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Mixed bag

Thursday, October 30, 2014

I didn't blog this morning because I was in a hurry to get out the door. You see, I've had the same Empowered Health Coach the entire time I've worked with one... part of my company's wellness program. All this coaching has been via telephone. A few weeks ago, I got an e-mail from her saying SHE was coming to town as one of the on-site coaches yesterday and today... and I jumped right on getting one of those time slots. Mine was at 7:30 this morning, before my normal work day.

And it was a wonderful experience. She's the same person, just as her photo on line shows, with the same supportive, informative, enthusiastic persona I've got used to over time. When we first talked, I told her I'd had success, and really didn't need anybody telling me what to do, mainly I wanted a cheerleader! And she's been that and more. She *does* offer suggestions, some of which I've used, some not so much.

It was great to be able to give this gal a hug... in fact we both went for the hug, first thing.

Second bit of news: not so great... got the test results back from the bone density scans. I'm still losing bone density. Another 5.7% since the previous test in 2010, for a total of 15% since the baseline in 2006. It's still classed as osteopenia, not full-blown osteoporosis... but even with the weight bearing exercise I do, and the calcium and D supplementation... I'm becoming more "frail" in the bone, and at higher risk for fractures.

That news came in the mail yesterday, and it kind of bummed me out... but I did my strength training and felt better. DOING something makes one feel better. In the light of the next day, I recognize that the rate of loss has slowed, at least. And the doctor *did* say to "keep exercising" and recommended specific doses for the supplements. So... following orders. Nice to be told to do what I would be very upset if he told me to NOT do it! emoticon

Which brings me back to the drift downward in scream weight. Bone weighs more than fat. It's entirely possible that with less dense bones I need to be weighing less. Moving my "upper" end scream weight down to 125 is probably all right. Over the summer I had become more used to seeing numbers like 117 (low end of 5 pounds if 122 is center)... and only a 114.x made me scream.

Finally, Halloween... what's everyone planning? I'm going to be having the lights off. Sorry, Jen, if I put the lights on it invites trick or treaters, and I have no intention of pushing sugar out the door, and passing out plastic toys ... a la our niece's no candy policy... doesn't trip my trigger either. I am becoming a grouchy old wet blanket, I'm afraid.

But, despite that... LIFE is good. It's so much better when I'm fit. It is at its best when kindred spirits cross paths on individual journeys to health and wellness. Consciously, consistently, and creatively making choices to support that journey, I remain GRATEFUL for each and every day.

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DALID414 10/31/2014 1:23AM

    Wet blanket emoticon that made me laugh! After getting stuck with full bags of candy a few years ago, the boyfriend and I said nevermore! Besides, it's our anniversary!

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JEANKNEE 10/30/2014 11:20PM

    I have lost 1 inch in height and have osteoporosis in my family. Dr. recommended no bone scan yet because I'm too young to begin treatment with meds and she felt no need to exose me to the radiation. Told me to keep doing what I'm doing (weight bearing exercise & strength training) and recommended specific does of calcium & D3.

Our lights will be out for halloween too and have been for years. I was *labeled* a scrooge when I was in my 20s.

Wonderful to have had the opportunity to meet your coach in person and exchanged emoticon .

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MJREIMERS 10/30/2014 10:08PM

    I know how exciting it is to meet someone in person! How great that you got to hug your coach.

Bummer with the bone density test. My mom suffers from osteoporosis, but so far I've escaped! (She was also a huge smoker for many years.) Keep doing what you are doing and keep feeling good. emoticon

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DLDMIL 10/30/2014 9:48PM

    Ah yes, the dreaded bone density tests. Mine was also not good news, but it showed a slow progression. We just have to keep doing what we are doing and be extremely careful.

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DOGLADY13 10/30/2014 9:42PM

    Before Dan and I moved to our downtown condo, we lived in neighborhood with LOTS of kids. Plus, families would "travel" to our neighborhood. We used to give out 400 pieces of candy. It was a blast! I miss it. No children trick or treat in our building.

I'd be bummed if I learned I was losing bone density, too. At least the doctor told you to carry on.

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LEANJEAN6 10/30/2014 9:26PM

    You are losing bone density -----do more weights--LOL-----and guess whaty?--no snow here yet--only rain--maybe it will miss us--I hope!

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LKWQUILTER 10/30/2014 9:13PM

    Osteo runs in my mother's family so I have been exercising, taking calcium + D for years and am now taking Fosamax as preventative steps. I saw what mama went through and it scared me big time. Hope you can help slow it down even more and with all that you do, it does surprise me that you have that problem. My dh was on predisone for about 8 years and now has osteopenia. He was on Fosamax but it did not work for him.

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1CRAZYDOG 10/30/2014 8:54PM

    Barb, I am doing battle w/osteopenia too. I did bring myself out of osteoporosis over a 3 yrs. timeframe from 1998 - 2011. But still in the land of osteopenia. Dr. has discussed things like Prolia . . . no thanks!

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ANNMACP0212 10/30/2014 8:51PM

    Hugs

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SANDICANE 10/30/2014 8:29PM

    Oh how wonderful to meet your coach in real life! I hope some day to meet some of my SparkFriends in real life too b/c they have made such an impact in my life and I'll be going for the hug.

As for candy treats...I'm ready. We have over 200 treats in our house to give out, but NONE of them will find their way into my mouth. NO CHOICE!!! (I'm exercising my resistance muscle...)

Cheers to a great Friday!

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SMALLSTEPSNOW 10/30/2014 8:26PM

  A great post, if with mixed insights! I too have osteopenia and am battling the trend.... moving forward! Thanks for a great post! SmallStepsNow (Jean) emoticon

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Refuse to Regain: 12 tough rules - rule 4

Wednesday, October 29, 2014

Continuing with the thin little book by Barbara Berkeley, M.D. "Refuse to Regain! 12 Tough Rules to Maintain the Body You've Earned", rule 4 is something it took me a LONG time to figure out how to do. At least four maintenance failures resulting in large regains, over the course of my adult life. So far, this time, I seem to have pulled off avoiding the 50 pound slips. The author outlines it for junior maintainers, and I look back over my own 2013, and come to the conclusion that what I referred to as "brinksmanship" maps into some of her rule 4 philosophy. I have mixed feelings about that... but more about my own feelings/pushback after a quick review of the previously blogged about rules.

