ONEKIDSMOM   131,025
100,000-149,999 SparkPoints
ONEKIDSMOM's Recent Blog Entries

A long, slow jog

Monday, June 20, 2011

That's what my son proposed we do on Sunday at 1 p.m. Meet him at the trailhead and we shall go on a long, slow jog. Well, knowing his fitness level, height, age and gender, I figured HIS long slow jog might just be a race pace for his mom.

WRONG. He is working on conditioning. He had not been doing a lot of impact running the past two years. Although he is working on speed, he is mostly working on impact and environment: learning to deal with outdoors and heat and impact. And he's early in the program (first week).

Since I was along for the "ride", essentially, (and because he wanted to show off his technology) he started up his Smart Phone App that tracks your speed via GPS and gives vocal prompts in a voice of your choice. He told me we were targeting 12 to 9 minute miles, and I warned him if it were closer to 9, I'd be in trouble.

However, he also said it was to be an hour, and most of my jogs so far have been intervals (at least since last November), and shorter in duration. It was sunny and warm. You'd be proud of me, I remembered the sunscreen! emoticon And the billed cap. I was prepared.

That silly voice kept telling us to "slow down" in the first portion of the course. We went a half hour out, then turned around and came back. Most of the coming back was at a walk, and it nagged us in the other direction to "speed up" but we were having none of it. Phone apps be hanged, listen to your bodies! We stopped two or three times to stretch, remove gravel from his shoes, etc.

Momly conclusion: Son, you have to invest in better shoes. After our run, we both went to our respective homes to shower, then I took him out to eat and to shop for his birthday present. We got him a good pair of stabilizing running shoes. Hope this helps. emoticon

And we may just do this again next week.

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

KALIGIRL 6/21/2011 1:21PM

    Sounds emoticon
Glad you got him shoes and emoticonon running a half-hour - you are going to leave me in the dust...

Report Inappropriate Comment
PENNYAN45 6/21/2011 7:44AM

    What a GREAT time with your son! Wow! And how many sons can say they went jogging for an hour with their mom?
Way to GO!!


Report Inappropriate Comment
WATERMELLEN 6/20/2011 7:23PM

    Just spent about 3 hours chatting with my son: love that mum and son time. Precious.

Report Inappropriate Comment
MNTWINSGAL 6/20/2011 7:22PM

    What a great day! I'm so glad you and your son got to spend some quality time, and in such a healthy way! And way to go with your choice of birthday present for him!

Report Inappropriate Comment
KATIE33MAHALA 6/20/2011 6:27PM

    love this story, Its nice that you and your Son can do this together!

Report Inappropriate Comment
_LINDA 6/20/2011 10:54AM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
That was a fabulous time with your son! Great job getting him proper running shoes, that is so important! He is lucky to have a caring and concerned Mom! I hope you can enjoy future jogs with him!

Report Inappropriate Comment
MEDDYPEDDY 6/20/2011 9:14AM

    How nice! I am hula hooping with the daughter and it is really fund to exercise together!

Report Inappropriate Comment
MARVEEME 6/20/2011 8:54AM

    WTG Mom! They will take him ANYWHERE!

Report Inappropriate Comment

And on the seventh day, She rested...

Sunday, June 19, 2011

Happy Father's Day to all the Spark Dads out there!

A life with dignity has to include days of rest and relaxation. That's why this effort to "clean up my act" has to avoid becoming marathon / binge cleaning. A life of dignity includes good night's sleep, nutritious meals, healthy levels of activity... and a home that is a refuge, supporting the ability to welcome in people I care about. I'm going to get that home the same way I got to goal weight... one day at a time, with small improvements in daily behavior.

So, all that said, day 7 (yesterday) began with staying up all night. It was my turn to monitor some computer work overnight for work. It went very smoothly... all finished by 7 a.m. Saturday.

This is relevant because sleep is vital to health. I caught a short nap before the phone started ringing. First, my brother. YES! He's coming. In about 3 weeks. And YES, I will be the sleep-over house this trip. So this effort that I started before finding out about this visit is charmingly well-timed.

Second, my niece... she and her mom are returning something to me, will I be home? I have something to give them, too. So, as I was sweeping my front steps (my morning "one thing" for yesterday), they dropped over and we visited for a few minutes, then they went on their errand run, and I finished the steps and went back in for another nap.

I walked to the mailbox to mail in my commitment to join the National Weight Control Registry. Yes, I finally decided that I would take this step. After that, I managed to get yet another nap, and went to bed early. I slept a full nine hours, people... I felt *wonderful* this morning.

