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Work ethic and healthy habits

Sunday, June 12, 2011

Do you have a voice in your head that says "work before play"?

I do.

Does it get in the way of establishing and maintaining healthy habits?

Mine sometimes does.

Here's how it works. This particular voice in my head is attached to my to-do list, and adores the word "should". It sounds an awful lot like my mother. Sigh.

Voice: "I should cut / pull weeds."
My rebel voice: "Aw, I don't wanna."
Voice: "Then you can't go out and play."

So, I end up neither pulling the weeds NOR getting in active fun, like a bike ride or a walk!

Not cool. Yes, being active is FUN... but it is also worthy of being on my to-do list, and even worthy of coming ahead of some of those other "should" items.

  
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REJ7777 6/15/2011 6:41AM

    emoticon It's disconcerting how our inner programs have so much influence over our lives. But awareness is a key we can use to understand the conflict and then reprogram ourselves. (Easier to say than to do! But it's not impossible.)

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PURPLESPEDCOW 6/13/2011 11:26AM

    Start telling yourself that just because something is fun doesn't mean it is play and exercise is now on your to-do list!

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CONCHA77 6/13/2011 7:39AM

    Yep, I can relate. I was always told growing up, Work, then play! Words still stuck in my head.


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MSLZZY 6/12/2011 11:36PM

    Shucks-sounds like my house!

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 6/12/2011 8:13PM

    Isn't it funny how we do that to ourselves? Well, maybe not funny, but interesting, at least. I wage the same battles and wonder why I feel like I have to "pay" before I "play." Here's hoping that next time you can recognize that physical activity is definitely worthy of being on your "to do" list!

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LEANJEAN6 6/12/2011 6:45PM

    You made me laugh cause Ive heard that voice too!---And it gets ion the way here too!--LOL--Lynda

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KASEYCOFF 6/12/2011 5:25PM

    You're right - it falls into the same category as taking care of yourself a priority, instead of feeling selfish for making those choices. But I still laughed - are you sure that voice doesn't sound like MY mother's?
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_LINDA 6/12/2011 4:45PM

    I like being free to make my own choices, but suffer some of what you do. This is why my exercise is a priority and must be done before anything else, including eating breakfast and Sparking :) So I am reliable with that, but not with chores and work so much..
Enjoy your Sunday, you can do it!

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FITFABJENN 6/12/2011 4:19PM

    That's the great thing about being an adult. We can choose to eat dessert (fresh fruit, I hope) before our dinner if we want to, and we can put our "me" time ahead of our "should" time, too.

I always look forward to your blogs. You are so inspirational and thought-provoking. Keep on sparking.

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MYAKAYAH 6/12/2011 4:06PM

    I think you have the right idea, you have to mix it up so you have work and play time. Sometimes I get more into work than play mode myself. A good reminder~
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A bit late for the party, but celebrating anyway!

Friday, June 10, 2011

This morning while casting about for ideas to blog my daily "pep talk" to myself, I managed to find my "Day 1" blog from May 30, 2009. I had written one before that, but in fact that is when it finally kicked in for me and I started being serious about this current phase of healthier habits.

I had been intending to declare this my Sparkversary, but hadn't done it yet. As usual, I am "the late Aunt Barb" (family joke, folks). I stuck my 2 year badge on the Spark Page just now, and we're moving on. In those two years, I have dropped weight and got into the maintenance phase, and so far, so good.

This journey, however, began long before Spark. It began with my decades-long battle with myself over the attraction of food and the desire to be "normal". The straw that broke the proverbial camel's back is shown in this photo, my really, really really before, from 1989, I think it was.



And of course, you recognize the profile pic, from April 30, 2011. There was a lot of yo-yoing in between. So I still don't completely trust the permanence of ANY size. But this is the me I want to be, for the rest of my life, God willing.

  
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JUST_TRI_IT 6/12/2011 9:45AM

    WOOHOO!!! I am about as late as you, so you probably won't notice! LOL :) COngrats on your 2-year anniversary. Your profile pics are seared into my mind and they often encourage me to get in a few more strength exercises in. You are my go-to person for getting motivation for the exercises ball, the weights and push-ups/sit-ups.

