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Demons, dark places, and the big cycle

Thursday, October 06, 2011

One of the major reasons I am not comfortable with compliments that surround weight loss success is "the big cycle". I've written about it before. It is the cycle of many things, I could give it a dozen names. "The myth of continuous improvement." "Burnout." "Trying to do too much." "Competing obsessions." "Project versus process mentality."

In any case, when I'm doing well, I'm doing well... and people say nice things, and I feel good, but I also feel scared. Because there is this little dark demon at the back of my brain that says, "You are going to let them down!" emoticon See him? There he is! And he's been talking to me big-time for the past month or so.

It starts with little slips. And small bumps up in the scale. It escalates into rebellious feelings and worse behavior. It culminates when something else shiny or scary takes my attention and he starts saying, "you don't care. You aren't worth it. You need a pick me up now! Come, dance with the chips and cheese and sugar and fat!"

I bring my tools to bear on it for a while, but eventually, it turns into a full-scale backwards slide. Right now I feel myself slip-sliding away. Only a part of me is fighting the fight. I could go into detail of the distractions and other things my brain wants to work on *instead of taking care of my body*... but I'm sure every reader could match it with a list of their own!

For now, I'm just saying... what usually happens when I get to this point in "the big cycle" is that I disappear for a while... sometimes a loooong while. I come back only when I get past the dark places and back to a place of hope. Because nobody wants to read their way through the "I don't give a ___!" phase. It's *not* an inspiring place to be.

On the other hand, it might help me to keep writing. If a morning pep talk gets me through even a good part of the day remembering I need to (and deserve to, and want to) take care of me... it's worth writing!

So... I had two bad days over the weekend. Then I had two days in which I behaved well. And last night, I had a panic-overloaded-rebellious episode again. I can only live one day at a time. This will be a true test of majority rules. I'm reminding myself of last year's holiday season: I told myself I knew I would have days with more celebratory eating, but I would try to have them limited, and more days of "normal" eating in between. I need to get into that mind set again: put "normal" as the goal. One... day... at a time!

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LINDAJOYWK 10/8/2011 6:43AM

    Guess what? You're human! We are always so much harder on ourselves than on others!

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ANDI571 10/6/2011 10:45PM

    I don't think we would be here if we all didn't go through what you are going through. I was going through clothes today. I could open a shop of all sizes. I thought, I could get rid of the bigger sizes, but am tired of always having to buy clothes all over again. I could get rid of the smaller sizes, but what if I do finally get down to that size again. I get scared too. I know this is a life time struggle, but am sick of doing it. I am tired of thinking about it. But I know I have to think about it and keep moving forward.

Only you know if you can ease up on the strictness you have done for so long. You know what you need to do, and what not to do and it will always be with you.

Stay with us. We are all in this together and we will persevere together.

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WATERMELLEN 10/6/2011 8:58PM

    Very inspiring blog, actually -- because we've all been in this spot and will be in this spot again. So: to have someone write about it so honestly (instead of just disappearing) is helpful to say the least.

This is such a struggle: I've gotta decide EVERY DAY that I want to be thin. More than I wanna eat whatever it is that's calling my name!

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_LINDA 10/6/2011 8:06PM

    Friends stick with friends through good times and bad. We want to be there to celebrate and also lift up as needed. You wouldn't be human without any failings. We are inspired as much as by failure as by success, when we see you CAN recover from a downfall and get right back at it. Its not the end of the world and certainly not the end of your lifestyle to have a bad weekend. Never EVER beat yourself up for not being perfect, nobody is.
So vent away!
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KARIDIAN1 10/6/2011 7:52PM

    You have done so well and need to keep that great attitude going to get over these rough spots. You need a kitty break- so go play with the kitties.

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MOBYCARP 10/6/2011 7:08PM

    We all have cycles. Yours might be bigger than mine; but I notice my own more than I see yours. That's the nature of being human, I think.