This led to today's one thing: I cleared out and vacuumed the guest room. I know, that sounds menacingly like a the start of a marathon, but it really wasn't. The guest room was already relatively clear. But all rooms left unused do tend to gather dust. I bagged up some old video tapes for the trash. So, today's "one thing" has been handled. At least the before church one.

Here's to those small, every day changes, made with consistency, and appreciated, daily. We can do this, and we're worth it. emoticon

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

MSLZZY 6/19/2011 10:45PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
LOVE_2_LAUGH 6/19/2011 3:17PM

    Your conviction and dedication are awesome, Barb. Way to go!

Report Inappropriate Comment
KIMA86 6/19/2011 11:39AM

    Thanks for the reminder! In our hurry to reach our goals (whether they be weight loss, work-related or anything else), we often overlook our need for rest. I have to keep reminding myself of that fact.

Report Inappropriate Comment

Life with dignity, Day 6

Saturday, June 18, 2011

Initial goal reminder: handle each day's mail today.

So far, so fair, I've done it each day. In the process, while thinking just about "today's mail", somehow the piles on my kitchen counter and dining room table have kind of melted away. Decisions I had "put off" became clear in thinking about handling today's mail today. So I can call this week a good one on that front.

I'm adding a couple of small goals to go with "handle each day's mail today." One is "do one thing before work that contributes to living with dignity", the other is "do one thing after work and before bed that contributes to living with dignity".

Cautionary note: Not allowed to have that "one thing" turn into a marathon! No more than 15 minutes to half an hour for these "one thing" activities! And as with the weight management and activity goals, there is a need for rewards to go with achieving these small goals.

As with the weight loss / activity plans, this motivation will take daily pep talks and reminders that "yes! I LIKE my home", and "I'm worth it!"

Here's to a great weekend, folks! Oh, my one thing this morning? I swept my front porch and steps and filled one bag with weeds / cuttings. "Yes, I DO like my home."


  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

JOURNEYTO60 6/19/2011 1:01PM

    Wow! I love these ideas. It would do us all good to follow suit. I love the handling the mail-I find my mail kind of scary sometimes. And, I love the idea of spending just a little time each day contributing to what is important to us. "Living with Dignity:-awesome! Thanks for sharing.

Report Inappropriate Comment
MARVEEME 6/19/2011 8:09AM


Report Inappropriate Comment
MSLZZY 6/18/2011 10:28PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticonWhat a great idea!

Report Inappropriate Comment
WATERMELLEN 6/18/2011 8:47PM

    Mail strike here in Canada has helped with that problem (LOL). I sympathize with the tendency to ignore tasks OR get engaged in a marathon: what I did in the garden this afternoon . . . moderation works better!!

Report Inappropriate Comment

    Argh. My table is plies of papers. Old mail, junk stuff. Stuff I want to file. I have a place to put most of it. This definately is a bell ringer with me. I will try the short time goals.

Report Inappropriate Comment
SUNNY332 6/18/2011 3:55PM

    I have been doing the same thing today - going though the stack of mail that has accumulated on the DR table. Good idea to make a committment to handle todays mail today.

Off to sweep the patio. Sunny

Report Inappropriate Comment
LOVE_2_LAUGH 6/18/2011 3:24PM

    You are so awesome, Barb. I need to take notes from you. Somehow, doing 15 minutes of "something" before work and then again after work/before bed, really isn't all that difficult, is it? It's getting in the habit of doing it. I may just try your method -- it has to be better than mine (which is do nothing until guests are expected, and then do a marathon tidying up).

Report Inappropriate Comment
DEBRITA01 6/18/2011 2:37PM

    I love your living with dignity...we all deserve to love ourselves and maintain living spaces that promote our well-being. Good job on the 15 minute goals...I may steal your idea and set some mini-goals for myself. emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
SWEETMAGNOLIA2 6/18/2011 2:27PM

    Great goals. This reminds me of a team I joined in January, Flylady: Peace is Mine. You might enjoy going to a blog I wrote about it. It has been a fun and successful way for me to reach the same goals. All the best!