Keep on keeping on! :) emoticon of the rest of your healthy life!

Diane

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REJ7777 6/11/2011 4:51PM

    emoticon Happy Sparkversary to you! emoticon emoticon

I wish you as much success in maintaining your goal weight as you've had in getting there! emoticon emoticon

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LEANJEAN6 6/11/2011 4:24PM

    Wow! 2 year Anniversary--You did so well!---You must be so proud!!Lynda

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LISALOSING52 6/11/2011 3:52PM

    Happy 2 year Spark Anniversary!

Dahling...You look Mah-ve-lous!!!

Very Inspiring!

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APRILLSCOTT 6/11/2011 3:33PM

    Happy Aniversary Barb! You look emoticon! An inspiration to me!

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LJCANNON 6/10/2011 10:40PM

    emoticonHappy Spark-A-Versary, Barb!!

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MNTWINSGAL 6/10/2011 7:21PM

    Happy Sparkversary, Barb! I had mine this week too. Wish I could say I've been as successful as you, but I'm hanging in there. One day I too will be a success story.

Wow....I don't even recognize you in your "before" picture!

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_LINDA 6/10/2011 12:05PM

    Very well done getting through two years!!
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Hope you will be celebrating maintaining now for many years to come!!

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MSLZZY 6/10/2011 10:40AM

    A time for reflection and celebration! Great!

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FITFABJENN 6/10/2011 9:19AM

    Congratulations on your 2-year Sparkversary! Not only have you had success for yourself, but you have inspired countless others, including me.

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KATHRYNLP 6/10/2011 8:51AM

    Congrats on your 2yrs. Spark-Anniversary! It sure looks good on you! emoticon emoticon

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ELSEEBEE 6/10/2011 8:33AM

    emoticon You are an inspiration to all of us!

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KALIGIRL 6/10/2011 8:29AM

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Here's to not only 2 years of success for you, but all the assistance you've given the rest of us!
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MARVEEME 6/10/2011 8:06AM

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There is no finish line.

Tuesday, June 07, 2011

"There is no spoon" is one of my favorite quotes from The Matrix.

"There is no finish line" is my personal Spark theme. This is forever. For the rest of our lives. It doesn't end because "nobody's looking" today. Some days this is clearer than others. Today was such a day.

It doesn't end if we don't have the means to post to Spark (my internet was "down" this morning), or write things down on paper (it dawned on me partway through the day that I used to write my food and activity in a paper journal).

I still did what I'm supposed to do. Automatically. The truth is, we are worth taking care of every day, in every circumstance.

There is no "cheating". There is no "diet". There are only decisions. Lots and lots of decisions, every day. We have the Spark. We know our life in is our hands.

What a great thing to know! Because there is no finish line, we pace ourselves and find our balance that supports long-term, healthy lives. Healthy habits are cumulative. Start one. Any one. Keep that small promise to yourself. Several times. And you might just find you do *more* than you promised.

And why not? You're worth it!

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JERSEYDEBBIE23 6/13/2011 9:45AM

    Great post!

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CELIAMINER 6/13/2011 9:26AM

    So glad someone shared your blog page with me. Terrific advice!

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LINDAJOYWK 6/10/2011 6:59AM

    Good advice,as always.

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MNNICE 6/9/2011 9:58PM

    Oh, very well said! That's what this is all about. I say maintenance is not the end of the road, it's the beginning of a new one. And it can be a very long and winding road, but we keep following it through all it's twists and turns!

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JOURNEYTO60 6/9/2011 8:56PM

    Great blog and great things to keep in mind. You are right-there is no ending, only beginnings!

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KALIGIRL 6/9/2011 8:49AM

    Decisions - part of my 'D' string - you are so right.
I keep forgetting it's the journey that counts not the end...
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PENNYAN45 6/9/2011 1:04AM

    After a while, when the desired eating behaviors becomes more automatic, our many choices require less energy and attention each day. I HOPE!!

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STEPHIEKNITS 6/8/2011 4:10PM

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MARVEEME 6/8/2011 9:14AM

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BUGGYS 6/8/2011 8:28AM

    It's all about making the best decisions for ourselves for the rest of our lives...yes we can!!!

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SUNNY332 6/8/2011 7:27AM

    I agree 100% - thanks for another great post.