Reminders of earlier rules
1: Be Tough, not Moderate.
2: Commit Yourself to a Three-Month Opt Out Period.
3: Weigh Yourself Every Day.

Rule 4: Reverse Small Regains Immediately.

With rule 4, Berkeley introduces the term "scream weight", the boundary at which one immediately takes corrective action! She describes this as "the scale number you don't ever want to see -- ever again."

Step one of Rule 4 is picking that scream weight. She suggests it should be 5 to 8 pounds above your lowest achieved weight, and a multiple of 10 as a more psychologically powerful Scream Weight.

Step two is to adjust that number (Scream Weight) with experience, if necessary. This part reminded me a lot of blogs from maintainers who talked about the difference between "lowest achievable" and "lowest sustainable"... and how they were debating over adjusting their goal weight. I think this may be where many of us who failed at maintenance in the past have slipped up... we didn't make the transition from losing or lowest achievable to an actual sustainable goal range! Adjusting the scream weight allows for this transition. For the perfectionists among us, this adjustment may have led to tossing in the towel (at least for a time, allowing for a wilder regain!)

Step three of rule 4 is to pay close attention to weight swings. She talks about the natural fluctuation of weight over the course of a week. I believe this is vitally important for those who are NOT counting calories, and experimenting with eating "normally" from a diet selection based on some philosophy, as opposed to "dieting" by portion sizes, weighing and measuring food and counting calories. Since Berkeley recommends NOT counting calories, this is a very important piece of her maintenance landscape.

Next, when that scream weight is approached, REVERSE course. She recommends going back to whatever method you used to lose the weight to begin with, until you are a couple of pounds under Scream Weight, then return to your "normal" plan.

OK, that's Berkeley's advice. Here's my 2013 learning experience: without even knowing I HAD a scream weight, I was sort of following this. I called it brinksmanship. The difference is that I truly had slides, and over the course of a year it added up to 9 pounds, net gain. I had crossed one of those "tens" lines, and it WAS 8 pounds above what I call my goal weight. Somehow without reading this, I implemented the Mental Toughness training, went back to the roots, and stripped off not just those 9 pounds, but got under my previously lowest achieved, and ended up having to deliberately regain a couple of pounds. Bottom line, if you catch it soon enough, this is the essence of maintenance: monitor and make corrections.

Things that DON'T work for me: binging and recovering, repeatedly. Things that DO work: finding a "normal" that does not trigger binging, that causes the scale to stay in a range. Still working on finding that "normal" in the context of athletic training.

So, you can see... mixed feelings. I don't think the mixed feelings/push back are to HAVING a scream weight, more to the "normal" diet... (back to her rule 2)... and the not counting calories (I don't so much, but I do track on Spark which tracks a range without my having to look at a food and do the math).

Second observation: last year my scream weight, not even knowing I had one, appeared to be 130. This year, with the increased training activity, I seem to have adjusted to having the second digit in my weight be a "1"... I believe my own Scream Weight has been unconsciously moved DOWN, not UP, during the course of this year, to 125. Which means my "goal" might have unconsciously moved down, too, as I've been calling my center goal 122 for over four years now. We shall see if that intuitive feeling lasts the Winter, for as we all know from the Game of Thrones, Winter is coming!

LIFE is good. It's better when I'm fit. It is at its best when I find kindred spirits on their own journeys, and our paths touch. Creatively, consistently and consciously making choices that support maintaining a healthy lifestyle, I remain GRATEFUL, for each and every day.

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LOVENHWOODS 10/30/2014 9:41AM

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DALID414 10/29/2014 10:16PM

    We seem to be playing with the same numbers almost.
For this round of the maintenance challenge I picked 121 lbs as the center weight and have stayed a steady 120 lbs for a few weeks now. My scream weight: 125 lbs

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MOBYCARP 10/29/2014 7:49PM

    I've heard the term scream weight before, and contemplated having it on both ends of a range. I know what my low end scream weight is; if I drop below 160, even on a dehydrated morning, that's too low.

I'm not sure what my high end scream weight is, but I've acted like it's 165 a couple of times. I ponder whether that narrow of a range is psychologically and physiologically healthy to target, but it seems to be what has worked for a couple of years.

The open question is whether it will keep working.

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MJREIMERS 10/29/2014 6:57PM

    With my weight going up and down within 5 lbs., I needed this. emoticon It seems like you always have great timing and always "are there" when I need you! You rock!

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LINDAKAY228 10/29/2014 6:30PM

    I never heard it called a "Scream Weight" before but I also have a weight, which if I ever reach, I know I have to keep right around that by a few pounds or so. I'm am a compulsive eater and have always been one. So when I reach my goal I am going too still have to have foods that can't be eaten, even in moderation because with me some things have no moderation. And keep a close eye on things. I've been overweight since I was 6 years old and weighed 240 in high school. Hardly ever got below 200 until a couple of years ago, then gained part back. Then got under it again and have gone up and down on my way down. So I know whatever it's called there are things I have to do for the rest of my life if I don't want to go the way I did much of my life until this point. Not a bad thing though and some cheat days now and then.

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 10/29/2014 6:13PM

    I like the idea of a scream weight, quite alot! Seems like a good way to make sure a little slipup doesn't become a big deal

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SANDICANE 10/29/2014 4:40PM

    I really like the idea of a scream weight, but I don't want one. Honestly, this last 31 lbs that I had to lose to get back to goal weight was SOOOOOOOOOOOOO HARD that I still want to cry just thinking about it.