Comment edited on: 6/18/2011 2:28:30 PM

Report Inappropriate Comment
BESTSUSIEYET 6/18/2011 1:28PM

    I'm with you on this one! Told hubby 2weeks ago I can't stand the state of our kitchen table -- having to push stuff aside every night to make room for our plates! Ugh! I have now kept my stuff cleared off every day. He's got a little, but far less than before. I'm trying to handle mail when I bring it in. Have 2 baskets ... 1 for things that need attention on my next day off, the other for "stuff I might want to look at." so far,it's working. Hubby is working on a system for his stuff, and I appreciate the effort!
My "extra something" is turning out to be hand watering some hanging flower baskets. Hubby didn't think the larger pots I bought this hear would get enough water with the old drip system, so I'm needing to supplement them after work. So far, so good. Bye for now ... Need to go press out slacks for hubby to wear to church tomorrow. Enjoy the fruits of your small tasks! That is reward in itself!

Report Inappropriate Comment
CHRYS13 6/18/2011 1:04PM

    Love it! What a fantastic plan! Here's to continued success and loving ourselves and our homes!

Report Inappropriate Comment

On the plus side: life with dignity, Day 5

Friday, June 17, 2011

Yesterday I mentioned the "down" side of cleaning up my act, home organization version. I am far from done with this effort, but as with the losing weight and taking better care of my physical health, it's going to take time to get to the balance I desire in terms of shall I call it "environmental health".

It occurs to me that I have in some ways used my "messy" home in the same way I used to use the layers of fat on my body: to push people away! As well as to procrastinate making decisions or admitting to myself how I felt about certain things (can't toss a charity flyer... that would make me a "bad" person, don't you know?)

Here's something that my current efforts are making possible that before would have had me cringing: hosting my brother should he come to town next month! With a few little efforts over the course of even five days, it starts to look do-able, possible, and I hope it works out.

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

REJ7777 6/18/2011 11:57AM

    You've grown in so many ways as a person! As the walls of protective weight have melted away and you've burrowed through walls of emotional intimidation, you're now facing another wall of "protection" that you're ready to let go of. It's not easy to let go of those protective walls. They were built for a reason. And yet, there's fresh air and freedom on the other side of that wall!

Report Inappropriate Comment
SUNNY332 6/18/2011 8:12AM

    I absolutely believe that a messy home can lead to extra unwanted pounds. Simplifying and cleaning out can lead to renewed commitment to keeping the pounds off too. Way to go, my emoticon!!

Keep up the great work.


Report Inappropriate Comment
_LINDA 6/17/2011 1:02PM

    Good advice given, like everything else, do this one step at a time. Pick the worst area and get it done, one part per day. It would be awesome to host your brother! Like everything else you are putting that amazing mind to, you will get it done!!

Report Inappropriate Comment
LOVE_2_LAUGH 6/17/2011 12:59PM

    Good luck -- I hope it works out, too!

Report Inappropriate Comment
MARVEEME 6/17/2011 8:47AM

    AWESOME progress on the homefront! My niece asked me once how I keep my house so organized and clean. I laughed and told her that I took a look at how all those people on the Soap Operas live, and made a conscious effort to mirror their uncluttered and classy living spaces, even though I know it's a set. We laughed at the time, but awhile later she came back to me and told me that the comment stuck in her head and worked for her too. Maybe the thought will help you too. LOL

Report Inappropriate Comment
KALIGIRL 6/17/2011 8:22AM

    What a cool reward!
I hope he can stay with you.

It's interesting to see how people are so similar yet so different. I'm a can't stand a mess person, but the dust and dirt can be a mile high. (Mom used to wonder where my clothes were only to find the dirty ones stuffed under the bed...)

Report Inappropriate Comment
MIRAGE727 6/17/2011 8:05AM

    Hey, Cornhusker! My wife is from Lincoln. I had a black hole called a walk in closet. She tells me to tackle one shelf in my closet a day. Guess what? I'm almost done. SO, set a goal of one small area at a time. You can do it as you have done an amazing job getting to your goal so far. Go Big Red!

Report Inappropriate Comment
MSLZZY 6/17/2011 7:55AM

    emoticonand it will be worth the effort-hugs!

Report Inappropriate Comment
JOURNEYTO60 6/17/2011 7:42AM

    I hope it works out too! I think it will. I can really relate to this blog! During the school year, I move through my day attending to my job and everyone else's needs. I rarely look at taking care of myself and I certainly spend little time on my house. This summer I took time off to really put myself back on track. I am working on "me" and my house too. Yesterday I had family in town and I could invite them over without a thought about what the house looked like. It was quite a feeling! We are both on the same path this week! Thank you for sharing. It is fun to relate to someone!