Have a Wonderful Wednesday.

Sunny

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MSLZZY 6/8/2011 7:13AM

    Awesome blog-hugs!

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REJ7777 6/8/2011 5:47AM

    Great blog! That last paragraph sums it all up. emoticon

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_LINDA 6/8/2011 1:17AM

    Great idea pulling this journey together in one neat catch phrase :) I won't stop tracking my food, ever. I actually think its kind of fun, juggling what I can eat and still stay in my calorie range. Its 90 % healthy stuff as that is what I really enjoy eating. But I will always have cheese and chocolate, just learned to put a lid on the quantities I used to consume ;).
Its the thrill of the chase that keeps it refreshing and interesting. We don't ever really want to come to that finish line..
Keep up the great work!

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COLUMBINE2 6/8/2011 12:38AM

    Right-o! You hit the nail on the head. It's kinda like "growing up" and ceasing the game of trying to "get away with sneaking food or lying to ourselves." There's NO kidding our bodies....as Nike says, "Just DO it."

Thanks for the great blog!

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BESTSUSIEYET 6/7/2011 11:17PM

    Right on! Another great blog, Barb!

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WATERMELLEN 6/7/2011 10:20PM

    So so true. Even if "I" am not tracking . . .my body is, relentlessly!!

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SPEEDY143 6/7/2011 9:58PM

    emoticontheme... "There is no finish line." You are absolutely right. Healthy living is a life style. Diets are not sustainable. There are no bad foods, it's all about portion control and living your life in the here and now. A good scale of success is the answer when you ask yourself... "Do I feel better than I did?" "Can I do more now with less pain?" "Am I proud of who I am becoming?" emoticon

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UNIQUELYBETH 6/7/2011 9:55PM

    That is great advice! Thanks so much for sharing!

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MNTWINSGAL 6/7/2011 9:54PM

    Absolutely! As has been my mantra lately, I AM WORTH IT!

And like you said, we ALL are!

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HOT4FITNESS 6/7/2011 9:29PM

    I'm in it for the long haul with ya. Let's light that fire and keep moving

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FITFABJENN 6/7/2011 9:25PM

    You're absolutely right. This is a lifetime commitment we are making to ourselves because we ARE worth it.

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Aiming for the next goal

Monday, June 06, 2011

I decided after work today to get serious about the sit-up training. Went back to my "200 situps" training plan, and my "100 pushups" training plan. 4th of July I have my next date with the Army Physical Fitness Test for women my age. I have consistently done well with the push ups and the 2 mile run, but I have yet to pass the situps test. It's not going to happen if I don't train. And I have this bet with my son. emoticon

I changed my page background... these are the horses out at the State Park, after their workday is over. It didn't dawn on me until sometime *after* I took the shot that essentially, I'm putting a bunch of horses' behinds as my Spark Page photo! Literally. Ah, well.

And... in the weather news... it's HOT here. 99 today, Fahrenheit scale. Tomorrow they are predicting it hits triple digits. emoticon For those of you still working on it... I will say this for the heat: it's a lot easier to handle now than it was two years ago. emoticon

Happy end of Monday all... and have a great week!

  
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ANDI571 6/7/2011 3:54PM

    200 situps? What a woman!!!!!!!!!!! emoticon

I thought for a second I recognized one of those behinds. It looked familiar, but it was a figment of my imagination. emoticon

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SUNNY332 6/7/2011 3:14PM

    Well, I can vouch for you that you are not a "horses behind". Too funny!

Great goal.

Sunny

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_LINDA 6/7/2011 1:31AM

    emoticon Not their best side, is it??
Way to go on your goals! I am sure you will do it in style!
I so wish I could get some of that heat you guys are all getting. I feel so much better the hotter it is. The 68 we had today was great as there was no wind, so it was awesome being outside!

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DRB13_1 6/7/2011 12:50AM

    Go going with the sit up and push up training, good luck with the fitness test next month. Hope you win the bet!

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SUNNY1432 6/7/2011 12:21AM

    Good Luck with the goals; and thanks for the picture of the horse's rears, better than people that act like them! emoticon

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MSLZZY 6/7/2011 12:01AM

    Hot here too! Good luck with your next goal! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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REJ7777 6/6/2011 10:40PM

    A bunch of horses' behinds... emoticon emoticon emoticon Thanks for the laugh!