So, for me, I really want to figure out what normal eating is for me and stay within 2 lbs either way...just sort of floating...no screaming...just steady as she goes. Well, actually I have been screaming lately...I've been screaming
NO CHOICE!!! 'cause I think it would kill me to have to lose another 9 lbs.....

Ok, having said aaaaaaaall that, I really appreciate hearing about the steps in your little book and want to thank you for taking the time to share them with us!!

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MRS.DOYLE 10/29/2014 2:37PM

    I'm enjoying your series of rules. I think I am probably at my scream weight now but I am taking action and dropping back down to the bottom of my maintenance weight. The tough thing is that scream weights tend to be viewed as healthy weights by doctors etc. I know my doctor thinks my goal weight is too low. But I know I feel really well at that weight and it is within healthy BMI measurements.

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FEEDTHEHUNGER 10/29/2014 2:33PM

    I've been screaming for a long time but I couldn't hear myself. Was I in one of those paranormal movies? No, just stubbornly unwilling for a long time. I'm 15 pounds down from the screamiest scream and trying my best to make that 20-22 pounds by year's end.

Go, Barb!

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WORKNPROGRESS49 10/29/2014 1:28PM

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LEWILL1982 10/29/2014 1:01PM

    I have a scream weight. I'd like to get further away from it than I am right now, but I seem to be maintaining well in this range. I was well over scream rate range at the beginning of last year, weighing 17 lbs more than I do right now - that was more "neon lights flashing" range, haha. I once had an achievable weight, but it wasn't a sustainable weight. Ideally, I'm 3 lbs from what I think is my perfect weight, just having a hard time getting there.

Loving these blogs - I need to find that book and add it to my shelf!

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MJZHERE 10/29/2014 11:21AM

    I am above my scream weight - I hadn't figured it all out and went back to going up and down 10 lbs. When I was heavier, my clothes still fit even while I gained weight. Now, new clothes are too tight and that is mainly why I am determined to lose again. Your blogs on these rules are very helpful for me right now. emoticon

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BEATLETOT 10/29/2014 11:08AM

    Another applause-worthy blog!!! Thanks so much!

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KALIGIRL 10/29/2014 10:41AM

    Have to remember the title...
My (naturally thin person) concern is "going back to whatever method you used to lose the weight" as opposed to "living" a healthy lifestyle.

Life is GOOD - here's to Celebrating it Daily and Gratefully!
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GABY1948 10/29/2014 10:40AM

    Ewwwwww this one is sticky and scary too! As I said, I ordered this book when you first talked about it but I am SO glad Beck is my first....I have lots of time to get used to this one from your blogs. I'm still making peace with the scale but I also have you to thank for that one.

GREAT blog

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LKWQUILTER 10/29/2014 10:38AM

    Thanks for more great info.

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BOOKAPHILE 10/29/2014 10:34AM

    Valuable content. I read her book and found it useful. I wasn't so good putting it into practice when Dad was so sick and then died. My emotions are more powerful than I expected. I'll give them more consideration when trying to maintain during the next crisis.

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SLENDERELLA61 10/29/2014 10:20AM

    I'm definitely going to get this book. I like that "scream" weight concept. I agree with you that binging and recovering repeatedly is a destructive way to live.

Thanks for sharing how you apply this thinking to your own life - consciously and/or intuitively. You have done a great job. But it does take that daily commitment that I've labeled "relentless determination", a term I got from a SparkFriend. I view myself as relentlessly determined and I find it very motivating to earn that label in my own mind daily!

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KSNANA2 10/29/2014 10:02AM

    I find your blogs very motivating to help me try to get back on track and lose weight again. My weight came on at menopause and needs to go! Looking forward to your future blogs! emoticon

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JEANKNEE 10/29/2014 9:53AM

    Thanks Barb for the morning share out from Refuse to Regain and of your experience.

As a junior maintainer I have yet to establish my goal weight or scream weight. I entered maintenance at what I thought was my scream weight. Currently, I find myself sitting 16 pounds below it. Obviously, what I thought was my scream weight needs to be adjusted.

It also appears that I am revisiting territory I haven't experienced in over 30 years - being underweight. So, it appears that identifying a lower scream weight may be easier for me and then I can determine my maintainable and upper scream weight from the low end.

Maintenance is quite the process.

Thanks for being such a generous fellow traveler of this journey.

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DDOORN 10/29/2014 9:41AM

    Great idea, the scream weight...will flag for when I feel I've hit my low. Still inching downward...

Don

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KANOE10 10/29/2014 8:24AM

    I use that term scream weight to get myself motivated to go back down to goal weight. Immediate reversal is the key...although you can go through a cruising period when you do not get that weight back down right away.



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DOGLADY13 10/29/2014 8:11AM

    I passed my scream weight last month and was approaching the tie my esophagus closed weight and sew my lips shut weight. LOL Oh well, it is a journey and I know I need to figure out how to manage when injured.

This blog has given me lots to think about. I bet some of those thoughts end up in my own blog somewhere down the line.

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BROOKLYN_BORN 10/29/2014 8:10AM

    I wholeheartedly and completely agree with #4 and to do that I need #3.

How can I reverse small regains if I don't know they happened! Makes logical sense to me. It's like taking a wrong turn down a highway. I'd rather realize it when 3 miles down the road not 10. So my scale is like my GPS.

Yes, we must find out what 'normal' is. We all know that weight fluctuates daily, but fluctuate means it should go up and DOWN. If it just keeps going up, it's time to reverse direction or at least take an honest look at ourselves to figure out why.

My clothes can accommodate a 10 pound weight gain without feeling tight. I don't want to have to reverse double digits.





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1CRAZYDOG 10/29/2014 7:57AM

    Awesome blog. Yes. Definitely I have had to fid my sustainable weight. I briefly got to 95 lbs. (remember, I'm only 4 ft. 10.5 in). I felt good @ that weight, but my sustainable weight is 100 lbs. even. Maintaining it.

Great rules and it's basically what I do as well.