Report Inappropriate Comment
KIAHT6 6/17/2011 7:29AM

    Thanks for sharing

Report Inappropriate Comment
ELRIDDICK 6/17/2011 7:13AM

  Thanks for sharing!

Report Inappropriate Comment
WATERMELLEN 6/17/2011 7:13AM


Interesting connection: layers of "fat", layers of "mess". You've got me thinking!!


Report Inappropriate Comment

So let's talk about Day 4 of Life with? dignity?

Thursday, June 16, 2011

So, the viewpoint of living with dignity (not new, long desired, just prioritized recently) is still a bit like "wet paint", not yet established habit. I have to be learning something, right?

On the good front: the work I've been doing with cleaning and de-cluttering has brought me up short against something we all face when trying to change habits. "What's that?" you might well ask. It is, says the sage, finding out that the previous "bad" behavior had some positive use to you!

What possible use could there be in having a messy home? In being ashamed of it? Here's your punch line: it made it easier to brush people off AT THE DOOR, say "No" more firmly, and not waste my time being more polite.

Last night as I was finishing my workout, the doorbell rang. Had it been the telephone, I would have read the caller ID, and if it was someone I didn't recognize, let the machine pick up. I suppose one could do the same with the doorbell... peek out the window or peephole, and if it's not someone you want to see...

But, I was vulnerable, the house was in better shape than it's been for a while, and I was breathlessly full of endorphins and pride (26 sit-ups, people, count 'em!). I opened the door to a fresh faced young man with a very persistent and pushy sales pitch. But he made several errors in his people reading. I must look like a total patsy or something!

I told him 1) I'd never heard of his company (don't panic, I looked it up on the internet, it's a reputable and legitimate one, I just wasn't in the market for this kind of product), 2) I had not seen his signs in the neighborhood, and 3) I was not considering the product for purchase. This should have been a good sign to him that I was not a "real" prospect.

Still he wanted to show me what he'd install "for free" if I'd be his show home... and then spent nearly an hour of my time pulling out slick brochures and describing technology that I have no intention of purchasing! I was curious enough and I like techno-toys as well as the next guy, so I listened to the sales pitch, but when he got around to the attached subscription price I said "It's not in my budget, sorry." Yeah, the initial installation would be "free", the equipment "free", but it would cost $$$ every month for the support services (which are NOT optional).

TANSTAAFL: there ain't no such thing as a free lunch. I had been waiting to hear how much this free lunch would cost. But when I said "no" after he finally disclosed the cost to me, he comes up with "Then why were we sitting here talking about this?" OMG. The young man practically put his foot in my door and forced his way in! I was being polite. I listened to what he had to say. He clearly was ignoring my earlier messages that I wasn't interested. After he came out with that statement, I changed my mind.

His attitude at that point was clearly that I had wasted his time. Well, no. I was a wimp. I allowed him to waste MY time! Why did I do that?

The kicker is, his sales pitch included a lot of scare stories of bad things that can happen, and I ended up with a touch of insomnia afterward. Grrrr! So he wasted more of my time than that single hour.

To pull the balance back the other way... in the face of tossing and turning, I got up early enough to do a treadmill jog before breakfast.

emoticon emoticon

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

REJ7777 6/18/2011 11:50AM

    It's so true that our excess weight or messy house serves a purpose, even though it's often an unconscious one. As Dr. Phil says, "What's the payoff? There's ALWAYS a payoff!"

When we figure out what the payoff is, it often frees us to be able to deal with the real issues that can block our progress.

Report Inappropriate Comment
BESTSUSIEYET 6/16/2011 10:28PM

    You just reaffirmed my policy ... If I am not expecting someone, I don't answer the door! (i very rarely have friends just drop in, so it doesn't really interfere with my social life! Even with a no soliciting sign, I still get people who start with "I'm not selling ..." yeah, right! But ya know what? This is my home, not someone's business, so I don't feel bad about ignoring them. Rest well tonight, and keep that front door locked!

Report Inappropriate Comment
COMPUCATHY 6/16/2011 9:08PM

    So sorry you had your time intruded on like that. Sometimes it just doesn't pay to be nice...unfortunately. Hang in there! Sounds like your housecleaning is going GREAT! Good for you! Keep up the good work! Spark on! emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
SLENDERELLA61 6/16/2011 4:13PM

    Congrats on the improvement in your home and organization. I hope to follow in your footsteps on that one. Congrats on your continuing success with increasing fitness. Hope to follow you there, too. Now those sales pitches are the pits. Let's see, in the past 30 years I've endured pitches about water filtration, fire protection, knives, cosmetics, time shares, vacuum cleaners, and I'm sure I'm forgetting one or two. The only one I actually bought I regretted. I believe I am swearing off sales pitches. Hope you do, too!

