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Sunday, June 05, 2011

In the world of "maintenance", motivation is key, and action makes it happen. The comedy of scheduling errors yesterday led to some serendipity kinds of discovery / decision moments, and I ended up spending some fun time with people I care about... at a nearby State Park.



Have you considered the therapeutic value of a little bit of "naughty" behavior? Let's take the value of a clean and tidy home, for example. What about letting yourself loose in an atmosphere where it's OK to mess things up, just a bit? Tossing popcorn at the bad guy, even though it messes up the theater is a time honored tradition of the melodrama.



Melodrama, as the MC tells the audience, is all about audience participation. You are encouraged, unlike the movies, to boo and hiss at the bad guy, to cheer the hero, to sigh "awww" over the sweet young heroine, and you can't help laughing out loud at the support cast. This particular "meller", as we fondly call them, was "The Silent Treatment", and it was a hoot. Great cast, great audience, and even though I probably ate more popcorn than I tossed... a wonderful chance to let loose.

Then I also got the treat of a ride home the 20 some miles down the highway with my kid sis, yakking and catching up all the way. And the walk back to my car, because, being me, I had parked a good half mile away from the theater so that I could walk in the natural setting.

Ah, yes, Saturday was a great day.

  
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MARVEEME 6/6/2011 8:28AM

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_LINDA 6/5/2011 5:41PM

    Wow! That sounds like fun! I have never heard of this before. Don't even know if we have something like that here at all. So glad you enjoyed yourself and could spend time with your sister!

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COMPUCATHY 6/5/2011 11:37AM

    That is awesome! What fun! Sounds like you had a GREAT time! I'm glad you had time with kid sis and some time to let loose! Woo hoo! Hope you have a great Sunday, as well! Spark on! emoticon

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SUNNY1432 6/5/2011 10:39AM

    Sounds like it was a lot of fun. Have a great day! emoticon

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KATHRYNLP 6/5/2011 9:36AM

    Great Fun.... we should never get too old to enjoy a bit of fun!
Thanks for this 'fun blog', a reminder to loosen up and really have some fun everyday! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SUNNY332 6/5/2011 8:08AM

    I love Melodrams for all of the reasons they make them fun. I love the audience participation.

When we lived in Wichita, we used to go to Cow Town (local attraction) for melodrams. I miss that.

So glad you had a good time. Fun, fun, fun.....

Sunny

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REJ7777 6/5/2011 7:55AM

    Couldn't help but smile through that blog! emoticon

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MEDDYPEDDY 6/5/2011 7:48AM

    What a great idea! I have to bring it to my theatre group and see how we an adapt it to our tjeatre!

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HOT4FITNESS 6/5/2011 7:44AM

    Glad you had a great time doing something fun and spending time with someone you love. Awwww.

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Saturday... and a comedy of scheduling errors!

Saturday, June 04, 2011

Where to start? A month ago I set today as my maintenance consultation for Jenny Craig, at 8 a.m. A week later, I had a "date" to go horse back riding this morning, too... right on top of it. Then things started to get a little crazy, when I realized besides these two items, this morning was also one of the "big" charity runs of the year, here in town, a 10K.

I felt of the three, the deal with the horses was the most important to keep as it involved other people. So, I rescheduled the maintenance consultation to NEXT Saturday, or at least I thought I did. And I didn't sign up for the run. You can only do one thing with the same time slot!

Time passes. The other people involved with the horse deal all ended up backing out, and there I was alone. I discovered that in my reschedule of the maintenance appointment, the new date/time could overlap a work commitment. Bother! I started "parannoying" about what if the work thing had problems and lopped over into the time slot. It should be OK, in theory, but it was adding to my stress level to have them so close together.

So, there I was, with NOTHING on my schedule for today, unless I wanted to go do the horse thing solo. Feeling a little at loose ends, I came home from work yesterday, only to find a phone message reminding me of my 8 a.m. appointment today. Apparently the reschedule didn't "take" in their system. What's a gal to do in the face of the fates intervening? I kept the appointment, which now frees me from the worry about next weekend and what could happen with the work thing.