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WATERMELLEN 10/29/2014 7:53AM

    "This is the essence of maintenance: monitor and make corrections." IMMEDIATELY.

Yup.

And: love the concept of "Scream Weight". I'm going to be re-reading Refuse to Retain when I'm no longer revisiting Beck!

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Refuse to Regain: 12 tough rules - rule 3

Tuesday, October 28, 2014

Continuing with the thin little book by Barbara Berkeley, M.D. "Refuse to Regain! 12 Tough Rules to Maintain the Body You've Earned", rule 3 is something I have done for years, am totally on board with, and endorse for several reasons. I'll get to MY reasons in a bit.

But first, reminders of rules 1: Be Tough, not Moderate, and 2: Commit Yourself to a Three-Month Opt Out Period.

Rule 3: Weigh Yourself Every Day.

Weighing daily is something that is often discouraged during the weight loss phase, but this is all about maintenance. The importance of weighing oneself daily, according to the author is all about gathering data and LEARNING maintenance. You see, she is an advocate of "Primarian" eating, without limiting or counting calories. The whole idea of using the scale as a measure of how your body reacts to your choices of foods and activity the day before, or trends for longer periods is part of your scientific method.

How to do this, she says, is very similar to what I do:
a. Weigh ONLY once a day, in the morning, without clothing.

b. Use the right equipment. In this she follows what I've read elsewhere: consistency is more important than bells and whistles. She recommends a scale that measures in tenths of pounds, and ignoring things like body fat percentages, etc. and sticking to the same scale, every time.

c. Weigh bravely and daily. It's data collection, not judgment.

d. Don't count calories. I started out taking a little exception to this, since I do track, but she makes good sense (as MOBYCARP has often mentioned) in the argument that calorie counting is often inaccurate. So I can see her sense... and when you read ahead to rule 4 and beyond, you can see she's setting you up for the natural corrections one has to take in the sea of maintenance.

In short, with this rule, Berkeley is declaring the scale as a learning tool. I completely agree. And even after a so-called "bad" day, when I've made rebellious choices, getting back on the scale the next day, and the day after, and the day after tells me how I'm trending. All those little graphs I post on "the state of the maintenance" would not be possible without daily data.

LIFE is good. It's better when I'm fit. It is at its best when I find kindred spirits walking their own journeys to as healthy a life as our choices can create! Consistently, consciously, and creatively making those choices, I remain GRATEFUL, for each and every day!

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DALID414 10/29/2014 9:37AM

    I started doing this just because we have a scale at work, no I don't weigh in naked at work emoticon

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OVERWORKEDJANET 10/29/2014 6:18AM

    I still have conversations with the scale which tend to end with the overwhelming thought to throw it through the wall.
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MOBYCARP 10/28/2014 9:20PM

    Yeah, the calories are inaccurate; but I can't stop counting them! Anyway, the inaccuracy of calories eaten is small potatoes next to the inaccuracy of calories burned estimates.

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CHRISTINEBWD 10/28/2014 3:56PM

    Ummmm, I haven't been weighting in daily. Now that you have put it out here, it does sound reasonable to do so though. emoticon

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SANDICANE 10/28/2014 11:19AM

    Oh yes, weigh ourselves EVERY DAY! Goodness, sooooooo important. Know when it's the most important??? After I've had foods that are "off" my plan! Yepper, I know I don't want to see that scale, but when I force myself to look, then I know what I need to do next.

Great blog!

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LEWILL1982 10/28/2014 11:18AM

    I used to weigh daily and drove myself crazy with the fluctuations. I've cut back and weigh about 3 mornings a week. Usually Monday to see how the weekend treated me, Wednesday to check that the weekends misgivings went away and then Saturday to gauge my process from the rest of the week....I have a range that's acceptable and if I get above, I use it as an indicator to go back and look at my food logs...

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KSNANA2 10/28/2014 10:35AM

    I weigh myself once a day in the morning when I wake up. Always have. Not on maintenance, but I don't beat myself up about what I see on the scale. Enjoyed your blog and looking forward to seeing what the rest of the rules are! emoticon

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-SHOREIDO- 10/28/2014 9:52AM

    Great blog Barb!!
Thanks for bringing this to our attention!! Agree strongly with the author and have kept this system in place since joining SP.
I can tell you this.Fits me like a glove and has enables me to maintain my 114 - 119 window along with my workouts,walking and running.
Look forward to reading the book!! emoticon again for sharing your "life" thoughts and knowledge!!



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M8ITHPN 10/28/2014 9:46AM

    I've been weighing myself daily for years now. I completely agree that you can gain very important information as to how your body is processing the foods you eat. I have learned that combinations of certain foods can aide in my weight loss even when staying within my boundaries of calories. Everyone processes food differently. Thank you for this great post! emoticon

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M8ITHPN 10/28/2014 9:46AM

    I've been weighing myself daily for years now. I completely agree that you can gain very important information as to how your body is processing the foods you eat. I have learned that combinations of certain foods can aide in my weight loss even when staying within my boundaries of calories. Everyone processes food differently. Thank you for this great post! emoticon

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MSLZZY 10/28/2014 9:43AM

    Time to get back to the scale more often. Great information. HUGS!

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JEANKNEE 10/28/2014 9:27AM

    I began weighing daily when I began my transition to maintenance for a number of reasons. First of all, I could see that many successful maintainers were doing so and as a numbers person, I felt I needed the information to identify any trends.

Daily weighing is working for me and has been very interesting!

Thanks again Barb for sharing your thoughts and reflections.

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BOOKAPHILE 10/28/2014 9:19AM

    It reminds me of the phrase "your direction is more important than your perfection."

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1CRAZYDOG 10/28/2014 9:06AM

    Wow! I feel validated! For medical reasons, I have had to weigh daily, and at first, it was difficult. That being said, it took me awhile to look on it as data collection (which is definitely why I had/have to do it daily) and learned . . . it does not DEFINE me!