I've fallen off the fitness wagon multiple times since I took up weight lifting at the tender age of 49. Guess what? Each time I climb back on that wagon, it's a little easier. Even with cycles, you can make progress.

Sometimes, you need to back off trying to be better than before, and settle for being good enough for today. That's okay. The nature of cycles is that you will have up cycle some time in the future.

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DEBRITA01 10/6/2011 6:13PM

    emoticon"every day is day one" is my mantra. Some days are pretty good and some days are just plain ugly. But, each morning when I awake, I recommit to myself and continue on the best that I can.

Everything in life is a cycle. You are at a challenging point of yours, but you can do it just as you have in the past. Blog if that helps...do whatever you need to do to help you through this rough patch. No one expects you to be positive and motivating all the time. If we can help in any way, we would love to...you've been there for so many. Yes, you are an example that it can be done...and it's good to know you are human, you have challenges, and you continue to move forward to overcome them. Don't put any unnecessary pressure on yourself and keep showing yourself some loving kindness.

Some days you've just gotta fake it til you make it, right? Keep your chin up and keep sparking on! emoticon

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MNTWINSGAL 10/6/2011 11:15AM

    All any of us can do is one day at a time. You have made amazing strides, and I know you will get back on track. Don't do it for us.....don't worry that you might let us down. Do it for YOU. Because even during the dark times when you might not feel like it....you ARE worth it!

Blog away, my friend. We're here to follow along with you on your journey, just as we lean on you when we need to. That means we will be here to celebrate your many successes, and we will be here to lift you up during the darker days.

As you are fond of saying: Life's good....Spark on!

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BESTSUSIEYET 10/6/2011 10:46AM

    You are going to get through this phase again, and I pray it is short! You are loved, and we'll cheer you on through this! Don't go away ... One choice at a time --

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 10/6/2011 10:37AM

    First things first: you are an inspiration and you ARE doing well. You have impacted my life and motivation in more ways than you can possibly know.

Secondly, I (and probably 99%) of all other sparkers out there have been through the exact same cycles you have (many times). We're all in this together, Barb. It's great that you write such motivational blogs for us all to benefit from. But who's there to motivate you when you're in one of the not-so-nice areas of the cycle? Hopefully we are.

I say go ahead and write the blogs. I've written more than my share of whining and complaining blogs. Poor, poor, pitiful me blogs. I've also done a lot of confessional blogs. Very few motivating blogs. To me, the keyboard therapy is key. I start a blog and by the time I've typed it, proofed it, re-read it a few times (my perfectionism does not allow me to post anything not perfect LOL!), it's been ingrained in my head. If it's a whining blog, usually I feel better by the time I post it. If it's a confessional blog, I'm usually "over" whatever it is I was confessing. I know I do so much better when I blog, but lately I've fallen out of that habit. I may begin again -- though I'm kind of in the same place you are right now.

My vote would be for you to continue to blog. Give those of us who follow you faithfully an opportunity to be there for you. You've got yourself together. You know what you need to do to feel good both physically and mentally. The problem is, you're human. You fall. You can't expect yourself to be perfect all the time. Or even most of the time. If you're like me, accepting the fact that you are imperfect is the real problem. Something we both need to work on.

I'm writing a book here, so I better close. But one more thought before I do: as a JC client, when was the last time you listened to your Touchstones DVD? Maybe it's time to pull that out again . . . .

Have a great day. Chin up and all that jazz. Just one day at a time. And when necessary, one hour (or minute) at a time.


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DEBRA0818 10/6/2011 10:03AM

    Remember that old adage: "No matter how far down the road you are, you're always the same distance from the ditch"? Well, no matter how many times you fall in the ditch, you're still the same distance from the road ... one choice away.

Plus, and just by the way, you don't have to be "inspiring" to be here -- every place you could possibly be, there are a host of other people in the same place eager to hear a common voice.

That doesn't mean you have to keep writing, just that you can if you want to from wherever you are.