Sometimes the whole thing just works itself out, if you don't try too hard to "fix" it.

By the way: the maintenance consult showed me 6.5 pounds under my published goal at the center. The implication of this is that I have to gain 1.5 to 6.5 pounds sometime between now and my August appointment. Now, I know that sounds like an enviable position to be in, but if you've ever had a friend who just can't gain weight? It's hard for them, too. In my case, it's not a case of being unable to gain... it's gaining just enough and not too much. I like where I'm at... but I want that $$$ back... and that means no more than 5 pounds under published goal at the official weigh-in. I would love to gain those 1.5 pounds as muscle mass!

  
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REJ7777 6/5/2011 8:08AM

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PENNYAN45 6/4/2011 11:00PM

    If I eat enough sweets in a day I can gain 3-4lbs of fluid.
Maybe you want to binge on some ice cream over a weekend.

(I can't believe I just suggested that to you, my friend, here on SP. I'm looking around to see if the SP police are coming for me....)



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46SHADOW 6/4/2011 6:33PM

    Or figure out how many donuts or food of your choice you would need to eat to gain the weight back...I'm guessing 12-20 donuts.mmmmmmm

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46SHADOW 6/4/2011 6:28PM

    I would eat sodium and drink lots of water a day before the next appt...unless YOU want to gain the weight back or its unhealthy not to.

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WHIPPEACHZ 6/4/2011 3:41PM

    I always end up in more trouble trying to fix things... sometimes it's better to leave it alone and see what happens. I'm glad it all worked out for you. Gaining muscle... great idea! That works out perfect.

Have a Great Day!

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MARVEEME 6/4/2011 3:27PM

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Divine intervention strikes again! Keep heading in the right direction. YIPPEE!

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MSLZZY 6/4/2011 1:16PM

    1.5 pounds of muscles mass might be a good trick to learn. Keep me posted-hugs!

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MNTWINSGAL 6/4/2011 11:37AM

    I'd be afraid to try to gain, the fear being that I wouldn't have the willpower to know when to stop. You are much stronger in that department than I, though, so yea for you! Good idea....build 1.5 pounds of muscle. You go, Barb!

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_LINDA 6/4/2011 11:23AM

    Wow! So glad it all worked out in the end!! That is pretty strict, having to adhere to a specific weight loss goal. Weight fluctuates so much you really can't predict how its going to come off and what you will be at any particular weigh-in. I don't think that is right. I am glad to have gone my own way, using only Spark People's Trackers to keep myself accountable, and losing no money in the process..
I agree, go heavy on the strength training and build your weight up with muscle and that will also tone you up good and help burn even more calories!
Have a great weekend!

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GRAMPIAN 6/4/2011 11:07AM

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WOLFSHADESS 6/4/2011 11:04AM

    I would have gone horseback riding with you! lol
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MR21965 6/4/2011 11:01AM

  You are so positive and go with the flow! Very motivating!

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SUNNY332 6/4/2011 10:51AM

    Being flexible is one of our greatest assets. It allows us to start our days over at any time.

What a day!

Sunny

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What's your favorite Spark Award?

Friday, June 03, 2011

It's award day... somehow I tend to forget they are coming up, and then, boom! My e-mail is full of folks "liking" my status, and the announcements of the awards themselves. I have to admit I have a favorite... I like the exercise minutes, and the perfect attendance ones, when I achieve them are gravy. But my favorite by far is the Consistency Award.

It tracks perfectly with my "Year of Majority Rules". Once we have the habits firmly established as the default, if we can just "keep on keepin' on", we will prevail. We shall lose if that's our intention, and we shall maintain. But we must be consistent.