So, being a maintainer, I do weigh daily, I do use the same scale, I do weigh @ the same time -- first thing in the morning au natural (OMG!) and that's it. My day moves on.

Thanks for this blog.

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LJCANNON 10/28/2014 8:45AM

    emoticon So far, the Rules seem Reasonable and Logical. At least they do offer you some tools for Maintenance.

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FEEDTHEHUNGER 10/28/2014 8:29AM

    I'm weighing once a month now so I don't torture myself with the slowness of my weight loss, but I can see how a daily weigh would be a great idea at maintenance.

Not judging ourselves by our weight is always a good idea, at any size!

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KALIGIRL 10/28/2014 8:22AM

    Love it - here's to more learning tools!
emoticon not sure why she suggests no body fat%? Maybe not accurate either?
Have to emoticon as that's what I'm interested in and while stepping on the Aria twice this morning (as the first wifi didn't connect) the % remained the same while I 'gained' a 1/10th of a pound...
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WATERMELLEN 10/28/2014 8:21AM

    Weighing myself once a day is something I haven't done consistently -- more likely to use clothing fit to monitor -- but at Beck Day 15 we're into daily weighing also.

And yup: has to be about data and trending, not about beating ourselves up for a specific "poundage"!!

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DOGLADY13 10/28/2014 7:56AM

    Weighing daily, in my opinion, is a good tool when your head is in the right place. When the scale gets me feeling bad about myself and starting a long-term negative dialogue in my head, I don't weigh daily. I also stop weighing daily when I find myself jumping off and on the scale through the day. Then I stop all together for a month or so. Right now it is working. I had to stop when my back was in bad shape because all I did was beat myself up. Then I jumped on once a week.

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Push-back...

Monday, October 27, 2014

As I have started posting excerpts from Barbara Berkeley's book "Refuse to Regain! 12 Tough Rules to Maintain the Body You've Earned", I have found an interesting mix of push-back, both in the comments left by others, and internally, as well.

Some of the push-back as commented by others is similar to my own:

* Not a fan of complete elimination of food groups.
* Have something that works for me, going to stick with that.

Cool. Some of it is push-back against perfectionism. I have that, too, but have pretty much made peace with it, knowing that will be an ongoing issue with me. I am overcoming perfectionism, remember? Pushing Polly the Perfectionist out of the house, but she still camps in the yard at times.

I even heard a push-back that sounded a lot like my own devil-voice that a splurge once in a while is good for your program!

While blogging about the book and its rules, I found myself pushing back from the athletic lifestyle, and ended up hiding in my house-cave all weekend long. I heard the weather was gorgeous, but I was hiding from people, losing myself in finishing a really good novel (Falls the Shadow, by Sharon Kaye Penman) and binge-watching old episodes of TV shows (discovered The Black List on Netflix... violent and dark, so if that's not your thing, avoid...) And eating. I avoided going to the grocery store because I recognized the mood in which I would have potentially lost the battle and brought stuff into the house that I know better than to do.

I ate freely of what WAS in the house, but knowing I don't stock some of the most dangerous trigger items, I did some damage but not too much. Because I did NOT go to the grocery store, there were NO bags of Halloween candy available to fuel the rebellion. I ended up in the grocery store at 5:30 this morning, filling my cart with organic skim milk, freggies, and such (because over the weekend I ran myself out of milk). Monday is a good day, because it is routine... and today... it is back to that routine.

The lunch/snack bag is packed. My steel cut oats have filled first my breakfast bowl (along with a fresh banana), and now my tummy. And I am pulling myself back from the brink of rebellion... to what has become my normal, over the past few years.

Interesting side note? Since I *do* follow rule 3 (more about rule 3 in a separate blog, maybe it's tomorrow's)... weigh yourself daily... I know exactly how much damage my weekend of sloth (rest) and alternate choices has done. The TOP weight now, post-weekend... is still within my maintenance acceptable range, although scarily above where I was on Saturday morning.

LIFE is good. It's better when I'm fit. It is at its best when I find kindred spirits and our journeys touch... to encourage one another along the road. Creatively, consciously, and consistently (not perfectly) making choices that will support a long-term healthy lifestyle, I remain GRATEFUL for each and every day.

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SWEDE_SU 10/30/2014 5:56AM

    we all have so many approaches to weight loss and maintenance that someone is always going to think the exact opposite of what we do or write. me, i weigh myself several times a day. i know many will say that's wrong, but it works for me. i also know that if i stop weighing myself - because i don't want to know the damage - that it's the first sign of weight gain. so i'll keep doing what works.

and every now and then, it can be good to curl up with a novel. take care of yourself - and please keep sharing - i am really enjoying the blogs about refusing to regain!

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GABY1948 10/28/2014 8:56AM

    I am SO glad to tell you that I am finally ready to read this. I think I have told you before that I was afraid of the scale. Literally, at the doc's I would take off shoes and get on backwards and tell her DO NOT tell me. And John would do my weigh ins here. But with this Beck and doing right even after 2 days of it my fear went away. I am going to try to follow you and weigh every day when I am told to. No matter what I did the day before. All your blogs and the ones of the people I have followed through yours and several others has finally "taught" me that too!

This sounds like a really good book can't wait to do that one next...AFTER Beck

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BROOKLYN_BORN 10/28/2014 7:38AM

    Then there's the "push back" I hear regularly.
Why are you bothering with all that? We're all going to die anyway.
Huh? Does that even make sense?

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DALID414 10/27/2014 10:15PM

    I wanted to hide in my cave this weekend, but I don't cancel on my nephew! Hence, all the chocolate that was eaten last week.
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SPEDED2 10/27/2014 8:33PM

    What's done is done. Have no regrets, just move on...