Report Inappropriate Comment
WATERMELLEN 6/16/2011 3:44PM

    You are waaaaay more polite than I will ever be!! I really resent phone solicitors, door-to-door sales people . . . that is, I resent them if I let them waste my time!!

But then: my house is pretty much always messy!!

Report Inappropriate Comment
SUECHRIS50 6/16/2011 10:28AM

    I have a good idea for ya!Go to your computer and make a NO SOLICITORS sign like I did!It really works! emoticonSUSAN
P.S=Decluttering your home is food for your soul!!

Report Inappropriate Comment
MARVEEME 6/16/2011 10:15AM

    Lesson learned. Start keeping the storm door locked, and if you ever open your door to "see who it is" never unlock that storm door unless you're SURE you WANT them inside.

Report Inappropriate Comment
TURTLETALK 6/16/2011 9:02AM

    I realize that everyone needs to make a living but I really value my alone time and it ruins my day when someone infringes on that to try to sell me something. I hate to say that I tend to be quite rude when it happens.

Report Inappropriate Comment
KALIGIRL 6/16/2011 8:40AM

    Barb - your graciousness is wonderful. I thought perhaps your visitor was one of the young Mormon men who are visiting Lincoln. They are the ones I have trouble saying no to...

Sorry for the tossing and turning - maybe you were exercising in your sleep?

Report Inappropriate Comment
MNTWINSGAL 6/16/2011 8:09AM

    I had a similar experience once....with my brother in law of all people! He was going to sell vacuums, and said he needed to practice his sales pitch. I said we weren't in the market for a thousand-plus dollar vacuum. He said it was ok, but could he just use us for practice? It was required by his sales manager. So he came in and demonstrated his product. And we asked all the questions a potential buyer might ask. And when it came time to sign the sales agreement, I said...."ummmm, you know we're not really buying the vacuum, right?" He was mad, asking why we were wasting his time if we weren't going to buy. I reminded him I thought I was being helpful...but I guess people just hear what they want to hear. In my case, he thought he was such a stellar salesman that he'd win a sale. Nope. He was out of the business within a week. Even his own mother wouldn't buy a vacuum.

Report Inappropriate Comment
HAVE-MERCY 6/16/2011 7:18AM

    Good lesson for us all! You and your time are more important than that. Sounds like you realize that and respect that now. I think others will follow suit. emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
MSLZZY 6/16/2011 7:11AM

    That's one way to de-stress. Sorry you had such a poor experience.

Report Inappropriate Comment
LEEZAB 6/16/2011 6:57AM

  great post. Very thoughtful! You are doing great! I want to hear more about the decluttering!

Report Inappropriate Comment

First Page  1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30 31 32 33 34 35 36 37 38 39 40 41 42 43 44 45 46 47 48 49 50 51 52 53 54 55 56 57 58 59 60 61 62 63 64 65 66 67 68 69 70 71 72 73 74 75 76 77 78 79 80 81 82 83 84 85 86 87 88 89 90 91 92 93 94 95 96 97 98 99 100 101 102 103 104 105 106 107 108 109 110 111 112 113 114 115 116 117 118 119 120 121 122 123 124 125 126 127 128 129 130 131 132 133 134 135 136 137 138 139 140 141 142 143 144 145 146 147 148 149 150 151 152 153 154 155 156 157 158 159 160 161 162 163 164 165 166 167 168 169 170 171 172 173 174 175 176 177 178 179 180 181 182 183 184 185 186 187 188 189 190 191 192 193 194 195 196 197 198 199 200 201 202 203 204 205 206 207 208 209 210 211 212 213 214 215 216 217 218 219 220 221 222 223 224 225 226 227 228 229 230 231 232 233 234 235 236 237 238 239 240 241 242 243 244 245 246 247 248 249 250 251 252 253 254 255 256 257 258 259 260 261 262 263 264 265 266 267 268 269 270 271 272 273 274 275 276 277 278 279 280 281 282 283 284 285 286 287 288 289 290 291 292 293 294 295 296 297 298 299 300 301 302 303 304 305 306 307 308 309 310 311 312 313 314 315 316 317 318 319 320 321 322 323 324 325 326 327 328 329 330 331 332 333 334 335 336 337 338 339 340 341 342 343 Last Page