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Classic morning pep talk

Wednesday, September 28, 2011

emoticon Yep! Feeling charged up this morning. Wondering what changed from yesterday to today, because yesterday morning I was stomach-clenched to the point of had to take a 20 minute walk before going in to the office.

Breaking it down: yesterday I had no meetings! I put people off so that I could sit down at my desk and do some writing / analysis that very much needed to get done in preparation for a review next week. I have been so overbooked and had my focus split in so many directions that I was feeling badly stressed. I made a point to leave work "on time"... which I define as no more than 15 minutes late.

What a difference half an hour of OT makes in my mood! Why is that? Is it because of the tendency to obsess and try to do it all myself? "Mmmm... could be!" Anyhow, when I go in to work this morning it will be with at least a part of the planning behind me! That makes me feel a little more in control. And maybe that's the issue: feeling out of control is a huge driver of bad behavior with food. At least for me. More specifically, feeling out of control of something that I feel I should be in control of!

Note the subtle difference. Few of us are truly "in control" of most of the events in the world. The serenity prayer goes right to it: the serenity to accept the things we cannot change. But it goes on to the courage to change the things we can! One of the things I can change is my attitude.

I voiced that to myself yesterday morning as I briskly walked an extra mile before walking in the office door: "I cannot afford to have a bad attitude." That is bald truth. I can't afford to have a bad attitude. Who can? What does a bad attitude give you but bad health?

So here's to today: changing the things I can, accepting the things I cannot, and praying for that sometimes elusive wisdom to know the difference! With an attitude of gratitude to be alive on the planet.

emoticon Life's good. Spark on.

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SHELL- 9/29/2011 12:03AM

    You are in good company. “Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.”
winston Churchill

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WATERMELLEN 9/28/2011 8:44PM

    Ya know, I cannot afford to have a bad attitude either!! And: thanks for reminding me about that!

When my life feels out of control, that's when I "deserve" a treat . . . yeah! *aka binge*

Not good. Not a treat.

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SUNNYWBL 9/28/2011 7:22PM

    Your self-awareness is beautiful and healthy! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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KALIGIRL 9/28/2011 9:23AM

    Bad attitude = bad health.
Logical, perfect equation.

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_LINDA 9/28/2011 8:58AM

    So sorry you have to deal with such a high stress job. I get that you think you can do it better then anyone else so you have to try do it all. I have a little of that in my job, but now they want me to find my own assistant. The one they picked out had to quit for family reasons, which was a shame because he was so promising ;( Its very hard to get volunteers at the club as the board well knows so they are laying it at my feet. I have to find someone who can drive (not hard they all do), computer literate (much harder) and is willing to put time in (the worst). People will be quick to volunteer for a one time job, but hate long term commitment :(( I would be happy to dole out some of my work, but its going to be hell finding someone. If there is any way you can pass on some of your work, you should just DO IT. Not only does stress lead to binging, it can lead to ulcers and you don't want to go there. I did once, going to university as a mature student and not being able to handle it because of poor study habits and not knowing how to handle the volume of information being thrown at me. It also worsened my RA and gave me severe anemia. The bottom line? I have learned not to stress out over things anymore. What will be will be. Roll with the punches and come up fighting. I have a very tough skin, well developed over the years of insults.
Here is hoping you can find a way to have less stress at work.. Life is too short to worry.
Have a wonderful working wisely Wednesday!

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HOT4FITNESS 9/28/2011 8:42AM

    Amen to this blog!! I have had to make some adjustments i the attitude. Here'sto a great day with a positive attitude al the way!!!

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DEBRA0818 9/28/2011 8:12AM

    I'm with you on the need to have a plan in order to feel comfortable going into situations. My food plan totally removes the angst around eating, and my relatively structured life gives me a measure of peace about the day. Yet, it is the underlying confidence that I can handle whatever comes up (that I have no control over) that leads to ultimate peace. I'm working on that!


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MSLZZY 9/28/2011 8:08AM

    emoticonThat's the spirit! HUGS!