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CHRISTINEBWD 10/27/2014 8:19PM

    emoticon One weekend is just that, one weekend :)

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LINDAKAY228 10/27/2014 6:05PM

    I weigh myself usually a few times a week. Some days I know that the weight I've gained is a lot water because of the junk I ate that had high sodium in it and it goes away in a few days but if I keep eating that junk it is no longer sodium. I do best if I go grocery shopping really early in the morning too. I buy much healthier things. If I do it late I'm tired and end up with more junk. Ice cream being one thing I need to keep out of my house for sure! Lots of others too. Some of us just do better at the store in the early morning hours too. I also miss the crowds which makes me really happy!

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HILLSLUG98239 10/27/2014 2:42PM

    The best part about this? You're working out, and reifying, what works best for you. I imagine - because I haven't yet been where you are now - that knowing yourself is an important part of maintain what you've accomplished.

I'm guilty of it, I'm sure, but I always find it annoying when people post on my SparkPage or blog stuff that completely contradicts what I've said. Me: I don't like the taste of cows milk so I drink soy milk. Response: Soy is bad for you! Never drink soy milk! Me: As an endurance athlete, I know how important carbohydrates - even simple sugars - are to properly fueling my body. Response: Sugar is poison! Never eat it! Me: I hate yoga. Response: You should do yoga.

Bah! You wanna preach, go write your own blog. You wanna comment on my blog, at least read the damned thing first.

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_LINDA 10/27/2014 2:13PM

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Its amazing how the daily routine of work and commitments gets us quickly back on track. Its the idle time that is most dangerous.
I also will never eliminate a food group. Also will do what works for me as well.
Experiment of one.

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LKWQUILTER 10/27/2014 1:42PM

    I think you sometimes need to rebel and then get back on the wagon. You recognize what you have done, controlled it with good stuff and not all the really bad stuff, so in one way you did to good. I believe you have to do what feels right and works for you.

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1CRAZYDOG 10/27/2014 1:24PM

    Routine . . . that's what helps me thrive too.

Well, you survived the weekend, lived to tell of it, and are back on the wagon again. That is all that matters.

Have a good Monday.

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DEBRITA01 10/27/2014 11:37AM

    Sometimes those rebellious weekends happen and maybe you just needed some down time. Good idea not to hit the grocery store when feeling rebellious...it can be dangerous emoticon

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SHRINKBUG 10/27/2014 10:50AM

    Like you, I have yet to purchase any Halloween candy. This may be the longest I've held off on that EVER.

Maybe before next weekend, you could plan an activity for each day that will get you out and about. Even if you don't plan a *social* activity out. Write it down, and do it, and I'm betting you'll feel better next Monday.

As always, I love your blogs, and thanks for summarizing the rules of the no-regaining book.

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EBEAMS 10/27/2014 10:45AM

    One step forward, one step back .... As long as you keep your eyes on the target and don't keep moving the target, you'all always shine!

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MJZHERE 10/27/2014 10:45AM

    I went out Sat am to feed the homeless and spent the rest of the weekend on my last binge -eating, tv and internet. Very aware knowing that Mon. things are changing - so Mon is here and I am ready. Grateful that we can pick ourselves up and brush off and go on. Have a great week!

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BOOKAPHILE 10/27/2014 10:41AM

    Some days I don't want to exercise. I'm still figuring out how many calories I have to cut from my diet that day to prevent gain. Cutting calories is not easy to do when cutting exercise is rebellion in itself. You caught yourself and are now in recovery mode. Damage kept to a minimum...good job.

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FEEDTHEHUNGER 10/27/2014 10:37AM

    As a stay at home person, I have to be careful that my whole life doesn't turn into one novel-reading, binge-TV-watchin, internet surfin' thing. It takes a lot of effort and planning to get myself out of my default introvert setting.

Good work, Barb, on jerking back on the short leash.

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KALIGIRL 10/27/2014 10:12AM

    I have yet to convince DH to follow the TQI plan and eliminate foods - primarily because they are the foods he loves... I do believe there's merit if you are trying to heal chronic inflammation, but otherwise am totally on board with the everything in moderation plan (grandmas knew what they were doing...)
Can relate to those hibernating weekends (especially when a good book calls) and normally the weather would be perfect for it. Mine was spent out - Husker football game Saturday and MSABC volunteering Sunday (not to mention leaf collection - you can actually see green in the front!)
I too have started to track emoticon daily as part of the HealthKit app. (Talk about 'push-back' - I don't NEED to track anymore - my clothes will TELL me...) Still not something I'd recommend to those focusing on weight loss, but perfect for those of us maintaining.
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Here's to Monday and the work routine, as a matter of fact (for me), here's to any 'planned' (activities and food) day!

Life is GOOD - Here's to Celebrating it Daily and Gratefully!
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MSLZZY 10/27/2014 10:11AM

    You have Polly and I have Francine.
I did buy the Halloween candy but have
gone for 17 days with no candy except
for 8 M&M's. So far, I have left them alone
and counting the days until the little ones
take them home. Have a great Monday!

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LOVENHWOODS 10/27/2014 9:57AM

    Great sharing!! I’ve had weekends...sometimes weeks...just like that!

Love this line...”Pushing Polly the Perfectionist out of the house, but she still camps in the yard at times.” The “ Me I Use To Be” has moved away, but comes back for a visit now and again!
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SLENDERELLA61 10/27/2014 9:57AM

    Wishing you a wonderful routine day. And, yes, get outside. Here anyway it is just gorgeous. Sunny and cool in the morning and perfect temperature starting at 10 and then just a bit warm. Really lovely. I suspect your temperatures are different but the outdoors is glorious and healing, the perfect antidote to wanting to cave.

Very smart of you not to have stuff in your house to trigger overeating. Sometimes I wish my house was like that. There are cookies and ice cream of several types and snickers and Hershey's and butterfingers sitting around. Hubby just insists I deal. Sometimes I succumb, but usually I win. Wish I could get him to eat healthier. And considering every thing around the kids do pretty good, but I wish it were better.

I really admire you weighing daily. That is a habit I need to adopt. I usually only weigh when I feel slim!! That's cheating, isn't it? I do not let myself go more than a week without weighing, though. That is the brakes. But I would like my WeightGrapher to detail more than a weekly weigh. I'm going to do it.

