...How I lost half of myself and found happiness" (2010).

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REDSASSENACH 3/27/2014 9:59AM

    I went to a weight loss doc & dietician in early February, and had to fill out massive amounts of paperwork beforehand about my habits and personality. The doctor came in with my paperwork, sat down and starting in on the same kinds of comments. Those damn judgments that I've heard from other doctors, the ones that have made it so I gave up on asking for help from them for about 4 years.

Of all the assumptions that they've thrown at me, the one that bothered me the most was after we got all the data back from my testing and it showed that I have 9 extra pounds of muscle on me than I should for my frame. She dismissed it and said it's NOT because I've been lifting weights or working out, it's because of carrying around my body weight. But. BUT. I HAVE been lifting weights, and running... for YEARS. I can FEEL the muscles that I didn't have 10 years ago. At least SOME of that 9 lbs is because of my work, not all because I'm heavy. I thought that was really crappy to discount it so quickly.

But where it really made me mad before, THIS time, I'm hitting it hard. I'm doing exactly what they say. Even if she's too intense and gets up in my face and made me mad the first visit. It'll either WORK, and I'll learn something and get to where I want to be... or it WON'T work, and it'll be interesting to approach it from the "even a WEIGHT LOSS doc couldn't help me" angle. Then I'll REALLY be wondering what's up with me.

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MISSPEACHES3 3/27/2014 9:33AM

    Thanks so much for posting this.

I went to my Ortho Doc on Wednesday. He is constantly saying, 'Well, people that are over weight have this or that kind of problems.' He tries to tell me to eat less and exercise more.

Most of the time I don't say anything.

I was so proud to tell him that I had been very carefully tracking what I am eating with the Spark tracker. And I am not over eating. Ha ! In fact, I am eating way below my projected calories. I told him of the other problems I have and he was amazed.

You are so right, people judge you from a quick look and assume things.

Thanks for posting,
Blessings

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AMY_1217 3/25/2014 10:59PM

    Wow this one was a good one! And so true!!!! If only they knew us then, if only they could see how far we've come...if only, if only, if only.

If only they could keep up with us. ;)

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NHEMBERGER 3/25/2014 5:13PM

    Great blog! Thanks for sharing & keep up the great work!


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JANEDOE12345 3/25/2014 5:01PM

    You are in an enviable position --that in between stage is very important in getting to the end of your battle. Great blog! You tell those doctors!

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BLONDEDOG 3/25/2014 1:16PM

    What a wonderful way to look at it!!!! Thank you so much for sharing.

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WALNUTT1961 3/25/2014 12:38PM

    Thank you for sharing. Congrats on your success! You are awesome.

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FOREVERFITCHICK 3/25/2014 12:38PM

    Obese no more, barely overweight but so accomplished! The legacy your creating is admirable. I hope you realize how many people you've inspired to be better! You are appreciated in so many ways!


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G33K10V3 3/25/2014 6:35AM

    I love this blog. I feel the same way. I started out at 385 pounds and am down to 250 now and I know that I still look like just a fat person. People don't know where I CAME from and I'm certainly not going to make it a habit of telling everyone I meet, lol.
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GHOLEPIAZ 3/24/2014 8:15PM

  i love your blog and have been given a new sense of determination to succeed. Best wishes to you!!!!!! I weigh 358 lbs was weighing 369.I have a long way to go but I will make it. Thank you for a new found inspiration.

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LAILATN 3/24/2014 5:03PM

    Wow. Absolutely fantastic entry. Thank you for sharing this.

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    great blog!

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STPMOM 3/24/2014 1:19PM

    Way to go Clark kent!!! You definitely have a super hero attitude!!
thanks for sharing!

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RADIOACTIVEGN 3/24/2014 1:06PM

  you have a great, positive outlook. I hope to someday get to the point that I don't want/need the external recognition. Hopefully I can get my own "clark kent glasses" :)

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50PLUSBABY 3/24/2014 12:53PM

  "Obesity survivor' i like that. Keep on doing amazing things survivor.

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MRSRHAWKINS 3/24/2014 10:38AM

    Thanks for putting words to this "phase". I am in the habit of carrying my before pic with me just to show it off, but it has always felt too attention-seeking. Glad to know I am an in-betweener and secret super hero! emoticon

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NICOLEZOE 3/24/2014 10:31AM

    Great blog!
Once after loosing 40 lbs my friend's father asked me when I was due. I was mortified! It was so hard to keep motivated because all that work and I had done and people didn't notice. I did, but they didn't! I pushed thru then and so will you! Keep up that positive attitude, sounds like your doing great!

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    I love it! emoticon Man, you made me rethink an experience I had on a plane recently. I had unbuckled my seat belt mid-flight when the fasten seat belt light was off and forgot about it because I never left my seat. The light came back on and soon after we were preparing to land. A flight attendant was passing by and told me that my seat belt was unfastened and did I have trouble. I didn't get a chance to answer or demonstrate that I could buckle it before she said she would be right back and then she walked away. Didn't think much of her walking away, I just fastened my seat belt and continued reading. She came back with a proud look on her face and holding up for everyone on the plane to see: A SEAT BELT EXTENDER. Needless to say I was mortified. How dare she assume I was too fat to buckle my seat belt. But thank you for reminding me that other peoples perceptions of me are their own, not mine.

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DDOORN 3/23/2014 11:39PM

    Totally with you as an "in-betweener" also...and am on a terrific roll, closing in on goal weight in the near future!

Great blog!

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WITCHYALISHA 3/23/2014 10:43PM

    I totally would snark.

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SLENDERELLA61 3/23/2014 9:47PM

    Awesome blog!! You are doing great. You know who you are!! And you are blessed and a blessing to us who benefit from your words. -Marsha

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HOLLYM48 3/23/2014 7:39PM

    Wow, what an awesome blog! Nobody knows the whole story that is for sure and I have learned never to judge people because I simply don't know what they have gone thru or are going thru and I will be the first to stand up for someone that is overweight saying I don't know what their demons are or how far they have come to try to get healthy. The world would be a better place if nobody judged but tried to help each other!
Great job on beating the numbers! You are awesome!

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MIDGIEDAWN2 3/23/2014 7:04PM

    I really like the idea of Clark Kent glasses. I think I will have to use "Wonder Woman" glasses. I get looks as people assume that I never walk farther than I absolutely have must. Then I invite one of my slender friends out for a walk or to go dancing and then are huffing and puffing as I walk them into the ground. Or when I literally dance circles around them with my friend and dance partner who is also a big guy.

Thank you for sharing. You are very inspirational to me.

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  good blog

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MSLZZY 3/23/2014 6:10PM

    You have done a excellent job with courage and faith in yourself. Wear your Clark Kent glasses with pride!

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DAWNDMOORE40 3/23/2014 5:39PM

    emoticon You are! You believe in yourself and that will take you far in life! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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DEWAND1 3/23/2014 4:50PM

    Hey....I like your sense of humour in the midst of all your changes.....I chuckled when I read it. Be blessed!

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1AMCAM 3/23/2014 3:59PM

  Wonderful story and you are awesome.

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