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CONCHA77 10/6/2011 8:52AM

    We are here for you, Barb! And don't quit blogging. I look forward to reading them, the good and not so good ones. I think they help you and they help us. See you in the a.m.

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SUNNY332 10/6/2011 8:40AM

    Every day is Day 1, Barbara, so keep on keeping on one day at a time. We all have those demons & dark places. Living life as it presents itself will keep you in the moment. Living live in the moment helps us to enjoy the journey.

Hugs, Sunny

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MSLZZY 10/6/2011 8:13AM

    Continue to do battle with the demons. They only win when you give up. And your attitude tells me that is not one of your options. HUGS!

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HOT4FITNESS 10/6/2011 8:11AM

    Getting through those "storms"can be difficult. But you are doing the right thing. As it passes assess the damage, make amends, and move on, one day at a time. And keep writing!!!

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Next steps

Tuesday, October 04, 2011

Monday was a good recovery day. No "extra" exercise, stayed on the food plan, treated myself "gently" from a self-talk point of view, and began trotting out my bag of mental tools related to binge recovery:

1. As best I can, figure out the elements of "what am I missing" and "why am I missing it?"
2. Satisfy that "missing" thing.
3. Assess the goals, stated and unstated, that I have been pursuing.
4. Figure out if they are still relevant.
5. Adjust and move on!

Saturday's rebellion was a precursor to Sunday morning's. The entire rebellion started with the realization that I did not want to take the *time* to drive to Omaha and back for that 5K. This is a clue. My brother is fond of saying that time is the ultimate scarce resource. The longer I live the more I accept this. It is important to spend this scare resource on things that matter most to me.

So then we get into "why did this 5K not matter as much to me?" Truth to tell, I signed up for it late, mainly because I wanted to somehow demonstrate my support for the cause. Which is a good one. But it was one more race in an already full schedule. I just did a 5 mile one three weeks ago, and two weeks from now I was already signed on for another 5K. This one, tucked between? Just plain "too much".

What was I missing? Time to just "be". Time to indulge in some grief (yes, I watched a sappy movie Saturday morning and cried for a lot of this year's losses, including the one I wrote about earlier in the week). Time to not have to be somewhere and do something. I need this. And I need to recognize it's importance to myself, especially during a phase at work that is keeping me overtime more than "normal" and stressing me. Time to hang up the "competition" part of my nature.

The biggest error in all of this was overbooking myself. It's one I have made in the past. I doubt it's the last time I do it. I don't want it to unravel the life I envision for myself: one of dignity and order and harmony. I must pull in my horns and accept that for now, the "official" 5K's have to go. I'm not training properly for them (due to the overtime and exhaustion at the end of the day). I need to take better care of me in other ways right now.

In my heart of hearts, I want that dignified orderly life, to have my home be a refuge. I accept that, and will get back to the "one thing" goals, which have been sliding between the OT and the races. I shall nurture myself. Because I'm worth it.

I will not give up: Tracking my food and activity levels so I can maintain my healthy weight. Walking breaks at work to manage stress levels. Strength training to the evening TV shows, two or three times a week. Positive self-talk, every day, because I'm worth it.

I will give up, "for now": the scheduled races... not going to sign up for any more. I will decide closer to the race itself whether I will actually go and participate in the last one I have already signed on for.

I will re-assess, in a week or two, how this plan is going. Am I feeling less pressured by myself to do "too much"? Because having reactionary binges is *not* healthy! And healthy is the real goal.

Life's good. Spark on! emoticon

  
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MEDDYPEDDY 10/6/2011 1:14AM

    I recognise it all - me, I tend to "paralyse" when I have too big ambitions, instead I lurk in my sofa and feel awful...and eat of course.

I miss the energy I used to have. I have probably not fully accepted that my life today has to be more limited in actions than it used to be. I am rebelling against that and when I do, I take on too much and get paralyzed... hmm.

Thank you for helping me seeing this!