I understand the rebel. My rebel is different, but there. I'll think about her and how we co-exist. Take care. Have a great day!

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JEANKNEE 10/27/2014 9:45AM

    Your awareness (self and otherwise) shines through the words typed on your blogs.

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THINANDFITEMILY 10/27/2014 8:55AM

    emoticon oh I so understand the house cave! We have a beautiful bike/walk path that runs along the coast and I avoid it during the weekend and esp. in the summer times. The few of us that can walk/bike it during early morning hours or the week feel it is ours and we only say hi if we feel like it. It is ok to be in our heads.
now- as for the Blacklist well I loved that and watched it but it is on a bit too late so will most likely marathon it later. And of course Spader- yum- I like him more now that he is older. He is the voice of Ultron if you are into that. Out in May.
- I loved Hannibal and got hooked on Dexter.
Also- milk - well you are smart to get the skim. If milk is in the house I have a hard time not drinking it.
So I am very grateful for your sharing all this!
I feel like I need these vacations sometimes but I have been having too many of them!

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SANDICANE 10/27/2014 8:48AM

    I do weigh myself every day...some days I don't like what I see, but seeing it is the only way to "stay real" with my weight.

I don't know if I'll ever get that book...I'm choking on Beck right now...I know in my heart she's right...but emotionally I'm sobbing.

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WATERMELLEN 10/27/2014 8:31AM

    I am so grateful that I'm not the only person many years into maintenance who still battles rebellion! Steve Siebold invites pushback, Beck invites pushback and Refuse to Regain invites pushback: both internal and external. So be it. These are some "hard truths" I think . . . and each person decides for him/herself what degree of moderation works.

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DOGLADY13 10/27/2014 8:19AM

    Weekends can be like that. I attribute the worst ones to dealing (or NOT dealing with) with anxiety leftover from the week. Oftentimes that anxiety is unnamed and not recognized. Of course, exercise is usually the best recourse for me in dealing with stress, but the "i don't wanna" rears her ugly head... Ah well, that's the nature of being human.

Spark on, Sister!

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GABY1948 10/27/2014 8:17AM

    I am going to like that book when I finish Beck. I am also a perfectionist and have noticed for awhile I am not so rigid...and thought it age, but now am thinking it is so much progress from different programs I have been into on spark.

Be blessed today, Barb, you are a blessing to so many!

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HMBROWN1 10/27/2014 8:11AM

    Have a great day!

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Refuse to Regain: 12 tough rules - rule 2

Saturday, October 25, 2014

Continuing with the thin little book by Barbara Berkeley, M.D. "Refuse to Regain! 12 Tough Rules to Maintain the Body You've Earned", I come to one that I both agree and disagree with.

Most of the focus of the book is directed at folks at the beginning of their maintenance journey. The rules are strategies to get off on the right foot. Reminder of Rule #1: Be Tough, not Moderate.

Now we come to Rule #2: Commit Yourself to a Three-Month Opt Out Period

Opt out of WHAT, one might well ask! Not sure I like the wording, BUT, her concept of opting out is not that different from Steve Siebold's Mental Toughness training, which asked for a commitment to 90 days of perfect adherence to your plan of eating.

Berkeley is recommending that however you lost the weight to begin with, start maintenance by striving for 3 months of perfect adherence to the "diet" you have determined is your way of eating for the rest of your life the majority of the time.

She advises this 90 days as a "detox" from the modern Western diet which is loaded with S-foods. She calls her particular take on this Primarian eating. She allows some wiggle room with a daily "allowable treat", allows low fat dairy, avoids sugars and starches (grains, potatoes, even yams). I'm not crazy about "primarian" eating, since I have a way of eating that is working for ME. Later in the chapter she notes that the choice of the diet is our own... not every diet is for every body. Given that, I'll accept the 3 month striving for perfection. Once the 3 months is up, she still wants 90% of the time avoidance of the S foods. And knowing how those S-foods affect MY body, I can mostly agree with that.

As to the "how": She advises the maintenance newbie to avoid words like "cheat" and substitute "choice" for slips in this perfection. We made a choice. We have to live with it. No self-abuse if we mess up. Just get right back to it. (Sounds kind of Spark-ly, doesn't it? One step back, two steps forward?)

To avoid the lure of tempting food treats and keep the excitement in our lives, she recommends we "Add while subtracting", meaning to take the focus off food and try new things in other ways. Pleasures of a non-food variety are encouraged - pampering ourselves with trying new looks in dress or hair, or glasses or whatever, to change the exterior.

After all, we've worked hard to lose the weight, now begins the adjustment to living with the new size and shape... trying out new options seems very reasonable.

Alternatively: try learning or doing something for the interior of ourselves. Reading (yay for us introverts), learning something new, like a language, an instrument, or taking a class you wanted to take but hadn't yet... joining a performing arts group (sheesh, that's got to be for the extroverts in the readership!)

Or: change your environment - declutter the house, plant a garden, remodel, downsize... whatever... you changed your body, perhaps now is a good time to change the environment in which it lives.

Or: work on your spiritual side. Meditate, take on yoga or tai chi, walk in solitude (works for us introverts!), reconnect with your religious traditions, volunteer for something you believe in .

In short, you changed one thing, stay firm with that and work on a different change focus, since weight loss won't be the numerical reward of your toughness on the dietary side.

Finally: think strategically. Set yourself up for success. Plan ahead for challenges, for how you'll make those all important choices. Find ways that will support making those choices easier: keeping trigger foods out of sight or even out of the house; wearing "revenge clothing" (WATERMELLEN's jackets and leather skirts?)... whatever works for you.

The whole idea of the three months is to settle you in a new relationship with food.
It may even change some of your preferences. I know that this kind of echoes what I did when I first hit my goal weight... I decided to just keep doing what I was doing with food and activity and see where my body would finally settle. No drastic changes this time.