Not so much consistent with logging in to Spark and spinning the wheel, as consistent in keeping first things first. In taking care of our bodies, minds, and spirits, so that we can then take care of everything else, our purpose in life. Logging in and Sparking is a kind mind trick to remind ourselves of the importance of our journey to health. So, to me, Consistency is King, and Majority Rules.

Here's to another consistent month, active, and supporting good health!

  
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PURPLESPEDCOW 6/4/2011 8:22AM

    Consistency sounds better than it is. Awarded for spinning the SparkPoints wheel during the month. There are two levels for this award: one for spinning at least 20 times/month and another for spinning every day of the month.
I try to get the fitness every month.

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MSLZZY 6/4/2011 8:17AM

    Consistency award makes it for me!

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MNTWINSGAL 6/3/2011 7:45PM

    I've always wondered what the consistency award is all about. I usually get one....but I don't know what I did to earn it. I just make up my own designations for what goals I was consistent with. It's not always the same!

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_LINDA 6/3/2011 12:12PM

    I like the trivia one as that is the only one that is a challenge for me to get. I am always hovering around 89% and when I make it to 90%, I usually blow one, so I don't win it much at all. I am a person who will answer the questions honestly, to the bitter end. I heard you only have to take 20 days of questions to become eligible for the trophy, so it would be easy not to take any more questions if you are already at 90%. But I have always been too honest for my own good lol. Of all my Spark friends, only five ever get this award, so its a prize!
Have a fantastic Friday!!

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MARVEEME 6/3/2011 8:42AM

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You're ABSOLUTELY right!
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SUNNY332 6/3/2011 8:24AM

    Consistancy does count!!

Have a Fab Friday.

Sunny

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ZELLAZM 6/3/2011 8:08AM

    I agree! As a matter of fact, I posted on my May 1 blog that I was really aiming to be Ms Consistency for the month. It is really the key to making this thing happen. Perfect Attendance is a nice one, too, but, as you said, I need to be consistent whether or not I'm in a position to post and track on SP.

Here's to more Consistency in June!

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The King's Speech... rewards and lessons

Thursday, June 02, 2011

Wow. What can I say? I wanted to see this movie from the first I heard it was being made, but I didn't get to it in the theater... and today, courtesy of Netflix, it arrived in my mailbox. Seeing the story is the reward. It also brings a lesson.

The story is well known in history of the younger brother becoming King upon the abdication of the elder. One side of the story is particularly pertinent to us Sparklers: that of the achiever standing in his own way. A man who CAN, fearful of the ambition to BE. When the teacher encourages him, tells him he is capable, he sees it as treason to desire the goal.

Have any of us considered reaching our goals to be "treason" against the "kings" or "queens" in our own little realms? Perhaps we have a beloved or envied sibling who has always been thin while we have struggled? Or perhaps our families are ALL "big". How dare we aspire to thin and fit?

Do we then set out to fight against our teachers, as the King does in this movie? Of course we all know it has a happy ending... the motivation to overcome his fears for the sake of his nation is strong. He works hard, and triumphs. As can we.

Spark on... remember to reward your efforts... and most importantly, remember that you are worth it!
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REJ7777 6/4/2011 10:50PM

    Great analogy. I haven't seen the movie, but I plan to.

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DEBRA0818 6/3/2011 7:24AM

    Remember Colin Firth in Pride and Prejudice. Yum. But anyway, yes, we have to fight and sweat and cry and swear and quit and start again and finally be motivated by something bigger than our selves (Iinternally or externally) to get to the big speech at the end where we can say, "I Did It!" still trembling all the way.

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_LINDA 6/3/2011 2:37AM

    I would like to see this movie if I ever get the chance. I am always missing movies I want to see. Used to go to them a lot.
Thanks for the life lessons comparisons!

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MSLZZY 6/3/2011 12:04AM

    Great parallel to our lives-thank you!