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DEBRITA01 10/5/2011 3:19PM

    You're doing great...keep Sparking on! emoticon

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SUNNYWBL 10/5/2011 12:57AM

    It is very good to be self-aware! emoticon


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MSLZZY 10/5/2011 12:05AM

    I can schedule myself so tight that I meet myself coming and going. Then I ask myself
"Why"? Being highly competitive myself, I know that I need to just "be" and let go.
And life will go on, regardless. Take care. HUGS!

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MOBYCARP 10/4/2011 9:08PM

    Fascinating blog. Reading it, I recognize a piece of myself in it: I tend to fall apart when my time is scheduled so full that I don't get enough unstructured time to just be. That could be thought of as rebellion, taking the form of refusing to do planned productive stuff in favor of down time.

I need to keep in mind that I shouldn't over-schedule the exercise. Maybe missing the gym entirely for the last couple weeks of 5K training isn't such a bad thing.

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_LINDA 10/4/2011 8:17PM

    Sounded like you have it all figured out. You were simply taking on more than you can handle with your work load. With such stress you need to find more ways to relax and have a me time that will recharge and renergize you, not more work and stress training for a race. You go Barb! Find some FUN activities that don't require thought or commitment! Cut loose! You can do it!

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KARIDIAN1 10/4/2011 6:25PM

    It's important to take time out for yourself. Glad you took some "me" time for yourself.

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SUNNY332 10/4/2011 3:42PM

    Be good to yourself, Barb. Life is meant to be enjoyed too.

I don't beat myself up if I have one or two days that don't fit into "my plans". I just jump back into my plan as soon as I can.

Take care and remember that all of life is taken just One Day at a Time.

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CAREN_BLUEJEANS 10/4/2011 10:58AM

    It's OK to say "No" and just relax & enjoy life.

(hugs)

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SHELL- 10/4/2011 10:41AM

    Fascinating insight into motivation behind the rebellion. So did it boil down to "self care"?


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ANDI571 10/4/2011 10:14AM

    I think you are definitely figuring things out. I wonder too, if you are signing up for 5K's that you really don't want to do, if it is another way to escape. I know with me when I don't escape with food, I have to watch that I don't do it with shopping. Then I feel guilty shopping, then I escape that with eating. A viscous cycle if we let it happen. Being aware is very important.

It only goes to show you, we are always learning about ourselves.

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 10/4/2011 9:00AM

    Bravo! Way to think it out and make a reasonable plan.

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Practicing what I preach

Monday, October 03, 2011

Treat yourself gently. Imagine your best friend came to you and told you what you just wrote. What would you advise him/her? Would you tell them they are a terrible person? Or would you comfort them?

That's the advice I preach to others. Today I put it into practice for me. Yesterday was just that... yesterday. In fact the whole weekend, lost or not, is that "past". It doesn't reverse the entire program.

I slept well, which I generally do when I eat more. Perhaps I had been undereating a bit, leading to stronger temptation to "overcompensate"? Take that into consideration... and don't swing too far the other way today.

So, I packed my lunch, the usual healthy stuff. And I made my breakfast of steel cut oats with fresh strawberries (they were on sale on Saturday, so I even saved money on them this time).

I shall take my walking breaks at work. And I shall keep my self-talk positive. And this *will* be a good day of recovery. Because despite the days of rebellion... majority does rule. And the majority of the time, I really *do* care.

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 10/3/2011 9:35PM

    Wiser words were never spoken! So glad you were able to turn things around and get yourself back to normal. It feels good slipping back into the healthy routine after a slip, doesn't it? I'm doing the same thing after having indulged all weekend.

I was thinking about you on my walk this morning. I found myself wondering if perhaps the slip you experienced was your body/subconscious telling you that it need rest. You've been doing a lot of 5Ks all summer long. Maybe this was your body's way of getting what it needed. You may not have liked it's tactics, but it did slow you down. And you got good rest last night. Just a thought . . . .

Have a nice evening and a great start to your day tomorrow, Barb!