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This line was too good not to pass around

Tuesday, September 27, 2011

Credit my brother in law the writer. In his newly refurbished blog, he references, " a wife whose family makes The Brady Bunch look like rejects from The Jersey Shore." I don't know whether to be flattered or insulted. But I'm laughing. emoticon

This is a funny man. I never know what he's going to pull out, and you may see something you say show up on the mellodrama stage or a veiled reference to the family in the plays (my dad's middle name and a grandfather's ended up together as a character in one).

Anyway, as someone who draws upon family in my own blogging I get it. Another gal that I work with wrote her first novel last year during November's NaNoWriMo (national novel writing month) and published it. She got a phone call from her sister who greeted her as one of the characters in the book.

Here as Spark Friends we kind of become like family, too. I talk anonymously about "my Spark Friend who..." at work... hope y'all don't mind, but you're slightly famous in my circle. You are source material for motivation. Because every one of us who keeps trying is a reason for the rest of us to remember...

We're worth it! Life's good... Spark on!

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DRB13_1 9/28/2011 1:37AM

    isn't there an old saying "write what you know"? emoticon

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_LINDA 9/28/2011 1:21AM

    Most funny stuff does come from real life. Nothing zanier then the human race. We are a strange bunch!!

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MSLZZY 9/27/2011 11:12PM

    I had to have DS explain it to me, too. What a riot!

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MOBYCARP 9/27/2011 10:10PM

    That line was a lot funnier after my daughter gave me a two-bit summary of what The Jersey Shore is. If daughter got it right, we should be flattered.

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And on the "love" side

Monday, September 26, 2011

Autumn evenings. Orion rising. Temperatures perfect, air feels like... a swimming pool at the perfect temperature, but dry. Gentle breezes swaying the trees as shadows fall. What's not to love?

OK, the ah-choo factor is not to love... but the rest of it! Ahhhhh! Nighters, my Spark Friends! Life's good. Tomorrow is another Spark Day! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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_LINDA 9/28/2011 1:18AM

    Glad you can enjoy Autumn :) Looks like I am not the only one having attacks..But I still love getting out there :)

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KIKI0531 9/27/2011 10:42PM

    Enjoyed a walk with my little one tonite - long sleeve t's with a slight breeze. Love love this season. Sneezes and all :) emoticon

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PHEBESS 9/27/2011 8:23AM

    Sounds lovely!

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KALIGIRL 9/27/2011 8:18AM

    My favorite season! emoticon

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MSLZZY 9/26/2011 10:41PM

    emoticonFinding the bright side. Get a good night's sleep! HUGS!

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WATERMELLEN 9/26/2011 10:03PM

    I walked through the night to my concert and home again: perfection!

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FITFABJENN 9/26/2011 9:33PM

    Good night, emoticon


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The love/hate relationship with seasons

Sunday, September 25, 2011

Yesterday afternoon I was treated to a visit from my son. I had whined at him over Instant Messaging that I was having mommy withdrawal symptoms, and since he was studying for exams this upcoming week, offered an ear for him to natter about what he's learning and postulating in his college courses. I miss that, you see. Remember helping your kids with spelling or math facts or science projects?

He brought over his used wireless router, and it was a breeze to set up so I can now take the laptop to other rooms if I want! Woo-hoo. Then we went out for a walk. He demonstrated that he can now actually use his thumb in a squeeze action on the "bad" hand... he goes back in to have its progress checked this week, too. He played with the kitties a bit and talked while I did a few of my "one thing" items... pulled a few weeds, loaded the dishwasher... and in general got my "mom fix". OK, so the hugs are a bit on the light side when he's got a bad wing, but I got 'em.

Two weeks ago I thought the Fall allergy season was beginning... now I feel like it is at it's height. My sinus passages are blocked up, my head's been pounding all day. Took some Advil and went back to bed for half the day. When I got up again the sun was warm and shining, and I went out for a walk. My head still hurts. My sinus still looks puffy in the mirror. But that doesn't mean it's not a beautiful day.

May the extra rest and the memory of son fix get me through the week!

Life's good, Spark On! emoticon

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MEDDYPEDDY 9/27/2011 12:26AM

    I love that mommy withdrawal comment... exactly the feeling and I will use it a lot (although in swedish...)

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KALIGIRL 9/26/2011 12:52PM

    Sending soothing sinus thoughts...
It's amazing how something so glorious as fall has hidden pollutants in its formula...
Glad you got your 'mom-fix' and sorry I've been MIA - things 'should' slow down by the end of the month...