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SUNNY1432 6/2/2011 11:53PM

    I am going to have to watch this movie. Thanks again for the interesting and insightful blog!! emoticon

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WATERMELLEN 6/2/2011 8:17PM

    Clearly you DID enjoy it . . . and as usual zoomed right in to the larger significance and its connection to issues we're all addressing here!! Thank you!!

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What kind of instrument are you?

Wednesday, June 01, 2011

I've had this blog bubbling at the back of my head since Sunday, when I went to my sister's home for the family Memorial Day gather. I put this picture as my background for a bit and challenged my musically inclined friends to identify what was "different" about the instrument depicted.

This is a crossover instrument: it is the size of a viola, but it is stringed with an additional high string, a violin's E string. My sister, who is a string teacher, loves it because she can use one instrument to teach both violin pupils and viola pupils, and she can play harmonies and opposite parts no matter who she is playing alongside.

She has another interesting instrument that she had all of us try. A chin cello... another instrument the size of a viola, but strung with cello strings, an octave lower. What one observes, placing it under the chin and drawing the bow over the strings is a vibration much deeper and stronger than that of a violin or a viola.

So, what does that have to do with Sparking? (You know I'd find something... EVERYTHING is connected, somehow!)

Do you ever feel "different" from those around you? Do you feel "different" at a smaller, maintenance, goal-weight size? Maybe you just need to learn what kind of instrument you are! Maybe you're NOT a viola, even though you are viola-sized!

OK, that's my whimsey for today... it's OK to be who we are, and we can be quite unique and interesting in our design and purpose. Maybe you have the deep rich tones of a cello... and you have to ride out some extra vibrations! Or, perhaps you are blessed with a broad range of potential, and could play harmonies with many other instruments. Let's learn to play that extra string!
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COMPUCATHY 6/2/2011 7:44AM

    Interesting and thought provoking! Thank you...that is quite a comparison. It will be interesting to find out what maintenance is like for me when I am maintenance-size. Your new pics are awesome, BTW! You go, girl! Keep up the good work! Spark on! emoticon

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KALIGIRL 6/1/2011 1:29PM

    "it's OK to be who we are, and we can be quite unique and interesting in our design and purpose" - isn't it grand to have so many options for similarity yet differences - makes the world go round!

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_LINDA 6/1/2011 12:06PM

    Wonderful music inspired blog! Thanks for information! I was not aware of this as I know nothing about stringed instruments. Just know I like their sounds ;)
I have always marched to the beat of a different drummer. I go where ever my body takes me. I am happy in my own skin. Wish it worked better, but you can't have everything..Spark People has made me realized for the first time I don't always have to go solo!

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CREATINGAMANDA 6/1/2011 9:37AM

    Love this!

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NATURALLYJEN 6/1/2011 9:29AM

    Fun post, an interesting way to look at things. Thanks for posting! :-)

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SUNNY332 6/1/2011 9:27AM

    Whatever instrument I am on any given day, may it play the best of tune.

Great post.

Sunny



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HOT4FITNESS 6/1/2011 8:52AM

    Nice blog!! We are unique and special in every way Thanks for sharing

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DEBRA0818 6/1/2011 8:48AM

    I was not conscious of feeling different when I was closer to my goal weight (way back in 1989), but I must have felt that way because I didn't stay there for long. I am very aware of feeling vulnerable when I lose weight (a feeling I do not like at all), so I know that I need to work on getting comfortable with that feeling as much as (or maybe even more than) I need to work on diet and exercise (which is really, you know, kind of a no-brainer).



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WORDLILY 6/1/2011 8:11AM

    Great post. :)

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WATERMELLEN 6/1/2011 8:05AM

    Love this! Thoughtful, profound, unpretentious, "play"ful (musically and otherwise!!).

And as for "what kind of an instrument am I"? I remember how much my daughter (a clarinetist) loved playing in the highschool band once she realized that every instrument contributed to the music, every instrument was essential -- and that the burden of perfection did not fall upon any one performer. It was a community of instruments and here too we are a community making music more wonderful than any of us could produce individually!!

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