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MIZCATHI 10/3/2011 7:06PM

    Wow, now I don't feel so alone. For the past several days I have been in "rebellion" too, and not sure why. It really wasn't much fun!

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DEBRITA01 10/3/2011 6:06PM

    Glad you've shown yourself the same kindness you show to friends here on SP. You keep Sparking! emoticon

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_LINDA 10/3/2011 3:06PM

    Good Recovery!! Good attitude!!
I can't get enough of strawberries and don't care what I have to pay to get them lol.
You have a GREAT day of recovery and treating yourself with TLC and respect! Your body will thank you for it!

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ROSEWAND 10/3/2011 2:54PM

    I am discovering that maintenance is a path of
balance and equilibrium. It is not straight.
I lean to left and undereat; I lean to the right
and overeat. As long as I rebalance and return
to the center, I am fine.

And you are wisely acknowledge, love and
patience are a big part of restoring the balance.

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BESTSUSIEYET 10/3/2011 9:43AM

    Yes! And for the record, I think your one day of rebellion will do less damage than the daily "just a little bit over" thing. You are not lying to yourself and then whining when the scale & your pants try to tell you that you have been off track! Blessings today! Throw away whatever is left of the junk food, and go back to the healthy things you've come to love!

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SUNNY332 10/3/2011 9:01AM

    Great job of putting the weekend behind you and stepping out into the new week. emoticon

Love the PINK!

Have a Marvelous Monday, Barb!

Sunny

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MSLZZY 10/3/2011 8:34AM

    I vote for recovery. The past is the past so move on. HUGS!

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SLENDERELLA61 10/3/2011 8:14AM

    Brilliant! You are SO right. It is the majority that counts. An occasional slip isn't significant -- what is significant is renewing that commitment to health. Good for you!! -Marsha

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SHARON2014 10/3/2011 7:57AM

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HOT4FITNESS 10/3/2011 7:48AM

    Onward we move my friend...onward. Gently of course.

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So let's talk about that full rebellion mode

Sunday, October 02, 2011

OK, we all know weekends are hard. But it's been a very long time since I went into full and blatant rebellion mode. As in make a list of target foods and go to the grocery store and purchase them with the express purpose in mind to eat without recording.

Good, healthy foods? Heck no. We are talking Halloween candy, a full month before the holiday. And chips. Yes, sour cream and onion potato chips. And full fat-laden natural processed cheese. I bought them, I brought them home. And I ate them. Not all of them, yet, but enough to feel full and bloated.

I was supposed to go run a 5K in Omaha this morning. When I got up at 4:20 a.m. I hit this wall of full rebellion. In fact it was already in progress yesterday afternoon. The run was in a very good cause. But I wasn't doing it "with" anyone else. And I did NOT feel like taking my today and using it that way. And I took the bit in my teeth and chose NOT to go. I paid them my money. They mailed me my shirt. But I did not go run. I had a bad case of the "I don't wannas." OK, I was also hiding from the Autumn allergens.

Instead I laid around the house, watched old TV shows on Netflix, and vegged. And by mid afternoon, it escalated to the grocery trip. And there you have it... confession. Not sure when this mood will end. But it is this kind of attitude that can undermine everything I've done for the past two and a half years!

Sigh. The roller coaster goes on.

  
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SUNNY1432 10/3/2011 10:21PM

    It happens everyone, I've been there the last few days myself. I got back on the horse today and you'll do it when your ready. emoticon

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STARL_73 10/3/2011 11:37AM

    I've found that if I indulge my attitude, accept it and don't feel guilty about it, it goes away faster. I can lessen it by not putting it off for so long. It's like a rubber band you keep pulling and pulling.. once in a while, lighten the tension, just a little and you'll be able to pull a little longer. .. ok, not the best analogy. But remember you need to give your body a break - or it will demand it.
As for the chips and stuff - if you realize you don't want to finish them - don't. You indulged, you enjoyed - now back on the trail.