You gotta win that bet! emoticon

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DEBRA0818 6/6/2011 10:10PM

    I know what you mean about the heat being easier to take when you're not toting around an extra 100+ pounds, at least I think I remember that far back!

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And I'll be getting there again -- maybe by next year. The Florida summer is a wonderful incentive!

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BESTSUSIEYET 6/6/2011 10:10PM

    Right about dealing better with the heat now that I've lost 50# -- but in winter I am cold so often! Guess it's a trade off. But I can layer up in winter, and don't have AC so I think this is better! Good luck with your goals!

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MARVEEME 6/6/2011 9:25PM

    Fantastic news! You're an INSPIRATION! Keep up the good work!

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APRILLSCOTT 6/6/2011 9:24PM

    You are truly an inspiration that has come a long way since the first time I met you on line. Wow! Army Physical! You don't have time to hurt do you? 200 pushups!!! I would do good to get 3 in! I know it has to be better for you know that the weight is gone tough! Even in 99 degree weather! I will have to keep checking your page out for just the inspiration! Hope you have a great week!

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WATERMELLEN 6/6/2011 9:21PM

    Amazing how much more I enjoy the heat at my lighter weight!! And: great planning on your sit-up training!!

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Rewards, belonging, positive feelings

Sunday, June 05, 2011

In the world of "maintenance", motivation is key, and action makes it happen. The comedy of scheduling errors yesterday led to some serendipity kinds of discovery / decision moments, and I ended up spending some fun time with people I care about... at a nearby State Park.



Have you considered the therapeutic value of a little bit of "naughty" behavior? Let's take the value of a clean and tidy home, for example. What about letting yourself loose in an atmosphere where it's OK to mess things up, just a bit? Tossing popcorn at the bad guy, even though it messes up the theater is a time honored tradition of the melodrama.



Melodrama, as the MC tells the audience, is all about audience participation. You are encouraged, unlike the movies, to boo and hiss at the bad guy, to cheer the hero, to sigh "awww" over the sweet young heroine, and you can't help laughing out loud at the support cast. This particular "meller", as we fondly call them, was "The Silent Treatment", and it was a hoot. Great cast, great audience, and even though I probably ate more popcorn than I tossed... a wonderful chance to let loose.

Then I also got the treat of a ride home the 20 some miles down the highway with my kid sis, yakking and catching up all the way. And the walk back to my car, because, being me, I had parked a good half mile away from the theater so that I could walk in the natural setting.

Ah, yes, Saturday was a great day.

  
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MARVEEME 6/6/2011 8:28AM

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_LINDA 6/5/2011 5:41PM

    Wow! That sounds like fun! I have never heard of this before. Don't even know if we have something like that here at all. So glad you enjoyed yourself and could spend time with your sister!

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COMPUCATHY 6/5/2011 11:37AM

    That is awesome! What fun! Sounds like you had a GREAT time! I'm glad you had time with kid sis and some time to let loose! Woo hoo! Hope you have a great Sunday, as well! Spark on! emoticon

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SUNNY1432 6/5/2011 10:39AM

    Sounds like it was a lot of fun. Have a great day! emoticon

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KATHRYNLP 6/5/2011 9:36AM

    Great Fun.... we should never get too old to enjoy a bit of fun!
Thanks for this 'fun blog', a reminder to loosen up and really have some fun everyday! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SUNNY332 6/5/2011 8:08AM

    I love Melodrams for all of the reasons they make them fun. I love the audience participation.

When we lived in Wichita, we used to go to Cow Town (local attraction) for melodrams. I miss that.

So glad you had a good time. Fun, fun, fun.....

Sunny

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REJ7777 6/5/2011 7:55AM

    Couldn't help but smile through that blog! emoticon

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MEDDYPEDDY 6/5/2011 7:48AM

    What a great idea! I have to bring it to my theatre group and see how we an adapt it to our tjeatre!

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HOT4FITNESS 6/5/2011 7:44AM

    Glad you had a great time doing something fun and spending time with someone you love. Awwww.

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