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BUGGYS 9/26/2011 7:36AM

    Whenever I have a computer/electronic problem, both my sons are on speed even my 8 year old granddaughter could probably fix all my computer problems!!! emoticon I have never experienced allergies but my DH struggles with the fall...hope you're feeling better!!! emoticon

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BETTAPRINCESS 9/26/2011 12:34AM

    I know how you feel visits from my son always feels good. He stopped by today and took his Grandmother and i grocery shopping. emoticon

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_LINDA 9/26/2011 12:31AM

    Glad you had some bright spots to your weekend. Been inhaling my Nasonex, and it keeps some at bay, but still feel that old familiar water running up the back of my nose :( Maybe you need some allergy medicine to take care of the sinus so it won't bother your head..Feel better soon!

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MSLZZY 9/25/2011 11:06PM

    The good outweighs the bad. a mommy fix, a computer fix and quality time outside. Hope the allergies back off and let you enjoy the new season. HUGS!

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WATERMELLEN 9/25/2011 10:55PM

    Your son sounds like a total sweetie AND a genius at the computer stuff too (I'm missing mine, who's gone back to school far far away from us here . . . and my daughter too, sob sob. Thank goodness for email but it's not the same).

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KARIDIAN1 9/25/2011 10:04PM

    Glad you were able to spend some "Mom" time with your son. Hope your allergies get better when you get a freeze.

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DEBRITA01 9/25/2011 6:36PM

    Feel better...I can relate (one of my least favorite things about fall...allergies) emoticon

Comment edited on: 9/25/2011 6:36:30 PM

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ANDI571 9/25/2011 5:07PM

    emoticon Couldn't find a box of kleenexes anywhere on here, so I am sending a hug instead.

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The secret of blogging through everything...

Saturday, September 24, 2011

is the same as the phenomenon of physics that the experiment and the mind-set of the obsesrver can influence the result. When I blog about the rough patches, it tends to influence me to do better the next day. And as scared as I might be of those times of "I don't care!" rebellion, when I write about them, I generally end up finding the part of me that *does* care!

In any case, Friday was a much better day... back on track... and this morning I gave myself permission to sleep in, but didn't much, because I am still, despite all kinds of things, a morning person. I'm a little stuffy with the Fall allergies, and it pays to get vertical in the morning, even if it means I get drowsy and take an afternoon nap.

I've been out to run errands this morning. Sat through a webinar on some budgeting software I'm considering switching to. One of my bigger problems with switching is the history I've built up over the years in another tool. But this one makes more sense, is more integrated with planning. And I like that. The money diet metaphor works well for a veteran Sparker, just as Spark tracking works well for a veteran budgeter!

Life's good... Spark on! Here's wishing a great weekend to all. emoticon

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MEDDYPEDDY 9/25/2011 2:01AM

    I am not ther yet but... nice blog!

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_LINDA 9/25/2011 12:37AM

    So understand the morning person concept and stuffy nose allergies. The 'fluffies' ae flying everywhere in the air here and I have been waking up stuffed the last two days.
Its great that you got back on track and blogging also holds you accountable as your Spark buddies will be here to watch over you..
Hope this new program is all you thought it might be. Hate the thought of all the data entry you would have to do to start it up. There is no reason to delete the old program, you can always keep it for reference if you want to look up something.. Good luck with it!
Enjoy your Sunday and allow yourself some fun and relaxation!

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MSLZZY 9/24/2011 11:10PM

    I'd like to know what program that is. HUGS!

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SUNNY1432 9/24/2011 9:25PM

    I hope you have a great weekend and that the allergies dissipate for a little while. emoticon

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WATERMELLEN 9/24/2011 6:50PM

    I try to remind myself that although I don't care right now . . . I'm going to care a whole lot tomorrow, or the next time I step on the scales (if weight related: there are, of course, an infinite number of things to "not care about"!!)

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DEBRA0818 9/24/2011 3:36PM

    I'm so glad you worked it out Barb and in the greatest way possible -- through acceptance and perseverance. Those times when we "don't care" are necessary fuel for all the times we do.


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