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MSLZZY 10/3/2011 8:36AM

    Roller coasters are such a nuisance but it is a part of life. You'll get back in the mood, and sooner that you think.

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SHARON2014 10/3/2011 7:55AM

    Sounds like a "comfort food" day to me! Glad you got it out of your system and lived to tell about it! My hunch is that the roller coaster ride will soon be over and you will be back on track very soon if not already! Take care of yourself! emoticon

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DEBRA0818 10/3/2011 7:40AM

    Only you can decide what is happening inside you -- a normal down day or scraping back and forth at the top of the slide.

As much as I love eating this way and exercising, I can imagine that a day of indulgence would feel just right at some point in the future. After all, this is the way I managed myself for most of my 56 years (although my mother had to help me when I was a baby and she did by giving me extra bottles when I was fussy), so it seems likely that it will always be the default impulse when I feel like I need a day of withdrawal from the world.

Are there healthier ways to do it? Heck, yeah! But, are there more expedient ways to do it that connect with all my deepest longings and belief? Maybe not.

And, not to excuse or make light of what is going on, but, according to some of the diet gurus, a cheat day once a week is the way to maintain long term.

Be kind to yourself.

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_LINDA 10/3/2011 2:02AM

    Sounded like you really wanted some 'me' time and wanted to go back to the bad old days where you were most comfortable.
It does remain to be seen if your stomach agrees with this. The old story one weekend does not break a healthy lifestyle. So many people have lapses on weekends you might as well call their plans the work week diet. We are actually all allowed to be human in this lifestyle, hence the 80/20 rule. I know I blew my 20 out of the water this weekend -I can't say no to thick slabs of whole wheat garlic bread dripping with old cheddar cheese -I do not buy processed cheese -it has to be old (the older the better and I will pay through the nose to have it), and full fat. I do not eat this stuff at home and that is probably what keeps me going. Once in a while treat, its not going to be there 24/7. We usually only have it on special occasions actually, but Mom was wanting to clean out her deep freeze and didn't want to save it until Thanksgiving.
I am able to allow myself a slice of cheese a day, in the past it would be one 900g package a week.. It is possible to have things in moderation.
So put this weekend to rest and work it Monday! You can get back on that horse! Its been a rough ride, but you have a proven track record!

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DEBRITA01 10/2/2011 8:42PM

    O.K., so Barbie came out to play today. She rebelled against the 5k and she ate some snacks. I'm sure she's gone now and you are left feeling kinda icky from the food and are ready to get back to it. Although we don't always know why this happens, we do know that this will only be a temporary glitch. Remember 80/20? Tomorrow is a new day, so be kind to yourself and carry on. You are such an inspiration to us all, but we don't expect you to be perfect ALL of the time :) emoticon

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 10/2/2011 8:24PM

    Having gone throught the exact same scenario recently (and frequently, for that matter), I can truly feel your pain. I'm not sure what triggers it. Stress? Fatigue? Emotional or psychological "breaks." It really doesn't matter too much what the trigger is -- as long as we "own" it and get back on track. And, as you and I have discussed previously (when I was in that boat) we come to our senses much quicker now. And our bodies are very quick at reminding us how awful we feel when we eat poorly. Confession is good -- it relieves those inner (demonic) voices. I hope your roller coaster ride has hit bottom and is beginning the climb up again. Be kind to yourself -- you are doing well and you are an inspiration to MANY of us on SP. We all have our weak moments -- isn't it nice to have a place like SP to go to to get it out, deal with it and move on?

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MOBYCARP 10/2/2011 8:01PM

    That's so wrong. You were supposed to have that fit when I was there to put the chips and cheese on my waist instead of yours.

FWIW--Friday I ate too much, though not as much as I would have at the same event, pre-Spark. Saturday I was rewarded with mildly uncomfortable twinges in my intestines, which I interpret as my body processing stuff it's no longer used to.

Your body is going to give you a wake up call, too. Listen to it.