And the 90 days of Mental Toughness I started last December worked just as well as a re-commitment strategy. So, here we go again... three months will take me to the beginning of 2015, just a month shy of my already committed Half Marathon in February!

LIFE is good. It's better when I'm fit. And it's at its best when I find kindred spirits whose journeys touch mine at points. Creatively, consciously, and consistently making those choices that support a lifestyle of healthy habits, I remain GRATEFUL for each and every day.

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CICELY360 10/28/2014 9:17PM

  Good blog.

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HILLSLUG98239 10/27/2014 2:45PM

    Interesting. On the one hand, that sounds like three months of a more-strict regimen than what I'm doing now. On the other hand, it's only three months. And if I had a third hand, I'd point out I haven't made it a week adhering to the Racing Weight Quick Start, so three months is like a lifetime for me.

I continue to be impressed with your dedication!

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SJKENT1 10/26/2014 11:05PM

    Interesting

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LIFENPROGRESS 10/26/2014 10:05PM

    I certainly believe in being strong, determined, and motivated -- but perfection is simply not sustainable and leads to failure. Moderation, variety, maneuverability, and compromise are the keys to true success.

Best of success to you on your journey!

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SLENDERELLA61 10/26/2014 8:09PM

    Thanks for sharing. I skimmed it and it looks great. I'll come back to fully read it. I suspect this is a book I may need.

Thanks for all your support on my blog and during this time that I perceive as challenging. -Marsha

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FUNLOVEN 10/26/2014 6:40PM

    It sounds like you have a solid handle on what you want to achieve. You know what they say about "the best laid plan" being the key to success. I have enjoyed your 2 part blog and some day I hope to be in your shoes. In all of my previous weight loss attempts, when I reach my goal that was the end. You know where that leads to - no where! For the first time in my life I have come to realize that this is a life time journey if I plan to maintain my success.

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JSEATTLE 10/26/2014 6:39PM

  Thank you so much! I love your 90 Days of Mental Toughness. I have learned so much from you.

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NONNAOF2 10/26/2014 3:33PM

  When I do go into maintenance, I know, for myself anyway, that I can't "try" eating other stuff, that's how I gained my weight back in the first place. I know that I have an addictive eating personality and would rather stay with what works for me 24/7, even if that means forever! :-)

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JIBBIE49 10/26/2014 11:12AM

    80% of people regain the weight the lose within one year, and 95% of them put it back on within 5 years, so this doctor's program makes good sense. I like Judith Beck PhD who wrote "The BECK Diet Solution" as she has stayed slim for over 25 years using her method. One of her best quotes is

GET OUT OF THE KITCHEN NOW.


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MOONGLOWSNANA 10/26/2014 11:10AM

  Life IS good! It's better when I'm fit! Since I am far away from maintenance this is the best of your blog for me!

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HMBROWN1 10/26/2014 10:15AM

    One day at a time! They will all add up. Good luck on 90 days.

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GOLDENRODFARM 10/26/2014 10:01AM

    I don't believe in the elimination of any of the food groups from a diet unless it is something causing problems like celiac people or watching carbs for diabetics, in the long term it makes no sense to deprive your body of nutrients, but I am going for the moderation angle. Eat a serving of chips if you must but not a bag of chips, dairy will never be eliminated from my diet, I love dairy products, and my cows would go out on strike if I did! But I drink skim milk and use skim to make my yogurt, and only rarely use the cream on special occasions and cooking for others. I always had a handle on that until the last few years working nights, but now I am back on track and will not let myself gain back the hard earned weight loss. Basically each person has to figure out what works for them, it may not be what works for others but if it works for you then that is great, as SP people are always saying "you are an experiment of one"
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SHERYLP461 10/26/2014 9:25AM

    You are doing wonderfully

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LEANJEAN6 10/26/2014 9:18AM

    thanks for flying here for Himself's Birthday------happy to hear you made it home safely too!--We sure did enjoy having you!!!!----Hugs-Lynda

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BESSHAILE 10/26/2014 8:32AM

    Interesting - and quite thought provoking - and for me, timely.

Thank you.

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TRYINGHARD54 10/26/2014 8:18AM

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PENOWOK 10/26/2014 7:44AM

    Most people can do anything for 90 days, IF they really want to!! Interesting book. Thanks for the paraphrases!

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MARYJOANNA 10/26/2014 5:43AM

  The main idea is not to make food your focus.

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KALIGIRL 10/25/2014 10:02PM

    Here's to your new 90 days!
I assume S foods contain sugar? Sounds like the approach shares some similarity to the TQI Diet by Kathy Abascal - although different focus (figuring out what foods cause inflammation in the Western diet)
Love the focus on new things and speaking of new - I found a 'new' (how does 1927 strike you) personality profile that fits most of us - ambivert - "person exhibiting features of an extrovert and an introvert".
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BEAUTY_WITHIN 10/25/2014 10:00PM

    I like the mantiance plan, I think!

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BROOKLYN_BORN 10/25/2014 6:38PM

    The words we choose matter. I like CHOICE not CHEAT and especially replacing food treats with exciting new things.

It's "primarian" that I can't get onboard with. Reducing sugar OK. Cutting out processed foods, absolutely. But whole grains, potatoes, yams, pasta, those things have been a staple of my peasant ancestors for generations. As long as I pay attention to what a portion means, I'm OK.

I imagine you will complete whatever plan you decide to follow. You're the most determined person I know.

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DLDMIL 10/25/2014 2:15PM

    Great blog, thanks for the information.

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GLORIAMAJDI 10/25/2014 2:11PM

    I just love your blogs, you are so full of inspiration, motivation and thought provoking information! Thank you for this. I like what NELLJONES said, 90 days of perfection sounds pretty rough, but ONE DAY - it can be done and done over and over to add up to many days! I am only 15 months into maintenance but still struggling with sugar and mindless noshing. Maybe I should work on one day of perfection and build on it until I have reached 90 days!

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