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HOT4FITNESS 10/2/2011 7:35PM

    Alright. Finish the chips and cheese and lets move forward. These kind of things happen. I have been in the I dont wanna mood for a couple of weeks. Thursday, I saw the trainer and oops.. when I stepped on that scale, my attitude changed back rather quickly.

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WATERMELLEN 10/2/2011 6:45PM

    Don't believe it for a moment: that "it is this kind of attitude that can undermine everything I've done for the past two and a half years".

The rebellion is temporary. Enough! You didn't wanna! So you didn't get up to go and run! And you ate potato chips instead!

That's a T-shirt I've got too -- in fact, a whole closet full of 'em. Really.

But: run the remaining chips under the tap . . . or through the garburetor. Cheese maybe at the back of the freezer?

I'm betting that once you flush through the sodium, not even a 1 pound difference. Highly unlikely you ate 3500 calories worth of potato chips and cheese. Temporary blip. Reminding us that we can't be perfect 100% of the time!



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Design, vision, fantasy...

Friday, September 30, 2011

The word "design" popped into my brain today. Maybe it is because I'm in the design phase of a project at work, but maybe it's just one of those random things. Either way, where the brain went was, "Live your life by design".

I think this is very similar to creating a vision for what I want the next phase of my life to be... weaving a fantasy that can turn into a reality, one day at a time. Perhaps it is the natural optimism that I tend to wake up with every day. I can't explain it exactly, where it comes from, but I seem to have had it since childhood. Oh, yes, I've had some darker times and moods, and "I don't care" and "this is NOT working" periods in my life, but left to my own devices, a good night's sleep seems to make almost everything better.

I wake up this way. It is a gift. One that I think might be cultivated, nurtured and encouraged, but at its base, I was blessed with it from birth, I think. Just ask Moby! We used to have long conversations as teenagers. Or ask my kid... we've had a few.

But I digress, rejoicing in the gift... this morning "live your life by design". Maybe this is the phrase that I'll use to refurbish the "do one thing". I know I feel better when I am taking action... so the design of my life is around doing just that: taking action to live the life I am meant to live. After all, the journey on this plane is not forever. I mean to make the most of what's really important in it.

Hug your loved ones, and live by design! Life's good... Spark on! emoticon

  
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WATERMELLEN 10/2/2011 6:48PM

    Oh gosh I've got that cheerful Pollyanna thing too: happy most of the time, like pretty much everybody. Grrrrrrr, it's annoying to others.

All perfectly genuine. I regret that it's annoying to others but there it is.

(And then every once in a while in catches up to me and I'm flat on my butt in full rebellion mode . . . )

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MSLZZY 10/1/2011 6:47PM

    Very positive and a wonderful, inspiring blog. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SUNNY332 10/1/2011 3:32PM

    What a great thought. Thanks for another awesome post.

Here's a emoticon to living life by design.

Hugs, Sunny

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MEDDYPEDDY 10/1/2011 1:50AM

    Yes that is a nice thought - to life my life by design. For today I will design a calm and loving atmosphere.

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_LINDA 10/1/2011 1:24AM

    So nice to hear this! Nothing like waking up positive after a good night's sleep! You are already living a good life by design and adding new patterns daily to Spark it!

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LOVESTHEBEACH83 9/30/2011 1:43PM

    That is amazing! I love that mantra! I do wish I was blessed with the ability to be optimistic every morning but it is something I am working on. Thank you for this nugget of wisdom emoticon

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GOHUSKERS2 9/30/2011 8:30AM

    What a great way to be! Being positive, taking action and living by design are the only ways to do it.

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DEBRITA01 9/30/2011 8:23AM

    "After all, the journey on this plane is not forever. I mean to make the most of what's really important in it." Good reminder...we need to seize each day! emoticon

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DEBRA0818 9/30/2011 8:06AM

    I was similarly blessed by a good nature and whilst it can sometimes be perceived of by others as persistent naivete, it sure does make my internal life a pleasure and a blessing to others.

I'm a hugger too!

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